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drmmyrs · 3 years

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Remember Me (Becca x MC)

So, weird story. I was randomly browsing tumblr one time when this ask pops out at the top of the screen (req about amnesia au Becca’s POV). It wasn’t even related to anything I was reading but checked my inbox and it wasn’t there. Most probably the ask isn’t for me but still wrote it just in case 😅

PS if someone DID send me this ask, kindly drop me a message just so I know I’m not seeing things 😭

PPS I’m trying out a new writing style and I’m not sure if it’s any good so I’d really appreciate any feedback 🥺 (this will be a mini series too, I think, since the angst potential is definitely there 😂)

PPPS title is inspired from the song in Coco just cause I’ve been playing it a lot on piano recently

tag list: @whackawriting @samanthadalton @crazzyplays @uselesslesbianfr @baexpoppy @alexroyard @alexlabhont @veenast @noixngn @sillyandcutewizardstuffs (If you wanna be added or removed or just prefer a certain ship just let me know ❤️)

Pairing: Becca x MC (Emily)

Word Count: 2090

I don't remember what happened, nor know where I am, but I hear shouting, lots of it. I try to move, but my body feels completely numb; the only thing I can feel is the trickle of liquid that splatters across my face. Rain? I open my eyes strenuously, but all I can see past my blurry vision are brown eyes glistening with tears. I can't quite make out her face, but for some reason, seeing her cry sends a flurry of emotions that hurt more than my throbbing head. I try to open my mouth, hoping to provide comfort somehow, but no words come out. She is saying something over and over again, something about leaving? But my head hurts too much to be able to comprehend. A siren then blares from a distance, growing louder by the second as flashes of red cloud my vision. And that is when everything turns black.

I slowly open my eyes–still reeling from the nightmare that somehow felt too real–and harsh, blinding lights immediately greet me. I hastily shut my eyes back and suddenly become well aware of the ache engulfing my entire body. It isn't before long that I realize that someone is holding my hand, tracing lazy circles against my skin ever so often. I try to move it but only manage to lift a finger, and at once, the grip tightens and becomes still for a moment before I hear a voice– How can a voice sound so familiar... yet so strange? It's saying my name, urgent and gentle at the same time as though I might break at any second. I try to open my eyes, but exhaustion grips me powerless. And soon, I succumb to its fiery grasp as I slip back into slumber.

When I wake up again, I already feel much stronger than before. The ache in my body has turned into a dull hum as if sharp nails are gently caressing my skin, enough to be felt but not to hurt. I look around the room, panic swelling in my chest as I take in the sight of different medical equipment looming around my bed and needles sticking out of my arm. I fight the urge to squirm as I take big, calming breaths, ignoring how the four white walls seem to close in on me. Thankfully, the door opens, and a nurse walks in, temporarily distracting me from my distress. She smiles upon seeing me awake and walks towards me.

"Welcome back, Ms. Davenport. How are you feeling?"

"W–where am I?" I ask weakly.

"In the hospital. A month ago, you were involved in a car crash, and your head was hurt pretty badly," the nurse says sympathetically. She is now taking my vitals, scribbling something on her chart from time to time.

Car crash?

I scrunch my eyes, trying to remember, but the harder I try, the more my head hurts.

"Wait. A month? Are you saying that I've been here... for a month?"

The nurse nods. "You've been unconscious the entire time. But your vitals now are looking good. The doctor will just run a few tests to make sure we don't miss anything."

I stay quiet for a while, my mind still processing everything the nurse just said, which has only raised new questions.

"Your friends and family were really worried about you, you know. There wasn't a day when you didn't have any visitors. Especially that special friend of yours you were in the car with." The nurse turns towards me, holding a pen against her chin. "What was her name? Em–Emma, I think? She barely left your side. She actually just went to grab some food before you woke up."

...I don't know any Emma, but I don't tell her that.

"What about my parents?"

"Your mom and sister usually visit during the evening."

"And my father?"

The nurse shakes her head. "I don't think I've ever seen your father."

The nurse leaves after a while, and the doctor comes inside the room shortly. I answer a few questions before I'm escorted outside to take some tests. Afterward, the nurse leads me back to my room and gently guides me to bed.

"Would you like me to call in your visitors?" the nurse asks.

I nod.

The nurse goes out, and soon my mom walks in followed by–

"Emily." I frown. "What the hell are you doing here?"

Both of them stop in their tracks. My mom looks at me in concern and confusion, while Emily looks like I just punched her in the gut.

Anger bubbles up inside me as a realization comes to mind. "Y–you. You're the one who did this, aren't you? You're the reason I'm here."

A guilty look flickers across her face, confirming my suspicions. And before I can stop myself, I shout at her to leave, but she stands there motionless, tears threatening to spill from her eyes.

"Go get the doctor," my mom tells her, which snaps her out of her shock. She scurries out of the room at the same time my mom starts walking towards me.

"Why is she here, Mom?"

My mom stops at the side of the bed and reaches out to stroke my hair. "Honey, the accident was not her fault."

"But she was there with me..."

"Yes."

"Why?"

My mom's hand goes still, resting on top of my head. "Becca, what was the last thing you remember?"

"I..." I close my eyes and think hard for a moment. "I–I remember hosting the Kappa party. But that doesn't make any sense. Why would I leave with Emily?"

A brief look of panic flashes across her eyes.

"Mom? What's wrong?"

My mom smiles at me, but it looks forced. "It's nothing, sweetie. The doctor will be here soon."

But I can see that she's trying her best to keep calm–the look on her face similar to when she would talk to my little sister and me right after we would hear her and dad fight.

The doctor comes in a little while later, asking a bunch of questions similar to my mom's. They then do more tests on me, and I grow scared by the minute, not understanding what the hell is going on. Eventually, I'm back in my room alone, my mom and the doctor staying outside to talk. After some time, they enter the room, and my mom sits beside me, taking my hand as the doctor walks towards the other side of the bed.

I look at my mom, drained from all the medical tests I went through the entire day. "What's happening, Mom? I'm scared."

My mom squeezes my hand and gives me a reassuring smile. "The doctor will explain it to you, sweetie. But I'll be right here the whole time." She then gives a single nod to the doctor.

The doctor smiles at me politely. "How are you feeling, Becca?"

I stare at him, suddenly annoyed at being asked the same question over and over again.

"Right then." The doctor clears his throat. "During the accident, your brain was affected more than we initially thought." He pauses, and I meet his gaze, willing him to go straight to the point. "It seems like you have retrograde amnesia, meaning that you have no memory of the past three years of your life."

The doctor goes on and on about the technicalities, but I'm not listening anymore. His voice is reduced to background noise as I repeat his words inside my head, trying to grasp the implications of what he just said. I prop myself up, looking wildly around the room, tugging at my shirt as if it would help me breathe. But it doesn't. My body feels numb, which is why I almost don't notice my mom pulling me into a tight hug, stroking my back comfortingly as she whispers reassurances. I focus on her voice, forcing myself to take deep breaths as I slowly begin to calm down. I pull away after some time, recomposing myself as I find my voice.

"Three years," I whisper.

"We'll help you recover your memories, honey. But for now, you can ask me anything you like."

"I–I think I just need some rest."

My mom nods, helping me settle back in bed before she leaves, promising to be back tomorrow.

Sleep comes easy to me, and I wake up the next day with Madison sitting at the chair next to my bed, browsing her phone.

"Hey, Maddie."

She looks up from her phone, a smile lighting up her face before she practically jumps out of her chair to hug me. "Becca!"

"Ow, that... kinda hurts."

When she pulls away from me, her eyes are teary.

"Sorry, I just missed you so much. You were gone for so long! I thought–"

"Hey, hey, none of that," I say, smiling at her.

She pulls the chair closer to my bed and sits down. "How are you, Becca? Your mom told me about your... condition."

I stare at the ceiling. "Yeah, it sucks." I snap my head back to her. "Tell me something. Do we still hang out a lot?"

"We still meet up from time to time. Not as much as we used to, though," Madison says, smiling sadly.

I nod. "Who do I usually hang out with now?"

"Emily."

I furrow my eyebrows. "Did we become close friends or something?"

"Oh, right. You've only been together for like two years," Madison murmurs contemplatively. "She's your girlfriend, Becca."

I let the information sink in. "You have got to be kidding me." I stare at her wide-eyed. "How–What–Why?"

Madison recounts our 'love story,' each detail more absurd than the last. I don't want to believe any of it, but Emily as my girlfriend... it actually explains everything. I rub my temples. How the hell did that happen? I remember like it was yesterday when she tried to steal Chris away from me. And now... and now...

"Maddie? Can you do me a favor and grab me something to eat? I'm starving."

Madison smiles. "Of course."

Madison goes out in a while, leaving me alone with my thoughts.

***

After a few more days of recovery, I am finally allowed to leave the hospital. Despite my protests, my mom explains that I will have to stay with Emily and her friends at what I assume has been my home for the past two years. She explains that she prefers for someone to look after me constantly, and she will not be able to do that with her job and all.

Outside the hospital, I find Emily waiting near a car; her eyes are bloodshot, as if she hasn't slept a wink in days. When she sees me approaching, her face immediately brightens up. Our gazes lock briefly before I turn back to my mom.

"Are you sure I can't stay with you?"

My mom smiles sadly. "I'm sorry, honey. I wish you could, but..."

"It's okay, I understand."

"Look, I know you don't remember, but these people you've been living with... they care about you very much.”

I nod.

My mom pulls me into a hug before guiding me inside the car, shutting the door afterward. She and Emily talk for a brief moment outside, and I watch as she hugs Emily before walking away. Emily steps into the passenger seat.

Zack, who is sitting in the driver's seat, turns around and smiles at me warmly. "I'm glad you're back."

I shift uncomfortably, ignoring his gaze. "Thanks."

We drive home silently, awkwardness saturating the car space. Upon arriving, I observe the details of the house, seeing if it sparks any memories... but nothing. I see Emily looking at me intently, probably thinking the same thing. They then lead me inside the house, and I step in hesitantly, taking in the surroundings, which vary immensely from the sorority house, the last place I lived based on my memories. Emily guides me to my room, lingering near me as I open the door.

"Becca–"

I turn towards her. "Please don't. I know you think I'm your girlfriend. A–and I guess I was. But as far as I remember, I don't like you at all. So I would appreciate it if you just leave me alone." I turn around and go inside my room, shutting the door behind me. I then lie on the bed, trying to forget how the light dimmed out of Emily's eyes as I broke her heart.

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lazydoodlesandfanfic · 6 years

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KIA (Natasha Romanoff X Reader)

Characters: Natasha Romanoff x Reader

Universe: Marvel, Avengers

Warning: Character death

SAD ANGST

Request: Hi, can you please do a Natasha x reader, where reader is killed in action and the impact it has on the team. You write Natasha really good!

It was nearly midnight, and Natasha was awake, awaiting a call from a phone booth number to her burner phone. She got a new one every few weeks, and sure it cost a bit, but if it was worth it if it meant she got to talk to her partner when either of you were on a mission.

While she was a more of a ‘get it done in a day’ type of gal, you did the long, dragged out ones. You went undercover, befriending the enemy and working yourself up to get information. This sometimes meant you went out of America to work, and she would have to wait till later in the day for a call. She didn’t mind. She didn’t care. Because if meant you were safe.

But it was getting later and later, but she tried to not worried. You’d kept her up till 4am waiting, and she’d wait days for you. Her focus on the phone on the table made her mind block out the banging on the door for half a second. She got up, stalking the door, grabbing a gun on the way and tucking it into her pants as she checked the peephole. She sighed, realising who it was, and swinging it open.

“Clint, what are you doing here?” She asked. It was a good question, but she was quickly getting an idea that he had something to tell her, and it wasn’t good.

“Natalie, can I come in please?” He asked. His voice was lower, almost scratchy. He’d been crying. She nodded, realising just how bad it was, closing the door behind him. “Sit down.” He requested. Now that confused her. She was expecting to be the supporter… why would she need to sit down? She didn’t protest though, sitting down at the table, fiddling with the phone she’d left there, checking it to make sure that in that split second you hadn’t called. “Nat.” Clint begged at her, making her put the phone down.

“Sorry… what is it? What’s happened?” She apologised. Clint was breaking with every second that past, and any thought of it being work related was going out the window. This was closer to home. “Are the kids-“

“It’s Y/N.”

Natasha’s heart stopped, freezing at his words. “What?” Natasha questioned in disbelief. “What happened?” She begged at him. Clint gulped, avoiding her eyes.

“I was listening to the telegram. Y/N sent a cryptic message through two hours ago that set off alarms. We checked their tracking and it their vitals had picked up before plummeting… Their team finished their job, but they found Y/N with a bullet in their head… I’m so sorry Natalie. I’m so, so sorry.”

Natasha went quiet for about an hour. She was crying, but wasn’t making much noise. Clint stayed with her, knowing if he took his eyes off her for a second, she’d dig through this case and take down the group you had infiltrated and make them pay, all without planning, a team or any care for her own safety. While he knew she cared about him and his family, being an auntie for his kids, he knew that you were her world, and now you were dead.

“W-Where are they now?” Natasha whispered finally. She was turned away from him, her body learnt against the doorframe of the kitchen, him at the table still.

“Being flown back. They’ll be at base in less than an hour.” Clint responded. “Do you want to go say goodbye?” He asked. She nodded, grabbing the jacket off the coat hanger by the door, before she froze. Clint knew what she’d done. She’d picked up your coat. She pressed the fabric to her face, starting to physically shake and sob. Clint stood up, hugging his old friend and grabbing the proper jacket for her and leaving the house.

Clint sent the call for the Avengers to come into work as soon as possible that morning, and all arrived accordingly. First Steve, then Vision, Wanda, Thor, Bruce and Tony. “Where’s Nat?” Steve asked, noticing her absence.

“Agent Romanoff is currently with Agent L/N.” Maria answered.

“Y/N finished the mission that quick? I thought they weren’t due back for another week.” Tony commented, but he saw Clint’s wince. “What?”

“Um… Agent L/N was killed in action, early this morning. They were flown back, and Natasha’s been paying her respects since then.” Clint struggled to explain, but when he got it out, there was a long silence.

“No.” Wanda spoke first. She was shaking her head, her eyes becoming watery. “No, please no.” She sobbed. Vision put his arm out, letting the young woman hold onto him for comfort. Bruce had to walk away, and Tony followed after him. Thor followed a familiar plan to what Clint expected of Natasha- revenge… Steve came up to Clint, putting his hand on his shoulder.

“What do you need me to do?” He asked. Steve was Natasha’s friend, so you were his friend as well. But he never knew you as well as Clint did, and he didn’t know you as well as Natasha. Natasha was so protective of you, and both men knew she was beating herself up over it right now, and will continue to.

“The mission wasn’t completed. Y/N’s killers are still out there, and because of how thorough they… were, we know enough to take them down. We need a team to take them down, and I know Natasha and I are in, and I don’t think the rest of the team will refuse. I need to make sure Natasha doesn’t go off by herself, think you can get the mission arranged?” Clint asked. Steve nodded, sharing a second of silence. “She’s downstairs.” Clint informed him.

The team walked down with Steve to the room, where they opened the door, seeing Natasha still in her lounge wear, stood beside the table where you laid, a light blanket covering you. She looked over at her friends. The team gathered around you. It felt surreal. Some had only seen you a few weeks ago, laughing and talking. Now you were silent.

“I promise we’ll make them pay for this Natasha.” Steve promised from across the table. She didn’t take her eyes off you.

Hope you like it! If you have any questions, please send them in!

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podcastdx · 3 years

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Bleeding Disorders

Bleeding Disorders, also known as Hemophilia, von Willebrand Disease, Coagulation Disorders, Blood Clotting Disorders, Clotting Factor Deficiencies

Bleeding disorders are rare disorders affecting the way the body controls blood clotting. If your blood does not clot normally, you may experience problems with bleeding too much after an injury or surgery. This health topic will focus on bleeding disorders that are caused by problems with clotting factors, including hemophilia and von Willebrand disease.

Clotting factors, also called coagulation factors, are proteins in the blood that work with small cells, called platelets, to form blood clots. Any problem that affects the function or number of clotting factors or platelets can lead to a bleeding disorder. A bleeding disorder can be inherited, meaning that you are born with the disorder, or it can be acquired, meaning it develops during your life. Signs and symptoms can include easy bruising, heavy menstrual periods, and nosebleeds that happen often. Your doctor will review your symptoms, risk factors, medical history, and blood test results to diagnose a bleeding disorder. Your doctor may recommend medicines or clotting factor replacement therapy to treat the bleeding disorder. Some bleeding disorders are lifelong conditions, and some can lead to complications. Even if you do not need medicine to treat the bleeding disorder, your doctor may recommend taking precautions before a medical procedure or during a pregnancy to prevent bleeding problems in the future. (credits to NIH)

TRANSCRIPT

Lita T 00:07 Hello and welcome to another episode of PodcastDX. The show that brings you interviews with people just like you whose lives were forever changed by a medical diagnosis. I'm Lita.

Ron 00:18 I'm Ron

Jean 00:19 and I'm moving to Hawaii.

Lita T 00:21 No, she's not

Jean 00:22 it snowed again last night.

Lita T 00:23 I know but

Ron 00:24 and today

Jean 00:25 and today

Lita T 00:26 still not moving to Hawaii.

Jean 00:27 ohhh moving to Hawaii

Lita T 00:28 Remember when you said you cannot shovel lava?

Jean 00:30 Lava

Lita T 00:31 Okay,

Jean 00:31 this is true.

Lita T 00:32 We're staying here.

Jean 00:33 Okay.

Lita T 00:33 Collectively we're the host of podcast dx. March is bleeding disorders Awareness Month, although bleeding disorders may be acquired. On today's show, we're going to be talking about the most common inherited bleeding disorder, von Willebrand disease,

Jean 00:53 someone with (unitelligable) the blah...blah

Lita T 00:55 What?

Jean 00:56 Someone living with a bleeding disorder has blood, which does not clot properly.

Ron 01:02 When someone is injured and bleeding, a blood clot forms to hopefully...to hopefully stop that person from losing too much blood. This process requires both blood platelets and clotting factors which clump together to form something like a dam to stop the bleeding.

Lita T 01:20 Right? I remember watching Grey's Anatomy.

Ron 01:22 (Chuckle)

Lita T 01:23 Okay, we need more platelets, right?

Jean 01:26 I don't watch Grey's Anatomy...but sure I could see them saying that.

Lita T 01:28 Yeah, cuz you know, somebody is bleeding. They need more platelets!

Jean 01:31 Right

Ron 01:31 That's not scripted.

Lita T 01:33 No, it's not.

Jean 01:33 No.

Lita T 01:35 Someone with a bleeding disorder may notice that they bruise easily bleed; excessively during medical or dental procedures or when cut; have unexplained nosebleeds and bleeding gums and internal bleeding. And when I was on blood thinners...no

Jean 01:54 Here we go...

Lita T 01:54 Right? Wait was I am blood thinners or aspirin? I was either on blood thinners or a baby aspirin at one time. And I was outside gardening. And I grabbed a thorn bush. Right? I was clipping and the thorn punctured something on my wrist. And I'm watching it and it's going: squirt, squirt, squirt, and I'm just watching it. I like Isn't that interesting? As it squirting like a squirt gun every you know it would like with my pulse. Squirt, squirt, squirt. And then finally I said: "Okay, better stop this." So, I put pressure on it to stop it. But um, yeah.

Jean 02:24 We're all surprised she's still here. (Chuckle)

Lita T 02:36 (Boisturious laughter)

Ron 02:36 But you definitely painted a picture.

Lita T 02:38 Yeah. Right. So that's what it would be like, if you have a bleeding disorder.

Jean 02:41 I don't know if that's exactly what it would be like, that sounds like an arterial spray that squirting in very, very dangerous.

Lita T 02:47 Okay, that's a bleeding disorder.

Jean 02:49 Bleeding problem.

Ron 02:50 So

Lita T 02:51 yeah.

Ron 02:52 In addition to obtaining a complete medical history, your healthcare provider may order a complete blood count, a bleeding time test and or a platelet aggregation test to help diagnose your condition.

Jean 03:07 And have you guys ever had a bleeding time test?

Ron 03:10 Me personally? No.

Jean 03:11 Oh, they like cut your, nick, your ear and then stand there and wait to see when it stops bleeding.

Lita T 03:18 (chuckling)

Jean 03:19 That's what I remember.

Lita T 03:19 like watching. paint dry?

Ron 03:20 I don't like your doctor's.

Jean 03:21 Yeah, well, that wasn't my doctor. That was my mom. Oh, no, just kidding. Okay. Um, treatment for bleeding disorders will likely depend on the severity and cause of the specific bleeding disorder an individual has.

Lita T 03:33 Right. And although I had never heard of it before, today, the most commonly inherited bleeding disorder is von Willebrand disease.

Ron 03:45 Well I can say that approximately 1% of the population here in the US are affected by von Villa brain disease. And it's characterized by an insufficient amount of a protein. Ironically, the von Willebrand factor or VFW

Jean 04:03 VWF

Lita T 04:04 The VFW hopefully doesn't. It's causing you to bleed you're going to the wrong VWF

Ron 04:11 Did I say I do glasses. I'm sorry, the von Willebrand factor or v w F, which aids in the clotting,

Lita T 04:18 right? There are three forms of von Willebrand disease.

Jean 04:24 We're gonna say it differently every time you say

Lita T 04:26 Yes, okay. Individuals with type one have less VWF than average and may have associated bleeding issues.

Jean 04:37 Were and those living with type two von Willebrand disease have enough v wF in their system, but their Vidya wF does not function correctly or is incorrectly formed. And

Ron 04:49 type three, v w.f

Jean 04:52 Vwd willen brand disease Oh, tight as opposed to von Willebrand factor. Oh, Okay,

Lita T 05:00 okay. So type three v WD.

Ron 05:03 Okay? So type three v WD is very serious individuals with this form of von Willebrand disease, do not make v w f at all. Oh, yeah, right. And their platelets cannot clot and this is very This is a very serious condition which makes bleeding difficult to control.

Lita T 05:23 That sounds terrible. Individuals with von Willebrand disease should typically avoid taking medications which may increase their risk of bleeding such as aspirin, or non steroidal anti inflammatories.

Jean 05:37 And if you have a bleeding disorder, it is vital that you inform your health care providers, including your doctors and dentists. And I would suggest if you know if it's a very serious form, that you have an ID bracelet that states that

Lita T 05:50 Oh, yeah, for sure. And carry a lot of gauze.

Jean 05:54 I don't get a tourniquet. I don't think you should be able to carry a tourniquet, no band aids. I think people that carry Okay, tourniquets are very serious,

Lita T 06:02 right. Okay. If you would like to know more about bleeding disorder awareness, check out the link to the national hemophilia foundation Foundation's website which will be on our web page, or you may want to donate to a red tie fundraiser.

Jean 06:21 And I think Haemophilia is what we've all associated with writing disorders. That's what I've heard, right? But it's very, very rare. It just gets a lot of publicity, because you hear about, you know, like Royals hat being haemophiliac and or being haemophiliacs because,

Lita T 06:34 you know, that's, that's where it came from.

Jean 06:37 No, it's just inbreeding, and the those, you know, because then you're passing the factor on and you're increasing the chance, or likelihood that two people with the same factor will pass it on. But

Ron 06:47 that's the most common, right. No,

Jean 06:49 no, no, it's not. It's very rare. von Willebrand disease is the most common. Isn't that weird? And we've never heard of that. Yeah, right. That's Yeah, it's very counterintuitive. It is very counterintuitive. But that's what the internet says, and we believe everything on the internet.

Lita T 07:07 And gene would like you to know about a blood parfait recipe in case you wanted to share this with your friends.

Jean 07:17 Well, the National hemophilia foundation does try to utilize different techniques to help people understand more about their blood and clotting. And to help illustrate that, they suggest that you could try to make a blood purvey, you could use a cream colored substance like vanilla ice cream, or maybe a yogurt as your base use Cheerios. And that will represent your platelets, although they're nice and round, which I don't understand. And you kind of want something like awkwardly shaped but red m&ms or red Hots, and those could be the red blood cells, white chocolate chips, or mini marshmallows. And these can be the white blood cells, pretzels. And these can be the fibrin which is the kind of the stuff that joins with platelets to form that your clot, okay. Gummy worms in the eye can actually represent the V WD. And to top it off, put on some rainbow sprinkles, and that'll represent the 13 other blood factors.

Lita T 08:14 Yeah, we'll be doing that.

Ron 08:18 I gotta tell you, I learned quite a bit on this. This morning.

Lita 08:21 Oh well, that's

Jean 08:22 that's good.

Lita T 08:23 Yeah, I'm glad somebody did. Yeah, I

Jean 08:24 learned we're not moving to Hawaii.

Lita T 08:26 No, we're not moving to Hawaii.

Ron 08:28 Well, for our listeners, if you have any questions or comments related to today's show, you can drop us a line at podcast [email protected] through our website, podcast, dx comm on Facebook pitter pitter pitter patter pitter patter on

Jean 08:47 his own app. Wow. Have you heard from somebody on Twitter? I hear they have a lot of patter.

Ron 08:54 Let's try this again. Okay, through our website, podcast, dx.com on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, or Instagram,

Jean 09:02 I can appear as a combination of Twitter and Pinterest. I like it.

Lita T 09:05 Yeah. Okay. And if you have a moment to spare, please give us a review wherever you get your podcast. As always, please keep in mind that this podcast is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the advice of a physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or treatment and before undertaking a new health care regime. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay of seeking it because of something you have heard on this podcast till next week.

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sontwine88 · 3 years

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When you strike around 35 to 40 Vigor, you may want to think about putting points right into Vigor to be able to bring heavier tools or armor. Having a large swimming pool of health and wellness is only completely efficient if your Estus Flask can recovery you up to complete promptly without numerous usages. So, exactly how you stabilize Vigor, Vitality, as well as Stamina from mid to late game depends partially on the amount of Estus Flask upgrades you have actually obtained. Note that heavy armors aren't as reliable as in previous games, yet do aid you mitigate damages.

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Jon Newcomb Visits Austin’s Thinkery Children’s Musem

Part One of ‘Jon Newcomb Austin Reviews’ Series

Parents and kids alike love Austin's hands-on children's museum where science, innovation, engineering, arts and math (STEAM) exhibits get families finding out and chuckling. Thinkery is Austin's version of a children's museum. The environment itself challenges your mind (and some may call it a bit too crowded at times). Jon Newcomb visit Thinkery all the time and has quite a bit to review about it.

Thinkery is an effective method for kids to establish analytical skills, crucial thinking, and curiosity about the world around them. The exhibitions and programs motivate children-- along with their caregivers-- to fix imaginative obstacles, check out a range of products, and to establish brand-new ways to complete unknown jobs. Through these activities, children get the tools and confidence to grow and establish into enthusiastic, innovative, long-lasting STEAM learners and thinkers.

The Many Benefits of Thinkery

Children find out through play-- whether it's a child-led expedition of the connections between water and sound in Currents; together with an adult directing your own Stop Motion Animation Station motion picture in Innovators' Workshop, an exploration of experiences in Kitchen Lab; experimentation with motion in a Move Studio barrier course; diving into fictional worlds during Storytime; or checking out an idea with new products making your own cardboard production in a Spark Shop making activity. Play helps develop the ability to envision, perceive, factor, and issue solve while developing a foundation for a life time of learning.

Build Knowledge

Kids start to establish an understanding of STEAM concepts as infants. To support this, Thinkery offers enjoyable, engaging, high-quality STEAM experiences that cut across disciplines and set the phase for how they approach learning into adulthood. Thinkery kids check out cause and effect with electrical power and switches throughout a Scribble Bot Birthday Party, have fun with patterns manipulating colors in Light Lab, test structure and function developing a catapult in Camp, and examine the size and function of tiny structures at Micro Eye.

While all kids are born with an innate sense of interest about the world around them, they require grownups to cultivate, guide and enhance their interests in STEAM. By offering chances for caregivers and moms and dads to share in a cheerful, positive STEAM finding out experiences and to see themselves as crucial parts of their kid's early learning, it sets children up for future success.

Cultivate Curiosity

Nurturing clinical thinking is necessary for developing curious, bold and innovative long-lasting STEAM students and thinkers. Thinkery utilizes the process of query to promote clinical thinking. We "hand the reins" to kids and adults to explore what they discover curious-- which leads to asking concerns, making discoveries, and screening those discoveries in the search for brand-new understanding.

Promote Positive Adult-Child Relationships

Thinkery supports grownups in the vital work of parenting and caregiving. Adult engagement within a free-choice learning environment is multi-faceted and necessarily varied. Thinkery supplies multiple entry points for adult engagement, incorporating opportunities for grown-ups to observe - a child to produce a work of art at Paint Wall, help with-- an enhancement on a co-designed bridge at Build Landscape, and collaborate with-- creating a temporal "household portrait" in Frozen Shadows.

History of Thinkery

Austin Children's Museum was founded in 1983 by a grassroots group of teachers and parents who wanted regional kids to have more cultural and educational chances. At that time, it was a "museum without walls"-- the founder drove tabletop exhibitions around town in her station wagon and provided activities and programs in schools, parks, libraries and, yes, even shopping malls.

In 1987, they settled into their first brick-and-mortar home-- a 5,000-square-foot building on W. 5th St. For the next 10 years, they presented exhibitions, experiences and curricula for local kids and households. Throughout this time, they established exhibits that traveled to other kids's museums around the country, acquiring rather a track record.

By the mid-1990s, Austin was flourishing, and they had outgrown their home. Fortunately, the community acknowledged the significance of the organization and supported an expansion project. The outcome was the 1997 relocate to downtown Austin's warehouse district. Transferring to the 2nd St. center through a 10-year, rent-free lease was a huge action for Austin Children's Museum, however they understood when they opened the doors that Austin was growing and we 'd eventually need to expand.

In December 2013, Austin Children's Museum became Thinkery and opened at its brand-new location-- a 40,000-square-foot facility in the Mueller neighborhood. Thinkery delivers its mission through a variety of displays and programs that concentrate on science, technology, engineering, art and mathematics (STEAM). Museum activities focus on academic experiences led by personnel, so each visit is various from the last!

My Review

Today I'm excited to tell you all about our current see to Thinkery. Tess likes going to the interactive museum and I love enjoying her expand her mind in numerous ways. Whether it's through art, building with logs, designing airplanes, or pretending to run a farm-to-table dining establishment.

Area

Thinkery is located in the Mueller location, which is simply east of I-35 near Dell Children's Hospital. The entrance to Thinkery is a few steps away from Mueller Lake Park's Playground.

If you're headed there on a weekend early morning or weekday early morning after traffic wanes, you can arrive in about 25 minutes from the Four Points area. With traffic, however, it could be closer to 45 minutes.

Parking

Thinkery visitors can have up to 3 hours of parking validated in the McBee Street District Garage which is ideal across the street from (but behind) Thinkery With children in tow it can take about 5 minutes to obtain from your car, however, so strategy accordingly.

Exploring Thinkery.

Immediately kids love climbing up all over the lock ness beast at the entrance. Lake Mueller Park Playground will interest kids of any ages. It can get crowded!

When you first walk into Thinkery, you'll immediately find a huge train table, an electronic camera for taking silly images (which then get blown up on the wall-- the kids like to see themselves up there), and a giant block table.

Ongoing Exhibits

The Thinkery routinely updates their permanent displays and each is created for hands-on learning. Here are some favorites that kids will love to explore:

Currents

Currents functions hands-on water activity stations for households to explore fluid dynamics and discover the connections between water and sound. The museum offers smocks and hand dryers however load a modification of clothes or a towel in case you are worried about your kid getting too wet!

It can get crowded, however it's extremely nice that there is a confined "baby" space in the middle for parents with both older and more youthful kids. Genius! So moms and dads can wait their infant however watch on and engage with their older kid( ren) at the very same time.

Trigger Shop

Next we headed to the Spark Shop where kids can find out all about aerodynamics. You can also design your own gliders and launch them in the air in this space.

Light Lab

Light Lab allows families to investigate the impact of color, light and shadows. Visitors can draw with light, freeze shadows, and build light structures utilizing mini and magnets blocks with LEDs. On this wall, you could push on the various pressure zones to get it to alter a variety of colors.

Our Backyard

Our Backyard is an amazing outside play area that welcomes museum goers to scale the heights of an accessible, custom-made climber, or rest under the branches of our native elm tree. This is Thinkery's outdoor play area. There you will discover a separate water play area, a huge playscape (tailored towards older kids), a location where kids can construct with foam noodles, and more.

Let's Grow

Upstairs you'll discover the Let's Grow Exhibit which includes a farmer's market, a play space for more youthful kids (0-3), a reading nook, and more. Kids LOVE the farmer's market.

Repeating Events

Every Wednesday, the museum remains open late for Community Nights from 4-- 8 p.m., admission is by donation. There is likewise a Bilingual Storytime on Wednesdays beginning at 6 p.m.

For households with children ages 4 and up, Think Lab allows for expedition of intricate procedures and usage of real scientific tools. Inspect their website for the schedule.

Toddlers take control of the museum during Baby Bloomers, when the museum is open just for visitors ages 0-- 3 years and their households. Held Mondays (9 a.m.-- noon) and Saturdays (9-- 10 a.m.), the program is produced for the earliest students. Saturday Baby Bloomers activities are restricted to the second level of the museum, so other ages can still access other locations of the museum during the event.

Every Winter, The Thinkery uses Gingerbread Workshops where families utilize fresh gingerbread and sweet treats to construct gingerbread houses. Make your appointments in advance.

Plan Your Trip to Thinkery Today!

Okay, so if you can't tell, we enjoy Thinkery. My review didn't even cover half of whatever they provide. I want I could but there are still areas of the museum we have not hung out in, and as the kids age I'm sure we'll start to find even more.

Admission

General admission to Thinkery is $10 for anybody 2 years old and up. Thinkery provides wonderful subscription bundles for households and I completely suggest getting one. Although we can't make it to Thinkery as typically as we 'd like, we probably happen as soon as every two months and it's nice to not need to pay anything each time! Plus, members have numerous other advantages, consisting of early gain access to on a couple Sundays every month and a discount rate at the present shop.

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Family rushes to hospital

Word about Tate was spreading quickly among family members.

Her mother, Daisy Tate, received a call from Tiffany’s supervisor, who told her Tiffany had a serious reaction to her medication and that she was going to Froedtert. The supervisor didn’t mention anything about a stroke.

Daisy Tate dialed Tiffany’s brother, David, who was at his factory job in Waukesha.

She told him to get to the hospital right away.

David and Tiffany were especially close.

The pair were two years apart, and nearly shared the same birthday. The family, including their two older sisters, lived near N. 24th and W. Burleigh streets. As kids, David and Tiffany went to Auer Avenue School and learned to swim at nearby Moody Pool.

Their love of swimming translated into frequent trips to Wisconsin Dells water parks with their own kids.

To friends and family, Tiffany was “Tipp,” a nickname she picked up as a girl when she would often stand on her “tippy toes.” It was on her license plate.

Now, Tipp was in trouble. And David Tate had to get to her.

Across town, Alvin Blalock also got word something was wrong. He and Tiffany, his longtime girlfriend, had known each other for more than 10 years and were together for five. The couple planned to get married someday.

Alvin and Tiffany lived in the downstairs unit of a bungalow on Milwaukee’s near north side, with their newborn son and her 15-year-old daughter from a previous relationship. Tiffany’s mother lived upstairs.

Blalock was stunned by the news. Tiffany had seemed fine when she left for work. He didn’t have much time to think.

Blalock took 8-month-old Alex to stay with his mother and rushed out.

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Tiffany Tate’s brother, David Tate.

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Tiffany Tate’s brother, David Tate.

David Tate was already speeding to Froedtert, 10 anxious miles punctuated by calls to and from other family members.

As David ran through the front door and inquired at the information desk, he was shocked to learn his sister wasn’t there.

“It didn’t make any sense to me,” David Tate said in an interview. “Damn, she was at Froedtert. She works there. She was right there.”

David called one of his sister’s co-workers, who told him where Tiffany had been sent. David jumped back in his car and raced to West Allis.

He told his wife and father to meet him there.

Meanwhile, Daisy Tate got another call — this one from West Allis. A nurse said Tiffany had a stroke and was at the hospital.

The news hit Daisy like a bolt. She, herself, had suffered a mild stroke years earlier.

“I said, ‘Oh my God.’ I just broke down,” she said. “I knew what a stroke was like. I knew.”

Trying to get the attention of her granddaughter, who was downstairs, Daisy Tate frantically banged her cane on the wooden floor.

Octayvia Fountain ran up the stairs, but when she heard the news, she couldn’t process it. That morning her mom had come to give her kisses, like she did every morning. They were going to go together for school registration later that day. Octayvia would be a sophomore starting at a new high school in a few weeks.

To her, mom was “Superwoman.”

This can’t be happening, she thought. This can’t be happening.

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Tiffany Tate’s daughter, Octayvia Fountain (left), and mother, Daisy Tate.

Rare option becomes common

The practice of ambulance diversion has long been under fire.

A 2001 report from the U.S. House Committee on Government Reform found diversions were so widespread they represented a threat to emergency medical readiness, including in the event of a terrorist attack.

In 2004, a study on diversion in Houston attributed several deaths to the practice.

Two years later, a report from the non-profit Institute of Medicine — which provides advice on health and medical issues to Congress and the government — concluded diversion “should be eliminated except in the most extreme circumstances, such as a mass casualty in a community.”

A 2017 study found that African-American patients had an increased chance of dying from heart attacks and strokes as hospitals in largely minority neighborhoods were going on diversion more often than others.

“Diversion has been aggressively abused,” said Corey Slovis, chair of emergency medicine at Vanderbilt University and the medical director for the Nashville Fire Department. “There is a diversion scandal, with too many hospitals going on diversion when they could be open.”

Study after study has found diversion does not even work.

The reason is simple: Ambulances account for only a fraction of patients arriving in emergency rooms. So, the front door is not really even closed.

Instead, experts say, the focus should be on the “back door” — getting patients already in the emergency room either discharged or admitted to the hospital.

“Picture pouring water into a cup that’s full,” said Howard Mell, an emergency room doctor and spokesman for the American College of Emergency Physicians. “Once you start spilling, it doesn’t matter if you pour a little less or how much you pour, you still have a mess.

“You have to solve the back door, and diversion does not do that.”

So why not end it?

A 2008 study from the Society for Academic Emergency Medicine found hospitals may actually make more money during times of diversion. That’s because there are often higher profits on scheduled surgeries. And those surgeries can wind up canceled when beds are filled by patients coming from the emergency room.

In a statement, the Wisconsin Hospital Association said “true diversion” is necessary at times for unanticipated, critical situations and in such cases, it is important that hospitals and ambulance crews quickly communicate to divert patients safely.

Hospitals might also turn away ambulances if equipment breaks down or if there is an unexpected problem, such as flooding or electricity being out. In a case several years ago, Children’s Hospital of Wisconsin shut down for several hours because a man with a gun was in the building.

Still, the vast majority of diversions, experts say, are due to overcrowding.

Defenders describe diversion policies as “a necessary evil” intended to protect patients from long, dangerous waits at a crowded hospital. The key, they acknowledge, is to get the ambulance patient to another less-crowded hospital that has the same capabilities.

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The problem: When one hospital closes its doors, it simply spills more water — and sends extra ambulances — onto the next hospital, which may then have to close its doors. Indeed, sometimes hospitals close simply in anticipation of getting more patients.

“You really don’t want to be brought to a hospital that doesn’t think they can do the job properly,” said Lewis Nelson, a doctor and chair of emergency medicine at Rutgers Medical School in New Jersey.

On the morning Tate fell ill at the Medical College, seven of the 12 hospitals in Milwaukee County were on diversion for at least part of the day — including Aurora West Allis Medical Center.

Taken together, the hospitals turned away ambulances for a total of 34 hours that day, according to a Journal Sentinel analysis of state data. The data doesn’t show how many ambulances were diverted as a result.

Froedtert was on diversion for 690 hours in 2014, the equivalent of nearly 29 days. Yet that only ranked it sixth among Milwaukee hospitals that year. Aurora St. Luke’s was highest, with 1,319 diversion hours — the equivalent of nearly 55 days.

When half of the county’s hospitals were on diversion at the same time, the EMS director could force them all to open. Between 2014 and 2015, that happened on at least 97 days, state data shows.

It did not happen on Aug. 19. 2014.

Large clot leads to crisis

The ambulance carrying Tate arrived at the West Allis hospital emergency department at 9:23 a.m.

It had been a little more than an hour since Tate first began showing signs of a stroke.

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Tate had a large clot that had broken off from somewhere in her body, perhaps one of her legs, her medical records show. The clot had moved through her body and become lodged in her carotid artery — a large and vital vessel carrying blood through the neck to the brain.

Tate had experienced problems with veins in her legs for years and she contended with other health problems. Like her mother, she had diabetes. The years on her feet cooking had taken its toll.

Nevertheless, cooking was what she loved.

She learned to cook on childhood trips to Mississippi to see aunts and uncles and cousins. She mastered fried chicken, Chinese rice and homemade egg rolls. She made southern catfish whenever her aunt came up from Alabama.

After graduating from Milwaukee Tech High School, she started as a cook at Whitefish Bay schools and Nicolet High School, then at Potawatomi casino restaurants and finally at Davians, which stationed her at the Medical College.

After a shift, she’d head home and cook more there — lately with a spatula in one hand, the newborn on the opposite hip.

Cooking was a way to keep the family together.

“She’d call and say, ‘Fatty, you gonna come over for some barbecue?’” David Tate said. “We’d drink some fruit drinks and listen to the blues.”

When he arrived at the West Allis hospital, Tate found his sister in an emergency room bed in a hospital gown. Her work uniform — a black polo shirt and khaki pants — was stuffed in a bag nearby.

David Tate, brother of Tiffany Tate, recalls the day of Tate’s stroke.

She was disoriented and tapping her hand against her right ear.

A nurse explained to her brother the tapping was because of the stroke and the pressure on her brain.

“She said, ‘There’s something in my ear. There’s something in my ear,’” David Tate said. “That’s the last thing I heard her say.”

One doctor ordered a clot-busting drug be administered through an IV in her arm, records show. But another doctor ordered that treatment stopped because possible bleeding was detected in her brain.

The policy at West Allis was to transfer all patients having a serious stroke to a hospital capable of a higher level of care, either Froedtert, Aurora St. Luke’s Medical Center or St. Mary’s Hospital, said Matthew Braun, a spokesman for Aurora.

“We can’t change the fact that she was brought to West Allis,” Braun said. “The team did the best they could to get her to the highest level of care as quickly as possible. Time is of the essence in these cases.”

With Froedtert closed, the closest top-level care was at St. Luke’s — five miles away.

The problem: The fire department ambulance that had brought Tate to West Allis was gone. The crew’s job was to make the hand-off, then get back to Wauwatosa.

A private ambulance was summoned. It arrived 15 minutes later. By this point, Tate had lost consciousness.

As the ambulance was leaving, David Tate, his wife and father rushed to his car to follow. In those moments, the West Allis hospital went on diversion.

They were racing the clock to St. Luke’s.

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This video by Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine shows how a blood clot is removed during a stroke.

Paramedics had to follow orders

In Milwaukee County, ambulance diversions had been commonplace since at least the early 1990s.

Initially, there was little direction provided to paramedics on what to do when a hospital closed, sometimes leaving them to search willy-nilly for an open hospital, said Ronald Pirrallo, who was then the head of Milwaukee County’s Emergency Medical Services department.

Paramedics sometimes found ways around the diversions.

One veteran paramedic said they might drive a patient to the hospital, stop in the parking lot, have the patient sign out “against medical advice” and point them to the front door of the emergency room.

In other cases, 911 wouldn’t be called at all. Instead, patients would have someone drive them to the hospital to ensure treatment.

Pirrallo spearheaded creation of a new policy.

“It was designed to improve patient care and avoid overcrowding at any one individual hospital,” said Pirrallo, now a professor of emergency medicine at the University of South Carolina.

That policy meant the crew that transported Tate had no discretion.

Joe Schwark was the lead paramedic and commander on the call with Tate. For him, it was likely one of a half-dozen that day. In a year, he had hundreds.

He could not remember the specific call, but knew exactly how it would have played out once he was told that diversion was in effect.

For paramedics, Froedtert is the go-to facility, given its top-level designations in all areas. But unless Tate was bleeding uncontrollably or had a blocked airway, he had to follow orders.

“There were bigger players making the rules,” he said. “You just followed directions even if you didn’t generally agree with a lot of this stuff.”

Schwark said his most likely route that day would have been to take 87th Street south out of the medical center grounds.

That would have sent them right past the entrance to Froedtert’s emergency room — “close enough to spit on the driveway,” Schwark said.

Emergency departments nationwide have been quietly deploying a controversial tactic of turning ambulances away.

Grasping at straws

With possible bleeding in the brain, the next step for Tate was a technique in which doctors use a tiny catheter to try to physically remove the clot.

Froedtert had been able to do this since 2005 and became one of the first hospitals in the country to receive the advanced certification in 2013. St. Luke’s had received its designation as an Advanced Comprehensive Stroke Center three months before Tate’s stroke.

The ambulance carrying Tiffany Tate, now unconscious, arrived shortly after noon. More than three-and-a-half hours had passed since she first showed signs of having a stroke.

Studies have found the best outcomes when patients receive the treatment inside of three hours, though it has been shown to work up until 24 hours later.

Using the catheter, doctors tried to reach the clot in Tate’s neck through an artery in her leg. The procedure didn’t work.

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Tiffany Tate, right, and her daughter, Octayvia Fountain.

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Tiffany Tate, right, and her daughter, Octayvia Fountain.

By now, Tate’s family had gathered at St. Luke’s. Blalock, her boyfriend, was in the waiting room. So was her brother and his wife, her older sisters, her parents and her daughter.

They tried to grasp how she had deteriorated so quickly. Family members were pacing, asking anyone who came by what was happening.

“It was really an emotional time,” David Tate said. “We just wanted answers, to know that she was going to be alright.”

Doctors emerged with bad news: Tate’s prospects were dim.

Pressure was building in Tate’s brain from the bleeding. Doctors wanted to try a radical step: Remove part of her skull to relieve the pressure.

Her family thought about the future, about how baby Alex and Octayvia would not have a mother if she died now. How Tiffany Tate had always dreamed of owning a home and had finally made that happen. And how much she loved family, how she held everyone together.

There was so much to live for.

They told the doctors to do whatever they could.

Plan to end diversion had been drafted

On the day Tiffany Tate suffered her stroke, a preliminary plan for ending ambulance diversion in Milwaukee County had already been drafted.

It ran two pages and was the brainchild of Riccardo Colella.

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Riccardo Colella

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Riccardo Colella

When Colella took over the county’s emergency medical services a year earlier, in 2013, he began examining how the diversion policy could be putting patients at risk. He set out to change it.

Colella, trained as an emergency medicine doctor and professor at the Medical College of Wisconsin, didn’t have the authority to force the issue. Rather, he had to talk, one by one, with all the major health care players in the area, including Aurora, Froedtert, Ascension and Children’s Hospital.

What would it take to end diversion? Not curb it, but end it, he said.

The solution, studies had shown, was not even in the emergency department.

Rather, it came from addressing things that left the emergency room bottlenecked: slow paperwork, rooms not being cleaned quickly enough, the time it took to discharge patients.

For Aurora Health Care, which owns one-third of the hospitals in Milwaukee County, the changes that needed to be made were far-reaching, said Steve Francaviglia, who is in charge of the system’s Milwaukee hospitals.

It meant creating a new process where patients would receive their initial diagnosis over video monitors from doctors in another location. That would help get tests ordered quickly.

The X-ray Department was examined to make it move more quickly, as was patient transport. Housekeeping was studied and improvements made to better notify other departments when a room was ready for a new patient. Schedules were tweaked.

Other health care systems made similar changes.

The first thing phased out, in January 2015, was diversions for those who had the most severe cardiac issues, such as needing to be resuscitated. The end of diversions for other stroke and heart attack cases came in March — six months after the day Tiffany Tate suffered her stroke.

All diversions were ended in April 2016.

Milwaukee County hospitals were on diversion for nearly 4,800 hours during a six-month period in 2015. In the same time frame the following year, the figure plummeted to 13 hours, according to a county report.

Colella said there have been no reports of problems with patient care to his office since diversions were ended.

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Nevertheless, ambulance diversion is still happening in other areas around the state including in Waukesha and Racine counties, according to state data. At least 65 hospitals in the state have diverted patients to some degree over the last two years.

That includes some Aurora hospitals outside Milwaukee County. Francaviglia said efforts are underway to end diversion throughout the health care system.

Colella said he was not aware of Tate’s case until the Journal Sentinel brought it to his attention. But, he said, it illustrated all the problems with the diversion system.

“Cases like this, where there are issues with access, was really one of the principles behind changing the policy,” he said, adding the aim was “to bring people with time-sensitive illness to the closest place that could take care of them.”

Bedside vigil kept

For weeks, Tate’s family and friends kept a vigil at St. Luke’s.

The diagnosis was grim. She was being fed through a tube. One of the doctors told David Tate his sister would never get up from the bed.

Still the family wasn’t ready to let her go. They directed that she be resuscitated if she had a heart attack or stopped breathing. When more intensive hospital care was not practical, they had her transferred to a long-term care facility and eventually to a nursing home in Glendale.

Frustrated by what happened, David Tate called lawyer after lawyer to see if the family had a case against Froedtert, against the Medical College, against anyone.

In Wisconsin, non-economic awards in any wrongful death cases are capped at $350,000. In medical malpractice cases, the cap is $750,000 for damages such as pain and suffering. The limits were established by the state Legislature and upheld by court decisions.

That means many lawyers are not interested in taking such cases, which are often expensive to prepare. David Tate said he was also told by some of the lawyers that he would never win against Froedtert. It was too big.

More importantly, there was a question of who to sue. It wasn’t as if the hospital gave her negligent treatment. Rather the system itself delayed his sister’s treatment.

What’s more, a 1993 federal appeals court decision made the prospects of winning a case less likely.

In Chicago, a newborn who lived five blocks from the University of Chicago hospital went into cardiac arrest. The hospital was on diversion and refused to take the child, who later died. The court ruled in favor of the hospital.

It is considered a bedrock case in the area of ambulance diversion and liability, cited by attorneys and judges who face the issue nationwide. It was decided in the 7th Circuit Court of Appeals, which has jurisdiction over Wisconsin.

At the Glendale nursing home, the weeks stretched to months. Every day, visitors came, but Tiffany Tate did not improve. Instead, she got worse.

She died shortly before midnight on Dec. 9 — two weeks before her son’s first birthday.

Experts say diversion was wrong

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Several health care experts who reviewed the case for the Journal Sentinel said Tiffany Tate should have been taken to Froedtert, regardless of any diversion policy.

“To me, if someone is on the grounds of your hospital, they are yours,” said Raven, the emergency room physician and professor in San Francisco. “It is really sad. There were so many failures.”

Michael Carome, a former top official in the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services and now medical director of Public Citizen, a public policy group, said the delay in getting Tate to a top-level stroke center diminished her chances of survival.

“I would think there is a very high probability that the (delay) reasonably contributed to her adverse outcome given what we know about the golden window to quickly treat an ischemic stroke,” Carome said.

The experts said it is impossible to know if Tate would have survived if she had gone straight to Froedtert.

But they were unified in this: She would have had a better chance.

Alvin Blalock, longtime boyfriend of Tiffany Tate, recalls the day of Tate’s stroke.

Years of questions

Four years have passed since Tiffany Tate’s death.

The family has tried to make peace with the case, but frustration has simmered under the surface. When a reporter unearthed the case, David Tate initially did not want to participate. It was still too raw.

He has since decided sharing his sister’s story could help end ambulance diversions in other places around the country.

“Why are they turning away ambulance patients when people like my sister are having a stroke?” David Tate said. “Maybe that’s why I’m here doing this interview today so this doesn’t happen to anybody else in the future.”

Blalock, Tiffany Tate’s longtime boyfriend, remembers her cooking and her smile, trips they would take to Lambeau Field, all the good times.

“I miss her. I just miss her,” he said. “She was just gone too soon.”

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Tiffany Tate and boyfriend Alvin Blalock.

Their son, Alex, is now 5. He started kindergarten this year.

Alex has questions.

“Only thing I got are pictures,” Blalock said. “Everybody else’s mama is around. All I can teach him is with the pictures.”

It helps, he said, that “Little Al” is going to Sunday school now and learning about heaven.

That’s where his mama is, his father tells him.

He tells him that a lot.

Kevin Crowe and Cary Spivak of the Milwaukee Journal Sentinel staff contributed to this report.

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How we reported this story

For this article, a Milwaukee Journal Sentinel reporter reviewed more than 7,000 pages of medical records covering the care of Tiffany Tate on the day of her stroke and the months that followed. This was done with the consent of Tate’s family.

Also reviewed: Reports from the Wauwatosa Fire Department, Medical College of Wisconsin Public Safety Department and the Medical Examiner’s Office, court records and dozens of studies on ambulance diversion, hospital overcrowding, and stroke care.

The Journal Sentinel also analyzed five years of data from a state of Wisconsin system used by hospitals to alert each other of their status. The WI Trac system is voluntary. Not all hospitals participate; those that do sometimes do not send in data about closures. Thus, the findings reveal a minimum amount of time the hospitals are on diversion.

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The gift of foresight

I’m going to start with something I think is vital for every teenager, especially those going through a hard time, to know. IT GETS BETTER!

Foresight is not an easy thing to have as a teenager. As I’m now in my late 20′s I can look back and see just how small a part of my life school has really become. I was able to pass this information on to my sister, W, when she was going through school and had me as living proof that it all changes after high school and if you decide, it can be for the better.

If you don’t have someone to tell you this (parents don’t really count when you’re a teenager as they are so far from where you are in your life it’s sometimes impossible to relate to one another) it can feel like this is it. This is your life forever!

If you’re the nerd you may feel like you will always be the nerd. If you’re the ugly duckling you may think that will never change. I’m here to tell you things can ALWAYS change! Any sort of label or unfortunate event that may have placed you in the unpopular category during your school years is not permanently stuck with you for the rest of your life. If you’re nerdy at school that can quite often lead to success and influence later in life. For some of us beauty doesn’t appear at age one and it takes us time to master our looks and highlight our features. I’ve known girls who went from large to slim and vice versa. Sometimes the smart ones lose their focus and don’t do so well in the end and it goes both ways. Other times girls who didn’t feel they soared in high school do so afterwards. It can always go either way, you have to learn to decide which way YOU want to go and how YOU can make that a reality for yourself.

This may seem like a difficult concept when you’re in high school, where everyone has known you since you were practically a baby and you don’t have your own income or don’t always have the means to make what you want happen. But it certainly can become easier once you have finished high school.

The school I went to was very tame, I never had any major dramas and have fond memories of friends, teachers and school camps (though I despised the camps at the time). I know this is not the case for everyone and for some teenagers school is a prison, a living hell… something that seems to have no end. Unfortunately, it is hard to convince someone going through their perceived hell that it could all be better in a few years. A few years is forever in the land of the ‘Teenage Psyche’! If you can just remember that once you graduate from high school the possibilities are only limited to what you limit yourself to. So to all the teenagers who feel like their life is a daily struggle, if you dislike the kids you go to school with, have a teacher who gives you a hard time, aren’t academically minded or don’t fit in hang in there! I hope I can give you foresight and one day it will all be a distant memory… what was once a big deal won’t seem so big when you are older.

TO PUT IT IN PERSPECTIVE At school you are just beginning to learn who you are and you have no idea what lies ahead. All you’ve really known so far is creche, kindergarten and school. Which if you think about it makes up probably the smallest portion of your life. If we live to just 70 years old, from the day you are born to the day you leave high school, doesn’t even account for half your life, in fact it makes up only 25%. The good news here is this means that the other 75% of your life is totally up to you. You’re an adult and within the parameters of the law you can do just about anything you like.

IN THE MEAN TIME? Like anything in life, easier said then done. I may have a glossy memory of high school now that I’m almost a decade away from it but rest assured I was not one of the ‘popular kids’, highly intelligent or a swan.

I certainly could have used a few tips and some guidance to help make my life a little smoother. I grew up in Australia and being Lebanese I had wild frizzy hair and about ten times more then any of the other kids. To add to that I had eyebrows that could be defined as an eyebrow. I also went through a glorious stage where my mother allowed me to get highlights but sadly this turned out to be more like blonde tiger stripes… it was not a great look!

None of these things really had a great impact or ruined my school life but they didn’t exactly help my confidence. A few small things can go a long way when you’re under the microscope that is a school community. So here are a few tips and tricks to get yourself into a place where hopefully you feel you have a few less things to worry about.

Academically: If you’re struggling to understand a class ask your teacher if they can go over some of the parts that aren’t quite clear to you. If you’re really struggling see if you can organise a tutor to help you get a better understanding of the subject you are working on. Even a friend who excels in the class may be willing to help you better understand.

Beauty: Beauty can be tricky as your parents may have certain rules, things they don’t want you to do until you reach a certain age which is their way of protecting you. Schools also have rules in place, some do not allow nail polish or hair down and so on. So you will need to stay within the rules of both institutions.

BO – BO is a big one for teenagers. If you don’t have any BO issues then you’re already one step ahead. Some teens sweat more then others and everyone is growing and developing at a different pace. If you do have issues in this department there are a few things you can do.

One, if you don’t wear a uniform try changing your clothes. Sometimes certain fabrics can make you sweat more then others. It’s different for everyone so try a few different pieces with different fabrics and arm lengths and note if there is any difference.

Two, try changing your deodorant. Again, every body is different so what works for your best friend may not work for you. Sometimes it can even be as simple as using the same deodorant for too long that your body becomes accustomed to and it is no longer effective.

Three, keep deodorant with you in your locker or school bag and reapply during the day. You can also use wet wipes to clear any BO before reapplying your deodorant.

Skin – Skin is another big one. All the changing hormones make it hard to really control your skin during your teen years but you can do a few things to help. Cut down on the junk food. I found my skin, even now, worsens greatly if I eat junk food. As soon as I cut down it begins to improve again.

Clean your face daily, most department stores will have a Clinique or equivalent makeup stand where you can go and get tested for what type of skin you have, where your oily zones are and what daily routine will best suit you. If you can’t afford the bigger brands you can apply the advice to less expensive brands which don’t have their own stand.

If you have very bad skin or even acne it may be a good idea to seek out a dermatologist. They specialise in skin and can help you find a solution for your needs.

Hair – We all get a little hairy in different areas. If you have hairy legs or underarms, try shaving or waxing. Shaving will most likely require a daily up keep but is cost effective and quick. Waxing can cost more but has a better outcome and for most leaves them with smoother legs then shaving would.

In the facial hair department consult your parents first and do what makes you comfortable. All faces react differently to wax, bleach and plucking so always go to a professional for these services to begin with. You don’t want to make things worse!

Socially: If things are really bad stick to what makes you happy and gets you through the day. If it’s your friends spend time with them, if you’re more of a reader find solace in your books.

All these little things can affect how you feel at school, if you’re comfortable being around others, if you’re comfortable in your own skin. The ‘Teenage Psyche’ is a complex thing but sometimes the smallest changes can help things feel better.

AND FINALLY Remember to stay true to you. Don’t change anything for anyone but yourself. If you are happy the way you are then that is perfect. If you’re not happy then explore your options but make sure they are always reversible. You are at an early stage in life and never know how your tastes may change as you grow.

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8 Vital Ways Dads Can Support Their Partners’ Mental Health Postpartum

You’ll be bringing your baby home soon. Or maybe you already have. And you want to be there for your spouse. You know that having a baby not only affects your wife’s body, but it also affects her mental health. You want to be supportive, encouraging and helpful.

But you’re not exactly sure how to do that.

What does it look like to support your spouse’s mental health? Where do you start? What should you avoid?

Here, you’ll find suggestions from Kirsten Brunner, MA, LPC, a perinatal mental health and relationship expert. She’s the co-author of The Birth Guy’s Go-To Guide for New Dads: How to Support Your Partner Through Birth, Breastfeeding & Beyond with Brian W. Salmon, a dad, doula and certified lactation consultant. Their new book is filled with relatable stories and practical, wise strategies. You’ll also find several excellent tips from the book below.

Listen and validate. Don’t try to fix the problem or talk your partner out of their feelings, Brunner said. (Which is something most people do.) For instance, your partner is devastated that she had to have a C-section or got an epidural. You’re trying to be supportive and reassuring, so you say there’s no reason to be upset, because your baby is perfectly healthy, and she did an amazing job.

This sounds helpful, but it actually minimizes and dismisses her feelings. Instead, what’s more helpful is to validate what your partner is saying, and empathize, Brunner said. For example, you might say: “I hear that you are feeling sad and disappointed. That wasn’t how we imagined the birth would be and we had to switch gears so quickly. I know that must have been difficult for you. I love you, I’m here for you and I’m so proud of how you navigated those unexpected challenges.”

Also, don’t get defensive, quickly change the subject or skip to your own experience, Brunner said. For example, don’t immediately blurt out, “Oh, you think you are tired? I only got 3 hours of sleep last night because of the baby crying and I had to get up and go to work this morning. I hear you on being tired!”

Help your partner get some sleep. “Sleep is essential to emotional wellness,” Brunner said. But, of course, when you have a newborn, sleep can feel like a distant dream.

Brunner suggested encouraging your partner to rest when the baby is resting. “Tell her that you’ll take care of the dishes or the laundry while she sleeps and restores her energy.”

Know what postpartum illness looks like. Brunner noted that new moms can struggle with a wide array of mental health challenges, such as depression, anxiety and/or obsessive-compulsive behaviors (known as perinatal mood and anxiety disorders or PMADS).

Thankfully, women can recover from these conditions and concerns, but the key is to get professional help. It can be hard for moms to recognize that they’re struggling with an illness, which is where you step in. If you notice any of these signs, encourage your spouse to seek help.

Symptoms of postpartum depression last for more than 2 weeks and might include: sadness, frequent crying, intense anxiety, irritability, loss of interest in usual activities, guilt, appetite changes, excessive worry about baby’s health and suicidal thoughts.

Postpartum anxiety disorders might include: “panic attacks, hyperventilation, excessive worry, restless sleep, and repeated thoughts or images of frightening things happening to the baby.”

Postpartum psychosis can be severe and life-threatening, and it’s vital to get an evaluation and treatment immediately. According to Postpartum Support International, postpartum psychosis can include: delusions (thoughts that aren’t based in reality); hallucinations (hearing or seeing things that aren’t there); irritability; hyperactivity; inability to sleep; paranoia; rapid mood swings; and difficulty communicating.

Dads can struggle with postpartum depression and anxiety, too. In fact, Brunner is seeing more and more dads at her counseling practice. It’s not surprising: You’re also likely sleep deprived and stressed out. Maybe you don’t feel like you’ve really bonded with your baby. Maybe the transition to parenthood has been tougher than you imagined. If that’s the case, it’s important for you to seek help, too.

Learn your partner’s love language. “I encourage dads to make sure they are showing mom appreciation and affection in a way that feels sincere,” Brunner said. One way to do this is to know your partner’s love language and to do things that honor it.

If you’re not familiar with this concept, it comes from Gary Chapman’s book The Five Love Languages. Each of us speaks a different love language: how we want to experience love. Chapman notes there are five love languages: words of affirmation; acts of service; receiving gifts; quality time; and physical touch.

(You and your partner can both take the quiz to discover your love language.)

For example, if your wife’s love language is “words of affirmation,” you can regularly discuss the incredible job she’s doing, Brunner said. If it’s “acts of service,” you can look for opportunities to help around the house and with the baby, she said.

Remind your partner you’re newbies. For new moms, it’s all-too easy to feel like a failure with everything they do. One big reason is the expectation that moms are supposed to inherently and intuitively know how to breastfeed, soothe the baby, and basically do everything else. So when they have any kind of trouble, they’re devastated (sleep deprivation, of course, only exacerbates this).

Brunner noted it’s natural for everything to feel like a struggle as your baby “adjusts to being in the outside world and as mom and dad gain confidence.” It will get easier, but it’s hard to see it right now. Which is why it’s so helpful for you to keep reminding her.

Practice patience with postpartum recovery. It can take women a while to recover from birth, Brunner said. It’s also common for moms to feel “touched out” because of breastfeeding and snuggling the baby, she said. This can be frustrating, but you can find other ways to feel close and connect with your partner.

For instance, you might cuddle on the couch while watching a movie; exchange shoulder rubs; hold hands while walking, lying in bed or sitting on the sofa; and share a long hug, Brunner said.

Take care of yourself. Brunner emphasized making sure that you’re getting enough sleep and reaching out to friends and family. Of course, this can feel impossible when you’re trying to help with household chores, support your partner and be with your baby.

This is when having a solid support network and postpartum plan are critical. Can a loved one watch the baby while you catch up on sleep? Can you hire a housecleaning service? Can you ask friends and family to bring meals? (More on the plan below.)

And, again, if you’re struggling with symptoms of depression or anxiety, don’t hesitate to seek counseling.

Create a postpartum plan. Salmon noted in The Birth Guy’s Go-To Guide for New Dads that in his experience, couples who create a thorough postpartum plan have a much easier time coping after they bring their baby home. When creating your plan with your partner, he suggests considering the following:

the type of help you want: For instance, maybe a relative stays with you for a week, and your partner’s best friend comes over to help with chores. Be very specific with loved ones when making these requests.

meal delivery: If you’d like loved ones to bring food, also be specific about the food you want (and don’t want). If you’d like to keep visits to a minimum, place a big cooler on your porch. Ask loved ones to drop off the food, and come back when your partner is feeling more settled.

breastfeeding and baby care support: Include a list of local lactation consultants and infant-sleep experts. And consider if you’d like to hire a postpartum doula, whose main focus is to support mom in whatever she needs.

self-care and relationship care: Think about days and times you can get breaks and extra sleep, along with who can babysit so you can occasionally go on a date.

If you have other kids, Salmon recommends creating a separate postpartum plan for them. It might include: who’ll be watching them during the birth and hospital stay; play-dates with friends; and little outings with relatives to make them feel special.

One of the greatest gifts you can give your partner is to support their mental health—along with supporting your own.

from World of Psychology https://psychcentral.com/blog/8-vital-ways-dads-can-support-their-partners-mental-health-postpartum/

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erraticfairy · 5 years