#aspec RULE

[strangepersonhere]

Someone please tell me how do i explain to people that..

I'm in love with my closest friends. Or at least that's how i call it. Because i love them sooooo fucking much. And the deepest type of love there can be. Im in love with them, but not romantically. I don't even know how to explain my feelings ;-;

It's just- damn. How do i tell people that i want to spend my life with them, maybe even live with them. I want to have little routines. I want to have habits with them. But that I'd never be able to be romantically in love with them.

And that's sad because to the society, my love is considered like less a love than romantic love. I dont know how I can explain this better. Because I could write thousands of love letters to some people. I could offer them flowers and chocolates every day of my life. Because I see trinkets that make me think of them, and I want to offer it to them. Because I send them videos that made me think of them.

And to me it's so much deeper than romantic love. It's like... it's like an "I love you" that is beyond friendship, beyond family, beyond romantic love.

I want to be able to love my friends like I do, without having someone asking me if we're a couple, or telling me it's "just" friendship.

I sometimes wish I could create a land meant only for aro/ace/aroace people. But I actually really love diversity. So I just wish people could be more respectful of the things they don't understand. Because having people telling me I'll end up alone with my cats, and I will be sad and frustrated, it's **not** respectful. Moreover, maybe I actually want to be alone with cats. (Honestly it would be ducks for me, but whatever).

Im just asking for basic respect. It doesn't matter if you don't get it. I don't get your sense of love and all, yet you don't see me saying you don't exist or that what you're feeling is just a phase.

Let people do and be what makes them happy.

Mind your damn business.

How am I hurting you by *not* getting bitches ? You should be happy, more for you.

So yeah, what im saying basically is just, please respect people, even when you don't understand them. It might have a bigger impact than what you think.

Love y'all 💜💜💜

#aromantic #asexuality #aroace #asexual #aro #aromantism #arospec #nah but seriously #let's take over Denmark once again #let people live #let people be happy #aroace problems #aspec community #aspec stuff #aspec RULE

[ale-arro]

been going a little bit insane about this sentence from Ace by Angela Chen for the past week

#replace this with any other type of significant relationship too #also! this book actually rules btw i really recommend it #i didnt read it when it first cane out bc i was like. well i am already pretty familiar with asexuality and not rly interested in 101 stuff #but it turns out it doesnt feel 101-y at all its a super awesome piece of queer theory and also chen has Good opinions #and not weird watered down ones that i am sometimes wary of in aspec communities (frankly especially ace ones) #i think maybe if more people approached asexuality the way chen does (including and maybe even especially ace people) #i would be more inclined to still ID as ace #but anyways! #aro #aromantic #<- tag selections that reflect how i personally engage with this quote #also #described in alt text #also also #j tag #:/ #aro media

[shmaroace]

"i want a boyfriend" "i want a girlfriend" well i want to stop being so fucking sleepy

#tired aros unite etc #not even really an aro post but it is because i made it. anything i type is aro sorry i dont make the rules 🫶 #aro #aromantic #arospec #ace #asexual #acespec #aroace #aspec #1k #5k #10k

[klavierpanda]

Aroace people are aromantic too, please remember that

#I'm tired of aroaces having their aroness erased by everyone just saying they're asexual #of course there are aroaces who feel their asexuality is more important but that's not the general rule #honestly the constant erasure of my aroness is one of the reasons I dropped asexual as a label #aroace #aro #aromantic #ace #asexual #arospec #acespec #aromantic asexual #aspec #queer #panda's post

[meowzet]

hearing [heteronormative] people talk about romantic relationships will never not be confusing

#huh??? #so many rules… and for what?? #beyond confusing #queer #going to tag my lovely aspecs because y’all understand what i mean :3 #aspec #ace #asexual #aroace #aro #aromantic #<2 to you all #i’ll also throw in a #queerplatonic #my meows

[wyrmspade]

designing some arospec valentines because i personally killed cupid with his own bow and arrows

im doing more identities than just these three, so if folks have suggestions on what identities theyd like to see and what imagery would be appropriate that would be awesome! 🏹

[Image ID: Three digital sketches of spade-shaped valentines' cards in green pencil. The first is of a kitten with large eyes holding a dead bird in its mouth. Beside the kitten is handwritten text reading "I killed Cupid!", and underneath is the label "aromantic". The second is of a small mouse sitting beside a rotary phone, holding a spade and looking to the side. The mouse's tail curls into several loops and becomes the cord of the rotary phone. The text on this card reads "Ring! Ring!", and underneath is the label "aroallo". The third card is a dragon standing rampant and breathing fire. The text reads "No, Thanks!" and below the card is label "aroace". End ID.]

#wip #aromantic #aroallo #aroace #aspec #arospec #aro pride #i was thinking to myself like man valentines day imagery is so cute but also makes me really angry. what if i blasted it with the aro beam #and its going to rule i think #did my best describing the image but if anyone wants to improve it please let me know!!! #animal death

[mybrainsrottingwithmcd]

all MCD characters are queer.

argue with the wall.

#MY REWRITE MY RULES #I LIVE FOR QUEER REP #JESS WAS A COWARD FETISHISER AND IM HERE TO FIX IT #GAYS FOR ALL #aphmau #mcd #minecraft diaries #minecraft roleplay #aphmau mcd #aphmau minecraft diaries #lgbtqia #lesbian #gay #bisexual #transgender #queer #aspec pride

[shotgunrider428]

#digital art #illustration #my art #art #asexuality awareness day #asexual #aspec #ace #ace pride #pride #lgbtqia #ace artist #queer #international asexuality day #doodled this to celebrate #I wish all fellow aces #A merry ace day #And a lovely stat increase (bonus) #May we rule the world #and dine on garlic bread #'till our heart's content

[italian-aspec-forces]

Prepare to Destroy or be Destroyed

Hello, my beautiful aspecs and allo allies! Are you a part of the aspec community thus meaning that you inherently have an innate desire to conquer the world? Well, this is surely the blog for you! Though I am fully aware that @actual-aspec-military, I have decided to create my own Italian faction of that particularly excellent blog. To be perfectly honest, I don't care whether you are Italian or a part of the aspect community; if you aren't, I can always adopt you and you can become my child, as long as you are respectful. @denmark-forreal, @denmark-official, @official-denmark and @denmarklandia-official, watch out! We shall be coming for you firstly!

Considering as I am lazy and a burnout disappointment who cannot be bothered to rephrase the description of my account, just know that I have copied and pastedd the following introduction from my main gimmick account, so have fun guessing who I am!

Firstly, I am a minor, so please behave yourselves and don't be creeps.My pronouns are she/her and I am an oriented aroace lesbian, meaning that I don't experience any sexual or romantic attraction, but that I experience aesthetic attraction towards women. I am also apothisexual, meaning that I am both ace and sex-repulsed.

#Of course #As always #The main rule is that we are all for world domination #However #Please don't get hurt or get anyone hurt #Thank you for coming to my TED talk #I am so insightful #I know #Sorry if there are any typos #I am so tired right now and my eyes are dry #I can't see anything #Anyway #I should probably go to sleep #Italian aspecs shall invade the world

[lovelessrage]

Why are there so many apl allosexuals? I think ive seen one apl person who was acespec.

I think it's that I just attract them, lmao. I see way more aplatonic acespecs in my own experience! It's just a case of where you are and who you're with; different people exist in different places, sometimes you see more of one than the other based on the company you keep. Historically, first instance of aplatonic was from an acespec person, and second was a non-SAM aro. We haven't been leading the pack for a good portion of the label's lifetime!

I think it might just be because aplatonic allos tend to disclose their presence outright far more, mostly because of the expectation to automatically like friends with benefits.

#aplatonic #apl #aplspec #apl allo #apl ace #apl aroallo #apl aroace #aspec #aplatonic aces if you wanna announce yourself you can. i know you guys are hanging around #you guys rule btw #scowl corner

[t4tdanvis]

Everytime I see another "aces/aros aren't inherently queer" post I make another character ace/aro

#💚.txt #All your favorite characters are now ace and/or aro! I don't make the rules it's just true :) #Aphmau? Aroace! Zenix? Aroace! Cadenza? Aroace! Zane? Ace! Laurance? Arospec! Gene? Demiro ace! Garroth? Grayro + grayace! #I could do this all day. They're all getting hit with the aspec beam! :)

[stars-n-spice]

Happy Pride month to my favorite fellow aspec people:

(Headcanon/Canon)

I love you all

#happy pride month! #i saw an aroace hunter headcanon the other day and it hasn't left my mind #they are all ace one way or another #i don't make the rules #pride month #aspec #asexual #aroace #aromantic #tbb hunter #rey skywalker #din djarin #obi wan kenobi #jango fett #tbb #the mandalorian #feel free to add on #these are just my faves

[sister-lucifer]

the asexual flag color picked from Belphegor!

[I am currently taking color picked flag requests!]

#asexual #aspec #pride #pride flag #color picked flags #belphie obey me #obey me belphie #belphegor obey me #obey me #obey me shall we date #obey me one master to rule them all

[dinitride-art]

looks at ao3, finds nothing new that I want to read right at this moment (probably a fic in there I’m gonna end up reading later and being like woah this is great! But I don’t have the energy for that right now). Goes to my own works page. Stares. Glances over a multi chapter fic (incomplete), moves on. Sees another multi chapter fic, my baby, (incomplete) but… there’s not much else left to do. What if… no. I couldn’t. I- I shouldn’t. But… maybe… if I opened the document I could just… look and see

#the problem with that specific multi chapter fic #is that I started writing it and I wrote a bunch of it #and then I edited it as I went through it #and then I was kinda depressed for a hot minute and that definitely reflected in my writing #and I haven’t been able to figure out a way to fix it yet #also went through a crisis when writing it- and there’s another related crisis going on now #but i working on that one (hello aspec identities I’ve been ignoring) #so writing this is just… gonna be interesting #like hi yes I’d like to write about romance while questioning my own ability to feel that specific… thing? emotion? #this was supposed to be a funny fic about mike getting hit in the face in funny and unusual ways #wait- wait a fucking second- I’ve got it- I know how to write the next chapter #holy shit #that’s the answer #the rule of threes #once a wall twice a door and thrice- #thrice will be my final chapter #or second to last- final leg of the story #yes. yesss. it’s all coming together #I think #maybe #fuck #I don’t know anymore #aaauuuugghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh #aaaaaaaaauuuuuuuuuuuugggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh #what do I even have written #what do I have left to write #why did I start writing this fic #I have so many questions

[lucky-clover-gazette]

is it just me or do the labels “platonic” and “romantic” kinda fail to have meaning when applied aggressively to a fictional dynamic by people with vastly different definitions of those terms

#like vidow are just like that. they are how they are in the text #call it whatever you want but calling it platonic doesn’t strip them of the very present queercoding and tension and intimate connection #and i don’t mean queercoding negatively here #if i’ve learned something about myself exploring aspec stuff it’s that my definition of romance is really similar #to the commonly accepted definition of friendship #or at least that foundation of friendship MUST be present for romance #so for there to be this aggressive effort to insist vidow are platonic and not romantic is like #maybe it’s complicated? #and you can’t logically rule out a romantic context when these labels are not based in logic #but rather individual feelings and nuances? #and romance does not inherently depreciate the value or pureness or longevity or importance of a relationship? #stripping them of what makes them who they are #the things they do in the source material and the way it is contextualized by the narrative #seems so pointless and just… unpleasant from a fan’s perspective

[mars-ipan]

y’know i’m happy aromantic is trending in response to that horrible discourse bait poll because so many people (aspec or not) are showing love and support for aromantics, but i’m also fucking pissed that we need to keep doing this when 2024 is literally days away. i know terfs are always gonna be pieces of shit but come the fuck on man

#marzi speaks #anyways. i just got to go on a huge blocking spree so we’ll see if it worked depending on if they find this post #SEMI-FRIENDLY REMINDER: ASPECS BELONG IN THE QUEER COMMUNITY. THIS INCLUDES CISHET AROALLOS AND CISHET ALLOACES. #IF YOU DO NOT WELCOME ASPECS INTO THE QUEER COMMUNITY GET THE FUCK OFF MY BLOG AND EDUCATE YOURSELF #and a much more friendly reminder to my fellow aspecs: #acespecs we are awesome every single one of us. we rule. let’s show support for our arospec siblings right now yeah? #arospecs you all are WONDERFUL !!! if you’re comfortable with it I LOVE YOU!!! if you aren’t I APPRECIATE YOU DEEPLY!!! #you’re SO fucking cool and epic and wonderful!!! literally like one of the coolest communities i have ever had the pleasure of knowing!!!! #hell yeah!!! <3333 and <2222 etc etc