#I'm the eldest

[ace-culture-is]

Ace culture is being glad you have cishet allo siblings who can provide the grandkids and actually are providing grandkids and that, as the youngest, no one really bothers you about kids, especially since you're trans and not straight as well

#asexual #asexuality #ace culture #ace culture is #actually ace #anonymous #children #I'm the eldest

[gendernonconformingpriestess]

I think about this a lot. 

#I'm the eldest #and I am #a lesbian #my friend is also the eldest #and she's #bisexual #do with that info what u want #LGBTQIA #maybe it just means #queer #? #ace #nonbinary #aro #lesbian #afab enby #afab demigirl

[three-cheers-for-pretty-odd]

if

eldest child: bitch

middle child: dumbass

youngest child: thot

how am i all three?

#why? #i'm the eldest #why am i all three? #ana.txt

[echoedb]

Me always keeping my sister apprised of @taylorswift stuff while she at work like 😎 I’m a cool sister. *insert “i’m a cool mom” gif*  @taylornation

#taylor swift #taylornation #taylurking #ts7 #me! #i'm the eldest #like by a lot #french speaking taylor is the taylor we never knew we needed

[castiel]

Succession - character thesis statements

#succession #successionedit #succession hbo #tvedit #tvgifs #jennmishgifs #my gifs #ngl kendall's hits me the hardest #eldest sibling (sorry connor) trauma of- if i'm not needed... then what am i for?

[seance]

ANTHONY and BENEDICT in Bridgerton season 2.

#bridgertonedit #bridgerton #bridgerton spoilers #perioddramaedit #anthony bridgerton #benedict bridgerton #edits #userbecca #i had to leave out so many scenes and i'm sad! #probably gonna make another one cause i loved seeing their dynamic this season ): #you already know my brand are siblings and found families #the fact that they're the eldest but with such contrasting energies #make their obvious brotherly affection for each other even more important #let's go balance #what are these colors don't ask

[fantastic-nonsense]

sometimes I wonder how many times DC's writers are going to have to say "Tim doesn't want to be Batman" before the fandom absorbs it, because I still see so many people talking about how Tim should take up the cowl while Tim's literally said like a dozen times that he never wants it

#tim drake #dc comics #batfam #battle for the cowl non-withstanding (b/c it's an exception and also Tim didn't want it even then) he's said it sooooo many times #it's a consistent trait! he doesn't want the cowl and the concept of being like bruce scares the hell out of him #anyway the only valid options for post-Bruce Batman are Dick and Cass #Dick because it's cool character exploration and EXCELLENT 'I'm the eldest; it's my duty' angst potential #and Cass because she actually wants it and it's a natural evolution of her character arc

[hunting-season]

Can I request a Big brother like friendship drink with the dorm leaders and the reader with the reader who love plushies so much to the point that they room is filled with plushies please?

Yes!! I too have many plushies...so this is easy to imagine wwww Apologies if Kalim->Malleus are OoC! I do not know much abt them yet. Their sections are also shorter due to this, m'srry :(

Older Brother-like!Dorm Leaders w/ a GN!Reader who loves plushies a lot!

The dorm heads don't think they treat you any differently from any other student; the ones under their care and the ones from other dorms. Except they do treat you differently, and when it clicks in their mind...

Riddle Rosehearts

He does not realize he's taken on an older brother figure role with you until he's talking with Trey one day about you

Riddle mentions how you passed a test recently with higher marks than you expected, and how happy you were to tell him about it

Trey makes a comment on how his younger siblings would act like that too and oh.

It clicks in Riddle's head that you might see him as an older brother figure, and he views you as a younger sibling

The signs were so obvious with some being but not limited to: him being the first you went to when you needed help, calling out to him in the halls and walking with him to talk for a bit, sharing food with each other...

He'd panic, but he's going to see you soon anyway for a study session at Ramshackle.

Riddle remembers a conversation between you and Ace, the latter teasing you over your large collection of plush dolls.

He decides to add to your collection and buy you some more. Riddle's confident he knows your likes and dislikes, so he picks a cute pair of cat plushies

(it was a buy 1 get 1 deal! and the cats are sort of matching...there was a big red cat and a small white one)

Riddle's been to Ramshackle before, but only on the lawn and at the front gate. He's never stepped inside, which he's thankful for since now he can treat the plushies as "a gift for letting him in"

The next time Riddle visits, he's happy to notice the cat plushies are stitched together.

Leona Kingscholar

He doesn't really care what you think of him. You come around, hang out, get too loud for his sensitive ears before lowering your voice back down--

Leona tolerates you, and sometimes gives his own two cents when you're complaining about something

The only time he'll visibly show he cares about your person is when you're in danger

"Oi, what are you lot doing? Attempting to catch another's prey...you're really stupid, aren't ya?"

Leona's a little tsundere about admitting he cares for you. But it's okay! It's part of why you like him.

Speaking of likes, Leona is aware of your obsession with plushies. Again, he doesn't care, but he does tease you abt it from time to time.

He's sort of a gifter; Leona'll give you or Ruggie money to buy a plushie for you(rself)

Sometimes he'll swipe a plush from you to sleep with for a while before giving it back. Some of your plushies are comfy! And it's very normal for siblings to share things, right?

Leona is 100% the seemingly obnoxious but secretly very caring big brother. The L in Leona can stand for lazy and loving!!!

Azul Ashengrotto

Of course Azul knows about your...affinity for plushies! He knows all your likes and dislikes because it's basic client info!

Under the sea, there's no real concept of plushies. If it's soft it's meat, a common lesson all merfolk learn.

Anyway, it's part of his (mental) file that you like plushies, so he's only so happy to engage with you about your interests! Which one have you brought to class today?

Azul only realizes he doesn't see you as a potential client when you showed him one of your favorite plushies--a purple-and-pink octopus that smelled of berry jam--and he...

...okay, look, Azul felt genuinely happy you were showing him something precious to you, even if it was simple and silly

He thought long and hard about what this feeling could mean, eventually reaching the point he...cared for you.

Well. That's no good for an emotionally stunted octopus.

Azul will persevere! And also acquire you some more plushies of underwater creatures "by chance."

Azul's noticed your lack of sea creature plushies. He's going to fix that! And if you already have a lot...more wouldn't hurt.

It's also easier to help rope you into filling in shifts at the Lounge! Azul may have become your pseudo-older brother, but older siblings can still be a little mean and make their younger siblings do some work for them <3

Kalim Al-Asim

He became your older brother the moment he thought you reminded him of his younger siblings back at home

Whoops! Guess this means Kalim has to take care of you now!

And by Kalim, I mean Jamil

(Sorry Jamil...on the bright side, someone you can trust will also be watching Kalim? or not, ehehe)

Anyway, Kalim loves !!!! spoiling you with plushies !!!! Tell him what you'd like and he'll get it for you !!!!

He begs Jamil to teach him how to sew...he wants to hand-make you a plushie!!! That'd be super cool of him to, right?

His handmade plushie is supposed to be your favorite animal. It finds a home on your backpack as you take it with you (and Kalim!) everywhere

Vil Schoenheit

Vil mistakes his affections for you as just being his favorite makeup tester

He likes that you're not fussy when he puts makeup on you! Sure, sometimes you squirm because it's been too long, or a brush tickled you, but you're still workable with

But he's smart! He figures out he thinks of you as a sibling eventually--mostly due to Rook talking about the beauty of found family and how siblings can be so wondrous

(I just think Rook having siblings is funny. Do you think they play-hunt each other? I digress.)

Vil doesn't mind the revelation. It's already happened, and feelings are fickle. Besides, he still really needs a makeup tester.

But if he starts gifting you plushies he buys and customizes during his free time, well, it's just thanks for being his favorite

Idia Shroud

He likes playing games with you! Yea, you like never beat him, but you're also super excited to just play and learn new games with him, so it's all good!

Idia also has his own plushies. Mostly anime merch but also the miscellaneous cat plush here and there, so he doesn't care about you having your own liking of plushies.

Ortho is the one who helps Idia realize he's practically pseudo-adopted you as a little sibling.

He was planning on making Ortho a really cool skin (think Ortho's different "clothes")

(Idia vc) I wonder if Y/N would like something similar

(Ortho vc) I can run data for you to approximate their reaction, but I think the simple answer is yes! Anyone would like a gift from someone they view as their older sibling.

(Idia vc) Yea you're righ-- WAIT.

Idia went into Super Panic Mode. He doesn't mind viewing you as a younger sibling, but what if you did?! Ortho tries to calm him down but Idia can't help it!! He doesn't even have a high charisma stat, so how did you find him as a brother?? He's a pathetic brother!!

You two never talk about it 'cause Idia might die from embarrassment. But Idia isn't a total noob at being a brother, so he does get you more plushies. Maybe too many in the eyes of others. Idia can't help it though! Giving gifts is just an easy way to let you know he thinks of you and cares for you.

Malleus Draconia

He thinks it's cute how you have so many plushies. They're just soft decorations/childrens' toys in his eyes.

Not like he minds though. He likes gargoyles and you listen to him about them, so he's going to listen to you talk about the plushies you like!

He'll try to remember the names you give each/to the more important ones, too!

Malleus comes to your sibling-like relationship conclusion on his own. He just looks at Lilia talking with you one day, and his heart and brain click together to refer to you two as family.

So you're part of Malleus's family now!!! no take-backs :)

With your newfound status as Malleus's younger sibling in his mind, he'll start dropping gifts onto you! Insanely high-quality plushies, because you like them! And the occasional gargoyle, to help liven your place up.

#twst #twisted wonderland #twisted wonderland x reader #twst imagines #twisted wonderland & reader #dormouse escapes #riddle rosehearts #leona kingscholar #azul ashengrotto #kalim al-asim #vil schoenheit #idia shroud #malleus draconia #older sibling behavior source: me :) #i'm an eldest daughter hashtag trauma #SLASH LH im perfectly normie <3 #srry this took a while tho ACK

[slashingdisneypasta]

Oh i have one:

Eldest daughter syndrome is knowing if you lose composure, everyone else will too so you have to keep it together if you want to upkeep the liveable atmosphere. Basically, not having a safe place to fall apart when you are that for everyone else.

#Eldest Daughter Syndrome #Eldest daughter right here #with a younger brother with anger issues and a younger sister that seems to hate our mother. #and a mother who takes off when its not working. #and a father who's more a best friend. #and i'm obnoxious in my effort to keep everyone CHILL- so i guess i fit. #makes sense now that i think about it why i seemed to gravitate towards the fictional characters that arent overly emotion-heavy #no sad boys for me thank you

[attack-on-idontknow]

being an eldest daughter is just constantly trying to mediate and manage your family's emotional state and I'm tired

#like i understand we can't always get along #but I'm always the one picking up the pieces after a fight #especially if i wasn't even involved in the fight! #pls just talk to eachother instead of both talking to me #sorry guys i can't be everyone's therapist #I'm not live laugh loving #eldest daughter #eldest sister

[underragingwaves]

#vikings #vikingsedit #vikings history #ivar the boneless #ivar ragnarsson #urwcreates #ivaredit #listen this scene was so cyan I did the best I could #also youngest bro's sniff reminds of eldest bro's sniff and now I'm imagining an AU again

[layzeal]

Surface Pressure – Encanto (x)

#hmmmm does this go into the tag? maybe #mdzs #jiang yanli #wen qing #new eldest daughter anthem dropped #but GOD THIS SONG HIT HARD #and i'm not even an eldest daughter but i had to take the role anyway so i'm claiming it #so ofc mdzs being the Eldest Daughter Agonies book. i just did the obvious #and i'm 100% sure someone did it already but idc #modao

[pulsar-1919]

One of my favourite things that sets Hal apart from other dc characters is the fact that he's a middle child. An actual middle child, not like other characters who became middle children later in life through adoption. He's been a middle child since the day Jim was born, and my god does he act like one

#him being a middle child is just so Right #most characters I can think of that were raised with siblings are usually the eldest or youngest #and it's rare for them to have more than one biological sibling #Hal is smack in the middle of two brothers and has unique relationships with both #he's a younger brother to jack and an older brother to jim #I'm not a middle child but more middle child rep please #i have so many thoughts about Hal's place in his family #hal jordan #green lantern

[ordinarytalk]

Generational Trauma

I am the oldest of five, and it took me years.

I was in denial, then I was numb, then I was furious. Refusing to accept what was done to me, then letting myself understand what was done to me, then realizing how I'd been hurt by what was done to me.

How my parents put me down when I was three and then never picked me up again. How I was "mature for my age" and "such an easy child" and "responsible" and "well behaved." How I was never allowed to be sad, or angry, or upset. How I was taught to think of everyone else first and myself last. How I learned to cook at five, how I learned to diaper at seven, how I learned to teach at nine. How I compulsively cared for every child around me. How I learned I was my sister's keeper, and my father's keeper, and my cousin's keeper, and my neighbor's keeper.

I was never my mother's keeper, though. Mom kept herself, and everybody else. Mom didn't need anybody, not for anything.

And now, after most of the anger has finally burned away. I'm finally able to look at Mom with different eyes.

Mom, who scheduled every appointment, coordinated every after-school activity, led every parent group.

Mom, who is never panicked, never unruffled, never worried.

Mom, who is everyone's anchor, their solid place, their harbor.

Mom, the rock. The sanctuary. The grounding force. Someone with an entire home in them.

Mom, who is the oldest of ten.

Mom, who is in charge of every single family gathering, large and small. Who handles the food and the invites and the cooking and the cleanup.

Mom, who defuses every fight before it happens, who keeps track of every wayward child and niece and nephew and aunt and uncle, who convinces and cajoles and sometimes outright orders people on what needs to be done every single day.

Who sometimes told me funny childhood stories about how she shared a bed with four younger siblings, and she always had to sleep placed to keep the rest from rolling out of bed or hurting themselves. And funny childhood stories about how she and her siblings would swing twenty feet above cement barn floors, or drive heavy farm equipment, or get lost in the woods and see a bear. Funny childhood stories that never had adults in them.

Who doesn't really like talking about her childhood outside of these funny stories.

Who never really talked to Grandma when we visited, but just took over all the cooking and cleaning and childwatching instead.

Who never cries, never complains, never shows the tiniest crack or weakness, never needs help or a shoulder to cry on.

Who compulsively cares for everyone around her.

Mom, who was an oldest daughter, too.

#just...realizing some things tonight I guess #Mom is such an untouchable force of nature that I never really bothered to look at what she doesn't talk about #thinking about how I keep fantasizing about someone taking care of me but I panic if someone actually does try to take care of me #and wondering what else I'm not seeing about my parents #personal stuff #eldest daughter #oldest child #oldest daughter #to be clear: this is an explanation and not an excuse. I was still hurt. But I think I understand why it happened a little better now.

[viscountessevie]

I love the racism and sexism shown towards Edwina and Kate, esp. by white book fans:

They are mad that Edwina isn't simply a cheerleader for Anthony and Kate and instead is allowed to be angry. They also complain that she was too soft or naïve and they really don't like brown girls outside of stereotypes.

Also, there is a clear misunderstanding of Kate's role, especially in the context of her being the eldest in an Indian family (I'm black but similar dynamics) and mad that she isn't as 'gentle' as she is in the books.

FACTS ALL AROUND!! Honestly racist and sexist fans need to get the fuck out of here. There is NO place for your bigotry here especially not on this blog and if I ever get a hint of it in my DMs or Asks I will block you anons, just a warning for anyone wants to throw hate at me or my fave characters for having unpopular opinions about Daphne being a r*pist and me disliking Penelope as a character and her arc direction.

[It gets long more under the cut:]

Also those Kathony 'fans' who are being horrible about Edwina, I do not claim them, you cannot be a TVWLM fan without loving Eddie as much as Kate loves her. And yes the writers fucked up the Sharmas sister's relationship and bond but I still love and adore my Sharma girls and I hate hate that the writers pitted them against each other. Honestly Eddie cannot catch a break with the fans; if she's too soft or naive, she is a doormat and not her own character but if she's brash and loud, oh no go back you cannot be allowed to be angry and mean to Kate, you're a bitch Edwina. It's a double edged sword if she shows ANY type of emotion. It fucking sucks and it's exhausting and a real world issue a lot of brown girls like me face. Everything we do is criticised but Penelope can commit hate crimes and Daphne can literally r*pe someone and part of the fandom still celebrates them, I see you racist side of the fandom I see you.

Also about Kate's role: OHMYGOD TELL ME ABOUT IT and partially I will fault the writers for not explicitly explaining why Kate has this sort of an armour of a personality when it comes to the image she projects to the world, but rather its implied and to picked up on by POC fans who have had that experience of being the eldest child in a POC household. While white fans are ignorant to this very specific experience that we all go through.

So since the writers did a SHIT job of explaining it, I'll do it myself: Basically Kate is VERY similar to Anthony in the sense that she was parentified. If Mary had been more present like she was in the books, I don't think Kate would have been as badly parentified as in the show. I feel like in a way Kate took it upon herself to fill her father's role and parent Eddie alongside Mary and Show!Mary just never noticed because she just saw it as Kate being a good older sister. But like come on Mary, Kate gave Eddie her whole education - where were you?? Of course their show versions now have a parent-daughter relationship than sisters.

And it's fucking awful because they took away Mary's role within the Sharma family unit by adding on to Kate's eldest daughter burden to be a surrogate mom to Eddie. I am once again asking what the fuck was wrong with her storms and parent deaths being her trauma?? But nooo, Kate had to become the head of the household as if Mary isn't right there!!

Anyways I digress, and as a blanket statement I need people to know for this next section, I'm drawing from my own experience as a parentified eldest Indian daughter and so if you had a different experience as the eldest Indian daughter feel free to add on!! I just want yall to know I'm NOT speaking for ALL eldest Indian daughters.

Okay so basically Indian eldest daughters are way more parentified than Anthony ever was (not to compare but the shit we went through is so much more intense than Ant's story because mans was never whacked by Violet when he messed up) because in some cases like mine, our parents are always working and we'd end up babysitting and spending most of our time with our younger siblings more than our actual parents do. So automatically and unconsciously we end up parenting and raising our siblings. This shit starts young too, it didn't matter we had a helper to help with chores as a kid because she was helping keep the house clean while I had to mind my brothers.

It's just such a heavy burden to bear. And I would say for Kate its even heavier because she had to self-teach or at least sneak into the royal family classrooms to learn about all the things she taught Edwina. Even if she didn't teach Eddie all the 5 languages she speaks, she had to find a way to get Eddie those language books and practice with her - so on top of teaching herself all of these skills to depart to Eddie eventually to train to be the perfect debutante. On top of all of this - god knows where Show!Mary was - she had to raise Edwina because it is implied that like Violet, Mary was grieving and absent. WHICH IS THE WORST COS KATE HAD TO PUT ASIDE HER GRIEF AND MOVE ONTO MAKE SURE EDDIE WAS THE BEST and of good marriageable standards for the Marriage Mart.

Katharine Sharma (no I refuse to use her show government name - it's not real and it shows the writers didn't put an ounce of research into it) had roles upon roles and duties stack upon her (yes most of it she took upon herself but that's not the point I'm trying to make rn) with no one to share the burden with and she never really seemed to have grieved her father properly. She seemed like the type who threw herself into helping and raising Edwina instead of taking the time to grieve with Mary.

I don't know who needs to hear this, so due to all of this, OF COURSE she's not "gentle", she's traumatised and mentally ill! And this asshole who is not in love with her sister - who wants a love match - is trying to marry her, duh she's gonna be mean to him and protective over Eddie. People who criticise and villianised Kate for not fitting into their pliable white self-insert image of themselves, can fuck right off!! She is not responsible for the version of Kate you had in your head. She is her own person and very much Indian and this is gonna be hard for some of yall to hear but she's not for you and doesn't always need to be relatable to you.

That being said if you do see yourself in Kate, I love that for you!! But those of you who complain she's not nice or 'Kate from the books' anymore, of course she's not Kate Sheffield, she's Kate Sharma now and I still love her. I'm sorry you don't love both versions, it must be a sad existence not liking the new and amazing Kate Sharma that Simone Ashley brought to life.

Anyways, if yall read til the end, thank you so much for reading and @minim236 babes thanks for sending this ask!! Sorry I went off for a bit ahahah I just needed people to know this blog will not tolerate any Kate hate or slander.

#Bridgerton #kate sharma #kathony #The Sharmas #Mary Sharma #Anthony mention #Daphne Critical #Penelope Critical #Michaela Tag #I have discussed points in this post with the GC so I'm tagging them #Kanthypants & Eldest Daughters GC #Asks

[tenderlyhands]

Kendall Roy + siblings

Clara Ortega/Succession 3x07+1x09/Gregory E lang/Succession 3x07

#I'm just doing some therapy no one look at me #look Kendall just wanted to spend time with his siblings.l #there's was the only opinion he actually cared about! i mean look how happy he is when they're in that room #I've watched that scene too many times #you forget for a moment there are even sides #literally a moment out of time #that's some peak eldest daughter content right there babygirl #enjoy my mini essay.. my Kendall Roy apologist kinda jumped out #succession spoilers #Kendall Roy #roy siblings #web weaving #siblings