#I BLOCKED HIM AND WE OFTEN HAVE OPPOSITE OPINIONS

[troonwolf]

Anyway this post is about me:

So I want to make some things very clear. 

I am doing this because I am sick of the gossip and badmouthing. This person has a much larger audience than me, many that are in the same fandoms as me and who sometimes interact with my art. I plan to open commissions in the future because I’m in desperate financial need, and someone smearing me like this (and name-dropping me, which I know he does in private) could seriously hurt my ability to earn in fandom spaces.

Additionally, I find it ridiculous that someone who claims to hate “toxic callout fandom culture” and etc, is doing to me exactly what he complains other people do: lying, exaggerating, and misrepresenting events to make someone look “problematic” and essentially unperson them in fandom.

With that said-

I have never harassed mywitchcultblr (the author of that post).

I have never sent them messages about Disney, Marvel, Ao3, whether on anon or personally. 

I in fact have never sent anyone messages about Marvel, Disney, Ao3, or ANYTHING else related to fandom.

Nor do I consider “all Ao3 users paedophiles”. I use Ao3. My boyfriend uses Ao3. My friends and mutuals use Ao3- this also goes for Disney and Marvel. Tons of people around me love those things.

No one around me cares that I sometimes criticise those things. When I do criticise those things, it’s always some dumb shitpost that I intentionally leave untagged so that it’s isolated in my own space.

The only time I ever approached mywitchcultblr about “discourse”, was to do with natural systems and DID, because I myself have DID. Even then I was civil, the conversation was over in a few messages, and we never spoke about it again.

When I first met Ann, his blog was a lot different from what it is now. There was barely any NSFW or kink, barely any fandom discourse. He just posted about fandom and LGBT stuff.

When he became involved in fandom discourse, began constantly posting untagged NSFW, being defensive when people asked him to tag things, and overall saying and doing things that made me uncomfortable or that I did strongly disagree with, I just blocked him.

We didn’t argue.

I didn’t send him any messages.

I didn’t send him any anons.

I blocked him and moved on. I set a boundary and moved on. That’s what you’re meant to do, right? Then why am I still hearing about it a year later?

Despite the fact I am just some guy he knew for a few months, he has this obsession with me as some kind of fallen father figure in his personal narrative. I’m always referred to as “someone I looked up to who disappointed me.”

This is inappropriate. I am no one’s role model. I didn’t consent to be your father figure and told you on several occasions how severely mentally ill I am. This would be parasocial if I was a bigger blogger but since I’m just some guy, it’s not quite that but still not healthy or reasonable. 

We were in each other’s lives for a few months and talked occasionally. That’s it.

We didn’t even argue or have a real “falling out”. I blocked him. There was no interaction. But ever since then he spreads more exaggerations and lies about me and I’m tired of it.

Don’t take the word of someone who knew me less than a few months, that I’m a toxic harasser, just because I stopped feeling comfortable on his blog and blocked him for my own comfort.

I wish him no ill will but I do wish he’d stop projecting his father issues onto me, and I don’t say that to be funny. it’s extremely weird and uncomfortable to be put in this situation of “I idolised you because you’re an older queer man in fandom and I’m going to make that your problem if you don’t live up to my ideals.”

I’m just some guy. I’m in my 30s, childless, homeless, gay, majorly spangled in the head. No one should be looking up to me. I shouldn’t be held accountable for other people’s made up versions of me. I think we can all agree that isn’t fair.

If he was just calling me a buzzkill or cynical or annoying, I’d fully agree with those statements lmao! But to say I’m toxic and that people around me will be harassed for disagreeing with me is an exaggeration of my character.

I also want to add that my boyfriend has attempted messaging him in order to have a civil discussion on why he keeps lying about me when it's been practically a year since I blocked him, but Ann doesn't respond.

Anyway, that’s all folks.

#btw I'm keeping the specifics of our differences vague #because if I specify events then this post just turns into a counter-smear #and all I want is for him to stop being weird about me and telling people I will harass them for no reason #or doing this weird ''I used to look up to you'' thing #it's genuinely very invasive and uncomfortable #mywitchcultblr #luke I am NOT your father I am just some crazy old man please move on #he legit makes it sound like we were couple or something #when the reality is i barely fucking knew him and just felt uncomfortable on his blog #ive never spoken a word to him since the block but he comes up with these ridiculous things #that i apparently said #which i never fucking said #it doesnt even make sense so many people blocked him wgen his blog changed #but im being constantly singled out #and his muts and friends are generally enabling his obsession #because they dont realise just how much its based on NOTHING #I BLOCKED HIM AND WE OFTEN HAVE OPPOSITE OPINIONS #THATS LITERALLY IT 😭 #pls go through my blog and tell me where anyone is being harassed #its not there it doesnt exist

[ladykailitha]

The Eddie Munson Guide to Dating an Oblivious Jock Part 2

LOL! I am loving the reactions for this. This is going to be part fun, with a little a seriousness, because Steve does have to be built up a bit.

Part 1

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Step Three and Four: Getting your crush alone and Building Their Self-Esteem

This next two are interchangeable depending on your jock. If you think building their confidence is needed before you get them alone, you’ll need to do that first. But you if think that getting them away from their peer group first is essential to building their confidence; get them alone first.

“I think with Lucas,” Max said, “I would need to get him alone first. Because I don’t think he realizes how much they look down on him.”

Eddie nodded. “I did the opposite way with Steve. I needed build his confidence in front of everyone else, so that they would stop picking on his intelligence.”

Max nodded. She had been there for a couple of those smack downs. And she approved.

Now that you’ve established a shared interest, you’ll want to get them alone with you as often as possible. It’s harder to make moves on oblivious jockus, when there are others around to block you, make fun of your attempts, or even catch on to what your doing. Because if they figure it out before the jock, then they���ll tell him and ruin your plans. You want him to come to you all on his own and not because his friends told him to.

But as I said, I had to build his confidence first.

“Look, I know what a gorgon is,” Steve complained. “And I know what a demogorgon is. But what you just said right now, the gelatinous cube thing? That sounds like something I did at a rager.”

“Can you not talk about your slutty past while we’re talking about D&D, please?” Dustin asked, rolling his eyes.

Steve threw his arms in the air. “I’m not! I’m just saying it sounds stupid.”

“It’s not stupid!” Mike cried. “It nearly ate me. And it destroyed my shield. And and part of my armor!”

“This isn’t real life, man,” Lucas said. “I know we’ve gone up against some pretty heinous shit, but in the game world it’s pretty scary.”

Eddie ran his tongue over his teeth and he grinned that closed mouth grin that made him look condescending. Steve raised an eyebrow, fully expecting Eddie to join in on the dog piling.

“It’s pretty lame, guys,” Eddie said, kicking back and putting his feet up on the table, interlocking his fingers behind his head. “In fact it was pretty pathetic you got caught in it all.”

Steve pointed to Eddie. “See?”

Eddie grinned. “I was bored. And we weren’t really moving forward in the campaign so I threw it at you to see what you would do. And Mike pretty much tripped and fell into it.”

Dustin, Mike, and Lucas all winced.

“And Steve is allowed an opinion,” Eddie growled. “Even to an outsider, a gelatinous cube sounds lame. Now everyone apologize to Steve.”

The three boys looked at each other in shame and they mumbled their apologies.

Steve straightened up.

Once you start building up his esteem, give your jock opportunities to show off his intelligence.

Steve was waiting for Eddie to divvy up gold and experience. He frowned at all the stats they were rattling off.

“How do you keep track of all this stuff?” he asked.

“Well,” Mike said with a sneer, “if you weren’t so slow...”

“Hey,” Will defended. “You try remembering all that stuff with three concussions.”

Eddie just shook his head. “It’s not about intelligence, Steve. It’s about interest.”

Dustin frowned. “No it’s not.”

“I can prove it,” Eddie replied. Steve had his hands on his hips, his mouth a firm line. “Hey, Steve whose team is arguably the best in the NBA?”

Steve’s frown deepened, but he starting talking about who had the best defense and whose offense was superior before landing on a specific team.

All four boys stared at him in shock.

“Now who understood that?” Eddie asked, gleefully rubbing his hands together.

Lucas raised a tentative hand.

Eddie nodded. “Because you’re interested, right?”

The boy nodded.

“Hey, Steve?” Eddie called again, this time Steve looked a little less leery. “Who do you think will win the World Series this year? Not your favorite team, but the best one overall.”

Steve’s eyes lit up. And he rambled on for about five minutes explaining who had the best chances of going all the way.

Again all mouths remained slack jawed and all eyes remained wide open.

Eddie grinned. “Now who understood that?”

Will raised his hand. “A little. My dad used to watch baseball.”

Mike nodded. “I understood that a little bit more than I did the basketball.”

“That’s because someone you know would watch it all the time,” Eddie said, “that you kinda pick up a little bit. But you wouldn’t be able to rattle off those stats yourself, right?” He leaned forward, putting his hands on the table.

Mike and Will shook their heads.

“It’s just like I can name all of Metalica’s albums or my five classes in D&D,” Eddie continued. “Steve isn’t slow or stupid. He just has different interests. And it’s not as though you had all that D&D stuff memorized when you first started. And I bet Steve didn’t either, but years of watching and playing gave him that knowledge.”

“How did you know Steve could do that?” Dustin asked.

Eddie laughed. “He and my Uncle Wayne get together on the weekends when I’m practicing with my band to watch sports. They are often argue stats.”

Steve stared at him in shock and then blushed. “I didn’t realize you were about paying attention.”

Eddie just smiled.

Once you’ve given him chances to show off his smarts, make sure you shut down further attempts from his friends to insult his intelligence.

Steve was cleaning up after movie night with the help of Eddie and some very reluctant gremlins.

“You guys made the mess,” Steve insisted. “You get to clean up. Except Max, who, you know, is still using crutches?”

Max smiled up from the couch. “I get to supervise!”

Steve laughed. “Which you won’t use to lord over us at all...” he said sarcastically.

She just grinned bigger.

Steve started by handing out assignments. Lucas was on garbage duty, Will and El were on dishes (the only two Steve trusted not to break anything), Dustin was on vacuum duty, and Mike was wiping down counters.

Mike rolled his eyes. “This isn’t a sport, Steve. Just tell us to clean up and we’ll do it.”

Eddie paused from where he was putting away the food in the fridge. “No you won’t.”

Dustin frowned. “What? Yes we will.”

Eddie scoffed harder. “No, you won’t. As evidenced by how you guys clean up after D&D.”

Lucas stopped picking up the garbage. “We help.”

“You do,” Eddie agreed. “Will, too. But Tweedle Dee and Tweedle Dum here,” he pointed to Dustin and Mike, “will sit on their asses and chat about the campaign, while the rest of us clean up.”

Dustin and Mike opened their mouths to argue, but Eddie leveled a glare at them and they closed them again.

“Besides,” Will said, “there’s nothing wrong with everyone being assigned a task. It gets everything done quicker so we can all go home.”

Steve smirked. “And order isn’t just about sports. Even you guys have an order in your game, right? Initiative, right?”

“But that’s different,” Mike whined.

Eddie grinned. “You remembered!”

The boys paused and then turned to Steve with open mouths.

“I told you guys it was about interest,” Eddie said. “Right, Steve?”

Steve grinned. “Right, Eds.”

“I still can’t believe he missed the fact that you paid attention to his interests,” Max said, rolling her eyes.

Eddie shrugged. “I think he was impressed, but didn’t want to get his hopes up.”

“I mean Steve gives as good as he gets most of the time,” Max said, “but even I didn’t realize what a number they’ve done on his self-esteem until you started calling it out.”

Eddie shrugged. “I don’t think anyone realized it was affecting him. Because like you said, he can bitch with the best of them.”

“It’s some times the questions are dumb,” she said, a bit defensively.

“You talking about the vampire/Vecna comment?” Eddie asked.

She blushed. “That’s one of them, yeah.”

“Is it really that outrageous that the Upside Down might have vampires?”

She paused and thought about it. She huffed a laugh. “No I suppose not.”

Getting your jock alone. Depending on their friend group this can either be very easy (offering to do something together that the rest of the friends don’t want to do) or very difficult (having friends that are willing to go outside their comfort zone to spend time with them).

“Steve must have been a hard one to get alone,” Max said.

“Very,” Eddie agreed. “And it wasn’t just people wanting to hang out with him, it was someone or several someones wanting rides. So I had to get get creative.”

Steve showed up the government funded house with Robin in tow.

“Buckley,” he greeted warmly. “I didn’t realize you were coming, too. I only got stuff for two of us.”

Steve blushed. “We looked up the movie at work and she thought it sounded interesting. I guess I should have called before we came over.”

Robin on the other hand looked unapologetic. “It’s fine, I brought my own goodies!” She held up a bag of Twizzlers and a bottle of soda.

Eddie sighed and let them both in. He put in the movie and sat in the middle of the sofa, forcing Robin and Steve to sit on either side.

“Why do you get the middle?” Robin asked.

“My house, therefore I get the best seat,” Eddie said smugly.

Steve looked around him to look at Robin in the eye. “He’s got a point, Robs. Plus, we did surprise him with your presence.”

Robin rolled her eyes and settled into watch the movie.

Eddie had seen it before so there weren’t even anything so much as a thrill, but Robin had her hands in front of her face, fingers spread so that she close them in a hurry if she needed to.

What Eddie loved was when Steve jumped twice. Because each time he jumped, he got closer to Eddie. By the time the ominous warning came at the end he was practically glued to Eddie’s side.

“Nope, nope, nope...” Robin said. “Never again. I don’t even like old horror, I’ve decided.”

Eddie shrugged. “I mean I was assuming that Steve and I were going to watch it together and he was going to preview it for you. Like he usually does.”

Robin’s jaw dropped as she looked at a smug Eddie and a Steve that had “I told you so” written all over his face. It wasn’t mocking or cruel.

She crumpled. “I’m sorry. I shouldn’t have crashed your movie night. It was mean and apparently stupid. I won’t be doing that again, that’s for sure.”

“How the hell did Steve not recognize his own moves when thrown directly in his face?” Max asked, rolling her eyes.

“Obliviousness is their best trait after all,” Eddie teased. But the smile slid from his face. “With Steve?”

“Yes,” she said, realizing he was about to drop something deep about the boy she considered her brother.

“I think it’s because in all the time he’s dated, he’s never once been the one that got taken care of,” he murmured. “He’s had to shoulder all the emotional burden. So cuddling up on the sofa watching a scary movie didn’t register because he’s always watched those kind of movies alone first and never had someone to lean on when he got frightened.”

“That sucks,” she deadpanned. “I’m glad he has you, Eddie.”

“Me too,” he said softly. “Me too.”  

Now that you’ve established that there won’t be any further interference from the best friend, set up a regular time to do the activity. That way it becomes a routine that when asked if they’re doing something at that time, they’ll say they have plans.

“Come on, Steve,” Dustin said. “We want to go to the arcade today, they’re having a two-for-one special on pizza when you buy a game pass.”

Steve rolled his eyes. “I told you have plans. Ask someone else.”

Dustin let out an exasperated sigh. “We did. We asked Eddie, but he has plans, too!”

Steve raised an eyebrow.

“You know, we call our jocks oblivious,” Max said, “but their friends can certainly be dense fuckers too.”

Eddie laughed. “I know, right?”

She shook her head. “Who did they think you had plans with?”

Eddie shrugged. “My bandmates would be my guess.”

“But then you would have said that,” she said exasperated. “Who did they think Steve had plans with?”

Eddie laughed.

“Robin will be fine if you don’t spend every waking moment with her,” Dustin continued, rolling his eyes. “When was the last time you went to the arcade with us?”

Steve’s other eyebrow shot up. “Last week, dude. And the week before that. I have plans. Both Mike and Will have siblings that drive. Hell, now that Argyle is back in town, I bet he would love to try out the arcade, he’s never been.”

Dustin looked leery. Steve threw his arms in the air and stormed over to the phone. He pulled the rolodex of party numbers that he kept on the counter closer to him and hit “A”. It went to Argyle’s number and he dialed it.

“Bro!” Argyle greeted.

“Hey, it’s Steve,” he said with a smile.

“My dude,” Argyle said cheerfully. “How can I help you on this fine fine day?”

“Hey, the kids wanted to go to the arcade today,” Steve explained, “But Eddie and I have plans, so I was wondering if you wanted to go. They have a special on pizza today and they wanted in on that.”

“You said the magic word, my dude!” Argyle said. “Pizza is my middle name. I just don’t know where the nugs live.”

“You know where I live, though, right?” Steve asked.

“Of course, man,” Argyle said with a grin. “Biiiig house. Hard to forget.”

Steve laughed. “You can pick Dustin up here and then he can direct you to the other ‘nugs’ houses.”

“Sounds totally awesome, my man!” Argyle said happily. “I’ll there in fifteen.”

Steve hung up and turned to Dustin with a raised eyebrow. “Now was that so difficult?”

Dustin sighed. “No...”

“I remember that!” Max said. “Argyle brought Jonathan and they were way more fun then with Steve because they didn’t try and mother hen us.”

Eddie laughed. “He just gets worried because he’s seen you guys in way too many situations that were literally life or death. It kinda skews things.”

Max clicked her tongue. “That’s fair.” She paused for a moment. “So we’ve established a routine, what’s next?”

Part 3 Part 4 Part 5 Part 6

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[daytaker]

NightBringer Satan is a Gift.

I understand everyone has their own opinions on how good/not good NB is as a game or a story or whatever, but in my opinion, Satan's characterization is soooo enhanced by it. I know that this isn't an opinion that everyone shares, but to me, Satan felt emotionally artificial sometimes in the original game (more on that below).* He felt kind of awkward and like he wanted to connect with MC but something was blocking the kind of connection they develop with some of the other brothers. (Disclaimer: I've only done season 1 of OG, so I can't speak to how he's characterized later on. I know, I know, shame. But I'm trying my best.) Getting to see what Satan is like when he doesn't have any control over his emotions makes the stiffness and artificiality make more sense to me, and they become admirable because we get to see just how hard it is for him to get everything under control.

I think they did a really good job with the pacing of his development in NB too. Satan in Lesson 1 and Satan in Lesson 19 are different, but there isn't a moment where he suddenly starts controlling his emotions better. I think there's a lot going on behind the scenes with him as far as his emotional growth and self control are concerned.

Also let's not forget some very important things about Satan that make him, IMO, one of the most interesting characters to work with as a writer:

Satan was never an angel; he had no fall from grace.

Satan was created from Lucifer's wrath---he is literally the product of trauma and self-mutilation.

Satan is significantly younger than his brothers.

He spent the first year of his life more or less trapped in a castle with his deeply emotionally wounded brothers.

He has a deep resentment towards Lucifer that sometimes defies reason---he wishes he didn't dedicate so much of his time and energy to him, but it's basically a compulsion.

He hates his deep association with Lucifer, and he hates that he has a lot in common with him.

And these lead me to some headcanons that live rent-free in my brain every day of my life.

Satan sees himself as a reminder of the Great Celestial War and everything his brothers lost in it, including Lilith.

He is divine retribution against Lucifer for his failure, for leading his brothers to failure, for letting his sister die.

He acts as a counterbalance to Lucifer's pride by bearing the weight of the shame that Lucifer can't fully accept now that he is the Avatar of Pride. Even if Lucifer pushes it out of his mind, Satan never forgets that he failed in the worst way possible.

His biggest aspiration is to become a full and complete person outside of any association he has with Lucifer. He feels like some sort of parasitic tumor that exists only in opposition to his brother, and he wants desperately to escape that role that he feels he was born into.

Anyway, Satan is great, hail Satan, all that good stuff. Did you know I have a lot of thoughts and opinions about Satan? I know, shocking. For more of my takes here's my fic about him (on AO3).

*I think Satan almost metaphorically represents certain elements of autism---emotions that don't come out the way you intend, masking and its limitations, hyperfixations that are barely under control. In Fandom Discourse(TM) there's sometimes a level of focus on more 'cutesy' autistic traits that we find endearing in characters, like social obliviousness and gleefully indulged hyperfixations. But emotional control, emotional masking, emotional seepage, emotional artificiality---these are also real and messy and often times they aren't cute and they're uncomfortable to see in yourself or in someone else. I really don't like diagnosing characters so I'm not about to claim Satan "is" autistic, but as someone who has been called essentially 'spectrum adjacent' by doctors, I relate to the awkwardness and the desire to appear normal despite knowing you're not and emotions spilling out in ugly ways---um. That got really long and personal.

#satan is angry and he has every right to be #I hope this isn't going to make anybody unhappy or uncomfy #these are just my takes #I love him #I love all of them #I honestly love the games too #I don't mind that they are silly #satan #lucifer #obey me #obey me swd #obey me satan #obey me lucifer #obey me lore #obey me headcanons #obey me hcs #obey me nightbringer #omswd #dthc #hcs #text post #satan thoughts

[evilsystemm]

Evil system blog information

We're a DID system of (fluctuating) 15-20 alters. We're white british, AFAB and bodily 17.

Simply plural: evilsystemm

Diagnosed with:

Autism spectrum disorder

Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder

Sensory processing disorder

Oppositional defiance disorder

Major depressive disorder (currently being diagnosed)

Situational mutism

Self diagnosed:

Borderline personality disorder

Narcissistic personality disorder

Questioning bipolar 1, reluctant to say we have it

traits of other PDs

We will not be obligated to explain our self diagnoses to anyone.

Basic details on relevant alters

some may make their own introduction posts

[🌃] Liam | He/Him (#🌃)

[🎭] Aries | He/They (#🎭)

[💎] Luci | She/He (#💎🎩)

[🩷] Cel | She/Bun/Love (#🩷)

[💙] Nicole | She/Her (#💙)

[🌹] Emmeline | She/Zher/They

[🎉] Pixel | Xe/It (#🎉)

[🪼] Rae/Ava | She/Her

[🌈] Rumi | They/Bun/Zom (#🌈)

Not all pronouns listed here as some wouldn't fit.

General beliefs, alignments I guess

We are collectively anti-capitalist and most of us identify as Marxist and/or communist.

We're pro palestine, those who aren't are fine to interact as long as you DO NOT spread zionist ideology here.

We have differing opinions on endogenic systems depending on the alter, but most of us wish to see endogenic systems have their own space away from traumagenic systems whether they exist or not. If you identify as endogenic you are welcome to interact with us as long as you're respectful. We will ensure that alters who may be disrespectful towards you are not enacting this.

We're pro neo and xeno pronouns and some of us use them ourselves.

Anti comshipper but respectful and sympathetic towards underage comshippers. Avoid interacting if you're a comshipper as it's incredibly triggering for some of us. (Guys stop having " anti proship DNI " in your bio and then following and interacting with me. I AM ANTI PROSHIP leave me alone)

Anti radqueer and transID. Those of you who reblog my posts without actually having the disorders or traits of the disorders will be blocked, I don't appreciate my thoughts being used to uplift such things.

Generally dissaproving of nihilists, antinatalists and eco fascists HOWEVER I cannot speak for the entire system as some of us probably identify with those labels, and im understanding that those beliefs often result from trauma. Free to interact if you're in those categories but be aware your ideas may be subject to scrutiny.

If you romanticise or sexualise BPD, DNI!!

Narc abuse believers, you're welcome to interact but I will be making an effort to change your minds and if you upset any of our alters you will be blocked.

We don't believe singular alters can have PDs that the rest of the system does not, if you believe that, feel free to interact but I will be judging you. /hj /lh

Other cluster Bs please interact!!!! We have a special interest in PDs and would love to get to know the disorders better (esp. ASPD and HPD). Plus, we ruined all our relationships during a potential? manic episode so friends would be super cool.

there's probably more but I can't think of anything at current

Interests, fandoms

Most of the system has a special interest in fall out boy (the band) and can name almost every song, album etc. in chronological order (i'll take any excuse to brag about this).

As previously mentioned, special interest in personality disorders.

We take A level sociology which ties in really nicely with our politics special interest so we talk about that quite often.

We write essays from time to time about things we enjoy and/or feel strongly about.

Cel is " normal " about neon genesis evangelion (she is not).

Rumi likes Doctor Who.

Liam is a passive (feral. obsessed. insane.) enjoyer of Alice in Borderland, both the manga and the show.

Pixel likes My little pony and My chemical romance (best not to question it).

We have a special interest in typology (enneagram, MBTI, instinct stacking) with pixel being the most interested in it but knowledge spans across the system.

I think that's almost everything covered, I'll update this in future if I think of anything else. This was written by Liam.

#actually npd #npd safe #did system #npd #cluster b #fob #traumagenic system #system stuff #plural system #plurality #actually bpd #bpd #actually narcissistic #fall out boy #alice in borderland #hpd safe #aspd safe #🌃 #🎭 #💎🎩 #🌈 #🩷

[stemms]

It’s absolutely hilarious to me that c!Dream apologists genuinely believe that c!Dream, the man who was infatuated with power to the point of rejecting all his attachments, only to form a perpetual fixation on c!Tommy, completely contradicting his previous beliefs in consequence, never had a hint of obsession, only hated him and cared about his discs instead. I happen to have practically all the c!Prime quotes from season 0 that express c!Dream’s obsession better than anything, so I’d like to go through them and reflect on c!Dream apologists’ takes.

This had been said a lot of times before, but it still perplexes me to this day how flexible c!Dream apologists’ opinion on the canonicity of the lore is, depending solely on its representation of c!Dream; as long as it makes him look good, it’s undoubtedly canon (the fact that it only works if they villainise c!Tommy shows just how flawed and inoperative it is), though if it’s the opposite, it conveniently changes to “it was clear they were messing around, those streams didn’t even have proper lore.” 

“c!Tommy was the one who built the tunnel leading to c!Dream’s house, but people tried to make it into a creepy c!Primeboys thing. c!Dream never stalked him.”

c!Tommy: “Let's head back to my HQ, I bet he'll be way over- he'll [c!Dream] be lurking in the walls!”  c!Tubbo: “He probably will, you know?”

c!Tubbo: "I was right! I was right! He's in the walls!”  c!Tommy: “Oh- why is he always in the walls?! Why is he always here?!”

c!Tommy: “And all he [c!Dream] does, Wilbur, is sit in my walls, staring at me.”

c!Tommy: “Let's walk, Tubbo. We walk- watch it- watch as he follows.”

c!Tommy: “He [c!Dream] just follows us around, boys!” 

c!Fundy: “He’s [c!Dream] targeting you!” 

c!Fundy, taking the path near c!Tommy’s house: “Why is- D-Dream? Dream!” 

c!Fundy, talking about the clip: “I mean, Dream is right next to you-” 

c!Fundy: “Hey, uh- not to warn you, but Dream is like- ten blocks away from you hiding. I can see him sneaking from here.” 

c!Fundy: “Uh- Dream is, like, very close to you right now.” 

c!Tommy: “I know, he just sits and sits in my walls and stares at me.” 

c!Fundy: “Talking about stalkers- Dweeeam, where are you?” 

c!Tommy: “Why is he always in the walls?? Oh my god-” 

c!Fundy: “I see- I see Dream!” c!Tommy: “Ohhh, why is he always just- hello, Dream…” 

c!Tommy: “No! No! No! We do not mess with him, we just accept he’s in de walls forever.” 

c!Tommy: “I don’t know why there’s a hole in my roof.”

In addition to these quotes, a reminder that:

c!Dream was the one who built a tunnel towards c!Tommy’s house to spy on him.

c!Dream lived in c!Tommy’s walls.

c!Dream prevented c!Tommy from getting any discs other than Cat and Mellohi when he tried to make a disc farm, for no other reason than to make him more dependent on those two discs; if he had control over them, he’d have control over c!Tommy too.

c!Dream logged off in the jukebox room to steal the disc as soon as it began playing.

c!Dream often inserted himself between c!Tommy and his friends, as if he was a part of their company.

c!Dream blew up and vandalized people’s property and stole from them with c!Puffy, and left signs indicating it was c!Tommy.

c!Dream provoked c!Tommy into acting on his emotions, so that it would be easier to put exile forward.

Not to mention this absurdly big amount of screenshots of c!Dream appearing conveniently at the same places and time as c!Tommy.

#my c!prime thoughts #dream smp #dsmp #c!dream apologist critical #fandom critical #primeboys (derogatory) #c!primeboys #c!discduo #c!dream #c!tommy #tw stalking #tw possessive behavior #tw obsessive behaviour

[good-wine-and-cheese]

Grimmer is Immune to Johan

Probably a stretch and my reasoning definitely boils down to “because I think that would be interesting and will analyse text based on this premise” so don’t take me too seriously lol (but I’m right)

I mostly wanted to write this because I lament the fact that Johan and Grimmer never really get any proper interactions together despite being, in my opinion, much better narrative foils to each other than Johan is to Tenma. They were made of the same building blocks, but turned out as total opposition to one another. We do get a faint taste of this through Milosz, and that’s actually part of what makes me argue this point: Milosz was saved.

Before really getting into Grimmer vs. Johan, it’s important to draw another distinction. Grimmer and Roberto are the ones often compared, given their ties to one another. They both went to Kinderheim, and both were similarly broken down to hollow human husks, then left the orphanage and began different lives. It’s here, once they moved on, that an important distinction is made.

While little is known about Roberto and so there’s not much to go on here, he indicates while talking to Lunge that he lived as an impersonal mercenary, with no connections to anyone or anything. Because he never speaks on having had any connection of any kind, my assumption here is this has always been the case for him.

Grimmer on the other hand became very much connected to people. While, yes, it was a facade - he didn’t care about them, he was performing a role as a spy - he did still have a grounded existence in which people were familiar with him, treated him like a friend, a husband, a father. Even if it was false, Grimmer had grounded himself by living a life. Roberto was transient, with no other person to validate his existence.

In a way, I connect Grimmer to Nina; both have little to no memory of their childhood, and both were “given” a new name, living their lives under this new persona and growing into a person of their own, holding that new name as a part of themselves. Basically, Grimmer has an identity. He started developing into a proper person, and allowed himself to move forward with his life as that person. And after losing the people that had become his family, he set his sights on a goal to unearth the organization that had put him through everything he endured. While he is contemplating his past here, he’s doing so through the lens of a forward-moving goal; he can’t achieve it if he’s only looking back. Achieving his goal means he has to keep moving forward.

The reason that Johan was able to get to Roberto, and to sway him to perfect loyalty, was because Roberto had nothing to ground him in the present, and nothing to look for in the future. He was stuck in the past, and having someone validate those feelings gave him ground to stand on. He finally had a connection, but that connection was fixing him into his past, rather than pulling him forward. He’s trapped by Johan and sees no future except “the end”.

Overall this is how Johan works; he himself is unable to let go of the past, and sympathizes with people who in turn have traumas they’re unable to let go of, helping them to embrace that part of themselves instead of moving on. Convincing people to kill themselves isn’t that hard when all that exists for them is their past, and the future has no meaning.

This brings us back to the pseudo-conflict between Grimmer and Johan over Milosz. Indeed, Johan is able to break Milosz down and trap him into his past - the trauma of knowing his mother abandoned him. Rationally, if he were able to look forward, he would know that he has a new family now, in the boys that befriended him. But because he was caught in Johan’s trap, the present doesn’t matter. Grimmer, though, was able to break through with one important assertion: that someone wanted him. True his mother may have abandoned him (or died, we don’t even know!) but so long as he looks forward instead of back, there will be people in the world he will meet that do want him, that do love him, that need him in their lives. He gives Milosz a goal: to find the people that can become his new family, instead of wallowing in the despair of not having his mother.

While I do think that Johan would have had the power to reach and break down Grimmer when he was younger, still more freshly out of Kinderheim and barely established as a person, the Grimmer of now is too grounded in his existence and forward-looking for Johan to be able to ensnare him. The only way I think he might have an angle on Grimmer is through Steiner, as Grimmer still expresses visible vulnerability about not being able to control that other side to himself, but I don’t think it would be enough to convince him that the world is full of despair. His connection to the world, even if manufactured some of the time, is too strong for Johan to crack.

I would have loved to see them have a proper discussion in the show, I think it could have been very insightful.

As an aside, I think it’s interesting to consider both Johan and Grimmer’s dialogues with Milosz as being somewhat self-reflective; Johan feels abandoned by his mother, and therefore unwanted in the world, while Grimmer holds onto the necessary belief that someone somewhere in the world wanted him to exist.

#naoki urasawa's monster #wolfgang grimmer #johan liebert #monster spoilers #monster analysis #the reason I consider Grimmer-Johan as a better foil than Johan-Tenma is mostly the core of what they differ on #like yeah all lives are equal / lives are only equal in death that's fine #but Grimmer and Johan have like...the core of what it is to be alive as the center of their conflict #Grimmer believes in the essence of living just for living's sake where johan is like well if there's no meaning then just die ig #also I'm sure this is super simplified LOL like there is definitely an argument to make that Grimmer could be chipped away at #but in the traditional way johan gets to people I don't think it would work #I do find it interesting to think about the pov of grimmer being turned to Johan's side...I wrote a fic from that angle once lol #just interesting thoughts #anyway grimmer is the best boy that's why I wrote this essay #thats my conclusion

[i-want-my-iwtv]

I don’t understand why VC fans that are genuinely upset about and deeply dislike the stuff they’re finding out about the AMC show keep…. engaging with AMC IWTV content and posting about it? Like, I’m sure it’s not fun for them and it’s certainly not fun for the people who are enjoying the show…. Like, clearly this show isn’t going to magically turn into something they like, why keep baiting themselves?

These kinds of asks are so, so, so hard! Writing a short response feels too limited, but writing a lot feels like I’m doing too much...  if this makes anyone at least consider the issue(s) in a different light, then it was worth the effort.

And you know, answering this shouldn’t be so hard, we’re talking about fictional vampires, can we all keep that in mind? It’s sad that this is the heart of so much tension right now.

People are not going to stop criticizing media. That much is true. We can try to unpack why they do, and I will take a small stab at it in this response.

Okay so here are my TL:DR main points:

1) Curate your experience.  People are not going to stop criticizing media. You can stop yourself from seeing it, though. The block button is your personal bouncer! Or, use Xkit’s blacklist feature which is more of a softblock.

2) I still say it's unfair to call the criticism vs. praise all purely a binary. There's a spectrum of feeling that isn't linear, bc you can like some changes and not like others. 

3) People criticize media, and everything in VC. People are criticizing this bc they are getting smtg they didn't expect, and want to say so. Rollin Jones has even invited criticism, as a person in the film industry, he knows his work product is subject to criticism!

4) Criticism of VC in general, including about the show, from what I’ve seen on Tumblr, is meant more as intellectual exercise and a way to find like-minded people. How many decades have we criticized VC? “VC is a trilogy!”, or “X is a problematic character and you can’t like him!” or “Anne Rice endorses the problematic content she writes in real life, it’s propaganda!” People are seeking other like-minded people, and they make their arguments. Whether this comes from deeply disliking/upset by their topic, it varies a lot, but I would say that some of the criticism could be that, but some is coming from other emotional states, some more neutral than negative. Some is curiosity more than a negative place. Some people really enjoy criticizing things! Academic fans, for sure.

5) People who enjoy the AMC show: Try not to take criticism of the show as a personal attack. If you’re hurt by that criticism, block the person! From what I’ve seen, criticism is often disclaimered with “this is only my opinion.” Even if it is intended as a personal attack, it’s words on a screen. Nothing more. “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” - Eleanor Roosevelt. People have to control their feelings and emotions because each person is responsible for their own feelings and emotions.

6) Engagement is engagement, negative or positive, and that’s ratings for the show. Content that draws engagement must be compelling to do both! After all, the opposite of love isn't hate, it's indifference. People don’t engage with content that’s boring. So the AMC show, at the very least, doesn’t appear to have committed the sin of being boring, and that’s a crime, canonically.

Rollin Jones: [X geffenplayhouse, Aug 20, 2015]:

“If there’s any problem with me as a writer, it’s that I’m crippled by, ‘Oh, I don’t wanna bore them!’” he says. “Mostly, it’s fun. There’s no other reason to do it. Nobody’s getting rich off it. So you want to have some fun, drink with some actors after, make sure one or two of your cast are having sex with each other. You wanna have created some love.”

Interview with the Vampire:

~~~~~

1) Curate your experience

Ultimately, we're all sharing this space together, at least for now. Anyone who doesn't want to see IWTV AMC criticism, or, conversely, anyone who doesn't want to see ppl enjoying it, the block feature is your personal bouncer! I also use Xkit’s Blacklist feature, which is a friendlier softblock.

2) I still say it's unfair to call the criticism vs. praise all purely a binary.

Some people love the changes AMC is making and some people don't, but I still say it's unfair to call it all purely a binary. There's a spectrum of feeling that isn't linear, bc you can like some changes and not like others.* Personally, I get why they had to age Claudia up, bc of the child actor labor laws, I assume that was of the issues back in 1994, too (tho, they did audition a ton of 5-6 yr olds, and none of them could act as well as Kirsten, so I think talent was - and is! - still a bigger factor than canon compliance for that role, it is for me, anyway, if I was casting that character).

*Obviously, there will always be the outliers who well and truly want a book-accurate adaptation and those who want a completely revamped version (pun intended!) that brings the story up to more current issues and morality. Neither can be totally satisfied bc the visual medium is necessarily different than the act of reading! Even the original LOTR trilogy, widely praised for canon-compliance, still changed things. I haven’t seen anyone on tumblr really seriously deeply upset about that, we all know here that that’s impossible. There are probably people on Facebook, Instagram, or YouTube who think 100% canon compliance is possible, and to them, I say, Wow you must be fun at parties 😅.

3) People criticize media, and everything in VC.

People who don't express their criticism/opinions are essentially accepting what they're given. 

Re: fictional content, people who are served something that isn't up to their expectations criticize it. "I ordered X and it's not X!" You know? We want to know why it's not what we expected, was it an intentional change, like someone decided to give me blueberry pancakes when I ordered chocolate chip? Maybe I should prefer blueberry pancakes, bc fruit is the healthier option, but it's still not what I expected, and maybe I dislike the texture of fruit in bread. Maybe I'm allergic to blueberries. IDK! But people instinctively want to say something so that the people who made the item are at least aware, and whether the criticism is in good faith, or whether the creators listen and/or accept the criticism or not, well, that's up to them. 

Anne Rice herself was famous for not accepting criticism, but that hasn’t stopped the fandom from criticizing VC canon itself for decades. More on that in a bit.

Rollin Jones said he’ll take criticism [X, Den of Geek article, July 22, 2022]:

What fan backlash are you predicting?

Look, if you can make it through these first seven episodes, I’ll be back at Comic-Con next year, and if you’re still upset with me, I will set myself up at a booth, and you can kick me in the shins. I’ll be there for you. I really do think [the fans] will be surprised at how we are constantly going back to the book.

We’ll see, I’m open to being pleasantly surprised. I’m ready to see this cover band rework and play these beloved songs, so to speak. Johnny Cash did such a moving cover of Trent Reznor’s “Hurt” that Trent said it was Johnny’s song now. 

Once Johnny Cash covers your song– it’s not your song anymore.

Here’s a few more Johnny Cash covered and commentary about them. 

4) Criticism of VC in general, including about the show, from what I’ve seen on Tumblr, is meant more as intellectual exercise and a way to find like-minded people. 

Criticism of the show is an intellectual exercise, especially in a fandom full of ficwriters and fanartists, we’re challenged with our own creative choices, I write fic, we want to know the reasons for the changes to canon. We like to speculate. And we have our own taste. Are these blueberry pancakes better than chocolate chip? If not, why not? Ultimately, maybe it’s a flavor preference, maybe you just prefer fruit and I prefer chocolate, but we can still talk about the merits and faults. I don’t think of this as “baiting” oneself. More on that later. If people can talk about specific reasons they’re enjoying the show, the other side of the coin can certainly be that people want to talk about the specific reasons why they dislike the show.

It’s also a way of finding like-minded people. I can't tell you how many times I've seen people state "VC is a trilogy!" in a way that was clearly intended to fish for more people who agreed with them, which is totally normal fandom behavior. Or how many times people have critiqued Antonio Banderas' Armand being aged up and not auburn-haired; they wanted a canon-compliant Armand, and they were disappointed with what they were served, no matter how pleased other people were with Antonio's performance. It doesn't matter that some people loved him! Other people didn't like it, they criticized it, and they continue to do so, as is their right. Personally, I loved Antonio's performance but I'm not a huge Armand fan, I'm fine with saying that I'm not as invested in him as the disappointed fans are/were. 

I also disagree that it's not fun for people to criticize AMC, bc it's fun for other people to criticize things! We've been doing it in VC fandom for decades. I’m pretty sure that the  "VC is a trilogy!" advocates have fun saying so, because they’ve kept it up for years. 

I confess I don’t really know what “baiting themselves” means. I assume it means tormenting themselves? Trying to be angry about it? Well, people do that, too. In our fandom, there's always room for more sadists and masochists! 😂

5) People who enjoy the AMC show: Try not to take criticism of the show as a personal attack.

I think one of the major fandom problems we have is this feeling that disagreement = attack. There’s a lot of tension right now. There are people who want to escalate it. Even if the criticism is an attack, please try not to engage with it, seek like-minded people to enjoy the show with <3

6) Engagement is engagement, negative or positive, and that’s ratings for the show. Kind of already explained this one!

#ask #anon #vampire chronicles #interview with the vampire #iwtv amc #advice #on fandom #on criticism #quote #actual quote #boredom is the one true crime #rollin jones #articles #long post

[ignify-caligo]

Hussar: 🤥, ☕️, 🙈, 🏊‍♂️, 🪤, 🚲, ☁️, 💗 no obligation to answer!

Ranger, my man I’m so sorry for coming with these after so long but my mind just said “You wanna write? Sike here you go: a writer’s block” hah. Tried my best to write something decent - hope you will like this as much as I liked writing it (even if I had to fight tooth and nail for some coherent thoughts lmao)!

oc emoji ask game here

🤥 LYING - are they good liars? do they have tells to show they're lying?

Telling white lies to appease someone you need to keep close to yourself is a need to have skill in the military. Of course, Hussar isn’t the type to even use those white lies - most of the time he’s straightforward with his opinion and thoughts. Even with that in mind it quickly can switch - try to toss him on the topic of a relationship and he immediately shuts down. Turns snappy with replying and the emotional wall he’s setting up is truly visible in his eyes - where they turn frigidly cold from their usual warmth. Where he usually will twitch his lips into smirks or small smiles when he tries to cut off the chase - his lips won’t even lift or frown, they stay as neutral as his replies. When some people tend to drag their gaze away whenever they lie to their conversation partner- he is the complete opposite. He will look straight into your eyes as if he was about to try and either melt your head with lasers or look into the deepest part of your soul. Another sign for whenever Hussar’s hiding something is the double work he does to keep his movements in check - we won’t go “deer in the headlight” still but often when not he will scratch at his stubble, especially on his scar crossing from the jaw up his cheek.

☕️ HOT BEVERAGE - do they prefer hot or cold drinks? what is their favourite drink?

Hussar is the highest-ranking caffeine addict in the “Polonaise” Squad (Drużyna “Polonez” - tysm to @u5an5 for the name idea ;> ). Without a cup of coffee in the morning, you may just sign your death certificate on the spot if you manage to get under his skin before his daily intake quota. His go-to preference for his coffee is ¾ water with a splash of milk and 2 teaspoons of sugar; if the proportions are slightly off he won’t complain openly but you will definitely see the furrowed brows of discontent he desperately tries to smooth out of his expression if he knows he’s being watched. Other go-to drinks of his are for example homemade kompot, a rare bottle of soda (usually coke) from time to time and scotch whiskey on the rocks or a shot of jägermeister or vodka with Gromsko whenever they meet up between all the chaos in their lives.

🙈 SEE-NO-EVIL - what's a side of your oc that they don't want to show other people?

The first thing which comes to mind when it concerns what he wouldn’t like other people to see is that Hussar would do anything to hide how vulnerable he truly is to his squad and loved ones getting harmed. Being the commanding officer, especially that high up the ranks comes with stuffing your own emotions down into the darkest corners of your heart, so no one can easily dig them up and use them against you or others. He will show that he cares but not how much he cares - he will filter out the magnitude of his feelings to not appear as “weakhearted” or being one to resolve into favouritism.

Another aspect of his is how easily stress can turn into impulsiveness and outburst of heated emotions. Anger in his case is a form of masking his vulnerability and how big of a toll his environment forces upon him. He acts cool and collected before the masses but easily dissolves in the safety of closed doors - people brush off his outbursts as a part of his “commanding personality/front” but the reality is: he’s falling apart at the seams whenever the situations get too heated and hides his fear of failure behind a mask of anger. Especially considering his fresh promotion to a general brigadier - the lowest rank of general in the Polish army, being thrown out to the deep sea is a great toll on his nerves.

🏊 SWIMMING - can they swim? or are they afraid of water? how well do they swim? how do they feel about swimming in the ocean?

He can swim that’s for certain - learned to do so by getting tossed into the lake by his parents and getting told to “wing it”. This skill got, even more, worked up on when he enlisted. Unfortunately, thanks to the creative way he was thought how to swim - he isn’t quite comfortable with the deeper bodies of water. He much prefers to swim in a familiar lake or pool than to get thrown into unknown waters, especially the ocean. Doesn’t necessarily mean he will lock up in fear because of it but he will definitely get uncomfortable - nonetheless, he will fight the feeling and the job done if he has to.

🪤 MOUSE TRAP - what will always lure them into certain danger? a loved one in danger? a promise of something they are always searching for?

As much as he tries to deny or dampen his obvious concern for every Polonaise member’s safety - he will go full-on instinct if he even suspects something happening to the people he counts as his family. Not even mentioning the person in danger being Gromsko, it’s game over for whoever dares to touch his boy. He is aware that all of them signed up for this themselves and they are aware of the risk taken - but he will take it upon himself to keep them safe because they are under his care and he’s responsible for all that happens (even though many of the things happening are not because of him - he will find a way to blame himself for it nonetheless).

🚲 BICYCLE - can they ride a bike? what do they remember from learning to ride a bicycle?

When he was younger the bicycle was his number one way to escape the militia and get home after the curfew has been implemented - so, of course, he can ride a bike. As any, he had a rough start with the falls and bumps from learning - but being as stubborn as he was and with the unique form motivation from his father (who would rather go “look at what the fuck you did with the pavement!” rather than focus on his son’s sniffling from his fall) he caught up on the basics rather quickly. In comparison to most people who usually don’t use bicycles after learning to drive cars or just getting older in general - he still keeps up with his riding. Weekend rides in the wild are for him a form of taking a breather in his tight schedules life: right besides taking hikes.

☁️ CLOUD - a soft headcanon

His flat has a guestroom combined with his office where most of the belongings you will find there are actually Gromsko’s. It isn’t an unusual sight to see Gromsko barging without beforehand notice into Hussar’s flat (though in all honesty with him having one of the two extra keys to the flat it technically isn’t barging in) with his travel bags and crashing down onto the living room’s sofa with a quiet groan. The warm smile spreading for a moment on Hussar’s lips - smoothing down all the nicks, scars and wrinkles of stress and heartbreak is on the same level of softness as his view of a tired Gromsko finally coming back to the place he can call his own home. As if a switch has been flipped the atmosphere of the mediocre flat has switched from a greyish hue to a bursting warm of colours. The soft purring of Hussar’s two cats enveloping the quiet reunion of many more to come is a point-blank cherry on top.

💗 GROWING HEART - if they have a crush, is it noticeable? what changes when they're in love?

After getting early wed and even faster divorced - he ultimately got himself stuck in the limbo of “not being worth it”. His first and only long-term relationship had ended with his wife leaving him after giving birth to their child with the reason being “that he wasn’t even remotely focused on their life and that he ran to the army for an escape”, essentially making him believe that it was all his fault it all ended. This in the end forced him to shut down all hope for any long-term relationship that wasn’t platonic. He gets all internal panic at the mere mention of someone being interested in him - body stiffening and his heart going minutely flatline because of it.

The same goes for when he catches bigger feelings than a simple crush - his supposed to keep it professional not get emotions mixed in there goddamit. Internalised homophobia isn’t helping much when it turns out he catches himself thinking too much about a certain brit. To someone who hasn’t known Hussar for years, he would seem quite normal and friendly around his crush - but internally he is about to implode. The way he fights to not flinch out of shock when Price touches his shoulder or when the brit brushes their hands as supposedly “on accident” is evident for someone like Gromsko who doesn’t take mercy on his older colleague/father figure and blankly points it out whenever he catches Hussar alone. Where Gromsko hammers with “Wybacz, ale czy ty jesteś kurwa ślepy czy jak? Ewidetnie on ma na ciebie chrapkę!” (Excuse me but are you fucking blind or what? Obviously, he has a crush on you!) Hussar replies with: “Chyba cię pojebało.” (it can mean “You lost your fucking mind” or smth along those lines).

#call of duty #call of duty mwii #call of duty oc #hussar oc #sobiesław gromsko kościuszko #captain price #caligo answers q. #this took like 2 nights of writing - why do I have to stay up late to be able to do shit I can’t get it lmao 😅😭 #also it’s currently 3 almost 4 am my coherent writing skills may have been effected by it pls excuse me for it 😅 #this one is so filled with world building facts that I will be shocked if anyone reads it lol #also now I be thinking about what the ship name for price x hussar would be - like the possibilities be endless #also watch me not killing a background character (hussar’s wife) like that’s a shock 😂 #this is for whoever got through my shitshow of thoughts: 🍪❤️

[redjaybathood]

i hate when “Jason is an abusive sibling” discourse spreads cause it just ends up with the most asinine takes from other batfam member fans and jason fans .

I only saw one post on this topic recently and don't remember enough from the old times before I figured out that there's content filters on this app. So I haven't the slightest idea what those takes might be.

In any case, my current point of view is: "none of them are abusive towards each other even if they are hostile and outright violent".

But again, maybe someone is seeing what I do not. I haven't read every Jason appearance ever. And - it's important to remember that mileage may vary. When I look at Bruce and recognize an abuser (or at the very least a toxic parent), and people around him victims or enablers, sometimes both. And when we get "good dad Bruce" moments, I see a honeymoon period. You know, that moment in the cycle where everything is good but that's because the penny isn't dropped yet.

But then I see people who read more comics than me, and have great meta - you know they, like, are way smarter than me, their analysis is - I'm not always agreeing, but it is a very well thought-out one, whereas I'm more like posting rants... Like. You have no idea how many times I had to delete a draft of a post I wrote today about my feelings on Gotham Knights 43-45, the story where Social Services investigates Bruce Wayne and Jason's death.

So, like. Those people, they know more, obviously, and they're not seeing him the way I see him. They see him as a struggling parent, a complex person etc. Like, who's right? I dunno. They are pretty convincing.

The same with this discourse. I dunno what other people are reading that I'm not. Maybe they're right, I'm wrong. Or maybe, their perception is influenced by either their preferences (who's their fav, who's their most hated character), or their experience with abuse at the hands of a sibling they wish their parent just disowned already, idk. Or both.

Asinine takes, imo, are not the real enemy here, but how conversations in fandom happen. How we communicate or discuss things. Whether we take things too close to heart or too personally. I love discussing fandom things with other people, even if opinions are the opposite of each other. It's just it ends up being deeply unpleasant more often than not. And it can further turn you off the character your opponent stans. Like, I used to hate Tim and Dick because I thought something like "ugh Tim/Dick stans are the worst". But why? They're just guys. They didn't steal my cow. That realization came to me after I was ready to be like: ugh Cassandra's fans are the worst - and then it hit me. But I'm Cassandra's stan. Sure, I don't see eye to eye with some other fans of hers, but who cares. Block and move on.

I haven't reached zen or anything. There are still takes that bother me, or things that just piss me off. But I'm sure it's the same the other way around. Sometimes I find a Tumblr where I agree with every single post they're making. And find out the user blocked me. Why? Probably because of my own asinine takes, or because they think I'm obnoxious or whatever. And you know what? Good for them. That's how you do it.

#asks #jason todd

[theskybluesky]

Accidentally found out today that my bro’s gf actually dislikes us haha.

I felt sad because reality often hides behind a sweet smile. I always thought she was a genuine, extroverted soul but I guess I didn’t truly understand her. I wonder if she’s annoyed with our family’s habits?

When I first found out my bro had a gf, I was so happy for him. Being the quiet guy he is, I always hoped he would find someone suitable for him. At the start, I was excited to meet her. I secretly hoped we would have a relationship akin to sisters since I’ve never had a sister before.

I always admire that she exerts a lot of effort to show care towards my parents during celebrations e.g. sending pretty gifts to our house for every occasion. Her family background is quite different from ours in the sense that she never grew up with siblings, her mother passed away a few years back and she has a complicated relationship with her dad. As such, I assumed that she would be comforted that my brother has a relatively normal, supportive family who will always have her back.

I wonder at which point did she start wanting to avoid us? Everything is sunshine and roses at the start of a relationship, but as two lives slowly merge into one, there are bound to be misalignments and road blocks. I of all people understand that my family is a difficult bag of personalities.

It’s overwhelming even for me, to spend too much time with my mum. It’s not that I don’t love her, she’s just a very hypocritical person. Someone that wants things her way and loses her temper easily. Someone who talks behind the backs of others and has opinions about everything. Yet she will say that it’s not right to badmouth others and emphasize that she’s not that kind of person.

I know it’s difficult to get along with her. It’s tiring, and she’s the only person that can make me angry consistently. She’s the main reason why I had to move out to my own apartment. Honestly, I would be exhausted having her as a mother in law haha.

My dad is a generous and talkative person. However, he knows not to overstep boundaries and is generally a relaxed person. I imagine his only frictional point with my bro’s gf is that he’s super clingy towards my brother and me. He wants us to always be together and eat every meal together. This often means that she needs to come along cause it wouldn’t be right for my brother to neglect her to spend time with us. After eating, my dad is often still not satisfied and would want to do activities together until late at night. It can get very tiring for an outsider to spend so many hours entertaining someone else’s family. Especially when she has to act like she’s in the best of moods and appear to be happy throughout the night. My dad also has the bad habit of wanting to control the conversation at every meal. He is a bad listener, and he expects all of us to listen to his stories at work, his interests, his personal views. That’s pretty much the reason why my bro and I became introverted listeners in the family. Cause both of our parents are dominant types.

As for me, I guess she could dislike me for being messy sometimes or being too indecisive. I often try to accommodate to whatever others want to do, so it’s hard for me to actually make choices. I’m hopeless in that sense cause my mind literally turns blank when I’m faced with options. As she’s the opposite of me, I can imagine she would be annoyed internally when she’s talking to me.

I’m lost now after finding out about her true feelings. I can try to advise my parents to give her more space, but at the same time I wouldn’t know how to explain to them the reason behind my advice. If I don’t do anything, will this become a significant pain point between my brother and her? I’m scared that it creates a drift between them. I know the easiest thing for me to do is to just act like I don’t know anything, but it just goes against my instinct when I know I can help.

I think eventually, she will need to communicate this clearly to my brother. That she doesn’t enjoy spending time with us. I just wonder how my brother will react once he knows. I know my brother has always been a responsible son and brother. He’s so good towards me and I know he always prioritizes our family. I don’t want them to grow apart because of us.

Maybe it’s because I’m in a relationship now where the other party also has a significant bond with his own family. I know the feeling of being present with another family yet not truly feeling heard or prioritised. However, I do know that communication solves a lot of tension in situations like this. Sometimes, we just need to speak our minds and voice out the ugly truths. Nobody is perfect, we all have pet peeves and annoyances. This negative energy only becomes a problem when it’s left to broil and accumulate into a giant blackhole. To be honest, all my previous relationships ended due to a build up of negative emotions. Simply because I always held everything in until I felt numb and burnt out inside. Until the flame inside me died.

Sigh, this post can go on for ages without a viable solution. I just hope that I can treat her better, be kinder to her and understand her better. I wish she knew that I understand her struggles and that she can rely on my brother and me to face our family together.

[92fs]

4, 10 for ask game

4. What was the last straw that made you finally block that annoying person?

Obviously, they were wrong about everything they said.

10. Worst part of fanon:

I'm going to kill someone on this hill so buckle up: I hate nearly everything about fanon Light Yagami. More here:

I think the root of the issue with characterization of Light in the fandom is that people want him so bad that it makes them really stupid about him as a character. Mostly, they want to act like apologists for the character who, imo, was never meant to be seen in any positive light.

The worst parts of fanon Light are his babyfication and glorification. And no, I don't fucking care about Moral Implications TM of liking a guy that recites rhetoric of cleansing the world from the Wrong Kind of People. I just don't think that you (generalized) can read DN in the way it was intended to be if you're "on Light's side". Also, you're kind of hilariously prone to being swayed by propaganda.

Fanon Light is the kind of guy that makes me go "he would not fucking say any of that". He's too nice, he's too caring, he's too kind, he's too sweet, he's too cute. Whenever I see anyone pity him for "being swayed by the notebook" I recall that he hesitated to kill literally for a single page, and only because he was scared of being caught. Guy's got no morals. You're projecting.

Canon Light is a manipulative bitch with a tiny ego that gets deservingly called childish at least thrice in the anime alone; he's the Worst Guy Around. He has every issue in the book and he doesn't care, he uses people, and especially women; he gets pissy whenever anyone is better than him. Near should have bullied him more. Canon Light is a brat. He would get mad if you called him that. I think canon Light would kill himself before he wears a skirt, and we know that he would literally never kill himself. That's my general opinion on him and why I Hate Fanon Light Yagami.

Another worst part of fanon Light, to me, is Literally Everything about how Lawlight is commonly presented. It's far often too fluffy, too cute, and too nice. I think the only Lawlight to exist is non-romantic hate-based Lawlight. I see literally 0 love between them. They should kill each other actually.

Also, I'm not even Light's fan, he's my least favorite character. But fanon Light and canon Light are polar opposites. And that's sad.

Question list: 🔥

#ASK #🔥

[sisterssafespace]

Asalamualaykum i pray you're well❤️. Ive been really struggling to distance myself from my non Muslim friends and cut ties from them. When i am around them it really affects my eeman and to them im the friend that is always available and easily accessible. I do have Muslim friends but its is hard to see them as often as my non Muslim friends. I also do spend a lot of time alone but i try not to spend to much time alone because i dont want to fall into sin. If im being honest i also have this issue with alot of my non Practising Muslim family. I struggle to say "no" to them all. Could really do with some advice on how to deal with these situations 🥺. May Allah reward you and keep you steadfast❤️.

Wa alaykum assalamu wa rahmatu Allahi wa barakatuhu sweetie,

Your ask was very earnest Allahuma barik, it always warms my heart to get such asks from sisters who are trying to become a better Muslimah, are curious, eager to learn, May Allah set bless you immensely ✨

However, I felt a little out of my depth here because I was born and raised in a Muslim-majority country so I did not have similar experiences, that is why I asked the opinion of my sisters and I got you a great answer. I just want to say one thing before I let you know what she said. I, honestly, don't think you should completely cut ties with your non-muslim friends, you should definitely not associate with their non-halal activities like if they are free mixing, going to parties, going somewhere where there is drinking and stuff, skipping your prayers to hang out with them, that's absolutely a no, without having to compromise for anyone. But being or becoming a Muslim does not mean you delete their number or block them or stop having conversations with them. On the contrary, now you have a mission to get them to know real Islam through you, through your kindness, your truthfulness, your generosity, your humbleness, your modesty, your smile, good manners and good character. You may inspire one or some of them to want to learn more about our beautiful religion and challenge their prejudice on Islam. If you just cut ties with them, you might as well reinforce those prejudices. Islam is not a religion of narrow-mindenedss and discrimination. It is the total opposite. Islam promotes tolerance and acceptance, and you should show them that 🤍.

Now that was my humble opinion and I will leave you with the brilliant and sweet answer of one of my favorite sisters:

" I think it's actually mature to embrace the current situation and work on personal growth while keeping those connections alive with her Muslim buddies, even if it's all happening online.

Obv her non-muslim friends have also a place in her life, and I think she is dealing with it well, but I can imagine the struggle... It is not easy at all for many people, considering us being social creatures.

I've got a hunch that sooner or later, she's going to find herself surrounded by the awesome company and friendship she's seeking. I mean, she's out there building this amazing character and placing religion and good character right at the top of her checklist for friends and this will make her very selective and in the future will bless her with people like her 🤷‍♀️

But for now, let's just roll with what's available and make the best out of it. Try to stay connected with friends despite the miles between them, working on yourself, engaging with her non-muslim friends as well, why not, if it doesn't damage her!

It actually good that she actually has some muslim friends, despite them being far from her, i think she can live out of their blessings, as we girls do "

*****

I pray Allah swt resolve your dilemma and grant you good pious religious friends that you can feel connected to and comfortable with my dear, I pray He rewards you immensely and bring you closer to Him, ameen.

I entrust you to Allah,

- A. Z. 🤍🍃

#sisterssafespace

[xshazxx]

I'm writing this in genuine good faith, so I hope you're able to respond similarly. I've tried not to inadvertently hurt you in any way with this ask, and I'm sorry if I do despite those efforts. I often see people send you asks wondering why folks like me keep returning to your blog if we disagree with your opinions. That's a valid question. I've thought about it a lot this past year and just wanted to share my perspective. I hope that's okay.

As a bisexual person in a long-term relationship with someone of the opposite gender, what I've realised is that to me, your insistence on finding fault with most aspects of Ronen's relationship with Jessica feels like his bisexuality (and therefore my own) is more valid if he (or I) are in a same-sex relationship. I know you've probably never said those exact words, but that's how your criticism of Jessica comes across to me. I follow so many gay/lesbian celebs and I've never seen their partners (who're also celebs) be criticised in the same way. Those famous partners aren't always expected to be picture-perfect media-friendly extroverts, or to be outspoken about their support for other queer groups just because of their partner's or their own sexuality. I know you probably compare Jessica and Rafael because Ronen & Rafa are such a cute couple onscreen, so it's nice to sometimes wonder "what if they were together for real?". I wondered and hoped for that all the time too before I found out he was with Jessica. When he came out, it felt so encouraging and empowering to me personally, so now to see his relationship be criticised hurts too. It reminds me of how my partner can't seem to do anything right according to others. Both straight 'allies' and queer 'friends' are always finding fault with them, and it hurts me to see them be hurt like that.

Most days I know that validating my identity and feelings is my own responsibility, not yours. Most days I know that revisiting your blog is an exercise in self-sabotage. Most days I'm very good about staying away. But sometimes, I slip up. I used to follow you pretty religiously, here and on Twitter, before your words hurt me (in an indirect, probably unintentional way). I can't seem to fully give up the hope that you might reconsider your stance, that you might care more about the implications of your words rather than the idea of losing out on gossipy fun. I can't EXPECT you to, and I don't, not really. But a part of me can't seem to stop hoping. In a way, it hurts less to hope and be disappointed by you, a stranger on the internet, than to experience it from my own friends and family.

Okay so here's the thing, as a bi woman myself, I don't think I should be responsible to validate your feelings.

I am not expecting straight alliship from everyone I meet.

However someone with an LGBTQ+ partner should have some responsibility in uplifting our community and spreading awareness, especially someone who is an activist and has the platform to do so.

Her silence in regards to her husband's sexuality is not the concern really, it's the fact that she often celebrates his victories in the public eye but never shares any support to a community that he's proud to belong in. So thus making me, personally and others feel like, she isn't as supportive of him being his true self nor is supportive of his community. We often feel this way because we love Ronen and his coming out have alot of us, myself included, the courage and faith we didn't find for ourselves.

I'm not going to apologize for the things I feel. And I'm mot going to apologize or take responsibility for your feelings, I do not know you and you do not know me. At the end of the day, to bring yourself the peace you need, block me.

[goron-king-darunia]

Problem...

Annon-Guy: I had to use Submission to say and ask something important.

Apparently, I NEED a tumblr account to ask anonymously from now on and that's stupid!

I'm also not sure about a tumblr page, but are there benefits to having a Page. It would destroy my anonymous persona and I'm don't wish to run into problematic people despite having a YouTube and Fanfic.Net account

GKD here! That does seem weird. Maybe it’s to cut down on anonymous hate messages?

I enjoy having my blog and my page, personally. But I have been here for 10+ years. Honestly, I’ve never had trouble with people being mean to me or running into “problematic people.” Honestly, any time there’s a confrontation, I’m usually the one being the asshole/ unnecessarily aggressive.

Honestly, especially if you intend to lurk/not post original content often, Tumblr is pretty chill. For me at least. I got, like, exactly one piece of legitimate anon-hate thrown at me exactly one time. I’ve talked with people on Tumblr who have the exact opposite political opinions to me and not had explosive dragging drama fights about it.

Granted. Most of the stuff I do on Tumblr is gush about Legend of Zelda, DotNW, a few other fandoms, and then repost a bajillion memes. But I’m pretty openly political with what I reblog, and fairly opinionated. Though most of my opinions are about a game that most of the USA fandom HATED. So my bubble here is pretty niche. But, like. Most of the people in my immediate circle are excellent people and all the people in their circles have so far been delightful. I can honestly only think about exactly one time that someone random searched up a post of mine to get irrationally angry at. And yes I drafted several pages of clap back and then just... the fire of anger fizzled and I never posted it because their irrational hatred just wasn’t worth my time.

I can’t promise you a drama-free experience on here. But I’ve got this blog and a side blog where I mostly talk about my writing or my experiences with video games. And neither of my blogs are lightning rods for anyone’s ire. Hell, when I started this blog, my about section on my page was basically giving people ammo to harass me with. Unless your blog becomes massively popular, I think you’re going to be fine. And if assholes do come knocking for whatever reason? We have the handy little block feature.

That said, you don’t really have to provide any IRL info when you make a blog here. My real name isn’t associated with either of my accounts. You could theoretically just whip up an account with the handle “ThatOneAnnonDude” or something generic, set up your blog title to be “I’m just here to talk games and read memes, and I’m all out of memes.” and just... post absolutely nothing or absolutely anything. And I think you’d generally be okay. I dunno if I’m just lucky, but my experience with Drama™ on Tumblr has mostly been as a spectator. At arm’s length. More like looking over to the mountains on the horizon with binoculars and seeing some smoke rising and thinking to myself “Glad that’s not me, wow.” and continuing with my day.

Personally, I like being able to curate my blog. Gather up a bunch of things that I like and categorize them with tags so I have my own little scrapbook of goodies I can look at (I literally have a tag that’s just “#for the sad times” so if I feel sad I can just pull up that tag on my blog and find all sorts of cute puppy and kitten videos or recipes, or nature photos, or whatever I saw that made me smile once so that I can feel better again. It’s nice.) It’s nifty to be able to tag a bunch of things so that if I want art inspo or a nice reference photo or a knitting project I want to emulate, or whatever, I can just search it up on my own blog and find a bunch of stuff I liked before. It’s nice to be able to search through my Richter tag and see pictures of him that other people drew or re-read some of my own opinions (all the while nodding along like “Yas, I agree so much!” while fully knowing that’s my own damn post. XD) It’s fun to follow a bunch of cool people and get introduced to stuff through osmosis. (I have, like, one person I followed on here for their exquisite taste in ramen art and I am learning so much about the “The Last of Us” HBO show. I have another friend who I followed for DotNW stuff and it turns out they’re just mostly into birds, and it turns out I enjoy learning about birds.)

Honestly it does suck that Tumblr is removing a feature that makes it easier to communicate with me. But Tumblr has been an enjoyable experience to me. I’m just a young whippersnapper practicing for the granny years, sitting on my metaphorical porch with a glass of metaphorical wine, sipping and scrolling through memes, knitting a hat for one of my buds, deciding on a new recipe to make for dinner, listening to goth icons talk about Tumblr culture or a politics video or a Archie Sonic Comics deep dive, procrastinating on my novel. I’m just vibing. I’m having a good time. And occasionally new people with DotNW icons will start following me like I’m a mother duck and I’m like “yes, good, even if we ship different ships, you have impeccable tastes. Welcome to the DotNW table, here are 900 memes, the rare fanfic, and occasionally some opinions. Also here are a billion other memes about irrelevant things, enjoy your stay.”

I’m like an old man at the swap meet. I’m sitting here with a table full of bootleg Yugioh cards (memes), Random DVDs (gifsets of things I like), old classic literature (the really good memes that get passed around a lot) and Slim Jims (opinions, curated art, and idea prompts about specific characters and games.)

It’s fine if you’re shy or prefer not to have a Tumblr for any other reason and I understand if we might have to communicate only through submissions from now on. But honestly, Tumblr is a pretty chill place to be as long as you don’t go picking fights on purpose and block anyone that makes you even remotely unhappy. It takes a little getting used to, since Tumblr as a site has its own sort of culture. But hey! Tumblr also has resident meme historians.

If you want to give Tumblr a try, I think it’s worth a shot. My only gripe is that I get major FOMO, so I compulsively scroll Tumblr every day and then overwhelm myself by drafting an infinite number of posts that look neat but I want to read and tag properly before posting and WHOOPS now I have 300,000 drafts to comb through instead of just deleting them all because “what if there was something good in there that I’ll miss?”

But if you have even an ounce of self control and don’t have to compulsively read or reblog everything, then congrats! Tumblr’s probably worth a shot.

It’s also worth noting that I’m a massive mother hen, so I will keep you nice and cozy and tucked under my wing and if anyone gives you a bad time I will peck the shit out of them for you.

#Letters from Annon Guy #Like I said #if you can control yourself and not let Tumblr take over your life #by all means join us on Tumblr #but if you're already addicted to your phone #this place will make it worse #because we are all terminally online and we do not shut up #and we will flood your dashboard with way too many interesting things #I say this as someone addicted to my phone and chronically online

[msmatx]

02.26.23-03.05.23— Week 21 [TLV]

It was a quietish week. I had my mediation workshop most days, which made for long days away from A+H. I think Atlas mostly liked the alone time though I do worry about him. He did his school work during the morning, and ran errands and spent time with Hero in the afternoon and evening. It was much harder for Hero who would great me at the door “I haven’t seen you since 8 this morning! That’s 12 hours!!!!” Hero has always been the master of telling and keeping time so it’s hard to know if he missed me or just wanted me to know he knew exactly how much time had passed. They did an amazing job of taking care of each other.

On Saturday, Hero’s friend, Ayal, came to play after our afternoon at the schoolyard. Arielle [Emanuel’s mom] and I have been paying a soccer coach to play one-on-one with the two boys every Saturday. They have a great time getting the coach’s undivided attention and then playing for another two hours or so. Other kids are usually at the schoolyard to join them after their soccer lesson. And Arielle and I sit and chat the entire time. She is always so fun because she holds nothing back. She’s Austrian but has lived in Israeli for 20 years. She’s traveled all over the world having worked in the hospitality business. She’s very no nonsense and has lots of opinions and observations. Ayal and his little brother Noam live half time with their dad one block from our apartment. Their mother is from California so they speak perfect English. Hero was very excited to have him to our apartment for a play date.

On Tuesday night, after being gone all day, Hero wanted my full attention and went through his school picture roster. He told me about everyone, wanted me to tell him their age, and any other details I could translate with google app. He so loves his school, peers, and especially his teacher, Alon. The US could really learn a lot from the value of male teachers. It makes such a tremendous difference.

Wednesday was a "Day of Disruption," something that is becoming a more regular occurrence. I debated taking A+H but ultimately decided that if things became uncomfortable, it would be trickier to get Hero out of the area than Atlas. These demonstrations involve hundreds of thousands of people attempting to [often successfully] stop traffic or slow movement. There are tons of flags and noise makers, and people are chanting and singing. They usually head down a major thoroughfare and different groups convene on the highway or near the airport and stop traffic for hours. In the US I'd be terrified that someone would drive a car into the crowd or start shooting. The atmosphere is the complete opposite. It is calm and peaceful, and it can be joyful at times. I find it very emotional and Atlas thinks I am nuts.

That evening we took advantage of my not having class and Hero went for a bike ride while Atlas and I ran along the beach.

Friday my mediation workshop was meeting on campus. By Friday, Hero was tired of going to school [it is a six-day school week!]. So, he and Atlas begged me to come along with me to the university. An early morning bus ride for Hero is always more exciting than first grade! Unfortunately, when we arrived we learned that the campus water main was shut off so all the restaurants and cafes on campus were closed. After an hour, they went home alone while I completed my workshop.

When I was done we all went out for our Friday Shabbat shopping. We always head to our Dizengoff bakery for our Friday afternoon snacks, people watching, and weekend pastry buying.

On our way home we came upon the Love Boat theme party at our Dov Hoz cafe. This was the weekend before Purim. Something we learned is that Israel loves a holiday, especially a joyous one so Purim, an otherwise 2-3 day festival holiday was stretched from the weekend, through the work week, and still going the weekend after. The cafe party had acrobats, music, and carnival food and game stations. It was so lively and fun.

That evening we headed out for our pre-Shabbat run/walk along the beach.

[amynchan]

Everyone's got a right to their own experience with characters.

Like, it's more than an opinion. People experience things when they're faced with characters that act a certain way. Characters are often exaggerated in order to help the story along, and stories are meant to affect people, so good characters affect people. Some of the effects are intentional, some of them aren't, and it's 100% okay that people have a different experience than you.

Like, when I was watching Encanto, I was so excited for Abuela to come talk to Mirabel. To me, that was a step towards healing. Abuela knew where Mirabel had gone and had actually gone to talk to her. Not only that, Abuela was being real and ate her own words of her own volition. That was amazing for me, who doesn't see that happen a whole lot and wishes to high heaven that it would happen more often, and I was thrilled. However, my siblings, who've had older people come to talk to them when they just wanna be left alone, immediately wanted Abuela to fall into a ditch. They wanted Mirabel to get angry and stand up for herself and defend her worth and her actions.

Neither of these interpretations are the wrong way to interact with Abuela because our difference didn't mean that we instantly hated each other. Instead, it was kinda fascinating to see where they were coming from because I'd never seen someone actively coming up to you and being straight up as a bad thing, and I hope they thought my POV was at least a little interesting. We didn't belittle each other or call each other names or accuse one another of being xyz because we interacted with a set of characteristics differently from one another.

Characters are characters. Good characters—not "moral" or "righteous" or "best," but "good"—make the audience feel things.

In Fruits Basket, Shigure makes me so infuriated because I met him when I was wrestling with this gray morality thing. I know several people who love him and his conniving little ways. The two reactions can—and, tbh, probably should—coexist in this world.

In Steven Universe, when Pearl and Amethyst fight, their division makes me hurt because I've been drawn to care about both characters. There were lots of people who took Pearl's side. There were lots of people who took Amethyst's. Both could be justifiable, and a lot of people got so invested. Pearl and Amethyst made the audience feel things, and that's kinda the point.

In Modao Zushi, Jiang Cheng is an incredibly divisive character (for good reason!), but he's a good character. Some people hate him and can back that up with the text and their own experiences. Some people love him and can back that up with the text and their own experiences. It's great! It kinda sucks to see an excess of an opposite opinion, but, like, they're allowed to have that. My experience doesn't make yours invalid, and your experience doesn't make mine invalid. They're just... different.

You're allowed to look at the same text, the same character, the same story, and feel different things from another person based on that text, character, and story. It's honestly part of the fun. And if you can't interact with people who hold that different opinion (for literally any reason ranging from "this is my chill spot and I'm not about to argue with somebody over something that doesn't matter" to "the opinion I hold is tied very closely to core aspects of my personality [trauma, strongly held beliefs, etc] and seeing its opposite physically and mentally unsettles me" to "stars. not today."), then that's fine. Block the tags. Ignore. Let it goooooo (had to).

They're characters. We love them, we hate them, they make us feel things, and we sometimes do some self-reflection using them as a guide (I find that this is where a lot of anger comes from? Maybe that's just me.). But we don't have to sit there and accuse someone else that they're xyz for hating/loving/not appreciating a character.

These are stories. These are characters. They may touch on our heartstrings and make our experiences and traumas feel validated, but they do the same thing in different ways for other people. And that's okay.

We can use that to learn about other people instead of immediately condemning them. If you don't want to engage with the other interpretations/experiences, then cool. If you wanna hate a character in peace, just make sure you've got the 'anti-' tag ready to go so people don't walk into your shop ready for something they ain't gonna get.

Just... yeah. Characters, experiences, and fandoms. We don't gotta be at each other's throats all the time.

#Encanto #Abuela #Mirabel #Fruits Basket #FB #Shigure #Shigure Sohma #Steven Universe #SU #Pearl #Amethyst #MDZS #Modao Zushi #Modaozushi #Grandmaster of Demonic Cultivation #Jiang Cheng #OnTheSeries