#so much of who i was used to be defined by my social anxiety and now it's not really there so much i don't really know who i am

[bonesrbleaching]

had the most braindead repetitive conversation/argument with my parents. buzz cuts are too masculine but if you dye a design on it it become effeminate which is bad because then you look weak and if youre weak then society falls apart (all societies ever that have fallen apart for any reason are actually because of feminine men) and we start sacrificing babies. and also all mental illness is invented because only 4 people had anxiety in the 90s and covid was made up so that we would all become gay and trans and then the government can control us better and be joe biden's little sex slaves. and also i need to keep my hair long because my father finds it attractive. what

#lolaa.txt #what do i even tag this with . my mother wouldn't let me leave and i kept asking for sources and she kept saying 'i'm your mother!!!' #'i wouldnt lie to you!' #okay. say that to someone maybe who doesnt know you lie to them all the time. #its tiring going around in circles with her.my father is better because at least he admits when he doesnt have a reason for feeling some wa #also what got me. she said 'do you own research if you want!! but im right!!!' #yeahh not seeing anything about anything you just said. i think you made that up. #i have a theory that my mother secretly hates herself because she believes all women are weak and must serve strong men #and my father has so so much trauma and anxiety that he cant be that strong man #so now she feels like shes betraying her very biology when she has to step up. #and also because i am stronger than her now and my hair is long and far far denser than hers and i have a younger face #that she feels that im wasting my precious femininity that she could be using. does that make sense. #shes so miserable trapped in her idea of what makes a man and a woman what they are. once you stop caring about what makes someone somethin #you dont have to worry about anyone else. #im queer because i dont really feel that connection to biological and social ideas of gender that my parents seem to #never really have #im not gonna theorize 'ohh shed be happier nonbinary' or stuff like that because it is up to you and you alone to define who you are #if you spend your whole life trying to fit a box for the sake of fitting the box #then when would you have any space for self discovery #youve invented personality traits to go along with your box. now you can never ever change or grow as a person. congrats #and you know what? one day she will die. and that will be the end of that. #and i will live and i will probably shave my head a thousand times. and come up with new names #and new ways to be a better person that makes me feel happy #and i will dress like a boy because its all made up anyways. who cares. #and if you care? that much about what im wearing or how i look? #then thats your problem and i wont be responsible to maintain your happiness. #SORRY RANT OVER. #im just so flabbergasted. what a sad life someone can lead poisoned by jealously and reactive rhetoric. #tw homophobia #tw transphobes

[save-the-villainous-cat]

was gonna go off anon but actually i don't need to be horny jailed on main

anyways consider: a pretty flirty villain who makes like constant dirty jokes, and the stoic hero who's just kinda like "oh fuck" but anyways my point here is that imagine how funny it would be if the villain had like zero experience but the hero did and got to turn the tables on them

idk sounds like spice waiting to happen

“Isn’t that what everybody wants?” the villain purred, their voice full of sweet promises. If they continued this, they’d be sitting on the hero’s lap real soon. “To be truly understood, to be…interlinked…”

“Interlinked?” the hero asked absentmindedly. Their eyes were still on the businesspeople discussing their deals with each other. In this room, politics was being made. And they were a part of it, if they wanted or not.

“Interlinked,” the villain said. The tip of their nose touched the hero’s ear. Their chest was pressed against the hero’s shoulder. By now, the hero was long used to the villain touching a lot — they didn’t mind that much — but the amount of touchiness was especially noticeable on social gatherings.

The villain was shy.

And though they didn’t want the hero to know that, the hero knew better than anyone.

“We’re a good fit. We’re interlinked,” the villain whispered. “I could give you things you didn’t even know you needed in the first place. All of it in just one night.”

“I know, darling,” the hero answered, nearly bored. They didn’t want to screw this up. Their… personal relationships couldn’t get in the way of this. What happened here would define the following legislative period.

But still, the hero loathed politics.

And the villain was so sweet.

“So, it’s a yes?” The villain finally stood up from their seat and sat down on their enemy’s lap. “To all the things I’m gonna do to you?”

The hero broke eye contact with the most powerful politician to look at their enemy. Yes, they wanted to say. It’s definitely a certain yes.

“Do you not have some evil scheme to take care of? Is there a bomb here somewhere?” they asked.

“You’re the only bomb in this room,” the villain said, winking.

“I think you can do better than that.” The hero looked back at the talking people. They scrutinised the commander of the heroes league talking to one of the richest men in the city.

But their mind was occupied with the villain. Their sweet villain who tried so desperately not to show their social anxiety. Their hands were shaking, they were clinging to the hero…tough everything in their mind told them to follow what was happening in the room, the hero wanted to see what was happening with their enemy.

“Oh, if I’m allowed to show you…my hands are really good, they say.” And then. Then, the hero focused on the villain’s lips.

“I bet your mouth is better.” The hero’s hand wandered to the villain’s upper thigh and with the happiest smile a human being could make, they looked at the villain’s wide eyes.

“Woah, I’m—”

“Still a virgin?” The villain got pale.

“Hey, that’s not—”

“I know you’re nervous, darling. I know there’s a lot of people. So why aren’t we ditching this place after I’m done observing? Maybe my hands and mouth can show you a thing or two.” They squeezed the villain’s thigh affectionately.

Their villain seemed embarrassed but not quite as nervous as before.

“I…I gotta get a drink—” they mumbled and the hero had to grin when they added “don’t leave, though.”

“Be a doll and fetch one for me too, alright?” they asked. The villain glowered at them but eventually came back with two champagne glasses.

The hero didn’t let go of the villain for the rest of the night.

#I’m a busy beeeeee #writing snippet #heroxvillain prompt #heroxvillain snippet #heroes and villains #hero #villain #hero x villain #heroxvillain #an answer for an ask #request #suggestive #but also fluff 🤨

[weirdmageddon]

can someone explain what “weed paranoia” is?

ive never experienced it, all i experience is like….relaxation, monotropic autism flow state, calms me down enough to not get overstimulated by my own thoughts (i feel more at ease with my thoughts coming and going, i kinda go into free flow thought tunnels without getting hung up or ever spiraling. in fact, the opposite, where it’s like a “catch and release” sort of experience to train of thought most of the time. i mean i’ll still definitely hyperfocusing on something which you could consider getting “hung up” on but thats just normal autism stuff and i feel like i can mine for more deeper insight riches in those hyperfixation tunnels when high.

it also definitely helps me unmask. like my mask is sort of built into my core personality and “self” but i find it hard if not impossible to shut off even when im alone because ive internalized the external social sphere. but THC (i should note im taking Δ9) like…. takes the edge off, and i feel less conflicted about my thoughts? like i’m more confident in getting my thoughts out there without worrying about people judging me for how i phrase things or how hyperspecific im being to my own interests. i feel like i dont have to water things down as much because i dont feel as threatened by judgment externally, and in turn internally

i looked up my question about what “weed paranoia” feels like on reddit and the common answers ive seen were:

generalized anxiety

“everyone knows” / you feel like people are watching or judging you and that youre gonna be in trouble

“You’re very aware of your own actions and existence, and assume everyone else is also.”

heightened self-reflection (for some people this freaks them out??) because different perspective

more vulnerable

but i’m not satisfied with these answers??

i want to know if people who get paranoid have these traits while sober/before getting high. like, is it just non-introspective people getting freaked out because they’re considering their own actions/thoughts and existence? or do introspective people who are used to metacognition also getting freaked out?

are people afraid of confronting their weaknesses that weed makes them aware of? are people who normally hide from truths more likely to get paranoid?

ok so i can only fully know my own mind; that is my reality. i have a habit of assuming people more or less share the same phenomenological experiences in their minds, but since i’m autistic i’ve had to expand this boundary over and over continually reconciling with way more diverging phenomenological experiences than i thought.

so i normally i have thoughts about my own thoughts pretty much at least five times every hour, every single day of the week. i do not experience is not a bad thing, it’s a neutral and even good thing. i think i am insightful by nature and always have been, ive been described as such. i don’t know how normal this is for the average person. weed does enhance these metacognitive thoughts i have to an even higher level, and i feel very, very pulled towards them in a good, flow state way. ive also been told my guarded chilly heart melts a bit and i become more open/vulnerable while stoned but that’s because i don’t feel as vulnerable as i normally do. so i dont hide or clam up as much away from psychological openness or whatever exact shit enneagram type 5 is on

but anyway even without weed i normally feel “outside” of my own thoughts, always judging them from a third person perspective, or even multiple third person perspectives through reframing. so i dont feel like i have a defined or clearly illuminated sense of self. i’m not trying to really “find myself” so much as uncover it. like, it’s definitely there to begin with i can feel its presence, but the specifics are obscured and i’m trying to bring them to light. i automatically isolate logical components from emotional components into their own boxes and rarely acknowledge the emotional box because it’s unhelpful in more circumstances than not so it’s all a pretty clinical process when i make sense of things

because i can do this i’m never afraid of the truth; in fact i actively go in search of it and honestly it feels like THC helps me achieve that on MYSELF and it makes me very satisfied

i also don’t know if what i said is normal. am i comfortable with truths and facing them to an unusual degree over most people, or about the same as them?

i saw this comment and it’s like….. that makes sense with disinhibition of the frontal cortex. i think way too much about the rhetoric and kairos of how im communicating information to others normally, but with these consciously overthinking circuits driving and modifying my social thoughts and behaviors being turned down while stoned, i find i dont care as much. it’s like my conscious autism masking is peeled away, so i feel more content while stoned. and it also makes me more open as a result.

like i said, “i feel more at ease with my thoughts coming and going, i kinda go into free flow thought tunnels without getting hung up or ever spiraling” which is how this guy is describing “going with the flow”

the takeaway is i dont have a negative reaction to when i realize unpleasant things about myself while high. it’s just this neutral acknowledgement. this even goes for physical things that usually tip people off like their heart rate being “too fast” while high. i do perceive it also but theres like no anxiety with it, again just neutral observation and acknowledgement

basically im Actively looking for this

so some questions:

can someone explain what “weed paranoia” is like, taking into account the gist of what ive said? if you experience it do you have any insight into why it happens? does anything ive said have to do with it? do you already have neurotic tendencies (low resistance to stress)?

what does my experience while high + my normal thought processes as ive described them say or imply about me?

why am i experiencing pretty much the polar opposite of the way weed paranoid people are describing anxiety of being judged? or like the thing about my feelings of vulnerability?

am i more comfortable with truths and facing them to an unusual degree than most people, or am i actually about the same as them? am i more introspective/metacognitive than most people, or am i actually about the same as them?

if people who ARE already introspective get high and feel paranoid, why would that happen—wouldnt they be used to uncovering things about themselves? are there other reasons? does one’s sentiment to oneself play into it? neurotic traits?

oomf said “your high is always driven by how capable you are of passively defusing triggers for a bad trip”. the explanation for how well people tolerate THC ive gravitated towards outside of genetics (since my mom doesnt tolerate thc well but i do) is ability to deflect stressful thoughts, or how impacted you are by stressful thoughts in the first place. is this anything?

i hope im describing these things adequately so i can get the answers im looking for lol. please tell me if any of this means anything to you or if its just words

EDIT:

^ to me everything is great and feels significant, but is that because the things that feel significant are themselves good? if weed makes stuff seem more significant (too much dopamine weighs negative inputs too highly), that means it amplifies what’s already there (while also amplifying “noise”). so that tells us about the nature of what is already there in the mind’s contents, then?

so again, question 2: what does my experience while high + my normal thought processes as ive described them say or imply about me?

#stoner posting

[elysiansparadise]

Hi, I have a doubt with regards to astrology. I have my Sun in Taurus, Saturn, Jupiter and Mercury all in my 11th house in the sign of gemini. I've never had a lot of friends, never been community oriented and been a loner for most of my life... This is why I can never take astrology seriously. Cause my chart doesn't even resonate with me at the most basic level...May I have your thoughts on this, please?

Chart type: Western, Placidus

Hello, I would like to give you my point of view on this.

The first thing is to understand the basics. The 11th house is the house of Aquarius, so the energy is similar in some aspects. Aquarius energy, although it’s said to be extroverted, is a sign that is independent par excellence and usually needs time alone. 

A house covers different aspects of the native's life, so summarizing the 11th house to be the house of friendships or communities would be leaving various aspects aside. The next thing would be to understand that other aspects govern the 11th house. Here are some other themes that are attributed to this house:

🟫The internet and technology: This house can represent from how much time we invest in the internet, to how we project ourselves on the internet. A stellium in this house could indicate a person who tends to spend a lot of time using social networks or whose hobbies are related to the use of some technology.

🟫Our long-term goals: Being a house that is not only originally ruled by Uranus, but also by Saturn, the issues of both houses are mixed, in this case the plans [Saturn] and the future [Uranus]. This house can represent what your long-term goals are, how you feel thinking and planning in the long term, or what your criteria and priorities are when making a plan.

🟫Aspirations, ambitions and desires: It represents those things that you want to achieve, create or even be out of your own conviction and not because of what someone dictates to you.

🟫Earnings, wealth and sources of income: That's right, money is not only a matter of the 2nd house, this house usually represents both in Tropical astrology and in Vedic astrology what your main sources of income can be.

🟫The causes you support: In this case, they are the ones that you fight the most to support or the ones that you fervently defend, it can even indicate charity.

🟫How do you perceive humanity: It is a general vision of society as a whole, it indicates your opinions regarding the society in which you operate, the people and the world.

The next thing is to understand what effects having a Stellium in this house can have. It should be clarified that the Stelliums are neither good nor bad, rather they tell us about a sector of life that defines the native a lot or something in which the native focuses a lot throughout their life.

Feeling like an outsider: The native may feel that he does not fit in with people of his age, community or any group to which he belongs. A feeling of not being understood or integrated by others.

Ambition and desire to go far: It is likely that they manifest as a person who places high expectations on themselves and on what they want to achieve. They have long-term plans and want to do a lot of different things.

Anxiety and fear of the future: You may feel doubtful about the future and have a tendency to want to know what is going to happen. By having so many planets in a house that speak of the future, the native can focus too much on what is to come or it can happen that they limit themselves to living in the present.

Various economic incomes: These are people who are more likely to have either several jobs or obtain money in many different ways. They can be people who make money very easily [especially if Jupiter, Venus or Sun are involved]. It should be added that this can be when they start their professional life / when they are adults.

Popularity: This can be in their social life or in the internet world, natives can become recognized for some skill, for their charm or whatever they do on the internet.

The last thought that I will comment is that if you feel that you don't relate with Placidus, you can use whole signs. If we use whole signs and you have a Cancer rising, your planets in Gemini are placed in your 12th house, which could be more related to you, since 12th house energy is introverted and/or isolated.

Hope this helped, have a nice day ahead.

#11th house #astrology #11th house in astrology #natal chart #birth chart #astro note #astro observation #stellium in the 11th house #stellium in the 11H

[crimeronan]

re: your empathy posts. As someone who probably has higher than normal empathy (I used to ask people around me how they deal with sympathetic distress in common situations that occur in a job and only got blank stares) you're so valid!! The lionizing of this random subconscious process called empathy is so useless! It says nothing about the person and their values! As your other commenters suggested, people disparaging you may just be trying to boost their own shaky feelings about how their own emotional stability is deeply tied to their people-pleasing tendencies.

If anything, I think learning to function "normally" in society with "empathy" makes you more messed up. I understand this person's distress. I acknowledge it, and know how my actions will make it worse. I make them feel worse anyway, because that's the organizationally approved behavior, causing more pain for both them and myself. All the while I must behave as if I am cheerful and unbothered. Internalizing that hurting others and yourself to achieve your goals is Fine is necessary in order to stay sane. This is counter to everything people say they believe, so lying also has to become a virtue.

Buying kindness from the store seems like a really kind thing to do tbh. I am passing you on the street as I am schlupping over to pick up some callousness.

this last sentence made me giggle a lot. but YEAH!! a lot of this is spot-on to stuff i've been thinking about lately. like, "normal" empathy levels seem to be socially defined as "you care about people and want to help them, but you don't care so much that you'll harm yourself in pursuit of that" and it's all just..... i dunno. so much pathologizing of how we think and feel and whether we're Human (TM) about stuff. it's all so Weird

like..... i keep thinking that my lack of empathy gives me certain advantages in social situations. but in a similar vein to the ppl worried about sounding like tiktok empaths for being hyperempathetic, i worry that this makes me sound like an alpha male influencer writing youtube essays about why emotions make you weak, or whatever.

it's not that emotions make people weak or that having less empathy makes me like, a Cold Logical Calculating Math-Loving Strategist. i'm a writer who focuses solely on character-driven stuff, u probably wouldn't expect that from a stereotypically sociopathic person. part of why i LIKE writing character-driven stuff so much is BECAUSE i've had to actively teach myself how other people think, how they feel, how they struggle, etc

a lack of empathy means i can choose not to get invested in other people's feelings or lives, i don't feel guilty for emotionally disconnecting, i'm not afraid of being disliked. but i still know how to act like a decent human being. there's that one post about how stupid it is not to realize being nice gets people to be nice back, and fuckin. YEAH!! it's astonishing to me to read about cases of """clinical sociopaths""" (who are just people who didn't get the 'pretend you give a shit, moron' memo) manipulating and gaslighting people and whatnot. everyone in the comments will always be like "ooo so scary... they didn't feel bad at ALL... so terrifying that people who don't feel guilt exist..." and i'm like.

IS GUILT THE ONLY THING THAT KEEPS YOU FROM COMMITTING ATROCITIES???

BLOWS MY MIND. IT'S LIKE..... THE LEFTIST EQUIVALENT OF SAYING EVERYONE WOULD BE MURDERERS IF THEY WERENT SCARED OF GOD. LIKE. YOU ONLY AVOID DOING BAD STUFF BC IT MAKES YOU FEEL BAD??????

good LORD. at least having no empathy means i've had to grow my principles organically. oh my GOD.

anyway what brought these thoughts up today was that i was thinking about gansey and luz noceda, since theyre extremely similar characters & on my All Time Faves list. and i've said this before but the things i love about them (the kindness, self-sacrificing shit, anxiety, etc) are things i don't see in myself. but Wish I Did. like i wish i was kinder on the inside than i am.

but i know that i admire ppl with luz and gansey traits both in fiction and in real life. so i simply just..... emulate the luz and gansey actions. not always successfully, esp because i have a temper and very little patience, but like. i try to be kind where i can bc i wish i was someone who tries to be kind when they can. so i'm just going to be. u know??

#replies #long post #havent edited this so if its incoherent.... sorry #low empathy

[emmellas]

my belated tribute to emma stone and bella baxter, two beacons of true (intersectional) feminism for international women's day <3

for the first time in cinematic history, a woman's story was told in an entirely liberating manner, with no societal stigmas imposed upon her: in a manner that inherently gave all the power, then, to bella. i call it "the bella gaze."

moreover, bella herself, a neurodivergent-coded woman whose differences are neither mocked or tokenized but rather embraced, is supported wholeheartedly by the film to be a "flawed, experimenting" person who forms her own identity with no regard to those societal stigmas, of her own volition deciding to educate herself every chance that she gets such that she can ("i know this to be true in me -[having a goal to "improve, progress, grow"]- help make the world a more just place: "contribute to the betterment of society." not just for white women. not just for rich women. not even just for women, though the critique against patriarchy is etched into the very soul of the film alongside all other systems of oppression and unjust treatment.

none of this, of course, would be possible without the indelible contributions of bella's animator, if you will: emma stone, whose love and passion for bella resonates in an unprecedented performance (that i hope will bring her a well-earned oscar) and approach to production. emma, a producer on poor things, as much as many try to erase it, was principal in bella's character development- it was she who first drafted it to 10 stages, which ultimately were condensed to 5 per advisement by - and has fiercely advocated for bella amidst a slew of the very stigmas her film critiques, asserting that bella's differences do not make her any less competent, intelligent, or wise, that bella has every right to enjoy sex and speak about it freely, so on and so forth.

emma, though limited by her severe diagnosed anxiety (she has spoken to a deeply engrained trigger regarding speaking on social matters that she's made mistakes on, fearing that she'll again, while good intentioned, will have a harmful impact on the world. mistakes are inevitable and she obviously knows this but as we know, mental illness is irrational), is a living bella regarding her worldview, values, etc. and a summative quote i think back to a lot regarding this is the following:

also figured i'd show an excerpt from a panel emma did on de-stigmatizing anxiety, with remarks that none of us who suffer from GAD are our disorders nor are we defined by them, analogizing it to an entity that sits on our shoulders- entirely separate FROM us but still with us- to further explain a prior remark of mine.

yorgos said it himself: there would be no bella without emma. it is the latter's inherent values of justice and inimitable talent in front of and behind the camera that allowed for bella to be portrayed and celebrated as she was.

these two women are my utmost inspirations.

#emma stone #film #poor things #yorgos lanthimos #bella baxter #emma stone edit #film analysis #male gaze #patriarchy #film theory #poor things review #oscars #bafta #golden globes #feminist film #intersectionality #neurodivergent #neurodiversity #international women's day #feminism #intersectional feminism #socialism #gad #anxiety #panic disorder #mental illness #activism

[xstarlightxstarbrightx]

Neuvi headcanons

MY BBGRL,,, MY LIL CUTIE MANS WHO I ADORE,,,, i love him so much he's so fuCKIng CUTE dude, lil dragon mans sksmefkhjrshefkj. i swear i'm a normal individual w/ these characters

list of current h/c's: - i feel like he's socially anxious?? like ok, listen, he's GREAT w/ any formal situation, but THE MOMENT it gets casual he PANICs on the inside bc he's like 'wait what's the right and wrong thing to say'. - following that, i feel like when he's in a casual conversation w/ ppl and starts getting panicked, i feel like he's learned to tap his cane twice on the ground to signal to any of his closer companions that he's freaking out. like a "get me out of this situation please" type deal. - this ties into my belief that he's got anxiety regarding smaller scale things. like if he makes a small mistake on something or breaks an object, he feels SO BAD and panics as he tries to figure out how to fix it. - knowing this, i feel like he feels a bunch of emotions, he just doesn't know how to like,,, put them into words? read below - a yearning for learning,,,, actively seeks out how to label his emotions, but how does one define their feelings? Emotions are not equated to logic, and yet they're a part of human experience, so what is the method to label that which is so intangible yet so real? he doesn't know yet, but he's figuring it out and i'm so proud of him :)c - overprotective in his own way. like he's been putting a lot of stuff on his shoulders so ofc that includes him being sensitive towards people he cares about being harmed. - prideful! he doesn't think he's prideful, he just is Proud Of Things, but tbh i get a bit of a "dragon pride" vibe from him. it's silly goofy and rears up the most around certain Archons. - GOOD DAD. NEUVI IS SUCH A GOOD DAD. IF A MELUSINE COMES UP TO HIM TO TALK ABT A THING, HE IS THE MOST ATTENTIVE LISTENER. HE'LL ASK QUESTIONS, TOO, TO TRY AND LEARN MORE. oUGH i love him he's SUCH a gOOD DAD - afraid of losing everything; Neuvi didn't really realize he had so much to lose until he almost lost it, and now he's like even more scared to lose anything else. - anxious of closer connections. Neuvi wants to be closer to people; he really likes humanity, and he wants to reach out to people. but he's afraid, bc if they ever err away from the side of justice, they may end up in his court. no matter what happens, then, is him sentencing them not a form of betrayal? neuvi ponders this a lot - MOVING AWAY FROM SAD THINGS: y'all i'll be SO real, ppl are so used to Neuvillette being in Fontaine that, when he's Outside of Fontaine, unless they Know Him on a personal level, no one recognizes that he's the Iudex of Fontaine. like not even actual Fontainians register it, bc, like, why would the literal Iudex Leave his Natural Habitat of the Court of Fontaine??? - side note, average ppl are intimidated by him. like most ppl look at him and go 'if i approach him, i will be arrested for war crimes bc CLEARLY he is a PRINCE' (which is the best and funniest shit) - 'unrelated'; Neuvi doesn't talk to a lot of ppl outside of his closer friend group, i think u can understand why - such a hard worker,,, honestly probably overworks himself and doesn't even realize it. - WHICH LEADS ME TO HIS HOBBIES HEHEHHEHEHEHE - ARTIST,,, you CANNOT sit there, after Lantern Rite, and TELL ME that HE DOES NOT start looking into the arts. THIS MAN would ABSOLUTELY get into painting and poetry and shit. he likes watercolors and he ADORES POTTERY (THAT FUCKING LADLE??? I CRIED OVER IT IN MY TEAPOT FOR 30 MINUTES HELP) - loves books and stories. like seriously they're kinda actually really fun for him to read bc he sits and breaks down what is and isn't accurate abt them (crime/detective books) and he gets invested in romance books (he's CURIOUS okay??) - bc he reads Fontainian romance books, any and every romantic gesture is like,,, awkwardly sappy? like he'll do small scale things bc he's a lil nervous baby, but it's THE SAPPIEST of the sappy. - fashion lover. Listen, this man could arguably wear whatever he wants and he chose to wear THAT???? he's a fashion lover / makeup master, and i will die on this hill. - he would laugh at Cyno's jokes, but only AFTER Cyno explains them.

OKAY I,,, I THINK I DID IT,,, i had so much written i'm dying please i love him so so so much. my itty bitty squishy bbgrl i cannot wait to explain why and how he joined the party / poly it's SO silly, this entire thing is my favorite i have been yapping abt them for a MILLENIA

#neuvillette #neuvilette genshin #brain worms #genshin neuvillette #neuvilette headcanons #this man is so fucking cute #i think he's so precious #i'm not even joking about the ladle thing btw #i'm an Eng VA user and BRO #the voice acting #is on point #i put the ladle beside my kaeya lamp in the teapot #and started like crying bc i was just staring at it #why is a ladle so cute #why is the man who made it cuter #why didn't we get zhongli's thoughts on neuvillette during Lantern Rite? #I'M WATCHING YOU HOYO #ok i'm done talking abt him #i'm going to go set up the Silly Goofy timeline that is my Genshin Impact interpretation #uwu

[toppedbykakuna]

Hi! Just writing to let you know that radical feminism isn’t “pure hatred”, and that the vast majority of women who support it don’t care half as much about people identifying as trans as they do care about protecting marginalized women worldwide (whose issues are fundamentally unable to transcend their biological sex in the way alternative feminism dictates). You said in the tags of a recent post that you’ve spent “so many years trying to understand” radical feminism, which is confusing, because it’s a relatively straightforward approach to feminism. No radfem is ever going to dictate how someone should or shouldn’t dress or behave. The single defining feature is just that radfems argue that how someone dresses and behaves should not be conflated with biological sex or be indicative of a societal gender norm. The entire concept is that boys can wear dresses and girls can wear pants and they are still male and female. Radical feminism strives for the elimination of gender and gender roles!

Genuinely hope you have a good day :) you don’t need to reply to this, I won’t see it anyway, but you really don’t have to prove anything to anyone either. Your beliefs should be yours, not something you feel the need to repeatedly reaffirm to an online public to stay socially acceptable.

Peace:)

Hey anon, thanks for the polite message, I do appreciate it. I'm gonna use this ask to share my perspective a bit more, and while you definitely don't have to continue this conversation if you don't want, if you have any further thoughts I'm happy to hear them!!

Essay below about my history with the phrase and community of "radfems/terfs"

I do acknowledge that in my original post I used the term "radfem" in that tag where I meant to use the term "terf", however in the past 10ish years I've found that the people who use these terms to describe their identity haven't given me any reason to differentiate the two terms.

When I joined Tumblr in 2013, I had already been involved with the queer community for a year, learning about the different corners of the community and our history. At that point, I had accidentally stumbled across the small "radfem" community that had started leaning into the "terf" category of identification on Tumblr specifically.

I remember this movement was relatively small but in any post I saw celebrating trans-ness or gender, there would be somebody with a "radfem" tag in their username trying DESPERATELY to shut down the joy. Comments filled with "you can't change your gender!" type beat, y'know? At the time, I figured it would die out and I moved on.

Suddenly a few years later, I'm on Twitter and I see a particularly famous children's author involving herself in the community I had forgotten about years before, liking posts about whatever the current drama was about and getting herself involved with the whole "you can't change your gender!" type beat, and whaddya know, it BLOWS up.

Now, let's take a few steps back. I'm somebody that struggled with fitting into same sex groups for my entire life. My childhood sport was same sex, my gym classes, the bathrooms, all the things that people don't really think too much about. For me, it came with a body rocking form of anxiety about things like my body being witnessed, the possibility of getting made fun of (which happened if I wasn't keeping an eye out), trying to fit into conversations that I wasn't really interested in because it's what people my sex and my age were talking about, I was getting denied opportunities from my parents because I was interested in activities that weren't typically for my assigned gender.

Funnily enough, I came across some old posts of mine from 2014, 3 years before I came out, that are absolutely mourning my assigned sex and begging to be anything other than my assigned sex. I didn't want my assigned sex to be perceived, I wanted my gender to stop controlling my life. Once I realized that being nonbinary (or agender, as I prefer) was an option and I could partially transition in order to become more androgynous, it has made my life MILES better. I have never thrived so happily in my body without my reproductive organs and a minor level of HRT, and I would encourage anyone looking for androgyny to discuss HRT options with their doctor because it seriously changed my life.

NOW, let's come back to how that's relevant to "radical feminism". In the last 10 years that I've acknowledged that phrase, I have never met a person who uses that phrase with the intention of including transgender people. I would genuinely like to know if anyone knows any people who identify as a "radical feminist" with the intention of including transgender people, cuz they're not doing a very good job of making themselves visible right now.

I live in a country that already has 3 different regions currently attempting to remove transgender people from the vocabulary of anyone under the age of 18, something that I would've THRIVED with the knowledge of as a teenager. If I knew that puberty blockers were an option, I would've avoided 8 years of incredible intestinal pain, dysphoria, depression and more. That's my choice.

I'm of the same opinion that anyone should be able to wear whatever they want and present however they want, along with identifying however they want. If a boy wants to wear a dress then that's so good for him, but if it's an 18 year old trans boy who wants to wear a dress, he is still valid as a man, whereas I've seen typical terfs argue that a trans man wearing a dress means he wants to stay a girl, therefore should just identify as a girl.

If we're genuinely talking about a group of people who identify as "radical feminists" and don't have a single opinion about transgender people I would like to know who they are, because from my perspective "rad fems" are the exact same group of people as TERFs.

To wrap this all up, my fiance is a transgender man. He was actually a huge influence to help me come out myself and better my life, and I'll forever be thankful for his kindness and education. My best friends are all trans or genderless, my sibling is nonbinary, the 3 different women I would run away with if they asked me to are transgender women... ahem

I love transgender people. I love people who play with their own genetics and put themselves through years of medical stress to be the best versions of themselves. Transgender people have been the kindest community I've ever interacted with, the most selfless group of individuals, the most in tune with their own minds and bodies and the world around them. I love their resilience and their strength in a world that wants them to desist, and I will always be on the side of transgender people.

This blog is not censored for appeal, nor will I ever post anything to satisfy any form of masses. This blog is my own beliefs, and my beliefs are that trans people are (pardon my pun) rad as fuck.

#lexis ESSAYS #my GOD #lexis thoughts #not dnp #lgbtq+ #lgbtqia #queer #if u couldn't tell this is one of my passions #i will talk about how much i love trans people until i die #trans rights are human rights

[multiplicity-positivity]

Hi!

So im doing a research project on DID in class and wanted to get some opinions and personal opinions from people who actually have DID, rather than exclusively relying on medical info. So, if you'd like to pass this on to your followers, I have some questions.

(Specifically only for people with DID in this case, just since that's what I'm researching, I know there are plenty of other ways to be plural)

-what is, in your opinion, the best way to summarize DID? like, describe it in 1-2 sentences briefly.

-what is it like living with DID? Any details are appreciated

-what is something that is unlikely to be found on medical websites that is good to know and add to my project?

-anything else you want to add

Answer as many as you want

I hope this is okay to send here

Hello! We’re diagnosed with DID, so we’ll gladly answer these questions and encourage our followers with DID to do the same!

[1] As we’d define it, DID (dissociative identity disorder) is a mental disorder characterized by dissociation and two or more separate self-states or personalities in individuals with a history of repeated childhood trauma.

[2] Living with DID is certainly challenging. We deal with lots of memory issues and daily amnesia, trauma flashbacks, a lack of a sense of self and identity, and lots of depersonalization/derealization. Our DID has in some part caused us to develop other mental disorders like depression and anxiety, and we have trauma-induced psychosis as a result of our trauma history which caused us to develop DID.

There’s also been lots of good moments that have come from our disorder. Being a system means we’re able to support, uplift, and be there for one another inside. We’re working on developing a sense of inner-community and showing each other compassion and respect. It’s a work in progress, and we rely on therapy, meds, and our spouse to help us progress and improve!

We made a post on what a typical day looks like for us as a system if you’d like more info - you can check it out here!

[3] That DID systems are people, not merely patients, test subjects, or statistics. We’re not problems to be solved and we’re more of a danger to ourselves than to society at large. DID is widely misunderstood and heavily stigmatized in society, and media often frames us as violent, evil, or incapable of taking care of ourselves - all of which could not be further from the truth. It’s up to us as individuals (singlets included!) to educate ourselves on plurality and dissociative disorders so we can break down negative social stigma and push towards awareness and equality for systems of all sorts!

[4] Nothing else to add, but good luck on your research project! We hope some of this info is useful for you - keep in mind that what we’ve shared are our opinions and perspectives as just one DID system. Other systems may have differing experiences and worldviews!

Thanks so much! And to our followers with DID, please feel welcome to answer these questions to help this asker collect more information for their project!

🌸 Margo and 💫 Parker

#dissociative identity disorder #osddid #did research #did survey

[twinsfawn]

I'll say this much, as a disabled black psychiatrist who is highly critical of the field, and attempting to change it (slowly) for the better from within: Genomics and neuroscience have not yet identified a biological cause of any psychiatric diagnosis. Psychiatric diagnoses are not made on the basis of neuroimaging or neuroanatomical differences (none have been consistently or strongly observed as defining or causal characteristics of such diagnosed conditions, and neuroimaging datasets, such as by fMRI.) They are also prone to be interpreted in a wide variety of ways by different researchers, and neither are they made with bloodwork, or, indeed, on the basis of any other biomarkers; in example, the 'chemical imbalance' theory with regard to diagnoses like depression has been thoroughly discredited. Rather, these diagnoses depend on clinicians' observations of patients' behaviors and affect. This in and of itself doesn't automatically constitute a damning critique (we rely on subjective judgments of things all the time, after all); however, it does mean that attempting to stake the psychiatric discipline's legitimacy on the identification of biological aberrations is, at best, entirely misleading. At worst, it's fraudulent, not to mention dangerously essentialist, with particularly damaging consequences for people of color and disabled people (especially those who are both, and even more so for those with high support needs.) That being said, none of this means that psychiatry or psychiatrists are 'making up disorders from nothing', or that peoples' distress / symptoms are unreal. Psychiatry certainly can and often does pathologize behaviors that would be more productively understood as responses to traumatic experiences, capitalist political conditions, social oppression on the basis of marginalizations, etc. In these processes, it should be understood as a means of producing bourgeois notions of social order, & then enforcing them. The fact that psychiatric diagnoses are not made on the basis of, nor do they correspond to, specific biomarkers or biological 'types', doesn't make mental / emotional / affective suffering any less 'real' than any physically observed counterparts.

yes absolutely agree with everything here. also why people unfortunately get misdiagnosed all the time, there’s so much overlap because we’re diagnosing based on signs+symptoms and there’s no concrete testing, just questionnaires. and also why a lot of medications can technically be used as alternatives for multiple disorder classes because they’re helpful at treating specific symptoms and are not always constrained by a specific “diagnosis” or disorder. i take lexapro specifically for depression but it also greatly helps with my anxiety and even lessens some ocd symptoms that i experience

[commiepinkofag]

How the anti-gender movement is bringing us closer to authoritarianism

Judith Butler / March 16, 2024

In the United States, gender has been considered a relatively ordinary term. We are asked to check a box on a form, and most of us do so without giving it too much thought. But some of us don’t like checking the box and think there should be either many more boxes or perhaps none at all. The myriad, continuing debates about gender show that no one approach to defining or understanding it reigns. It’s no longer a mundane box to be checked on official forms.

The anti-gender ideology movement, however, treats the range of sometimes conflicting ideas about gender as a monolith, frightening in its power and reach.

The fear of “gender” allows existing powers — states, churches, political movements — to frighten people to come back into their ranks, to accept censorship and to externalize their fear and hatred onto vulnerable communities. Those powers not only appeal to existing fears that many working people have about the future of their work or the sanctity of their family life but also incite those fears, insisting, as it were, that people conveniently identify gender as the true cause of their feelings of anxiety and trepidation about the world.

The project of restoring the world to a phantasmatic time before gender promises a return to a patriarchal dream order that only a strong state can restore. The shoring up of state powers, including the courts, implicates the anti-gender movement in a broader authoritarian, even fascist project. We see the rolling back of progressive legislation and the targeting of sexual and gender minorities as dangers to society, as exemplifying the most destructive force in the world, in order to strip them of their fundamental rights, protections and freedoms.

Consider the allegation that “gender” — whatever it is — puts children at risk through programs such as reading books with queer characters cast as examples of indoctrination or seduction. The fear of children being harmed, the fear that the family, or one’s own family, will be destroyed, that “man” will be dismantled, including the men and man that some of us are, that a new totalitarianism is descending upon us, are all fears that are felt quite deeply by those who have committed themselves to the eradication of “gender” — the word, the concept, the academic field and the various social movements it has come to signify.

The resulting authoritarian restrictions on freedom abound, whether through establishing LGBTQ+-free zones in Poland or strangling progressive educational curricula in Florida that address gender freedom and sexuality in sex education. But no matter how intently authoritarian forces attempt to restrict freedoms, the fact that the categories of women and men shift historically and contextually is undeniable. New gender formations are part of history and reality. Gender is, in reality, minimally the rubric under which we consider changes in the way that men, women and other such categories have been understood.

As an educator, I am inclined to say to these people, “Let’s read some key texts in gender studies together and see what gender does and does not mean and whether the caricature holds up.” Reading is a precondition of democratic life, keeping debate and disagreement grounded and productive.

Sadly, such a strategy rarely works.

A woman in Switzerland once came up to me after a talk I gave and said, “I pray for you.” I asked why. She explained that the Scripture says that God created man and woman and that I, through my books, had denied the Scripture. She added that male and female are natural and that nature was God’s creation. I pointed out that nature admits of complexity and that the Bible itself is open to some differing interpretations, and she scoffed. I then asked if she had read my work, and she replied, “No! I would never read such a book!” I realized that reading a book on gender would be, for her, trafficking with the devil. Her view resonates with the demand to take books on gender out of the classroom and the fear that those who read such books are contaminated by them or subject to an ideological inculcation, even though those who seek to restrict these books have typically never read them.

To refuse gender is, sadly, to refuse to encounter the complexity that one finds in contemporary life across the world. The anti-gender movement opposes thought itself as a danger to society — fertile soil for the horrid collaboration of fascist passions with authoritarian regimes.

We need to take a stand against the anti-gender movement in the name of breathing and living free from the fear of violence.

Transnational coalitions should gather and mobilize everyone the anti-gender ideology movement has targeted. The internecine fights within the field must become dynamic and productive conversations and confrontations, however difficult, within an expansive movement dedicated to equality and justice. Coalitions are never easy, but where conflicts cannot be resolved, movements can still move ahead together with an eye focused on the common sources of oppression.

Whether or not people are assigned a gender at birth or assume one in time, they can really love being the gender that they are and reject any effort to disturb that pleasure. They seek to strut and celebrate, express themselves and communicate the reality of who they are. No one should take away that joy, as long as those people do not insist that their joy is the only possible one. Importantly, however, many endure suffering, ambivalence and disorientation within existing categories, especially the one to which they were assigned at birth. They can be genderqueer or trans, or something else, and they are seeking to live life as the body that makes sense to them and lets life be livable, if not joyous. Whatever else gender means, it surely names for some a felt sense of the body, in its surfaces and depths, a lived sense of being a body in the world in this way.

As much as someone might want to clutch a single idea of what it is to be a woman or a man, the historical reality defeats that project and makes matters worse by insisting on genders that have all along exceeded the binary alternatives. How we live that complexity, and how we let others live, thus becomes of paramount importance.

There is still much to be understood about gender as a structural problem in society, as an identity, as a field of study, as an enigmatic and highly invested term that circulates in ways that inspire some and terrify others. We have to keep thinking about what we mean by it and what others mean when they find themselves up in arms about the term.

Judith Butler is a professor of comparative literature at UC Berkeley. This essay was adapted from their forthcoming book “Who’s Afraid of Gender?”

#judith butler #gender #queer #lgbqti #lgbt #lgbtq #trans #gender identity #2024

[cartoonyappreciation]

As an asexual a(gray?)romantic, it’s hard for me to explain to my allosexual friends what life for me is like. I would think it should be easy, “You know how you feel about people you don’t feel attracted to? Take that and apply it to everyone.”

“So you don’t love anyone?”

“Of course not, do you need to be attracted to your best friends or family to love them?”

It’s hard to say, “oh that person is attractive/hot/beautiful,” and not feel the need to defend my sexuality. I define those things in the same way that a child defines a color as blue, a flower as pretty. Growing up surrounded by social media, we are constantly told what is sexy, who is hot, who is attractive. Feeling nothing to indicate otherwise, of course I might adopt those ideals as my own.

It is difficult, still, to explain to them the difference between recognizing a person as attractive, despite not experiencing it myself, how some aces are able to enjoy sex, although some do not. How does one explain the lack of something they have never experienced?

In high school, maybe middle school, we are (or at least I was) taught that men will tell you anything to get in your pants. That it is men who feel this way, and while it could prove tempting for women, it is us who bear the consequences of those irresponsibilities. With that fear mongering, and those words, how was I to suspect anything might be “other”?

A boy asks me out and I say yes because it is exciting to be wanted, to be loved. I break up with him a couple months later because I still feel no different about him to how I felt before. He is still my best friend and I feel guilty for leading him on, a lie of omission. While my other friends are dating, none of them that I know are interested in sex. I’ve heard of other girls in school partaking, but those rumors are bounced around with insults. I feel bad for them, but do not really know them.

In college I live with three other girls I have barely met. It is here where I first begin to suspect that I may not feel everything these girls do. I try dating when it comes up, but still feel no desire to take things up a level. I become well-aware of my roommates sex-lives (living in that close proximity to one another and being away from friends/families for the first time makes you talk). I talk to other girls, I look things up online, I reflect.

Sometimes it’s easy to see how I feel differently than others around me. When people around me fawn over celebrities, or get nervous around people they find attractive, I realize that it isn’t really a bit. Not for these people. It’s fun to go along with sometimes, to be dramatic, but for my friends, after talking to them, I know it’s not a joke for them. They may have a flair for the dramatic, but apparently they also feel something alongside the happiness of entertaining one another, aside from just the general anxiety of being close to other human beings you are unfamiliar with. In elementary school, I had one go to celebrity and one school-mate who were my go-to crushes. Declarations of having no crushes were met with total and utter disbelief and speculation.

How does one show or explain the lack of certain thoughts? Here, let me draw you a comic, write you a book, of just how much I am not thinking of boys, or girls, enbys (bc yall are stylish as hell) or having a relationship, having sex. Oh wait, that’s just a story about a normal person doing literally anything else.

When I tell new friends about my identity, sometimes I get the good old, “Wow, I’m so jealous. You must be able to be so focused and get so much done!” I question how much of that is a joke versus how much allos actually pine or get distracted by their sexualities. (Granted, I have had to stop my brother from getting us into an accident when he was distracted by a particularly caked up booty, but he hasn’t gotten into an accident before, so surely that must be an outlier?)

That is all to say, as many have said before, it is difficult to explain, or even recognize, the lack of a certain feeling. I think it’s kind of funny, if a bit annoying. But online communities have really helped me accept myself for who I am, even if I’m still figuring it out one step at a time.

#asexuality #asexual #musings

[arcadekitten]

Hello! I just wanted to say that I love all of yours game. Your style is very distinct and beautiful, as well as the characters. I finished Cemetery Mary yesterday and had a great time. I also wanted to ask, and I hope it isn't too imposing or uncomfortable of a question, and if so, please feel free to delete it. But do you have any advice to someone who wishes to make an RPG maker game, or just a game in general, someday? I've always wanted to make one myself but due to some bad things I did on the internet as teen I'm worried that it's going to be used against me to label me as something I'm not, despite it being years ago. I also struggle with extreme anxiety and paranoia, which is why I'm sending this on anon, yet I also want to make something memorable and accomplishment(s) in my life. Did you have to go through something similar? I know you mentioned on another ask below about people feeling fit to be mean and harassing you, but has it ever got way out of hand, especially when being on so many social medias? Again, I'm very sorry if I'm imposing and I hope you have a good day, I'm looking forward to what you work on next. Thank you for your time!

You might be able to find some tips and other stuff by scrolling a bit through my gamedev tag!!

I don't know who you are, but I believe that everyone has the ability to grow and change (especially from when you were still a kid!). It's not your past that defines you but who you are now and what you have learned from it.

Not too many people set out to harass me, just a few sour individuals here and there. But why am I gonna waste time and energy on someone who doesn't like or respect me and probably isn't going to like or respect me no matter what? I'd rather put that energy into the people who put so much positive energy into me and my work! It's better to just not engage in the nasty stuff at all.

It's also important to remember that you don't always need to be online. When things feel overwhelming for you, you can take a step back and log off! Do something else! No one is chaining you here, and there's more to life than what's through the screen.

Good luck out there champ!! I hope you can make that game you're dreaming of!

#ask

[finchers-ipad]

what do you think the biggest similarities are in the styles of different david fincher films?

Thank you for the ask!! This is one of my favourite things to talk about in relation to Fincher, I think his style is so distinctive! These are some notes I have from a presentation I made in one of my classes a few months ago, they point out a lot of Fincher’s style in a kind of basic form but I think it’s a good outline and hopefully answers your question! (it not just lmk!)

Just want to say as well that Fincher’s style isn’t solely created by him, he works constantly with a lot of talented people who put in the work to create his style such as; Jeff Cronenweth (cinematographer for Fight Club, Gone Girl, The Social Network, The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo) Kirk Baxter (editor for Gone Girl, The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo, The Social Network, Mank, The Killer) Trish Summerville (costume designer for Gone Girl, Mank, The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo) AND I LITERALLY COULD GO ON AND ON!! but that aside…

Long post so i’m putting it under the cut :) (SPOILER WARNING FOR: The Game, Fight Club, Gone Girl, Se7en)

● Narration- Films like ‘Fight Club’ and ‘Gone Girl’ feature narration heavily throughout the films. This not only gives exposition about the events that are unfolding in the narrative, but also give the characters point of view on these events, and in some cases even being an unreliable narrator. For example, in Fight Club Edward Norton narrates throughout and gives information on Tyler and his jobs in the early scenes, this allows exposition to be given as well as Tyler's comedic replies to add comedy to the scene. Narration in Fight Club also allows the audience member to feel as though we are following the narrators inner monologue, which not only allows us to feel connected with him but also makes the twist that Tyler isn’t real, more shocking.

● Camera tracking movement - In Fincher's films, the camera follows the actors every movement, whether this being the camera following a characters eyeline, hand movement or just tracking their movement the camera follows. This is because Fincher wants the audience to feel completely connected to the character. There is a great video essay on youtube about this if anyone is interested https://youtu.be/GfqD5WqChUY?si=P2AMUHU4iLgtmlTX

● Opening credits - Fincher's opening credits have become an iconic staple in every one of his films so much so that he had to propose a separate budget for the CGI credits for Fight Club. From his elaborate CGI credits in Fight club and The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo, to more elaborate and ere credits like Se7en. Fincher does this to set the tone for his films and gives the audience a taste of what the films narrative will involve.

● Still camera- Throughout his films Fincher mainly uses a steady camera an only uses handheld when it is crucial to the narrative, for example The Social Network is shot completely on steady camera, but when Sean’s party gets busted by the police, a handheld camera follows Sean as he nervously walks out to of the bedroom to check what is happening. Which is the only handheld shot in the film. This lets the audience feel Seans intoxication and anxiety in this moment.

● Plot twists- Plot twists are another key typical component in many Fincher films, as he likes to subvert the audiences expectations such as in films like Se7en where it is revealed at the end that Tracy is John Doe’s final victim and the protagonist, David Mills, has become our final sin, wrath. These plot twists divert the audience as well as the main character who the audience follow, making the plot twists all the more shocking, with the full picture not becoming apparent to the main character nearing the end of the third act of the film, such as in The Game where it is revled at the end of the film that the torture Nicholous had been subjected to the whole film, was his birthday gift.

● Blue and yellow colour pallet- A defining trait of Fincher's work is is use of a blue and yellow color pallet that he adds to the scenes when colour grading. Using blue, created a muted and melancholy feeling to the scene, such as scenes in the narrator office in Fight Club, showing his boring and repetitive life. Yellow is often used to display night in Fincher's films, such as in the scene in the gospel church in The Curious Case of Benjamin Button, where the scene takes place at night and was naturally lit by the string lights above.

● Wide shots- Fincher also almost primarily used wide shots when shooting his scenes, he then intercuts these wide shots with his close ups insert shots which makes the audience notice these close up shots further and draws their attention to thee information being shown in these shots.

● Close ups when necessary- Fincher only uses close ups when he wants the audience to pay attention to an item or person as it is key to the plot and provides exposition. The fact that he uses close ups so sparingly means that the audience pick up of these key details. For example a close up of the Paper St soap company business card, in Fight Club, is shown when the narrator is at the payphone, showing an important character point and changes the plot of the film, you could argue.

● Non linear story lines- Almost all of Fincher's stories are non linier, meaning that they don't follow the typical narrative structure. For example, in Gone Girl, the story follows a linear structure of the day by day of Amy's disappearance until the mid point of the film when Amys narration kicks in and she reveals what happened to her.

● VFX shots- Fincher is know to be meticulous with his shots and therefore he prefers to use VFX shots in small ways to add details into the background or even the foreground so that he can tweak the film without worrying how it will look in post production. For example, he added blood to Daniel Craig's face in ‘The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo’ so that he could control how it looked when being washed away as well as there is no mistakes with continuity between shots. As well as adding historical buildings into the background of ‘Zodiac’ to recreate San Francisco in 1968.

● Production design- Fincher is meticulous with his production design, working closely with his production designer, Donald Graham Burt (who has worked on most of Fincher's filmography) and only shows an item or location when absolutely necessary, in a way that is meaningful to the narrative. As well as this use of costume design to represent a person emotions pr create a binary opposite. For example, in ‘The Curious Case of Benjamin Button’ Daisy wears a red dress in the scene where as she has dinner with Benjamin, as he sees her a in a romantic light for the first time as well as it draws the audience's attention to her, much like Benjamins attention is drawn to her.

Thank you for reading! Sorry for any spelling mistakes.

#long post #i could talk about this for days icl #these are notes from a presentation where i had to pick a director and make an argument that they are an auteur #(obviously i picked Fincher) #but i think these notes apply to this question #anon if you ment something more specific about visual style just send me another ask lmao #also PLEASE send me asks #i feel like i have so many fincher/soapshiping thoughts swimming around in my head still but i cant articulate them #david fincher

[hussyknee]

I just needed to tell you that I love your comments on the harry potter post in defense for neurodivergent and disabled adults. (I’m anonymous because of people in my own community, including a close friend who reblogged that post)

I’m trans, im neurodivergent, i have anxiety any time I leave my home because of these two things and the last thing I wanted was to feel anxious in my own spaces because of the shit I enjoy

anyway I was really happy to see your comments. Thank you

I'm so glad it helped you! Thank you so much for telling me! I needed to hear that. The whole discourse triggers the hell out of me, so I just feel icky and embarrassed when I disengage, and begin to wonder what I'm missing that makes so many people I otherwise like and respect jump on this media-stigmatizing wagon. It's really hard to parse objectively because this stuff triggers the hell out of my OCD and CPTSD.

But that's exactly why I hang on so much to my principles and ethics– I can't rely on my feelings to judge what's right. I can't tell whether I'm being attacked or one of my beliefs are being challenged. So I keep going over the way I arrived at them–obsessively going over them–and it all checks out. But this one thing being treated like the exception to all the rules makes me feel like I'm being gaslit on my whole ethical process. It feels like stumbling around in the dark.

All I know is that I know one trans autistic person with OCD who has to deal with their own community policing and stigmatizing their special interest that's been a coping mechanism and defining fandom experience for them since they were a kid. I think I could manage to shut up more about the whole issue on my own behalf if I didn't know them, and realized how many others like them there must be. But even if they're the only disabled trans person that has to take the brunt of this unfairness, that's still one too many. And if it hurts people like us who have done nothing wrong other than being unable to detach from the safety of our childhood obsessions because of the way our brains are wired, then that's just ableist and unethical by every metric.

I'm so sorry your friend hurt you like that. I've broken up with some of my closest friends for the same reason. It's great to empathize with suffering people, but empathising selectively is profoundly ego-centric and self-serving. And if you can't explain how your own rules don't apply to a situation, it should be a warning that you're getting carried away on self-righteousness and the social media outrage machine.

#harry potter #asks #anon #knee of huss #social justice #purity culture

[olderthannetfic]

Here's my hot take for the day, produced mostly by frustration—so it's a little venty, probably. As a reader and a writer (and a lit graduate, I guess, if that matters), I really wish we'd gotten over the kinds of absolutist and prescriptive writing advice that was popular on LJ in the 00s and is still, somehow, unfathomably, common now on fannish social media.

I don't think most of it is actually helpful to even inexperienced writers, who could instead ask a supportive friend (or ask around for a supportive stranger, honestly; pretty sure there's still places where you can match with a beta reader) to look at their work. They shouldn't feel the pressure to internalising bizarre "rules" from the internet that they will have to unlearn with some anxiety later. Things like "epithets are bad, excise them from your draft," or "using an adverb means you should have used a stronger verb instead, so go through your writing and cut them all out". Like, okay, adverb example: sometimes, perhaps, but sometimes the adverb actually means what you want to say, and there's no stronger verb for it. Or maybe you like the alliteration or the assonance you have now. Maybe it changes where the emphasis falls in the sentence. Perhaps it has significance to something earlier in the text! Maybe someone said, 'don't be rude,' one line ago and you want to immediately go on to write 'he said, rudely,' because you're making a reference to that.

Sometimes the people who still post with so much authority about the evils of adverbs, tired aphorisms, cliches and so on don't really seem to be able to define what these even are, so it seems odd for them to presume to tell other people how to write. And it's kind of frustrating to think people, especially younger inexperienced fans writing for fun, might still alter their works on the basis of advice from complete strangers (which is what happened in my LJ friends list a lot when I was younger), and not instead edit on the basis of what they actually want to write and what they find fun.

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Misunderstanding basic writing advice as "Don't use adverbs" is age old. It long predates LJ.

Look, I love discussing writing craft, and I agree that some posts are too draconian, but the majority of the time, what I see is good advice that is correct and even disclaimered appropriately... and then flagrantly misinterpreted because a lot of people reading writing advice are simply too inexperienced and insecure to internalize a murky rule that requires them to apply judgment.

Even when the post is nuanced, that's not what they remember.

If there are two writers giving tips, one with real, nuanced advice and one who screams loudly on youtube and gives a black and white checklist, the latter is getting the clicks.

Would-be writers with no confidence will always misosmose advice and internalize the wrong parts. That's just part of lacking confidence and experience.