#transphobia is not welcome

[caycanteven]

I’m pretty bad at talking when it’s real serious, but I’m gonna try to be direct.

My blog is a safe space.

Transphobes ARE NOT welcome. I’m open minded, but that’s one thing I’m not willing to be open minded about.

As an artist and writer in the UT fandom, I’m extremely supportive of Monsters being genderless and presenting as they choose. Many have already expressed and explained it well enough that I don’t have to, but I wanted to make it clear that it applies to my content.

Treat others the way you wanted to be treated. Be respectful to others and to yourself, but don’t let your values dictate how you treat another human being.

To my fellow LGBTQIA’s, you are welcomed here and supported!

#cw transphobia #cay talks #I’m bad at talking on stuff but I wanted to show my support #I support you #positive vibes #be respectful to other people #kindness is enough. #safe space #transphobia is not welcome #I will block transphobes

[thatheathen]

#transphobes are white supremacists #transphobia #fuck transphobes #fuck fascists #fuck fascism #trans rights #LGBTQ rights #lgbtq #lgbtqia #cisgender heterosexuals #cis #Cisgender #fuck TERF's #terfs are fascists #terfs are racists #TERFs are sexists #TERFs are not welcome #white Supremacy is terrorism #transgender

[boy-gender]

Thank you for posting some positivity finally. When I search 'trans men' all I see is people talking about how evil we are

every time i see one of those posts, i write 3 new posts about how much i love trans man, and i tag them with as many tags as i can physically fit on the post. lets drown that shit out!!!

#youre very welcome btw thats what this blog exists for #trans #trans men #transphobia #transandrophobia #transgender #og #transblr

[silent-scribbs]

I subscribe to lonely Wally

SHIT I SHOULDA DRAWN 👁️s-

I think I like Wally due to the sad 🤔 Like- Relating to the POTENTIAL isolation and mental health and existential dread 💜🧡💚 (thank you content warnings from Clown's site for what we can potentially expect lol)

#my art #art #sketch #fanart #traditional art #welcome home puppet show #welcome home arg #welcome home wally #wh wally #wally darling #welcome home fanart #welcome home #traditional drawing #traditional artist #traditional sketch #i think about how his eyes are kinda tired in the whereami.gif #honestly my fav secret page sorry not sorry #there's also the queer themes thing and ppl theorize is gonna deal with affects of homo/transphobia stuff #I think that with basically all the characters being LGBTQ+ to some extent it's not that tho. or atleast I hope #Plus the puppet gore #I am absolutely constantly looking at the from me to you page and assuming that it's not TOO outdated itself be) #(even if much of the art or concepts might be)

[lover-of-skellies]

I have a sibling who's questioning their gender and may be a demi boy (maybe? I don't quite grasp demi genders yet, but I'm trying). They want to experiment with that and work up the confidence to tell our mom eventually, but our mom is.... not exactly very open to gender discussions

She acts like trans people are weirdos, and she's in the group of people who think they/them and neo pronouns are stupid, and. While I don't think she'd throw out my sibling or do anything super extreme like that, I can only do so much to be supportive here

I listen to my sibling, I let them talk about their gender stuff, and I ask questions and give feedback when they ask for it. There's a lot I don't get yet, but again, I'm trying ^^" does anyone have advice here, regarding any part of the situation? There's nothing that can be done as far as our mom goes, but my sibling and I are open to advice and encouragement and things

#not skeleton stuff #rambles #tw slight transphobia #i guess?? #idk man #tw gender phobia #gender talk #idk how to tag this #if anyone wants me to tag this as something specific i will #just let me know #advice welcome

[clown-college-honor-roll]

Hey guys, I don't want to cause any sense of alarm but I want the TF2 transmasc community to be aware of this.

aprofessionalwithoutstandards, a popular(?) TF2 blogger, made a post with my acc's name and spoke about my bio DNI regarding people who deny transmasculine specific transphobia.

I did not consent to having my account name shared and have unfortunately already received some terfy anons.

For those who don't know, transmisandry or transandrophobia is the specific type of transphobia experienced by trans men/ trans masculine people. I had that in my bio because it is unfortunately common for people in our community to not believe transmascs experience hardship when it comes to being trans.

It was very strange to see someone who is a part of a fandom with a lot of trans men/ mascs to say something like this. I liked his content and I know a lot of us do too, I want others to be aware of how she feels about the fellow fans he interacts with.

I was hoping that he didn't actually understand what the word meant. I sent him a DM to try to explain and to set boundaries about sharing my account name.

I was really hoping it really was a misunderstanding and she might apologize for the name dropping... But he never responded and blocked me.

I know I'm not entitled to a response, but the anons keep coming.

I don't think it was a misunderstanding anymore. I don't want anybody else to have to find out the way I did.

So, transmasc-phobic behavior awareness post done?

If it was actually a mistake and they apologize, I'll delete this and apologize as well.

EDIT- I used the wrong pronouns by mistake, I believe the correct ones are (he/him) + (she/her). Sorry about that. I was also informed that he is transmasculine as well as being Bi-gender.

Trans people can also be transphobic. Just because you personally haven't experienced something doesn't mean it's not real.

#aprofessionalwithoutstandards #tf2 #tf2 community #transphobia #tf2 fandom #felixascends #felix txt. #team fortress 2 #tf2 blog #fandom blog #transphobia awareness #anon called me a “troon” tf does that mean #trans fortress 2 #tf2 trans #trans tf2 #ok to reblog #reposts welcome

[armoralor]

some folks are discussing fandom infighting, but I haven’t still seen any examples of wolfwren stans sending hate. I scrolled through every comment on the Ahsoka casts’ posts (yes all of them) and the only hate I saw was homophobia aimed at wolfwren.

does anyone have examples & links to wolfwren fans being toxic? so we as a community can block them + make sure they understand they aren’t welcome in the fandom? I have dozens of tangible examples of the vile hate people have sent to wolfwren stans (x x x) and a long list of transphobes/homophobes if anyone wants a block list.

#wolfwren #to be completely honest #I’m tired of the “both sides” argument once again when I can’t find any actual hate towards cishet ships #and i mean actual HATE & not silly “RIP [shipname here]” or “those characters are fam not romantic.” #so if someone is doing it I want to know so we can prevent them from being in the community because they are not welcome. #also- don't forget being called homophobic is *not* the same as discriminated against for being gay. #yes it hurts to be queer and called homophobic BUT that doesn't mean you weren't being homophobic. anyone can perpetuate harm #just like any women can be misogynist & have internalized misogyny- any member of the LGBTQIA+ can perpetuate homophobia + transphobia. #nobody gets an “out” for being in the community. if you are queer and called homophobic it's perhaps time to reflect #on if you do happen to have any unchecked biases from the comphet society around you. #text

[pansysworks]

Little thing I finally finished!

Warnings for vague homophobia, tranphobia, and religious trauma.

Do you remember the double doors leading into your paradise? Paradise, where you were liked and loved. Valued, even.

Do you remember the double doors, where the smiling faces met you? With a computer in hand and a name badge to match. Welcoming you to the music with the worship and the snacks

Do you remember the double doors, and the auditorium inside? With gaming systems and food, a bribery was made. Your time for their beliefs.

Do you remember the double doors? Do you remember what lied before them?Remember being shunned and being told love is a sin?

Do you remember those double doors once they no longer hid paradise? The daunting feeling of those doors could suffocate the strongest of men.

Do you remember the double doors that hid the cruelty of children? Ignorance for others that could only be taught by their elders.

Do you remember the day the double doors shut for you, when the house no longer felt like a home? When the cross no longer felt familiar?

Do you remember sinking, falling, dying, when the double doors came into view?

Do you remember the double doors, and how they had sealed shut for you?

#pansy writes #religious trauma #homophobia #transphobia #okay so the background on this is my old church right #the teen area (youth group) was closed off by these massive double doors #theyd be propped open every sunday before service to invite ppl in and whatever #and thered be two ppl making your name tag and stuff #so the youth pastor #his name was brian #was literally so cool #he loved the kids....seemed like the kind of guy whod be good with queer ppl #so when i was walking with him while volunteering one day #i told him i was gay #and asked if god would still love me #he told me it was a sin #i was damned for hell. #i think that was the moment i realized i would never truly be welcomed in a church

[eve-pie]

No context

#patches and her father don't exactly have the best relationship #may it be his strong transphobia or something from her past.... #we'll never know #patches bashful #barnaby b beagle #sally starlet #welcome home oc #welcome home puppet show #oc art

[sweaty-confetti]

more support for detransitioners. understanding gender affirming care regrets is beneficial to all of us. it’s very easy for us trans people (including myself, i am not some perfect unbiased guy) to assume that all detransitioners are TERFs or transphobes but this is simply not true and also a self fulfilling prophecy.  

detransition is just as isolating of an experience as transition and in queer circles can be more so due to the knee-jerk reaction of many queer people to assume that detransitioners hate trans people or think that gender affirming care should be banned. thus they are shunned. but by assuming this, we inadvertently cause this to happen. there will always be detransitioners and we need to make room for them especially considering many/most are queer or still have a complex relationship with gender, not to mention that our community is built upon acceptance.

when trans and queer people shun detransitioners in fear that they’re terfs of transphobes, it offers an easy oppurtunity for terfs and transphobes to go, “those awful trans people, they’re small minded and then shun you. come join our ranks and we will liberate you from Gender Ideology™” and this hurts all of us.

it is not out of the question that detransitioners can be transphobic, but immediately assuming that they are harms queer people and other detransitioners. it’s an easy reaction and a mistake that i have worked hard to stop making, and i do not think it is an entirely unfair guess to make - but here is the important part - with reason. meeting someone who has detransitioned and immediately assuming that they are transphobic is dangerous. however obviously if they start spouting questionable conservative/transphobic nonsense that is a normal thing to assume. 

terfs/transphobes use detransitioners as a tool to blame the trans community, and many of us fall for it. in turn we use detransitioners as a tool to blame transphobes. the cycle needs to stop. 

TERFS, transphobes, etc. do not interact with this post. this is not a discourse post nor are you not welcome here. you will be blocked.

#long post #transphobia tw #detransitioner #pro trans detrans #trans liberation #hrt #detrans #ftm detrans #mtf detrans #not kink #trans positivity #detrans positivity #trans positive detrans #terfs fuck off #terfs do NOT touch #TERF tw #terfs are not welcome #mtf #ftm #nonbinary #transgender #gender affirming care #transmasc #transfem #transneu

[nellygwyn]

I feel like I'm going insane reading all the terrible information coming out of the currently on-going trial of the alleged murderers of Brianna Ghey, a transgender teenager who was murdered here in the UK several months ago, some of the most bleak shit imaginable, allegations of months and months of attempts to poison Brianna (and then finally resorting to stabbing her multiple times), very explicit transphobia in a lot of the leaked transcripts (including Boy X, the male teenage alleged murderer, writing that he wanted to see if Brianna screamed like a man or a woman) juxtaposed against TERFs and general transphobes rushing like vultures to a rotting carcass to "correct" journalists who are using she/her pronouns for Brianna, turning themselves inside out to try and make excuses for murder (I know a lot of autistic people fyi, and they don't horrifically murder trans people or anyone lol), and making sure to remind everyone that the killing had nothing to do with transphobia (because it was never explictly charged as a hate crime), not at all, the alleged murderers of Brianna were just looking for some rando to kill. Like.....are you all collectively hallucinating a scenario where YOU look like the morally decent people in a situation where you are bending over backwards to diminish the brutal death of a 16 year old? Even if it could be proved 100% that transphobia played no part in Brianna's death, you still look like freaks. Seriously.

If you can even make the horrific murder of a teenager all about you and your foulness, you are very very sick.

#i know i have t3rfs and their ilk following me. just know i think you are some of the sickest fucks on the planet. enjoy my blog. #transphobia/ #violent transphobia/ #brianna was a 16 year old teenage girl with her whole life ahead of her #everyone who knew and loved her said she was kind and funny and welcoming #she was brutally stabbed and then left to die in the cold on her own #if diminishing that is feminism to you then please never darken my door #and the fact that the women in these terf circles allow the men in their ranks #to talk about trans people and teenagers or anyone #in language that is so fucking degrading and disgusting #you think they won't do the same when a cis woman is brutally murdered??? you think they give a fuck about you??? #wrong.

[uncanny-tranny]

How do you stop caring about what transphobes think? I've never encountered any kind of transphobia irl (other than the typical misgendering and occasional ignorant comment) but every time I see hateful posts online I get scared. Are they going to come after me, next?

Honestly, it comes with experience, I think. I know it's scary, you're right, and there's no reason to be ashamed of being scared.

However, if what you want is to make your online experiences positive, you have to prioritize yourself. I used to be one of those people who almost bragged about "never blocking people," and now I have a block list a mile long because the block function is a tool, not a moral indication of being a Good Internet Person. Blacklist words, block accounts, go on private accounts, unfollow people if they stop sparking joy, and your internet experience will feel less like you're walking a tightrope and more like a positive interaction.

Additionally, I really encourage anybody ymto invest in themselves outside of anything else. What I mean by that is that it is so much easier to devalue trabsphobes when you feel at peace with yourself. Whenever I find myself overwhelmed by transphobia or whatever, the first thing I do is take a step back and do what I can to remove myself from that interaction. I've picked up a ton of hobbies, for instance, that make me feel fulfilled when I engage with them. I'll pluck my bass, or read a non-fictiob book, or play a video game, or play with my cat. Evaluate what in your life makes you feel fulfilled. Experiment with them, and go to them as a way to cleanse your soul. It won't fix everything, yes, but it can help you feel as though you have control, because you do.

Honour the way you feel, anon. You don't need to feel belittled - it sucks to see so much shit. However, you don't need to keep others in mind when you're living. You weren't made to kow tow to every little request.

Basically, my advice is:

Not to entertain people who aren't interested in seeing your humanity

Find a way to fulfill yourself. This could look like a hobby, or a field of study, or anything, so long as it makes you feel fulfilled.

Don't downplay your own emotions. Let yourself be angry, upset, sad, and whatever other emotion you have. Emotions are not bad, there are no such thing as "bad emotions". Give yourself the space to express those emotions in a way that's healthiest to you

This takes time. It's okay to not be at that point where it doesn't affect you strongly. Please reach out to people - friends, family, whomever you feel safe with. Community is important, you are not an island. You aren't alone.

I'm wishing you well, anon. I hope you are treated well

#ask #anon #trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #mtf #nonbinary #transphobia #transphobia tw #this is what i found that works for *me* and by no means is this universal #these are some ideas for anybody who isn't sure how to navigate through this shit #if any of y'all have your own advice - it's very much welcomed and appreciated #because we all have our own experiences and little tricks that help us and that's important to recognize

[eclipse15]

EXTREME TW: INTERSEX AND TRANS BASED VIOLENCE (RAPE, MURDER), GRAPHIC

THIS POST IS NOT ABOUT TMA/TME OR TRANSANDROPHOBIA DISCOURSE

I see lots of people discussing gender and sex based violence to queer people who have said they never experienced said sex or gender based violence, but that they knew of other people who have. Knew of, not knew personally. They often use it to argue either “transandrophobia is real” or “only transmisogyny is real”. Im not gonna give my stance in this post, that’s not the point. This is a very hard post as I am still struggling to absorb what happened as something that actually took place and something that happened to me. Please be patient if this doesn’t have enough details. As somebody who has been a victim of this violence, this is my experience.

Number one, my gender and sex: I’m afab, I’m not female. I’m intersex. My gender as a whole is multigender, so I am not TME or TMA. I also don’t pass as a man, or even as androgyne, at all. The only people that recognize my pronouns are those I’m friends with, and even then they don’t understand I’m multigender. I do not have male privilege

Number two, attempted murder: I’ve had an attempt on my life during a rape. He found out I didn’t have the body he wanted to violate, found out I was “one of those tranny kids” (he either didn’t know what intersex was or thought I had some surgery to look more masculine) and attempted to suffocate me. I was saved but never brought justice because the person who saved me was selling my body to other adults for money. I was scolded and told not to “do it again.”, as if I did anything at all. It’s very hard talking about this all because I’ve never told anyone, but I feel the need to get it off my chest and speak out. I’m the only part that remembers this (DID).

Number three: I have also been raped just because I “needed to be a woman”. When I was a little over 1 years old one of my first memories was having a large dildo inserted into me to expand my vagina. According to them, I needed to act more feminine and “training to accept a male” would help. I’m not gonna share too much of what happened because I’m still having trouble accepting this happened. I’m bringing it up because it was purely because of my sex and gender. It’s transgender and intersex based violence.

I hate myself because of what happened to me. I still think I deserved it then, and that I still deserve it now because it wasn’t successful. I feel so ashamed and can’t tell anyone. I’m only telling you all because I’m not a person on here, I’m a blog that sometimes spouts out words that seem like a person.

Please stop assuming somebody is safe from gender or sex based violence. Please stop assuming somebody has never been sexually assaulted or mistreated in any way. Please stop assuming somebody has never had an attempt on their life because of their gender and/or sex. Please stop using us as pawns in your community in fighting.

#any support is welcomed #intersex #intersex trans #intersex transneutral #intersex transmasc #intersex transfem #trans #transgender #transphobia #intersexism #gender based violence #queer based violence

[janersm]

“Queer is a slur.”

This is something TERFs like to point out to members of the queer community. Telling queer people that a slur they’re reclaiming is a slur is an interesting choice. By interesting, I mean a complete waste of time because we already fucking know how bigots like to use it, and that’s why it’s being reclaimed. No one says you have to call yourself queer, but you don’t get to tell a queer person that they can’t. Boundaries are a thing and you’ve overstepped yours.

#queer #terfs dni #radfems dni #homophobia #transphobia #queerphobia #fuck terfs #terfs are homophobic #terfs are queerphobic #anti terf #anti radfem #not radfem safe #fuck radfems #radfems fuck off #radfems not welcome #queer pride #queer erasure

[herequeerexitentialfear]

bro why the fuck is understanding my gender locked behind reckoning with my traumatic childhood and the de-gendering & social masculinization i went though due to poverty and having to turn to masculinity/male social systems due to being rejected from girlhood at a young age and needed a social systems to protect myself from the consequences of being an autistic traumatized gifted student.

cant i just have a quick answer? a shortcut? without dredging all that up? without getting a PHD in gender-studies? please??

#thebirdspeaks #welcome to my ongoing gender crisis #i am a thing that exists and also technically a person #i cant even fully describe the gender i was perceived as pre-social transition #like i was a girl on paper but i was broadly treated as such so little #that i cant easily fit into seen as girl -> actually not one #its more other people refused me femininity & other aspects of being a girl #so i forcibly embraced masculinity #because you cant survive on the outside #and i was very much one of the guys #a very very extreme tomboy #and that resulted in further rejections from femininity #idk like on paper i was a girl #but i was never really treated as one #i was this in-between thing #even before i came out as trans #like before & after coming out blurs bc all that changed was transphobia #anyway #tldr my gender identity is confusing and going back to try and figure it out is needed but also messy as fuck

[softpine]

why am i getting so many more offensive anons than usual.... about the weirdest stuff too. i don't post any of them because then i wouldn't be able to block them (and it goes against my philosophy of just ignoring annoying people), but like... it's starting to piss me off

#it's just bizarre because i'm not even posting that often #so who is stalking my blog every day coming up with new things to criticize #actual critique is WELCOMED but racism/sexism/transphobia etc. will never be tolerated and you'll be blocked on sight :) #give me writing advice!!! don't be an asshole. it's that simple #nonsims