#monosexism tw | Explore Tumblr Posts and Blogs

oh-my-im-ply · 2 months

Text

This is another post which isn't completely ply focused, but I want to take a second to point out the overlap between people who are transmisic and people who exclude/invalidate mspec lesbians.

Last week, I made a post where I mentioned being a polysexual lesbian, and I made a few mspec lesbian pride flags. Yesterday, someone asked if I was polysexual or a lesbian.

On this blog, we have rules for interaction, as well as rules for mods to follow. At the very top, we have a rule against exclusion and invalidation towards good faith identities, and a rule against bigotry and dogwhistles. However, we will answer questions when they may have been asked in good faith.

So, I answered with this:

Both. I'm attracted to many genders, but not binary men, so I find that polysexual and lesbian both describe my orientation well. Other people may identify as a polysexual lesbian for other reasons.

After I answered, the mask came off, and they started being transmisogynistic and nonbinary-exclusionary, and weaponized the existence of bimisia against me. I deleted their comments and blocked them last night, so I can't copy what they said word for word, but I will repeat their key notes under the cut.

CW: bi erasure, exorsexism/nonbinary-erasure, transmisogyny, mentions of genitalia

"This is what people mean when they talk about bi erasure. You're erasing bi people."

This is a complete misunderstanding of what bi erasure even means. Bi erasure is when you ignore (the existence of) bi people, or outright deny their existence. These are some examples of bi erasure:

Erasing or ignoring bi history.

Saying that bi people need to just "pick a side."

Saying that bi people are secretly straight/secretly gay.

Saying that bi is just "a transitional orientation" or "a phase."

Redefining the broad definition of bisexuality without the consent of the bi community, especially with the intent of telling people that they "aren't really bisexual" or replacing the bi label.

Saying that "everyone is a little bit bisexual," especially with the intent of erasing bisexuality as a distinct category. This can also be a form of erasure against people who aren't bisexual.

Note that "identifying as something other than bi" is not a form of bi erasure, even if you might "technically" fit the definition... Because that is a matter of personal identity.

But do you know what is a form of bi erasure? Erasing bi history. Mspec lesbians (particularly bi lesbians), have existed for decades. It is not a new identity, and bi women and enbies have a right to identify their attractions to women as lesbian attraction if they wish to. The exclusion of bi people from the lesbian label began as a form of bi erasure. It happened because of separatism and political lesbianism, and an idea that attraction to men "tainted" people, or was a "betrayal" to feminism. It happened because of bimisia.

The word "lesbian" has served as an umbrella term synonymous to "sapphic" for over half a century. You want sources? Here you go.

Miller, Trish. Lavender Woman, Vol. 2, No. 5. Lavender Woman Magazine, 1973. "What is a lesbian? To me, a lesbian is a woman-oriented woman; bisexuals can be lesbians. A lesbian does not have to be exclusively woman-oriented, she does not have to prove herself in bed, she does not have to hate men, she does not have to be sexually active at all times, she does not have to be a radical feminist." Ferguson, Ann. Patriarchy, Sexual Identity, and the Sexual Revolution. Signs: Journal of Women in Culture and Society, 1981. "Lesbian is a woman who has sexual and erotic-emotional ties primarily with women or who sees herself as centrally involved with a community of self-identified lesbians whose sexual and erotic-emotional ties are primarily with women; and who is herself a self-identified lesbian."....."[My definition] defines both bisexual and celibate women as lesbians as long as they identify themselves as such and have their primary emotional identification with a community of self-defined lesbians." Kafele, Dajenya Shoshanna (1991). Bisexual Lesbian. Archived from the original on July 25, 2022. Queen, Carol A.. Strangers at Home: Bisexuals in the queer movement,. 1992. "A great many bisexual women, particularly those who are feminist and lesbian-identified, have felt both personally and politically rejected and judged by the separatist sisters." Kafele, Dajenya Shoshanna. "Which Part of Me Deserves to Be Free?". Bisexual Politics: Theories, Queries, & Visions. New York : Haworth Press, 1995. ISBN 9781560249504. "Personally, I am unable to separate out the various ways that I am oppressed (as a woman, as an African American, as a bisexual lesbian, as an impoverished single mother) and say that one oppression is worse than the other, or that I desire one form of liberation more than another." Wyeth, Amy. "Don't Assume Anything". Bi Women: The Newsletter of the Boston Bisexual Women's Network. Vol. 5, No. 2, 1995. "Unfortunately, many of my experiences as a lesbian-identified bisexual woman have said to me that having an appearance or demeanor that diverges from the expected means I will not be accepted as truly belonging in the lesbian community. Despite my attendance at gay pride parades, dollars spent at gay resorts and in support of gay causes, and numerous attempts to participate in gay and/or lesbian groups and volunteer events, I have often felt unaccepted by this community." Holleb, Morgan Lev Edward. The A-Z of Gender and Sexuality. Jessica Kingsley Publishers, 2019. ISBN 9781784506636. "LESBIAN — A woman who is sexually or romantically attracted to women. Lesbian can mean women who are attracted exclusively to other women, but it is also a broader term for women and femmes who are attracted to other women and femmes. This includes bisexual and pansexual women, asexual women who are romantically attracted to women, and non-binary people who identify with womanhood." Lesbian. The Trans Language Primer. Archived from the original on October 22, 2021.

Does this mean bi people have to identify as lesbians, or "aren't actually" bi, or can't just identify as bi? Obviously not, and I never said that was the case. That would be bi erasure, because that's policing bi people's identities and forcing them under labels that they may not want to be included under. But in the circumstance that a bi person also identifies as a lesbian, they have every right to do so. Bi-inclusive definitions of lesbianism have existed for at least 51 years, and still exist today.

"Attraction to men, binary or not, means you're not a lesbian."

See above for why the lesbian identity is not always dependent on a lack of attraction to men, binary or not. But lets focus on the nonbinary part specifically:

Nonbinary people can people included in lesbianism and lesbian attraction if they want to be. Yes, that includes all nonbinary genders. Even if attraction to men inherently disqualified a person from lesbianism, nonbinary genders cannot be confined to binary gender rules (even when they're aligned with binary genders) because they're nonbinary. Treating nonbinary genders like they're "functionally the same as binary genders" is a form of nonbinary erasure, regardless of gender alignment.

Whether nonbinary people are included in lesbianism or not is entirely up to each individual nonbinary person regarding their own identity. It is not dependent on the gender label used; it is dependent on how each nonbinary person feels about it on an individual level.

The implication that manhood inherently dominates and erases the rest of a person's identity is also troubling. If you accept that nonbinary people can be included in lesbianism, you must also accept that nonbinary men can be included in lesbianism. A nonbinary man is still nonbinary; their manhood doesn't erase that.

As a pangender lesbian, I've had to deal with the experience of people not only erasing my enbyhood, but my womanhood as well, because they think my manhood is the only relevant aspect of my identity. This is misogynistic and exorsexist, plain and simple, and people use this misogyny/exorsexism to tell me that I'm not a lesbian.

With all of that said, nonbinary people (of any gender alignment) are not always comfortable being included in lesbianism. This is why I describe myself as both polysexual and a lesbian; the polysexual part of my orientation acknowledges that my attraction to enbies can't always be described with my more binary-aligned labels.

And funnily enough, while some people tell me that I can't be a lesbian and can only be polysexual, other people tell me the opposite. So clearly, there isn't a consensus on which label is "correct" for me.

"If it has a dick, you can't be a lesbian."

This is just blatant mask off transmisogyny, and it's the main reason I blocked them. Do I even need to explain what's wrong with this? Even under a strictly monosexual definition of lesbianism, this statement is just false. Being attracted to people with penises does not equal being attracted to men. If a lesbian is exclusively attracted to women, including women with penises, that lesbian is attracted to only one gender and is not bisexual or mspec.

Any gender can have a dick. Lesbians can have dicks. Women can have dicks. The presence of a penis or lack thereof is not a defining trait of lesbianism, nor monosexuality. And for fuck's sake, maybe don't call your hypothetical trans woman "it"??

"Mspec lesbian" does not mean "lesbian who is attracted to vaginas and penises," and if you think that's what it means, you need to educate yourself. Yes, this includes any people who might identify as an mspec lesbian because of that transmisogynistic definition.

This blog is an inclusive space. If you come in here to spew bigoted or exclusionary nonsense, expect to be blocked. Think before you speak, and please read our rules.

13 notes · View notes

posting-stuffies · 9 months

Text

Original | Exclu comments

Exclus went full circle.

"I'm attracted to one gender" -> "I am bisexual". Lolgic!

241 notes · View notes

queerasf4ck · 9 months

Text

People will be like, "I’m not transphobic; I just think that the terms for different sexualities should be so heavily policed that they exclude nonbinary and multigender people or force them into a new binary 🙂

#news flash you are transphobic #and this very much includes the people who are against the terms mspec lesbian and mspec gay #mspec #mspec lesbian #fuck exclusionists #fuck transphobes #transphobia #exorsexism #monosexism #lgbtqia #nonbinary #tw transphobia #tw exorsexism #tw monosexism #lgbtqplus

234 notes · View notes

queerbauten · 7 years

Text

Arielle Scarcella: *trots out basic biphobic lines*

me, a bi: *waggles fingers menacingly*

#Arielle Scarcella #'it's not my fault that I'm biphobic! it's the bis fault!'#biphobia tw #monosexism tw

6 notes · View notes

butch-bakugo · 4 years

Text

One more cold take then ill shut up but like the sam is only applicable to aro and ace people. Bi lesbians are either lesbians with internalized lesbophobia or bi women with internalized biphobia. That label is unhealthy and not only hurts bi women but also lesbians. It reinforces the idea that lesbians are available for men and WE ARENT. We litterally have terms like corrective rape to describe the rape men do to lesbians to " straighten us out"!!

Please stop enforcing violence against lesbians and stop encouraging lesbophobia, internalized or nah. We dont have " monosexual" privilage, lesbians arent privilaged because we are lesbians, fucking hell.

Terfs dni, this is a safe space for trans women, especially trans lesbians.

#bi lesbian #pan lesbian #the sam #split attraction model #aro #aroace #ace #sam discourse #please stop for the love of god #tw rape in the tags #rape tw #monosexism #??????? tumblr #monosexual priviallge #levi speaks

12 notes · View notes

autismserenity · 5 years

Text

I was just reading an article about a study of Australian bisexuals that said,

"A majority of the sample, 58%, reported either high or very high levels of psychological distress, with histories of anxiety, depression, and eating disorders the most common reported diagnoses. And 67% reported they had been diagnosed with mental illness by professionals. Almost half of the respondents disclosed self-harm or thoughts about suicide within just the last two years. More than one in four (28%) had attempted suicide in their lives and 78% had thought about it."

Every single study that separates out gay and m-spec people, or gay and m-spec and a-spec people, finds that "spec" people have higher rates of these things than even our gay counterparts.

Here, they say 28% of m-spec people have attempted suicide, although 78% had thought about it.

I've been trying to track down any studies that talk more about WHY that's true. Like: do people think it's tied to our higher rates of assault and other kinds of abuse? How much of it is caused, or affected, by our constant erasure? Etc.

The article doesn't really go into detail about what the potential causes are, other than to talk a little about correlations.

But I also got curious about how the rate of m-spec suicide attempts compares to the gay and lesbian rates. Because I know that the rate of attempted suicide for trans people is 40%.

(And for trans people with disabilities, it's 54%. Same for trans people with unsupportive families; if you have a supportive family, it's 37%. If your unsupportive family is violent towards you for being trans, it's 65%. If they kick you out, it's 66%. If a religious or mental health professional tries to stop you from being trans, which is what the umbrella term of "conversion therapy" refers to, it's 58%.

Actually, I guess that gives us a great starting point for looking at "causes and conditions" of m-spec suicide attempts.

But my point was gonna be, I got curious about it because I had thought the trans suicidality rate was WAY higher than the "GLB" rate, and this means the m-spec rate is way closer to it than I had expected.

And it's really common, ime, to cite suicidality rates to illustrate how oppressed a group is, and try to get people to become allies.

But... I never see people do that specifically for m-spec and a-spec people.

So I was trying to see if the same is true for the gay and lesbian communities, and I stumbled across this interesting study.

"Social stress theories lead us to expect that compared with socially advantaged groups, disadvantaged groups are at a higher risk for mental disorders.

"We thus hypothesized

"(1) that Black and Latino lesbians, gay men, and bisexual individuals have more mental disorders than do White lesbians, gay men, and bisexual individuals because they are exposed to more stress related to prejudice and discrimination associated with their race/ethnicity;

"(2) that bisexual persons have more mental disorders than do gay men or lesbians because they are exposed to more stress related to their experience of stigma in both gay and heterosexual communities; and

"(3) that younger individuals have fewer disorders than do older individuals because younger individuals came out in a less prejudicial social environment....

"We assessed the prevalence of psychiatric disorders in 388 lesbian, gay, and bisexual Black, Latino, and White individuals.

"Black lesbians, gay men, and bisexual individuals had lower prevalence of all disorders than did Latino and White individuals; younger cohorts had fewer mood disorders than did older cohorts [imho that's probably at least partly because they've had less time to get information or diagnoses]; bisexual persons had more substance use disorders than did gay men and lesbians; and Latino respondents attempted suicide more often than did White respondents....

"One plausible hypothesis is that a higher risk for suicide among lesbians, gay men, and bisexual individuals who are racial/ethnic minorities follows major stressful events, such as assault, abuse, or homelessness, rather than depressive or substance use disorders." [Or as well as depressive and substance use disorders.]

I'm especially interested in that part because our rates of poverty and homelessness are fucking terrible, as well as assault.

There's an m-spec convention locally this fall and I really want to do a presentation on this stuff. I think we should be armed with statistics on what our communities experience. So... don't be surprised if I post a lot more of this stuff!

Omg, I just went to grab the link to the convention, and I saw that they include a-specs!

"A conference and party for anyone attracted to more - or fewer - than a single gender.

October 12, 2019, San Francisco, California"

😍🤩🥰

#suicidality tw #heteronormativity and allosexism and monosexism and amatonormativity stem from perisexism #actuallyace #actuallytrans #bi tumblr #wall of words

15 notes · View notes

hazel2468 · 6 years

Text

“A woman sucking a dick is straight” is something someone just said on a post of mine and there is a LOT of garbage to unpack but let’s burn the whole suitcase.

Anyway, to reiterate my point- TERFs are garbage, me and my “twans gf” will continue to be both in love and girlfriends, and you are a disgusting excuse for a human being. TERFs love to scream about lesbiphobia and homophobia until they are busy harassing wlw for not being exactly what they (and funnily enough, what a lot of homophobes in cis/straight/allo society) expect us to be.

Wlw with trans partners are valid, and if you don’t like that, maybe you should do what they taught you in kindergarten and keep your mouth shut if you haven’t got something nice to say.

#fuck terfs #apparently I am a lesbian appropriating bisexual #which is funny cuz i never claimed to be a lesbian #im not even going to touch the monosexism #and the overall queerphobia in that statement #we already know terfs hate women who don’t do what they think women should be doing #tw transphobia

10 notes · View notes

fantabulisticity · 5 years

Text

So I was in the car with my Straight(TM) mom

I was talking to her about how gay my apartment is, how when you walk in the door it is immediately apparent that two really queer gays live here. I mentioned our Rainbow Shrine, and how it'll look even gayer when we finally hang up our "Bitter Butch Bungalow" banner.

And my mom was like, "...your what?" So I explained that my roommate and I are both bitter and Butch, so we inhabit The Bitter Butch Bungalow. I'm proud of that name, by the way -- I celebrate it and I think it's clever. And I celebrate being Butch and having strong political views ("People deserve to have their basic needs met; and also, don't be a fucking asshole"). But my mom thinks being a hardened queer is a bad thing, so even though it was clear what I meant (a light-hearted inside joke), she acted like I'd been insulting myself.

She said, "Well, to me you'll always be my Sarah."

And I was like.... You did not just say that? You did not just pull the I Don't Think of You That Way microaggression? So I said, "what?" And she goes,

"You'll always be my Sarah, no matter what little identities you choose, you'll always be my Sarah."

So I explained to her that Butch isn't a bad thing, that I've always been Not Classicly Feminine, and she agreed with me that I've always been like this, even as a little girl. But then she doubled down and said, "You'll always be Sarah to me."

Like, I see what you're doing. You don't like Political Anarchist Butch Dykes, and you aren't willing to give that up, so you're invalidating who I am as a person and the words I use to describe my innate AND chosen qualities rather than accept me as a Political Anarchist Butch Dyke. You're separating me from that "other" that you dislike, that makes you uncomfortable (because we Political Anarchist Butch Dykes, unlike your upper-middle-class white Straight friends, call you out on your bullshit when you're being an utter asshole, and we expect you to learn from your mistakes and be better).

In addition, she sees me as an extension of herself more than as a separate person with my own, separate, and DIFFERENT moral compass, desires, and needs. And she HATES the idea of being attached to someone whose existence in this society is seen as inherently political, who tries to make an actual difference instead of just neo-liberal or centrist posturing, who calls her out on her bullshit when she's being an asshole, who rejects a lot of harmful norms that she feels super comfy with, etc.

And frankly, it's fucking bullshit.

Fuck you and your Straights.

I am a tall, fat, short-haired, tattooed and pierced, clumsy, funny, compassionate, geeky, Bitter Butch Dyke who likes to sing, catch bugs, play Pokémon GO, eat carbs, have interesting (and sometimes non-vanilla *gasp*) sex with people of any gender or no gender, go to political events, talk about human rights, and Learn and Do Better.

FUCK your bullshit. You don't own me. You don't get to decide who I am for me, deciding to ignore obvious hard facts. You don't get to decide which issues I support, which cultural norms I reject, which labels I publicly identify with.

Fuck all the way off.

I am out and proud.

I am a Bitter Butch. 🖕

#i'm learning not to idealize my mom anymore because she is not ideal -- she's actually a jerk a lot of the time #personal #homophobia #heterosexism #heteronormativity #biphobia #panphobia #monosexism #queerphobia #sex tw #the straights are at it again

1 note · View note

w-k-smith · 3 years

Text

Y’all. Y’all. They could’ve made Loki and Sylvie different people fulfilling the same role in reality. Like how in Into the Spiderverse Gwen Stacy and Miles Morales are both Spider-man/woman but they aren’t the same person.

I was hoping, even assuming they were going to do that because Sylvie Lushton is a human Okie (Loki Okie? Must remember to investigate further) in the comics.

And y’all. If they’d done that. I would have been so into Loki/Sylvie as a romantic dynamic.

But why did they have to go the incest route my God why why why why.

I really wish they hadn’t done this.

I think this has a lot of storytelling potential for productive examination of Loki as a person but I wish they hadn’t done this.

The show isn’t romanticizing the dynamic or saying this would be a healthy relationship (just the opposite), I wouldn’t even really say the show has done something “wrong,” per se, but it’s a big ol’ thunderstorm on my Loki parade.

BUT ALSO. Loki/Sylvie is disgusting, but not a “straight”/”het”/“cishet” ship, neither of them is cishet, relationships don’t have orientations, do not put this monosexist nonsense on my dash when I’m already ticked off PLEASE.

#loki #loki spoilers #sylvie #tw: incest #monosexism

0 notes

enby-axels · 3 years

Text

happy pride to all mspecs, and friendly reminder that we are allowed to center our oppression and analyze/aim to dismantle monosexism. the systemic oppression of mspecs is a material reality (see: "bisexual invisibility: impacts and recognition"), and denial of its existence only makes the fight for queer liberation that much more limited. analysis of cisheterosexism is incomplete if it does not factor in monosexism. attempts to liberate mspecs are inherently flawed if they do not take into account our community's experiences. we are here, we are queer enough by virtue of being mspec, and we deserve to care about ourselves.

(tw: if you want to read the report, be warned there is discussion of sexual violence, suicidality, ableism, and, of course, erasure/exclusionism)

DNI: monosexism deniers

#monosexism #queer liberation #intersectionality #biphobia #panphobia #polyphobia #omniphobia #mspec solidarity #pro mspec #pro pan #pro poly #pro omni #queer solidarity #pride #pride month #happy pride 🌈

32 notes · View notes

asleepingwindow · 7 years

Text

Ace Discourse Masterpost

Here is a master list of arguments in the ace discourse over the years against the notion that cishet ace/aro people are members of the LGBT community, because they are cis and straight. Furthermore why calling asexuality an oppression (while not denying the existence of prejudice against asexual people and the need for their own community) leads to very homophobic and transphobic understanding of what it means to be LGBT. I have been involved in “the discourse” for over five years, making arguments of my own and promoting others on this blog. But now it is time for me to move on and leave this masterpost as the culmination of this blog’s purpose.

Some of these posts are mine but for the most part this is the product of a lot of other people’s work: their words, their thoughts, their experiences and their research all compiled into one place to help people understand the ace discourse and to track its record of ahistory and blatant homophobia and transphobia. I have made sure to use links on my blog so they don’t get lost in any name changes or deletion, but I do not take any credit for their posts and content. So thank you to everyone who contributed to the discourse, and ultimately this post. I hope this will be great resource for discoursers young and old and help people form their own arguments and to help young LGBT people from falling into the trap of denying their sexuality because of the homophobic and transphobic rhetoric of the Ace Community.

So without further ado, The Ace Discourse Masterpost:

Why Asexuality is Not Oppressed

A comparison of asexuality to racism and why it does not meet the definition of systemic oppression

A Debunking of the study often cited as proof of Asexual Oppression and Acephobia

Another response to the oft cited study.

And denying oppression is not proof it exists

Oppression is systematic, not individual

Asexuality does not need to be oppressed to still be valid

Gatekeeping

The LGBT community was created to combat transphobia and homophobia

Gatekeeping doesn’t mean what you think it does

“The LGBT Community is meant to be inclusive!!”

Safe Spaces are meant to be exclusive

And thus excluding cishet aces protects LGBT people

On Oppression Olympics

If not LGBT, where do asexual people belong?

On the assumption that some LGBT people live happy homophobia free lives and should be called “not queer enough” too.

The emergence of REG, “ Reactionary Exclusionist Gatekeepers”

REG is just another version of using “it’s the same as ___” to gain legitimacy

The Queer Identity

The history of “queer” as a slur and why its not an umbrella term

Insisting “queer” is an umbrella term for abnormal/deviant people is classic homophobia

Queer is also often used to intentionally erase an individuals distinct identity and relation to oppression

Queer can never fully be reclaimed

On queer theory and the true history of the term

A is for Asexual

How AVEN started the A for Asexual, fully aware that it was also being used for allies. (Arguing the origin of A as Ally is pointless now, this post explains it all from the horse’s mouth)

Why trying to use MOGAI instead does not work.

Ableism and The DSM

A thorough argument on why hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD) in the DSM is not proof of oppression against asexuals, and is in fact a homophobic and ableist claim.

More on HSDD and the absurdity of claiming it targets asexual people

More on the history of the slur homosexuality and how it was used to medically torture gay people.

Autistic people are often assumed to be asexual (And are not meant to be ace representation)

A Complete Guide to How the Ace Community has lied about the Pathologization of Asexuality and Fearmongered Young Aces into thinking Anti-Ace Conversion Therapy is a Thing

Split Attraction Model (Asexuality is not Straight!)

Why the split attraction model is bad and people hate it.

It makes gross assumptions about non-asexual people who do not use the model, and conflates sexual attraction with sexual orientation

Sectioning personal thoughts on sex and using mogai labels are ultimately useless

The -sexual prefix has always meant gender not sex

Attraction cannot be so evenly split into Romantic or Sexual

“You must be cisgender, heteroromantic, and heterosexual to be Straight!”

Also “Homoromantic” is a terrible word

The History of the word Straight

Allosexual & Allosexual Privilege

Why Allosexual is a terrible term

The word makes sweeping assumptions about someone’s private sexual feelings for vast number of people. (tl;dr version)

The person who coined the term now opposes it’s use.

There is no such thing as sexual privilege.

SGA people have a relationship to sex based on our oppression that straight asexual people cannot understand or experience

The failure of liberal analysis of power structures

Refuting the idea that LGBT people don’t face homophobia or transphobia even in more liberal places.

A cringe-worthy comic that assumes “allosexual” people easily know their sexual orientation because sex

Can you all just stop with this shit, really?

Monosexism, allosexuality’s evil cousin, has many of the same issues.

TL;DR Another brief argument against Allosexual

Corrective Rape

The term “corrective rape” has been appropriated from a very specific homophobic hate crime in South Africa to mean any kind of rape that punishes the victim.

The UN updated it’s terminology guidelines to refer to it as homophobic rape to “note the deep-seated homophobia that motivates the hate crime”

Often used as a gotcha argument than concern for rape victims.

Supporting Rape Culture and Pedophilia

Discourse about ace people having sex is often thinly veiled rape culture

Claiming rape is worse for asexual people again, and again, and again, and again, and again

Is the discourse becoming too “inclusive” of pedophiles?

The troubling trend of protecting pedophiles and calling out victims

On Sex In General

How capitalism affects our perceptions of sexual culture

Asexuality is about sex in a way being Gay/Bi is not (And how it relates to explaining sex and sexuality to children)

Aces need to talk about sex too!

Erasure and Visibility

Visibility directly contributes to the violence LGBT people face

Visibility is not always positive and is often stereotyped and not good for LGBT people

Accepted versus Respected

“At least you have representation!”

A History of Ahistory

Arguments that the Spinster Movement was about asexuality cherry picks history

Another post about the Spinster Movement

Assuming Boston Marriages were about asexuality

Asexuality is based on western/eurocentric ideas of sexuality

New terminology lacks historical context of “homosexual”

And is often appropriating language from LGBT people

Even recent history gets rewritten

The Ace Community really needs to just stop.

Pushing LGBT People Back into the Closet

Homophobia wants gay people to be asexual

Ace discourse has promoted sexually regressive and classic homophobic ideas about sex that has prevented LGB people from fully admitting to themselves their same-gender attraction. (Proof)

Ace discourse against same-gender PDA in LGBT safe spaces is classic homophobia

As well as dangerous to our sexual safety!

PDA is not applied to straight and gay people equally

AIDS/HIV and Serophobia in the Ace Community

“We’re Here, We’re Queer” - was created in response to the AIDS Crisis (Source)

Joking about the crisis to complain about gatekeeping

Resenting AIDS activism so much as to imply no young gay man today could possibly be affected by the AIDS crisis

Assuming no one alive during the crisis is speaking now about seraphobia (The AIDS Crisis is Not Over!)

Imagining sexually transmitted plagues that won’t affect asexuals

“Ok but that was like 40 years ago and homosexuality is now widely accepted”

Homophobia in the Ace Community

Will comment on topics of violent homophobia with “at least they know you exist” so they can kill us

Ace tumblr or conservative republican?

Claiming people who hate aces are “Sexually Deviant”

Masterpost of some really terrible homophobic shit

“Gay people are obsessed with sex!” Edition of Ace Homophobia

This entire tag of fucked up shit ace people have said

Please feel free to reblog and add any arguments I may have missed.

Click here for a more rebloggable version with a readmore cut.

1K notes · View notes