#like both mentally financially etc

[nabsthevulture]

wish the immense stress would calm down for a second

#I dont even know man im just stressed about everything at the same time #its silly because theres only so much that I can even do at a time #so I just need to take it one day at a time until i'm more stable as a person #like both mentally financially etc #I need to swing this job when I'm able to throw my application in but I have so much shit coming up in september #I dont want to wait but I dont want to start a job and then immediately need two days off #and then in november need 5 days off #its just some shit man #i need to try and relax but alas i cannot smoke anymore because of drug testing #and I dont drink very much #so I cant even really crack open a cold one and relax #not that drinking is the answer to trying to relax #maybe Ill take some trazadone and just fucking sleep for 16 hours #dl #i'm just frustrated for so many reasons

[hyperlexichypatia]

As I keep shouting into the void, pathologizers love shifting discussion about material conditions into discussion about emotional states.

I rant approximately once a week about how the brain maturity myth transmuted “Young adults are too poor to move out of their parents’ homes or have children of their own” into “Young adults are too emotionally and neurologically immature to move out of their parents’ homes or have children of their own.”

I’ve also talked about the misuse of “enabling” and “trauma” and “dopamine” .

And this is a pattern – people coin terms and concepts to describe material problems, and pathologization culture shifts them to be about problems in the brain or psyche of the person experiencing them. Now we’re talking about neurochemicals, frontal lobes, and self-esteem instead of talking about wages, wealth distribution, and civil rights. Now we can say that poor, oppressed, and exploited people are suffering from a neurological/emotional defect that makes them not know what’s best for themselves, so they don’t need or deserve rights or money.

Here are some terms that have been so horribly misused by mental health culture that we’ve almost entirely forgotten that they were originally materialist critiques.

Codependency What it originally referred to: A non-addicted person being overly “helpful” to an addicted partner or relative, often out of financial desperation. For example: Making sure your alcoholic husband gets to work in the morning (even though he’s an adult who should be responsible for himself) because if he loses his job, you’ll lose your home. https://www.nytimes.com/2022/07/08/opinion/codependency-addiction-recovery.html What it’s been distorted into: Being “clingy,” being “too emotionally needy,” wanting things like affection and quality time from a partner. A way of pathologizing people, especially young women, for wanting things like love and commitment in a romantic relationship.

Compulsory Heterosexuality What it originally referred to: In the 1980 in essay "Compulsory Heterosexuality and Lesbian Existence," https://www.journals.uchicago.edu/doi/abs/10.1086/493756 Adrienne Rich described compulsory heterosexuality as a set of social conditions that coerce women into heterosexual relationships and prioritize those relationships over relationships between women (both romantic and platonic). She also defines “lesbian” much more broadly than current discourse does, encompassing a wide variety of romantic and platonic relationships between women. While she does suggest that women who identify as heterosexual might be doing so out of unquestioned social norms, this is not the primary point she’s making. What it’s been distorted into: The patronizing, biphobic idea that lesbians somehow falsely believe themselves to be attracted to men. Part of the overall “Women don’t really know what they want or what’s good for them” theme of contemporary discourse.

Emotional Labor What it originally referred to: The implicit or explicit requirement that workers (especially women workers, especially workers in female-dominated “pink collar” jobs, especially tipped workers) perform emotional intimacy with customers, coworkers, and bosses above and beyond the actual job being done. Having to smile, be “friendly,” flirt, give the impression of genuine caring, politely accept harassment, etc. https://weld.la.psu.edu/what-is-emotional-labor/ What it’s been distorted into: Everything under the sun. Everything from housework (which we already had a term for), to tolerating the existence of disabled people, to just caring about friends the way friends do. The original intent of the concept was “It’s unreasonable to expect your waitress to care about your problems, because she’s not really your friend,” not “It’s unreasonable to expect your actual friends to care about your problems unless you pay them, because that’s emotional labor,” and certainly not “Disabled people shouldn’t be allowed to be visibly disabled in public, because witnessing a disabled person is emotional labor.” Anything that causes a person emotional distress, even if that emotional distress is rooted in the distress-haver’s bigotry (Many nominally progressive people who would rightfully reject the bigoted logic of “Seeing gay or interracial couples upsets me, which is emotional labor, so they shouldn’t be allowed to exist in public” fully accept the bigoted logic of “Seeing disabled or poor people upsets me, which is emotional labor, so they shouldn’t be allowed to exist in public”).

Battered Wife Syndrome What it originally referred to: The all-encompassing trauma and fear of escalating violence experienced by people suffering ongoing domestic abuse, sometimes resulting in the abuse victim using necessary violence in self-defense. Because domestic abuse often escalates, often to murder, this fear is entirely rational and justified. This is the reasonable, justified belief that someone who beats you, stalks you, and threatens to kill you may actually kill you.

What it’s been distorted into: Like so many of these other items, the idea that women (in this case, women who are victims of domestic violence) don’t know what’s best for themselves. I debated including this one, because “syndrome” was a wrongful framing from the beginning – a justified and rational fear of escalating violence in a situation in which escalating violence is occurring is not a “syndrome.” But the original meaning at least partially acknowledged the material conditions of escalating violence.

I’m not saying the original meanings of these terms are ones I necessarily agree with – as a cognitive liberty absolutist, I’m unsurprisingly not that enamored of either second-wave feminism or 1970s addiction discourse. And as much as I dislike what “emotional labor” has become, I accept that “Women are unfairly expected to care about other people’s feelings more than men are” is a true statement.

What I am saying is that all of these terms originally, at least partly, took material conditions into account in their usage. Subsequent usage has entirely stripped the materialist critique and fully replaced it with emotional pathologization, specifically of women. Acknowledgement that women have their choices constrained by poverty, violence, and oppression has been replaced with the idea that women don’t know what’s best for themselves and need to be coercively “helped” for their own good. Acknowledgement that working-class women experience a gender-and-class-specific form of economic exploitation has been rebranded as yet another variation of “Disabled people are burdensome for wanting to exist.”

Over and over, materialist critiques are reframed as emotional or cognitive defects of marginalized people. The next time you hear a superficially sympathetic (but actually pathologizing) argument for “Marginalized people make bad choices because…” consider stopping and asking: “Wait, who are we to assume that this person’s choices are ‘bad’? And if they are, is there something about their material conditions that constrains their options or makes the ‘bad’ choice the best available option?”

#mad pride #neurodiversity #ableism #ageism #youth rights #liberation #disability rights #classism #capitalism #mental health culture #pop psychology #feminism #emotional labor

[transmutationisms]

i would love to hear more about your criticisms of the BITE model! for me it always feels.. unfalsifiable? it seems to do poorly at distinguishing a cult from any other community, if you squint at the definitions

yeah so first of all i'm not particularly keen on even trying to defend the category of "cult" in general. obviously abuse and control methods can and do happen in groups, but i don't think it's particularly useful to talk about this like there's a strict dichotomy between evil malicious groups and all the others. and i think generally, when people do try to sort groups into strict categories like that, what you actually see is that the differentiating factor is less to do with the degree of control exerted by the group and more to do with how much the person doing the sorting is bothered by the group's ideology or doctrinal commitments lol. like, this is sort of baby's first cult concept critique but yknow, a group setting where you're being extremely openly financially controlled is your job and yet most workplaces, however abusive and surveilled and controlling, are not typically designated a 'cult' unless they're also peddling some kind of heterodox religious or medical claims or something.

anyway in regards to BITE in particular, yeah i think it does a really poor job of distinguishing between a 'normal' level of social pressure to say/do certain things, and the kind of control that ostensibly characterises a cult. for example steven hassan has called both MAGA and online trans communities cults, and a lot of this comes down to his persistent and pretty open belief in the power of 'mind control' and hypnosis as mechanisms of cult control. ofc any group of any political persuasion could engage in abuse and high-control of its members! usually this occurs by financial means, social isolation, etc. but hassan's BITE model isn't really good at identifying these kinds of material factors despite paying lip service to them, because it's more motivated by his desire to root out these kinds of shadowy quasi-occult forces of mental reprogramming that he fears.

i just find the whole model to be pretty silly and used mostly as a way of justifying dislike of lots of different social, religious, and political groups---some of which are genuinely mistreating members, some of which are just saying things their critics disagree with---because it's perceived as a reliable social-scientific designation and therefore name-dropping it helps the speaker feel that they're making some kind of objective scientific observation rather than a judgment dependent, as are all judgments, upon their own perspective and values. i think instead of this kind of haggling over Which Groups Count As An Evild Shadowy Cult it would be infinitely more productive and helpful to vulnerable people to talk about how high-control groups operate, what sorts of methods specific groups are using to control and abuse their members, and what sorts of resources those members are dependent on the groups for and need access to from other sources: financial and material provisions, social support networks, etc.

#steven hassan

[dissociacrip]

i saw that one disability-related post a while ago about dental care but i can't find it again so i'm gonna mention a few things as a (mild to moderately) mentally & physically disabled person, whose teeth hurt when i eat sweet stuff now + i've had a root canal due to a fall + i'm learning to take care of myself, that may or may not help other folks with their dental routine

note: i am not a dentist & this info is mostly what i've gleaned secondhand from dentists, so yeah, i am not an expert in any capacity

water flossers aren't as effective as regular flossing (doing both is actually what's most effective) but they're better than nothing & helpful in cases where coordination problems or other issues might prevent regular flossing technique (i imagine this also depends on the quality of the water flosser)

if you use one of the plastic pre-made floss picks things, rinse the string off in-between each time you use it to floss one side of a tooth, it's tedious but it mimics moving to a new (clean) part of the thread like you do with regular floss

if you get an automatic toothbrush, get one that does circular rotation rather than just vibrating or whatever, as this mimics the tools they use in a dentist's office + imitates the circular motion you're expected to make with a standard toothbrush (which is also hard with coordination issues), i got one that does this pretty cheap from walmart (it's an oral-b but i forgot the specific type) + it automatically times it for you

if you have white spots on your teeth that are uneven with the shade of the rest of the tooth those are potentially white spot lesions due to demineralization; whitening products can make this worse rather than help it, but some products can help with remineralization such as mi paste topical tooth creme, which contains calcium and phosphate (i have yet to try this myself but it seems to get suggested by a lot of dentists, orthodontists, etc. for white spots on teeth & it's also supposed to help with sensitivity and tooth health in general because the white spots are lesions so it's not purely cosmetic!)

it's advised to not rinse your mouth immediately after brushing as this potentially dilutes & reduces the effects of the flouride (if you use fluoride toothpaste), stuff says to wait at least 15 minutes or so

just giving your teeth a quick scrub (even if it's without toothpaste and just water) is better than not brushing your teeth at all

if you have trouble seeing a dentist for financial reasons, try to see if there are income-based or charity dental services in your area, sometimes dental schools also provide low-cost/free dental care

that's all i can think of for now, i wish i had more advice for people who struggle to be able to brush their teeth at all in general but this is all i got unfortunately :(

additionally - you're not bad, useless, gross, or a failure if you struggle to (or can't) maintain oral hygiene; this stuff is much easier for some people than it is to others & those who take it for granted like to forget that, no one deserves to be mocked or looked down on for being disabled & struggling to/not being able to do """basic""" stuff like this!

#actually disabled #neurodivergent #actuallyautistic #actuallyadhd #cpunk #j

[ivesambrose]

Rest of 2023 Forecast 🎐

1. 2. 3.

Just like that, it's already autumn 🍁

How was everyone's year so far?

Mine was rather eventful towards the later half.

But let's take a look into what the closing messages of 2023 are for you 🩵

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Picture 1

Realizing that you want to do and achieve certain things for yourself and not because someone expects way too much from you and you have to somehow gain their validation. However, you'll also come across people who inspire creativity in you and encourage you to step into your power, be more assertive without the fear of standing out.

Whatever labour you put in around this time will have it's turn out by next year. Stay patient, it will be rewarded.

You'll slowly see fortune turn in your favor, there might be sudden changes that push you to walk away from a certain place or situation but you'll be happy to do so. It's likely you were waiting for it for the most part of thr year and it's happening now.

Some of you might also hit the lottery, win a jackpot, receive unexpected money through your business, work or just randomly have it come to you.

You'll be making plans for the next year to venture out, manifest important connections, make travel plans etc you'll be looking forward to having fun and admist all the fun you'll see situations that earlier were out of control or stagnant, fall into place for you.

Be wary of certain manipulative people who seem all talk no show, they're just trying to dupe you into something. Trust your intuition here.

If you have a business or working on launching one, you'll find the right people and see a lot of growth. Have faith in your abilities.

Picture 2

Initially I see you being conflicted with something, being unable to decide with the number of options in front of you. You might also be picturing the possible ways certain things can or will play out in your life and trying to stick to the best case scenario. Eventually, you'll be able to focus. You just require some discipline.

You may also be unable to see the progress you've made so far or are making but it'll suddenly occur to you that you've indeed climbed to the top of the ladder and overcame a lot of obstacles, you're almost there, so it's best to simply enjoy the process and the journey since success is imminent if you don't stop.

There's a possible union with someone special or even celebration with your friends. Gifts being exchanged and a lot of financial prosperity coming your way.

I see by the end of this year you'll be feeling lavish and happy since something significant came through somehow.

I heard the words, "seems I'm lucky after all!"

Picture 3

It may have been a tumultuous year so far, good news is thar youre finally finding your center. Body and mind in sync, slowing down and offering a better perspective of things.

For a lot of you, I see that you had been struggling with your health a lot both physical and mental, you'll be seeing considerable progress. You might start getting into exercise again, likely lower intensity ones, it will give you better benefits as well as put you in a meditative state.

Your true glow up starts now. Instead of pushing yourself to break and grind in order get something you'll simply allow yourself to receive. You might feel creative and want to get back to the arts be in sketching, keeping an art book, makeup, even cooking or fashion/fashion design. You'll be feeling more beautiful inside and out.

You'll be excited to welcome the new year, a new chapter of your life is beginning. You'll be feeling more energised and hopeful. Attend more events, celebrate with friends, make new ones, travel etc

You have a lot of intellect and wisdom, there's a power in your words as well as your voice, you'll be influencing the right people who'd want to be around you or know you personally. Have discernment when letting anyone in, eitherway the right ones will stay and add value to your life.

#free readings #tarot community #divination community #pick a card #PAC #pick a pile #pick a picture #pick a photo #2023 forecast #spiritual community

[veronika-tserber]

3rd House Ruler Through the Houses

The 3rd House in the Birth Chart Tells Us About:

How important communication is to us

How we express ourselves through spoken/written word

Our learning style and high-school education

Our relationship with siblings & the immediate environment

Our driving skills, as well as why we take short trips

We analyze the sign, the ruling planet of the sign, the degree, and any planets in the house (and their aspects). For this post, I am only asking you to look at the sign on the cusp and where its ruling planet is placed. This area of life is where your communicative abilities can shine the most.

E.g., if you have an Aries 3rd house, look at the house where Mars (also check out the modern ruler, Pluto) is placed, and read the explanation below.)

Some signs have TWO rulers, so read about both:

♈ Aries: Mars & Pluto

♏ Scorpio: Pluto & Mars

♐ Sagittarius: Jupiter & Neptune

♒ Aquarius: Uranus & Saturn

♓ Pisces: Neptune & Jupiter

3H Ruler in the 1H Your communication is closely tied to your self-image and self-expression. Others notice your manner of speech right away, and this could mean different things depending on the ruling planet. You express yourself best when you are able to freely speak up, and share your humor and opinions. You might learn best when you are physically involved in your learning. You can have a great sense of orientation and driving skills. Close relationships with siblings. Great communication is vital to you and your self-confidence. You could be a great writer/journalist/comedian or be involved in business and marketing. Short trips by yourself or for personal reasons.

3H Ruler in the 2H You probably like to think and talk about practical topics such as money, work, health, etc. You could also be skilled at crafting things and working with your hands. Similarly to the 1H people, you can have a "hands-on" approach to learning, and probably like to put any theory to the test. "Does it ACTUALLY work?" You might like to invest money into technology, education, cars/vehicles, and books. You could be interested in financial education, economics, real estate, or the arts. The financial state of your family affected your education and early environment. Your siblings ask you for financial support. Short trips for practical reasons.

3H Ruler in the 3H Communication and mental health are extremely important to you in this lifetime. Your immediate environment, education, and relationship with siblings play an important role in your life. You can be great at expressing yourself in verbal or written form and have the ability to sell goods, advertise, and be driven to learn things. You could be highly involved in your day-to-day life and love to find new and better ways to deal with everyday reality. You can be naturally skilled at solving everyday problems and fixing things. You could be quite fond of social media or the news - you like to stay in touch with everything that's going on in the world right now. Short trips with your siblings or acquaintances/schoolmates.

3H Ruler in the 4H You communicate best when you feel emotionally safe. You might be shy around strangers or people you don't "vibe" with. You could be interested in psychology and the themes of deconditioning, trauma, inner child healing, and family. You could've been homeschooled or you like the idea of homeschooling your children one day. A sibling of yours might've played the role of a mother/nurturer to you or vice-versa. You think deeply and love to see people open up to you and reveal their emotions and vulnerabilities. You could be interested in real estate, creative writing, and working from home. Your upbringing affects your communication and thinking patterns. You learn best in a safe environment that feels cozy and protective. You also might be a visual learner with strong emotional memory. You might be prone to thinking about the past a lot. You can be a skilled cook or good at fixing things around the house when they break. Short trips with the whole family.

3H Ruler in the 5H Your style of communication might be emotionally expressive, theatrical, and lively. You might love to draw people's attention by voicing your opinions or using your communicative abilities to entertain. You could be naturally skilled in the arts or want to go through formal art education. You might also have siblings that are artists. You love to talk about fun stuff, discuss art, movies, and flirt. You learn best when you are having fun! Communication with your own children is important to you, as well. You could have a "gambler" mindset or might like to take risks. You might like to buy or sell beauty/luxury items. Short trips for the purpose of having fun and enjoyment.

3H Ruler in the 6H This is double Mercury energy, so the importance of communication and service is amplified in your life. You can use your intellect and communicative abilities in your work or as a way to serve others in a practical way. In your education, you are punctual, responsible, and efficient. You love to learn! Especially about things that improve your day-to-day reality such as how to fix things around the house, how to improve your health, be better at your job, etc. You are probably a cautious driver, as well, and you can take short trips for work or for the sake of fulfilling other responsibilities. You could be interested in medical education/naturopathy but it really depends on the planet.

3H Ruler in the 7H Communication is crucial for you in your close personal relationships. If the planetary ruler isn't afflicted, you likely express yourself freely in front of others, and can easily forge new connections and partnerships. You can be a huge flirt! If the ruler is afflicted, you can struggle with self-expression. Nonetheless, people pay a lot of attention to how you think and communicate. You could potentially meet your future marriage partner during a short trip or thanks to your siblings/neighbors. You could also meet them while you are out riding your bicycle around the neighborhood, or buying coffee from your local coffee shop. Potential "high school sweethearts" placement, as well. You could have an education or a strong interest in relationship dynamics, and depending on the planet, that could be the placement of a counselor or a lawyer. Short trips with your partners, people close to your heart, or for business.

3H Ruler in the 8H In your communication, you like to go DEEP. You aren't satisfied with superficial information and you likely avoid social media, gossip, and small talk. You can keep a secret. You could potentially be challenged in your communication, and appear asocial or closed-off. It all depends on the ruling planet and its aspects. Nonetheless, you have an interest in the occult, psychology, sex, death, and other "taboo" topics. You could also come off as critical and sharp with your words. You could study and be interested in financial topics, and investments, or run advertising for a funeral agency. (I'm only halfway joking lol, and this is my placement, too 🤣) If the ruling planet is afflicted, you can be prone to accidents with vehicles or in your close environment. There could be issues in early education or perhaps strong bonds with some of the people you went to high school with. Possibly love-hate relationships with siblings, too. You like to take short trips with your intimate partners or by yourself.

3H Ruler in the 9H Your long-term goals and philosophy in life can be formed through your early education and experience of the early close environment. In your communication, you could be quite philosophical and might love to think about existential questions and the "big perspective" in life. You communicate and express yourself best in an academic environment of like-minded people/colleagues or with your professors. Alternatively, you could have issues there, depending on the ruling planet. You could be interested in foreign cultures, be multi-lingual, or skilled in literature or history. You could be the local tour guide for foreigners. You could pursue higher education in journalism, science, and writing, or decide to become a teacher, yourself. A lot of it depends on the ruling planet. Short trips for educational purposes and for the sake of adventure.

3H Ruler in the 10H Your communication abilities play a role in your career. Your education is the foundation of your profession and social status. Learning more languages, improving your practical skillset, communication, staying informed, and using social media constructively can help you advance career-wise. You could work in the field of trading, marketing, writing, teaching, and other Mercurial fields. It largely depends on the ruling planet. You could benefit (or suffer) from your ability to relate to authority figures and those "above you" on the social ladder. You probably like to feel in charge of your learning and education, but also love structure and measuring your achievements. You could have been ambitious and competitive at school. Taking short business trips.

3H Ruler in the 11H You communicate with pleasure among friends and like-minded individuals. This includes internet friends and communities. You love sharing your thoughts, visions, and interests with others, and engaging in inspiring conversations. You probably enjoy discussing social issues and topics and talking about your dreams and aspirations. You could also be prone to changing your interests a lot, and you could join many groups and communities over the years - especially in high school. You love to learn more about progressive ideas, technology, astrology, astronomy, science, etc. You might have a friendly relationship with your siblings. Regarding your learning style, you could be more fond of learning through the internet or working in a collaborative environment than sitting at a desk and having to "memorize" stuff. You could take short trips with friends.

3H Ruler in the 12H You could be really private with your thoughts. You could speak in a compassionate and gentle way that draws people in. Alternatively, you could be closed off and avoid communication or have some sort of a speech impediment/disability. You could be interested in learning more about spirituality, healing, art, mental health, etc. You could find that you tend to daydream a lot and your imagination is really vivid. It could be the placement for a painter, dancer, or creative writer, but it depends on other factors. Your education can involve the things above, plus psychology, energy healing, or the more traditional medical field. You could struggle in a traditional school environment. Your learning style is highly intuitive and may involve storytelling, metaphors, and visualization. You could definitely study better in solitude. Strong emotional memory. Great listener. You can take short trips to be by yourself and jam along to your favorite music.

The Ask Box is open for specific questions, folks! 😊

- Foxbörn

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[yourpsicodelicbitch]

Sun houses and fathers pt2

Yoshitomo Nara

take what resonates, leave what don’t 🎀 you don’t have to necessarily identify with it.

*I use whole sign system -house system- for more certainty

1H: he could be narcissistic? or really confident in how he is or approach to things. In some point of your life he could have been wanting or controlling your life on some way. his family roots have something to do that impacted in your life. he could be described as intelectual and somehow formal, polite? these people could have been raised or influenced by someone who has a strong personality and who’s unpredictable; that’s why suns 1H are more conscious about their environments -and how their attitudes impacted in others-.

4H: your dad could seem distant when’s about to a understanding your mental health or aspects of your life that are seemed as untraditional for him -too specific-. he could be seen as someone who provides for his family, your mom could be a housewife or someone who’s not the “principal provider” -idk how to explain it, someone who doesn’t bring a major amount of money to the family?-. he could be distant and if he observes a problem in the family dynamic, he’ll play dumb? he would only act as someone who provides economic resources. lack of emotional intelligent? or approach to solve an emotional problem. the mom could have being not present in certain way, that’s why your dad could have tried to be both OR your mom could be the one that’s seems more affected by your behavior -take it how would like to-.

8H: he’s a very important and influential person in your life. you could be were you are bc of him -economically, geography, social life, etc-. for example: he moved to the country you were born or he was friends with a family and that’s how you met your wife -too specific ik-. it seems that bc of him you have “everything” in your terms. you could be really thankful and if he died you could smile and laugh while you’re remembering him. he has a unique personality, in every aspect. he may seem secretive, mysterious? there’s something they don’t talk about or they have a serious and intimidating aspect?

2H: the one thing you admire about him is how he manage money, that’s for sure. you could have grown up seeing how your dad works and manage things, his attitude towards material things. your dad could have give you stuff so he won’t feel bad about not having quality time or a continuous son-father dynamic. that’s why the main characteristic that caught your attention was the ethic of work and money management? that he seemed occupied? you lack an emotional security but you have financial security? or you seek security in every aspect bc you felt insecure and your father has something to do with that?

3H: screams something to do with communication. he influenced the way you think/mindset and how you communicate. his siblings are important to him or his family. he could have thought you about brotherhood? about union. also, you could be really perceptive and conscious about the words you use or just conscious about how you can influence others bc of the example you had. your dad could have supported you on the artistic stuff you were interested. also his love language/how he shows he cares is words of affirmations? or does he needs constant reaffirmation or reminders?

7H: your relationship with your father could be really tight. he influenced how you act and think towards relationships in general. that’s why you could think they’re really important or the base of life/your philosophy? you dad could be a dreamer or idealize things continuously or something he did/how he is makes you like that. you could feel pressured by your dad of having ideal friends and partners, to have a balanced life. he could not tell things straightforward/not being direct. he could have a thing for looking presentable and he thought you that constantly.

♡ Based on personal experience and I’ve analyzed in my surroundings.

♡ English is not my first language.

♡ I’m not a profesional astrologer.

Thank youu. baibaiii🫣🫶🏼💋

Do not copy. Please give me credits.

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[astroismypassion]

Astrology tea 🍵🍵🍵

Credit goes to my blog @astroismypassion

Trigger warning mentions of de**h, d***s

🍵 You know how Sagittarius Sun truly express their feelings? It shimmers through just a bit when they exaggerate a story. If they exaggerate a piece of information, you bet they were very surprised, too stunned to speak at the time it was happening. And them being surprised, shocked often equals exaggeration of a story.

🍵 Try to see where Juno and asteroid Groom overlap. If you have a Cancer Juno, yet Groom at 28 (Cancer degree), it could be a Cancer Sun that ends up proposing you.

🍵 But when you look at your own asteroid Briede (19029) sign, this is the Sun sign YOU might be the most serious about and who you would propose to.

🍵 Cancer Venus always gives a thoughtful, yet small, sometimes a cheap gift that relates to both of you, connects you two. For example you both like drinking tea and they buy you a tea cup and tea bags. Or you both really enjoy vinyl records and they buy you one. It’s always something that connects you two. 😀 You guys are really thoughtful gift-givers!

🍵 Aries Mercury gets really bored of one way of communicating for too long. For example, if you were sending each other audio messages for too long, they will want to change it and do phone call instead or video call etc.

🍵 Gemini Chiron and Gemini Lilith often gets scars, bruises on their fingers, hands. Or they may get skin on their hands, fingers easily burnt when cooking, when starting a fire.

🍵 Virgo over the 5th house might develop a crush on any person that they share the same ideas, viewpoint. If they like someone’s arguments, life philosophy, habits. They might develop a crush on someone when they think “This (wo)/man thinks just like me!”. They could also strongly relate to certain book authors and writers, because of the way they think, they might have a strong liking of their work. They might be prone to cheating mentally, if this would exist. When they are starting to agree more with someone else’s viewpoints, opinions than their partner’s, you might be losing them. 😬

🍵 Sagittarius Suns with Scorpio Mercury are oddly preoccupied with the idea of death and them dying and how they will die. Some have special requests on how they wish to be buried or which song they would like to be played at their funeral.

🍵 I noticed Scorpio Mercury are controversial, but for some reason Taurus Mercury seem to be too. Like Taurus Mercury celebrities Kanye West, Megan Fox, Kristen Stewart, Lena Dunham, Miranda Kerr, Donatella Versace, Abigail Breslin, Cher, Kirsten Dunst, Renée Zellweger. They had some controversial views and opinions throughout years. They are just likely to be canceled on the internet or just really disliked due to jealousy, envy they evoke in others as much as Scorpio Mercury. They could also receive public dislike online.

🍵 If you have Aries Part of Fortune you might find yourself in struggles in life (difficulties in college, financial issues etc.) that not even your family members will be able to advise you on or support you. In times of conflict and stress you will often be alone to find the real courage and strength needed.

🍵 People might not believe Pisces Moon when they say they don’t do drugs. Also, they could experience random drug tests.

🍵 However, also on Pisces Moon: they have weird fascination with psychedelics, yet dislike weed and drugs. Some believe psychedelics could heal their trauma. 🤷🏼‍♀️

🍵 I noticed Aries Moons often have a female sibling. They grew up around strong women in their family who are very independent, unmarried or career driven.

🍵 Sagittarius Sun when younger might have often been the butt of the joke in their friend group. This is one side of Sagittarius Sun that hasn’t been talked enough. People have made fun on their expense often times when their were feeling insecure enough on their own. That’s why they try to not show much emotion, appear unfazed and diffuse things back with humour.

🍵 Aquarius Venus might date their friend, or multiple people until committed or could ghost. But Uranus in the 2nd house?? These guys don’t participate in hookup culture (and rebel against it), don’t entertain multiple people (doesn’t have a roaster), don’t do ghosting.

🍵 Taurus Venus has a love language of gift giving and this is also how they flirt, they just start buying you things or food. Yet, sometimes this can come across trying to buy their loved one’s love. 😬

🍵 Venus in the 6th house looves using hand cream. People compliment them for their soft hands more than they would any other placement.

🍵 Asteroid Kiss sign in the Kiss Persona chart could indicate the Sun sign of the person you will share your first kiss with.

Credit goes to my blog @astroismypassion

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[masp161]

Astro Observation #III

Back at it again, Astro Observations part III.

I feel like people with Moon opposite Neptune are more emotionally aware about the truths of life than most people. They also get themselves in lots of hardships and tend to have a very awful reputation, especially around rumors and addictions or alcoholism (ex : Robert Downey Jr.)

Not astrological but I somehow figured people who grew up in abusive or violent environments liked war or action movies, while loners, for example, preferred occult or horror movies.

It somehow makes sense with Aries placements living in abusing environment, and Gemini placements being loners and abandoned at a young age.

Scorpio can be an exception as they are both loners and somehow tend to grow in violent environments.

The House in your birth chart where the current North Node transits in can tell a lot about changes in your life

If the current North Node transits in your 7th house, you might make significant encounter regarding your love life, have an event related to love, or meet patterns of people you should run away from.

Virgo Jupiters aren't only extremely motherly but also very smart, and more than likely will be interested in laws to the point of learning most of 'em. They want legal justice and rightful punishments, especially for those who have to live what they have lived.

Your Rising signs depicts a lot what you either value most or meet struggles with.

Libra risings value a lot beauty in themselves and others but meets a lot of struggles with insecurities and ways to cover up their insecurities.

Taurus risings value a lot faithfulness and relations with others but meets a lot of struggles with finding or trusting people. They also value a lot the importance of money but somehow struggle to acquire it and find a stability with a financial life.

Sagittarius Risings have a huge adoration for responsible-looking yet irresponsible beings. I don't really know how to explain it : people that look serious outside but can be absolute goofies inside.

Sagittarius Risings (if not Sagittarius placements directly) also tend to have unfixed beliefs. They believe in nothing specific but seek for proof and understanding of things people want to convert them to.

Best example would be a Sagittarius Rising that grew in Christian beliefs. They will research on every questionable and physically impossible things foundable in the bible and seek an explanation.

Other example, if you show a Sag Rising about witchcraft, they will casually accept to try a spell, but will only believe it when specificity of the spells will happen (The things they've demanded, how they hoped it to unfold, etc...)

So, Everyone knows how Hygeia was and still is associated with physical health, but it's also associated with mental health, and I feel like inevitably, Hygeia can tell a lot about where we struggle internally (mental health issues), where it steams from and how it developed.

Do NOT f. with someone who have a lot/prominent water signs, especially Moon, Mars, Saturn or Uranus. They are above the metaphysical world, and if you upset them hard enough, Hecate knows what traumatizing things can happen

Likewise, beware of a person's Saturn if you ever intend to manipulate or hurt them. Saturn, among other things, rules Karma (Unforgiving karma) and while some karma are inconsequential, some karma placements are absolutely raw and rough

My advice, don't mess with these Saturn placements:

Taurus/Gemini/Virgo/Scorpio/Sagittarius/Pisces Saturn in the 2nd/3rd/6th/8th/9th/12th, or at 8°-20°-18°-21°-11°-23°-24°

Taurus touches finances, Gemini touches mental health (can go to schizophrenia), Virgo also touches to mental and physical health, Scorpio is highly spiritual (and terrifying), so is sag and Pisces

2nd touches power, self-worth and finances

3rd touches mental health as well, family, surroundings, neighborhood, rumors

6th touches to work environment, issues, health

8th touches to trauma, sexuality, occult and demons (can go from simple sexuality problems to SA, car accidents, m¥rd€r or worse)

9th touches to spirituality and universal protection for the Saturn person

12th touches to spirituality, inner demons, worst facets, dreams or nightmares

8/20° = Scorpio degree

18° = Virgo degree

21° = Sagittarius degree

11/23° = Aquarius degree

24° = Pisces degree

I feel like heavy 2nd house/Taurus placements, Venus in the 2nd/6th/10th/12th, Saturn or Pluto in the 2nd/6th/12th, Taurus or Pisces rulling the 4th/6th/10th/12th house may have eating disorder. Yeah the list is very long.

For those believing that astrology CAN show fated events, I advise you don't only look up synastry for current partners or crush, but also look up exes and friendship/family connections. Exes can show you what you were meant to learn or experience, or if you two were truly fated. Friendship/Family can, in some ways, explain where trauma came from and why (and after that, in what ways) your relationship with friends/family didn't work.

Libra rising have a Chameleon personality

Personal opinion, but I think crystals don't just affect sun signs, like most cheat charts on the net or some TikTok witches let you know (we've all seen mainly videos about "What type of crystal should you wear based on your zodiac sign", aka your star sign, your SUN sign. But they never mention the crystals effects on you, or best for you, based off the moon sign, or any other placement.) My point here is that crystals can affect as much your whole chart (house placements and planets placements, etc...) as it can affect your sun

Leading to a personal observation : Moldavite, the life-changing, renowned stone, touches everything that is stored in your subconcious houses, spiritual houses. 12th/8th and 4th house. So before you buy Moldavite, check what signs are your houses and the planets into it. This is probably what you'll go through or experience, whether be good or bad.

Sagittarius/Gemini in 3rd/9th, Saturn/Jupiter/Mercury in 3rd/9th live for knowledge. They tend to admire learning new things, especially the ninth house or Sagittarius placements if the topics are uncommon or not popular.

Not only your Venus sign and house placement, but your Venus aspects can also tell what type of person you're attracted to or can attract (Venus-Saturn/Venus-Pluto people out there, I see your daddy issues)

Maybe each house or sign dominance have one specific overindulgent trait because they know at some point in life they lacked/will lack it

Ex : Taurus/2nd house dominant: Materialistic

Could be a result of living with few to no thing as a kid, leading to, while growing up, a need to fulfill what they didn't have during their childhood (toys, jewels, etc...)

Ex : Gemini/3rd house dominant: Talkative or Observant

Could be the fact they were never listened or no one paid attention, or that they never felt understood so while growing up they adopted an overly talkative trait or a tendency to talk very little and observe more

Update : Y'ALL LOVE THIS POST, IT'S CRAZY 😭

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[am-i-the-asshole-official]

Okay here's one. I really dont think I'm the asshole but my ex sure does.

AITA for refusing to buy my partner a jar of pickles?

So this story has like, a little background and some confounding factors i think but i really could go both ways on whether i was the asshole.

Ill start with both my ex (21nb) and i (23f) had severe mental health issues and were working on treatment when we were together. Theyd been in and out of inpatient stays throughout our three year relationship. Towards the Day of Pickles, i had my first inpatient stay where i got help i desperately needed to keep myself safe. This happened to be about a week after my 23rd birthday, but about two and a half weeks before their 21st birthday.

Anyway, at that time i had just gotten out of the hospital and started a new job at Joanns Fabrics (i outlived that retail fucker and im proud of it). I had been unemployed for the previous year and a half because of the pandemic and so the retail job was really my saving grace to have some sort of income to buy gas and groceries. My parents let me live rent free with them in their basement but i spent a LOT of time essentially squatting at my ex's dorm because my situation with my parents was not great.

Now my ex was also being financially abused by their mom so they had a monthly "allowance" of 200$ (of their own money they made at their on campus job) and no access to their bank statements. So i spent a lot of my own money on gas and groceries for both of us, and anything we wanted to do for fun, like visit the city. Without an income, this was SUPER stressful for me and i spiraled pretty hard with feelings of worthlessness and hopelessness. Supporting two people, even minimal living expenses, on an income of exactly 0$ is the WORST.

Anyway, i got out of the hospital and pretty much immediately went back to picking up as many shifts as i could at work because id been on staff for all of two weeks before hospitalization. Knowing retail, i was probably on the precipice of losing hours or being fired altogether.

My ex wanted me to take time off to celebrate their 21st birthday (they didnt celebrate my birthday that year) and travel to see their family and drink etc. I got scheduled for an inconvenient time. I would have to miss their birthday if i didnt find someone to cover. I managed to switch shifts with another coworker who was nice enough to let me have her morning shift, so i was able to at least travel separately and be a little late to dinner.

The night of their birthday my ex wanted to get drunk and so we went to the liquor store. Now im generally pretty picky about alcohol but if i get anything special i always get enough to share. Mysteriously, no one ever offers to share the expense or pay me back. So with all of 150$ in my account, i purchased enough alcohol for myself and the rest of the party, and a bottle of (cheap af) liquor for myself. I was broke af until my next paycheck and was pretty much planning on giving up meals and staying at home because the commute to work was shorter and meant less gas.

My ex picked out a jar of boozy pickles and asked if i would get it for them for their birthday. I should note that with all the stress i was under i had found a birthday present for them but hadnt actually placed the order (was waiting to get paid). I also didnt lie to them about this and had told them that i hadnt gotten their birthday present yet. They were upset by this and told me they felt like i didnt care about them, to which i snapped and raised my voice a little.

I gave them a bit of a reality check. I told them in no uncertain terms that i was under a lot of stress, from nearly killing myself to being flat broke with little to no help from my family other than a conditional roof over my head, ordering their birthday present wasnt super high on my list of things to do and that i knew what i was going to get them and that i intended to order it as soon as i had the money to do so. After years of the sole attention being focused on keeping them alive, i needed some support and acting like i didnt care completely ignored EVERYTHING i did to keep us both afloat.They cried and played the victim as they tended to do and i was too stressed to do anything but be angry.

So when they asked for the pickles i told them no. I have NOTHING left in my bank account, and anything that was in my account was already allocated for something else.

They told me i was being selfish for buying myself alcohol on THEIR birthday, not even getting them a present, yelling at them, and then refusing to buy the one thing they asked for, especially after i refused to take off work the day before to hang out with them and their family. In front of our friends.

I told them that i was purchasing the alcohol for the whole party, that the present had slipped my mind, and that they were accusing me of not caring about them when i snapped. Then i walked out.

My bff went outside to help me cool down and i told him what was going on and how stressed i was and he said that he agreed with me, it was childish to expect me to pay for everything with no help from anyone and then act like im unreasonable for having to put limits on what i can purchase.

My ex ended up getting so pissed by all of this they broke up with me two days later, saying that their birthday was the final straw for them after I'd been so codependent and relying on them too much to survive.

I think its all ridiculous given all of the stress factors i was dealing with at the time. I feel like we're all entitled to the occasional emotional outburst/bouts of forgetfulness when we're stressed. But my ex seems to think im a selfish asshole. We've been no contact for the last two years so this isnt like a pressing concern or anything but it does make me roll my eyes occasionally.

So tumblr, aita?

(Btw im also much more financially stable now that I'm fully and properly medicated and away from them.)

#aita #am i the asshole #suicide cw

[d4rkpluto]

𝔞𝔰𝔱𝔢𝔯𝔬𝔦𝔡 𝔧𝔲𝔫𝔬 [3]

𝔞𝔰𝔱𝔢𝔯𝔬𝔦𝔡 𝔧𝔲𝔫𝔬 3 is about the soulmates/soulful bonds, marriage along with marriage partners along with your needs in a partner. [keep in mind that soulmate doesnt always mean romance, it could be platonic/friendship/family etc]. [this could work with synastry & composite].

WARNING ⟶ LONG POST

ASTEROID JUNO 3 IN THE SIGNS ↴

♇ asteroid juno 3 in aries ⟶ having this asteroid in aries could imply that your soulmate/marriage partner is likely to have aries/1h placements or [mars prominence or dominance in their chart] even aries features; that of being muscular, having strong features, arched brows and a large forehead. your marriage could be perceived as active and adventurous, but be aware of it becoming aggressive and bad-tempered. your soulmate could be youthful, a leader or even both. having juno in this sign could indicate that you'll need a partner who will encourage you, one that can be independent and not too clingy and a partner that knows how to take the lead.

♇ asteroid juno 3 in taurus ⟶ having this asteroid in taurus could imply that your soulmate/marriage partner is likely to have taurus/2h placements or [venus prominence or dominance in their chart] or even taurus features; that of being attractive, having strong eyebrows, cheekbones and a prominent neck, they could even have a lot of beauty spots/moles. your marriage could be perceived as sensual and loyal, but be aware of it becoming hedonistic and overly possessive. your soulmate could be someone who is materialistic, financially stable or even both. having juno in this sign could indicate you'll need a partner who can financially provide for you, one that will protect you; a partner that isnt lazy and envious.

♇ asteroid juno 3 in gemini ⟶ having this asteroid in gemini could imply that your soulmate/marriage partner is likely to have gemini/3h placements or [mercury prominence or dominance in their chart] even gemini features, joker-like smile, youthful appearance and rosy lips. along with androgynous features. your marriage could be perceived as communicative and light-hearted, but be aware of it becoming two-faced and unreliable. your soulmate could be someone who is fickle and skilful or even both. having juno in this sign could indicate that you'll need a partner who is mentally stimulating, adaptable and comical.

♇ asteroid juno 3 in cancer ⟶ having this asteroid in cancer could imply that your soulmate/marriage partner is likely to have cancer/4h placements or [moon prominence or dominance in their chart] even cancer features, round face, big eyes and glowy skin or even a pointy chin, or small head, or just skin that might be light or really clear. your marriage could be perceived as comforting and empathetic, but be aware of it becoming emotionally manipulative and passive aggressive. your soulmate could be someone who is nurturing and and very emotional, or even both. having juno in this sign could indicate that you'll need a partner who is emotional, protective and nostalgic.

♇ asteroid juno 3 in leo ⟶ individuals with this asteroid in leo are likely to have very fiery and proud/prideful soulmates, their soulmate/marriage partner is likely to have leo/5h placements [or sun prominence or dominance in their chart]. big hair or hair that just stands out, a strong posture and feline-like features. their soulmate/marriage partner could be successful or just noted for what they do. the marriage could be deemed as flashy, generous and inspiring to other people, but be careful of the marriage coming off as ego-centred, snobby and self-righteous. your marriage partner or soulmate is most likely going to be noble, wise and talented; having this juno placement entails that you'll need a partner that will suffice to your needs, one that is affectionate and cheerful.

♇ asteroid juno 3 in virgo ⟶ individuals with this asteroid in virgo are likely to have very earthy and logical soulmates, their soulmate/marriage partner is likely to have virgo/6h placements [or ceres/mercury prominence and dominance in their chart]. cat-like features or even an elven-like appearance, have a clean or distinct look. their soulmate/marriage partner could be very hard-working or just precise about the way they do things. the marriage could be deemed as helpful, encouraging and observant, but be careful of the marriage coming off as too critical, nagging and insecure. your marriage partner or soulmate is most likely going to be kind, humble and intelligent; having this juno placements entails that you'll need a partner that will aid you in life, be skilful and adaptable.

♇ asteroid juno 3 in libra ⟶ individuals with this asteroid in libra are likely to have very airy and fair soulmates, their soulmate/marriage partner are likely to have libra/7h placements [or juno/venus prominence and dominance in their chart] and very appealing and roundish features, their taste of fashion or make-up will be notable as well. their soulmate/marriage partner could be very lawful and polite with how they interact with life. the marriage could be deemed as peaceful, diplomatic and elegant, but be careful of the marriage coming off as shallow, insincere and superficial. your marriage partner or soulmate is most likely going to be attractive, charming and communicative. having this juno placement entails that you'll need a partner that is stylish, equal driven and rational.

♇ asteroid juno 3 in scorpio ⟶ individuals with this asteroid in scorpio are likely to have very watery and intense soulmates, their soulmate/marriage partner are likely to have scorpio/8h placements [or mars/pluto prominence and dominance in their chart]. they are likely to have dark and distinct features, and their energy will be hard to not recognise. the marriage could be deemed as life-changing, protective and passionate, but be careful of the marriage coming off as too possessive, obsessive and controlling. your marriage partner or soulmate are most likely going to be observant, powerful and sexual; having this juno placement entails that you'll need a partner that is vigilant, secretive and devoted.

♇ asteroid juno 3 in sagittarius ⟶ natives with this asteroid placement in sagittarius are likely to have expansive and abundant soulmate[s], their soulmate/marriage partner are likely to have sagittarius/9h placements, [or jupiter prominence and dominance in their chart], they are likely to have something large or extensive about them, there it be a body part or even just their personality. the marriage could be viewed as fun, broadminded and extravagant, but advice to them is to be cautious of it not becoming pretentious, quick-tempered reckless. your marriage partner or soulmate are most likely going to be adventurous, philosophical and jovial; with this juno placement, this signifies that you'll need a partner that is straight-forward, fun and moralistic.

♇ asteroid juno 3 in capricorn ⟶ natives with this asteroid placement in capricorn are likely to have productive and providing soulmate[s], their soulmate/marriage partner are likely to have capricorn/10h placements, [or saturn prominence and dominance in their chart], they are likely to have some youthfulness or matureness about them, it could be their facial features or the way they progress within life. the marriage could be viewed as patient, consistent and responsible, but advice to them is to be cautious of it not becoming cold, demeaning and miserable. your marriage partner or soulmate are most likely going to be respectable, traditional and hard-working, this signifies that you'll need a partner that is logical, a provider and sensible.

♇ asteroid juno 3 in aquarius ⟶ natives with this asteroid placement in aquarius are likely to have eccentric and unique soulmate[s], their soulmate/marriage partner are likely to have aquarius/11h placements, [or saturn/uranus prominence and dominance in their chart], they are likely to have something distinct about their appearance along with something very trendy about them. the marriage could be viewed as odd, fun and friendly, but advice to them is to be cautious of it not becoming erratic, aloof and unemotional. your marriage partner or soulmate are most likely going to be intelligent, original and inventive, this signifies that you'll need a partner that is quick-witted, funny and authentic to themselves.

♇ asteroid juno 3 in pisces ⟶ natives with this asteroid placement in pisces are likely to have emotional and intuitive soulmates, their soulmate/marriage partner are likely to have pisces/12h placements, [or jupiter/neptune prominence and dominance in their chart], they are likely to have something glamorous or dreamy about their appearance, it could be their energy or the way they just carry themselves. the marriage could be viewed as creative, empathetic and reflective; they might find people project onto the marriage or bond. but advice to them is to be cautious of it becoming unrealistic, vague and delusional, this signifies that you'll need a partner that is emotional, intuitive and receptive.

ASTEROID JUNO IN THE HOUSES ↴

♇ asteroid juno 3 in the first house ⟶ natives with this asteroid placement in the first house are likely to think that everyone they meet is their soulmate or they can get attached easily, or other people could think that the first house native is their soulmate; their soulmate/marriage partner is likely to have aries/1h placements and is most likely going to be very concentrated on their life path and popularity, on one hand, this is an indicator of meeting much soulful bonds in this life time; is an indicator of being perceived as attractive as juno is hera in roman lore, their marriage partner or soulmate could be considered as attractive too. people with this placement might marry young, and other people could perceive this individual as marriage potential or even a great mother potential. other people could think the marriage is pushed into their face's a lot, others might look up to the relationship/marriage, on the other hand, people with this placement, need to feel loved, will most likely like pda, and would need a marriage partner that is successful and strong.

♇ asteroid juno 3 in the second house ⟶ natives with this asteroid placement are likely to have sensual and materialistic soulmates, their soulmate/marriage partner are likely to have taurus/2h placements and is likely to be very concentrated about the money they make and their immediate family. these individuals could have soulmates within their immediate family as well. people with this placement might marry for money or the sensual pleasures their significant others give them or because they feel valued within the bond, or it could even be for the security. people could think the marriage is money-oriented but other people will be able to notice the safety the marriage brings to each person in the relationship. on the other hand, people with this placement, need to feel financially secure, will need their partners to be vocal about their feelings for them, and would need a marriage partner that is attractive and work-oriented.

♇ asteroid juno 3 in the third house ⟶ natives with this asteroid placement are likely to have witty and comical soulmates, their soulmate/marriage partner are likely to have gemini/3h placements are likely to be very concentrated about their social life and their tasks in this life time. these individuals could have soulmates within their relatives, or people who live in their neighbourhood, people they've had flings with or even people they went to school with. people with this placement might marry for the mental stimulation their significant others give them, or to just get things over and done with. there'll be people who would think the marriage wont last and there'll be others who would think that it is cute and chatty. on the other hand, people with this placement, need to feel like the other party understands them, and will need their partner to communicate their thoughts and feelings to them, and would need a marriage partner that is comical and intelligent.

♇ asteroid juno 3 in the fourth house ⟶ natives with this asteroid placement are likely to have comforting and empathetic soulmates, their soulmate/marriage partner are likely to have cancer/4h placements are likely to be very concentrated about their family and wills. these individuals could have soulmates within their family, or their mother figure could have been their soulmate. people with this placement might marry for the comfort or just like the feeling love and marriage gives them. there'll be people who would think the marriage is encouraging and reassuring and there'll be others who would most likely be spiteful and think the relationship is over-bearing. on the other hand, people with this placement, need to feel like the other party will nurture and smother them, and will need their partner to be nostalgic and sentimental, and would need a marriage partner that is protective and sympathetic.

♇ asteroid juno 3 in the fifth house ⟶ individuals with this asteroid in the fifth house are likely to have talented and ego-centred soulmates, their soulmate/marriage partner are likely to have leo/5h placements. they are likely to be someone who has a good posture and a toned body, it doesnt have to be "toned" it can just look nice. the marriage could bee deemed as exciting and loud, but be careful of the marriage coming off as brattish and pride oriented. your marriage partner or soulmate are likely going to be sporty, competitive and playful; having this juno placement entails that you'll need a partner that can keep up with your energy, one that likes to chill and one that seeks out for sensual pleasure.

♇ asteroid juno 3 in the sixth house ⟶ individuals with this asteroid placement in the sixth house are likely to have humble but cranky soulmates, their soulmate/marriage partner are likely to have virgo/6h placements. they are likely to be someone who is clean and have very refined/regal features. the marriage could be deemed as service oriented and modest, but be careful of the marriage coming off as competitive and nagging. your marriage partner or soulmate are likely going to be very skilled, funny and hard-working; having this juno placement entails that you'll need a partner that can point out whenever you do something wrong in a helpful manner, one that is nurturing and critical, but not too critical.

♇ asteroid juno 3 in the seventh house ⟶ individuals with this asteroid placement in the seventh house are likely to have social butterfly but shallow soulmates, their soulmate/marriage partner are likely to have libra/7h placements. they are likely to be someone who is attractive and fashionable. the marriage could be deemed as balanced and appealing, but be careful of the marriage coming off as unjust and hypocritical. your marriage partner or soulmate are likely going to be logical, indecisive and helpful; having this juno placement entails that you'll need a partner that can be on the same level as you, [appearance wise specifically], one that'll take your side no matter how "wrong" you might be and one that'll put you on a healthy pedestal.

♇ asteroid juno 3 in the eighth house ⟶ individuals with this asteroid placement in the eighth house are likely to have secretive and financially abundant soulmates, their soulmate/marriage partner are likely to have scorpio/8h placements. they are likely to be someone who is mesmerising and transformative. the marriage could be deemed as sexual and private, but be careful of the marriage coming off as dependable and untrustworthy. your marriage partner or soulmate are likely going to be revenge driven, interested in psychology and brooding; having this juno placement entails that you'll need a partner that knows how to handle themselves, one that has authority and power.

♇ asteroid juno 3 in the ninth house ⟶ having this asteroid in the ninth house could imply that your soulmate is likely to have sagittarius/9h placements; could have jupiterian features, like something about them is large, could be their smile, their body etc; your marriage could be perceived as adventurous and extravagant, but be aware of it becoming arrogant and commitment phobic. your soulmate could be foreign and someone who likes to travel. having juno in this house could indicate that you'll need a partner that'll push you out of your comfort zone, one that is honest and generous.

♇ asteroid juno 3 in the tenth house ⟶ having this asteroid in the tenth house could imply that your soulmate is likely to have capricorn/10h placements; they could have saturnian features, like something about them could be mature [could even be youthful], it could be their appearance or the way they present themselves, they might even like things that was before their time; [this is a beacon of having a popular soulmate/marriage partner] your marriage could be perceived as almighty and cogent, but be aware of it becoming status-driven and cynical. your soulmate could be older, or someone with high power. having juno in this house could indicate that you'll need a partner that has influence, a partner that is determined and a partner that can present themselves well.

♇ asteroid juno 3 in the eleventh house ⟶ having this asteroid in the eleventh house could imply that your soulmate is likely to have aquarius/11h placements; they could have uranian features, there could be something unique about the way they dress, they way they style their hair, or the way they wear their accessories. your marriage could be perceived as different and influencing, but be aware of it becoming social driven and using each other to gain connections. your soulmate could be someone from your friendship group, someone you met online, they could even be known online. they could even have influence over people. having juno in this house could indicate that you'll need a partner that knows when to put their foot down, one that is friendly and sociable.

♇ asteroid juno 3 in the twelfth house ⟶having this asteroid in the twelfth house could imply that your soulmate is likely to have pisces/12h placements; they could have neptunian features, they could be someone who has many people addicted to them or people put them up on a pedestal. they might look different all the time, but still have this out-of-worldly appearance to them. your marriage could be perceived as soothing and kindhearted, but be aware of it becoming restless and elusive. your soulmate could be someone you dreamed about or someone who is foreign and doesnt live where you live currently. having juno in this house could entail that you'll need a partner that is spiritual, emotional and expressive.

⟶ JUNO AND ASPECTS ↴

JUNO ASPECTING AXIS ↴

♇ JUNO CONJUNCT/TRINE/SEXTILE THE ASCENDANT: juno making these aspects makes an individual someone who is searching for their true soulmate, might be people who are perceived as wife/husband material, their marriage partner might be everything they have wished for; their relationship with their soulmate or marriage partner is likely to be very public. person who has this aspect needs a partner who will make them top priority.

♇ JUNO OPPOSITION/SQUARE THE ASCENDANT: juno making these aspects makes an individual obsessive about searching for their soulmate or marriage partner, these natives might not be perceived as the "conventional" spouse, or you might marry someone who is different than you, could be race, religion etc, or people might've not expected you to be the other party's spouse, vice versa.

♇ JUNO CONJUNCT/TRINE/SEXTILE THE IC: juno making these aspects to the imum coeli show thats your soulmate/marriage partner might belong to a well off family, might be someone who is very proud about their roots. however it makes the native who has this aspect someone who always [well not all the time] dreams about their dream/future family, and dream/future home. needs a partner who is open to building a foundation with them.

♇ JUNO OPPOSITION/SQUARE THE IC: juno making these aspects to the imum coeli shows that your soulmate/marriage partner might not understand what a healthy and positive family relationship is supposed to be like. it could also insinuate that the native with this placement might've had karmic relationships with their family members.

♇ JUNO CONJUNCT/TRINE/SEXTILE THE DESCENDANT: having one of these juno aspects indicates that your soulmate/marriage partner could be someone you already know, someone who is perceived as a good spouse potential by other people, you might consider your marriage partner as a reflection as the attributes you wanted to see in a partner.

♇ JUNO OPPOSTION/SQUARE THE DESCENDANT: having one of these juno aspects indicates that your soulmate/marriage partner could have a hard time getting along with other people, this is a beacon of enemies to lovers as well. or just enemies to friends since soulmate isnt always romantic. native might see themselves in the other party too much that they get uncomfortable and project, could go the other way.

♇ JUNO CONJUNCT/TRINE/SEXTILE THE MIDHEAVEN: having one of these juno aspects indicates that your soulmate/marriage partner could have a good reputation, or is very work-oriented, they could be deemed as very attractive to other people, and could have many suitors or suitress, on the other hand, this could also be about the native who has this aspect. people with this aspect could be really liked in their work area. marriage life could be praised a lot by the public.

♇ JUNO OPPOSITION/SQUARE THE MIDHEAVEN: having one of these juno aspects indicates that you could have trouble with keeping up with people's expectations and that you might've had obsessive people as well, your soulmate/marriage partner could relate to this as well. both parties might have troubling relationships with their father figure. people might struggle to understand how the marriage became.

JUNO ASPECTING THE INNER PLANETS ↴

♇ JUNO CONJUNCT/TRINE/SEXTILE SUN: these aspects insinuates that your soulmate/marriage partner is someone who is confident, powerful and they could be someone who is recognised by other people. the marriage could be perceived as a "power couple", or people will just know the marriage couple or soulmate duo to be together all the time. the bond could be very healing for the inner-child, and has potential to last for a long time; native with this aspect could be perceived to have a very sunny beauty, like they're glowing all the time. natives with this aspect would need someone who can guide them, or someone who is wise and understands their core.

♇ JUNO OPPOSITION/SQUARE SUN: these aspects insinuates that your soulmate/marriage partner is someone who could be egotistical, could have issues with feeling confident and powerful. might have power issues, might like to have the upper-hand all the time. both parties in the bond would need to understand and balance where each other stand within the relationship along with perspectives and opinions; the native with this aspect could be perceived to struggle understanding their identity which would cause them to need someone who will be by their side and be open to the path the native wants to take.

♇ JUNO CONJUNCT/TRINE/SEXTILE MOON: these aspects insinuates that your soulmate/marriage partner is someone who is caring, private and very devoted, might've grown up around feminine figures a lot or near the water. if readers are interested in men, they're likely to have a marriage partner who is in touch with their feminine side or is very emotional. the native with this aspect could be perceived to be very private about their relationships. natives with this aspect would need someone who can be empathetic and adaptable towards them.

♇ JUNO OPPOSITION/SQUARE MOON: the aspects insinuates that your soulmate/marriage partner is someone who could struggle with their emotions and tapping into their femininity or you could say balancing their energies. people might think that the bond isnt emotionally fulfilling for both parties especially for the individual with this aspect. natives with this aspect could have trouble choosing relationships that are good for them, mentally.

♇ JUNO CONJUNCT/TRINE/SEXTILE MERCURY: having this in a chart could entail that your soulmate/marriage partner is someone who is youthful, comical and trendy. they're someone who could be deemed to be very good at flirting or just speaking to other people. the relationship could be viewed as mentally fulfilling and both parties could feel like they can be childish with each other. individuals with this aspect can be considered as people who are very charming as well. individual with this aspect will need a partner who is knowledgable and rational.

♇ JUNO OPPOSITION/SQUARE MERCURY: having this in a chart could entail that the individual could have trouble expressing what they truly want, could be the same for their soulmate/marriage partner. people with this placement might not truly know what they want, so they just go through numerous of flings in hopes they find the right person. individuals with this aspect could have soulmate/marriage partners that dont want to settle at the same time as the native. individual with this aspect will need a partner who can be reasonable and know when it is the right time to say or do something.

♇ JUNO CONJUNCT/TRINE/SEXTILE VENUS: having this in a chart could entail that your soulmate/marriage partner is someone who is known to be attractive, artistic and friendly. people might find both of the parties in the soulmate/marriage duo as very attractive, like the two fit together very well. individuals with this aspect could be obsessed with the idea/feeling of love. might have a very good sense of aesthetic as well. individuals with this aspect will need a partner who knows how to enjoy life and generous.

♇ JUNO OPPOSITION/SQUARE VENUS: having this in a chart could entail that your soulmate/marriage partner is someone who could struggle finding what truly fits them, and finding the right bonds, they could've been in countless karmic relationships, this can be the same for the individual with this aspect. people might think that the people in the relationship are unique and out of the box, might think that they wont last for long as well. individuals with this aspect could be very addicted to the feeling of love, money and sensual pleasure. individuals with this aspect will need a partner knows not to be emotionally demanding and self-indulgent.

♇ JUNO CONJUNCT/TRINE/SEXTILE MARS: having this in a chart could entail that your soulmate/marriage partner is someone who is very assertive, courageous and energetic, there could be something masculine about them or the way they just present themselves. people might think that the bond is fiery, erotic and passionate, individuals with this aspect could be interested in people who are attractive, masculine and strong. individuals with this aspect will need a partner that can protect them and a partner that is wilful.

♇ JUNO OPPOSITION/SQAURE MARS: having this in a chart could entail that your soulmate/marriage partner could have issues with their temper or even lust. they could be competitive people and sometimes don't know when to stop, they might act out on jealousy a lot as well and might've been naive in relationships, this could also refer to the people who have this aspect. might've had soulmates that abused their power. individuals with this aspect will need a partner that understands the difference between anger and passion.

JUNO ASPECTING THE OUTER PLANETS ↴

♇ JUNO CONJUNCT/TRINE/SEXTILE JUPITER: juno having these aspects with jupiter displays that the native's soulmate/marriage partner will be someone who is explorative, abundant and intelligent, they're someone who might be a consumer, this native might inherit a lot of stuff when marrying into the person's family; people could look at the relationship as very giving; people who have this aspect need a generous partner or friend and someone who will help them get out of their comfort zone. individual might have countless of spiritual bonds as well.

♇ JUNO OPPOSITION/SQUARE JUPITER: juno having these aspects with jupiter displays that the native's soulmate/marriage partner will be someone who needs to learn when to stop taking advantage over people, they could be someone who feels like they're unlucky, it goes both ways. people might perceive this relationship as one-sided if difficulties aren't worked through together. the native who has this aspect might have an unrealistic standard for their soulmate/marriage partner.

♇ JUNO CONJUNCT/TRINE/SEXTILE SATURN: juno having these aspects with saturn implies that the native's soulmate/marriage partner could be someone who is older than them, responsible and practical, the person with this aspect will find their soulmate[s]/marriage partner in the right time, individuals with this aspect might even be patient about finding their person. natvies with this juno positively aspecting saturn aspects likely age like fine wine, and other people could perceive them as pleasant, along with their relationship with their other person. would need a partner that is cautious and realistic.

♇ JUNO OPPOSITION/SQAURE SATURN: juno having these aspects with saturn implies that the native's soulmate/marriage partner could be someone who doesnt necessarily believe in "marriage" or even the right person. they could be people who are gone with the wind, they could be people who are immature, [the soulmate/marriage partner or even the native with the aspect] and might have troubles with feeling their beauty and self-worth. these people definitely had karmic lessons with handfuls of people and might be tired with what life has to give them. both sides could be interested with traditional things, other people might think there's something different between the two, like age or the way they just do things. both people might have different ways of showing love. would need a partner that shows that they care, might not understand self-love as much too.

♇ JUNO CONJUNCT/TRINE/SEXTILE URANUS - juno making these aspects makes the individual have majority of their friends as their soulmates, or even someone within their friendship group as their marriage partner or even someone they find online. their partner might be perceived as someone who is creative and very truthful, the native who has this aspect is most likely going to need a partner who is unorthodox and socially aware.

♇ JUNO OPPOSITION/SQAURE URANUS - juno making these aspects makes the individual someone who might not want to be in "normal" relationships, they could be someone who could be poly; they're the type of people to think that everyone they bond with is a soulmate of theirs or even a romantic partner. their marriage partner is likely to be someone who is detached and antisocial, might not want to engage in romantic bonds. the native who has this aspect is most likely going to need a partner who is willing to be open to other point of views and respectful.

♇ JUNO CONJUNCT/TRINE/SEXTILE NEPTUNE - juno making these aspects makes the individual have many suitors/suitress, they could be someone with fair expectations for the other party. and could have a soulmate/marriage partner that is spiritual, sensitive and compassionate; people outside of the relationship are likely going to project themselves into the relationship or the platonic bond. individual might've dreamed of their soulmate/marriage partner before. the native who has this aspect is most likely going to need a partner who is creative, romantic and sacrificial.

♇ JUNO OPPOSITION/SQUARE NEPTUNE - juno making these aspects makes the individual delusional about the people they get into romantic endeavours with, will be the type of people who will ruin their self-worth to get with someone who isnt good for them, and might believe in many of the lies someone tells them. they could have a soulmate/marriage partner that could be addicted to love, has weak boundaries and is deceptive, however this could be about the native who has this aspect as well, the individual who has this aspect is most likely going to need a partner who is realistic, truthful and compassionate.

♇ JUNO CONJUNCT/TRINE/SEXTILE PLUTO - having one of these juno aspects indicates that your soulmate/marriage partner will definitely change the native's life, or they way they perceive life or even romance, the person's soulmate will expose things the native wants to hide, self-reflection will occur a lot between the two. their soulmate/marriage partner is likely to be someone who is charismatic, devoted and intuitive, the person who has this aspect would feel like their partner ticks all their boxes and takes care of them more than everyone they've met. people who have this aspect need a bond where the other party is passionate, courageous and emotionally deep.

♇ JUNO OPPOSITION/SQUARE PLUTO - having one of these juno aspects indicates that your soulmate/marriage partner is likely going to be chaotic or underdeveloped, they're individuals with much potential to be stable; financially and mentally, but they might be people who dont learn their lessons as much as they should. they might've met people who've been destructive and violent towards them which has caused them to be on guard all the time. people are likely going to view this relationship as unstable or one-sided, natives with this aspect need a partner who is open to transforming into a better version of themselves and making the native feel protected.

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Passing Peonies - Post War Touya Todoroki - Part I

When the war ended, Midoriya Izuku had proven one thing: That Villains did not need to be killed to be defeated. That you could make friends from enemies.

Touya Todoroki, formerly known as Dabi, had been one of those taken into the rehabilitation program. After one year of intense physical and psychological therapy, he's got the chance to prove himself. To prove that he can be a part of this world.

Complete fic length: 30.600 words - Masterlist

Warnings: poor mental health and resentment against past actions is mentioned, burn scars etc. as well. There is angst but this is mostly soft Touya coming back to his family...

Part 1: (1,9k)

Questioning his own sanity isn’t something he likes doing but standing in front of the tiny flower shop, Touya Todoroki can’t help but do so.

One year might have passed since the war, a year filled with intense therapy both on his body and mind, but still only a year and not a lifetime. 

“Do you want to skip it?” Shouto asks behind him, eyes trailing over the display of flowers outside the shop, the amount of it almost blocking the sidewalk. 

Had it been Fuyumi or Natsuo with him today, they’d already marched right inside, the two of them more annoyed with the lack of positive responses than he was.

But it’s Shouto who asked to accompany him today and Shouto like to ask for his opinion on every single thing first, whether it was which seat he preferred to sit in the car - the back seat - or how he liked his morning coffee - black, two pieces of sugar. 

-

The flower shop is tiny, crammed into the small space between a coffee shop and a drugstore, with wooden chairs and tables covered in plants right outside the too-small windows. 

He imagines the owner to be a little old lady, back arched under years of hard work. She’d throw him out the moment she realizes who he is. Or maybe it’s some uptight dick of a man, who thinks selling flowers is the hip thing to do. Which would end in a similar scenario, just maybe with more obscenities. 

He’d been cleared to start work in the rehabilitation program, given a list of employers who offered a part-time job for ex-criminals for a small amount of financial assistance. But even if they offer part-time jobs, he still has to apply for them and pass. So far he’s only collected rejections.

-

A bell chimes as Touya opens the door and he can’t help but snort at the interior. 

It feels like stepping into a tiny jungle, barely contained by the four walls of the building.

Cut flowers of all colors, sizes, and kinds are creatively dispersed between plants that grow up the walls or droop from the ceilings.

The smell is intoxicating and he can hear Shouto take a deep breath behind him.

“Hello?” He calls out when he can’t spot the owner. “I’m here for the interview?”

“Oh, of course.” A sweet, almost timid voice, calls out from the back, “Touya Todoroki, was it?” 

He can hear the clicking of heels, a plant is pulled back and a smiling face appears. 

That’s the first sign. This is his sixth interview this week and none of the others have been smiling at his sight.

The smile does not leave your lips when you step closer and he wonders for a second if you are visually impaired, until you offer him your hand to shake. Telling him your name, your eyes lock onto him and for only a heartbeat, he forgets to breathe.

That’s the second sign. 

There is no anger in your eyes, no thinly veiled hatred for what he has done. But there is a kind of recognition in them that he knows well. 

He shakes your hand as gently as he can, too aware of how small your hand feels in his. 

“I brought my brother with me.” He stumbles over the words, stepping to the side as well as he can in the cramped space.

That’s the third sign. Your eyes widen at the sight of Shouto, and he spots a little shiver that you try to hide as you offer Shouto your hand as well. 

Oh, well. You are cute, sure, but if you are into his brother, he won’t stand in the way.

-

Two hours later he steps out of the flower shop with a folder and a brand new job, starting tomorrow.

“Do you want to go for Soba?” Shouta asks next to him, seemingly unaffected by the news but phone already in hand, typing away.

Touya’s sure the family group chat is getting all the important information right now.

He looks down at the folder, his name on the official document.

He’s got a job. 

Is this how it feels to be normal? To lead a normal life?

It feels a little weird.

“Sure.” He says instead. “Soba sounds good.”

🌺.

You’re humming a tune when he arrives, smiling when the bell signals his arrival.

“I hope you don’t mind that it’s second-hand.” You tell him, holding out a bundle of green fabric. “But good aprons aren’t cheap and this one’s your size. If you feel uncomfortable with it, I will order a new one.”

“It’s fine.” He slips it on, fighting with the strings in the back. 

“Can I help?” You ask and he nods, teeth clamped together against the uncomfortable feeling of being useless. 

“I’ll go over everything again. If you remember something, feel free to chip in. I know it’s a lot of stuff to remember, especially when you’ve never worked in this field before, so we’ll go over it every morning until you feel comfortable with it.”

The days pass like this. 

You’re here before him, helping him tie that stupid little knot at the back so his apron stays on, leading him through the shop to go over the flowers. 

On Friday he can name almost all of them, only mixing up the gerbera and Coneflower Daisy. He helps you carry out the flowers you choose for the display that day and mans the till the rest of the day where you teach him how to tie ribbons and how to cut stems so that they last longer.

The shop doesn’t get many customers, a few old ladies that are too blind or too polite to recognize him, always choosing the cheapest flowers for the bouquets, cooing when you add a surprise flower without charging for it. 

A few students pass by who buy single-cut flowers or look at the prizes of the bigger plants and skiddle out awkwardly. 

And of course, there are some guys who come in, obviously in the quest of flirting with you, but you’re either too oblivious to get the hints or too polite to act on it. Whatever the case, he throws them menacing looks until they leave.

So far, no one has made a fuss about him being there and he wonders if his new skin grafts are really that good or if people have gotten more polite since he went into therapy.

🌺.

Right now you’re walking up and down the shop, looking over the cut flowers and mumbling to yourself. 

He guesses that whatever you’re coming up with at the end of your mumbling session will involve more learning for him so he leaves you to it and enjoys the chance of getting to look at you.

You don’t dress overly cutesy, not like Toga who loved making herself look younger than she was. The white shirt you’re wearing under your own green apron accentuates your curves even more than the outfit you’d worn on Monday. If only Shouto would come by like he had asked him to, even offering to buy him lunch, but his younger brother’s swamped with work. 

You turn to look at him, catching him in the act of wondering how you managed to make your ponytail look so fluffy. 

“Are you with your family this weekend, Toya-kun?” 

“Uh… yes.” Where’s this going?

“That’s great. How many members does your family have? Including you?”

“Uh, five. My parents, my three siblings, and me.”

“Five? That’s perfect.”

“How so?”

“Oh. There’s something about uneven numbers that feels more comfortable to the human eye. There’s something about unevenness and imperfection that’s comforting.”

Something heavy settles in his gut, but not like the negative feelings he knows. This one feels new and yet familiar, like when you’ve finished a bowl of your favorite food.

“What would you have done if we’d been six people?”

“That’s a lecture for another day.” You tell him, beckoning him over to the cut flowers.

“I allow all my employees to make one free bouquet per week. This will be your first. Pick one flower for each of your family members. Don’t think too much about if they’ll match or not, just go with your gut.”

He huffs and looks at the buckets of flowers. 

There are white lilies and flowers as red as his father’s hair. There are roses and tulips that are a wild mix of red and white. But wouldn’t that be too easy?

He looks again and his eye catches on a deep purple China Aster. Purple used to be the color of royalty, he remembers, and his mother had always felt regal to him.

“This one for my mother.” He says quietly and you take the flower from him.

Next is a bright yellow Gerbera for his father, just because of the dichotomy of it. The flower had always felt passive-aggressive to him, but also cheerful, like someone trying to overcome past aggression by being extra positive. 

A blue silk flower for Fuyumi because blue is her favorite color no matter how much she likes to deny that and lavender for Natsuo because it’s the only medicinal plant he recognizes. Finally, he hands a light pink tulip over, the flower always reminding him of innocence and naivety, something he still connects to his youngest brother.

“You’re missing one flower.” You remind him softly. 

“Oh.” He looks down at them in your hands and laughs awkwardly. “I guess I forgot myself.”

But when he takes in all the flowers, none of them speak to him and he feels himself becoming increasingly frustrated.

“Alright. I’ll allow it this time.” You say softly next to him and he turns, a little confused by your words. 

“Hold out your hand, Toya-kun.” He does and you hold your own hand above it, not touching him but the space between is so small he can feel your presence.

Something heavy drops into his hand and he pulls it down to reveal a thick green bulb with a stem rapidly growing from its end.

“What’s that?”

“A peony. Sadly they’re not in season right now and this little one doesn’t want to show its face yet. You might have better luck in a day or two.” You hand him the other flowers and point at the greenery to the side.

“Now we need all the side characters to complete the picture.” You pull out different things, like Aspidistra and Bear Grass and some Israeli Ruscus Green, calling them the house they lived in, the rooms that housed them, the beds that carried them.

He’s still a little stunned by you showing your quirk like that when you hand him the greenery and point to the table next to the till. 

“Now, make your first Bouquet. You know how to do it but I’ll be there to help if you need me.”

🌺.

“Oh, what a lovely bouquet.” His mother claps a hand to her mouth at the sight of the flowers. “Did you make that yourself?”

“I did, actually.” He feels immensely proud of it and just a little bit awkward about the words that follow, repeating them after you.

“Every flower resembles one of you but you have to guess who’s who.”

Rei studies the bouquet that so obviously lacks white or red and blinks in confusion.

Toya can feel a satisfied smirk growing. You were right. This is kinda fun.

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Have you ever seen videos posted about women's mental health that isn't a commercial for pharmaceuticals? Have you ever heard of a video about women's mental health that's been watched over 50 million times in six days? When has women's mental health ever been of focus outside of feminists trying our best to talk about it on social media?

Women's issues are treated as boring or normal when the vast majority of research on women's mental health, male violence against women, and sexual exploitation hasn't been updated in 20 years for the most part, and what has been published simply examines things such as rates of anxiety (several times higher for women than men) but not the causes—and there certainly isn't funding and resources poured into trying to get the public to consider women's mental health.

Men are less likely to seek out therapy and get help. They only typically get help when female significant others or relatives set some sort of boundary and give some sort of ultimatum for them to get help. I gave the man I was living with an ultimatum to seek help only after several years of rape, being screamed at for hours, being shoved around, and other forms of psychological, sexual, and physical terror. I still had to be the one to call around and find him a therapist.

I have no sympathy for men who do not want to seek out help, because what exists within women's research is that men don't seek help because they don't think they have a problem when they commit the vast majority of physical and sexual violence and would rather use women for psychological and sexual gain.

Of course I want men to seek help because I do believe it could help reduce the violence done to women and they're the sex in control of most policy and the technology that could destroy the planet. Because men own and control the vast majority of global wealth, influence, and resources. However, help isn't going to come in the form of sympathy by women or other men. It is going to come in the form of enforcing boundaries, which looks like, "If you continue to not seek help, I will... [leave, inform your parents, stop financially supporting you, alert the police, etc.]".

The vast majority of public focus is on men's mental health in promotion of providing sympathy when they are overwhelmingly the cause of both other men and women's lack of safety, homocide rates, and psychological and sexual terror.

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Opinion on Popular Fandom Opinions - Will Graham Edition

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Will and cooking: he knows how to cook very well, he grows his own spices and herbs, he is meticulous but not necessarily neat, but yeah, imo he can very well cook.

Will and food: he'll eat anything but he is critical, won't compliment unless he actually likes it; does not need distraction while eating AT ALL (I hate this headcanon lol); eats like a prince because he is annoying about looking well mannered; does understand about food and wine (not to the extent H does but yes); no I don't think he eats fast food out of choice, I think he's too pretentious, but won't complain if he has to eat it.

Will and fatherhood: terrible, we've seen him at it and he sucked both times. He's a narcissist and there are very rare scenarios where he would make a good father. He'd be the type to never fully connect with a child then complain the child is disconnected from him (as he did in canon); at dinner table he'd make the most basic questions like how was school but he's mentally disassociated. Would force his own hobbies on the child (abigail and fishing). Wouldn't be capable of telling their favorite color or favorite teacher at school. Would be good at protecting but emotionally byebye.

Will and his father: not close, he was just existing near him, his father was probably an alcoholic because he seems to have tendencies; probably aggressive since he believes his dark traits are passed on by genes.

Will and his mother: never knew her like he said, I don't think she was avoidant or emotionally unavailable bc he clearly only mentioned following his dad around meaning the mom was literally not there, I think she had the same condition he has, was probably schizophrenic or/and had ppd. headcanon his dad killed her

Will and Molly: distant, avoidant, distracted himself with dogs and whatever else, found her comforting but felt a huge urge to get the fuck off like he did the first chance he got. Cared for her but couldn't even say I love you back, so...

Will and Alana: hugh projecting his attraction for the actress aside he was physically attracted and desperately wanted to like the normal/good girl who behaved like a mother.

Did he know Hannibal was in love with him? Rationally? Yes. His subconscious dreamt about it. But he didn't believe it until Bedelia said it.

What type of murder husband he would be: unstable, unhinged, insane, would switch a looot (love you/hate you), devoted, passionate but acts nonchalant, possessive, horny.

Will and money: has a lot of it considering his work, paying Hannibal's sessions etc, but doesn't splurge or flaunt it, is financially conservative.

Petnames: doctor is definitely a petname. I do believe he would drop the babe but only 6+ years into domesticity. never ever "Han" (ew).

Top or bottom: switch but power, bratty and demanding when bottom but after awhile surrenders; pillow princess for sure.

Good Will or Dark Will: he was never "good", Hannibal set him free but didn't create anything in him.

#do it yourselves #hannigram #nbc hannibal #hannibal #will graham #murder husbands #hannibal lecter #lamb creates random shit

[andreal831]

Esther "Mikaelson" and Misogyny

The misogyny in TVDU, in both the writing and the fandom, is exhausting. It comes out so much, especially when it comes to complex women versus complex men. Esther (yes, I know her last name is not Mikaelson), is not one of my favorite characters, she's not even a character I particularly like. But to act like she is an absolute villain with no redeeming qualities is a best misogynist, and at worst blaming a victim of abuse.

Most of the hate for Esther tends to come from certain character stans because they don't like how Esther treated their favorite character or want to shift the responsibility of their favs to Esther so that they don't have to deal with a complex, morally grey character.

Esther is a survivor many times over and we cannot talk about her without first acknowledging that. When she was just a teenager/young adult, her entire family was slaughtered and she and her sister were kidnapped. I know there is a lot of debate in the psychology community regarding Stockholm syndrome, but her falling for Mikael screams a manipulated, traumatized, naïve, young woman.

Esther and Mikael

Whether it was Mikael's intent initially or not, he took advantage of the mental place she was at when they met. People recently have wanted to argue whether or not Esther was abused, but this is not a debate. First, there are many different types of abuse, mental, physical, emotional, financial, etc.

During this time period, while Norse communities tended to give woman more power, Esther was from "outside" their community. Her rank in the community would come directly from her marriage. I personally don't know if she went into her relationship with Mikael in order to gain security or if she was just truly that naïve and wanted love and a family. There is nothing wrong with either. It reminds me of why Hayley decided to try and actually have a relationship with Jackson. Woman have historically had to make hard decisions in order to gain protection. And even if she just wanted to get married and have kids, that is fine. Esther reminds me of Meg March. Her dreams may have been different than Dahlia but that doesn't make them less important.

We see very little of their human lives and it is told from everyone else's perspective except for Esther. We also know that everyone's stories are not accurate. Klaus lied about Esther's death for a thousand years. He also has a tendency from not seeing things through other perspectives. Klaus, and even Elijah, when they talk about their human lives, focus on Mikael's abuse on Klaus because the show centers around Klaus and doing everything they can do to redeem him. There is no benefit to making Esther look complex or going into how living with Mikael impacted her. But it is naïve to say she didn't suffer abuse. She lived in a household with a violent, angry man. Even if he didn't physically hit her, which we honestly don't know but I would find that extremely hard to believe, it is clear he verbally, emotionally, and financially abused her.

People love to say she is a powerful witch and could have stopped him or left, but this is shifting the blame from the abuser to the victim. First, abuse isn't about who is stronger. This logic is completely dismissing so much abuse that happens, especially women abusing men. Yes, Esther is a powerful witch, but if she had no other options outside of Mikael, being powerful doesn't matter. We know she would put Mikael to sleep for long periods to protect her and her children. We don't know if she did anything else, but we have at least one example of her using her magic to intervene. We also know she stopped practicing for a long time because of her fear of dark magic and how the community treated Dahlia.

We also have to acknowledge that Esther had very few choices. Sure, she could kill Mikael but she would have gotten sentenced to death for that. Again, her position in the community came from her connection to Mikael, otherwise she was just another enslaved person from a village they raided. We know how Dahlia was treated. Maybe she could have run off with Ansel and they would have protected her from Mikael, or if he was dead, the villagers, but this is putting her, her children, and the pack in a dangerous situation. Potentially starting a war between the pack and the village for aiding and abetting a kin-slayer. She would also be acknowledging her affair and adultery by woman was met by serious punishments, usually death. After committing matricide, she also wouldn't have claims to Mikael's money or land as an outsider. Maybe in the "new world," but she would have to hide her involvement in his death. Esther would have no money or land of her own as her familial land and money would have been claimed when it was raided.

While women in Norse communities did experience more freedom than other areas of the world at that time, they were still far from free. This is especially true considering how Esther came to this community. While she wasn't enslaved in a way Dahlia was, it is wrong to say she wasn't still enslaved. Her entire village was killed and her and her sister were forced to come to their village and live amongst them as hostages. Esther was kept as a way to keep Dahlia in line. She was not welcomed into the community. This was a common practice during these raids.

The reason I get so angry when people attack Esther as if she wasn't a victim is because real-life victims hear this everyday. Esther's situation perfectly exemplifies the "non-perfect" victim and the fandom perfectly exemplifies how many of these victims are treated.

Esther and Dahlia

Dahlia gets way more slack than Esther because she is a "more perfect victim." But again, we are getting the story from everyone's perspective but Esther. Yes, what Dahlia went through was horrible, but what she put her sister through was also horrible. Those two things are not mutually exclusive.

Dahlia had no right to expect Esther to give up her dreams for her, even though she did sacrifice a lot for Esther. She made that decision and took it on. Yes, it was noble, but again, she cannot expect anything for a choice she made. It is just like Klaus expecting his siblings to never leave him and punishing them when they do. Siblings do not owe each other their lives. I would also not blame Dahlia for leaving Esther behind to protect herself.

On top of that, when Esther went to Dahlia and asked for help, she took advantage of the situation and stole her child. I don't care what Esther promised or how much she understood of the situation, clearly at the moment Dahlia came for Freya, Esther did not want to give her up. If we look at it in a modern perspective, a mother who puts her child up for adoption has the right to change their mind because, morally, we understand it is impossible to understand how you will feel until that moment. If a person than steals the child after the mom changes their mind, that's kidnapping. If we look at it from a historical perspective, Norse communities were patriarchal and the children belonged to Mikael. Meaning Esther did not have the ability to "sell" her children.

Dahlia is given a lot of sympathy in the fandom because they relate her story to Klaus, who they spend a lot of time victimizing. So it makes an easy leap to paint Dahlia as the victim and Esther as the "evil" one. But again, we never see how Esther reacted to her sister casting her aside because she wanted love and a family. or how Mikael treated her throughout their relationship. Even if Dahlia ended up being right about Mikael, whether he was always evil or turned evil losing Freya, Dahlia doesn't get to make that decision for Esther. It is hard to watch someone you love get into an abusive relationship, but you can't tell someone what to do with their life. All you can do is try and be there for them when they need help.

Esther and Klaus

Another reason people hate on Esther is because of her relationship with Klaus. I personally think Esther loved Klaus the most because of who his father was. She babies him in a way she never did with the other's. We even see Finn resenting her treatment of Klaus because of it.

Yes, she does give him the necklace which ends up making Mikael target him to "make him strong." But, one, let's blame the abuser and not shift blame to a fellow victim. And two, what would you have her do? Sure the answer is probably, don't have an affair, but then your fav character wouldn't be there. Also, again, she was young and naïve. She also gets more blame for having an affair than Mikael does for beating a child. She made a mistake and did everything she could to protect Klaus from that mistake. Was it misguided, maybe, but her intention was good. She wanted to protect Klaus from Mikael finding out.

The fact that Esther can forgive Klaus for brutally murdering her shows how much she loved him. Her wanting to kill her kids later is honestly understandable. She never knew the side affects of the spell she performed. She watched her children become the worst versions of themselves for a thousand years and felt the guilt for every life they took. She also knew peace existed since she had been on the other side. When she first tried to take their lives, they would have all just gone to the other side. She didn't want them to suffer but wanted the pain they inflicted on the world to end.

The Misogyny of it all

The reason I say it is misogyny, is because every favorite character in this show has done absolutely terrible things. Klaus, and all of the Mikaelsons, are serial killers. It doesn't matter what reasons they had for doing it. Esther had her own reasons for her actions. The fact that people can't acknowledge Esther as a complex character but can do so for Klaus, Damon, Elijah, Stefan, etc. shows that it is based on misogyny. Even the fact that Dahlia, someone who kidnapped and abused a child, gets more love than Esther because Esther isn't a "perfect victim" shows it is rooted in misogyny. Men are allowed to be messy and complex but when it's a woman they are either a victim or pure evil.

I'm not saying there aren't things you can't hate her for. I hated her treatment of Elijah in Season 2 of TO and her plan to harm Hope. But to ignore the complexity of the character and pretend she wasn't a victim is just harmful rhetoric. Women are allowed to be complex and morally grey.

#esther mikaelson #this fandom cant handle complex women #I may not agree with everything she did but ill always defend victims #no one is all good or all bad #stop blaming women for everything #tvdu #the originals #the vampire diaries #tvd #the mikaelsons #klaus mikaelson #tvdu metas #metas #dahlia

[wannaeatramyeon]

uhm could you possibly do jealous lookism character headcanons? (._.)

Thanks for the ask anon! This has been a wild 2 weeks of hyperfixating for me and I'm starting to dry up so this has come as a good time (altho I've got lots of drafts sitting around lol)

This has been super interesting. Some characters obv have a jealous personality, but I've never thought about those who don't. This will def become a multi-parter!

Most jealous here!

Lookism jealous headcanons: least jealous

Let's start with these guys first (Jake, Vasco, Gun, Daniel, Eli): hc for being jealous themselves, and hc for you trying to make them jealous

Jake Kim

To be with Mr. Butt, you would have developed a pretty good relationship anyway to move into the romantic terrority. He knows you are loyal and trusts you implicitly.

Any naturally occuring feelings of jealousy are for him to deal with on his own. Will take a bit of poking and prodding before he talks to you about it.

But if you're trying to provoke him? Why are you even trying to make him jealous? Two can play at this game if you're trying to be a pain in the ass. He'll try and talk things through with you first, to see if he's pissed you off. But if you carry on? Expect him in full silly mode: kneeling down before you, shouting his apologies, announcing his feelings, literally begging you to stop flirting with this ugly nobody.

Vasco Tabasco

Rarely, if ever, gets jealous. He's just so happy to be with you. It's one thing if you're in trouble, but if he notices someone is being overly friendly but you're nonplussed? He just looks at you with heart eyes: "Ahhh look at Y/N. They're so cute and pretty! I can't believe they're with me!!"

If you're provoking Vasco then good luck. He wouldn't really understand your actions but will be upset about how he is feeling. "Do you like them more than me, Y/N? :(((" The sad face is enough to guilt you into stopping. Really, it's like kicking a puppy. Why would you do that.

Gun Park

Feeling jealous of his own accord? Guess being with you proves he is human afterall. He's arrogant, confident but aware of his own limitations. Jealousy isn't an emotion he's well acquaintained with. Will result in him brooding or being extra cold until he can put his finger on it and figure out the next steps.

Lucky for you, Gun is pretty forthright. He'll tell you what has been making him jealous so you can both work through it.

Trying to make him jealous? Also good luck. Gun will see right through your attempts. Depends what mood he is in. At times he's amused but generally he will ignore you and your childishness.

Daniel Park

Yes, he's had a glow up in his first body and yes, he gets lots of attention in his second but that doesn't erase years and years of bullying and hating himself. The feelings of inadequacy will overwhelm and cause him to shrink back into himself.

He'll need a lot of reassurance that you love him for him. It's better if you don't focus too much on his appearance. "What happens if one day I put on weight again? or when I get old? Will you still like me then? :("

Provoking him? Please don't be so mean to Daniel. Especially if you know about his insecurities. This is more of a reflection on you and your issues if you're purposely making him jealous. Shame on you.

Eli Jang

Tends to get jealous if he thinks someone else is a better provider for you: physically, romantically, mentally, financially etc. Being the Big Daddy for Eli means he should be able to do it all, and then some. He will get in his head if he thinks someone else is better suited to you.

For Eli, actions speak louder than words - show him how much you love him and he has nothing to worry about.

Cannot imagine him being with a partner that would try and make him jealous. There's enough on his hands with Hostel and Yenna. He wants a mature and stable presence in their lives, he doesn't want nor have the time to play these games.

#lookism #lookism headcanons #lookism hc #lookism x reader #jake kim x reader #jake kim #vasco #vasco x reader #euntae lee #gun park #gun park x reader #daniel park #daniel park x reader #eli jang #eli jang x reader #wannaeatramyeon