#they are literally my age???

[bethsvrse]

I find it so silly when someone writes smut about a minor then asks minors to not interact, like bro huh…

#bethsvrse #fanfic #harry potter x reader #max mayfield x reader #hermione granger x reader #neville longbottom x reader #it’s so silly #like wdym #they are literally my age??? #your 25 #maybe instead of asking minors to not interact #you should stop writing about minors???? #george weasley x reader #fred weasley x reader #woop woop #that’s the sound of the police

[mzcain27]

I think game studios should just release their character creators online. For the times when I don’t wanna play the whole game, just the lil dress up part

#yes this is about baldurs gate 3 #no I don’t have a decent computer if any description or a PlayStation #I do wanna play the game but I mostly wanna make my dnd characters for hours #you could literally do it for everything tho #totk outfits and dyes #Skyrim could have it’s 17th release #outfits in shit like assassins creed games #dragon age #fromsoft games #the sims maybe?? #the options are endless pls game devs #video games #nintendo #Xbox #Sony #PlayStation

[randomfandomss]

#good omens #go s2 spoilers #good omens s2 #good omens season 2 #good omens memes #aziraphale #crowley #aziracrow #aziraphale x crowley #ineffable husbands #lmao ive seen a lot of these going around idk if this has been done yet anyway heres my take #it is literally the reverse that happened #i joked about it before the season released that what if after every crowley gies to super mega hell whatever 😭😭😭😭😭 #did not age well

[fefairys]

getting real fed up with my peers treating teenagers like shit. how did you forget so fucking quickly what it's like to be them. shame on you.

#this is about people my age getting into internet discourse with teenagers #and calling them stupid and overall belittling them and being a jerk to them #like. literally just block them if they are being a shithead #teenagers are shitheads sometimes #youre not going to change them #they need to grow up on their own #and an adult making fun of them isnt going to help #in fact it is going to hinder the process #if you want to try to help you need to be kind #if theyre not receptive to that and are still being an asshole then it is not worth it #and you need to go do something else with your time #you are a fucking adult

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[doom-dreaming]

"when i was your age, i was working three jobs to help support my family" and "when i was in college i was sleeping on a mattress on the floor and living off of soup"

YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE HAD TO DO THAT. NO ONE SHOULD HAVE TO DO THAT. I DON'T KNOW HOW TO EXPLAIN TO YOU THAT THIS ISN'T A CHARACTER-BUILDING LESSON, IT'S JUST BAD

#have you maybe considered even once that an 8-5 job is not the natural human state #'i never had a job with so much leisure time' #YOU NEVER WORKED A SHIFT JOB #EVEN WHEN YOU WERE SCRAPING BY IN COLLEGE #I DON'T KNOW HOW TO TELL YOU THINGS HAVE GOTTEN EVEN WORSE SINCE YOU WERE MY AGE #screams forever and ever #sorry this is literally just incoherent venting

[liumilai]

first listen magnus protocol designs:3

#designs might change as i keep listening but heehoo #shoutout to magnus protocol for getting me to draw for the first time in ages #literally just drawing gwen as my sister im making her asian because i can #HAAAAATE designing clothes but they’re coming soon #the magnus protocol #tmp #tmagp

[fridayyy-13th]

i swear sometimes i think people forget that Jon's s1 skeptic act was just that—an act. it was an act!!! he believes the statements!! he's believed them since episode one! do we so soon forget that he denied the statements were real because he knew the Eye something wanted him to be scared, and he knew that was bad, so he decided to act like the statements just didn't scare him? remember, he was working with extremely limited information ("when i record the tape statements, i feel watched, like something knows i'm afraid, and i don't want it to know that"), and came up with a genuinely solid solution with what he had! not his fault that the thing watching him was a literal unknowable eldritch entity that feeds on fear, and he was just some underqualified archivist.

#sorry. saw a post and got a little angry about it #like bro! he literally tells martin in a fan-favorite conversation that it! was! an! act! #we KNOW he's believed in the supernatural since age eight! #i'm so tired of the ''lol haha jon didn't believe the OBVIOUSLY real statements but they still spooked him'' posts #i will not take this blorbo slander #leave my guy alone he tried his best. and was scared out of his mind while doing it #the magnus archives #jonathan sims #friday chats #it's like 1:30 am if this is moderately incoherent don't come at me

[icantdothistodaybruh]

#family portrait but they are too busy looking into each other's eyes to be facing the camera #finally somewhat finished piece oh my god #the frame & beads took me fucking ages to draw #literal torture but I keep on doing this to myself for some reason #no more beads for another year ig ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ #sebaciel #kuroshitsuji #black butler #ciel phantomhive #sebastian michaelis #my art

[fluffyartbl0g]

“It’s very rare, but some powers can awaken and affect objects aside from the wielder!!!”

You see it may look like they’re just running and improvising a plan on the spot,,, but it was ALL PART OF THE MASTER PLAN!!! (lying)

Speedrun/Time Travel AU masterlist

#FREAKING POP OFF KATAKURI! #time travel au #speedrun au #one piece #op fanart #monkey d. luffy #op nami #usopp #charlotte katakuri #charlotte pudding #big mom #charlotte brulee #gear 5 luffy #one piece spoilers #wano spoilers #one piece chapter 1044 spoilers #omg i finished rereading WCI and i think its my favourite post timeskip arc.... #it used to be dressrosa but ohmg... WCI... was just so good... #o btw: to the guy that asked about what went down at syrup village... #ive literally had the sketch of what happened for ages #but cause im rereading thru one piece... ive just been getting so inspired for new comic scenarios to draw ; - ;!!!! #dw tho ill do it eventually :3!

[bookwyrminspiration]

if I asked very nicely would you all be willing to take a one minute anonymous survey for my linguistics class. if the answer is yes, please click here. thanks :)

(sharing for a better response size would also be very appreciated)

#linguistics #quil's unholy underworld #i have no clue how to tag this #it is quite literally 2 multiple choice questions #keeping it real simple #it's a required project in an intro class #we didn't even get to choose the topic #anyway #it's less important the results #it's intended to teach us the scientific method in practice #which I have done. like 5 times now in different classes it feels #i literally studied the demographic of the library by age an entire summer once #anyway. here's hoping this is worded and structured well enough to do what I need it to #take my survey boy #please

[hollytree33]

Finally got around to painting my Inquisitor, Shivana

#dragon age #dragon age inquisition #lavellan #shivana lavellan #my art #dragon age fanart #I think I’m finally happy with my digital art making skills #I need to post literally anything other than portraits I promise I can do more #but #at least I’m posting two things in the same month that’s progress #dai #she’s such a problem I love her #hopefully tumblr didn’t just destroy this #I don’t know how to technology help #:) this is fine #she’s a knight enchanter btw #da: inquisitor #da:i

[vvenushalo]

remembered this old sketch of mine & im being so normal about it xx

#yknow it’s jus jus *muffled screaming* #the way they hold hands 😭😭😭 STOOOPPP #like when a baby grips ur finger…. truly incredible im obsessed…….. #they deserve to b normal and content and b sad but sad n supported.. so unfair literally SO UNFAAAIIRRR #my art #botw #revalink #anyways. hey.. haven’t posted on main in ages or online in general i have brain ouchies but . it’s chill i think :) #loz botw #botw link #botw revali #loz revali #artists on tumblr #digital sketch #digital art #if i never posted this im so sorry 😭 idk i still love it it’s like almost 2 yrs old but GOD something abt it

[puppetmaster13u]

Prompt in Memes 4

Another prompt, but in memes because trying to gather my thoughts is hard sometimes lol.

#prompts #memes #batman au #batman #cryptid batman #cryptid batfam #cryptid batfamily #batfamily #batfam prompts #batfam #Bruce: This surely will be fine :) #Dick: Gotham made me like they made B :) #League: the what did what now #Barbara: I formed from his tech & could get away with all your murders :) #Jason: I am the embodiment of Crime Alley and Retribution :) #Cass: I am Gotham's shadow :) #Tim: Oh I'm a child :) #The league: Oh thank fuck a normal child- #Tim: Well at least my body is a child but TECHNICALLY- #Steph: I'm his twin and the other side of his Chaos :) #Duke: Hi I'm the Bat Signal :) #Damian: I am the blood son #The League: Oh gods he means that literally doesn't he like some sort of creature made entirely from blood- #Bruce: I am not sure why I expected this Not to escalate but it's too far to go back now #Why yes they can all fit in his cape even when they become older and no one knows how or why #If they even age I mean Gotham could just be Like that where people sometimes stop aging #Kind of like what's going on in Fawcett just more goth #meme

[egophiliac]

OH YEAH HIS TAIL ALSO LIGHTS UP

here's a bunch of quick reactions to some of the smaller bits, while I work on bigger things for the bigger bits and obsess over Silver's breakdown some more. don't be fooled -- this is only the beginning of my descent into pure diasomnia hell.

(I also need to figure out how to draw OB Mal better)

#art #long post #twisted wonderland #twisted wonderland spoilers #twisted wonderland episode 7 spoilers #twisted wonderland book 7 spoilers #ugggh sorry i really do need to figure out ob mal i have not managed a decent one yet #anyway saving my feelings for later #i have tried a couple of times to write something about how blatant lilia is #about being an ancient fae pretend to be a high schooler in order to keep an eye on his idiot dragon son #but every time i remember that this is a universe in which rook exists and is a real person that the characters know #and it's like. oh yeah. lilia isn't anywhere near the weirdest person they know. #they aren't exactly secretive about fae aging differently either #i assumed he told everyone he was literally 18 because he thought it would be funny #🤷 #drink your juice everyone

[carnivalcarriondiscarded]

i saw them in the cookbook pages and Immediately thought of this meme:

#barnaby: this is so nice. just me and my buddy whipping up a tasty treat #wally: *having six simultaneous crises* #anyway. huh? #this was a pain to scribble and i Dont Know Why #i had to redraw barnaby's face literally five times #but im trying to Expand my skillset by attempting more backgrounds #or background adjacent things... Props! #im very proud of the counter & flower vase off to the side! #and uh. Filters! those as well. i wanted to make this look somewhat like its aged... #scribble garnish #welcome home #welcome home puppet show #man. these two. squeezes them #halloween update made me love them all the more #name a better pair of best friendsssss you canttttttt #they are Top Tier and i hope they get torn apart one way or another #you see i live for the drama the pain the agony the devastation #i see my favorites and i want them to Hurt. #anyway thinking about them baking together melts my stony heart #theyre bonding 🥺 #oh man why is that emoji So Fucking Detailed on my laptop. its scaring me. kill it kill it kill it