#gray aromantic

[queerspectral]

Shoutout to aspecs who have dated/had sex but don't want to do so again.

Whether you thought you wanted it but later realised you didn't...

Whether you knew at the time you were just giving in to societal pressures but tried it anyway...

Whether you genuinely did want it at the time but don't any more...

Whether it was a great experience at the time or a terrible one...

Whatever the reason, it's okay to just. Stop.

You can always, always change your mind about whether dating or sex are things you want in your life. Maybe they once were. Doesn't mean they have to be now.

#yes this is at least partially a self affirmation #asexuality #asexual #actually asexual #aromanticism #aromantic #actually aromantic #ace #aro #aroace #aspec #acespec #arospec #asexual spectrum #aromantic spectrum #gray ace #gray asexual #gray aro #gray aromantic #graysexual #grayromantic #greysexual #greyromantic #sex averse #romance averse

[bisexualsafespace]

smashing amatonormativity doesn't mean adding qpr's to amatonormativity

it means smashing amatonormativity! no relationship is inferior to another!!

a qpr is that a platonic relationship that is "queer" as in different from more common platonic relationships.

#aro #gray aromantic #grey aromantic #aromantic #aromantism #aromantic allosexual #alloaro #aroallo #asexual aromantic #aromantic asexual #aroace

[gray-ace-space]

Sex/Romance to me are great in the same way the Hunger Games are. Fun to read about in a book, but no thank you irl

very sensible

#og post #asks #aego #acespec #gray ace #ace #lgbtq+ #lgbtq #lgbt+ #aegosexual #gray asexual #graysexual #asexual #arospec #aro #gray aro #gray aromantic #grayromantic #aromantic

[goofygooberton]

I hate it when people say certain acts of love and affection are proof of romantic feelings. It makes me feel really lost and empty, like the only way I can get a strong relationship is via romance. When in reality I’d do so much for my friends and care so deeply, and I don’t want romance with them at all.

I know y’all don’t mean no harm by it, so, this is me gently asking you to take a moment and think about what your words imply about the value of friendship vs romance.

#it’s hard bc we really do need more gay and lesbian romances in stories #and we also need stories that show friendships that don’t matter any less becuase they’re not romances #and there’s so few stories with either #jenkins.txt #grayromantic #aromantic #grey aromantic #greyromantic #grey ace #grey asexual #gray aro #gray asexual #gray aromantic

[bitchwholoveslife]

Being arospec is just being asked how many crushes you've had/who you've been romantically into and all that comes to mind is like two unobtainable celebrities, five fictional characters, and the 1 (one) real person you think you might have had a crush on 6 years ago

#text #gay shit #bitchwholoves.text #arospec #aspec #aro #aromantic #greyro #greyromantic #grayro #grayromantic #grey aromantic #grey aro #gray aromantic #gray aro

[floralcavern]

My journey through being aromantic

That feeling when you know you’re aromantic, but you don’t know how exactly to pinpoint it-

When I first started learning about the LGBT community, I thought asexual meant aromantic, so I went around saying I was asexual. Than I developed my first big crush and ‘dropped’ that for a couple of years. Than I started doing some research on aromanticism and realized I related a lot to it, but also not. I’m a hopeless romantic who wants to be in a relationship, but my experience in actually liking people was sparse. So for the longest time I started going around saying that I was gray aromantic.

but then I realized that I had crushes on people very often and very easily. So I realized I wasn’t gray aromantic. but I knew I was something. I knew I wasn’t Demi aromantic because I developed crush is super easily, even if they didn’t last long. Then I heard about desinoromantic. I related to it so much, but also there was one little factoid that stopped me from identifying as a desinoromantic. I have experienced full on romantic attraction at least once. So then what was I? That’s what I kept thinking. I did so much research, but found nothing that described this. Being able to crush on people easily, but rarely ever actually falling in love with someone, even if you are very close with them. I’ve had crushes on many people, but it rarely ever developed into anything more and often didn’t last for very long. so I came to terms with the fact that I needed to probably create my own term. So I coined gray desinoromantic.

And I’ve been pretty confident and comfortable with this term. obviously, I have a lot of insecurities about being gray desinoromantic. I’m often scared I’ll die alone or never get in a romantic relationship, because I rarely ever develop those kind of feelings. But I am happy to say that I am proud to be on the aromantic spectrum.

#aromantic #asexual #aroace #aspec #Gray aromantic #desinoromantic #Gray desinoromantic #arospec #aro problems

[centrumlumina]

not alloromantic not aromantic but a secret third thing (wtfromantic)

#asexuality #aromanticism #aromantic #quoiromantic #wtfromantic #gray aromantic #grayro #asexual #actually asexual #i'm sure other people have done this before but it popped in my head and i had to

[aro-acethetic]

Gray-aromantic + bodies of water for the anon!!

Sources:

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#gray aromantic #grey aromantic #grayaromantic #greyaromantic #grayromantic #greyromantic #gray romantic #grey romantic #moodboard #mod lily

[londondziban]

So upon lots and lots of reflection, I've come to the conclusion I am on the aromantic spectrum.

I experience very little romantic attraction. Like it's rare, once in a blue moon even. But when I do, it is for men. I have felt romantic love/attraction for one (1) man ever. Unless I'm wrong and I actually didn't love him after all, but I'm not writing it off lol

Realizing I'm gay aroace wasn't on my 2023 bingo card but it happened anyways

#not stranger things related obviously #but i needed to share my realization #aromantic #aroace #asexual #gay #demiromantic #gray aromantic #gay aroace #personal

[palatteflags]

Day 22 of pride month!: Wintercore Gray Aro!

Want a moodboard? Send an ask! -mod Jay

#day 22 #pride month #pride months #month #months #pride #grayaro #grayaro pride #gray aro #gray aro pride #grayro #grayro pride #grayromantic #gray aromantic #arospec #arospec pride #lgbt #lgbtqa #lgbtqia #pride flag edits #edits #flag edits #pride flag edit #flag edit #edit #winter #winter aesthetic #wintercore #wintercore aesthetic #moodboard

[hellenic-whore]

A bit of a vent post about my self and identity cause I've been struggling a bit

Any advice or comfort would be appreciated

Rant under the cut

I just feel kinda alone in my Aro ness

Cause like

I want a partner and I wanna do those kinds off sappy things that couples do but I have such a hard time getting feelings

I'm probably like demi aro or something I don't know

I just feel like every aro allo seems to be completely detached from romance and not quite like me and I just

Wanna feel less alone I guess

#rant #aro #gay #aromantic #gray aro #demi aro #demi aromantic #gray aromantic #aro allo #nblm #mlm #enby #nblnb #sfw #vent

[strawberryy-fields]

Happy Pride to all the grayromantics out there!!

I wanted to take the time to talk and bring awareness to grayromanticism, because I’ve noticed that it doesn’t get talked about as often as aromanticism in general, or other parts of the community. Prepare for this to be long, because I have a lot to say.

To start off, for those who aren’t familiar, the term “grayromantic” is similar to “graysexual”, in that it refers to the “gray area” between being aromantic (experiencing no romantic attraction) and alloromantic (experiencing “normal” romantic attraction). This can mean different things to different people, but a common definition is that a person experiences romantic attraction to an extremely lesser degree than alloromantic people. It falls under the aromantic umbrella, and is used to distinguish those with extremely limited romantic attraction from those with absolutely no attraction.

This can look different for different people, and can exist alongside other sexualities! I myself am grayromantic and bisexual, and felt that these were the best labels to describe myself because while I am bisexual, I experience romantic attraction extremely rarely.

Growing up, I simply didn’t have crushes. Not on people I knew, not on celebrities, not on fictional characters. I had friends, and music artists I enjoyed keeping up with, and fictional characters that were my favorites and that I even fixated on, but at no point was there a desire to date them, to be with them, to want them to be mine in any way. The romantic aspect didn’t exist.

Now, I think that the important part to discuss here is that while its rare, grayromantic people CAN experience attraction. And this is the part that I feel gets left out.

My first ever crush was in high school, and it is the only crush that I ever remember having before meeting my current partner. And it was intense!! It was exactly the thing that had always been described to me, that felt like some fairy tale, or something that only existed in movies, and not in real life. The butterflies, the way my mind was on him constantly, the nervousness and the giggles, the whole shebang. It was exactly like the stereotype.

But after that crush faded (and it took a looong while to fade), it was just gone! And it would be years before I experienced anything even remotely similar.

I am now in a committed romantic relationship. I met my partner a few years ago, and while it wasn’t as dramatically intense as that high school crush I had, I felt the feelings arise in a way they hadn’t since then, years ago. And I got so, so lucky that he felt the same way, because being grayromantic, I had accepted that the likelihood I would ever experience a romantic relationship was very slim, because the likelihood that one of the rare few I would feel that kind of attraction for would happen to feel the same felt impossible, and I had made peace with that.

I am grateful to have my partner in my life, and I am happy with him, and I experience romantic feelings towards him, and I am still grayromantic. My past experiences are not erased by the relationship that I am in now, and if somehow this relationship were to end, I don’t feel that my relationship with romantic attraction in general will have changed.

There are people who will say that having that experience at all means that you are not aromantic, and are not welcome in aromantic spaces. And while yes, it is important for those who are strictly aromantic and no-romo aromantic people to have a space to themselves, it is also the case that for the majority of my life, I have not experienced romantic attraction, and that during that time, the thing that kept me from feeling absolutely broken as a person was the aromantic community.

I was able to see that I wasn’t alone in these experiences! That there were others who had fake crushes in order to fit in, and who thought that a stereotypical crush was a myth, or only fictional, and who felt extremely excluded amongst our very amatonormative society.

The point of grayromanticism is that its gray! Its that you experience a little bit of both. You are too aromantic to be considered fully allo, and too alloromantic to be considered fully aro. You can relate with the experiences that aromantic people have, and you are familiar with what romantic attraction feels like. It can be hard sometimes, not feeling like you’re enough for either end of the spectrum. I am here to say that there is a place for you.

I am here to say that if you are grayromantic, the times that you have romantic feelings don’t erase that. They are a part of that. And if those feelings ever get returned, and you are in a romantic relationshilp, that does not erase your grayromanticism, and your aromantic experiences in the past. You are still a part of this community. I see you, there are others that see you, and you have a place here.

I am grayromantic and proud. While this isn’t necessarily meant to be a post all about me, I wanted to share my experiences in hopes that it would help others to know that they aren’t alone in theirs. Thank you for listening, if you’ve made it this far. And to all the other grayromantics out there, thank you for being you, and for being a part of this community. You helped me to realize a lot about myself, and I only hope to be able to give something back in return.

Happy Pride!

#pride #pride month #aromantic #grayromantic #gray aromantic #grayro #aro #aro pride #grayro pride #greyromantic #grey aromantic #greyro #lgbtq

[bisexualsafespace]

any fellow aroallo's

#aroallo #aromantic allosexual #alloaro #aro #aromantic #arospec #gray aromantic #gray aro #grey aro #grey aromas #green aromantic #anvil aromantic #anvil aro #im using anvil aro in a reclaimed way btw not an exclusionist way #lgbtq+ #lgbt #queer #lgbtq

[gray-ace-space]

What’s the more common term: gray aroace or grayrose?

idk, i get the sense grayaroace is more popular because its more straightforward (like if someone hears it for the first time they can figure out what it is), but grayrose sounds so good thooo

#og post #asks #gray ace #aroace #gray aro #acespec #arospec #lgbtq #lgbtq+ #ace #asexual #gray asexual #graysexual #aro #aromantic #gray aromantic #grayromantic #gray aroace #grayaroace #grayrose

[goofygooberton]

Being demiromantic, Aziraphale x Crowley is one of the few love stories I don’t have to suspend my disbelief for because 6000 years actually is a reasonable amount of time for people to become attracted to each other

#good omens #demiromantic #aromantic #gray aromantic #ineffable husbands

[bitchwholoveslife]

High as fuck tired as fuck and feeling very proud to be arospec tonight

#text #gay shit #bitchwholoves.text #aro #aromantic #arospec #aspec #greyromantic #grayromantic #greyro #grayro #grey aro #gray aro #grey aromantic #gray aromantic #drug use cw #tw drugs #i am barely even on this plane of existence rn #up in smoke