#gender stuff i guess

[episkykid]

"I want to be a professional ballerina," my best friend said. She was five, and her mother a former beauty queen from New York. "I want to be a soccer player," I said. I was five, and already I knew that I was not made from beauty queen pieces. It is not that I wanted to play soccer. I did not, especially. It is what soccer meant. If I had two choices, between soccer and waxen sculptures, rigid lines, soft pastels, and practicing the dance so I would not "thump like elephants down the stairs," I did not want the latter. Soccer meant mud. It meant running. It meant pads I strapped to my shins and fighting with boys and wearing pants. "Soccer," I said, even though what I felt was "I want to wear pants." I did not see the grit in ballet, nor the ferocity. But I feared its femininity, so like the lockbox of everything else around me. I feared the quietude, the script of dainty nonsense, the sitting with my legs together for hours on Sundays while the boys rampaged in the side yard, tasting honey sweet sun in the mud they kicked up. I feared suffocation, and soccer was an hour of freedom, when I could sit on the ground, pick at grass, run or not run, drink the sky through small sips like I'd punched a hole into a Capri Sun pouch. I was not good at soccer, but I was good at being at soccer practice. Once, watching my brother tumble down a hill, I turned to my mother and said, "I wish I was a boy." And she said, "Don't say that." So I didn't. But what I'd really meant was, "I wish I had not been born in a cage."

#prose poetry #idk man #gender stuff i guess

[bananonbinary]

as a certified Diagnosed Autist(TM) i cannot stress enough that i am not only pro- self-diagnosis, but also pretty anti- legal medical diagnosis. it is, at best, a cruel hoop we have to jump through so privileged people will deign to give us what we need. don't fucking do that shit unless you have to, it was disgustingly expensive, fucking humiliating, infantilizing, and dehumanizing, and would probably actively cause problems in my life if i didn't have some really good allistic (-passing) people in my corner and also wasn't so fucking disabled that it mostly doesn't matter.

literally get that diagnosis if you need it for job/school accessibility shit or SSI or whatever, and otherwise dont tell the government SHIT about yourself. there is zero good reason for them to want that information. that's between you and the people you want in your life.

#as a side note: this goes for gender too #dont fucking get a special marker on your passport or whatever #trying to get ssi has made me realize how deeply cruel the system is #never reveal any vulnerability you have unless it's absolutely necessary #do not do this stuff for validation the government is not your friend and you should seek emotional fulfillment elsewhere #hm this post turned out a lot angrier than i meant #guess i'm still mad about how awful the process was #it wasnt even long it was just. so *impersonal.* #this woman talked to me for two hours. went down a fairly bigoted checklist. #didnt ask me my own opinion on much of anything. and then declared a bunch of her impressions as if they hold weight just bc shes allistic #like how i have 'identity issues' (am trans and dont want a romantic partner) #and thats just. my permanent record of diagnosis! this two hour conversation with a stranger! she doesnt fucking know me #we paid like $500 for that

[takumifujiwarastan]

guys why is every megumi x reader insert a bubbly quirky sociable basic white girl im pulling my hair out someone PLEASE show some justice to the introverted and reserved girls with moody attitudes

like fr im lowkey a maki kinnie (and a megumi kinnie) why cant i find reader inserts like them>!?!?!!>.

if someone can find some blogs writers or fics with reader inserts like this PLEASE LET ME KNOW HELP A GIRL OUT

#jjk x reader #megumi fushiguro #megumi x reader #jujutsu kaisen #x reader fanfiction #x reader #fem reader #reader insert #gn reader #female reader #gender neutral reader #fanfic #tumblr stuff #writers on tumblr #trending #rant post #rant i guess #personal rant #send help #im pulling my hair out #screaming crying throwing up

[plant-dad-sulu]

So I go by Nick with most of my friends at this point and use any pronouns and theyre all very good about switching it up sometimes but one of my friends primarily refers to me as "he" which is cool i dont care but it didnt register to me as an issue until i met up with him and some of his straight friends a while back and on seeing me they all had identical looks on their faces like they were short circuiting and one even asked my friend "this is Nick?" At which point i realized they were probably expecting a cis man and not a fem person in a crop top with boobs and so on and now i eagerly await the day i meet more of his friends just to see it happen again because why have a gender if ur not gonna be funny about it

#nottrek #gender stuff #it was on the same level as when i was getting a tour of a new job #and the person was like 'and womens bathrooms are over there! ...and... gender neutral is... there' #because my hawaiian shirt threw them off #or when people would be talking to a group of girls and me and go 'and we all get boyfriends!' or whatever and then #after a moment 'or girlfriends' #that moment of hesitation where they realized they just said something Straight or Cis #and remember i am there and give off queer vibes #guess this'll be a lifelong thing then #hilarious let me at them

[4lph4kidz]

i was thinking about your dirk and hal poll and i want to mention that i think your concept for ink and iron where dirk creates hal from his reflection by enchanting a mirror is so cool 😌

thank you! hal's predicament and purpose within the canon narrative is so fascinating and i felt it was really important to find a way to explore what i find most interesting with him. i can't take full credit for the concept though i took inspiration from a few placees (one of my friends pitched the idea of the mirror accidentally dumping him onto jake's doorstop for example) but overall i think the idea is very fun and i'm really excited to write more hal stuff!!! also i'm going to take the opportunity to share this oldish doodle i found:

the mispelling of angel as angle was NOT intentional (<- dyslexia haver) but it probably explains a lot. he's pointy

#obviously an AU is going to be different from canon #but i like AUs specifically *because* i have a lot of fun trying to translate canon ideas into another setting or genre in general #in this case its a riff on the fairy tale magic mirror #hal is still an experiment gone wrong/artificial being created to serve a purpose trapped in a non-physical form and denied personhood #as well as being an extension of dirk's selfhood and very literal expression of his self image #this time with extra gender problems as per my original intentions for the fic. which now feel more than a bit heavy handed but whatever #point is hal gets to play up the trapped demon/spirit/almost genie-esque angle isntead of the artificial intelligence schtick in canon #which i am having a lot of fun writing! #he is also a very important plot device. multitalented 💕 #for anyone wondering i&i is NOT an abandoned project its just huge and whipping it into shape is slow going #i've taken breaks to work on other stuff too #ink and iron #i guess that's a tag i should start using #even though i'm not too happy with the title still. lmao

[kreature-ofthenight]

#its about the devine act of self creation #in case that wasnt clear #also about trauma #and unethical science #and crime :) #and I guess romantisicing my own disability to a level of self love #enby stuff #gender envy #the mechanisms #doc ock #fullmetal alchimist brotherhood #john silver #viktor arcane

[queer-lynx]

So uh, I did a thing...

Social constructs, and how it feels to talk about gender as an enby/agender person

#nonbinary #agender #gender stuff #queer #trans #meme i guess #lgbtq #lgbtqia #transgender #genderqueer #lgbt

[ordinarydoodles]

We don't talk about that

Maybe you'll be okay with it now People change, after all. Everyone changes. But I remember how I saw drag queens for the first time on some dumb daytime talk show And I remember thinking "That's weird but as long as they're happy" Until you sat down and calmly told me that they were not evil, but what they were doing was a sin Talking in your teacher voice I was confused, but I nodded anyways Wasn't a sin supposed to hurt someone? I remember how you watched the Oscars in a furious rage the year Brokeback Mountain came out Curled stone-stiff like a gargoyle at the edge of the couch, And how you sat back with a satisfied huff and said "Good, that's the way it should be" when it didn't win Best Picture You don't even care about the Oscars It wasn't even a good movie, it was just boring and sad and no one got a happy ending But, like, it's not about sad films about men kissing, or sins that don't hurt anyone It's not about women in wigs It's not even about hate It's about the ones called the fathers going out and living lives and the ones called the mothers saying home and getting fucked It's about the boy cousins getting multitools and girl cousins getting bath sets It's about me cracking a joke in first grade and the teacher going "quiet!" And a boy two seats over cracking the exact same joke five minutes later and the teacher laughing It's about someone taking you and forcing you, step by excruciating step, to recognize dirt and clean it, anticipate hunger and feed it, see a grown-ass adult man and know that your five-year-old child self is responsible for his care and upkeep whining and fighting and complaining every step of the way (while the boy cousins play Nintendo) and then later they have the nerve to tell you that women are naturally caretakers. It's about how I'm still not exactly sure if the devil scooped out my brain and stuck a stranger behind my eyes, someone who would adorn themselves in long lashes and hunger pangs, if you would even notice It's about how, until I was 19, the only words I had to describe myself were "girl, but wrong" It's about this guy randomly telling me he had feelings for me and me not feeling anything at all towards him, not one thing, not love or curiosity or boredom or disinterest or pity not one thing and I said "okay" because I didn't know what else to say (turns out that was the wrong thing to say) It's about being body-checked out of the way when some guy lurches forward to pull open the door that I was just about to open and he holds it open like he's announcing the fucking pope and he's half blocking the doorway and then he kind of glares at me when I sort of awkwardly wriggle past him and don't make eye contact and don't say thank you I didn't ask to play a bit part in your street theater improv I definitely didn't ask to be typecast It's about how being a woman makes you less of a man And you can always be less of a man But you can never be less of a woman It's about a game that isn't fun and no one wins and everyone has to play it forever And no one is willing to admit it's a stupid game And the people who do, the people who realize that it can be fun, all the players who say it's not a game want to kill them Like actual death I don't know if I'll ever tell you I never talk to you anyways and I'm pretty sure that if we went to some gallery that was unexpectedly displaying Electric Fan (Feel It Motherfuckers) That even if I explained the story behind it, the deliberate disregard, the lovers torn apart and denied a final comfort, the history of all the people who were erased by their families, (the unspoken question of what you would erase-and-replace on my gravestone) you would still wonder why I was making a scene crying in front of a stupid box fan You're embarrassing yourself Thank goodness we don't have any of that in our family

#tried to take a nap after a truly horrible day at work but instead this came out #This isn't about one particular person. The 'you' is a lot of different people throughout my life. #personal stuff #my writing #gender #lgbtq #spoken word #poetry #some kind of rant maybe? I don't know what to call this. Train of thought kind of thing I guess.

[lover-of-skellies]

I have a sibling who's questioning their gender and may be a demi boy (maybe? I don't quite grasp demi genders yet, but I'm trying). They want to experiment with that and work up the confidence to tell our mom eventually, but our mom is.... not exactly very open to gender discussions

She acts like trans people are weirdos, and she's in the group of people who think they/them and neo pronouns are stupid, and. While I don't think she'd throw out my sibling or do anything super extreme like that, I can only do so much to be supportive here

I listen to my sibling, I let them talk about their gender stuff, and I ask questions and give feedback when they ask for it. There's a lot I don't get yet, but again, I'm trying ^^" does anyone have advice here, regarding any part of the situation? There's nothing that can be done as far as our mom goes, but my sibling and I are open to advice and encouragement and things

#not skeleton stuff #rambles #tw slight transphobia #i guess?? #idk man #tw gender phobia #gender talk #idk how to tag this #if anyone wants me to tag this as something specific i will #just let me know #advice welcome

[automatonknight]

id: a digital drawing of a sentry from ultrakill, showing it in full view. it’s slightly turned to the left, standing up right with its left paw lifted slightly off the ground. the background is black with a blue rectangle behind the sentry and there’s also a blue outline around the machine. end id

#listen. all machines in ultrakill ale extremely gender and the designs are awesomesauce BUT. but i do like sentries this teeny tiny bit more #they're my. faves :] #art #fanart #ultrakill #sentry ultrakill #this is very stiff and stuff but it was more of a study of sort?? i guess. love these girls so much

[linddzz]

I do think a lot of the exploration of "what it means to be a woman" in Barbie was very heteronormative focused. Which like...didn't bother me much but it did mean that America's big speech made me check out a bit because it didn't resonate. It mostly reminded me of all of the "being a woman is suffering" straight feminism I see that always makes me be like huh...can't relate so while she was going on I was just like...man in all honesty being a straight woman seems like it suuucckksss glad I don't have all That. Glad it resonated with other people.

#barbie #i guess being A Woman is so far down on the things i focus a lot of my self ID on that i have trouble relating to a LOT of -gestures- that #i have other criticisms mostly in that I THINK the main gender focus of the movie was on how like #any power structure based on gender and a society that dictates how genders relate is gonna hurt everyone #but tbh i think they tried grappling too much stuff so some of it got muddled #like uh #i took the barbies manipulation of the kens as a toxic femininity thing relating to women becoming manipulative and hurtful as 'empowerment' #but ngl i cant say for sure that the narrative actually condemns it?? it was rushed #i loved it but also i think its a movie where like...if youre into it youre into it #and that may depend on what flavor of Gender Shit you take away from it #and its hard to pick out what flavor the movie wants you to take

[demiromantic-daily]

had a lovely pride and at the end someone ran up to me and gave me a homemade aro bracelet which they were apparently trying to give to all the aro people there and so that was like the sweetest thing ever, shoutout to that person

#mine #including them i think that is three aro people total i saw #i sat through parts of the parade so i could have missed someone when i couldn't see #personal #one of the other aro people was in a float with a sign like not all love is romantic #or something #i waved my flag at them and their float neighbour noticed and pointed me out and we waved our flags at each other for a minute there #that was also nice :) #and all the trans stuff was lovely #i forgot my pronoun pin that was a whoopsie #but i did get they/themmed the only time i was gendered by someone there so guess i was androgynous enough whoo

[theflikchic]

Okay so I've never talked about this to anyone but when I saw that in Wish, all the friends are based on the Seven Dwarves and that Bashful is portrayed by a teenage girl...it felt like time.

I don't think y'all understand- when I was five and obsessed with Snow White, I thought Bashful was a girl. I mean, I knew he was meant to be a guy. But the fact that Bashful was a guy DID NOT compute in my child brain even though he (like it feels even weird to call him a "he") has a huge ass beard. Because I was so used to seeing cartoon girl characters have eyelashes as their defining girl feature, the image of a guy character with big thick eyelashes was BEYOND me. I googled Bashful again just now and like, does it make sense??? That child-me saw this character and was like "yeah that's a girl, in my heart I believe that's a girl"???

That's not even the only weird gender thing I considered about the dwarves as a child and you have to understand, I did not know Discworld existed. But I was already on the train and speeding towards the destination. It just took me like several decades to reach it.

#i guess dwarves have always been queer to me #disney wish #wish #snow white #snow white and the seven dwarfs #gender stuff #discworld #terry pratchett #disney #movies

[meowsticmarvels]

on a completely different note in regards to my toshiroposting. spoilers under the cut again

are we going to talk about how his persona is. explicitly referred to with she/her in contrast to. toshiro who's only referred to with he/him. i mean there is the oddity that ernesto is 1. gender flipped che guevara???? 2. based on his friend from high school (because erina) but despite that a persona is. still an aspect of yourself. toshiro you've got some gender to think about

#persona 5 #p5 #p5t #persona 5 tactica #toshiro kasukabe #bit funny. this doesn't really happen that often with personas #the only ones i can really think of are like #naoto (i mean i guess. i hc him as transmasc anyway) and ken #naoto has the added gender stuff but its also bc of the genders of sukuna-hikona and nemesis the deities respectively #but ernesto???????? #Girl What? #take this opportunity to hc toshiro anyway you please gender wise. bit crazy #also take this opportunity to draw toshiro in a skirt if that is what your heart desires #i mean i'll reblog #trevor.txt

[asleepinawell]

aro/ace/ast legend Leveva

#final fantasy xiv #ffxiv #final fantasy 14 #ffxivedit #gamingedit #leveva byrde #myedit #mp #she also has a gender thing going on #or not going on as the case may be #ast is the class for ambiguous gender i guess #me and my purple-haired blorbos smh #jannequinard #kyokuho #ast don't have time for that stuff they are trying to deal with their ten thousand step long healing and buff rotation

[argo-bolo]

love that gender doesn't really matter on the qsmp unless it's funny and/or queer

and as someone who's an agender nonbinary, i support this message

#argo-bolo originals #qsmp #not watching anyone's streams rn but yeah #i'm referring to things like gendered stuff like wife or grandma not really pronouns you get me? #like gendered descriptors i guess #let all cubitos be genderqueer/gender nonconforming unless stated otherwise