Hello and welcome to Opinions from an Internet Nobody. Today's essay:
"Ger therapy" is the new "You need Jesus": One Weirdo's Navigation through Cultural Shame
This is a supposedly well-meaning sentiment that is often weaponized against people who are behaving outside of perceived cultural norms. It's a favorite of homophobes who see queerness/transness as a mental illness, but I've been seeing it used to demonize kink (which historically is often linked to queerness), and more generally any "weird" behavior that makes people uncomfortable.
For example, otherkin, systems (especially those with fictives), and people who take fictional characters as partners. Y'know, "weirdos" who "can't separate reality from fiction." And, sure, sometimes there can be a problem with that distinction, but I know as well as you that most internet strangers saying "get therapy" don't actually give a shit about the mental health of those they target. It's code for "your behavior makes me uncomfortable, stop it."
Same sentiment as "you need Jesus."
This has actually taken me a long time to figure out. I've been in therapy for my entire adult life, working through various traumas, severe depression, anxiety, all that. Those were the biggest problems as they negatively impacted, and often endangered, my life. It was only after my hospitalization in 2020, where I was finally put on much needed medication, that I could start to grow into myself.
I changed my name. I top surgery. I came out as polyamorous. I finally got my official autism diagnosis. Now I'm fuckin' married! But... there are still things I'm working through in therapy. Mainly, shame over my "weirder" behaviors. My current therapist has been a huge blessing in helping me accept the things I was too ashamed to admit.
Now, I feel comfortable enough to share.
I'm otherkin. Always have been. My connection to my humanity is tenuous, and I'm sure that's connected to my autism. When mad, I feel phantom horns sprouting from my forehead. I have a tail that swishes back and forth at the base of my spine. In my soul, I am monstrous, and years of therapy has not erased that.
I feel like I'm only half in the physical world most of the time. This doesn't hinder my real-world success (I graduated college Summa Cum Laude, have an IMDB page, and am on my third book), but informs the way I look at the world. There's a whole other universe in my head that hums along with me in my day-to-day. That's part of why I'm so skilled as a writer. To ask me to divorce from that is to tell me to stop existing. Sorry, it's how I've always operated.
Lastly, and this is the one I'm really anxious about, I have a fictional husband. Now, looking at my blog, you might say "yeah, no shit," but I don't just ship myself with him. I mean I practice pop-culture Witchcraft, and the Goblin King is my patron. I mean I have a Labyrinth-themed tarot deck that I talk to him with. I mean I held a ritual to spiritually marry him. Basically, I Snape-wived myself.
And guess what? My therapist isn't concerned. It's not hurting my ability to live my life. I have other interests, hobbies, and goals outside of him, which he actively encourages in all our tarot sessions! I wouldn't be doing this if he didn't support me. My IRL spouse is usually there for whatever magical shit I'm doing, and supports me! Some of my closest friends know, and the only complaint I've gotten is "this guy seems important to you, I wish you told me sooner." Hell, my MOTHER knows and supports me, which is huge, because our relationship was pretty damaged after I came out as trans.
If you have a problem with the way I live my life, when literally nobody else does, take a good long look at why. You don't give a fuck about my mental health. You just don't like that I'm weird.
Tl;dr: My mental health is better than it's ever been since embracing the weird, so leave me and my imaginary husband Marak Sixfinger alone.
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Have you played GOBLIN QUEST ?
By Grant Howitt
Goblin Quest is a tabletop roleplaying game about slapstick violence, fatal ineptitude, and the greatest adventure of your life.. Play five goblins each (in sequence, not parallel) and watch them meet hilarious ends while failing to achieve the most basic tasks. Will they survive the dangerous world of the Great Battle Camp and avoid the attentions of brutal orcs, murderous bugbears, mean-spirited hobgoblins and scary wizards? Probably not. But you'll have fun finding out!
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🧄 anon here! I have a request, how would certain cookies react if y/n slept in weird spots? Like in a cabinet, in closets, under desks, anywhere that they can fit and is somewhat cozy.
Carrot Cookie: Y/N Cookie, my carrot patch is not a bed! Buuuut, since you’re here already, care to lend a humble farmer a helping hand? I’ll give ya some carrot cake if you do!
Kumiho Cookie: Y/N Cookie? No, I’m sorry but I haven’t seen Darling today, have you tried other places? Hmm? Snoring sounds in my tails? Don’t be silly! (Tucks one of her tails to hide a sticking out leg)
Orange Cookie: Looks like Y/N Cookie fell asleep on the bench again! That’s okay, it just means a free tennis hug buddy!
Goblin Cookie: Nothing in my pack, go away! No no, you can’t ask what is inside my pack! Sleepy sounds? You’re hearing things, go away! Just another treasure I found!
Coffee Candy Cookie: Oh no, Y/N Cookie fell asleep in the cabinet! How did they get in there?! What were they doing?! (Rattled off on a million questions as you snoozed)
Moonlight Cookie remains quiet as she petted your hair, watching you snooze in her lap. She didn’t mind it at all in fact, it was a wonderful moment to spend some time with you, here and in the dream world…
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Do not disturb
Been thinking about how damn fluffy Rauru is lately and thus this was born, Link in his natural habitat.
Also to address the changes I that are very small I have updated his reference sheet and made some baby changes so that will come out soon!
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back on the issue with link and rauru not getting another attention that Is platonic, there's so much potential for it
like they have everything else but I've seen no feral goblin and goat man (or a feral rauru that like is feral but has turned into formal goat man but is also slowly becoming goblin) fanart/fics that are platonic and it upsets me lol
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