We should really talk more about
When everyone admired my power and wanted to flatter me , you’re the only who scolded me. Now, when everyone wants me to die or hates me, you’re the only one standing by my side.
This is such a powerful quote as a whole, with a very sincere and honest sentiment, but I wanna talk about the first part.
When everyone admired my power and wanted to flatter me, you’re the only who scolded me.
And look, I know we all love a smitten and indulgent Lan Zhan, I love him too! But! This right here, this quote, this sentiment, this is literally the baseline to any long lasting, healthy relationship.
Like, yeah, you’ve got to negotiate and surrender some things for the relationship to actually work, but unless you want an unstable, unhealthy relationship then you’ve also got to be firm and stubborn about other things. You’ve got to have your own opinion and most importantly, you’ve got to trust the other person enough to share that opinion.
I cannot emphasize enough just how much trust in your relationship it actually takes to disagree with someone you care about, to scold that someone.
And I’m not saying that you should go around starting petty arguments with everyone you care about just because, neither I’m saying you should put up with someone when the only thing they do is scold or criticize you, because that’s also unhealthy. All I’m saying is that it takes an enormous amount of trust and love to care enough to tell someone no, to tell them when you think they’re making the wrong decision- not because you want them to feel less or insecure, but because you know they’ll be hurting in the end and you do not want that- which is exactly what Lan wangji did, considering all the information at his disposal.
I’m not saying he didn’t make any mistakes because he did and there were a lot of times when he was the one in the wrong, but I am saying that I believe he did that out of care and love and concern. And Wei Ying seeing that? Accepting that? That’s like a huge step in their relationship if you consider that before his resurrection he was convinced Lan Zhan hated him and was actively trying to antagonize him.
Lwj was brave enough to sacrifice one of the things he cherishes the most (aka his relationship with wwx) if it meant that wwx would listen to him, would not be hurt by the choices he was making (because that’s what lwj thought the end result would be, and it was). He was willing to argue and fight and make wwx hate him but he was not willing to let wwx be hurt, even if it was wwx himself the one inflicting the injury.
And that’s just. So much love. You’ve got responsibilities when you’re in a relationship and one of them is protecting your beloved even if it’s from themselves- especially if it’s from themselves-.
Lwj knew that if he didn’t try to protect wwx from himself no one else would because they all were or too afraid of him or depended on him too much to actually pick a fight with him.
That also says a lot about how lwj sees their relationship.
In this fandom we talk a lot about wangxian being equals in everything, but this just goes and gives it a whole new meaning.
They’re equals in strength and in mind, yes, but even when wwx chose the ghost path and separated himself from lwj’s path, lwj still considered him an equal, he considered them well enough matched to know that he could confidently tell him things as they were, bluntly, that he could be upfront and frank with him.
And that’s just !!! And it all really comes full circle with post redirection lwj, who’s so willing to indulge wwx not because he’s just following him blindly, but because now he’s got the full information and realizes that wwx is in the right- if he really thought that wwx was in the wrong he would’ve told him.
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BBB ELEMENTS SEPARATED AU
So- i have like an idea, of where the elements in general, are the right hand person of the original users, they have their element symbol on their chests that indicate that they belong to the original users, and the original users can use them or merge their powers onto themselves.
Their elements are like in their blood and stuff, they're brothers who were taken in by these users at a young age when they got separated, these users found out about the elements and y'know use them and stuff
And of course, they cant defy their users
If they do, it will hurt, a lot, and they themselves have limits, they will be the one to feel the strain, not the users, so if the users use the powers too much, it will make the element weaker.
And thats pretty much the idea, or AU
Do any of yall get the idea?
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Pfff, as if that wasn’t your intention when you started riling up their Dad. Their only saving grace is that their helmets are probably on and hiding their red faces.
I mean, you're RIGHT... I just feel bad for these fictional men, they can CLEARLY tell their dad's been up to some funny business
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