#Their first conversation

[katoye]

Episode 14.

#少年歌行 #The Blood of Youth #司空千落 #Xiao Se #Sikong Qianluo #萧瑟 #Their first conversation #I was hoping for the Xiao Se x Lei Wujie reference from Qianluo (novel) #Episode 14 (drama) #Episode 63 (novel) #Qianluo only wants to show him her Spear moves #Before meeting Xiao Se the only thing she thought was martial arts #Thinking about this: Who was her mother figure? Li Hanyi or Fairy Yin Luoxia? #I bet for Li Hanyi

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Must be a Sugondese joke.

#dungeon meshi #chilchuck tims #laios touden #senshi #Looks like I won't be able to post this on dungeon meshi thursday so instead I will have a fun past/future conversation #This is wednesday me who has not seen the episode yet but I have such a strong feeling that it is going to be extremely special. #*This* fight is what the first arc has been building up to and it has *so* many incredible moments. #We're going to see the chilchuck knife throw! The leg sacrifice! The bones! #Watch them ramp up the quality this episode and go wild with the frantic action of 'oh god our plan is going to shit'. #Hello. Me of the future who just watched the episode. #I knew it was going to be good but that...that blew my mind completely. My high expectations were beyond met. My god. #I'm just speechless at how well they handled everything. The leg. The tension. That ENDING. #If you have not already: PLEASE watch Dungeon Meshi.

[blushft]

dm'ing a mutual you've never interacted with one-on-one is so embarrassing like. hi.... im sorry. you can kill me if you want... can i have your discord..... if not.. feel free to shoot me down where i stand... im sorry.. i'll leave..

#ianriley #guy who loves to talk #but is so anxious that someone else will actually throttle me for suggesting a conversation #its okay! #i. will dm. first. i usually do.

[lonicera-caprifolium]

can I interest you in some conversation hearts? 💗💗💗

#good omens #ineffable husbands #aziraphale #crowley #aziracrow #happy valentine's day #I'm slightly early but #conversation hearts #sweethearts #that last one way the very first one I thought of #the rest were to make up for it

[kindnessoverperfection]

Please, if you can, take a moment to read and share this because I feel like I'm screaming underwater.

NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) stigma is rampant right now, and seems to be getting progressively worse. Everyone is using it as a buzzword in the worst ways possible, spreading misinformation and hatred against a real disorder.

I could go on a long time about how this happened, why it's factually incorrect (and what the disorder actually IS), why it's harmful, and the changes I'd like to see. But to keep this concise, I'll simply link to a few posts under the cut for further reading.

The point of this post is a plea. Please help stop the spread of stigma. Even in mental health communities, even around others with personality disorders, in neurodivergent "safe" spaces, other communities I thought people would be supportive in (e.g. trans support groups, progressive spaces in general), it keeps coming up. So I'm willing to bet that a lot of people on this site need to see this.

Because it's so hard to exist in this world.

My disorder already makes me feel as if I'm worthless and unlovable, like there's something inherently wrong and damaged about me. And it's so much harder to fight that and heal when my daily life consists of:

Laughing and spending time with my friends, doing my utmost best to connect and stay present and focused on them, trying to let my guards down and be real and believe I'm lovable- when suddenly they throw out the word "narcissist" to describe horrible people or someone they hate, or the conversation turns to how evil "people with narcissistic personality disorder" are. (Seriously, you don't know which of your friends might have NPD and feels like shit when you say those things & now knows that you'd hate them if you knew.)

Trying to look up "mental health positivity for people with npd", "mental health positivity cluster bs", only to find a) none of that, and b) more of the same old vile shit that makes me feel terrible about myself.

Having a hard time (which is constant at this point) and trying to look up resources for myself, only to again, find the same stigma. And no resources.

Not having any clue how to help myself, because even the mental health field is spitting so much vitriol at people with DISORDERS (who they're supposed to be helping!) that there's no solid research or therapy programs for people like me.

Losing close friends when they find out, despite us having had a good relationship before, and them KNOWING me and knowing that I'm not like the trending image of pwNPD. Because now they only see me through the lens of stigma and misinformation.

Hearing the same stigma come up literally wherever I go. Clubs. Meetings. Any online space. At the bus stop. At the mall. At a restaurant. At work. Buzzword of the year that everyone loooves loudly throwing around with their friends or over the phone. Feels awesome for me, makes my day so much better/s

I could go on for a long time, but I'm scared no one will read/rb this if it gets too much longer.

So please. Stop using the word "narcissist" as a synonym for "abusive".

Stop bringing up people you hate who you believe to have NPD because of a stigmatizing article full of misinformation whenever someone with actual NPD opens their mouth. (Imagine if people did that with any other disorder! "Hey, I'm autistic." "Oh... my old roommate screamed at me whenever I made noise around him, and didn't understand my needs, which seems like sensory overload and difficulty with social cues. He was definitely autistic. But as long as you're self-aware and always restraining your innate desire to be an abusive asshole, you're okay I guess, maybe." ...See how offensive and ignorant that is?)

Stop preventing healthcare for people with a disorder just because it's trendy to use us as a scapegoat.

If you got this far, thank you for reading, and please share this if you can. Further reading is under the cut.

NPD Criteria, re-written by someone who actually has NPD

Stigma in the DSM

Common perception of the DSM criteria vs how someone may actually experience them (Keep in mind that this is the way I personally experience these symptoms, and that presentation can vary a lot between individuals)

"Idk, the stigma is right though, because I've known a lot of people with NPD who are jerks, so I'm going to continue to support the blockage of treatment for this condition."

(All of these were written by me, because I didn't want to link to other folks' posts without permission, but if you want to add your own links in reblogs or replies please feel free <3)

#actuallynpd #signal boost #actuallyautistic #mental health awareness #narcissistic personality disorder #people also need to realize that mental health professionals aren't immune from bias #(it really shouldn't come as a shock that the mental health field has a longstanding pattern of misunderstanding and mistreating ppl who ar #mentally ill or otherwise ND) #the first therapist i brought up NPD to like. literally pulled out the DSM bc she could barely remember the criteria. then said that there' #no way I have it because I have low self-esteem lmaoooooo #anyway throwback to being at work and chatting with a co-worker. and the conversation turning to mental health. and him saying that #he tries to stay informed and be aware and supportive of mental health conditions & that he doesn't want to be ignorant or spread harmful #misinformation. and then i mentioned that i do a lot of research into mental health stuff and i listed a bunch of things. which included #several personality disorders. one of which was NPD. #and after listening to my whole ass list he zeroed in on the NPD and immediately started talking about how narcissists are abusive and #he knew someone who had NPD and how the person who had it had an addiction and died from the addiction in a horrible way and he #was glad he did #fun times #or when i decided to be vulnerable and talk abt my self-criticism/self-hatred bc i knew my friends also struggled w that and i wanted to #support them by sharing my own coping methods. and they both(separately!) started picking and prodding at my npd through the lens of stigma #bc i'd recently opened up to them abt having it. they recognized self-hatred as a symptom and still jumped on me for it. despite me #trying to share hurt vulnerable parts of myself to help them and connect with them. #again..... fun times

[profecional-dreamer]

I’m re reading the lightning thief in preparation for the show, and I just totally forgot how much of a troubled kid Percy really was.

I got so caught up in the “Percy’s so polite and Annabeth is actually the rule breaker! Everyone mixes them up!!” Narrative of the fandom that I totally spaced how much shit percy gets into.

he was selling candy illegally out of his dorm, he dumped Grover in NYC because he was (rightfully tbh) angry with him. His first spoken line is “I’m going to kill her.”

Rick was NOT pulling punches when he wrote Percy, he’s a bad boy with a heart of gold to a T. Why does everyone just see him as the sarcastic but sweet character?

Also annabeth is SO awkward all the time I love her so much

#She literally RUNS away from him during their first conversation #percy jackson #percy jackon and the olympians #walker scobell #leah sava jeffries

[ryukatters]

Something about Bakugo being nosy just sits so right with me. It’s canon that he’s often listening in on conversations (even if participants of said conversations are unaware of his presence) so I imagine when he likes you he tends to hover around you just a little bit more.

You could be talking to Ashido and Kaminari in the common room and Bakugo will be there. Maybe not necessarily near you, not even looking at you. He’s off on the opposite side of the room, and he’s so uncharacteristically quiet that you could forget he was there in the first place.

You mention offendedly how you miss your favorite drink and snack from that one cafe near the heart of Musutafu, being too busy with your work study to find the time to visit.

A few days later, you hear a knock on your door. You’re met with a plastic bag with the very same food and drink combination you had just told your friends about the other day. Your eyes trail the arm and hand holding it and see Bakugo with a pinched look on his face.

“‘s for you,” he grumbles, head turned to the side as his signature scowl deepens. If you looked any closer, you’d clearly be able to see the blush accentuating his cheeks and ears. 

“Thank you, Bakugo,” you take the bag with a smile, and Katsuki has to keep from shuddering when your fingertips accidentally brush his. “Why don’t you come in so we can share?”

Bakugo is nosy, but if it means being able to share stolen moments (and bites of food) with you, then it’s totally worth it.

#him. <3 #this man just wants to know more about you but is terrible at making conversation when he first starts liking u #rizz game dialed to 11 once he sees that ur at least somewhat attracted/flustered by him #bc he knows that now he might have a shot w you #katsuki.txt #bakugo x reader #mha x reader #bakugo x you #bakugou x reader #katsuki x reader #katsuki bakugo x reader #bakugo katsuki x reader #kat’s writing

[feluka]

the most powerful thing i've done is convince my mother that my binder is a "modesty bra" sjfhekdjdjfhjdj i fully have that woman believing that this is a common thing among my classmates who like to dress modestly, which inspired me to follow that trend. i've been telling her this since ~2014 and she still says "i washed your bra for you ^_^" when she washes my binder for me

#I SORTA FEEL BAD BUT. SAFETY FIRST #sorry ummi one day in another lifetime we're going to have honest conversations with each other #and it'll be the first time and it'll be enlightening and healing and lovely #but not this lifetime ^_^ see you in the afterlife bestie ^_^

[aroaceleovaldez]

my personal favorite interpretation of Nico's confession to Percy in BoO and Percy's reaction is that. Nico was one foot in the grave at the time - heavily injured, exhausted, probably suffering from blood loss, actively turning into shadows, etc etc. And he mentions himself several times that he's not acting quite like himself, such as smiling a lot and his mind wandering and his vision being unsure. Dude is OUT OF IT. He is one strong breeze away from crumpling on the floor and falling unconscious for multiple days (again).

a.) no wonder Will was like "three days in the infirmary now. you will melt into a puddle if you try and summon a wishbone." cause Nico was probably standing there with a glassy look in his eyes waving like a leaf in the wind on the verge of collapsing.

b.) just imagine Percy's pov: The guy you've known for three years stumbles up to you on the verge of death, clearly still bleeding and half-fading into nothingness. Obviously a little delirious at best. Normally he's extremely awkward talking to people and hates physical interaction and every time he talks to you he looks like he wants to run away as fast as possible. You are 80% sure he wants you dead but is trying to be polite about it. He walks up to you with the confidence only someone suffering from extreme dehydration/major blood loss on the verge of passing out can have, tells you that you're not his type, high-fives your girlfriend (who you thought he had a crush on?) (you weren't even sure he knew what high-fives were. you're still not sure he does) and stumbles off without finishing the conversation. You ask your girlfriend if she understands what the hell just happened. She has no idea either. You decide to chalk it up to him having no idea what was going on either.

Three days later Nico wakes up in the infirmary in a cold sweat, having remembered that interaction and goes "WHAT HAVE I DONE?!"

#pjo #percy jackson #riordanverse #nico di angelo #this also makes for the hilarious opportunity to have Nico come out to Percy a Second Time #but this time it's for real and Nico is just awkwardly trying to explain what that first conversation was #and Percy is just like ''ohhhhhh *thats* what that was? i'm gonna be real i thought you were just out of it and wrote it off.'' #and Nico is just dying inside of embarrassment cause. at least the first time it was over quickly. #but now he has to EXPLAIN and ELABORATE and he wants to just crawl under a rock and hide

[syruubi]

Notes I made for myself of the currently revealed original 7 Archons so I don’t have to squint at cutscenes

#genshin impact #zhongli #venti #raiden makoto #greater lord rukkhadevata #my art #dont message me saying its Buer im already sick of the conversation LOL #it's a first world problem to be annoyed about it I know

[yashley]

Then why are you here? What is it you want? I want to free you.

#critical role #cr lb #ygifs #cr3 #imogen #liliana temult #maybe a bitch cried and that bitch was me #anyway the psychology of imogen using her responses as questions to get liliana to talk it out more it's so good #the 90 episode payoff is SO GOOD FOR ME #the TWO 31 rolls like the dice said it's laura bailey guys #also like it has to be ludinus planted that liliana's go-to is the ''children'' like something's not right there matt #it's so reset to factory settings and strange that she's hollowly committed to a concept that isn't even actually real #but it Was real for liliana when she first set out to protect her daughter #like how really All There can you be when your work husband is ludinus daleth #imogen getting her conversation I'm just framing it

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

An unbothered queen has entered, and subsequently left.

[First] Prev <–-> Next

#poorly drawn mdzs #mdzs #wen qing #wen ning #jiang cheng #wei wuxian #In the audio drama she quite literally opens the door and then leaves after seeing them without breaking conversation. #It is both so impressive and deeply funny to me. #I imagine her just literally pivoting in one foot and walking right out. #She came home after a long day at work and in 0.5 seconds went “I would rather go back to the office than deal with this right now”. #Besides tickling me to near tears - this scene is also a great introduction to Wen Qing - her first instinct is to protect! #She lives by the code of 'I don't care who you are - if you need help I will lend it.' a true doctor and professional. #Sure she is *mad* that Wen Ning puts himself (and her to a lesser extent) at risk by helping 'the enemy' but she gives in quick. #I love Wen Qing a lot - she is such an unsung hero in this story. #Sorry that her first appearance on this blog was...what it was. I'll let your curiosity take you down that path...

[meagancandraw]

You ever think about how neither of them got to say goodbye?

#TSAMS #Sun and Moon Show #The Sun and Moon Show #TSAMS Lunar #SAMS Lunar #Sun #SAMS Sun #FNAF Sun #FNAF #Five Nights At Freddy's #MeaganCanDraw #I love New Moon a lot don't get me wrong but Old Moon's and Sun's relationship wasn't black and white (as much as NM wants to insist it was #YES Old Moon treated Sun horribly YES he wasn't the best person but #their relationship was also complicated and messy and they both genuinely loved each other despite everything #So much of what they did was for each other and that adds even more to the tragedy of their relationship and Moon's death #Sun and Old Moon's final conversation was them fighting #Moon's final in-person words to him were “I love you and I'm sorry” #to which Sun didn't say anything bc he was mad at him (which I don't blame him for given everything that happened in that episode) #Do you think Sun has realized this? How often does he go back to that moment #How often has he imagined himself saying or doing something different? Something that would've resulted in them leaving that bunker togethe #Meanwhile Lunar lost the person who gave him a new life and a family that actually cares about him #And he was in Moon's head for months and saw first hand how much his regrets and trauma affected him #Both of which would eventually destroy him due to the cycle of self-loathing he was trapped in #How much does HE think about that? #Anyway sorry for not posting for nearly (checks watch) two years?? #It'll likely happen again #1k

[jedi-starbird]

Obi-Wan: oh? who's this?

Cody, who's been carting around an orange cat he found sleeping in Obi-Wan’s discarded robe all day, and assumed that his general had been transformed due to standard Force Bullshit™️: ...no one. apparently.

#Cody just picks up this ginger kitty like ah yes my general just another day with the 212th #the orange cats stupidity only reinforces his belief that its obi wan #the cat stays though and obi wan ends up having a very serious conversation with him #crouching down like hey. hey. thats MY commander kitty. i was here first. 😤 #obi wan kenobi #commander cody #star wars

[shysimblr]

More Hairs For Curly Babies

Yes bantu knots again but these are different lol 

Today I have Toddler Stuff Conversion, Seasons Baby Fro conversion (took the flower off) and @sheabuttyr‘s(Savvysweet) Bandu Bantu Knots conversion for infants :D 

BGC 

Infant Hair 

Custom Thumbs - you don’t need any meshes.

Any issues please let me know :D - Download Under the cut 

Download | SFS | GD | CF - if you wanna 

@maxismatchccworld @alwaysfreecc @love4sims4

#ts4 #sims 4 #ts4 cc #sims 4 cc #s4 cc #ts4 infant cc #s4 infant cc #ts4 download #sims 4 download #s4 download #shycc #infant cc #don't nooooone say anything about the baby with earrings bc i'll lose it #seriously #also getting a lot of questions re the first conversions #don't download if you don't think its appropriate #pls #keep it moving

[anneapocalypse]

One thing that really gets me about Urianger comforting Minfilia in Amh Araeng is that when she says Thancred hates her, Urianger never actually says, no, he doesn't. He says instead, none of this is your fault, and the original Minfilia wouldn't hold anything against you, and in typical Urianger form he says some things about fate and faith, and his words are kind and beautiful--but he also completely sidesteps the question of how Thancred feels about her.

And I think this moment is very reflective of Urianger's relationship to Thancred and child!Minfilia as a whole. It reflects what we see when we first see all of them together in Il Mheg.

Urianger knows that the way Thancred behaves toward the girl is hurting her. He's spent enough time around the two of them to see that plainly. Theoretically, he could say something to Thancred about it; they're obviously close friends, and if Thancred was going to value anyone's opinion, it would be his. But he doesn't say anything, because he still feels guilty and responsible for all of it: about their Minfilia going to the First and what happened to her there, and thus for what both Thancred and child!Minfilia are going through now. Even though Thancred has never outright blamed him for it (however he may feel privately, which I think is hard to say), it seems like Urianger still feels like he has no right to say anything.

So he tries to compensate instead. He's kind to Minfilia, connects with her in his own way and gives her books, and by the time we see them together he's obviously become something of a familial figure to her. I would say that he and Thancred aren't so much raising her together as they're doing it... around one another. Thancred is gruff and cold and holds Minfilia at arm's length emotionally so that his protectiveness comes off harshly even when it's well-meant, and Urianger dotes on her and tries to make up for it all while avoiding the actual problem.

So that conversation in Amh Araeng is both touching and maddening to me, and it really drives home what's maddening about it when, upon overhearing it, the Warrior of Light turns to Thancred to ask him if he has anything to say to Minfilia--who has just said, out loud, that she thinks Thancred wishes she was dead--and Thancred just says, "Not today."

And so they both go on avoiding the actual problem, for just a little longer.

#afk by the aetheryte #the scions in the first are such a mess #i love them and they make me climb the walls #ffxiv stuff #shadowbringers spoilers #i've loved that conversation since i first played it #and at the same time upon revisiting it i really feel #that glaring absence of anything addressing the actual problem #minfilia's actual pain #because urianger is still avoiding it #urianger augurelt #thancred waters #ryne waters