#i feel very strongly about judging and comparing people

[princesskkfish]

A rant~

(be prepared for nonsense all over the place so sry)

Being a artist is really hard sometimes! (It’s hard just being a human too but I’d have a essay if I got into that, so staying to the artist side of things) anyways, it’s hard! Like yeah it’s a lot of peoples outlet and making art is super fun. And I’m not usually one to complain (for a number of reasons but whatever) but I want everyone to know their not alone and it really is hard sometimes

Being a artist has its ups and downs: art block, lack of motivation, lack of ideas, or being really inspired, or having tons of ideas and just goofing around. But the downside er hard part at least for me and others I know is the comparing and feeling of not good enough. Either not good enough in your art, feeling it not perfect enough, having to high of expectations and feeling terrible when it didn’t turn out the way you wanted. We all know this feeling in one way or another and I’ll be straight up it sucks, it really does

and this ruins it for some people and I hate that, the fact you can create something is amazing! No matter how good or bad you think you are. Everyone has the right to be creative and make the things they feel inspired to do! And no matter how far along you are in your art journey comparing can potentially crush that

and don’t get me wrong comparing isn’t inherently bad. Like you can compare your art to learn from it or see how someone else does this certain thing and how you can improve your art. What I’m trying to say is, don’t belittle yourself or your art because your going great and you are unique and no one else can make that art like you can! And it’s not fair to yourself to compare your artwork to another persons. That person might have years of practice or draws hours a day to improve.

And going right along with that last bit EVERYONE is always improving and at one point or another the person your comparing yourself too felt the same way you do. So be nice to yourself! Your doing great! And you shouldn’t make art just so you can “beat” or be “better” then this other person. Make art because you want too and because it makes you happy >:0

And that’s the end of my rant I would go on but my brain is fried and I still have homework to finish o7

#It’s been a day #Idk what to tag this #kkfish rants #??? #Probably will make another rant at some point #I’ve got words that i want everyone to hear #Don’t compare yourself your doing great #this is a rant i’m sorry #rant post #i feel very strongly about judging and comparing people #but whatever #im tired and I’ll just post this #Probably has tons of spelling and grammar errors but I suck at that so it’s alright

[sokkastyles]

Hi,

Hope you are doing well.

Thank you for the answer on the Final Agni Kai. I had some questions regarding one of your favorite topics TSR.

Aang's line, "I forgive you, that give you any ideas?" which he uses when Zuko and Katara take Appa seems wrong to me in many ways. It really feels like he desperately wants Katara to forgive Yon Rah, not even realizing that its just not possible for Katara to forgive Yon Rah. In a way, it really shows his discomfort with Katara's darker emotions, but she had been feeling that way since her mother died, along with the fact that she had no idea she could even confront him till Zuko gave her that information.

Do you think that a huge moment of growth for Aang would have to acknowledge this side of Katara as well?

I would like your thoughts on this.

Yeah, that "I forgive you" line is Aang being desperate. It's also really condescending and tone deaf to even compare his "forgiveness" in this scene to Katara forgiving Yon Rah.

I put forgiveness in quotes because Aang absolutely does NOT forgive Katara for taking Appa. He just knows he can't stop her at this point. The sarcastic tone and "that give you any ideas?" make him look pretty hypocritical because he is neither being forgiving nor understanding, he's just being flippant and dismissive.

It's also really clueless for Aang to make this comparison in the first place because, once again, Aang thinks the way to get Katara to listen to him is to compare her to a murderer. People talk a lot about how hurtful it was for him to compare Katara to Jet, when Katara was strongly against the things Jet did and was hurt by him personally. But let's talk for a minute about how Aang's new tactic is to literally compare her to her mom's murderer and compare her forgiving Yon Rah to him forgiving her for taking Appa without permission after she repeatedly tried to get Aang to listen to why she needed to go and he shut her down.

It takes a lot less for Aang to forgive Katara here than it would for Katara to forgive Yon Rah, so this kinda puts a damper on his whole "forgiveness is hard" theme. And even so, as I said above, he's not really forgiving her, he's just making a sarcastic comment while still judging her. Aang is not being the arbiter of forgiveness here that he pretends to be.

Let's also look at the conversation in context because I have more to say here.

Aang is flippant and dismissive - while also implying that Katara taking Appa is comparable to her mother's murder. And I'm not saying it wasn't probably hurtful to Aang that Katara would take Appa without his permission, especially considering what Appa means to him, but it's not comparable to cold blooded murder motivated by genocide. In any way. And, like, considering how they left things in the previous scene, with Katara telling Aang she had to go, what did Aang think Katara was going to do?

I'm pretty sure I've also mentioned before how this plot point is manufactured to make Katara look worse. However, in the previous episode, Sokka tried to take Appa without permission and the only reason he didn't was because Zuko pointed out that it was a stupid idea and he happened to have a war balloon stashed away, which he conveniently no longer has as of TSR. This is basically a case of moral luck, where a character's morality is judged based on plot contrivance.

(I've also said before that Aang not killing Ozai is down to moral luck, but that's another conversation.)

So Aang is flippant and condescending, and Katara seriously and very directly tells him that yes, she is going to take Appa. Mae Whitman's voice acting is phenomenal in this scene, btw. She sounds so sad, because I think she does feel that she is betraying Aang by doing this, but she tried to tell him why she needed to do it. She tried. He didn't listen.

Then she says "don't try to stop us," and Aang says he wasn't going to and that "this is a journey you have to take," but, again, it doesn't feel like he's saying this because he really believes it. It feels like he's saying it because he has realized at this point that he can't stop them from going, short of attacking them. But if he thought he could, he definitely would have continued to try to stop them.

Which brings me also to Zuko's sarcastic comment. Because Aang's the one who sets the tone for this conversation. Zuko simply responds in kind. Katara, by contrast, continues to speak in the same sad, hurt, but firm and direct tone, and thanks Aang for understanding. She thanks him. For understanding. When Aang is offering none of that to her.

I actually think Aang could learn more from Katara about forgiveness, given how much restraint she uses towards Aang here and the way he's treating her.

I think Zuko saw that, too, and that's why he responds angrily to Aang here. Not because he disagrees with Aang's beliefs but because Katara keeps quietly but firmly telling him what she's going to do and he keeps ignoring her and acting like she's being irrational.

I've said this before, too, but that would also be triggering for Zuko to watch this happening, considering how he's been gaslit by his family. Notice how he's quiet until the end of the conversation (and didn't say much in the conversation before that, either.) Aang's language, even if well-intentioned, would probably set off something in him and he's not wrong to defend Katara.

#katara #the southern raiders #zuko #aang critical #antikataang #zutara #not really but using the ship tags to be safe

[genderkoolaid]

What do you think about the concept of "since kink and porn is an art form, you should be able to critique it like an artform" (but like, with actual critique rather than just kink-phobia AND ALSO don't critique someone's specific piece of art if they didn't ask you to, like we're still applying the basic rules of art critique to this).

In the same way you would examine and criticize someone animating a character saying something violently transphobic, you would criticize someone for making violently transphobic porn. (Of course there is nuance to this, just because a character says something violently transphobic doesn't mean the creator is transphobic in that and same with violent transphobic porn)

But I guess in order to get to that point, we need to get past the "it's not morally pure" and "you're gross for liking that" type shit in order to do that in a healthy way. Because I believe there is a healthy and honest way to critique porn and what kind of message people are putting out into the world with porn (oddly enough, porn can be used as propaganda), but I don't think we as a society are ready to do that with the current state of puritanism.

I would say, one, that kink =/= porn. I think it makes sense to critique porn like an artform, but kinky sex in private is, y'know, private, so it would be weird to try and artistically critique someone's sex life. Not all kink exists for public consumption & it private kink shouldn't be judged like its inherently meant to be consumed by the public. Porn, on the other hand, is meant to be viewed (for purposes of arousal), and that includes kinky porn. (Also, we can critique the way people do kink, but I don't think that should be compared to how art is critiqued yk? Like there's a difference between artistically critiquing movies about sports and critiquing the way sports are played. And when it comes to interpersonal relationships it should really be left to people actually involved in the situation since they know their needs best.)

I definitely think there's merit in critiquing porn in an artistic sense. But it definitely has to be done from a perspective outside of "this is depicting a Bad Thing and making it seem like a Good Thing, therefore its Bad." Personally, I think more should be done to emphasize the kink aspect of kink- a lot of CNC porn removes the context of kink, which is extremely important for not only engaging in but just understanding CNC. If you listen to people who have rape kinks & engage with them in healthy ways, its very clear that part of the arousal is the fact that its in a kinky context, and the knowledge that you either have power taken away or are given power based on mutual trust. I said this before in another post but I think a lot of the negative things attributed to kinky porn itself comes from people consuming it without having any kink education to put that porn in context. But this has to come alongside systemic changes to how we approach kink and sex in general, and make it easier for people to get educated about these things in an open way. I very strongly feel that we should have some kind of at least surface level kink education in sex ed- by "surface level" I mean, at the very least, getting the concepts of "scene" "safeword" "soft/hard limits" "SSC/RACK" "aftercare" etc. into the general consciousness.

Anyways, the point is that if your critique only goes as deep as "this makes rape seem good, and thats harmful!" then its not a very good critique. But something like "the choking method used is dangerous and shouldn't be encouraged" or "this video showed the discussion of safewords and limits before the actual scene, which emphasis that its a scene & encourages good communication" could be very helpful.

But also, why limit porn critique to that? I wanna see people writing articles about the camera angles & the talents of the performers.

#m. #ask box #rape tw

[k1ngdom-of-thieves]

Hi there~~! If it's not too troublesome, could I request Trey, Riddle, Kalim and Jamil with a female Chinese s/o who is a great cook because her family owns a traditional Chinese confectionery shop?

I hope this is alright, I don’t know a lot about Chinese confectionery

Trey, Riddle,Kalim, and Jamil + Chinese reader who’s a great cook!

Trey Clover

Trey is always looking for ways to make the Unbirthday parties more exciting, so he’ll definitely be asking you for recipes or advice. It’s always good to get a second opinion, after all!

While you guys are baking, he’ll ask you about your family’s business and compare it to his family’s bakery. He appreciates having someone here that he can relate to.

He’ll let you try some of his treats so you can give him critiques. You usually eat more than you need to because his pastries are really good. I would’ve pulled an Ace and stolen the whole tray.

Your cooking helps motivate him to work harder on his own work. Having his dorm mates prefer someone else’s food isn’t going to do him any favors.

“I need to start upping my game. Riddle would kill me if it turns out people would rather have someone from another dorm be our chef.”

Riddle Rosehearts

Riddle doesn’t know a lot about foods from other parts of the world, so he’ll be greatly interested in whatever you make. Be prepared to answer the questions of a very confused housewarden.

He watches you cook with awe in his eyes. You’re using spices that he’s never thought to combine with such grace that he’s never seen from Trey.

After trying your dishes, he strongly implores you to cook for an Unbirthday party. He’s positive that his dorm mates will love your food as much as he does.

He’ll ask about your family and their shop. He’s lived a pretty sheltered life, so he wants to know how other people families are like.

“Were you allowed to help out with making the confectionery? My apologies for sounding condescending, I’m just very interested in what kind of people your family is.”

Kalim Al Asim

Kalim is always excited to learn more about others, especially if their culture is different from his. He loves to just sit and listen to you talk about your family.

He may not be able to eat your food for a while, you know, the whole almost getting poisoned as a child thing. But he’ll definitely complement the way you cook and how the food looks.

That doesn’t mean he’ll never eat your food though, it just take him a while to do so. You just might have your cooking judged by Jamil first. That sounds terrifying ngl

He might ask you to cook for the dorm sometime. Of course, that’s only if you want to! He understands that being the prefect of Ramshackle might take up most of your time.

“Hey, do you want to come over to our party later? I’m sure everyone would love to try your cooking!”

Jamil Viper

Jamil is fairly new interested in how different your cooking is from his. He likes to see if he can adapt some of your techniques into his cooking.

He gets very interested when you talk about your family and your culture back home. His dream is to travel the world so hearing about how different your life is very interesting to him.

If you feel like it, he would really appreciate if you would come and cook with him. He’d rather have someone that he can trust with him instead of having to keep an eye on both Kalim and the food.

He’d really like to try your food sometime, of course he won’t force you to make anything. He’s lived with Kalim far too long to know how irritating that can be. He just kinda wants to eating food that wasn’t made by him for once.

“Wow, your cooking is like nothing I’ve ever had before. I’m almost positive that you could be a famous chef one day.”

#twisted wonderland imagines #twisted wonderland x reader #twst x reader #twst imagines #twst trey #trey clover x reader #trey clover #twst riddle #riddle rosehearts x reader #riddle rosehearts #twst kalim #kalim al asim x reader #kalim al asim #jamil viper #twst jamil #jamil viper x reader

[sepublic]

            I sometimes think back to King’s Tide and how Darius backed down when Hettie threatened Eberwolf, and I think what Raine would’ve done in his situation. Because they are the person who in their debut episode, attempted a one-sided suicide pact to save the isles. Someone who knowingly estranged and hurt Eda, to their own agony, for the sake of Eda’s kids who really needed her and couldn’t risk losing to the rebellion.

         There’s also the fact that Raine was able to make the tough, yet healthy, move to cut Eda out of their life when Eda continued to isolate them with secrets about her condition and push them away. So with all that in mind, Raine continues to support this idea of someone who can and WILL make the tough call, do the unpleasant job, for the greater good. It hurts right now and certainly in the short-term, but Raine does have the larger sight to consider it all in the long-term.

         Compare that to Darius, whose attachment to his relationships is STRONGLY felt, even occasionally detrimental. He backs down for Eberwolf’s life, even though Eber is dead either way, because he cares too much. Darius clings to the memory of his mentor, to the point that he judges Hunter rather unfairly as his successor. While Alador never brings it up on his own, Darius is the one to initiate continued contact with a signed book, telling Kikimora to relay a message, and then checking Al’s Penstagram account in his free time.

         (Makes me wonder if losing Alador and Odalia were really things under Darius’ control either, in addition to the fact that they are their own people capable of making their own decisions. A lack of control in losing people might explain a bit…)

         That isn’t to say that Raine is cold and emotionless, either! They’re very in favor of revealing themselves to Eda in Hollow Mind… Though, you could argue it’s because their original reason for estranging her, keeping her kid safe, was at jeopardy to begin with. Contrast that with Darius, who tries to stick to the mission, but when Hunter is brought up, he immediately loses his cool.

         Anyhow, this is all to loop back and ask; If that was Raine there. And if it was not just Eberwolf, but even Eda being threatened… Would they back down to Hettie’s threat, or keep going? Because I can actually see them keep going. They very much accepted Eda’s own agency and choice in deciding to sacrifice herself to sabotage the ritual, and only stepped in when it was out of Eda’s hands, and because Luz had asked them to; Luz, one of two reasons Raine had done these difficult things for in the first place.

         They’d accepted the murder-suicide pact with Eda, both under the impression it’d save the isles. So with Eda already prepared to die for this… Yeah, I could see Raine just letting it happen, and Eda insisting they do. This is not to judge Darius or Eberwolf; They are their own people with understandable, human flaws. Dana said that Eberwolf trusts Darius a lot, so it’s possible Darius feels more responsible for Eber’s rebellion, and thus the danger they got themselves into. Darius feels very strongly and is very attached to his relationship, he just… clings to people like a pile of goop (I’m sorry).

         Whereas with Raine is fascinating, because they can and have made the tough call to cut themselves away from a loved one, for the greater good. An interesting parallel to Eda pushing them away, really, though arguably more justified and healthy in Raine’s case… But even if it’s healthier, does that make it healthy in general?

         (Man, Raine and Darius both have their shortcomings as rebels, but their own strengths as well. There’s what I mentioned, but on the other hand Darius was a lot more discreet as a rebel, and remained beneath detection until THE last second. They go well together.)

         Again, Raine is hardly cold; Raine gave up Eda and sabotaged their own cause for two kids they never even met and had only heard about once before during the petrification ceremony, having not yet made the familial connection. If that doesn’t betray a bleeding heart, I don’t know what does. Especially since Raine likely related to these kids, guessing correctly that Eda was pushing them away over her curse, and wanted to prevent the tragedy that happened between them and Eda, by reminding Eda to stick with THESE kids this time.

         And she did! Raine couldn’t get Eda to stay by their side those years ago, but they avoided repeating history for Luz and King, who also needed Eda. Man, it’s crazy how much is changed and re-contextualized in Eda’s Requiem with the very next episode afterwards. 

        Anyhow, with Raine being quite the public speaker with their own following, and the aforementioned pattern of making the difficult decision at times to cut others away, even accepting their own death and that of others, all for the greater good… They’re an understated parallel to Philip “I just need to live long enough to see this through” Wittebane, who sacrificed his brother for God’s will. Except, of course. Raine isn’t evil, just forced into actual dilemmas, by Belos himself. Man, so many characters really do reflect different facets of this messed-up puritan, huh?

#the owl house #raine whispers #darius deamonne #raeda #character analysis

[mhevarujta]

Saltburn and The Talented Mr Ripley

I keep reading that Saltburn is a dollarstore version of The Talented Mr Ripley and I disagree... strongly.

1)This movie is a mix of genres and in open dialogue with many movies and books. People act as if this makes it unoriginal, but creators doing this consciously (and Fennell is very open about her influences) is not something new and WAS in fact used in movies and literature to make works exist not just individually, but also within genres and traditions, in comparison to one another. I don't think it's a matter of being uninspired and it's lovely that a movie that is meant to be pure, delicious fun has this much work put behind it.

2)Fennell herself has said that she loves Highsmith even though, when writing Saltburn, Ripley was not in her mind consciously like gothics and british country house stories.

I DO think that, subconsciously or not, she WAS affected by Ripley, but I still find that the similarities are contextualized within the genres and themes that interest HER. Some comparisons:

-Oliver is not in it for money in the beginning. He's not a poor, ill-treated-by-family opportunist who's working in whatever manner he can to get by or who HAS to be deeply closeted because his society and several specific characters have shamed him for his sexuality.

-The scene of Oliver cleaning Farleigh's room is compared to Tom cleaning up after Dickie and the latter snapping. A main difference I see is that in the Ripley-movie (this scene was not in the book), this is a very minor moment and Dickie is living up to his name short of two letters because he's irritable, grieving and guilty. In Saltburn, this scene is very different in context. Oliver is not cleaning casually. Felix complains about the heat and he's still like a piglet in his own filth, too rich to raise his finger. I DO remember my time at campus during the summer and the temperature in there, and the idea of two-days-old remnants of food being thrown in a room and having started to smell? Oh, boy. While what Oliver said can be seen as insulting, it can also be seen as honest and Felix's reaction as kinda immature and wanting to both be what he is and never be judged in the slightest, even if it's not in an ill-intended manner. This shows us part of who Felix is, why people put on performances for him, and how Oliver observes, acting on a trial and error basis, and shifts his performance as he goes along to fit to what is wanted of him. This is a scene that does a lot of groundwork in a small timespan.

-Unlike both book and movie-Dickie, this never becomes a story about Felix leading Oliver on. Whether Felix is aware of Oliver's feelings for him is never at the forefront. In fact, it's quite likely that they haven't registered, just like many things don't for him, and that's part of the story the movie is telling and of the criticism it's making.

-I'd also like to compare the three murders. I'm saying three because book!Ripley and movie!Ripley have different murder-scenes. In the movie, Dickie's annoyance and resentment escalate in the boat. Tom is finally honest in a way he never has been for, accusing Dickie of putting on a show himself, of leading him on, of being the one dishonest about his feelings etc. After all, by that point Tom has used honesty as manipulation in the beginning and has been genuinely honest later. The murder happens in the heat of the moment. In the book the murder is 200% premeditated. Tom had settled upon murdering Dickie and taking his identity before they are even on that boat. In fact, being on that boat is part of Tom's plan, and some final moments of having Dicke back in a good mood and experiencing his 'light' again, to not stay his hand.

In Oliver's case there is a very different quality to the murder. Felix has not reached some point of being bored. He has learned of Oliver's excessive lies and can't look at him as the same person no matter what Oliver says. Oliver deep down gets the gravity of that, yet he feels indignant because he knows that all people around Felix play little parts and doesn't see himself as being any different. In this case, the murder is premeditated, but undesired. Oliver wings the murder after his and Farleigh's discussion, being afraid that all of this will become a dream he is reminiscent over while he lives a miserable life, having become like his parents. The manner of it is inspired by the scene he witnesses when he tries to approach Felix in the bathroom during the party and when he sees Farleigh too doing lines. But even then, the confrontation in the Labyrinth is very real and heated. Even with the premeditation, Oliver is deeply desirous of having Felix's light sign upon him again and ready to put and end to his plan if that happened. It's never about taking everything away from Felix. It's about: 'If I can't have you, if you won't have me, you can't exist.' It's about Oliver's last hope being crushed. The rest is only the result of growing resentment and hatred, combined with an inability to let go and a need to feel victorious; a conqueror.

My point is that I don't reject the comparisons, but I think that there is thought, effort and depth behind the writing of this movie and it's not some downgrade.

#saltburn #oliver quick #felix catton #the talented mr. ripley #emerald fennell

[samuraisharkie]

that virtualtoybox person literally told me they aren’t reading what I said and then tried to talk to me w about as much in their tags lol. i never understand people that go ‘I’m not reading all of that but you should read what I have to say” bc like. imagine how infuriated ur gonna get when that response is leveled right back at you? and judging by their tags they didn’t read past my very first line. bc they started comparing animals and animal rights to eugenics which is EXACTLY what I was saying is extremely dangerous to do. That’s exactly how people start calling things that happen to animals a ‘Holocaust’ and I’m positive such a statement is made in that book they told me to read. I’m disabled too. I know what I’m talking fucking about too. In the animal section, I for SURE know more than you do! Because if you knew and truly cared about animals and their welfare, you wouldn’t be talking like PETA. Here’s a trick to other disability activists: learn about animal welfare by volunteering on farms and educating yourself on breeders and the industry rather than getting involved in PETA! And another critical trick: NEVER compare animals to people! That’s exactly what the freaks that think any living thing with a deformity that should die are doing. These people would clutch their pearls the moment they hear farms cull undesirable animals bc they can’t afford to keep every single one and have to streamline their breeding and raising to what will help keep the farm running. That doesn’t mean these farmers want to do the same to people, because the animal is NOT a person and doesn’t live like one. Our lives are not even remotely comparable! People like OP are the people that keep a wild bird with an amputated wing alive bc in their mind it would be insinuating all amputees should die if the bird is put down, and next thing the bird is on the Dodo as inspiration porn. Duex Face is an exception to two headed animals, not the rule. Don’t tell me to do my research when you’re spouting talking points from people that have caused more problems for animals as a whole second only to the commercialization of animal industry. Maybe you need some research (field research) instead! They’re going to block me and I’m assuming that’s why I can’t rb the post anymore even if I wanted to (like I said I didn’t want to start a fight so like. I’m not going to be yelling and acting like an asshole. I swore a bit in the tags initially bc I feel very strongly about how animal rights activists have fucked up disability activism by acting like there’s equivalency in our existences, but that’s not targeted. Most was going to respond telling them that if they feel this strongly they need to be reading more about the animal industry rather than relying on people that are in no way experts on animals talking as an authority on them, and using that to tie with their human rights activism as if animals rights and humans rights are even remotely the same in any way. Whatever though at least the tags are there if anyone who cares enough actually reads them and thinks about them. Will most likely just attract militant vegans and ARAs like the op but whatever)

#ableism tw #why are people caring more about animal rights than human rights. acting like an animal has the same existence a human does #why aren’t we instead pointing and making books about the HUMAN eugenics happening right in front of our eyes. #why do we have to talk through fantasized anthropromorphized animals #why do you people have to imagine an animal feels like you do in order for people to care. #to an extent I’m sure there is a level to which you can say ‘yeah this person is ableist’ judging by how they talk about outside subjects #and I agree that the people who want Deux Face put down are ignorant and a few likely are ableist #but treating it like there is ZERO NUANCE and that every person who holds concern for whether the animal is suffering or not is ableist #is ignorant and harmful #this situation is way way more than what op made it out to be and you can already see in the replies how ARAs have latched onto it #to get on their soapbox and declare that anyone that treats animals as anything less than human are ableist eugenists #(while simultaneously disrespecting people that are actually living through those situations aka comparing animal culling to a Holocaust.) #it doesn’t matter if you’re part of the demographic that’s being harmed and you have no problem with it you don’t speak for all of us #and despite being an activist you CAN be misinformed and fueled by bias! #if animals are fur babies with human emotions to you than of course you will prefer the ‘beast of burden’ argument #I’ll check that book out honestly. would be good to know how to refute what OP built their beliefs off of

[snickerdoodlles]

katharienne replied to your post "things i would change in lita if i were in charge:..."

Excccelent! I was curious what you had to say about LITA and it turns out you had similar problems with the show as me. PhayuRain makes me simply uncomfortable exactly because Rain act like a child all the time. He’s so babyish that I don’t want to see him with relationship with anyone, even Ple would look like a predator next to Rai AND COME ON. It be more enjoyable for me personally (not judging others) if the kink remained something they explored in the bedroom. The relationship is just so unequal in all aspects and I seriously don’t see what Rain brings to the table. Why is Phayu so enamored? They have nothing in common but sex and Phayu thinking like a big strong man. That’s not enough for me :( I enjoyed SkyPai though immensely. Sky’s independence makes him a good partner to Pai to whom! He also acts babyish in private! But we can see it’s something that gets them both going not Sky’s whole personality. And Sky’s snark in the whole series is A+, really. AND let’s compare that to KimChay. Same age difference, unequal standing, one character underage, the other literally using him but it doesn’t feel predatorish at any point because it remained fairly innocent as far as we knew, it was based on emotional connection and the older character was revealed to have many insecurities that made him more on the teenagers level. Yes, Kim was emotionally dumbed down for Chay and it was a valid narrative choice!

i think you're kinda dancing around the central issue that comes up with me for Phayu/Rain, which also links to a larger problem...in general, really, but fandom specifically. and i'm going to start with your last point, because i disagree with that kimchay assessment. it actually links to a minor beef i have with kp fandom, and you all know how strongly i feel about kimchay (lol). so, here's the thing:

Chay is an adult in kinnporsche.

this is an issue in general terms, but fandom in particular focuses on the number but not the context when it comes to age. 18 is considered to be the age of majority because, in very broad generalization, 18 is when people start gaining a lot more personal responsibility. it's not about hitting that number. 18 is when people (generally speaking) start getting jobs, go to college, move out, some combination of, etc. even in situations where someone remains partially dependent on their parents/guardians (ie person moves out to college but is still financially dependent, or they live at home but got a job)--that person is still gaining some sort of independence from the situation they grew up in. and with more independence, comes more personal responsibility and personal growth, and with more personal responsibility and personal growth, comes more life experience and emotional maturity.

Chay might be 17, but he grew up fast. he didn't have a choice. Porsche did everything he could to give Chay a childhood, but we know he's working multiple jobs while also dropping into school occasionally and we know Arthee was an incompetent guardian. Chay was already looking after himself quite a bit in a way that an adult would look after themself, but during canon Chay's on his own. which means he's looking after himself completely. he's managing his own meals, care-taking, budget, schooling, appointments, and general day-to-day responsibilities. he doesn't have his own job, but in every other respect (including a lot of financial responsibility), he is acting as his own agent the way an adult does. his 17yo experience is vastly different from the standard 17yo or average high school student. there's no 'dumbing down' Kim's emotional maturity. Kim's very shy and has a lot trauma he hasn't unpacked, but that's not a reflection on (or even really has anything to do with) his emotional maturity. he's also been forced to being very independent at a very young age due to circumstance. Chay and Kim are operating on very similar levels of responsibility when they first meet.

and it's not about the nature of Kim and Chay's relationship either. the show simply chose not to add a sexual aspect to their storyline (probably moreso due to the actors than their story itself), but in the context of the story, sex wouldn't have been out of place had it been included. sex as an act is very intimate, very impactful, and very vulnerable. it can have big repercussions on participants and it's also just a big whirlwind of emotions and chemicals. this is why people can get concerned when people with little life experience start having sex--it's a question of is that person physically and emotionally ready for what can happen with sex, do they have the capability of taking that personal responsibility and consequences, etc. this isn't to say there aren't adults who aren't responsible and/or ready for sex but are having it anyways, or that people have to be 100% ready on all fronts before taking that leap, or even that sex has to be a big deal for everyone doing it--but you generally want anyone having sex to have to have the capability of taking responsibility for any repercussions (physical, emotional, etc) that might occur. and that level of responsibility can have result in even more pressure on someone with less life experience in handling a lot of personal responsibility. proportionately speaking, it can be a bigger impact. most people underage haven't had a chance to gain enough experience with that level of responsibility by nature of having not been alive for very long, and sex is a big ball to juggle alongside the rest of the coming-of-age mess.

and the weird thing is, this is literally a plotline in lita! Sky was left alone in a new city at presumably age 15. these circumstances left him isolated and vulnerable to Gun's grooming. he didn't have a network of support to turn to when Gun started abusing him, his friends didn't know how to approach someone being abused (they were teens too!), and as a result, Sky went through a period of extremely traumatic abuse that ended with him being gangraped. people don't give Sky enough credit for walking away and pulling himself back together after that tbh, because Gun was clearly an emotional rock for him during that time period when he didn't feel like he had any other, and letting go of that is terrifying and hard, even when the current situation is really bad. it's a very classic abuse scenario. this isn't to say no teenager can ever live on their own (i haven't watched it yet, but tortoise tells me the eclipse plays with the dynamics of this coming-of-age period for its characters very well), but lita makes a pretty strong point of how this sort of situation can make someone more vulnerable to predators/abuse.

which brings me to Rain. i don't have any issue with him acting childish, or being naive, or wanting to be spoiled, or anything like that. i think that's a personality choice, not a reflection on emotional maturity. i also really like that Phayu was just enamored with the guy who held an umbrella for him in the rain. i don't think attraction needs to be 'justified' beyond 'they like that' and i'm glad lita didn't try to make it into a 'big' thing. my concern is that Rain's never really had a chance for any independent growth.

not to throw another show into this mix, but in the animated series RWBY, there's a background pairing between two characters, Ren and Nora. these two were orphaned as children and have been surviving together since--they're best friends who eventually turn romantic. but, after they've been together for a bit, Nora realizes that she thinks of herself as a part of their unit more than she thinks of herself as her own agent ("we've always been 'Ren and Nora', i don't know how to be 'just Nora'."), so she asks Ren if they can take a break from the romantic aspect of their relationship, at least for a bit, so that she can have some time and space to figure out who 'just Nora' is--with the underlying message being that you can care about someone a lot and they can be a big part of you, but that's still all they are: a part of you.

so the show making Rain still highly dependent on his parents--he's still living at home, his mom's still managing his meals and colds, they're still fully responsible for things like Rain's transportation (Rain wanted to call them before roadside assistance when his car broke down combined with the lack of knowledge that he even had to maintain his car (vs him knowing but ignoring it))--it makes him literally childish. and then they further play on that with Phayu coming in and scolding Rain to do his homework, make all his meals, taking over his care-taking, etc. Rain hasn't had any time being 'just Rain' and this tips the character and relationship dynamics from Rain choosing to be childish or making risky choices (which is completely fair, everyone's entitled to making stupid decisions), to "does Rain even understand the choices he's making right now???"

the last ~2.5 episodes of Phayu and Rain's arc try to characterize Rain as someone who is a little childish and naive and just likes to be spoiled--all of which are fine, and in isolation the Phayu/Rain dynamics in those last 2 episodes are pretty fun--but the landing doesn't work because the writers didn't establish Rain properly in the beginning. it's still very discomforting to me. and it's not like it would've been hard to fix? or at least make it less concerning? just putting Rain in his own dorm (even if he visited home on weekends) and switching up some dialogue from "...that's a thing???" to "....i thought i could ignore that check engine light? 😅" (as a specific example) and even including him more of the school activities would've given Rain some of that needed independence/room for some personal soul-searching. granted, i watched the beginning episodes mostly just waiting for Prapai and Sky's arc to happen, but i have no idea what Rain and Phayu's character arcs were. nothing really happened to them besides kink (i am still so salty about the lack of kidnapping aftermath, their kidnapping arc has so much potential laying around untapped). ...i digress. it just really sucks that the entire Phayu/Rain arc was one big missed opportunity, primarily because the writers couldn't let go of their kinks long enough to remember they had a story to write. >:T

#love in the air #kinnporsche #this post is so loooooong #sorry for the ramble dump #ive been thinking about this all weekend so i have a lot of thoughts to share 😅

[river-in-the-woods]

Curious, when you "see" stuff with your third eye does it come out in a certain style or stay consistent with how you'd see stuff with your physical eyes?

Hello!

When performing divination, I have visions only in my mind, which are usually brief animations or still images. They will tend to be a bit blurry or unfocused compared to my physical sight, similar to how things look in your peripheral vision. It does not disrupt my physical senses, but if I focus more strongly on the vision then I will be less aware of what's in front or around me.

I will also hear things as well, again not as a physical voice, but a mind voice. My clairaudience is a lot stronger than my clairvoyance, actually, so I will hear things very clearly. I occasionally hear phrases or short sentences during divination.

Of course, there is also claircognisance, which I get a lot of as well. These are non-verbal, non-visual flashes of intuition, which can take time to parse. I don't really experience any of the other clairs.

I know some people who perceive spirits as if they are physically there, and others who can be briefly possessed by them. But it is much more common to perceive things in the mind. One of my friends gets a headache when they've received a message from their spirits, and needs to meditate for a long time to parse the information, after which they will have a meaningful dream. You can get all sorts of experiences depending on how your spiritual senses are built.

I rarely see people or spirits in my visions. If I do, it will be either an undetailed figure, or a close up view of a particular feature of their appearance and the rest faded out. It varies. I will more often see objects, elements, animals or landscapes which are interpreted symbolically.

In my experience, at first, the mind visions/voices can actually feel very similar to your normal thoughts. This is one of the main obstacles for beginners – they're getting intuitive answers, but it feels like they're making it up or having a daydream.

It takes a lot of time and practice to discern what is genuine gnosis, versus what I call "fillers" – answers which arise as a result of internal conditioning and are not relevant to the reading. Inexperienced diviners can get a mixture of gnosis and fillers in the same divination session, but the ratio improves as you practice.

I'm afraid it's really hard to describe what the difference feels like! It is purely experiential – you'd need to get to know your mind stream very well.

In my case, I notice that the most genuine gnosis will arise unexpectedly, as if slipping into the gaps between my thoughts. I need to be receptive and actively searching for an answer, with a mind that is relaxed but not empty or tired.

The most efficient way I've found to train your intuition is to do group readings. Gather a group of diviner friends, make a list of questions. Each person does a reading for every question (any technique, as long as it's quick) and everyone compares notes after. It especially helps to have at least a few experienced diviners in your group who are supportive and non-judgemental. My skills improved drastically when I did this, and much of it was about understanding what getting gnosis feels like.

Secondly is to try and predict the future. Do readings for the day/week/month ahead, as often as possible, in as much detail as the reading allows. But do not judge yourself or try to interpret until the reading is laid out, and note down everything you think of, including how the thought came to you. Record first, interpret after. You will know if you're right or wrong as time rolls by.

Thank you for your question!

#divination #clairvoyance #clairaudience #psychic senses #intuition #resources #inbox #anonymous #spirit sight #spirit work

[vira-vent]

I just had an exciting/stressful experience recently that was both parts good and bad. I'll keep it vague for personal life reasons (it was a test of some kind, I'll give a little bit of context). HOWEVER, I feel very strongly that this incident could have turned out A LOT better and would've had a more positive outcome had I been allowed to state the fact that I have autism and it affects me greatly in everyday life. Furthermore, I realized how utterly disappointed I am in our societies lack of accommodations it has in place for people with disabilities, and I mean both mental and physical disabilities.

I'm sure anyone with autism/anyone who is neurodivergent knows the disconnect we have from neurotypicals and the way they go through life. The closest thing I can compare it to is like showing up to a race late, all the neurotypical people get a major head start while I'm left struggling behind everyone trying my best to catch up. I don't think I'm going to come off as a "special snowflake" or "spoiled brat" by saying I NEED special accommodations every now and then in order to "catch up" to everyone and be given a fair shot. As an adult, I feel like these accommodations I need become more and more important and necessary since adult life can be EXTREMELY difficult (near impossible some days) to navigate as an individual with autism. I don't think it's too much to ask for some help and have people go a little easier on me in certain scenarios.

In this particular scenario (and many others I've had throughout my adult life) I've actually had to HIDE the fact that I even HAVE AUTISM so I don't get denied due to people thinking I am "mentally unstable" because they didn't do their research into what autism actually is. Call me paranoid but it is information I don't feel comfortable giving out out of fear I may get denied certain things or have people harshly judge and critique me. Thankfully my coworkers and boss know about my autism so work is all good, and my family is supportive, but most of the time I just have to do my best every where else and not tell anyone. I think every neurodivergent person should feel comfortable telling people these details under all circumstances, and I shouldn't feel afraid to divulge important aspects of myself out of fear of rejection.

Tldr: The world is NOT kind to neurodivergent people like myself and I am tired of it!

#vent #rant #rant post #vent post #autism #neurodivergent #neurodiversity #rambles #disability #disabilities

[crepes-suzette-373]

I want to vent out this crazy craaaaaazy total utter reach that have been haunting in my brain for weeks.

Unlike my previous analysis posts this is not really a logical theory with strong basis, and I absolutely don't think Oda-sensei is actually doing this on purpose. It's just an observation of "this has the same vibes" that has been bothering me for a while.

In my Germa theory post, sangerie mentioned "what if they used to be good, but is now evil + WG propaganda nonsense made it worse", which is relevant to my crazy thought, so I decided I might as well just let it out.

There... there is actually someone like that in Japanese history and pop culture. A very famous someone who even little 4 year old kids (in Japan) would know who that is.

As in. In his lifetime this person was maybe not as bad (I'm no historian so I'm in no position to say), but over time he gained terrible reputation and decades of fiction just outright turned him into a demon.

His name is Oda Nobunaga.

(different kanji from Oda-sensei's name, but I wouldn't be surprised if he feels conscious about the name sounding the same even with the different kanji spelling)

Nobunaga is evil/demonic in anime and games like Sengoku Basara and a ton of other media (movies, novels, other manga and anime, etc) too numerous to name. Sometimes literally not human at all, not just him using evil demon powers ("demon powers").

He was called Dairokuten Maou, or translated as "demon king of the sixth heaven" (hey look, number 6!!!!!), and this name stuck so strongly to the point that if you try to search just what is a Dairokuten Maou in Japanese you will just get pictures of Nobunaga all over.

But that's all just fiction. Not necessarily done out of malice, but maybe the original creators just thought "wouldn't it be cool if I do this", but the audience didn't know that and thought the fiction embellishments are real.

The true historical accounts supposedly says that he was, in history, someone who wanted to "conquer" the nation for the sake of bringing peace to the war torn nation (the Warring States/Sengoku period). His methods were extreme, even cruel, but the goal is "noble".

The story just gets distorted over time because of poor transmission of accounts, propaganda and fiction. Only recently do all these random ancient ancestral documents with more trustworthy accounts start popping up because now even the general public are helping to look out for them.

Again, I don't say Germa is consciously designed based on this, but gah, this is just driving me insane.

The reason why I started having this wild thought was that Judge's birthday is the date celebrated in Japan as "Nobunaga's birthday". Supposedly this came from a fan submission, but this is the one that sensei greenlit. Surely there must be others he could've picked? I just keep thinking, is someone just trying to be funny here or is this really purely coincidence?

Other vaguely thematic similarity is that Nobunaga's army was famous (in pop culture) for being the only professional soldiers of the time, when his rivals regularly have to conscript peasants for the wars (probably not actually historically true).

It's also (very erroneously) commonly thought that Nobunaga was more advanced-minded than his rivals, the first to utilise guns in mass scale in wars (this is also not true, but that's what a lot of people thought).

Compare this to Germa's advanced science and renowned military forces.

Judge hating Sanji's weakness/uselessness is also somewhat similar to the stories of Nobunaga also detesting worthless vassals. There were stories about how he mercilessly threw out vassals who have served him for decades because he thought they aren't useful anymore.

Like I said the connection is very flimsy, that's why I doubt there's relevance. Just thought I'd still mention it since I'm just throwing everything at the wall and hoping something sticks.

Also, the one vaguely relevant image I might be able to point to. Reiju's butterfly wings is the swallowtail butterfly. A rather iconic symbol related to Oda Nobunaga.

The butterfly could mean other things, though, that's why this is just wild flailing.

#conspiracy theory #germa 66

[max1461]

Ok I'm done with the discourse comparing bestiality to meat eating. No one has anything good to say on this. So just to drop my final takes on the relevant issues:

I think both bestiality and killing animals for food are bad.

I don't think eating meat purchased from the store is that bad, because the effect size is probably very small, but I think it's fairly likely that over a whole lifetime of meat purchases it adds up and so it's probably better not to do it

I do not think hunters are bad people, even purely recreational hunters, although I think the act itself is wrong

I would not ever have sex with a non-human animal

I would kill almost any number of animals and eat them if I had to in order to survive or to provide for my loved ones, but I would feel bad about it

I would not judge someone else for doing the same

I would kill almost any number of people if I had to in order to survive or to provide for my loved ones, but I would feel bad about it

I would be strongly hesitant to judge someone else for doing the same

#society

[mirrorofliterature]

here's an opinion that i don't necessarily entirely agree with but i think it has great points and i'm curious to hear your take on it:

while molly weasley was very far from a perfect mother and made many mistakes, it's as good as a human person can do under the circumstances she grew up and lived in (two wars, losing her brothers and many friends, her husband and kids constantly being in danger, living under constant threat of war, financial status, treatment by other families etc.) and the fandom judges her way too harshly while characters who were much worse parental figures and were plain out horrible and neglectful (especially men) get off the hook very easily

strongly agree | agree | neutral | disagree | strongly disagree

I agree in part - this may surprise some people, because I do not like molly, nor am I her biggest fan - however.

I think it is important to remember, when criticising molly's parenting (as I do frequently) to not forget the pressures she was operating under - trauma, patriarchy and rigid social structure. And people do often treat molly more harshly than other subpar parents - which is why I make sure to criticise arthur as well, as it takes two to tango and whatnot.

The only part I mildly disagree with is 'as good as a human person can do', because I think that molly could have done more by listening to her children. I don't think that molly or arthur are to blame for their family's low socioeconomic status - poverty is a social construct, and whatnot. What I do fault her for her is her misogynistic treatment of other characters, like Fleur and Hermione, and her treatment of Sirius in Grimmauld Place. That was needlessly cruel.

So in short - I'm not naive. I think the key issue is that a lot of people view Molly as a saint, so a lot of people swing heavily back into painting her as the devil - whereas, as a lot of things in HP, the true answer lies somewhere in between. Molly was good intentioned as a parent and was hampered by a lot of things, particularly trauma and money. She loved her children, undeniably. But this provides an explanation for her behaviour - it doesn't excuse it.

I think that other characters should get similar levels of scrutiny - as I do with arthur, but I don't think that necessitates us giving her the excuse of 'oh, it's okay that her children felt conditionally loved because she was traumatised!' [Which I don't think this opinion is suggesting, but something to be careful of]. I understand why molly is the way she is - she grew up in a socially conservative time during a war and lost a lot. But. If I am writing from the perspective of a Weasley child, they are going to have complex feelings about Molly, and Arthur.

So, in short: I agree. I think molly is a deeply flawed mother, shaped largely by her environment, but that does not mean she cannot be held accountable for the hurt she caused. I think the fandom's laser focus on her is at times misogynistic, but it's not particularly unique. Also, not every criticism of a female character is necessarily misogynistic. Molly often takes a lot of flack because she is presented as this paragon of motherhood quite overtly in the books, compared to others - so she's a bigger target than a lot of others.

I like the take, but I personally would veer away from saying she couldn't have done any better. She is a realistic mother: that doesn't mean she couldn't have done better.

#anti molly weasley #hp #q&a #I hope that makes sense? #it's like: I understand molly and she's realistic but #but her treatment of her children was also traumatising in that they couldn't trust that she unconditionally loved them #which - if like me - you headcanon that several of the weasley children were queer #leads to a very strained relationship #and it's all intergenerational trauma! it's a complex interplay of 'factors outside of control' and 'factors inside of control' #I like to study molly as a kind of vehicle for that kind of parenting that quietly fucks someone up #I feel like I should add that my relationship with my mother is fine #and my grandmothers #molly weasley critical

[maryholdenofthevalley]

About Crowley only just realizing his love in Season 2

So, the entire Season 1 we all think Crowley was the one pinning and was the first one to fall in love,and Aziraphale was the slow one, and/or the one who wait for Crowley to pop the question. Season 2 proved my ass wrong so hard. Aziraphale fell first, but Crowley fell so much, much harder.

But something was bugging me. That thing become more obvious when Crowley reacted to Nina's "other people's love lives look so straightforward compare to our own". We know how hard Crowley was head over heel for Aziraphale, but why he looked so genuinely surprised at Nina confirming their relationship?

So I spent a lot of time thinking over and saw 3 theories. I can't choose the real one, because I saw three and all of them are equally real to me. Although I have my favourite, we will talk about that later.

1. Crowley never realize what he feel all those time was love (part of it because he didn't want to taint the pure angel maybe), never realize angel was in love with him, thought what he felt was friendship, what they are was a special friendship, until Nina told him.

2. He always knows he loves Aziraphale but didn't want to taint the angel, and fear that Aziraphale might not love him back, so he keep his mouth shut until Nina told him that he realized Aziraphale might love him back.

3. He always knows he loves Aziraphale and he knows Aziraphale loves him back but (again) he's too afraid to taint Aziraphale and to break the relationship (it's not like the current relationship isn't working). But then Nina told him and he realized the potential of them, being together *together*, could come true.

(2.5 & 3.5) He's panicking because now he knows everyone knows. His lying ass was being exposed so he get drunk to forget the embarrassment.

So (1) is denial Crowley and (2) and (3) are lying Crowley. The reason why I like (1) and think Crowley just only realized his feeling are:

+ Compare to Aziraphale, Crowley never look like he actually consider Aziraphale someone equivalent to human's lover. We know his love language is act of service, but he probably thinks that's what he ought to do for his good friend. Some people can say it's because he hide his emorion well, but doesn't he look like the type of living in the present and won't hide what he thinking?

(I need to clarify myself again, that I didn't mean that Crowley never thought of Aziraphale that way, he just didn't know the love he felt toward Aziraphale was that *love* kind of special. They're angel and demon, so their concept of human love will be a bit weird.)

+ I strongly believe Crowley is the type to act very fast when he finalize his feeling (he's impulsive, doesn't really bound by Hell rule, he doesn't have the self-discipline thingy like Aziraphale) (judging by how he literally confess 1 day after Nina exposing him, and when he saw Beelzebub off with Gabriel). He wouldn't keep it for 6000 years.

+ Dissecting his reaction in that scene. When Nina asked if they are together together, he didn't flustered or hesitate to deny it, compare to Aziraphale who never deny the claim. He was not coldly denying it, just very sweet because "we're good friends". The thought of them being life partners never cross his mind.

(I'm gonna borrow that tweet when they say the longer the i in hiiii the more in love the girl was. Crowley said more than one no, you get what I'm saying—)

+ "He's too pure to be someone's bit on the side." He didn't sound like he was regret that Aziraphale didn't love him back or that they could have something if he was braver, he just want to defend a pure angel he knows very well. Very protective. He knows Aziraphale more than anyone else.

+ He became a bit emotional when he said "He's just an angel I know", a bit like he was genuine. He was the only angel by his side, but that's it. They're nothing more, not a couple, not a-

"Other people's love lives look so straightforward compare to our own."

Something seeped into his train of thought. His 6000 years of "friendship", to other people, is straightforwardly a lover relationship. Now, he's not the type to care about what other people think. Why is that this one affected him?

He does not care what other people think about him. But this is the first time (that we know of) someone tell Crowley what they have always been doing is what lovers do.

Now, a demon on Earth like him know how wicked a human can be, but not how human love work. He never really understand it, grumpy when Aziraphale kept talking about the feeling of love in the air that he knows nothing about (we both know that the two of them don't actually know how people falling in love, just look at their Operation Lovebird). Even if he did, he didn't think two supernatural beings like them would be like those human puny, short-life love, their relationship is so much more longer (6000 years), deeper (they are enemies yet still together), much more-

He needed time to processing the information. Probably rethinking about all the time they spent together. He got drunk. He poured his frustration on the man that tried to kill his "friend", even though just yesterday they were normal together, because he just realized again how close he was to lose the one he care so much about.

(Very unpopular opinion ahead)

Even at this point, I don't think Crowley even come to the conclusion that he loves Aziraphale in that way. Or even if Aziraphale loves him back. He looked too calm, too busy thinking about other things, get irritated at Nina shot him The Look™ when he called Aziraphale his friend in front of her, dealt with the legion of Hell, went to Heaven to save Aziraphale. It was stressful times.

He was too busy thinking when Gabriel and Beelzebub fell in love and went away, when Michael said she would delete Aziraphale, when Metatron dragged Aziraphale out. He didn't get to that point even when he told Muriel they are gonna have an us time at the Ritz. No, no, he didn't. If he was going to confess at the Ritz like people said, at the best place they should have their confession, then Maggie and Nina was not enough of a reason for him to speed up his plan (like I said, he's not the type to care what people think about him, he only listen when they were right.)

He was tidying up the bookshop. To how they used to be. Always was. But something wasn't right. He pushed the chair again in frustration. Still not it.

Then the Ineffable Shopkeepers came and told him they never *talk* to each other. He found what was irritated him. Just like how Aziraphale told him to talk to Jim, now it's time they really talk to each other. Because he saw the two human in front of him, and finally finalized his feeling that was the same as theirs. That they can be happy just as those humans be.

He was prepare to just lay out his heart, just like that. And Aziraphale cut him off.

So yes. In the mist of the desperate (result of Aziraphale's Poor Life Choice™ & Religious Trauma™) confession, Crowley fully realized, what he wanted was like Beelzebub and Gabriel, like Maggie and Nina. Like lovers. Like love.

(I might not be the best one at interpret movie scenes and tones, so I stand corrected. That's my current point of view of the whole thing, though.)

#good omens 2 #good omens #good omens 2 spoilers #crowley good omens #ineffable husbands #good omens season 2 #good omens season 2 episode 5 #good omens season 2 episode 6

[obsessivelollipoplalala]

hey, how do you know that? "One of Brian’s main traits is that he defends people he likes to the death and that won’t change. He’s been that way his entire life. He’s loyal to a fault and is pretty gullible in a lot of ways, honestly." Not being mean I just wanted some examples??

Lol it's simply something I've observed over the years. There are examples I can name off the top of my head, such as him excusing Freddie being outright rude to fans with "oh but he had to rest his throat, you see <3 that's why he told them to fuck off <3 Freddie threw away a whole box of gifts from Japanese fans because he doesn't like clutter in his life <3" (side note: compare that action to the current drama lmao). Honestly, that is so, so simpy, it's hilarious. I don't have the links to the interviews where he's said this handy (I'm pretty sure he's talked about it more than once), but let's be real: Freddie was rude a lot! But Brian swoops in like "b-b-but he was actually focused on recording!!!"

I can't find it right now, but there was a time back in Brian's twitter days when he publicly snapped at someone for insulting Anita's singing, and then apologized (I think he initially called the person a "bitchy little worm" lol). Anita was on this competition show in 2011, Strictly Come Dancing, and she was actually worried that Brian would get big mad and intervene if the judges got too harsh on her:

Now, vehemently defending his wife and Freddie are to be expected, and unsurprisingly, this extends to Queen. Brian is very defensive of the band and their work, and anything closely associated with it; that's why I think he's defended the film so much, because the project meant a lot to him and he thought it was a net good for Queen and Freddie, so he wasn't interested in accepting much criticism of the film and defended it publicly on more than one occasion.

He's shown this behavior towards other people he likes yet doesn't know as well, especially colleagues in the industry or, more recently, scientific colleagues like Walt Cunningham, who just died and got a nice little tribute post by Brian despite being a jackass climate change denier (and Brian very obviously feels strongly about climate change, so for him to like the man despite his flat-out wrong view on something Brian cares about a lot says something). Back in the movie days, Brian even got into hot water by still following Bryan Singer on instagram and snapping at someone who commented on his profile and told him to unfollow--again, I think this is because Singer was associated with a project that meant a lot to Brian, but to his credit, he actually issued a lengthy public apology that seemed genuine to me, who at the time, was not a fan of Brian lol. This goes to show how this trait is a double-edged sword, because it's sweet when he defends Freddie and Anita, but it's bad when he defends people who shouldn't be defended (although, I do believe him when he says he didn't realize following Singer on social media would be seen as supporting him. People do need to remember we're talking about a senior citizen here).

And so, I think Brian's defensive nature leads him to assume the best of people because he really doesn't want to think people he likes have done wrong or are bad. It's also a mindset he seems to have about people in general; after the 2020 US election, he made a video talking about how shocked he was that so many people still voted for Trump. Brian more or less came to the conclusion that Trump voters must be seeing something different, their news sources must be wrong and leading them astray, and we should create some kind of independent truth council. I could not believe how naïve he was with this post. Like...obviously, even if you could create a totally unbiased source of truth, morons and political conspiracy theorists just wouldn't believe it! Lol. And in general, I think Brian has a difficult time believing that there could really be a large amount of bad people in the world (I think this influenced his political campaign to appeal to people's supposed "common decency" too), but it's like...as someone who has lived in America her whole life and is extremely political invested, I can confidently say that no, Trump voters really are just awful fucking people. They're not led astray, they willingly walk off the cliff because the GOP tells them what they want to hear about women and minorities. I swear, I'm not going on a tangent lol. The point is, Brian wouldn't accept my conclusion here. I think it's genuinely hard for him to accept that there are a lot of people who are simply bad actors in this world, and that's about people in general--apply that to people he actually likes? Yeah. No. You'd have to tell Brian someone committed murder and show him the body before he'd accept that they're bad.

This is also why I think it's incredibly telling that Brian has held ill feelings towards Paul and Barbara for the rest of his life, because he's not a spiteful, angry person who writes people off easily, he actually defends people too much a lot of times, but that's getting off topic lol.

Does this all make sense?

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Hi, Charity! Me again! The girl who wrote you an essay about her life and didn't know about whether she was ENFP or INFP. I went back to analyzing, just like you told me when you answered my question about my Fe tendencies. I think I solved the mystery: I'm an INFP.

Basically, from everything that you've told me and that I've read it's like

ENFP= wants to have experiences first, feels afterwards

INFP= they feel first, then decide if they want to have that experience

Now, I wasn't so sure about how my thought process exactly goes because I sometimes try to get myself out of the comfort zone and force myself to be more open towards things (also, overthinking is an aspect too), but then I put it like this. If someone proposed to me to be part of a charitable project or to volunteer somewhere, I don't think I would immediately jump at the opportunity. First, I'd like to think about it and decide if the cause really resonates with me, if I would like it etc.

Besides, I've also noticed that my first reaction to something is to feel. Sure, I can be open-minded and stuff, but usually if I feel strongly about something, it's very hard to change my mind.

Also, another aspect about all of this is that today my school counselor organized an interactive activity for us. I think that it helped me realize how in touch I am with my inner world. Although I am people-focused as well and sometimes put others' needs ahead of mine, it's still me, my emotions and my inner world that matter the most. I guess it was rather hard for me to admit because I thought it sounded a bit selfish to be most focused on myself and what I feel. But, in the end it's the truth.

Again, I also want to thank you because you helped me lots. I would've never known I was 9w1 and not 2w1 if it weren't for you :) Also, thanks for telling me my instinctual variant in our last interaction. I think so/sp really fits me. As for my trititype, I think 926 is the one. I still identify with a lot from type 2 and for 6, well, I tend to sometimes be anxious and come up bad scenarios in my head about what could go wrong even if it's not true and I know that.

Anyway, the point was thanks for the help and for aiding me during this process of finding myself. Really appreciate it :) 💗💞

It sounds like INFP feels most at home for you, so that's what you should decide. :)

6s are not just going to throw themselves at things without thinking about them, and no Fi would want to get involved in anything that doesn't interest them or touch some deep inner motivation, but it is very true that IFPs tend to shut things down more than EFPs. EFPs discover who they are through engagement, and IFPs already know. This may be a little bit of an extreme example -- but it's only by comparing myself to my IFP friends that I reaffirm how much I am not lead by my Fi. It's secondary and somewhat lost beneath all of my Ne-ish rambling, philosophizing, and instant ability to see both sides to any argument. Viewpoints that are too immediate ("too judging") or too rigid are my biggest pet peeve as a perceiving dominant, because to my Ne brain, it seems like people aren't being open-minded and haven't considered it deeply enough yet. I like to think about and weigh everything and being a 6/Ne, I don't feel grounded in a sense despite being very practical and realistic in some areas (safety first... but my ideas and whims still carry me away as an ENP -- one minute I am super excited about this thing, and the interest just abruptly dies a week or six hours or a month later, and I quit midway through it and go off to other things).

I'm discovering that Enneagram has a huge influence on how the different types act and their individual levels of fluidness or stubbornness, but the types still struggle with the same things. INFPs still struggle not to live in a rut due to tert-Si (they do not like to put themselves out of their comfort zone, and that can often include mentally -- they have to work toward being open-minded on issues that they feel strongly about) and ENFPs still struggle to self-locate without experimentation first (having a "fantasy self" in their head that they assume is the real them, then real life constantly contradicting their little stories about themselves).

I'll just give you an example -- INFP friend doesn't like a certain film. Can "understand" why others like it, but her mind is made up, so she will never change it. I can watch something and hate it, decide to give it another chance, go back a week later and I might love it because of my fickle tendency to easily change my mind/perceptions. This has happened to me many times and it's only rarely that I really truly hate something with my Fi and can't stand the thought of giving it another chance. For me, not giving things a "fair chance" feels like a betrayal of myself (high Ne); for her, not listening to her feelings about them feels like a betrayal of herself (high Fi).

It's less about what you do, and more about why you do it.

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