#aspec bingo

[emily-wesley3]

Aspec Bingo Card by @aroandaces

https://instagram.com/aroandaces?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=

#aspec bingo #actually aspec #actually aromantic #actually asexual #aroace #aromantic #asexual #asexuality #ace pride #aro pride #aromantism #aro #arospec #ace #aspec #demiromantic #greyromantic #aromantic problems #acespec #instagram

[coldbloodace]

Ok. I need to get this out. I'll preface this by saying I'm very excited for the new season to be released, and I can't wait to see more of our ineffable couple.

The thing is, I've seen a lot of posts where people are hoping that this season will 'confirm' Aziraphale and Crowley's relationship, or they're hoping to get a kiss to make it 'official'.

Listen. Listen. Aziraphale and Crowley are already in a relationship. More importantly, they're in a queer relationship. Their relationship is already outside the norms of Heaven and Hell, Aziraphale visibly dresses as a gay man and has been among the gay social circles in history, Crowley changes his gender presentation and is comfortable with it, and they're both queer and hence their relationship has always been queer.

Maybe they'll kiss, maybe they'll have a verbal declaration of their love, but if they don't, it doesn't make their relationship 'queerbaiting' or not queer enough. Just because they don't fit into your ideas of a queer relationship or explicitly state they're a gay couple doesn't mean that they're not queer.

Many aspec and even other queer people feel represented by Aziraphale and Crowley, and you do not get to take that away from us. Western media hasn't always been kind to gay relationships, but Good Omens is not one of them. If you do not like the representation, then feel free to watch other shows that have explicit romantic/sexual relationships. Don't drag this show into the apparent '''queerbaiting'''.

#aspec discourse during pride month was not on my 2023 bingo card #this is the only thing i'm worried about when the season will be released #i know there was a lot of discourse back when s1 was released #not looking forward to a repeat of that #good omens #good omens season 2 #gos2 #coldace thoughts

[akwardmarthy]

The unification of the aromantic community was not something i had on my 2023 bingo card but i sure as hell ain’t complaining

#okay i had no 2023 bingo card but still #aphobes go rot #aromantic #lgbtq #aro #aspec #love to see it as an aromantic person

[crow-atlas]

LGBTQ+ Bingo Sheets

#lgbtq community #lgbt pride #lgbtqia #bingo #panro ace #pansexual #panromantism #panromantic #asexual #aspec #greyromantic #transgender #gay pride #gay #sapphic #wlw #lesbian pride

[alex-the-bringer-of-chaos]

For the character bingo I have to ask abt merlin (bc I'm pretty sure you love him as much as I do)

The blorbo of all time!!! (you're so real and so right)

Bastard for making me feel so many emotions

#used to project on them (saw him as aroace) before the end of the show (where merthur grabbed me by the balls - absolutely fine with him... #... being aspec but this bitch and arthur are in love and you can pry that from my cold dead hands) #merlin emrys #the blorbo of all time #my beloved #cause of gender envy #the kiss would be a forehead one (only a lye cause i can't reach it - and he ain't real) #bbc merlin #ask game #bingo #emrysbyers #mutuals my beloved <3 #mutuals my beloved <2

[shiutsu]

I made an apl bingo!!

(The user is my reddit un, but since it didn't get any rate in the one I posted it into and the main aro is automatically deleting my posts,I have to add it here)

#arospec #aromanticspectrum #loveless aro #aplatonic #loveless aplatonic #aplspec #aplatonic aroace #alloaro #aroallo #loveless aroace #actually aromantic #aspec community #aspec positivity #aspec stuff #aspec representation #platonic attraction #bingo fill #aesthetic attraction #romance repulsed #touch repulsed

[aroacefollower]

I did the aro/ace bingo thing :]

(Also, to those who have called me Heartless, I actually use that as a label for myself :p)

I found both of these through google. I just searched up 'aro bingo' and 'ace bingo'.

Here are the clean versions:

#aromantic #aro #asexual #ace #aspec #aroace #lgbtqiaplus #queer #lgbtq #arospec #acespec #aro bingo #ace bingo #acearo #bingo

[aj-lenoire]

Anthony J Crowley for Blorbo Bingo!?

pathetic wet little man. i love him.

blorbo bingo

#good omens #anthony j crowley #aspec-argentum #blorbo bingo #aj asks #ask game

[lovelessrage]

Loveless: A Loveless Review

[Plain Text: Loveless: A Loveless Review]

Trigger Warnings For: Discussion of sex, sex negativity, platonormativity, arophobic tropes, and anti-loveless rhetoric

Disclaimer/Disclosure: I couldn’t finish this book. This will factor heavily into the review, as it has to do with how some scenes, details, and the writing quality were just very hard to sit with and continue. I got about 50% through, so I didn’t just skim pages and get back to you on it.

You might guess I don’t think of this book highly if I had to put it down and stop reading. This would be correct. However, I have more in depth thoughts than that. If you like this book and don’t want to read negative things about it, that's fine, but I implore you to read it anyway. A lot of the problems in this book are present in a lot of creations I see and can be a valuable teaching lesson; loveless people aren’t out to ruin your fun because biases got questioned.

Alright. Enough disclaimers. Review under the cut.

The Bingo Card: Surprisingly, Not A Strikeout

People who have been following me for a while may remember I mentioned I went into reading this book with a bingo card in hand: Loveless and Tired Bingo, a sheet made by yours truly. I did not get Bingo with this book! I did, however, fill 17 spaces out of 25; it just didn’t happen to line up, not because the book passed with flying colors. We’ll return to the Bingo Card at the end of this post to see what it looked like. But, letting you know, that’s a rate of 68% of all squares ticked on Loveless and Tired Bingo. Not looking so hot. 

Platonormativity, Envy, and The Loneliness Whirlpool

Let’s start with the meat of the post so nobody has to read it all if they just wanted my representation opinions. Other things like writing will be shuffled down for your convenience.

Edit: Past Scowl is a liar and a fraud and did not have maims glasses on, and misread the bingo card! I did get Bingo. Oops. Point still stands because the data is the same, I just gave this book a sliver more credit than it deserved for not getting one.

If this book had a full course meal, normativity would ironically be a key ingredient in every plate on the menu. Loveless has a platonormativity problem that confronts you from page 1, more realistically before that; the blurb!

[Text ID: From the marvelous author of Heartstopper comes an exceptional YA novel about discovering that it's okay if you don't have sexual or romantic feelings for anyone... since there are plenty of other ways to find love and connection. /End ID]

I promise not all my complaints will be raving about one sentence, but this kinda encapsulates the entirety of my problem with Loveless: Georgia Warr is not supported in her own novel. Loveless is a deeply insecure book that many can relate to, but, really… does it alleviate that insecurity, or just cover it up? There’s an unspoken “but” to every part of Loveless’ philosophy about aspec people [especially aroaces], where they must have platonic love to make them whole, to “fix” and “redeem” their lacking attractions. This has always bothered me, and it’s not an uncommon opinion in the community, unfortunately.

Aroaces aren’t allowed to simply “be” – they must be more. They must be so platonically invested you forget they’re aroace, because they have all this other type of love to give the world. It’s reflective of a view on a community sourced from hurt and exclusion, of someone trying to rebuild their worth on a new forefront. It doesn’t make it less of what it is, though: it’s a “yes they’re valid, but” statement that serves as the backbone for far too many aspec-focused media. 

Georgia is a deeply unsure character, and there’s nothing wrong with her being this way; she’s a fictional character made to represent a journey of acceptance, not a real person with the ability to inflict harm on other real people. She does reflect the author’s biases in many ways and many points on the same token, though, acting as a mouthpiece. This often comes in Georgia’s insistence her friendships are simply stronger than other relationship types, as well as her reflexive tendencies to judge the friendless.

One of my many, many hurdles in this book had to do with Rooney [someone save her and half the cast from this novel, please], when the group realizes she’s only a socialite, not really a long-term relationship holder, and the entire room devolves into silent judgment. Georgia does not defend her newfound friend, simply noting she thought differently of her. What about Rooney not having many friends changes her outgoing personality? It doesn’t. It’s simply the fact that Rooney being friendless makes her weird, as with many things Rooney is unfairly demonized for in this novel.

The emphasis on friends doesn’t end here, and persists through the entire novel, practically. It is the main focus, when it isn’t talking about Georgia’s disinterests, and her friend circle is very important to her. All of this is fine. What isn’t fine is the expectation and casual enforcement of friendship being all you have, so you must seize it; this book, even though I wouldn’t recommend it, is often given as The Book on being aroace, but I wouldn’t agree [you’re free to tell me I can’t have an opinion on that if I’m not aroace, but at least read on before deciding anything, alright, official hear me out warning]. One, not all aroaces are alloplatonic, and two, this:

Why Is This Book Written Like A Workplace Safety Seminar

It’s a very… cookie-cutter way to be aroace, and cookie cutter aroaces exist in real life! The rep should exist, no doubt, and shouldn’t be taken away from anyone. It’s not my problem per se that the book is semi-stereotypical. What my problem is has to do with something I see a lot.

The book falls into many of the pitfalls of what I’m dubbing “the pamphlet effect”: when a novel, show, etc. continuously needs to halt the plot to remind the audience this character is different, and explains this to you in a way that resembles an educational pamphlet at a pride event. Georgia Barr feels like an example given to explain a concept more than a person, and I feel bad for her because of how little this book engages with her actual character when it shines through. I understand the book is primarily centered on her journey through the spectrum, but very little is given to make Georgia’s experience unique outside of one scene off the top of my head. Her interests, hobbies, and unique feelings only seem to play a role when it comes time to be an author mouthpiece on slutshaming for fun and sport; only one scene, the forced kiss with Jason when rehearsing the play, really blends her life experiences with her aroace experiences.

Georgia feels designed to be an everywoman, and it was very disappointing to say the least. Very little of the book actually feels like I’m with her, or learning about her unique take on being aroace as a theatre fan or young adult figuring things out; it just feels like Georgia [and the reader] are being dragged through the Cliff’s Notes version of what it is to discover being aroace, rather than a look at how a character like this might feel differently than others on a fuller, whole scale. She’s a hole that can fit most shapes into it, which makes her broadly relatable, but not as fun or engaging to read about if you don’t fit precisely in the demographic Georgia is for; even if you do, is there much to engage with beyond “I’m like that too!”? 

This isn’t just a Georgia problem, either, as many, many characters in this book are walking stereotypes or very flat. But, we’ll get into that later [if you want to get into it now, skip to Writing Problems, Oh My!].

The Fingering In The Room: Loveless’ Weird Ideas About Sex

Alright, if you’re sex repulsed and braved the storm to get some insight, this next paragraph is just complete confusion about this book’s sex scenes and talking about some of the details within. If you want to skip that, skip the next paragraph.

Why is everybody fingering each other? Fingering is fine and it feels good, but it is basically the only sexual act this book knows outside of making out with tongue. Someone having sex in Loveless? They better have clipped their nails because at least two are going in. It feels like a point of research that was skipped because it was unimportant, which. Pretty much, yes. But when you’re someone who pays very close attention to sex scenes because you’re of the opinion they can have artistic value, as well as conveying the author’s views on sexuality, I come away with “is fingering what Oseman thinks young adults do?”. Anyways. Something I noticed.

[Okay sex repulsed people, you’re good. No in depth descriptions beyond this point, just the word “sex”.]

I should’ve titled this section “In Defense of Rooney Bach” because oh this poor girl. Oh you are just there to be gawked at.

First off, let’s begin in a good place: this book always has to clarify it isn’t slutshaming its characters, followed by slutshaming its characters. Rooney is, for the uninitiated, very sexually active. Georgia’s envy often leads to a judgemental, close minded view of Rooney that often pins her sex life as “too much” – something many sexually active women get villainized for. It strikes me immediately how Rooney is constantly picked on for her sexuality as a woman in ways no male characters who aren’t asexual either are treated. None of the men she flirts with or spends time with are reprimanded or “held to account” by the book; Rooney alone is breaking the rules. Rooney’s descriptions are often bookended with a disclaimer that she isn’t being called a slut, she’s just like one, which… This is slutshaming. You can’t just say you aren’t doing it to not be doing it.

Rooney is also a victim of a very arophobic trope, and one that is also misogynistic: the Broken Woman. Why is Rooney sexually active? A rough breakup that broke her heart and makes her fear intimacy on account of potentially being wrong again. Sure, sex feels good, but explicit focus is made on the fact she is only not engaging with romance because she tried and it didn’t work. For a few chapters, admittedly I was hoping for a book where an aroace and aroallo can get past some differences and expand each other's worldviews; what I got was Georgia thinking pretty poorly of Rooney through unaddressed envy and sex negativity, and Rooney being made to only like hookups because she’s messed up. Because of course a woman could only enjoy that if she had a negative experience that forced her on the path!

Also, another scene I didn’t like was Georgia and Pip watching Rooney have sex while she is completely unaware of their presence? Jason leaves as soon as he notices, but the two of them watch before Pip makes a comment on how disgusting it is and Georgia agrees. I’m shocked at how little this is brought up as being violating or creepy. 

If it was a better book, I would have expected it to result in some kind of furthered conversation about boundaries; it could've been a place for Georgia to start establishing what she likes and dislikes, starting with Rooney preferably keeping her out of her sex life when she’s able. Instead, this event gets brought up solely for jokes, and for a motivation for Pip to start hating Rooney, despite her insistence it wasn't because of the hookup and she isn’t slutshaming. Always a great sign when that needs to be clarified. This is a PSA for everyone: you should not need to clarify you aren’t trying to slutshame. If you feel the need to do so, you are probably being sex negative. 

This book isn’t very fond of sexually active people, nor is it kind to characters that are. I can understand why being asexual and sex repulsed is representation people would want, but I also think there’s many, many ways to write it without making it an exercise in shame.

Ironically Kinda Arophobic In Some Parts

This is a short section of a thing I noticed, hated, and had as a contributing factor for my ending early: this book loves aphobic tropes. There’s already the trope against aroallos of not needing romance because of being broken into only liking sex, but also the problem with Pip and Rooney.

I’m a lesbian, for clarification, and I’m saying from experience that I hate the archetype of the angry, jealous lesbian. It’s everywhere. It’s in this book. Pip, upon even the idea of being rejected, starts berating and demeaning the girl who turned her down, even if she was only turned down in her head. The book passes it off as a lighthearted, funny story that Pip got so mad at an ex-crush she was suspended for throwing an apple at their head. Why do I bring this up?

Is it not ringing any bells that this is arophobic? That a character so hostile to romantic rejection is treated as a joke? Many, many aros, and queer people in general, have experienced violence for turning down someone. It’s a serious issue for aros and a real fear in rejecting someone. I found it incredibly hard to read and sit through as everybody passes off Pip’s tendencies to do this to the women that reject her as a silly, funny Pip moment and not a major issue for the aspec community. I don’t care if it’s enemies to lovers, because it doesn’t really feel good to read at all. The only tension is built off the back of something I’ve experienced in real life and many others have as well. 

Lovelessness: The Insecurity Unaddressed

This book, despite its title, is obviously about a loving character. Many people might not see this as a problem: first off, loveless doesn’t always mean the same thing, and second, many aroaces express feeling loveless when coming to terms with their identity. Here’s my rebuttal.

One: Georgia fits no definitions of the label. She subscribes to none of the beliefs. She loves her friends actively and sees their relationship as more than romance or sex, as something greater to her.

Second, this is because anti-loveless rhetoric is everywhere and all over this book. Not once is it suggested Georgia could live as loveless, or truly be without love. In the end, she is surrounded by it, simply learning to accept friendship instead. The way her insecurity isn’t met with “you’re complete as you are”, and instead with “you can still be complete if you simply fill the void with friends”, is anti-loveless. Nobody is allowed to be whole on their own without a subplot where their doubts are reinforced or they’re explicitly made to be broken inside.

This is shockingly common, and always sad every time I see it. Many aspects fear being loveless, as if it is a curse or blight they must cleanse. This book is one example out of many, but it doesn’t make it less hurtful when a book that runs against everything your community stands for [self-acceptance and the optionality of love] bears your name regardless. It is a book for people who are afraid of loneliness, and it answers their insecurities with “you’re right. You do need other people. You just need to find a way to still find and have a life partner!”. This is damaging to loveless people, especially those questioning an aplatonic identity.

Again, it’s not unique to Loveless. But, it’s reflective of a broader issue of aplatonics who may be seeking community constantly being presented with “you ARE broken, but friendship can fix you!”, a “solution” many can’t use, and often leads to even more self-hatred.

That’s about it from the aspec side of things. If you got this far, congrats! The rest is opinions on the writing, and the bingo card finale. You can drop off here if that’s all you came for.

Writing Problems, Oh My!

This is veering into heavy personal opinion, so, I will remind you: I don’t usually like YA, but YA can be a very good genre! I do not think this book is a good representation of what good YA looks like.

The writing quality is one of the hardest things to get past, because of a major problem I observed: Oseman is better at comics. This isn’t so much a vilification as a recommendation that it would’ve been much better suited for a different type of media. This kind of “media dysphoria” is present in many of the ways the book operates: many scenes would flow perfectly well in a visual piece. Georgia’s inner monologue has a tendency to jump suddenly into scenes and interrupt the action in a way that would be perfectly natural as a narration bubble put over a drawing of the scene around her. There are entire pages of just… text messages that would be much better suited to a visual medium where you could make these dialogue bits look much more interesting through different shots, or drawing what the background would look like on a screen [The Girl from the Sea does this well, for example]. 

There’s also the fact I cannot place in my mind if I'm too old for this novel. A lot of the jokes boil down to “hah! Sex!” in a way that instantly alienates me from the writing. The jokes can be pretty juvenile and repetitive, and serve to be the equivalent of a comedian saying “eh? Get it? That was a joke.” six times. 

This isn’t to mention the fact many of these characters are complete cardboard. Sorry. Jason does not need to exist. When he appears in a scene, he is ignored or completely leaves it on his own. He really only serves to drive Georgia’s character forward, rather than have one of his own. I found myself forgetting he was present in a scene at all until he spoke again and reminded me of his existence. The book would practically be unchanged if Georgia temporarily dated Pip and Jason was never a factor, plus or minus the Shakespeare Soc plot. 

Many interesting characters suffer from severe Pamphlet Effect syndrome. Most of the girls do. In a better novel, they would be more in depth, but Loveless doesn’t really afford them this luxury. I need to take the girls very far away from this novel, okay. I need someone to write a version of Loveless where they have personalities. There’s crumbs there. Please, someone make a loaf of bread out of it. They deserve it.

Another thing, but minor: the breakneck pacing at some points followed by slow slogs of not a lot happening contributes to the reading issues. You may thing something would be dwelled on, just for it to go flying away into the sunset as 3 more things happen and then one problem lasts for 2 chapters. I found it very hard to catch up with Loveless, while other parts I felt like I was constantly waiting for it to catch up with me instead.

The Final Frontier: The Bingo Card Returns

And without further ado, the Loveless and Tired Bingo Card for Loveless by Alice Oseman! Completed with help from other readers braver than I.

[Image ID: A bingo card made from a basic template. It has no title, and all the text is black on a white background. Some squares are marked with a blue X, while others are marked with a red scribble. The marked squares are: “Not prioritizing friendship treated as freak behaviour”, “Jab at loveless sex thrown in”, “Something about not being like THOSE people”, “Universal type of love is laid on thick”, “The answer to all your problems is finding some pals”, “Found family ending”, “Platonic-romantic binary”, “Love still treated as universal [free]”, “Friendship is more wholesome or pure”, “Amatonormativity BAD [platonormativity is my bestie]”, “Platonic love being more powerful or sumn”, “You still love your friends though, right?”, “Friendship saves the day”, “Still thinks you need dedicated people to survive”, “Being alone treated as worst thing in the world”, and “Friendships are more stable than partnerships anyways”. The unmarked, blank squares are: “Something about "players" and pickup artists where no commitment is villainized”, “Character fears being loveless and is kinda aplphobic about it”, “Aspec double standards [one is normal, one is weird]”, “You still love your FAMILY, right???”, “QPRs mentioned by no nuance given to their diversity”, “Friendship forced upon a character against their will”, “Comment about some people being inhuman gets brushed past”, and “Simply prioritise your family instead!!” /End ID]

Would I recommend this book? Uh. No! Well. Yes, but not as a good book for aspecs. I’d recommend it solely to read it yourself and form your own opinions. But, no, I would not recommend it to any aspecs I know, especially not loveless ones, aplatonic ones, aroallos, or if they're an aroace looking for support.

Ah, Loveless, how you vexx me. Never again. See you in the next, much shorter post.

#loveless aromantic #loveless aro #loveless #aplatonic #aplaro #aplatonic aro #loveless aplatonic #loveless apl #loveless alice oseman #alice oseman #osemanverse #aromantic #apl aro #arospec #aplspec #aroace #aroallo #aro #apl #aspec #scowl corner

[magicaplin]

@lgbtqcreators event 16: raise your flag & creator bingo: colour palette

Characters I headcanon as bi & aspec

Mary & Thomas (BBC Ghosts), Loki (Marvel), Crowley (Good Omens), Eleven (Stranger Things), John & Sherlock (Sherlock Holmes)

#bbc ghosts #marvel #sherlock #stranger things #good omens #gun tw #userisaiah #usertj #userairi #userhekaates #usergert #userdena #userlgbtq #usergif #usercreate #pscentral #smallscreensource #mcu #mary ghosts #thomas thorne #loki laufeyson #crowley #eleven hopper #el hopper #john watson #sherlock holmes #bisexual #asexual #magicaplin #my edit

[journeysfable]

All your posts about being aromatic on my dash has made me question my entire understanding of platonic vs romantic vs sexual attraction which isn’t a bad thing but is frustrating because I’m no longer sure if I know what romantic attraction is. I guess I just always focused on if a relationship is deep and meaningful regardless of how the relationship was defined. Like I used to think that having sex was the defining point but it isn’t. So where does the line between platonic, qpr, and romantic lay and why does it feel like someone is playing multidimensional jump rope with it. I don’t know I’m pretty sure I’m allo and this more stems from my belief that love may be one of the most stupid, complex, and impossible to define words in the English language right up there with religion and art.

Good! It can be distressing but I do not regret it

Some say the line between platonic, romantic, and qpr are blurry. Emotions are complicated. Theres also a secret third thing which is called alterous attraction. Imagine the types of attraction are on a bingo card. Alterous is the free space (I don't actually know how to play bingo. I have watched Grian play bin-go, though) its just the ??? Kind of attraction.

If it helps, there is def a romantic feeling that alloros seem to get and I have searched far and wide to find. Ppl describe it as tingles, and a physical pull, a feeling like your soul belongs in the presence the person your attracted to? Feeling like your flying or on a rollercoaster and like the air is punched out of you when see the person your attracted to and lightheaded.

But I know a fellow aro said they feel that way around their friends so maybe I'm wrong about some of that.

Emotions are hard cause everyone experiences them differently and characteristics of emotions get mixed up. Ppl laugh when distressed and cry when happy afterall.

It's also an entirely subjective thing. And wether you actually want to label your feelings as romantic or not is up to you. What a relationship is is up to the ppl in it and no one else.

Also for me platonic feelings feels like being covered in a warm blanket and like bliss. Like when I wake up in the morning and don't want to leave my bed because its warm and cozy and safe. It also feels like my heart swells with affection and fondness. I get squishes/platonic crushes too sometimes like I see someone really cool and who seems fun to be around so I'm excited to see them and spend time with them in hopes I can befriend them

But again thatd just me and maybe ppl out there feel that way about their crushes or partners so. Emotions are hard and it'd all be easier if our society decided to come up with one type of Super Duper Important Relationship That You Need Or Else You'll Die Miserably and then there are those other two and also here's how emotions are and this is the rulebook and anyone who dare ask questions about how it all works is weird and crazy.

For example some aspecs find people nice to look at and thats it. We decided to call that aesthetic attraction. But most ppl seem to think if you find someone nice to look at you're interested in them. But we know what we want and don't want. Want to stare not fuck or marry. There are lots of labels like that in the aspec community.

I think its easier to think of love as love and the most important part is what you want to do with that love rathee than how it feels. Maybe. Idk I'm still learning, too. We (aspecs) all are.

[blankensnappeas]

Paulkins for the ship bingo?

UGHHHHHHHHH PAULKINS I love them so much like theyre so <3 <3 <3 Im obsessed with it because in TGWDLM, they very much are "Love By Circumstance" couple. They barely knew each other but they already knew theyd do ANYTHING for the other The fucking travesty of "Inevitable" and the desperate Half-Infected Paul AUs (GOD I love that shit so much) But then you get like?? Black Friday where they actually get to be "Together"(?) Its clearly not so cut and dry from Emma though lol. I feel like that scene could be expanded upon in a more serious matter (delving into Emma's character, it feels very noncommittal (or even maybe more aromantic/aspec?) I dont really got thoughts but I AM thinking about it) OH BUT FOREVER AND ALWAYS MY BELOVED Its sooooo silly like just positively ridiculous but the idea that no matter what they will meet and they will love each other,,,, (but also Im a sucker for robot romance SUE ME)

Anyways closing this with Emma x She/They Paul is the superior version of Paulkins and it lives rent free in my head

#sapphic paulkins save me #paulkins #paul matthews #emma perkins #ask game #answered asks #text post

[queersociologist]

I'm doing @queerliblib 's reading challenge bingo on Storygraph and trying to keep up with it here, too. Last year I read exclusively queer lit for pride month (not a challenge for me, it's pretty much all I read anyway) and it is fun to do it a bit more socially this year. Original bingo card on the left, my fill so far on the right.

Sci-Fi Fantasy - Beneath the Sugar Sky by Seanan McGuire (This whole series, "Every Heart a Doorway" is very cozy for me right now, I'm burning through them. I don't usually love 'youth' fiction, but I've really been enjoying these)

Genderqueer or Genderfluid MC - Walking Practice by Dolki Min (EXCELLENT, very gory, inherently queer. Quick read. Could also have gone under AAPI MC, or scifi/fantasy)

Anthology - Her Body and Other Parties by Carmen Maria Machado (creepy and morbid, so very delightful. honestly I love anthologies, I could recommend dozens but this was the one I just finished)

Aspec MC - Friends Without Benefits by Evelyn Fenn (Honestly, really cute. I usually prefer science fiction, horror, and fantasy so this more conventional lit was a bit out of my usual but it was surprisingly fun to read)

Comic or Graphic Novel - Fun Home by Allison Bechdel (very good, it's well reviewed for a reason. could have also gone under banned books, but I've got a different read planned for that one)

#chaotic book club #summer reading program for queers

[movietonight]

hawkeye-margaret for Bingo

T4t and qpr and wlw/mlm in a way that is simultaneously aspec and bisexual and binary trans and non-binary trans and straight and gay in a way that transcends our current understanding of sexuality and gender. They're like an MC Escher painting to me.

Put a small dot on polycule because I don't have a specific one in mind but I think it could slap.

I put "I can see it" and "I see the appeal" because I used to actually actively dislike them as a ship when I first started watching mash because I was so used to shows just sticking together the main male and female character regardless of chemistry so I was just really relieved when mash didn't do that.

Now that I'm older I'm actually getting into them. They have that certain something. I'm still really glad they didn't go that way in canon and just gave us the chemistry and moments to imagine it for ourselves, hence "canon no, fanon yes".

You could probably get me to read a fic if it was interesting but currently I'm mostly interested in rotating them in my head. It's just one of those rotating them in my head ships.

#Asks #Mash #Thank you!

[comfymoth]

Love your shipping bingo! How'd you make them? Also, I like your q!Niki x q!Jaiden bingo card. I'm aroace and when it comes to Jaiden, I have never shipped her with anyone. For Roier I just platonically shipped them the moment they paired up and became Bobby's parents.

But like you mentioned some aros/aces/aroace can choose to date if they want to.

So hopefully the fans are respectful about this new pairing

haha, aw thank you! i made the whole thing in procreate actually, i just used a blank bingo template and clicked and dragged my text around til it looked centered-ish.

and yeah, i think being respectful is the main thing, you’re totally right! i’ve definitely seen aspec people on my dash who Do date and who are excited about the ship, and the last thing i wanna do is invalidate them. i think both kinds of hcs can and should coexist, both kinds of rep are good! i just don’t want anyone outside the community steamrolling her identity, and it’s important we don’t start infighting and distract from that

[liauditore]

if u r doing the ship bingo still, then any bigb ship u like + scott/bigb pls?

ofc anon!! any excuse to ramble more abt ships lol

Before I go on I feel I should mention that my Bigb at least is like.. somewhat aspec? i honestly don't really know where that headcanon came from but it just kinda stuck lol so that plays into how I see Bigb ships a little bit. Idk I just can't see him specifically really being Attracted to anyone.

(i rarely share my sexuality headcanons cus all of them are fragile and very very easily changed with time and sometimes i contradict my own headcanons so yanno. but they are definitely there in the back of my mind. taunting me)

Scott/Bigb

Uhh I haven't really seen this one before at all? The only interactions I can remember are the ones from limlife when Bigb jumped in between of Scott and Pearl after he hits her (my heart went brr) and when they killed eachother in the finale and scotts computer had a fit lol.

but yeah I suppose you could make a hateship out of this?? or if you think they could be best friends then you'd have to do some explaining and put them in situations for it to work methinks.

Grian/Bigb

This one's just not talked about enough imo. I love angsty grian headcanons to death and like.. Idk I think it's sweet how even though he doesn't really associate super hard with Bigb, he still goes running to him when times to tough. I like to think it's cus Bigb's just this really kind figure who Grian knows he can go to for comfort when the chaos of everything else gets to be a bit too much.

He also kind of tries to pull Bigb into that chaos but it never works cus Bigb's got the personality of one of those soft warm towels they give you at hotels. He has his share of mischief in him but he's not going to be going around murdering people with tnt minecarts anytime soon.

It's like whenever Grian gets to the point of "I don't want to play the game anymore!" he goes to Bigb to sulk and thats very cute to me.

It was super hard btw to choose just one ship for this omg but uhh lightning round Bigb is also Pearl's (new) bestie, Lizzie's bestie, Ren's bitch wife and Cleo thinks they had a really bad break up while Bigb didn't realise they were supposed to be dating.

#asks #ask games #trafficshipping #grib #grian/bigb #scott/bigb #but yeah in general i think i pref platonic pairings w/ him #or situations where the other person Thinks they have a thing and he's just like What #not that I think he's entirely aroace or clueless he just. doesn't think abt ppl like that i reckon. #the thought simply does not cross his mind #grians too proud to ask but if he did confess then bigb would be like “oh cool ily2” and itd be chill