#fear of being seen

[cooki3face]

There is a level of conclusion, opinion, and energy that is placed upon you by someone who is looking from an outside perspective (whether that be family, friends, lovers, or strangers) that is subconscious. When you’re sensitive to so many energies and the projections of others you learn to not share yourself as easily with the world and hide yourself away. Leading to a fear of being seen or of being perceived for fear that you are being judged or that people misunderstand you on a very deep level that’s personal to their own karmic energies, beliefs, insecurities, and fears. This is why we become afraid to step into our power and fulfill a soul purpose that requires us to be seen by others in an authentic manner, This is why when we make mistakes or tolerate bad behavior from people close to us we choose not to share those things with others to prevent further judgment and hurt, this is why when we’re feeling bad about ourselves we don’t post ourselves on social media, leave the house or interact with others for long periods of time until we believe that we are better or are ready to be seen or perceived.

A fear of being seen could also stem from trauma we receive from our parents or from bullying and receiving judgment or criticism in our earlier stages of development. As children we are born like a blank canvas and other people like our loved ones, teachers, friends and peers paint upon us their beliefs about who we are and how we should behave and express ourselves. You may have found that when you made mistakes or exuded behaviors that weren’t good for you or exuded behaviors that weren’t met with positive reactions from others you became afraid to share who you were or what was going on with you or became afraid to be seen in a vulnerable state because someone did not take the time out the try and understand why you did the things you did or expressed yourself the way you did out of love and compassion but chose to ostracize you, make you out to be bad or make a spectacle of your behavior.

We begin to pick up these behaviors within ourselves, when we have bad habits or when we make bad decisions we meet them with criticism and shame instead of sitting with ourselves in our vulnerable states and seeking to understand and be gentle and heal. It traces back to why we pick up addictions and bad habits to suppress parts of ourselves or hide parts of ourselves from ourselves because we hide parts of ourselves from others because we were met with criticism and harsh treatment and judgment. We pick up these behaviors with others where we judge them or shower them in harsh criticism when they’re behaviors or karmic cycles trigger us.

This is why we say not to judge your children but to be gentle with them and try to understand why they make the choices they make and understand that some of their decisions and actions are developmentally expected and correct. We cannot always expect for someone to not do something or for someone to be able to consciously make the decision to kick a habit or make good decisions for others and for themselves but we can seek to understand why they do certain things and offer them compassion and forgiveness.

#self love #self care #self improvement #self discovery #dream girl #self expression #healingjourney #self healing #manifestation #divine feminine #divine masculine #divinity #souls purpose #fear of being seen #insecurity

[daughterofanarcissistwoman]

The fear of being seen is usually the fear of being attacked/criticized because you were in the past. In the case of child abuse, you were attacked when you didn’t even have a sense of self yet… you couldn’t form a (healthy) sense of self. As you heal those old wounds, discover yourself and build up your self esteem your inner child wants to be seen, even at the risk of attack/criticism… because you got you. As you shine your light you inspire others to shine theirs. The more you show up as yourself the more you can attract people who can appreciate you for your authentic self. And of course this brings more healing/happiness/fulfillment to your inner child. 🥰

I hope all those who project what was said and done to them onto me find healing for themselves.

#inner child healing #reparenting #emotional abuse #psychological abuse #healing from narcissistic abuse #self love #fear of being seen #cycle breaker

[rum-inspector]

As someone who likes themselves and what they do to a near narcissus level WHY am I so scared of being seen??

It is holding me back so much. I am too old to give a fuck anymore. Why is there still so many fucks left in my basket?? They should be gone by now. Let me be free of giving a fuck already!

#fear of being seen #fear of being perceived #i just made something i find incredibly funny myself i want people to see it but i also dont want them to see me #I was just thknking of signing up to casting agency too and I want to act again but i also dont want my name and face out on the internet #what am I afraid of? That others can see that I have dreams and aspirations beyond my actual skills? it makes me feel vulnerable #same with dating - I have worked through my past traumas amd ready to love again but the idea of having my face out there... #how am I a content creator /msfwstreamer (under another name) / aspiring actor and fear people see me??? that is laughable #it is so odd and I can explain to myself rationalöy logically how silly it is t all I want and the fear still binds me

[whimsicalpoet44]

Maybe this is my punishment. Maybe this is Hell. Maybe they sentenced me to a life of understanding everyone but myself. I was left to die without ever grasping the feeling of what it is to be seen and understood.

#emotionalintimacy #sadquote #hell #lonelyquotes #writer #writing #poem #poet #poetsofinstagram #writersofinstagram #deepquotes #wistfulquotes #sadpoetry #poemoftheday #understood #misunderstood #fear of being alone #fear of the unknown #fear of being seen

[blueminustwo]

Feeling stuck in life. Wanting to be seen, but also feeling incredibly fearful.

#feeling aimless #listless #quarter life crisis #feeling stuck #fear of being seen #idk man

[allmybestvideos]

#mental health #allmybestvideos #invisible #inner child #validation #fear of being seen #dont look at me

[alisheaburgess]

"My Fear" (Fix'Her' Collection)- Original Poem

My fear holds me still It’s a dear friend now The only one I’ve kept with me I keep going not despite it, But through its comfort It’s the only way I know how to feel

I romanticize pain But struggle to see my own I write tragic stories Only to realize later They are my story Told in a fantasy tone

I feel like a poser if I say I struggle Because others struggle more So I write this chaos Then pretend I’m not even keeping score

My fear, is not that I won’t succeed Not that my stories will go unread In the end I write these for me

People are drawn to fictional pain My fear is should people learn their origins Their feelings won’t be the same

I hide behind these fictions Afraid to tell the real story Tried more creative depictions But I don’t do this for any glory

My worst fear is that they’ll see Cause even though they cry for ‘her’ What if they won’t cry for me

Alishea Burgess

December 13, 2022

Fix'Her' Collection

#sad poem #my fears #creative writing #poets corner #poetry book #fix'her' #puking in pen #processing in pen #fiction writer #fantasy writer #creative problems #original poem #original writing #hidden away #hermit mode #fear of being seen #fear of being forgotten #original poets on tumblr #poetsandwriters #poets on tumblr #poets of tumblr

[canisalbus]

Hello, I'm not sure if you're aware, but tumblr is going to start helping midjourney gather data for their AI. You're one of the artists I follow here pretty actively and I wanted to warn you to maybe start nighshading your art before posting it here so it doesn't get swept up!

I've seen a couple of posts about it. Feeling disappointed but not that surprised. Also not excited about having to start nightshading/glazing my pieces but if there isn't going to be any serious regulations regarding data scraping and ai "art", there aren't a lot of choices.

Thank you for taking the time to warn me just in case, it was very thoughtful of you!

#from what I've seen the effectiveness of nightshade/glaze has been debated and I don't even pretend to understand how it works #but like watermarks it's at least some kind of preventive measure a token effort to stop your art from being stolen and misused #but I fear that if someone is determined to do it anyway chances are they will find a way unfortunately #this shouldn't be the reality of trying to share art online #it's a pretty dismal situation when this responsibility falls on the artists themselves #I've been here since 2011 I've lived through multiple tumblr apocalypses I'm not leaving unless they make this place wholly unlivable #and I don't think there are truly good alternatives with similar sense of community and as varied posting and customization options #it seems like every other major social media platform is doing this exact same thing if not worse #answered #ohdeergood #I'm tired we're all tired of this

[ruporas]

hello there, angel

[ID: Digital illustration in color of Vash and Wolfwood from Trigun Maximum. Vash is sitting facing the viewer and holds a rose between his clasped together hands, but he’s looking to the left, upwards, at Wolfwood, with an awed expression. Wolfwood hovers over him with wings sprouting from his back. He has a cigarette lit between his lips, his arms and legs are crossed, and he looks back at Vash with a neutral expression. The both of them are covered in a blue shadow, casted by Wolfwood and his hovering form, while warm light hits the back of his wings and over Vash’s legs. Small feathers sits next to Vash. End ID]

#vashwood #vash the stampede #nicholas d wolfwood #trigun #trigun maximum #this is not meant to mean anything btw i just wanted to draw wolfwood as an angle #i love angel and follower depiction but i also think wolfwood is just the most angelic human being ever #he was sent to guide him... he protects him... he Saved him #i mean they both just think of each other as the most good they've seen in the world in a really long time #and in turn makes themselves coil and feel a little more disgusted with themselves. but they're also so Good to each other that they can #start to believe that they can be that good too. #they love each other so much and theyve never loved anyone else like this before so i can just imagine the heights their love can reach #endless pouring of affection in a way they can only keep to their own chest in fear they'd never be able to let go otherwise #that is to say i just feel like they'd worship each other and it's probably excessive but i feel like they both really deserve it #i did not even mean to go on that tangent but back on topic -- i just love angel wolfwood depiction in a way that's Normal...... #need more of vash saying cheesy shit like youre my light wolfwood!!!! and wolfwood beating the shit out of him like WHAT ARE YOU SAYING!!! #which is why i have a tablet in the first place. my mission in the world... #ruporas art

[strawberrybabydog]

if we keep doing uwu soft little vampire and big strong dumb werewolf how are we going to ever break out of gender binary

if i see 1 more artist make the masculine/larger/stronger human partner into the werewolf im going to freak out

lycanthropy is about losing yourself. please i am begging you to make someone random, someone unequipped, into a werewolf. please. small scrawny werewolves who are weak and scared, feminine werewolves, werewolves who struggle with the idea of taking something's life (even another animal for food) werewolves who refuse to get dirty because they're averse. werewolves need more than 1 mental illness yall

its kind of a joke at the beginning but not really. make an insane jacked vampire and her petite femme werewife with braided patterned fur or something; make the vampire a seamstress who wont quit until her werewife has the perfect fitting dress for her new furry body. stop with the "oh this character is butch/masc, CLEARLY they would make a good werewolf" shut uuuuupp be a LITTLE more creative. come on!!! do you really think every single werewolf has a premium gym membership? quit drawing them like it !!!

#this post has been brought to u in part by cinnamon #have none of u considered that if u give a werewolf a Different set of problems they will be way more interesting #how many times have i seen the 'lycanthropy is a good metaphor for everything' post and agreed #but still im only seeing jacked violent huge strong animalistic werewolves. whyyy #how can you say this is basically a universal experience and then only assign 1 body shape and traits to a character Forever. #like yeah thats very 'diverse experiences' of you........ to only portray the everyman in the form of a werewolf...... sooo representative.. #like genuinely who are werewolves supposed to represent because allegedly its me and i have yet to truly relate to a werewolf in media #i do not relate to wanting to mercilessly slaughter or being powerful or striking fear in others or being ripped and violent #maybe im missing the point or something but.. i AM a werewolf :0/ #just 1 nonmasc werewolf. please. that is all im asking for. idc if theyre androgyne or a void. idc. just NOT a gymbro as a werewolf. #idec if they fill the stereotypical traits of a werewolf just NOT A GYMBRO!! #werewolf posting #woof

[mari-monsta]

New adrinette au where adrien is the ( surpriscingly hot) driving instructor and marinette is the still-hasent-gotten-her-liscence-yet 24 year old who is a horrible horrible driver

#cue antics of marinette being the worst driver adrien has ever seen #and marinette being even WORSE at driving than she normally is #because she was expecting some balding guy or snarky old lady to teach her driving not this adorable kind and patient young dude #anyway its just a lot of marinette being an absolute menace on the road and adrien trying to pretend like hes not fearing for his life #bye anyway im so tired and im sick of working please let ke go home

[diathadevil]

Day 7 - Scatter

His biggest fear.

(Bonus doodle underneath because I felt bad for Fakir so I ended up making this into a dream sequence comic :'] )

#fakiru week #fakiru week 2023 #princess tutu #fakiru #fakir #ahiru arima #ahiru #aaaAAAAAAHAHAHAHA I'M SORRY Y'ALL I MADE HIM SAD AND CRY but we needed more crying Fakir honestly let's be real let's be HONEST #you think I've seen enough of him being a wet sad pathetic man??? nuh uh I want to see him have recurring nightmares even years later #man probably still thinks all those times she's told him she loves him will bring consequences or something and she'll suddenly disappear #he fears she's gonna turn to dust one day even after marrying her and having children together #art #comic #digital art #fan art #anime

[itspileofgoodthings]

Good morning what are the movies or tv shows that traumatized you as a kid mine are the BBC production of A Christmas Carol and a handful of David Suchet Poirot episodes

#my dad always thought if something was well done it was appropriate for children #so we never watched the silly little kid version of things. The muppet Christmas Carol? My dad would N E V E R #anyway a Christmas Carol ruined Christmas for me for YEARS #i hated to think about it #and poirot was just. traumatizing #there’s one called murder on the links which involved a golf course at night which is one of the most terrifying locations I can imagine #also there’s one called death in the clouds #and poirot uncovers the murder because there are two spoons on the dead lady’s tray of airplane food #and the way he says ‘he picks up a spoon giving him the task of a waiter to carry out’ #when explaining the murder at the end to this DAY sends chills up my spine #I know this is very obvious but the thing about fear is that it isn’t about logic or reason but it is about revelation #it’s like the flip side of moments of good and happy insight #at least for me #what terrifies me is a moment where some kind of evil is revealed in a blinding FLASH #a motive or (I guess) a ghost #and there is this presence of some malevolent entity underneath the reality of things #and something about it being SEEN almost more than it existing #is so scary. Like I. #Poirot uncovering the murder and describing it with such studied fascinated careful attention #pulling back the layers of a blind of one kind or another #shakes me to. my. CORE. #and it’s all so visual and instinctive. it’s one tiny little moment that doesn’t fit suddenly pulling back the curtain of reality #with such terrifying abruptness #makes me want to sit down and cry like a baby #the knowledge of evil doesn’t scare me. as in it doesn’t elicit an emotional/physical reaction of fear #but seeing it in embodied action. again. where it’s some tiny ordinary little detail suddenly ripping reality as you know it to shreds #the surprise of it. the recalibration it demands #I !!!!!!!!! Get so afraid

[bigkickguy]

fear and hunger meme doodle! I want to see Karin be mean to the rest of the cast too! :,)

#fear and hunger #abella fear and hunger #karin fear and hunger #kickdraw #I want more of karin being mean to everyone and not just daan #she probably does i just haven't gotten the dialogue yet! or seen people post it around much hakdjfhgafdg #listen im an abella olivia fan - but there is still room in my life for more gay women #I feel like actually if these 2 get into what they both have going on to start the game - they'd probably end up being good friends #'friends' doing a lot of work here in my mind #I love drawing karin and her huge jacket #i feel like i need to make it even bigger though - goals for next time i guess!

[emblazons]

It’s “realizing that Will’s struggle in S2 with being infected with a virus that spreads and will kill him quickly (but doctors don’t care) is a metaphor for how gay men were treated during the aids crisis” hours

—right alongside Mike (who comes from a family with a Reagan sign in their front yard + a mom who outwardly supported Margret Thatcher), who sat at his now confirmed gay best friend’s side the entire time he was sick and watched as people were willing to let him die because he was viewed as expendable……and now has an ongoing storyline where

1) his relationship with his girlfriend is falling apart because he doesn’t love her romantically

2) he’s staring longingly and pushing toward the freedom his gay best friend embodies for him, and

3) he cannot bring himself to tell anyone around him something because “what if they don’t like it” + dehumanize him for telling the secret truth he cannot bring himself to externalize, despite now knowing something that scares him about about himself:

(Bonus points for the fact that the first time we see Mike push Will and himself toward a girl is after he watches how people were willing to let his gay best friend (and him, by extension) die should they not confirm to expectations)

#can you tell I am rewatching S2? lmao but!! #he’s gay. he’s gay. HE IS IN THE CLOSET AND TERRIFIED AND FUCKING. GAY #this is not about his feelings for El and never had been #it’s about his DEEP AND UNRELENTING FEAR that he is going to be seen as less than human and potentially killed for his honesty #THE REFUSAL TO TELL THE TRUTH IS A PROTECTION MECHANISM #ROOTED IN WHAT HES SEEN & EXPERIENCED & KNOWS ABOUT HIMSELF AS A GAY MAN #like this boy is having an extended metaphorical existential crisis over being gay. that is the point #it always HAS been. but the depth and context for his struggle requires complex sociological knowledge & people don’t do that anymore lmao #ANYWAY #I’m gonna do a whole proper post on this I promise. I just had to get the thought out somewhere lmao #mike wheeler core #mike wheeler #will byers #stranger things #the me tag #gay mike wheeler

[macbethz]

I hate that media criticism has been reduced in online spaces to solely discussions of representation, where Good Media has the ever elusive and impossible to define “representation” and an absence of bigotry (and yes, it’s about the ABSENCE of bigotry rather than the presence of some other subversive quality), to the point where genuine critique of the formal qualities of something that happens to Have Woman In It is seen as indicative of some secret sexist agenda. Sometimes things can be completely inoffensively bad and sometimes people want to talk about it that. Sometimes the mere presence of a minority group does not make something good and it especially does not make it groundbreaking.

#b*rbie movie…which tbh I don’t even think was bad but the way it was hailed as REVOLUTIONARY despite being a typical capitalist blockbuster #was fuckijg crazy #warlock wartalks #and yeah doccor who sometimes. there are issues w genuine sexism but the lack of engagement in any kind of critique of that era for fear #of being seen as a bigot is unbelievable