#gay loneliness

[ezramire]

“But I am a princess—or at least, a girl,” said Floralinda stupidly; but she could not stop the question creeping in around those edges, nor the tinge of panic.

The witch despaired only momentarily at mortal ignorance.

“How could you be either of those things?” she said, as kindly as she could. “You’re a monster—a rare and magnificent monster; perhaps even unique.”

- Princess Floralinda and the Forty-Flight Tower by Tamsyn Muir

#princess floralinda and the forty flight tower #tamsyn muir #gang it’s got it all: #gay loneliness #gender ambivalent asshole fairy #a bimbo undergoing a corruption arc #tlt girlies and girliesn’t u will love it

[seyferta]

I don’t know if we’ll ever see the mental health gap between straight people and gay people close, at least not fully. There will always be more straight kids than gay kids, we will always be isolated among them, and we will always, on some level, grow up alone in our families and our schools and our towns. But perhaps that’s not all bad. Our distance from the mainstream may be the source of some of what ails us, but it is also the source of our wit, our resilience, our empathy, our superior talents for dressing and dancing and karaoke. We have to recognize that as we fight for better laws and better environments—and as we figure out how to be better to each other. I keep thinking of something Paul, the software developer, told me: “For gay people, we’ve always told ourselves that when the AIDS epidemic was over we’d be fine. Then it was, when we can get married we’ll be fine. Now it’s, when the bullying stops we’ll be fine. We keep waiting for the moment when we feel like we’re not different from other people. But the fact is, we are different. It’s about time we accept that and work with it.”

— Michael Hobbes, “Together Alone: the Epidemic of Gay Loneliness,” Highline / Huffington Post, 02 March 2017. 

I still often think about this passage—how there will always be less gay people than straight people, and that most of us homosexuals will grow up alone until we’re old enough to go out and meet others like us. It’s always left a bittersweet taste in my mouth, but I have to accept that we will always be different, and that’s okay.

#The Homosexual Dream #gay loneliness

[annaberunoyume]

Lament of a trad queer

Such hypocrisy, that what was supposed to be a safe haven, a respite, is sometimes no better than a Mean Girls clique.

We speak of acceptance, yet balk at the mention of ''marriage'', ''children'', ''settling down''. Where is the love in that?

Those Disney-esque endings, Hallmarky feelings, isn't it queerphobic to assume that most of us do not want it?

The straight world spent most of its existence assuming things about us...And it seems some people fully embrace said assumptions. Why then reject one of our kind for choosing something else?

I sought to escape wolves, but only found others in sheep's clothings.

No more clothings.

#lament of a trad queer #small vent #prose #trad queers you are valid #trad #acceptance #love #hypocrisy #lgbtq #lesbian #gay loneliness #my writing #my prose #my poetry

[i-eat-nail-polish]

This has just become a diary blog sorry.

Something I wanna see more is the mental struggles of being queer. Its great that in media were being more represented with outward struggles like legislative homophobia outward group homophobia. The tide publically has turned for the better even if it feels like it got worse. I can tell it’s getting better.

What I really wanna see now are stories about how incredibly lonely and traumatizing it can be to be queer. Love stories are easy to write so I wanna see an isolation story. I wanna see another gay person that has been alone for so long they feel outside of their own community. I wanna know I’m not so alone and that why I’m feeling isn’t so alien.

I want to see stories of the internal struggle of gender and NOT through the lense of other people thinking it’s weird, of the main character not understanding and feeling conflicted.

#queer story #writing #dear diary #sorry for this #ramblings #ramblings of a sad individual #gay loneliness

[lemonouiiid]

i recognize your fragrance

#呪術廻戦 #jujutsu kaisen #gojo satoru #geto suguru #satosugu #stsg #stsg fanart #hey people #are you gay and lonely #and love listening to kendrick #but adhering to the principles of loneliness #and think you’re never going to be loved in your life #yeah

[cccotard]

average anzu shenanigans u already know

#also the manga shes reading is My les/bian experiance with loneliness #NOTHIN DIRTYYY DW #SHES JUST GAY #anyways #yttd #kimi ga shine #your turn to die #kgs #yttd fanart #anzu kinashi #yttd anzu #your turn to die fanart

[lostryu]

i need gay rights because literally not a single self-proclaimed cis/het 'ally' understands the alienating experience that comes with being the only gay person in the workplace.

i am a gnc butch lesbian. i use he/him pronouns. when i came out to my manager regarding my pronouns (i had been an open lesbian since the moment of my hire), she told me that she supported me, but she could not enforce or ask our clients to use the correct pronouns for me. she told me it was something i would have to learn to deal with. she never uses the correct pronouns for me unless a person from a different department (who also happens to be LGBT+) is present. she is our HR in addition to manager.

none of my coworkers in my department ever remember to use my pronouns. if i remind them, they go over the top with the "im sorry's" and the "im still learning" and "you know i try my hardest's!" and "i swear im not homophobic!", it has been over 6 months since i came out. if i say nothing, they continue to use she/her (unless that other lgbt+ person from the other department is present, then they miraculously get it right).

sometimes they call me 'girl'. they always flounder and correct to "man-boy-uh youknowwhatimeanright". they laugh it off. they never bother to ask what terms i am comfortable with, or if i even cared in the first place. they don't care about my gender, they never bother to ask. somehow the subject gets changed every time i try to tell them, or set a boundary.

once in a while in a slow shift, the conversation will hop to our dating lives. somehow, it always jumps to how men suck and how dating a woman must be so much easier. they wish they could be gay and not straight. every time, they'll stare at me expectantly, like i am an animal at the zoo. no matter what i say, positive or negative, i must be lying. i cannot be that happy in my relationship, or if i have any issues, they must be minor. if i say 'why don't you try dating a girl then' to their remarks, they'll laugh, say something like "there is no way i possibly could" with that special tone of disguised disgust.

i am a prop, at work. they tell me about how much they love their kids. how they could bring anyone home and they wouldn't care. "they could be black, brown, or purple," they'll say "it could be a woman or a man! I support gay rights!" Then they will talk about how hungry they are, and how they will be going to Chick Fil a for the 4th time this week. 'as a treat'. it is thursday. they talk about going to Hobby Lobby again for christmas decorations, or another sale. sometimes i think i can taste blood.

its june. they talk about the pride parade and how excited they are to see the queens and their 'funny costumes'. they talk about how fun it is to go and watch, how they like the free things the corporations hand out. they don't want to bring their younger kids though. they're not old enough. they do not know that the first pride was a riot. they do not know what happened during the AIDS crisis, how many died. they don't really care when i try to tell them, they'd rather focus on the fun parts of the parade. the spectacle.

i wear a pronoun pin, to make it easier. still somehow no one can get my pronouns right. a client notices it. commends me for "being brave" and "coming out." she never uses my correct pronouns. i stopped wearing the pin after the 11th person asked me if my name on my name tag was my real one, and after the 45th person went out of their way to use incorrect pronouns every sentence. my manager, the HR, did not care.

i need gay rights, but somehow everything got resolved when they allowed us to marry in 2015. to our allies, the work is done. somehow i am left more alone than when we started.

#lost.txt #lesbian loneliness #like idk how to describe it but it sure is loneliness and alienation #somewhat of a vent post #like yes we have made it so far #but our 'allies' have grown very complacent #in their own support and ideology #reminder that being gay is still considered spectacle

[metamorphesque]

— Friedrich Nietzsche, The Gay Science

#friedrich nietzsche #the gay science #quotes #literature #translated literature #classic literature #loneliness

[biblicalhorror]

Aroace Riz real but also Fabian is SO clearly in love with him and Riz has no idea

#honestly fabian might not even fully know yet #a core part of fabians character is that he is so deeply afraid of rejection that he is never going to pursue the people he actually wants #i do think he likes Maezy a lot but i think he only knows how to pursue hot toxic women that will discard him at a moments notice #which in a way protects him from ever actually dealing with heartbreak #is he a gay man dealing with comphet? ehh maybe #i could see that #but I think the vibe i get is more about how he has these platonic friends he completely adores and is fully devoted to #and then in another category he has the people that he does not have any actual attachment to that he will allow himself to pursue #and crossing the boundaries in between those two categories or allowing himself to pursue someone he really cares for #would require a level of vulnerability he is in no way prepared for #in his home life he has an emotionally detached mother who is well liked but kind of floats through interactions on a surface level #and a father who is extremely concerned with fame and glory and attention but doesnt seem to have ever stopped moving in his life #genuinely fabian does not know what a safe loving partnership would look like #and we see him constantly oscillating between emulating his mother and his father in relationships #but just beneath the surface is a little boy who wants so badly to cling to his loved ones so tight and be squeezed right back #with no way of knowing how to even ask for that if he wanted #and riz is his best friend in the world and he knows on some level that riz is simply not interested in having that kind of relationship #not on the level fabian needs #but that also makes riz a safe target for these feelings of devotion #theyre just friends! just besties! fabian never has to reckon with his own loneliness or harmful patterns #if he channels all of his yearning for closeness onto his best friend #anyway! this boy needs therapy #fhjy #fhjy spoilers #fabriz

[emberglowfox]

the funniest thing abt that comic is that when i initially came up with That concept (after trying and failing to develop a few others) is that i did try to write it out first and plan it out, and it was gonna be a lot more... depressing? less optimistic? but i couldn't get the dialogue or frames or ANYTHING, right, so i just decided to start thumbnail sketching and make up every page as i went and see what the characters wanted to say

and they. well they wanted to be gay

#fellas is it gay to be a robot that should not be able to feel loneliness but can damned to a life of solitutde #and an angel that by nature cannot meet its own kind #sparks speaks #i put my soul into that comic i really really hope it does well tbh

[moonstoast]

the lonely city by olivia laing // the hug by claudia barbu // edvard munch // malcolm t. liepke // edvard munch // anthony cudahy // elizabeth glaessner

#gay yearning hours #aaaahhhhh #web weave #art #words #prose #web weaving #paintings #olivia laing #yearning #loneliness #comperatives

[the-sappho-of-lesbos]

Source: Women Together; Portraits of Love, Commitment, and Life - Essays by Mona Holmlund , Photography by Cyndy Warwick

#gay marriage #lesbian wedding #lesbian positivity #lesbian loneliness #lesbian love #lesbian history #image #photo #lgbt #lesbian #personal

[annaberunoyume]

This article perfectly summed up how I feel as a trad lesbian. You must read the article below:

#gay loneliness #huffington post #preach #so real #i relate #relatable #lgbtq #lesbian #mlm #gay #lonely af #trad queers you are valid

[fluffyhairedboy]

..I want..I need..I crave.. physical intimacy..nothing fancy..a hug, a pat on the head, cuddles, the stroke of a finger over the back of my palm..platonic or non platonic never really matters. Just knowing that I have a connection with another..warmth

#touchstarved #late night loneliness #words of mine #yearning #lost in my head #love langauges #physical touch #from the heart #bisexaul #achillian #feeling needy #ftm mlm #mlm textpost #t4t yearning #trans boi #gay teen #text post #gay

[asoftepiloguemylove]

hi! can i request a web weave for when you love your partner and the feelings are mutual but you know you’re not meant to be? like when it’s an already existing relationship and everything’s good but you just know it’s not gonna result in marriage and getting old together. please and thank you!

i hope you're doing well <33

Homer The Iliad / Lisa Olstein Cold Satellite; Little Stranger / boygenius Bite the Hand / Sarah Kay & Phil Kaye When Love Arrives / @/ratsandlilies.art (on instagram) / pinterest / Anne Carson Glass, Irony and God / @/ratsandlilies.art (on instagram) / Ross Gay Catalog of Unabashed Gratitude

#on love #on heartbreak #web weave #web weaving #on loneliness #poetry compilation #poetry parallels #homer #the iliad #lisa olstein #cold satellite #little stranger #boygenius #bite the hand #sarah kay #phil kaye #when love arrives #anne carson #glass irony and god #ross gay #catalog of unabashed gratitude #writing #poem #spilled poetry #spilled thoughts #spilled ink #dark academia #dark academia poetry #words #dark academia quote

[yurimother]

Kabi Nagata's Autobiographical Manga 'My Pancreas Broke, But Life Got Better' Licensed; Special Edition of 'My Lesbian Experience with Loneliness Announced'

On Tuesday, Seven Seas Entertainment announced that it has licensed My Pancreas Broke, But My Life Got Better (Suizou ga Kowaretara, Sukoshi Iki Yasuku Narimashita), the latest autobiographical manga from Kabi Nagata, author of the Harvey-Award winning My Lesbian Experience with Loneliness. The manga will be released in English digitally and in paperback editions in November 2023.

The publisher describes the manga:

In this new autobiographical manga following My Wandering Warrior Existence, Nagata Kabi has quit drinking in an attempt to get healthier–or she’s trying to, anyway. Her former struggles with alcohol led to pancreatitis and a serious hospitalization, and now she has no choice but to give it up. Follow the author as she details the quest to improve her health during a global pandemic.

In addition to the licensing announcement, Seven Seas also unveiled a new special edition of Nagata's original breakout manga, My Lesbian Experience with Loneliness. The new release will be a single hardcover edition that features new cover art and a new bonus chapter. A digital version will also be available. It will also be published in November 2023.

Kabi Nagata is a Japanese mangaka known for her powerful and raw autobiographical manga series. She originally posted her manga online on Pixiv where it went viral and was revised and published in Japanese print in 2016 by East Press and in English by Seven Seas. The manga received critical acclaim, winning the 2017 Harvey Award for best manga of 2018. Subsequent volumes, My Solo Exchange Diary Volumes 1 and 2, My Alcoholic Escape from Reality, and My Wandering Warrior Existence, received similar acclaim.

#yuri #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtq+ #manga #lesbian #lesbians #girls love #gay #gl #girls' love #anime #my lesbian experience with loneliness #nagata kabi #kabi nagata