"its okay to be not okay" replacements
["its okay to not be okay" replacements]
in the case of toxic positivity.
as my qpp pointed out, the lack of the use of the phrase "its okay to not be okay", needs to be normalized. we need to normalize not being okay, but change our phrasing so we dont make this "not okay" feeling seem like a defult emotion rather than the signal it is.
while its normal to not feel okay that doesnt mean its actually okay to feel that way. feeling bad, sad, down, hurt, guilt, etc are all signs something is wrong and it needs working out.
saying its okay to feel that way brushes off the whole point that youre supposed to look into why you feel that way.
i also found an article bringing up a similar point here(link)
here's some better phrasing and quotes from a conversation we had on discord:
3. "why dont you tell me about it/how you feel/your day, and we'll figure something out?"
this one offers a space to talk and figure out more about the "not okay" feeling as well as what may have caused it. sometimes people need to hear that its normal in the way that they'll feel heard.
4. to quote myself.
"its normal to feel, but this feeling is telling you something is wrong and you need help working it out."
feeling and having emotions is normal, its humanoid, its what a majority of living things if not all expirience. you are not to be ashamed for that and being made aware or reminded of the functions of feelings in general can help avoid or lessen that shame they might feel on top.
5. "its not wrong to feel a certain way"
you dont have to necissarily encourage them to talk, but letting them know their emotions arent something they can turn off or on like a light switch let alone be at fault for, is a good start to things. its not wrong to have a reaction, thats normal, what you need to figure out is why you reacted that way. get to the route of the feeling.
6. "feeling bad is acceptible/normal"
a little weak but again, still a good start like other phrases.
7. "expiriencing (emotion) is completely natural"
more of another sentance starter than an entire phrase itself but its a good prompt and echorages digging deeper and opening up without feeling like youre weird/in the wrong/out of place for feeling that way.
of course you are entirely free to add your own phrases and/or even alter these to the specific context youre in, as you see fit. the more options the better and easier communication may be.
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Morning on the Seine, 1896
"Je veux peindre l’air dans lequel se trouve le pont, la maison, le bateau. La beauté de l’air où ils sont, et ce n’est rien d’autre que l’impossible."
– Claude Monet
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If We Shadows Have Offended [Shakespeare For You]
🎭 If we shadows have offended, Think but this, and all is mended,That you have but slumb’red here,While these visions did appear.
And this weak and idle theme,No more yielding but a dream,Gentles, do not reprehend,If you pardon, we will mend.And as I am an honest Puck,If we have unearned luckNow to ‘scape the serpent’s tongue,We will make amends ere long;Else the Puck a liar call.So, good night…
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can not stop saying “my beautiful princess with a disorder…” to inanimate objects that are misbehaving or challenging me
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"There's a Palestine that dwells inside all of us, a Palestine that needs to be rescued: a free Palestine where all people regardless of color, religion, or race coexist; a Palestine where the meaning of the word "occupation" is only restricted to what the dictionary says rather than those plenty of meanings and connotations of death, destruction, pain, suffering, deprivation, isolation and restrictions that Israel has injected the word with"
-- Refaat Alareer, from Gaza Writes Back
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Bring back wishing death upon your enemies because otherwise you're not enough of a hater, you're just a disliker
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