Some Asexual/Aromantic Reminders for Fandom
1. There is no justification for thinking “I like this character better when they’re not aro/ ace.”
Aces/aros aren’t better when they’re allos.
Gays aren’t better when they’re straight.
What that really says: “I don’t like asexuality. I don’t like aromantics.” No matter how you dress it up.
I feel like I shouldn’t have to explain why this is wrong. No character is better when you make them less special.
2. Saying “asexuals can have sex” is a huge oversimplification. When aces have sex it doesn’t make them allosexual, they don’t feel the same things. It doesn’t mean they even enjoy sex. It doesn’t mean they can have sex with a partner. It doesn’t mean they can do it more than once. And it doesn’t mean they have “fixed” themselves and can now love properly.
When bisexuals have sex with someone of the opposite gender it doesn’t make them straight. It doesn’t mean they “fixed” their homosexuality.
3. Erasure can happen in cannon and head cannon. You don’t have to be a professional to participate in it. When social media is flooded with images of an asexual character in sexual situations with no acknowledgement of asexuality, it’s impossible to see the asexuality through it. Maybe it’s not erased, it’s buried in an avalanche.
4. I can name five canonical Aro or Ace characters. The rest are allosexual. In every movie, book, tv show, and comic that’s ever been written. Throughout all of time.
Sherlock Holmes (original novels) who is constantly paired non platonically with Irene Adler or John Watson in his incarnations. No hate on those ships, just pointing out an example.
SpongeBob SquarePants who is asexual because real life sea sponges are asexual.
Rafael Santiago (Shadowhunter Chronicles) who was portrayed in the books as cold and indifferent to people’s feelings.
Isaac (Heartstopper) whose entire story is about being Asexual.
Alastor (Hazbin Hotel) who actually has a personality, a backstory, goals outside of being accepted as asexual, a dynamic story arc, and complex relationships with friends/enemies that are actually fun to watch. Honestly the best ace/aro rep I’ve ever seen: a guy with no interest in sex who actually has a sense of humor!
When the ratio is a million: 5, it’s not ridiculous for aces and aros to ask people to ship someone else as allosexual. Literally anyone else. This can’t possibly be the only option.
5. Creators have a history of not defending asexual/aromantic characters. They don’t fight to make sure people respect their sexuality. It’s always better for business and social media trends to encourage shipping. Sex sells. Romance too. They may be the authority on a character, that doesn’t mean they’re an authority on aces/aros.
6. You can’t show a visual of someone being asexual or aromantic. Not in the same way you can show two girls kissing or men getting married. You can show platonic relationships, but that doesn’t prove the absence of attraction. All fan art with ace/aro people requires context. It’s not hard to scribble a note here or put in a tag or something. It’s also super sweet to see in a post.
7. Shipping and fandom should be about fun. Fun for everyone. Ship freely and kindly.
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I just remembered how Kit told Julian once something about his "weird brother" and Julian (being Julian) just went immediately like "Ty is not weird", and our beautiful Kit looked at Jules (like if he said something completely stupid) and said "I know, Ty is not weird, is autistic. I'm talking about Mark". In that moment I knew guys, I fucking KNEW THAT KIT WAS THE STANDARD!!!
Let me tell you, I just love how Kit doesn't even hesitate because Ty is neurodiverse and love him like doing it is the easiest thing. As it should be!
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Seasons of shadowhunters Kickstarter!🍂
Cassandra Clare just announced a Kickstarter project with new (and not so new) shadowhunters content to be sent out throughout 2024 and 2025
It includes:
a physical copy of Secrets of Blackthorn Hall
an updated version of the Notable Shadowhunters flower card book
a collection of four novellas (at least one of which is set in the shadowhunter world) with covers by jenny zemanek
a romance themed short story collection
a journal with a compass on the cover (like thomas'!) and 12 artworks by cassandra jean
and if you back the project in the first 48 hours you get the 1st chapter of the wicked powers sent to you in 2024
It launches in November and you can sign up to be notified here
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Mundane!Malec neighbors AU
Mundane AU, where there is a bit of an age-gap between Alec and Izzy, maybe about 10 years, and 25 year old Alec has custody over his teenage sister.
And for most of her life, Izzy was a bit of a tomboy, and Alec was just fine with that.
But now suddenly she wants to try girly clothes and make-up, and gets frustrated when she doesn't get things right following a youtube tutorial about applying shades of mascara? lipstick? something that goes on the face, Alec is almost sure!
Now Alec does not want to see his sister upset, but he has no clue about make-up and color coordination and shades and stuff, either.
HOWEVER, his pretty neighbor, who is stylish and pretty and uses make-up and is pretty , has all the experience that Izzy could need!
So now all Alec has to do is go over, knock on the door, and ask Magnus Bane to please help his sister get ready for this party that all her friends are going to because she will die if she doesn't show up looking her best.
DIE, Alec!
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Can we talk about this parallel?
„Ty was near Kit, as he almost always, like a magnet clicking into place.“
- Emma Carstairs about KitTy in QOAAD
„[…] Emma with her hair like a waterfall of amber light, and Julian starting to walk up the beach toward her. They were always going toward each other, those two, like magnets.“
- Kit Herondale about Blackstairs in QOAAD
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GUYSSSSS
IM DOING FLIPS. WILL IS BACK. WE ARE SO BACK GUYS.
AND KIERARKTINA. I MISS THEM ALL THE TIME IM STARVED FOR POLYCULE CONTENT.
AND THOMASTAIR!!! AND CLACE!!! im going CRAZY
and LUKE AND JOCELYN IN THE PAST ??? im REALLY hoping its during the circle time because i always find stories about the early days of the circle SO interesting. oh but i bet it will be ANGSTYY. im SO intrigued about them
cover reveal tomorrow!!!!
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