#someone has to have done this

[nomadic-roadkill]

caleb trying to help his bro out

#toh #the owl house #belos #caleb wittebane #phillip wittebane #toh spoilers #wittebros #my art #fanart #someone has to have done this #caleb honestly should be scared too #follow the hoes and get outta there #this is canonically what gus saw in belos's mind btw #wittebane brothers

[bumblingbabooshka]

#really the entire mirrorverse #but I specifically thought of Kira #ds9 #ds9 memes #someone HAS to have done this

[the-m0th-king]

Kinger attempting to save Zooble

#damn it toby #someone HAS to have done this #the amazing digital circus #tadc #tadc kinger #tadc zooble #the amazing digital circus kinger #the amazing digital circus zooble #zooble #kinger

[umbrum77]

Sokka: ugh they are just so ga!

Aang: something wrong with suki and azula sokka?

Toph: I thought someone with two wives would be happy.

Katara: no you are thinking of two knives

Mai(holding knives): I gotta tell you this is pretty great.

#someone has to have done this #the simpsons #azula x suki x sokka #azula #suki #mai #aang #sokka #avatar the last airbender #avatar: tla #avatar incorrect quotes #let azula be happy. #katara

[sendpseuds]

AU where Obi-Wan is the Sith who takes over Mandalore

#someone has to have done this #because if not...

[thelastsirenssong]

I Am Thinking

#bro #BRO.... #Khal Katsuki #bitch are you fucking LISTENING to me #the longest braid of any Khal before him #long silver hair eyes as red as blood #au where Dany's son with Drogo SURVIVES except it's not dany and drogo it's mitsuki and masaru bitch are you fucking HEARING me. #someone has to have done this #right??!?!?! #RIGHT!?!?!??! #Masaru was a benevolent Khal I mean bro could fight he fucked shit up but he was a nice guy and Mitsuki was the savage #they're killed in battle or something idk when Kats is young but it doesn't matter LMAO he's strong enough as a teen #to establish himself as the next Khal #you? raid capture narrowly escaping death bc he takes a liking to you #prisoner wife? concubine? except he LIKES you keeps grabbing your face he likes the look in your eyes #defiance and intelligence #grit and determination #and maybe you remind him a bit of his mother the way you don't back down from his stare maybe that's why he doesn't kill you #everyone fears the great khal but you? survival and pride and no matter how roughly he treats you you still look at him with mischief #you're one for a plan #and you are the smartest animal he has ever trained #bro bye #I'm #I'MMMMM #brb writing this so fast KQNCNQNCNNW #I just keep getting the mental image of him grabbing your face roughly in one hand after he's spit in it and his expression id #I mean it's like he's looking at you with so much thought because even defiled even mangled and dirty you dare to meet his eye #like bro hello #is ANYONE listening sicnjwnfnend #he says something in his foreign tongue but you understand him. he asserts his dominance yet. but his eyes. for the first time have doubt

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[artschoolglasses]

Americans not giving a shit about the wildfires burning down forests and homes in Canada until smoke starts spreading across the border. Meanwhile Indigenous communities across the country are far more likely to be impacted by the fires and I’ve seen all of one link to a charity and about nine million memes. 🙃

#yeah yeah hashtag notallamericans or whatever the fuck #I’m just irritated watching people whine or centre themselves #like sorry your clothes smell like smoke gladys but people have lost their fucking homes #and the government does fuck all for indigenous communities #so you know who’s gonna end up getting more aid #but sure brad can’t go out for his usual morning jog because of the canadians #also all these fucking news articles making ir about america as if canada has somehow done this on purpose out of spite #someone buy me a punching bag for my birthday thanks #artschoolrambles

[saturnvs]

polaris; guiding light for lost horses

#this was done in krita!!! my first time ever using it and i'm digging the brushes :D #horses #art #horse art #horse #illustration #krita #artists on tumblr #my art #oc #oc: polaris #i love her wahhh #still deciding whether or not she has a human #does she just hang out in the dark waiting to help? or does she have a warm stable to come home to? #the harness is human made so someone has to be looking after her #might need to be silly and draw a reference sheet thing for her as well

[fox-guardian]

i think my favorite part about the tma liveshow with the Dog Incident is the fact that it's canon. like the fluff episodes are cute and fun but they also aren't canon and weren't written to be considered potentially canon, they're just fun lil fan things. the liveshow tho is meant to be considered canon. which means that yes, jon did in fact canonically go "like, in general?" to being asked if he'd seen a dog (which let's be real that's a mood i would also do that if caught off guard)

but also essentially jon was like "okay so you work for me, cool, and i could Fire You If Don't Fix This Immediately" and martin literally Looked This Man In The Eyes and said "i mean yeah, probably heh :) oH-" with the gayest processing delay i've ever heard in my LIFE. i honestly don't think that was any of his little manipulations of getting people to underestimate him or whatever i really think he was just that gay about Handsome Man With Nice Voice Speaking Authoritatively At Him that it took him a minute to process. and that's CANON. that's REAL. he DID THAT. i can't get over that.

#ramblings with major #the magnus archives #tma #speaking of the liveshow i wish someone would do a lil animatic of tim's bit. i sure do wish some artist who enjoys tim stoker would do tha #i sure wish. i sure. i do so wish. some OTHER ARTIST who has TIME- #(jokes aside my goodness do i wanna do an animatic for that bit. but i have never done a proper animatic in my life it would take so long)

[immoralfag]

new james apology video huh

#james somerton #really cant remember if someone has done this before #so if they have well i have something really funny to say

[guy-lapurrm]

Has anyone made like sphinx (mythological) with different kinds of cats. I’m looking but looking up sphinx housecat just gives you. Well you won’t believe this.

#i might see if I can render what im thinking of #someone has to have done this #I also really want to draw sirens as the original bird women really bad #just some guy

[theangelofbrahma]

#torchwood #doctor who #saw someone do this for dungeon meshi and decided the whoniverse needed one #i hope nobody has done this already #ianto jones #tosh sato #owen cooper #captain jack harkness #the doctor #martha jones #rose tyler #bill potts #missy doctor who #danny pink #clara oswald #amy pond #rory williams #they're all autistic you're honour #there's more but i'd be going on for ages #angelofbrahmaaa #formal apology to other whoniverse media not included #i have not yet watched them so didn't know whether to add them

[lazycranberrydoodles]

getting back into the untamed and i had a thought. / follow for more yllz babygirlism

#i saw someone a while ago talking about how wwx always has good intentions…. #his personal road to hell was paved with good intentions yes but i’m not sure where making a guy eat his own legs fits #it is so funny to me how the tiger tally/yin iron influences wei wuxian differently in each adaptation #i remember making a sliding scale of how ‘culpable’ wwx is from adaptation to adaptation #based on how they portray the mental effects of the iron #but for the life of me i cannot find it :( #wwx really said ‘if i had a cursed amulet i simply wouldnt be corrupted🙄🙄’ #that’s basically what he tells lan zhan in this episode…. if necromancy was having ill effects i would notice #and you know. at this point he is lying about everything. but i do wonder how much he actually believes that 👁️👁️ #how much of his mind is resigned to doing whatever needs to be done to exact revenge regardless of harm to himself #and how much genuinely believes that he’s smart and competent enough to make it through whole #the answer of course is BOTH!! bisexual pride #mdzs #art #mdzs spoilers #wei wuxian #lan wangji #wangxian #mo dao zu shi #grandmaster of demonic arts #grandmaster of demonic cultivation #my art #the grandmaster of diabolism #cql #the untamed #魔道祖师 #陈情令 #mdzs meme #doodle #lmao

[entamewitchlulu]

once i was in a creative writing class in college, and in a bit of humor i wrote the line:

"Um," I said, eloquently.

And my teacher was so adamant that I had to remove it because "um is not an eloquent word, so it makes no sense" and i was like my brother in christ it's called Irony

#she was so so adamant about it like. #ma'am. #specifically i did it that way because i wanted to express the fact that the character felt particularly foolish #like their brain being all like 'oh nice job what an eloquent way of putting it dumbass' #but without writing all that out ya know. #but no it was 'wrong' and it had to be removed :/ #creative writing courses have never done a damn thing for me tbh #i know there has got to be a better way to teach it so that it doesn't quash someone's creativity #but i have yet to find one that does so #people are so weird about writing as an art compared to other visual arts :/ #lulu talks

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Introvert adoption

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#poorly drawn mdzs #mdzs #wei wuxian #wen ning #jiang cheng #(The actual name of this season 2 extra is 'First meeting with Wen Ning' but I ran out of space.) #I am obligated to try and wiggle in Wen Ning scenes whenever I can. Our baby boy needs his screentime to grow big and strong. #This whole scene is very good and does a lot to show us several important traits about wwx: #1) He has no hesitation to put his own face or life at risk to help someone (even if they have never met). #2) He does not care for what others say or think about him; he will do what he thinks is right. #And he is smart enough to think is is always right about his judgement. This will be a problem later. #I also think the silly energy in this scene is top notch. #Wen Ning is the wild chipmunk wwx managed to catch and wants to keep as a pet. #Jiang Cheng is gently easing this boy out of wwx's extrovert maw and saying 'put him back outside'. #Can you imagine being blindsided by the full force of wwx out of nowhere? Getting his support and then archery tips? #You're done. You've been caught in his snare and you aren't getting out.