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misfithive · 7 months

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Thank you for the way you handled that ask about Wille's and Simon's drama. Because that sentence 'On the other hand, Simon needs to have a bit of more drama thrown at him' made me so furious. It was so insensitive! The fact that he suffers in silence and alone in his room not to bother other people doesn't mean he doesn't suffer enough and needs some more! The fact that he didn't jump on the table or say he feels like dying doesn't make his experience any less traumatic than Wille's. What he needs is to process his trauma rather than brushing it aside, not to get some more.

Once again thank you, you put it all beautifully.

Yes 😭 this is a very common hope for Simon to get pushed to the point of a breakdown but it’s like .. at what cost?😩 He has been thru enough trauma for a lifetime and a half. And the thing is, most people cannot actually stop and process the trauma if they are constantly being hit with more. I think we are more likely to get simon opening up if he is able to find safety which he did not really have. he is expected to be the strong one by everyone in his life. His friends try their best but still, telling him to rebound is the same message him mother gives him of “you are strong”. Bc they dont want him to sit with his feelings and cry (it’s uncomfortable and not the norm for them), they want him to forget about the Prince and move on. Up until s3 he has not had someone to cry to- thats why he writes his songs and holds wille’s sweater. Even when he is talking to Rosh and Ayub in the kitchen if he was actually crying to them i feel they would show it- it appears he probably cried on the way home before they came (this is my hc if yall think he cried to them u can believe that if u want)

i think Simon’s character is very accurate to what a lot of men, people socialized as men, and also people of color experience and how we deal with our emotions. I get that for a lot of people it is cathartic to sob but for many of us, crying like that especially in front of someone else is terrifying. we are conditioned that letting other people see u in that vulnerable state is a weakness (puts you in danger or will be used against you & that anger is safer). I know some men who have not cried since they were children and told me they dont even remember what it feels like to cry or how to actually let the tears fall from their eyes. It is messed up. Is that fair? No. Is it true that it is a weakness? No. But not everyone learns that. The patriarchy sucks and harms us all lol i wish people would understand that and have empathy for the deep sadness that simon is carrying and hiding whether he lets it out or not.

Not to mention everyone deals with their trauma differently and i think it is cool that the show is realistic and shows people dealing with things in different ways. Simons character is relatable bc of this and instead of people saying “it’s not fair that Wille gets to express himself in this way and Simon doesn’t” i want people to think about WHY Simon is not be able to. I know wanting simon to cry comes from a good place but it does upset me a little bit bc even if he doesnt have a breakdown s3, that doesnt mean that the writers hate him and arent doing his story justice which is what people say abt s2. At the same time, if he does have a break down, that would be totally warranted. i'm just saying that if it doesn't happen that's valid too.

THAT BEING SAID. I think s3 is a great opportunity for Simon to hear from Wille that he doesnt always have to be strong and that Wille can be a reliable safe space. I think Wille’s tenderness is something that Simon sees and now that they are on good terms and Wille has worked to rebuild the trust, I hope Simon will turn to Wille for emotional support however that looks.

Ermmmn I’m very sorry that this turned into a dump but i had to get it off my chest.(made a few edits for clarity and spelling mistakes bc i posted this in the middle of the night)

#misfit answers asks #young royals #this is not targeted at the first anon i just see it a lot and have a lot to say on the topic #simon eriksson

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vivalabunbun · 9 months

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This is about your recent work that had touched my heart to the core. As someone who has been married for over 6 years now, I felt every situation you have expressed in the story similar to the events of my life.

I and my husband got into a marriage due to our parents being close friends. It was an arranged marriage with no love or idea about each other's personality. As for me, I was always skeptical about romance and relationships as they sounded absurd to me at one point of life. I even doubted how long would my marriage with him last for but thankfully for the first few years we respected our spaces.

Just like Alhaitham had tried various ways to express his feelings through gifts (by the suggestion of his friends ofc), my husband had also tried buying gifts but unfortunately he had less clue about my preferences. In short, he sucked at communication, which did make me smile a little as I read your work.

Love necessarily doesn't come just from gifts or sweet words but every gesture can be accounted to the bond. It doesn't have to be voiced out and can even be formed from common interests. Let's say I've been quite enthusiastic about games and books, which my husband happens to enjoy as well. We literally saved a falling apart marriage just from voicing out our common interests, so here's me hoping the same goes for Y/n and Alhaitham.

Just like how they discussed a little at the dinner table, I wish they continue to talk and bond over the little common things they had. Even in silence as they do the household chores, I hope they do it comfortably, knowing they have each other to help and get the work done. After all marriage is not always about being lovey-dovey, but also to show an actual teamwork and effort!!

Another wonderful story by Viva! (p.s English is not my first language, I apologize for any mistakes)

Thank you so much for telling me how my works have revoked such personal experiences, it’s always a goal of mine to want each work to resonate deeply with the reader at times. 🥹🥹

Alhaitham and wifey are getting through this rough patch together 🙏 they’re young and still learning.

Your English is perfect don’t worry 💕✨

Since you shared a piece of yourself I feel I should too, i write a lot of slow burns bc… I write them to learn more about love.

It might come across as a shocker but I’m actually very very unromantic, even in past relationships it was always a criticism of my character. However, even if I’m unromantic I can still love no?

Communication. Quality time. Respect. These are also key aspects of love, and the ones I personally enjoy most.

I feel that’s why I’m so attracted to characters with similar personalities/ vibe as me, and in the soulmate au, I wanted to explore it.

I’m not the biggest believer in opposites attract, for personally, I’d like to find the person who’s fingers fit into the gaps of mine. The other half who has my missing extra limbs and face all those years ago perhaps.

#vivaramblings #i will just say this for now #I love reading everyone’s messages and just how my works evokes memories or experiences for them

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catnippackets · 1 year

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Dispute my problems with snow, i really love winter. Second fav season right after fall. Sorry you got a lot of ppl being shitty about your favorite season,

like- I don’t understand ppl who love summer- as someone who gets heatstroke in a drop of a hat, hates being sweaty, and gets sunburned really easily I f’n hate summer! But you don’t see me going into posts about how much ppl love summer and going “well actually- summer sucks bc it messes with my disabilities, gives me the big sad and also I get heatstroke super FUVKING easily- so summer sucks and you suck fir liking it”

idk where I’m going with this- I just like winter

listen I'm sure I've been that asshole at least once (never online tho bc I mean that's kind of just common sense lol) but I feel like my point is that it's less about how we have different opinions and more about how if you like spring/summer more you can look literally anywhere and people will be talking about how much fun they're having in the warm sun like any time I have to make smalltalk with someone when it's sunny guaranteed 90% of the time they start talking about how ""gorgeous"" the weather is, so even if you have winter SAD you at least have tens of thousands of people who feel the same way, if not clinically then at least on a normie level, so you will always find sympathy with whoever you encounter irl. yet when winter rolls around the only weather related chatter that ever happens is "ugh it's so cold I hate it can you believe it gets dark at 4pm now ugh so awful I hope it doesn't snow I hate it" and I'm like cool well I relate to none of that! and then whoever I'm talking to is always so surprised when I tell them that actually this is the first time I've felt alive in months bc I hate summer so much like they've never heard about it before. yeah in the grand scheme of things it's not the absolute biggest deal but also I have no people irl who I can commiserate about this with so I have to do it on the internet bc at least here there's actually people who exist who feel the same way I do lol

#ask #staygolden-studios

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alittlefrenchtree · 19 days

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I understand that Nick is now working on something else and promoting something else and it's absolutely normal that he can't talk during his promo and focus only on a film that he has made, I absolutely did not share the drama of these days however I also don't understand the whole "he doesn't owe us anything, he's busy" for the possibility that he doesn't post it of the vote like others.

Yes, ok I understand everything but it always seems like everyone has this idea of Nick too far gone now and couldn't even take a second to post a single story for the nomination for a movie that HE MADE and I'm not even saying I want to see him do it or that he has to do it at any cost, he probably won't but it's weird to see how with Taylor they are all "oh look he loves the film so much he, like us, can't let it go" but for Nick even if people just "hopes" to see only a story they are like "stop, he doesn't owe us anything he has other things to think now"

>For context, this ask has been sent after Taylor shared stories about the vote for the glaad awards but before the The Awardist Podcast.>

I’m so sorry I’ve been a bit slow to answer to that. By the time I had time to answer, the podcast happened and I wanted to stay in that mood for a bit, then I have been so very tired and now that I’m a bit rested, I’ve been trying to find a way to answer to you.

I’m not exactly sure what you’re saying exactly actually. It’s not a criticism, I just don’t know where to start my answer.

As for the specific exemple of the vote for the glaad awards (vote!!!), I’m sure everybody has noticed by now that Bottoms is also nominated so it’s difficult for Nick to say anything about either. Even asking to vote for both is counter-productive as it will be only one winner so not to say anything looks like the best solution for me.

Like you, I think the idea of Nick being "too far gone" for RWRB is absolutely ridiculous.

And even if Taylor not letting go of the movie is more positively oriented, he’s doing almost nothing out of the ordinary. Walking the award circuit as a lead of a movie with a chance to get nomination is very normal (whining bc you can’t sign books while being drunk is less common, but that just makes him even more special 💜).

I’m still not sure where I’m going with this answer but I’m going to keep writing until I feel like it’s coherent enough.

It’s tricky to react to what you say without context or knowing the people who are saying these things. The Internet these days is a lot about overreacting and what could have been a meaningless joke or thought at start can become heavy with repetition and numbers. Like reading "he can’t let go of the movie" is cute the first time but maybe feels a bit more like he's being desperate the hundredth time. "He has other things to do" sounds normal the first time but maybe too close to "he doesn’t care" the hundredth. But the reality hasn’t changed in the meantime, they both still have very normal behavior doing what they’re doing as actor. What I’m trying to say is that it’s fandom stuff happening inside the fandom and to fans mostly and it's mostly about perception. (Am I making any sense? (no))

I also feel like a part of that can be related to expectations (and too many of them) inside a fandom and fans wanting to preserve of protect their actor from it. Expectations, whether they’re expressed on a corner on the Internet or directly to famous people in DMs, often creates frustration and disappointment on the long run. For example, I don’t share most of the asks only waiting or asking for news on Taylor’s next project anymore. There’s nothing wrong with them and I get they come from a place of support but I feel like it would start to sound weird at some point. We’ll know when we’ll know and he’ll tell the story if he feels like it.

I had the same feeling with an ask that were mentioning a semi-hope for Taylor to share something on Alex’s birthday. I thought it was unlikely but I didn’t want to piss on someone’s else fun. But I didn’t want to entertain something I didn’t believe in either (firstly, because I hate lies but mostly because) I didn’t want to create or nourish an expectation that would most likely end up in frustration or disappointment for people reading. So I ended up not posting it at all.

All of that to say that sometimes maybe the "he doesn’t owe us anything" comes from a similar place than that, only in a harsher way to say it.

None of this is actually coherent but if I’m not posting now I’m going to end up deleting everything so let’s not do that. If I’ve completely missed the point of your original message, please say so? I don’t know 😅

#alft asks

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princes-uprising · 24 days

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answers to the application (anonymous)

First timer, any tips?

hmmm... the best tip i can give you is to be relaxed! despite meeting people of various age groups, there's nothing to fear, since we're all banding together to serve a common interest! (unless there's someone you really dislike lol i won't stop you)

I'm happy to help where I can and change my prompts to work on a less focused character (say Jack is not getting a lot of love so you want me to do a Jack piece and so on and so forth!) I am flexible and just want to contribute!

thank you, this is really sweet of you 💖💖 i feel like this would largely happen, so i'm thinking of drawing slots or spinning the wheel (with the contributor's consent ofc) so that all three boys get enough love!!

could you give us a timeline of when things will have to be due? i’m approaching my last year of university, so i’ll be markedly more busy as soon as september hits this year as i have to focus on my studies. but i still am really excited for the zine ! especially because it surrounds savanaclaw, and i love them sm ^^ if i have a timeline, then i can plan accordingly when to write my piece for this zine, and so on and so forth. sorry if it seems like i’m rushing you guys to make a timeline or anything :’))) i just thought i’d ask bc this is a concern of mine, so thank you for listening ^^

thanks for the question, and no, it definitely didn't sound like you were rushing us! i actually released a few timelines a while back, but bc things are moving more quickly than anticipated now, there's not really a proper timeline i can give :(( currently, applications for writers and artists end on the 6th of april, 11 am ist, and everyone's "about me" should be out by the 14th!! after that, it's smooth sailing- first check should happen around mid-may, second check around mid-june, third check around mid-july, and the submission by the last week of august (including delays!!). of course, this is highly stc, because issues regarding various irl things may happen, and the exact dates for checking will be discussed in the discord group! i think the zine would be published by september, so i feel like college wouldn't interfere! i hope this answered your question ;-;

#twisted wonderland #twst fanzine #the princes uprising #(asks!)

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ashdreams2023 · 2 years

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Hey so I just read your fic you wrote where reader asks Loki to make a seggs tape and and I was wondering (bc my twisted mind had an idea) if you could do where that tape gets leaked and the reader like runs into the kitchen crying and yelling at tony and Bruce to tell them and to take it down somehow and she just feels like a…whøre or whatever for doing that and feels bad for almost ruining Lokis career aswell??

Sorryyy ik that’s weird, u don’t have to write it! Idk what’s wrong with my mind 🙈

Summary: your sex tape with Loki gets leaked.

You were supposed to have a nice weekend, nothing on your schedule, maybe even go on a shopping spree you just got paid for god sakes.

But of course something had to happen.

"Your phone has been blowing up with notifications since you got into the bathroom love" Loki commented, still trying to make his hair look a little less greasy for the day.

"Oh really, I wonder why" you grabbed your phone, on the screen it showed multiple notifications from your social media and a few headliners with your name and Loki on it.

The panic officially hit though when you opened one of the links and you saw what people have been screaming about.

"Done! Hey why don’t w-" Loki didn’t finish his sentence, your face was frozen with shock and terror.

"Love…what’s the matter?"

The whole world seemed to crash on itself.

"To…TONY!" You screamed suddenly and stormed out the room, leaving Loki in utter confusion.

Tony and Bruce had just gotten out of the lab after pulling an all nighter and just putting something in their stomach when you barged in on them like a madman.

"HELP ME HELP ME!" you cried pulling Bruce by his caller and shaking him "this is a disaster please help!"

The two men looked at each other, not yet fully grabbing what just happened.

"Calm down kid and maybe tell us what happened!?" Tony said.

"Just look at your phones, it’s everywhere…I beg you take it down and erase it off the planet" Tony blinked before checking his device and let’s say he was expecting the worse but this…was not what he had in mind.

"Ok, this will take a few hours just so we make sure everyone who saved it gets a virus" you let go of Bruce and nodded, all your hope is laying with them.

You could see Bruce’s face flush when tony whispered to him about the situation, god you never wanted to die more than today.

The tower was already empty or you would’ve had everyone stare at you.

Loki walked in the common area and found you sitting on the sofa with your face hidden in your hands, clearly still crying.

"Darling it’s not that b-"

"No it is Loki!" You snapped at him "I ruined everything now, your reputation, your career for god sakes and my own image!" your face looked so red, anger mixed with shamed, mixed with embarrassment.

Loki sighed softly, he walked up in front of you and kneeled down to your eye level.

"Look at me please"

"I don’t want to…"

"Why? I want to see your pretty face" Loki’s hands reached for your face, lifting it up and smiling at you with a look that holds nothing but adoration.

"Why are you not angry?" You sniffed.

"Because there is nothing to be angry about, I’m shocked yes but not angry and you shouldn’t be either" you blinked at him, a little confused and a tiny bit comforted by his touch.

"You are not responsible for it leaking, you are an adult in the law eye and that tape didn’t show anything strange-"

"But-"

"No buts. The public knows of our relationship and is it no surprise that we have sex, so what? and it didn’t ruin nobody’s career, we’re heroes not some celebrity, plus if anybody has something bad to say about you they’ll have to face me first" Loki was many things but dumb wasn’t one of them, he knew how law worked and if he wanted to he could turn whoever leaked into dust.

"Let’s calm down, stark and banner will take care of everything" he wiped your tears with his thumb, you warped your arms around his neck and nuzzled your face in his neck.

"If you say so."

#imagine #mcu #loki laufeyson #loki smut #loki #loki x reader #loki imagine #fanfic #mcu loki #loki/y/n

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rainbowcrowley · 1 year

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your internship post reminded me of something. i’m going to tell you a story

many years ago i got a job i had really wanted. the people were pleasant and accepted that i was a bit different from them, but they were much more ordinary than me. they might have been open to being educated on things, but they’d lived their whole lives oblivious to many disadvantages that had affected me. it wasn’t just that they hadn’t been subject to those disadvantages, they didn’t really know anyone who had. people like me were theoretical to them, and they’d never given us much thought

and slowly i realised that if i educated them, in their eyes i would be making myself more and more weird, and more and more a symbol of specific categories than a person. so in a way, the more they understood the things that matter to me, the less they would see me as an individual person.

they weren’t bad people, but i censored myself around them. often i didn’t say things because i wasn’t up for the effort of explaining myself. and the more i didn’t say things, the worse i felt, especially when i left the office and relaxed. it was fucking lonely.

i was even less open with my friends because i was emotionally tired after a long day with my colleagues. if i’d had someone (or someones) who got what i was going through and helped me talk about it i probably could have made it through if it was a fixed term. but i didn’t have someone like that, i wasn’t emotionally aware enough to realise that was what i needed, and it was a permanent job..

so i left and lied about why i was leaving because i didn’t want to hurt their feelings!

i’m not presuming your experience is super similar, just sharing in case there’s enough we have in common that it sheds a tiny bit of light. just the fact that you can see the danger sign even if you don’t know quite why you’re feeling it is an advantage. that type of self awareness is so valuable. i wish you happiness and success, whether that comes through finding a better way to make it through the internship, or finding another route to take in your life

i got this ask over a month ago and i always wanted to get back to it and answer it, but I couldn't find the right words. idk if the person who sent me this is even going to see it but.. I'm very sorry for not posting it sooner. the first time I read this it actually helped a lot. and I'll forever be thankful for that <3 i hope you're doing well too!

why am I posting/sharing this now? bc my internship is almost over and I have a lot of Feelings.

an update on the overall situation: it got better. i still feel somewhat out of place, but I accepted that. i think it's just the Queer Experience? like I have my lil bubble of queer friends, online and offline, but "the real world" is, in fact, not that. obviously DUH. idk whether I'm just being weird or naive or so out of touch with said "real world" that this fact hit me so hard. I always thought I knew it, but... yeah, experiencing it firsthand brought me down to earth HARD.

anyway.

my supervisor and colleagues are no bigots. they didn't say anything bad or hurtful, but it's clear that the same thing anon said happened here, too, in a way. thing is... I censored myself completely. i was (still am) so terrified of showing the "real me" that I HAVE to censor myself. and it's fine, really. let's say I'm used to it (looking at you, dear extended family) and I can live with that. it's frustrating and tiring sometimes, but it's fine.

so right now there are other parts of the internship that bother me. things that don't have to do with the social aspects of it. things like the long commute, the fact that I didn't learn any new cool things like I expected and it can get pretty boring sometimes when there's nothing to do (which happens in IT support... sometimes things just WORK and you're sitting in the office doing nothing twiddling your thumbs besides being on stand-by). and my teacher and social worker want me to extend the internship bc I'm good at what I'm doing but I just..... UGH. I just don't feel like it. and idk if it's bc of all that happened, or that anon said above, or all the things that bother me or if it's just my depression acting up (again) bc I've not been doing great over the past few weeks in that particular department for reasons that have nothing to do with work.

i don't know what to do or feel and it's annoying. I'm just so tired. (and I need therapy like, right now. meh.)

thanks for reading <3

#no worries I'm on the waiting list for a long-term therapy but I live in Germany so its gonna take A WHILE #also I'm physically safe and in a good support system #it's just... grinding on me. using up all my energy and resources #ugh #ask #answered #Anonymous #long post

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lucifers-horror-harem · 1 year

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Hey Charlotte, I want to give u a heads up because your blog is one of my favorites! In less than a week 2 other blogs I followed got hacked and posted weird skincare spam (one was @/twdschaos and the other @/cy-lindric, luckily both of them were still logged in and were able to change their passwords etc). This hellsite has always had its hacks and virus and things, for example another common hack thats still going around is the Ray Bans one, but this skincare one was two blogs (that I know of!) in less than a week. Its getting ridiculous.

I would absolutely hate it if something similar happened to your blog and I’m scared for my own blogs as well. I read something about how Tumblr still has vulnerabilities from 2008 that staff refuses to fix which is why it’s easier for hackers to act up. My advice for you and what I’m thinking to do as well is use a ‘burner email’ instead of a personal one with all my information attached to it. Instead, using an email only for Tumblr that I don’t use for anything else sounds like a decent option but sucks that we’re reaching this point :( I would post abt this on my blogs but I only have like 90 followers (and 20-30 of them might just be porn bots LOL), I only reblog slashers, horror and Ghost BC, I don’t write, make art/gifs or contribute to fandoms in any way so my posts don’t have a lot of reach, so for now I’m sending this to u to put it out there and help u keep an eye open. You might want to help your mutuals know as well.

Staff rlly needs to up their game. I’m autistic and have anxiety and Tumblr is my escape, blogs like yours are my escape and I hate that I don’t even feel safe on my escape anymore whilst knowing that the blogs I enjoy are not safe either. The only hope I have rn is that since Twitter is gonna die bc El*n M*sk is an idiot, maybe more people will join Tumblr and it will force staff to have proper fucking security.

Stay safe Charlotte, you write so so well and your blog genuinely helped me feel better and accept my… questionable taste in men 😂 I really owe that to you and those who write similar content to yours. Tysm <3 Take care and pls have a good day!

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Anon, thank you for the very sweet message, it makes me feel happy u care about my blog so much <3 Honestly you reminded me to make sure I’ve got my two factor authentication set up and taken care of. That’s probably one of the most important things you can do besides making sure you don’t click on suspicious links and keeping up with making emails safe.

But thank you, it’s a good reminder to share to people, as this website is also my hellscape sanctuary and I’d like to keep it that way lol, I’m glad I could help u feel better in ur taste in men cause u GOTTA let that freak flag fly like if my thirsty spam posting of old men with questionable life choices isn’t enough to make people feel a little less anxious about their own tastes then I’m happy to do it LMAO

#charlotte speaks

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put-me-in-a-movie-mp3 · 2 years

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hi!! i’ve been seeing u do a bunch of these ship things and now i’m curious 👀👀 so could you ship me with someone from ST? (for reference,: im bi, use she/her pronouns, and 19 so pls give me an 18+ character im not tryna catch a case 😭✋)

ANYWAY a little about me: im a 9w1 INFP, i have kind of bad social anxiety but i’d like to think i’m pretty outgoing once u get to know me. ppl say i’m kind of intimidating at first glance (maybe bc i’m a scorpio rising and got that whole rbf thing going on) but i literally love everyone sometimes i’m just too nervous to approach ppl lmao.

i LOVE music, especially classic rock. all my friends say i have the music taste of a middle aged man LMAO but i truly think the 70s/80s was the peak of the music industry. i sing but i also i play guitar, acoustic and electric (i have a red fender stratocaster and i love her with all my heart) and i’m also a music business major in college (as long as i don’t fail out for my absolute monstrosity of a gpa) but anyway music is pretty much my entire life.

i also really love fashion and i’m big into thrifting. my mom literally raised me on vogue instead of normal childrens books so i was kind of destined to be into all of that stuff lol. i love astrology, like i LOVE it i literally spend hours researching and i love reading other ppls charts, it’s like the first thing i do when i meet someone. i also have a huge crystal collection and i’m rlly into all that metaphysical stuff.

aaaand idk what else to put 💀 im 5’6, i have long brown hair + brown eyes, my favorite movie is Almost Famous (a movie about music who would’ve guessed), my favorite food is the ben and jerry’s tonight dough ice cream and that’s pretty much it lol

Of course! Sorry for the wait! <333

Stranger Things

Eddie Munson

I ship you with Eddie Number 1, the fact that you are a Scorpio rising says a lot. I feel like you would defiantly get along with Eddie just knowing that. The fact that you love rock also shows that you would defiantly share some common interests with Eddie. You also having mainly focusing on music and KNOWING how to PLAY a guitar, especially electric... SCREAMS Eddie!! I could see you and Eddie meeting each other from a couple of other friends through music. You perform with a band and have a couple of gigs around town and you play the electric guitar. I feel like Eddie would just is happen to stumble across you and listen to you play. He wouldn't have the nerve to come up to because he has a some social anxiety problems just like you. So you both would kind of awkwardly look at each other. Until one day you see him at the grocery store and you happen to run into him and neither of you knew if you were suppose to say hi. It was an awkward interaction. But it became less awkward when you found out Eddie knew how to play the guitar. You guys started talking a little bit and decided to go out to dinner as "friends" but we all know that you guys were more than friends. Or would eventually be more than friends.

hope you enjoyed!

#ship #love #imagine #stranger things #x reader #steve harrington #ship requests #ships #strangerthingsimagine #billy hargrove #jonathan byers #Eddie munson #robin buckely #robin buckley

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phoebehalliwell · 2 years

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I’m writing a fic where Phoebe and Cole have twins who are twice-blessed AND the source’s heirs and figuring out their power sets it both fun and frustrating. Do you have any suggestions? I didn’t just want to copy Dency (because she amazing) and go the pyrokinesis/cyrokinesis route. I wanted to try and be creative but the Warren powers are very…limited in their scope of use

i mean u r welcome to copy dency if you'd like lol i think the pryo/cyro thing is fun and common-ish and then i also have a couple powers she'll be developing so it's not like they'd be the same if u wanna go for pyro/cryokinesis u have my blessing But if you wanna go ur own route here are a couple recommendations.

OKAY. so. before we start. let's talk powers we've seen exhibited in the warren line. telekinesis (prue, patty, melinda, etc.) molecular immobilization (piper, patty) premonition (phoebe, melinda) astral projection (prue) levitation (phoebe) molecular combustion (piper) empathy (phoebe) molecular deceleration (p. baxter) advanced telekinesis (brianna, prue in the future) pyrokinesis (p russel) cryokinesis (p bowen), and then if you believe the evil enchantress is actually an ancient ancestor of the warren line (which i do), then you also have elemental manipulation. Okay. and then belthazor's powers were energy balls, shimmering, telekinesis, incineration, apportation (which is also related to paige's witchlighter power of tlkorb!) enhanced strength, heightened resistance (moreso than what the sisters have), adjustment (ability to fight thru powers like freezing), and, of course, a sick ass demon form. FINALLY: source powers. conjuration, electrokinesis (also possessed by the evil enchantress!) energy ball, fireball, flaming, sensing, mental manipulation/suggestion (seen in charmed again w shane and brain drain w piper), possession, portal creation, pyrokinesis, shapeshifting, technopathy, reconstitution (as witnessed when piper blew cole up and he would swirl around before reforming). we're skipping cole's wasteland powers bc a) i'm assuming that doesn't happen in ur fic and b) i think those powers would be a lot less likely to be passed down biologically.

BUT WAIT I'M NOT DONE YET!! powers those can expand to: flight (levitation + telekinesis). deflection (empathy + telekinesis). reconstitution (like, of items) (reconstitution + conjuration + molecular powers). mimicry (empathy). influence (enhanced suggestion. just telling people to do it and they do it. like killgrave in jessica jones). weather manipulation (elemental manipulation + conjuration) etc etc etc.

NOW LET'S TALK TWINS. you can randomly assign powers i did that w tam and kat their powers don't necessarily mirror each other Or you can do mirror powers in which one has all defensive powers and one has all offensive powers or one has all psychic powers one has all physical powers. Or. you could give them both the same set of powers, which can be really fun as far as character development/distinctions go, to show how each is their character by how they use / engage with / feel about their powers. so w/o further ado, here are some suggestions:

primary powers vs. secondary/tertiary powers telekinesis, molecular immobilization, premonition, shimmering, energy balls // astral projection, molecular combustion, levitation, empathy, apportation

offensive powers vs. defensive powerstelekinesis, energy balls, molecular combustion, pyrokinesis, electrokinesis // molecular immobilization, premonition, deflection, shimmering, shapeshifting

physical powers vs. psychic powerstelekinesis, apportation, flaming, elemental manipulation, enhanced strength // premonition, suggestion, empathy, possession, sensing

hope this helped! it's p obvious i love talking about next gen + au kids, so if you have any questions or anything feel free to shoot me another ask!! & feel free to tag me in ur fic i track #usermargaret on here and then i'm luckyfiftytwo on ao3 but i don't think you can tag people there 🤕

#💕💞💕💞💕💞💕💞#charmed #writing advice #??? i think that's the tag i use??

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I hope this is okay to ask, I look up to you quite a lot and value your opinions - I’m not sure if I’m being gross or not for wishing I was a lesbian? I fully accept that I am a bisexual woman, but I’m just out of an abusive relationship with a male and I’m feeling so low and miserable for falling for him in the first place. But I don’t want to be internalising lesbophobia for wishing I didn’t like men at all, I wouldn’t be so hurt right now if I didn’t experience attraction to men :(

i wouldn’t use the word “gross”. i do understand where you’re coming from, however i don’t particularly agree with such thinking. firstly being a lesbian doesn’t provide protection from DV. my previous relationship (with a woman) was abusive and unfortunately, while it is less common, it’s quite possible to experience the same thing even without any attraction to men. it’s also still completely possible, as a lesbian, to face DV at the hands of men. be it family members, friends, or even a man you’re with bc you’re closeted (or a man you were forced to be with even, also unfortunately not as uncommon as we think). on top of that, lesbians face things like corrective rape, get disowned, conversion therapy, exiled, tortured, even killed for being lesbians. so while i understand WHY u had that thought, i think often when OSA women do think “i wish i was a lesbian”, it’s because they don’t realise that being a lesbian comes with homophobia and it doesn’t actually provide immunity from abuse nor misogyny.

im really glad you’re out of that situation tho and i hope you’re ok. ik you’re probably wishing you could’ve avoided that situation, i can relate to you there, i also felt similarly after leaving my last abusive relationships. i try to look at things differently now, at least now i remind myself that no one is worth putting up with abuse for. and no “i love you”s and “im sorry”s make up for patterns of abuse. and to trust my instincts more. it really helps me accept what happened when i focus on the good that i gained from it instead of all the damage it caused me.

#anonymous

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So I’m staying on anon bc I’m taking a hiatus for now but I just had to say something about the whole situation you posted about

My ‘friend’ is exactly the same and I just don’t understand the reason. Like, you think I’m a certain way because I play a game? That’s like me judging you and saying judgemental things about how you don’t have a life because you play something I don’t like, it’s ridiculous.

I don’t get this whole ‘only p**os’ play the game - yes, there are some really weird fuckers who sexualise the children and the majority of the fan base doesn’t agree with it and also don’t condone it.

Like are people just hating Genshin because it’s popular? It’s got some serious in game issues, it’s not perfect, but most people just don’t have a reason

‘it’s an anime game’ okay, and? It’s not to your taste, so what? doesn’t mean it’s better or worse than another game.

‘it’s gacha’ so is every game that’s popular right now, especially fps - like don’t tell me otherwise when you’re opening loot boxes which is essentially the same thing as pulling for characters.

My ‘friend’ got so offended when I said Genshin was a game I could see him playing - because he likes chill games and personally Genshin can be quite relaxing, especially when you’re exploring for the first time !! And he likes grindy games and hey, Genshin is pretty grindy to make a good character build, but he just says these half assed insults similar to the one that guy you mentioned instead of actually giving it a chance.

I’m not a man hater or anything but some guys are just brainless. They think their opinion is superior and if you don’t agree, your opinion is ‘mid’ or a ‘bad take’ like we don’t always have to agree, just respect the things I like and I’ll respect your interests.

It really is not that hard

- bunny 🐰 ( hi hollyleaf I hope you’re having a nice day apart from this <33 )

sorry you had to experience something similar but at the same time, why judge someone by what they play or just because you don’t agree with that choice

as you said, genshin has some actual issues you could talk about but most people who want to hate on the game don’t even look that far but pick the few weirdos (whose voices are always the loudest somehow) and use them as low-hanging fruit to drag the game and its player base

also the term ‘anime’ is so broad; at the end of the day league (because the guy recommended that) is also an animated game+ the artworks/ designs of the characters aren’t that much more realistic (someone pointed out the proportions on especially the female characters and i don’t think i need to say much about that)

most loot box systems only give you cosmetics too, he even admitted he only gets skins and new champions, which is the same as genshin more or less, so why hate on gacha when it’s basically the same mechanics just under a term you don use?

honestly, i can see why you recommended it, i probably would’ve done the same (i have, in fact, recommended the game to someone before); pretty rude of this guy to insult your interest like this though, i hope you didn’t take it seriously

ugh, not the fucking ‘mid’ response, please get out of here and let people enjoy things, jesus fucking christ; you don’t have to justify yourself with me, i know you’re not a ‘man hater’ because i use common sense to deduce that these statements don’t directly translate to ‘all men’; as i like to say it’s not all and not only men, women can be accused of this too, for both of us it just happened to be a guy and that’s all there is to it

and you’re right, it’s not that hard

(i’m doing good and i was hardly bothered by it, i just wanted to share with the class; anyway, i hope you’re doing well yourself <3)

#coffee & tea break #my regulars ♡#letter from: the gorgeous honeybun ❀#sorry i took so long #<3

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hcneymoon :( do you have any advice on what to do when people from your past suddenly reappear in your head, years after not talking? this is happening to me with several people and it feels so overwhelming because i know i will never speak to them again and they're a part of the past... but why do they reappear out of nowhere? i know they wouldn't waste a second thinking of me so why is this happening :(((

hi love 🤍 I don’t know if it’s advice per se but I can definitely try and tell you about my experiences bc I’ve definitely been there done that. it’s something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately. first of all don’t beat yourself up over it. at all. you’re experiencing human emotions and what point is there in shaming yourself for it? people can be a part of your past and rightfully belong there and still be in your thoughts in the present day. that has very little to do with them and a lot to do with you learning the lesson their presence in your life was supposed to teach you. don’t give them too much credit. you’re doing this for yourself. maybe they came up because you find yourself facing similar situations as you did back then and maybe that reminded you of how you haven’t processed whatever happened between you two yet. and honestly we never know what another person may be thinking. for all we know they could be thinking about you too or maybe they never have. at the end of the day it doesn’t matter. because you have to work with what’s in front of you and not the what if’s and maybe’s. I’ve been thinking a lot about the people in my past lately and sometimes I find myself wanting to reminisce or even bring them back into my life. and sometimes I do, sometimes I reach out and sometimes I see them again and sometimes that confirms to me how these people belong in my past and have no business being in my present. it doesn’t even have to be anything dramatic. it’s just the simple fact that we’ve both grown apart and our lives just don’t mesh well anymore and that’s okay. it happens. I met up with an old friend the other day for the second time after not having seen each other in years. the first time we met was exciting and we hugged so tight and we said we missed each other and it was everything I hoped it would be. the second time was less exciting, we hugged each other but it wasn’t as warm of an embrace as it was the last time and we said the other person looked good and we talked and it was nice. at the end of the day I felt how disconnected we were from each other. when we were teenagers we spend every single day, moment and milestone together and now as adults we barely have anything in common anymore. except for the love we have for each other in the name of nostalgia. it made me sad I’m ngl but it also made me realize that I was trying to bring back something that was long gone and that it’s okay that it’s gone. it doesn’t mean less because of it and I will still cherish every memory and think of her when I think of my teenage years. none of that has to change. I don’t think there’s a right or wrong way to go about missing people from your past or even thinking about them. every situation is different. some might result in you two reuniting, some might result in you shutting that chapter forever and some might go in a whole nother direction. just remember to be gentle with yourself throughout it all, let yourself feel all kinds of things and don’t shame yourself for any of it. you’re doing your best and how you talk to/about yourself really does matter so be mindful of that.

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jamzandbamz · 2 years

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Do you mean you feel hurt and unwanted because he’s seeing her? If so, it never feels good when someone you like has those feelings for someone else. It’s always a punch in the gut. Yeah, I’m not a fan of this but for good reason I’d say. His vibe was off when he was talking about her tonight. Why is she pushing for him to buy all this crap? And it’s not cheap either btw. That’s weird. I get wanting to share things from your life but $300 girl? That is way too expensive for a starter item omg. I hope he’s not too swept up in is crush to use common sense and not just do things to try to get her to like him more.

Yeah, it triggers that in me. I'm feeling better now, I think it'll hurt less each new time it gets brought up by him, it's already easier, but yeah I'm kinda ready to just get to know her and deal with the new reality

I couldn't connect again, it was different from the live. But my take is that it's 1) bc he was just very low energy (just me), his eyes were different lol 😆 and 2) the vibe felt a lot like the first pod, where he's still plugged into this new situation 🤔 I guess my take on the $300 is that Jeff allowed it to happen, I want to give her the benefit bc I dont know what to trust when it comes to that language about her (I could be wrong)

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tarobytez · 3 years

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disability in the Six Of Crows Duology; an analysis of Kaz Brekker, Wylan Van Eck, and the fandom’s treatment of them.

****Note: I originally wrote this for a tiktok series, which im still going to do, but i wanted to post here as well bc tumblr is major contributor to what im going to talk about

CW: ableism, filicide, abuse

In the Six of Crows duology, Leigh Bardugo delicately subverts and melds harmful disability tropes into her narrative, unpacking them in a way that I, as a disabled person, found immensely refreshing and…. just brilliant.

But what did you all do with that? Well, you fucked it up. Instead of critically looking at the characters, y’all just chose to be ableist.

For the next few videos paragraphs im going to unpack disability theory (largely the stuff surrounding media, for obvious reasons) and how it relates to Six Of Crows and the characterization of Kaz Brekker and Wylan Van Eck, then how, despite their brilliant writing, y’all completely overlooked the actual text and continuously revert them to ableist cariactures.

Disclaimer: 1. Shocker - i am disabled. I have also extensively researched disability theory and am very active in the disabled community. Basically, I know my shit. 2. im going to be mad in these videos this analysis. Because the way y’all have been acting has been going on for a long ass time and im fuckin sick of it. I don’t give a shit about non-disabled feelings, die mad

Firstly, I’m going to discuss Kaz, his play on the stereotypical “mean cripple” trope and how Bardugo subverts it, his cane, and disabled rage. Then, I am going to discuss Wylan, the “inspiration porn” stereotype, caregivers / parents, and the social model of disability. Finally, I will then explain the problems in the fandom from my perspective as a disabled person, largely when it comes to wylan, bc yall cant leave that boy tf alone.

Kaz Brekker

Think of a character who uses a cane (obviously not Kaz). Now, are they evil, dubiously moral, or just an asshole in general? Because nearly example I can think of is: whether it be Lots’O from Toy Story, Lucius Malfoy, or even Scrooge and Mr.Gold from Once Upon A Time all have canes (the last two even having their canes appear less and less as they become better people)

The mean/evil cripple trope is far more common than you would think. Villains with different bodies are confined to the role of “evil”. To quote TV Tropes, who I think did a brilliant job on explaining it “The first is rooted in eugenics-based ideas linking disability or other physical deformities with a "natural" predisposition towards madness, criminality, vice, etc. The Rule of Symbolism is often at work here, since a "crippled" body can be used to represent a "crippled" soul — and indeed, a disabled villain is usually put in contrast to a morally upright and physically "perfect" hero. Whether consciously on the part of the writer or not, this can reinforce cultural ideas of disability making a person inherently inferior or negative, much in the same way the Sissy Villain or Depraved Homosexual trope associate sexual and gender nonconformity with evil. ”

Our introduction to Kaz affirms this notion of him being bad or morally bankrupt, with “Kaz Brekker didn’t need a reason”, etc. This mythologized version of himself, the “bastard of the barrel” actively fed into this misconception. But, as we the audience are privy to his inner thoughts, know that he is just a teenager like every other Crow. He is complex, his disability isn’t this tragic backstory, he just fell off a roof. It’s not his main motivation, nor does he curse revenge for making him a cripple - it is just another part of who he is.

His cane (though the shows version fills me with rage but-) is an extension of Kaz - he fights with it, but it has a purpose. Another common thing in media is for canes to be simply accessories, but while Kaz’ cane is fashionable, it has purpose.

The quote “There was no part of him that was not broken, that had not healed wrong and there was no part of him that was not stronger for having been broken.” is so fucking powerful. Kaz does not want nor need a cure - its said in Crooked Kingdom that his leg could most likely be healed, but he chooses not to. Abled-bodied people tend to dismiss this thought as Kaz being stubborn but it shows a reality of acceptance of his disability that is just, so refreshing.

In chapter 22 of SOC, we see disabled rage done right - when he is called a cripple by the Fjerdan inmate, Kaz is pissed - the important detail being that he is pissed at the Fjerdan, at society for ableism, not blaming it on being disabled or wishing he could be normal. He takes action, dislocating the asshole’s shoulder and proving to him, and to a lesser extent, himself, that he is just as capable as anyone else, not in spite of, but because he is disabled. And that is the point of Kaz, harking back to the line that “there was no part of him that was not stronger for having been broken”.

I cried on numerous occasions while reading the SOC duology, but the parts I highlighted in this section especially so. I, as many other disabled people do, have had a long and tumultuous relationship with our disability/es, and for many still struggle. But Kaz Brekker gave me an empowered disabled character who accepts themselves, and that means the world to me.

Keeping that in mind, I hope you can understand why it hurts so much to disabled people when you either erase Kaz’s disability (whether through cosplay or fanfiction), or portray him as a “broken boy uwu”, especially implying that he would want a cure. That flies in the face of canon and is inherently fucking ableist. (if u think im mad wait until the next section)

Next, we have Wylan.

Oh fucking boy.

I love Wylan so fucking much, and y’all just do not seem to understand his character? Like at all? Since this is disability-centric, I’m not going to discuss how the intersection of his queerness also contributes to these issues, but trust me when I say it’s a contributing factor to what i'm going to say.

Wylan, motherfucking Van Eck. If you ableist pricks don’t take ur fucking hands off him right now im going to fight you. I see Wylan as a subversion another, and in my opinion more insidious stereotype pf disabled people - inspiration porn.

Cara Liebowitz in a 2015 article on the blog The Body Is Not An Apology explains in greater detail how inspiration porn is impactful in real life, but media is a major contributing factor to this reality. The technical definition is “the portrayal of people with disabilities as inspirational solely or in part on the basis of their disability” - but that does not cover it fully.

Inspiration porn does lasting damage on the disabled community as it implies that disability is a negative that you need to “overcome” or “triumph” instead of something one can feel proud of. It exploits disabled people for the development of non-disabled people, and in media often the white male protagonist. Framing disability as inherently negative perpetuates ideals of eugenics and cures - see Autism $peaks’ “I Am Autism” ad. Inspiration porn is also incredibly patronizing as it implies that we cannot take care of ourselves, or do things like non-disabled people do. Because i stg some of you tend to think that we just sit around all day wishing we weren’t disabled.

Another important theory ideal that is necessary when thinking about Wylan is the experience of feeling like a burden simply for needing help or accommodations. This is especially true when it comes to familial relationships, and internalized ableism.

The rhetoric that Wylan’s father drilled into his head, that he is “defective”, “a mistake”, and “needs to be corrected”, that he (Jan) was “cursed with a moron for a child” is a long held belief that disabled people hear relentlessly. And while many see Van Eck’s attempted murder of Wylan as “preposturous” and overall something that you would never think happens today - filicide (a parent murdering their child) is more common than you would like to believe. Without even mentioning the countless and often unreported deaths of disabled people due to lack of / insufficient / neglectful medical care, in a study on children who died from the result of household abuse, 40 of 42 of them (95%) were diagnosed with disabilities. Van Eck is not some caricature of ableist ideals - he is a real reflection on how many people and family members view disability.

Circling back to how Wylan unpacks the inspiration porn trope - he is 3 dimensional, he is not only used to develop the other characters, he is just *chefs kiss* Leigh, imo, put so much love and care into the creation of Wylan and his story and character growth that is representative of a larger feeling in the disabled community.

That being said, what you non-disabled motherfuckers have done to him.

The “haha Wylan can’t read” jokes aren’t and were not funny. Y’all literally boiled down everything Wylan is to him being dyslexic. And it’s like,,,, the only thing you can say about him. You ignore every other part of him other than his disability, and then mock him for it. There’s so much you can say about Wylan - simping for Jesper, being band kid and playing the fuckin flute, literally anything else. But no, you just chose to mock his disability, excellent fucking job!

Next up on “ableds stfu” - infantilization! y’all are so fucking condescending to Wylan, and treat him like a fucking toddler. And while partly it is due to his sexuality i think a larger portion is him being disabled. Its in the same vein of people who think that Wylan and Jesper are romantically one sided, and that Jesper only kind of liked Wylan, despite the canon evidence of him loving Wylan just as much. You all view him as a “smol bean”, who needs protecting, and care, when Wylan is the opposite of that. He is a fucking demolitions expert who suggested waking up sleeping men to kill them - what about that says “uwu”. You are treating Wylan as a burden to Jesper and the other Crows when he is an immensely valuable, fully autonomous disabled person - you all just view him as damaged.

And before I get a comment saying that “uhhh Wylan isn’t real why do you care” while Wylan may not be real, how you all view him and treat him has real fucking impacts and informs how you treat people like me. If someone called me an “uwu baby boy” they’d get a fist square in the fucking jaw. Fiction informs how we perceive the world and y’all are making it super fucking clear how you see disabled people.

Finally, I wanted to talk about how the social model of disability is portrayed through Wylan. For those who are unaware, the social model of disability contrasts the medical model, that views the disability itself as the problem, that needs to be cured, whereas the social model essentially boils down to creating an accommodating society, where disability acceptance and pride is the goal. And we see this with Wylan - he is able to manage his father’s estate, with Jesper’s assistance to help him read documents. And this is not out of pity or charity, but an act of love. It is not portrayed as this almighty act for Jesper to play saviour, just a given, which is incredibly important to show, especially for someone who has been abused by family for his disability like Wylan, that he is accepted.

Yet, I still see people hold up Jesper on a pedestal for “putting up with” Wylan, as if loving a disabled person deserves a fucking pat on the back. It’s genuinely exhausting trying to engage with a work I love so much with a fandom that thinks so little of me and my community. It fucking shows.

Overall, Leigh Bardugo as a disabled person wrote two incredibly meticulous and empowered disabled characters, and due to either lack of reading comprehension, ableism, or a quirky mix of both, the fandom has ignored canon and the experiences of disabled people for…. shits and giggles i guess. And yes, there are issues with the Grishaverse and disability representation - while I haven’t finished them yet so I do not have an opinion on it, people have been discussing issues in the KOS duology with ableist ideals. This mini series was no way indicative of the entire disabled experience, nor does it represent my entire view on the representation as a whole. These things need to be met critically in our community, and talked about with disabled voices at the forefront. For example, the limited perspective we get of Wylan and Kaz being both white men, does not account for a large portion of the disabled community and the intersection of multiple identities.

All-in-all, Critique media, but do not forget to also critique fandom spaces. Alternatively, just shut the fuck up :)

happy fucking disability pride month, ig

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