#learn to live

[the-ephemeral-ethereal]

“Ten Feline Hints on How to Live Well” from Feline Philosophy by John Gray (2020)

1 Never try to persuade human beings to be reasonable 

2 It is foolish to complain that you do not have enough time 

3 Do not look for meaning in your suffering 

4 It is better to be indifferent to others than to feel you have to love them 

5 Forget about pursuing happiness, and you may find it 

6 Life is not a story 

7 Do not fear the dark, for much that is precious is found in the night 

8 Sleep for the joy of sleeping 

9 Beware anyone who offers to make you happy 

10 If you can't learn to live a little more like a cat, return without regret to the human world of diversion 

#feline #felines #cats #feline philosophy #philosophy #john gray #the meaning of life #meaning of life #ten hints #hints #how to live well #live well #living well #live like a cat #like a cat #catlike #cat like #learn to live #learn to live a little #live a little #list of ten

[judgment23]

February 27, 2023

- What a beautiful time to be alive, to learn from mistakes and grow into wonderful people.

#affirm and persist #affirmations #affirmdaily #affirmyourlife #daily affirmations #happiness #positive #positivity #affirmyourself #aesthetic #take care of yourself #love yourselves #learn to let go #learn to love yourself #learn to live #learning #mentalhealthmatters #mental health #mentalheathawareness

[wordsmatter09]

#words of wisdom #learn to live #Codependency #life hacks

[afhzz]

Learn to Let People Go & Grow

Even if it's without us around them

Manusia dan segala kisah hidupnya membuatku selalu sangat menghargai kehadiran mereka satu per satu. Setiap pertemuannya selalu bisa menjadi "ajang" untuk belajar dan mengetahui hal baru tentang mereka dan tentang kehidupan.

Dari situ kusadari, tak ada manusia yang stagnan. Berbagai peristiwa yang Allah izinkan hadir dalam hidupnya, dan segala pilihan yang mereka pilih untuk menghadapinya membuat manusia sedinamis itu menjalani hidup. Tak ada yang sama, meski sedikit atau banyaknya perubahan secara sadar atau tanpa disadari terjadi.

Maka butuh waktu bagiku dalam hal membuka diri dan hati untuk mengenal, menerima, dan memaknai setiap pertemuan dengan jiwa-jiwa yang Allah sayangi ini. Butuh banyak waktu bagiku untuk berbagi kisah yang akhirnya semoga selalu saling mengingatkan untuk kembali ke Allah lagi.

Meski begitu, bukan berarti tak ada kesempatan untuk saling mengenal satu sama lain. Dari durasi yang tidak sebentar itu membuatku paham, bahwa hakikatnya tidak ada satupun manusia yang mampu saling memahami dan mengenal dalam sekejap. Pun artinya tak ada yang mudah meninggalkan, atau melupakan temu yang terjalin cukup lama.

Kehidupan yang membawa kita bertemu atau berpisah dengan manusia, tentu sudah sesuai porsi yang Allah tetapkan untuk masing-masingnya. Bukan berarti jika perpisahan yang menghadirkan jarak, mampu mengubah paham dan sayang yang selama ini dipupuk. Semoga dan semoga, adanya perubahan hidup itu membuat kita saling mendekat dengan Sang Maha Pemilik kehidupan, bukan saling bergantung apalagi melupakan pertemuan dengan mereka si penerima kehidupan.

Allah, Tuhanku yang Maha Pemurah dan Penyayang kumohon kuatkanlah, berkahilah, dan ridhoilah semua makhluk yang selalu mengejar cinta dan kasih-Mu dimanapun mereka berada. Makhluk bernama manusia yang seringkali khilaf dan banyak salahnya, semoga Engkau ridhoi untuk selalu kembali memohon ampun dan taubat pada-Mu.

Allah, kutahu penjagaanku sebagai manusia tak akan sempurna, tak abadi, dan selamanya, sedangkan penjagaan-Mu meliputi seluruh langit bumi dan isinya, melampaui waktu dan durasi hidup manusia. YaaRabb, maka tolong jagalah orang-orang yang kusayangi sepenuh hati. Bukalah dan luaskanlah hatinya untuk menerima dan memahami cinta dan kasih-Mu yang tak pernah ada batasnya.

#allahisthemostmerciful #let it go #let people live #learn to live

[finleycannotdraw]

I like to think combat training for these two became more complicated as they got older, if you know what I mean

I colored the last one first and then lowered my standards. give it up for 10yo ambrosius and his glaringly yellow shirt

#also I realized while drawing this that I’ve been making his hair longer than it is in the movie #oh well #nimona #nimona 2023 #nimona movie #ballister boldheart #ambrosius goldenloin #ballister x ambrosius #goldenheart #finley cannot draw #I learned that I do not draw children very often #it’s FINEEEEE #anyway. I live for content of the boys in their institute era. mutual pining. sappiness. never being able to tell anyone. #increasingly charged sparring practice #YOU GET IT

[journeying-with-j]

A 26 year old’s guide to adulting: Discovering life’s path

#life #lifestyle #adulting #adulthood #challenges #experience #blog #blogger #aesthetic #learn to live #love yourself

[mspi]

Tried retail sales

Nevermind that I should've gone working with Cisco networks to begin with, I ended up in an electronics store where I was asked to sell kitchen appliances. It didn't work out for me. At least I can say I've given doing sales a number of tries.

Nothing personal to the salespeople out there. Some old colleagues continued on in sales and marketing making a fulfilling career from it.

Ohh I'm remembering what threw me off. Keeping my family in mind. Thought I'd be able to respond to Cal Poly when I went down to Southern California for a few months to look around and spend time with my siblings. Then I got word our dad wasn't doing well and was being taken advantage of.

There we go, I headed up North and it turned out that my room was being rented out. No prob, dad left me with the living room couch and dining room for my couch and lab. What am I saying? No prob my @$$!

I returned to help dad out. If he wanted more money, my room downstairs would've been a blessing. Storing my clothes in Tupperware containers under the couch isn't the best setup for me if I was going to hollar out to my Cisco contacts for possible positions.

Everything happens for a reason. At least I went back to college,

-- dnagirl

14.11.2023

#mspi #dnagirl #dnagirl.com #nerd #geek #retail workers #starving college student #college woes #college work #learn to live

[meliake]

rewatching Avatar is so weird because Sokka is literally the only thing keeping them alive and fed. He constantly is like,

'guys we're out of supplies/ we need to stop/ we're attracting too much attention with the flying bison we should walk' etc.

Like in the ´The Storm' when they're completely out of money and supplies the one to get a job in hopes of making money (he never actually gets paid, the world hates him) is Sokka.

In 'The Waterbending Scroll,' it's Sokka who's concerned about their lack of supplies when Aang sends them in a wave down the river, and is making sure they're careful with their spendibg when in town shopping.

He's also seen to catch fish and gather nuts (I know more often than not he fails to catch things on screen but it's implied he's the one that does most of the hunting and gathering)

It's like- Aang totally would have starved to death or gotten completely off track with often they're completely out of food and money

#atla #avatar the last airbender #sokka #Katara #Aang #He's such an older brother #in the waterbeding scroll when he asks Katara when shes learned #like aughhhh #I also live for him and the Kyoshi warriors #totally love him and Suki

[lesbianjudasiscariot]

I've Endured, Now What?

Blue Iris - Mary Oliver / So This Is All I Will Ever Be? - Fatima Aamer Bilal / Vive, Vive - Traci Brimhall

#mine #web weaving #i was so busy surviving i never learned how to live #blue iris #mary oliver #so this is all i will ever be #fatima aamer bilal #vive vive #traci brimhall #text #literature #poem #poetry #♡

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[bright-thehawksflight]

You know at first I didn't believe it when fiber artists on tumblr would tell me to be wary of the fiber art slippery slope. And yet. I hear the siren call of the spindle. Fellow crafters help me resist. Tie me to the fucking mast. Please.

#fiber arts #crafts #craftblr #yarnblr #knitting #spinning #drop spindle #i can't start learning how to spin now i just can't #please i still live with my parents i have no storage space #it is the need for new stimuli #my enclosure is small but i yearn for enrichment #lisa says the things

[judgment23]

February 1, 2023

- I am in charge of how I feel and how I react.

#affirm and persist #affirmations #affirmdaily #affirmyourlife #daily affirmations #happiness #positive #positivity #affirmyourself #aesthetic #mentalheathawareness #mental health matters #take care of yourself #healingjourney #self healing #healing #learn to live #learn to love yourself #learn to let go

[wombywoo]

retired 🩶

#call of duty #cod #simon ghost riley #john soap mactavish #soapghost #my art #listen this took me like two weeks so y'all better appreciate 🤌 #johnny is the super active DIY father of the family #simon has made his way through all of the miss marple mysteries and has now set his sights on naval fiction #also growing his fringe out to hide the early onset baldness #johnny has gorgeous hair but we knew that #the dogs are called roger and wee albert--guess which is which #yes they all sleep in the same bed~ #I guess I just need to see these two old and cranky and alive for whatever reason... #let them both burn in hell after a few good decades learning how to live beyond just surviving #god they probably make a banger pot roast....

[nedlittle]

genuinely i think it's important for adults, especially in the plague times, to play pretend in our day-to-day lives. when i rub my back down with tiger balm so i can sleep without pain, i imagine i am a valiant knight tending to an old injury i received from a dragon. when i go to the store to pick up eggs and milk, i am a lone cowboy riding into town on a mission. when i turn my collar up against the wind i am a femme fatale who's killed 4 husbands and is scoping out a 5th. when i stomp around in the snow i am a doomed polar explorer. if being a little bit silly about my walk to the pharmacy helps me remember that life can be full of joy and whimsy, then so be it.

#this is a pointless text post #my most embarrassing version of this is that whenever it was foggy at the lighthouse i imagined i was emily bronte #or that i was taking a walk in the fog with my good friend emily bronte :^) #so much of this is also tied into the fact that my body hurts all the goddamn time #i am trying to make my pain something i can live with #is this gonna be how i learn that normal people don't daydream about being In The Past #anyway do u guys imagine these sort of scenarios too or am i just a freak #greatest (s)hits

[justshipsandstuff]

Post canon spoilers!

Lately I’ve really enjoyed drawing Mithrun just living life and interacting with other people

#I think it’d be nice to see him gradually becoming more active in other people’s lives #especially Patty and Kabru #HC Mithrun invites Pattadol and Kabru over for food whenever he learns to cook something new #I really want the canaries gang back for shits and giggles #let’s assume the elf Queen is down for some fun drama in Melini #dungeon meshi #kabumisu #mithrun #kabru #delicious in dungeon #senshi #pattadol #marcille donato #touden siblings #my art

[alohadvn808]

nothing really...

just wanted to write some random thoughts really. nothing crazy happening. been working out lately. trying to come up with another normal-ish routine on my daily life. I have been on my heaviest in terms of wait and I'm not really feeling that great about myself lately. I think I have been stuck being comfortable where I was and i want to make sure that im a point in my life where I can say im healthier in many different aspects. mentally have been kinda stable? not sure what that really entails, but I don't think I have been on a very depressed typa situation. I don't know. I guess im just at a point where things are starting to feel normal and that things that happen in life are not in anyones control. my emotions has been on a somewhat decent stage. I have not have many super emotional days like before. I think that I have had my mental health in a some what controlled state. im really just needing to let a few things out of my head. I feel like even when I vocalize it or talk to myself, not that that's even normal but, as much as I can, I try to get it out of my head. I feel like it has been a little bit of a journey here and there but not to a point where I need to seek help from medical professionals. I feel like I have been in control. im not sure if it's because I have been making myself think about the good side of things and not make a big deal out of the little things. okay, sure I may have some petty arguments with my partner but I think that's what makes out relationship a little more interesting lol ( that sounds fucked up, but let me be okay?) anyway, I have been struggling with dealing with stress form work and life. I haven't been able to balance having time to myself because I basically waste my time taking a nap when I could be a little bit more productive in my day so m trying hard to make things better. the past few days I have been doing things I would never do. like organizing the shoes at the front door and fixing the charger that my dog chewed on and make it work again. been able to clean up some mess in my room, although my desk space is a mess again and the shelf thing I have is just another disaster, I think I will get to it soon. most likely this coming weekend. im trying to have some time to myself again and basically know when to take a break and just say no to doing things I don't want to do. I have been pretty vocal when it comes to my needs and wants in my relationship with Jai as well. sometimes in turns into a petty argument but it has to happen. not every relationship is going to be where you want it to be and no relationship is perfect, but im trying my best to just communicate and say what I want to say and be honest. I think I have learn a few things from my past relationships and im learning to expect more from my partner and not be the only one that has to put in the effort. although, at times I feel like its still happening, but I try to just counter with taking more of my me time. I think that writing down my thoughts are gonna help with having to overload my brain and not make me go crazy again like before. im just happy that I have come a long way from what I used to be to what I am now. I guess I don't realize that I have been through some tough shit and I don't give myself enough credit when it comes to knowing I have come so far from where I was before. I guess I need to remind myself more often that I have survived a few hurdles in my life and that im still here, living and breathing and actually living and not just breathing. im excited for many more adventures im going to face and to learn more from what comes next. 

I guess goodnight for now, and I'll see you again when I have more thoughts id like to let go. :P

#self love #learning #loving yourself #learn to live #learn to breathe