#teenage grief

[teengriefsucks]

Happy holidays, to everyone who celebrates. For stories and advice on how to cope with grief during this season, check out our "Holidays" category here.

#teen grief #grief support #grief quote #teenager post #teenage grief #quote #festive #Christmas #winter #holiday blues #it's okay to be sad #sad quotes #grief journey #griefawareness

[bixels]

Learning that fans hated Applejack and called her "boring" is crazyyy to me because I genuinely, unironically believe AJ's the most complex character in the main six.

Backstory-wise, she was born into a family of famers/blue collar workers who helped found the town she lives in. She grew up a habitual liar until she had the bad habit traumatized outta her. She lost both her parents and was orphaned at a young age, having to step up as her baby sister's mother figure. She's the only person in the main gang who's experienced this level of loss and grief (A Royal Problem reveals that AJ dreams about memories of being held by her parents as a baby). She moved to Manhattan to live with her wealthy family members, only to realize she'll never fit in or be accepted, even amongst her own family. The earlier seasons imply she and her family had money problems too (In The Ticket Master, AJ wants to go to the gala to earn money to buy new farm equipment and afford hip surgery for her grandma).

Personality-wise, she's a total people-pleaser/steamroller (with an occasional savior complex) who places her self worth on her independence and usefulness for other people, causing her to become a complete workaholic. In Applebuck Season, AJ stops taking care of herself because of her obsessive responsibilities for others and becomes completely dysfunctional. In Apple Family Reunion, AJ has a tearful breakdown because in she thinks she dishonored her family and tarnished her reputation as a potential leader –– an expectation and anxiety that's directly tied to her deceased parents, as shown in the episode's ending scene. In The Last Roundup, AJ abandons her family and friends out of shame because believes she failed them by not earning 1st place in a rodeo competition. She completely spirals emotionally when she isn't able to fulfill her duties toward others. Her need to be the best manifests in intense pride and competitiveness when others challenge her. And when her pride's broken, she cowers and physically hides herself.

Moreover, it's strongly implied that AJ has a deep-seated anger. The comics explore her ranting outbursts more. EQG also obviously has AJ yelling at and insulting Rarity in a jealous fit just to hurt her feelings (with a line that I could write a whole dissection on). And I'm certain I read in a post somewhere that in a Gameloft event, AJ's negative traits are listed as anger.

Subtextually, a lot of these flaws and anxieties can be (retroactively) linked to her parents' death, forcing her to grow up too quickly to become the adult/caregiver of the family (especially after her big brother becomes semiverbal). Notice how throughout the series, she's constantly acting as the "mom friend" of the group (despite everything, she manages to be the most emotionally mature of the bunch). Notice how AJ'll switch to a quieter, calmer tone when her friends are panicking and use soothing prompts and questions to talk them through their emotions/problems; something she'd definitely pick up while raising a child. Same with her stoicism and reluctance at crying or releasing emotions (something Pinkie explicitly points out). She also had a childhood relationship with Rara (which, if you were to give a queer reading, could easy be interpreted as her first 'aha' crush), who eventually left her life. (Interestingly enough, AJ also has an angry outburst with Rara for the same exact reasons as with EQG Rarity; jealous, upset that someone else is using and changing her). It's not hard to imagine an AJ with separation anxiety stemming from her mother and childhood friend/crush leaving. I'm also not above reading into AJ's relationship with her little sister (Y'all ever think about how AB never got to know her parents, even though she shares her father's colors and her mother's curly hair?).

AJ's stubbornness is a symptom of growing up too quickly as well. Who else to play with your baby sister when your brother goes nonverbal (not to discount Big Mac's role in raising AB)? Who else to wake up in the middle of the night to care for your crying baby sister when your grandma needs her rest? When you need to be 100% all the time for your family, you tend to become hard-stuck with a sense of moral superiority. You know what's best because you have to be your best because if you're aren't your best, then everything'll inevitably fall apart and it'll be your fault. And if you don't know what's best –– if you've been wrong the whole time –– that means you haven't been your best, which means you've failed the people who rely on you, which means you can't fulfill your role in the family/society, which makes you worthless . We've seen time and time again how this compulsive need to be right for the sake of others becomes self-destructive (Apple Family Reunion, Sound of Silence, all competitions against RD). We've seen in The Last Roundup how, when no longer at her best, AJ would rather remove herself from her community than confront them because she no longer feels of use to them.

But I guess it is kinda weird that AJ has "masculine" traits and isn't interested in men at all. It's totally justified that an aggressively straight, misogynistic male fandom would characterize her as a "boring background character." /s

At the time of writing this, it's 4:46AM.

#mlp #yeah i wrote this last night during insomnia. #yeah i know an embarrassing amount of crap about this kids show #but whatever it's my hyperfixation i'll store as much useless information as i want!!! #i'm gay and neurodivergent i have an excuse #in case you needed more proof that aj's my favorite character #personal #delete later #unless you like this analysis stuff #i get why they didn't reveal aj's parent's death until way later and why they didn't do much with it but i wish they did #cuz narratively there could've been so much material with aj's grief. like. i feel like we gloss over the fact that she lost her #mother and father as a teenager #i tried keeping my personal hcs out of this to keep it unbiased #but i'll put some in the tags #involving rarijack –– i think aj can be (but not always) very self-conscious about her relationship with rarity #anxieties that she's not the right fit or that rarity will move away and leave her some day or that another woman will take her attention #(like in rollercoaster of friendship?? nudge nudge??). basic seperation anxiety stuff #long post #regarding applebloom whenever i think about her and her parents i think about that scene in steven universe where steven looks up at #a portrait of his mother and openly wonders what kind of sack lunches she would've made for him. that episode still fucks me up

[onionninjasstuff]

i present to you the au that has been brewing up in my head for a couple of months now, dr steals-your-ending (thanks sm @scatterbrainedbot for coming up with the name, it slaps)

i need future mikey focused shenanigans like air, so heres my take. idk when i have the time and energy to work on it more but im glad i at least have this bad boy of a comic out of my system for now <3

#rise of the teenage mutant ninja turtles #rottmnt #rottmnt mikey #rottmnt bad future #dr steals-your-ending #dsye au #rottmnt leo #rottmnt raph #rottmnt donnie #rottmnt draxum #tw sibling death #tw family death #tw grief #oh wow this took forever

[prideprejudce]

please tell me it’s not true that the one billionaire passenger coerced his terrified 19 year old son into going in that underwater coffin because it was father’s day weekend

#oceangate #titanic #the titanic #the titan #i think the kid is the only one i feels genuine grief over #everyone else lived at least five decades but this kid was barely out of his teenage years #and if he was terrified to go??!? then don’t make him go??? #he obv had better instincts than the rest of them

[turtleblogatlast]

Based on this post of mine, haha.

Leo finds The Last Unicorn. Core memories are made.

#rottmnt #rise of the teenage mutant ninja turtles #rottmnt leo #rise leo #rottmnt headcanons #rise splinter #that movie is a rollercoaster #little Leo in his little British orphan boy pajamas should probably not be watching it essentially alone #Leo going through all stages of grief AND fear from this movie #his insomnia was NOT helped by this movie #‘you won’t let me leave right? I don’t wanna go’ flash forward to Leo trapping himself in the prison dimension #all while his father can only listen in horror

[gooeseyleo]

Had the idea that Splinter needed to wean Leo off needing Donnie to sleep cuz lil Donnie started needing his own space, but it was a struggle. Til Splinter discovered the secret dough rolling technique and on occasion adult Leo will wrap himself in a ball as a self-comforting method when he’s missing his family most.

#gooseyleo #save rise of the tmnt #rise of the tmnt #save rottmnt #rise of the teenage mutant ninja turtles #goosey #rottmnt leo #rottmnt au #grief

[lovely-abeille]

on the cruelness of fifteen

@/petrichara // the shape of a girl, joan macleod // @/cowboyvamplikeme // fifteen, taylor swift

#web weave #web weaving #fifteen #childhood #teenagers #parallels #lyric parallels #song lyrics #fragments #poetry #growing old #growing up #inner child #grief #friendship #emotional #relationships

[cherrytraveller]

i don't feel quite like myself turning into someone else

Twitter || Ko-fi || Instagram

deitifies F!Mikey once again to Nothing More's Spirits now with a wallpaper version for desktop!!

#rottmnt #rottmnt movie #rottmnt mikey #future mikey #rottmnt fanart #hamato mikey #hamato michelangelo #tmnt #rise of the teenage mutant ninja turtles #teenage mutant ninja turtles #clip studio paint #digital art #fanart #digital illustration #travellerdraws #i was buzzing to get this done all week tbh #at this point im just gonna stop telling myself to not draw this guy weeping #bc obviously its not working #something something spirit of war full of rage and grief #back at it again with the F!Mikey lore nobody knows about

[nomagicartz]

"tell them. tell them the truth."

#i heard the song united in grief and became unwell so i drew this #rottmnt #rise of the teenage mutant ninja turtles #rottmnt future leo #rottmnt leo #future leonardo #rottmnt raph #rottmnt donnie

[krystaln78]

Grief is love’s souvenir. It’s our proof that we once loved. Grief is the receipt we wave in the air that says to the world: Look! Love was once mine. I love well. Here is my proof I paid the price.

— Glennon Doyle Melton, Love Warrior

#grief #dealing with grief #grief poetry #tw grief #loss #emotions #feelings #on love #love #love quotes #feeling #grief quotes #grief poem #souvenir #experience #glennon doyle #Glennon Doyle melton #love warrior #teenagers #poetry #relatable stuff #words #quotes #young poets #relatable quotes #teen poetry

[hamletthedane]

Shakespeare: I will create two teenage characters who are explicitly proto-postmodern examinations of the nature of character and fate within fictional narrative. I am their creator and - like their parents within the narrative - I exercise complete control over their fates, no matter how much they struggle against it. They are born like Athena from my mind and doomed to die by my pen, by my complicity in the narrative negligence of them, by my own actions and wishes-

Actor: cool, what's their names?

Shakespeare, father of twins named Judith and Hamnet: uhh…. Juliet and Hamlet.

#obsessed with the Juliet/Hamlet parallels #And how they’re victims of narrative #romeo and juliet #hamlet #shakespeare #willy shakes #these plays are not Shakespeare’s therapy sessions nosiree #dealing with the grief of a child’s death by writing stories where teenagers die because of their parents’ lack of care…. heartbreaking ngl. #the guilt and anguish and horror is just leaking out of the page

[teengriefsucks]

Read "From Happy Holidays to Sad Holidays" on Teenage Grief Sucks.

#teen grief #loss #grief #grief quotes #griefawareness #holiday #sad quotes #christmas #griefrecovery #teenage grief #teenage grief sucks #dealing with grief #grieving #life quotes #quotes

[tangledinink]

i can regret the situation without regretting my choices. i would never take it back.

#would you believe ive had this in my head for a long time? #it just suddenly became time to put it to paper #bluh bluh #you cant stop me from drawing donnie with a tail and a snoot #tw sibling death #cw sibling death #sibling death #tw family death #cw family death #family death #tw grief #cw grief #grief #death #rottmnt #rottmnt disaster twins #rise disaster twins #rise of the teenage mutant ninja turtles #rise of the tmnt #tmnt 2018 #we all know whos responsible #i dont need to tag them

[indieyuugure]

(Whump-tober 13alt: Grief)

Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance…At least he only has to wait 3 weeks instead of 3 months…

#tmnt #whumptober #grief #indie’s turtles #indie tmnt #teenage mutant ninja turtles #ninja turtles #I literally had nothing else to post #Not on time anyway.

[sweeneydino]

Same as it never was.

Just 2003 Donnie petting some birds, nothing else.

vv alts below vv

That episode messed me up bro.

#tmnt #teenage mutant ninja turtles #art #tmnt 2003 #tmnt 2003 donatello #donatello 2003 #tmnt donatello #angst #grief #SAINW #tmnt sainw #birds #crows are awesome yo #how many hidden meanings can you find #hug your traumatized kids #donatello #feel free to use #eyestrain

[lithium-poet]

unknown // instagram, geloy concepcion // unknown // in the event this doesn't fall apart, shannon lee barry // oh earth we're briefly gorgeous, ocean vuong // instagram, geloy concepcion // riko (aribachi) // a grief observed, c.s.lewis // jamie anderson // @sarakleign // macbeth, william shakespeare // unknown // bright dead things, ada limòn // would've could've should've, taylor swift // dark paradise, lana del rey // haunted, dean gioia // fourth of july, sufjan stevens // perfumebathing // unknown // growing around grief, lois tonkin

𝓁𝑜𝓋𝑒, 𝒶𝓇𝒶𝒷𝑒𝓁𝓁𝒶

#tw grief #web weaving #web weave #web weavings #on grief #on love #spilled words #shakespeare #william shakespeare #taylor swift #lana del rey #lana del ray aesthetic #lana del ray aka lizzy grant #lizzy grant #born to die #sufjan stevens #girlblog #girlblogging #this is a girlblog #girlhood #grief #loss #dealing with grief #grieving #grief poetry #poetry #hell is a teenage girl #poetic #spilled poetry #poems