#tw // abuse mention

[radqueer-takes]

IT IS NOT “ RESPECTABILITY POLITICS ” TO GO "We shouldn't allow people who go against the core tenants of our community into our community".

We should not be allowing people in the RQ who think non-consensual abuse is okay. We should not be allowing people into the RQ who are pro-CSEM.

If you think that is “ RESPECTABILITY POLITICS ” You are wrong, plain and simple.

We, as a community, DO NOT need to accept these beliefs or people. Please understand that.

- A CisCSA survivor who wants to feel safe in this community again.

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#<🕸> speaking #tw csem #tw abuse mention #pro radqueer #pro rq 🌈🍓 #radqueer #radqueer community #rq safe #radqueer safe #rq community #rq 🌈🍓 #rqc🌈🍓

[borderline-culture-is]

bpd culture is was i really abused by so many people or do i just have a massive victim complex? (there’s so much more evidence that i was actively being abused despite me occasionally being in the wrong yet everyone in my life has made me out to be some victim complex manipulator that i no longer believe i was ever abused)

-🪐🫀

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#borderline culture is #borderline personality disorder #bpd #bpd culture is #bpd culture #bpd safe #actually borderline #actually bpd #tw abuse mention #cw abuse mention #- 🪐🫀

[wxrmeaterz]

Knowing you formed from horrific abuse but being more upset at who it made you into.

#endos dni #actually did #did system #polyfrag did #did alter #did osdd #osdd #cdd system #osddid #endos fuck off #tw abuse mention

[greyhound-with-a-mega-wizard-hat]

Re Klavier's use of German and Kristoph's lack of German vocabulary.

I personally headcanon that the Gavins are German originally, and that German is both Kristoph and Klavier's 1st language.

However, Kristoph does not speak German outside of his home, and his German accent is barely noticeable, whereas Klavier uses German vocabulary as he talks to people, and has a much thicker accent. Why? Well I think that it is all down to Kristoph, and how he talked to Klavier about their heritage.

I imagine that at home, Kristoph only talked to Klavier in German, and always encouraged Klavier to maintain his German identity outside the home, encouraging him to use more German words and ro have a thicker accent. Kristoph did not practice what he preached, and instead worked to eliminate his accent and speak flawless English. And if he could have, I think he would have preferred if Klavier spoke as little English as possible.

In my opinion, this was so that Kristoph could control Klavier, and was always needed by him. By encouraging Klavier to be more German, he hoped to isolate him and make him feel like the only place he fit in was by Kristophs side. Kristoph desperately needed to be needed by Klavier, and to be the most important person in his life. He was undeniably abusive (definitely emotionally, and I also headcanon he could be physically abusive at times), but he also deeply loved his brother and did everything out of love for him. Very unhealthy and abusive love, but love all the same.

#kristoph gavin #klavier gavin #tw abuse mention #this is just my headcanon

[crow-collective15]

People always talk about being the oldest sibling in abusive families but I’ve never seen people mention younger siblings who had to act as the “protective” siblings because they recognized the pattern of abuse while the older siblings didn’t

#endos dni #osdd #anti endo #traumagenic system #did #osddid #vent kinda #tw abuse #tw abuse mention

[transcowgirlslut]

it's kind of bullshit that people will react with horror to me discussing my fantasies/kinks until i clarify I'm the sub in them. like even my therapist was all like "ohhh it's ok to want to hold power so long as it's consensual" and then clearly relaxed when I clarified I wanted to be the sub.

i love you everyone and with rape kinks, those who want to roleplay kidnapping and abusing someone, i love you i love you i love you. this ain't me fishing for a dom/me to be clear---you are VALUED as a person, outside of your sexual fantasies. I care about you and appreciate you, and there is nothing wrong or bad about you!!!!

#tw kidnapping #tw abuse mention #tw r@pe mention #i love you all

[cccat-in-a-meat-sack]

me, with both:...

#borderline personality disorder #bpd splitting #actually bpd #bpd thoughts #bpd problems #bpd #bpd vent #actually borderline #borderline pd #ptsd #complex ptsd #actually ptsd #ptsd recovery #tw ptsd #tw abuse #tw abuse mention #calico hisses

[scrimbly-mc-scrombly-iii]

Since it’s disability pride month, let’s all remember that people with NPD, BPD, ASPD, and any other cluster B disorders are NOT inherently bad people, are NOT destined to be abusers or serial killers, and should NOT be stigmatized for their disorders. Also, the term “Narcissistic abuse” is ableist and also complete bullshit. Yes you can be abused by a narcissist, you can be abused by any type of person. But your abuser having NPD doesn’t make what you experienced a whole different type of abuse. I was emotionally abused by someone with brown hair, but that doesn’t make me a victim of “brunette abuse”. So stop fucking using that term. There is nothing you can go through that makes it ok to further stigmatize a disorder.

If you have ASPD, NPD, BPD, HPD, you are not destined to be a bad person. Having a personality disorder is not your fault in any way. You deserve love and acceptance.

Happy July.

#disability pride month #npd #aspd #bpd #hpd #cluster b #tw abuse mention #narcissistic abuse is bullshit

[fieryprime]

I think if I hear one more YT channel call that Colleen girl that abused and groomed kids "narcissistic", I'll implode.

Here are some basics:

NPD is a stigmatized disorder.

"Narcissistic" describes a person who has NPD.

I thought people learned this lesson when we removed "psychotic" from the list of insults you can throw around. Guess not.

The words you're looking for are "self-centric", "self-absorbed", "egomaniac", "egotistical".

Being any of the aforementioned does not make you narcissistic.

You can't armchair diagnose people. Yes, not even the shitty ones.

You can't claim that abusive behavior is connected to the person's disorder(s). Abuse is a choice.

By armchair assigning narcissism to shitty people, you are furthering the stigma against narcissistic individuals.

The risks of completing suicide in pwNPD are very high.

Narcissists are not inherently abusive.

Narcissistic abuse does not exist.

Colleen Ballinger is not a person with NPD.

Her actions are her conscious choice; her inability to apologize and make amends has nothing to do with pwNPD.

Leave the term "narcissistic" out of your mouth if you don't know how to use it.

And kindly, shut up about narcissistic traits unless you're narcissistic.

#🔥 #mental health #npd #narcissistic personality disorder #personality disorder #actually npd #actually narcissistic #colleen ballinger #tw abuse mention

[a-sip-of-milo]

Most common responses I get when I post any sort of cluster B positivity:

An extensive trauma dump in an attempt to validate their hatred towards us.

"You sound like a narcissist"

"You're just trying to manipulate us but we won't fall for it"

"This is really invalidating to actual trauma survivors"

"This is why people don't like cluster B's"

"Part of supporting someone with a cluster B disorder is by not enabling their abusive behaviour"

"I'll only support cluster B's if they get help"

Assuming that my opinions are based on a lack of research.

A looooong response about how trauma survivors need to stick together that promptly gets deleted when they realise I myself have a cluster B disorder.

*Posts to r/fakedisordercringe*

Tries to justify the exclusion of an entire group of trauma survivors because "we need to keep ourselves safe from people like you"

#watch the self proclaimed empaths get real quiet on this one #cluster b #cluster b safe #bpd #bpd safe #aspd #aspd safe #hpd #hpd safe #npd #npd safe #cluster b stigma #tw ableism #tw abuse mention

[incognitopolls]

"Abusive" includes forms of abuse like physical, mental, emotional, or any other form.

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We ask your questions so you don’t have to! Submit your questions to have them posted anonymously as polls.

#polls #incognito polls #anonymous #tumblr polls #tumblr users #questions #polls about relationships #submitted dec 12 #parents #growing up #childhood #abuse mention #tw abuse mention #cw abuse #abuse tw

[midnights-dragon]

I’m so fucking glad that Heartstopper made it abundantly clear that even if Ben was a hurting, damaged person, that does not make anything that he did okay. That what he did to Charlie will never, ever be okay. That Charlie never, ever has to forgive him. That Ben never deserves that. That nothing Ben does will make what he did okay. Ever. 

And even if Ben becomes a better person, that will never erase what he has done, and it does not ever mean that Charlie has to forgive him. 

#ben hope #heartstopper #heartstopper spoilers #tw abuse mention #charlie spring #heartstopper s2 #heartstopper season 2

[galactic-rhea]

i am sooo desperate to see more art of shmi skywalker because i love her so much so thats DEFINITELY my doodle request lol

The original Skywalker, you're so right about it.

Also I have her a good friend, I'll call her...idk, Tei Demma (she is another slave, obviously).

#Thanks for the ask! #ask #request #sw #star wars fanart #my art #star wars #star wars prequels #prequel trilogy #prequels #shmi skywalker #anakin skywalker #star wars oc #oc #tw for implied abuse #tw abuse mention #tatooine #skywalker family

[memryse]

if mcyt isn’t fiction then

people who create dnd characters that are similar to them in personality are just playing themselves and should not be treated as having made a character

people who make any other dnd character should also be treated as just playing themselves since people refuse to even consider roleplay smps as fiction

any ocs someone puts a bit of themselves into? nope not fiction!

actors who play a character with the same first name as them aren’t really acting

and so on

maybe YOU can’t separate characters and real people and think that everything you see from a youtuber even when they’re explicitly acting is how they are in real life but we as a fandom just don’t have that issue lol. we’ve had disclaimers and indicators for when we’re talking about characters and not content creators for years because a certain smp contained a character having suicidal thoughts as a result of abuse at the hands of another character and we needed to make it absolutely crystal clear that we were referring to a fictional storyline and not real guy #1 being an abuser and real guy #2 being suicidal. these customs have either extended into other corners of mcyt fandom, or some developed their own independently like hispanic mcyt fans have used the word cubito to distinguish mc guy from real life guy from years, a term that other language speakers liked so much we’ve also started picking it up lol

we know exactly what we’re doing. i get that the line maybe does seem more blurred to an outsider looking in (i wouldn’t know given that both my first fandom at age 12 and current fandom at age 20 were mcrp lol) but it’s universally understood amongst us. i don’t have a problem separating hermitcraft!gem and empires s1!gem the wizard with a twin brother and empires s2!gem the princess and cc!gem the real life canadian woman.

idk it rubs me the wrong way that after years of trying to explain this we’re either met with people calling us racists because of three guys that the rest of us (all of us, really, because dream team fans do not claim to be minecraft fans. those are the type to actually write rpf and ship the real life racist guys) hate probably a lot more than any of you do, or they watch a few minutes of a less roleplay-heavy series/part and decide that the entire medium is invalid as a form of storytelling

it’s so annoying. i don’t think we need to be understood to have validity as a fandom we’ve been doing this for years already without that but it is so infuriating and sad how whenever there’s some kind of fandom poll thing one of three things happens

mcyt fans are banned outright and placed on the same level as something like hp

an mcyt fan runs their own and gets harassed for it

a non-mcyt fan allows us in until they get harassed so badly by whatever fandoms we go up against that they end up deleting our bracket

in what world is that normal behaviour. and that harassment always involves calling them all racist cishet white men such as misgendering both eret (real life bisexual genderqueer person) and their character (also queer), attempting to harass jimmy solidarity fans because jimmy makes mc videos so he must be a dream associate (the only time they interacted was in a tournament during which dream and georgenotfound shittalked jimmy’s best friends to his face), all the shit quackity has gotten for being a former friend of the dream team as if he wasn’t the #1 victim of their racism and xenophobia, the fact that any time c!technoblade is involved in a poll we have to beg other fandoms not to talk shit about him because the real life man died of cancer before dream’s grooming allegations came out, similarly when tfc was in one. and so on and so forth. all because people can’t separate roleplay and real life and think that the entire minecraft sphere revolves around dream just because their idea of mcyt does (not even his own smp named after him did that).

#tw suicide mention #tw abuse mention #tw cancer mention #memos #discourse

[pearlcaddy]

Lockwood vs. "everyone back home"

LOCKWOOD & CO.

#lockwood & co #lockwood and co #lockwoodandcoedit #anthony lockwood #anthonylockwoodedit #lucy carlyle #lucycarlyleedit #locklyle #locklyleedit #filmtvcentral #smallscreensource #tvedit #flashing gif #tw abuse mention #pearlcaddyedit #pearlcaddy l&co #500 #1k #lockwood giving lucy agency and respect and protection #while also challenging her not to hide in her comfort zone #safety and empowerment going hand-in-hand (just like locklyle) #he doesn't even know her past but he's helping her heal from it instinctively

[hyenashark]

pov belos

#the owl house #toh #toh spoilers #emperor belos #philip wittebane #meme #the definition of insanity #tw abuse mention #why did this blow up what the fuck