#varioriented positivity

[thee-radio-host-is-a-kookaburra]

fixed some mspec mono exclusionist posts

inspired by @fixing-bad-posts

(1) Truth be told, you are radical, cool, and inclusive for being mspec lesbian. You are literally good man.

(2) Important reminder that contradictory labels just means you're so hot!

(3) being mspec gay makes me gay

(4) Just a reminder that mspec lesbians exist and are lesbian. Happy Pride Month!

(5) mspec lesbians interact with me <3

(6) It's exclusionist to hate mspec lesbians

#fixing bad posts #mspec lesbian #mspec gay #mspec straight #mspec friendly #mspec safe #bi lesbian #pan lesbian #bi gay #pan gay #mspec mono #varioriented #varioriented positivity #mspec mono positivity #mspec lesbian positivity #mspec gay positivity #contradictory labels

[zootzbootz]

"you can't be bi and lesbian!"

"you can't be straight and gay!"

"you can't be allo and aspec!"

"you can't be a lesbian man!"

"you can't be a vincian woman!"

"you can't be cis and trans!"

multigender, abrosexual, and varioriented people have left the chat

In all reality, "contradictory" labels and the people who use them are wonderful/gen

#discourse #queer #pro mspec #varioriented #abrosexual #multigender #straight gay #bi lesbian #cistrans #lesboy #turigirl #positivity #mogai safe #lgbtq #mspec safe

[raspberry-vari]

Varioriented wallpaper/background

This is from the mobile app PolyGen.

#varioriented positivity #varior #vario #vari #varioriented #variorientation #sam #split attraction #split atrraction model #wallpaper #background #polygon #cryptocurrency heist hacker poly network hack stolen usd 600 million ethereum ether binance chain polygon poly network

[cubeflag]

Varioriented flag by @aroatem

(A person whose sexual and romantic orientations do not ‘match’ (such as aromantic and pansexual).)

#varioriented #varioriented flag #varioriented positivity #varioriented pride #lgbt #lgbt pride #lgbt flag #pride icons #3d cube #cube #3d #image #cube flag #flag #pixel art #pixel cube #overall cube flag #requested

[transmasc-wizard]

bigender girlguys who use both straight & gay as labels i literally love u /p

#bigender positivity #if ur confused here's some examples: #a bigender person who only likes men and considers themself straight (bc wlm) and gay (bc mlm) #a bigender person who only likes women and considers themself gay (bc wlw) and straight (bc mlw) #a bigender person who likes both genders that they are and therefore connects to gay (bc wlw/mlm) and straight (because wlm/mlw) #certain varioriented bigender people too #there are more probably but i am tired and am basically saying u are cool #(fun factL im not personally a girlguy bigender person but i am bigender/multigender) #(its. complicated and i may ramble to get it out later)

[variorientedcultureis]

varioriented culture is supporting mspec gays and mspec lesbians

.

#varioriented culture is #varioriented #mspec #mspec gay #mspec lesbian #gay #lesbian #anon #100% TRUE ANON #THERE IS A REASON WHY THIS BLOG WAS MADE #I MADE IT BC SOMEONE ON THIS SITE SAID CRAP ABOUT MY BUDDY WHO IS *MAYBE* HETEROROMANTIC DEMIBISEXUAL #SOMETHING ABOUT HER *HAVING INTERNALIZED HOMOPHOBIA* & HOW YOU CANT F*CK SOMEONE W/OUT FALLING IN LOVE #(which ok have they never heard of a 1 night stand?) #& I WAS SUPER UPSET BC OF THAT & I WAS WORRIED BC I'M ALSO VARIORIENTED (DEMIBIROMANTIC ASEXUAL) #SO I DECIDED I NEEDED SOME VARIORIENTED POSITIVITY IN MY LIFE #& SO I MADE THIS BLOG

[indigo--montoya]

Good morning to biromantic omnisexuals and biromantic omnisexuals only.

#Weirdly specific well-wishes #Good morning #Bi #biromantic #Omni #Omnisexual #Mspec #mspec positivity #varioriented #Variorientation positivity #queer stuff #Original post

[arco-pluris]

I find it's funny that I had an internalized phobic phase, consider me ex-ex-gay nowadays but only "mogai" (aka neolabels) filled my sentiments towards my identities.

Labels like homosexual and bisexual seem a bit scary when used for me because of this traumatic event I experienced, that's why I avoid and reject this type of macrolabel reductionism and monolabel supremacism.

In the same way, a GNC binary trans guy who used to identify as demiboy, or something else, can feel this identity is uncomfortable for him, I can feel homo-/bi- identifiers misrepresent my personhood.

Are you going to say these gender skepticists are just unconsciously non-binary with internalized exorsexism/nbphobia‽

Please take care about other people's subjectivities. I feel contemplated/represented enough with my split attraction model and identity flexibility. Stop summing everything up as "just say bi".

#mogai positivity #gnc #trans #transgender #demiboy #bisexual #homosexual #gay #ex ex #sam #split attraction model #varioriented #pro mogai #anti gatekeeping

[tobastreasury]

Tulipian! 🌷

Tulipian! An inclusive term for all folks who are m-spec, mono-spec, and a-spec. This could be because a they’re abro-, because they’re is varioriented/use the SAM, or because they simply identify with terms from all three spectrums.

For example, a pan vincian aroace person like myself could be tulipian.

[Image ID: A flag with six stripes. From top to bottom, these colors are purple, pink, white, yellow, orange, and red. In the center is a light aqua symbol of a tulip surrounded by a thin white border. End ID]

Flag Meaning:

Purple for the complexity of identities and a-spec orientations

Pink for positivity and queerness

White for respect, inclusivity and m-spec orientations

Yellow for joy and confidence in one's identity (also includes being unapologetically queer)

Orange for understanding and appreciation of tulipian identities

Red for love and mono-spec identities

Blue of the tulip represents individuality and uniqueness

Archived post: https://archive.ph/kYHOJ

[Image ID: A flag with six stripes. From top to bottom, these colors are purple, pink, white, yellow, orange, and red. In the center is a light aqua symbol of a tulip. End ID]

[Image ID: A flag with six stripes. From top to bottom, these colors are purple, pink, white, yellow, orange, and red. End ID]

#tulipian #m-spec #mspec #mono-spec #monospec #a-spec #aspec #stellian #abro #SAM #varioriented #tobas coins #tobas flags #tulipian coining #mogai coining #orientation #orientation coining #mogai term #lunian #solian

[gray-ace-space]

tag system

for some reason tumblr won't let me add new links to this, so the tags added recently are not clickable, sorry.

general categories

og post - posts posted by this blog or my main

positivity

information

community

history

art

aes (aesthetic)

merch

humor

insp (inspiration)

aphobia - aphobia is discussed or argued with, but not directly present

internalized aphobia

grayphobia - same principle

anti exclus

amatonormativity

relationships

video

psa

signal boost

asks

submissions

poll

heart to heart - a specific series of posts i make exploring my own feelings about my gray asexuality and experiences with it (heads up for possible negativity)

this acespec thinks x is hot

glitter text

acespec identities

gray ace

ace

acespec - blanket tag for all acespec identities minus gray ace

demi ace

aceflux

aego

aspec

ace men

ace women

alloace

aroace

non sam

acemid

oriented aroace

angled aroace

caed

lith / akoi 

fray 

cupio 

recipro 

quoi 

spike 

orchid

ena

bellus

ficto

myr

volo

apres

idem

sequence

auto

placio

nebula

demiaego

graydemi / demigray

aegoaceflux / aegoflux

graycupio / cupiogray

sex favorable

sex repulsed / apothi

sex averse

sex indifferent

sex ambivalent

other lgbtq identities

sexuality

gay

lesbian

bi

pan

ply (polysexual)

omni (omnisexual)

mspec

abro (considered aspec also)

wlw / sapphic

mlm

nblw / wlnb

nblm / mlnb

nblnb

mspec lesbian + bi lesbian

mspec gay + bi gay

bambi lesbian

gender

trans

nonbinary

genderqueer

agender

multigender

genderfluid

genderfae

genderfaun

genderflux

girlflux

boyflux

bigender

trigender

polygender

pangender

demigirl

demiboy

demigender

maverique

neutrois

androgyne

arospec

aro

gray aro

demiro

aroflux

arospec

alloaro

aromid

other

queer

questioning

intersex

polyam

queerplatonic

two spirit

lesboy

turigirl

varioriented

stone

intersectionality

poc

black 

indigenous

latine

asian

jewish

desi

muslim

disability

neurodivergent

autistic

bpd

ocd

adhd

trauma

kink

consent

sex work

body positivity

health

dates and events

pride month (june)

wrath month / disability pride month (july)

aro week (week after VD)

international women's day (march 8)

trans visibility day (march 31)

lesbian visibility week (april 26 and surrounding week)

pan visibility day (may 24)

mspec lesbian week (may 26 and surrounding week)

international lesbian day (oct 8)

trans awareness week (week before nov 20)

trans day of remembrance / tdor (nov 20)

pan week (december 6-12)

(no separate tags for acespec events bc it is ace day every day here)

fandom things

alastor - (from hazbin hotel, i posted enough about him that he merited his own tag

good omens

content warnings - blacklist as needed

tw aphobia - aphobia directly present and sometimes quite intense

tw grayphobia - same principle

tw transphobia

tw nbphobia

tw terfs

tw homophobia

tw biphobia

tw intersexism / tw perisexism

tw fatphobia

tw abuse

tw conversion therapy

tw sexual harassment

tw sexual assault

tw medical abuse

tw violence

tw guns

tw drugs

tw suicide mention

tw self harm

tw religion

tw christianity

tw periods

tw discourse

tw negativity

tw insects

tw body horror

tw blood

tw periods

long post

gifs

flashing

eyestrain

nsfw

languages

spanish

#og post #information #tag system #tag guide #gray ace #ace #acespec #demi ace #aceflux #aego #aspec #lgbtq #queer #inclusionist #ace positivity #asexual positivity #asexual art #asexual aesthetic #gray asexual #graysexual #asexual #demisexual #aegosexual #lgbt #long post

[lgbtqpixelart]

i can't do personal positivity rn for some reason so i'll do some identity wide one cause yes

(they're all /pos but i only added it to some words that you might not immediately see as positive just in case)

alloaros you are stunning

lesbians you are great

nonbinary friends you are awesome

bi women you are terrifying /pos

aros you are marvelous

varioriented people you are amazing

gay men you are handsome

aces you are cool

trans friends you are beautiful

voidpunk aros you are powerful

voidpunk aspecs you are terrific

bi men you rock

nb lesbians you are astonishing /pos

alloaces you are wonderful

aroaces you are magical

perioriented people you are fantastic

pan people you are fabulous

queer people you are excellent

amid/aymid people you are outstanding

omnisexual people you are remarkable

xenogender friends you are stellar

queer people and friends you are incredible

questioning people and friends you are spectacular

people and friends with a super complicated mix of labels you cherry-picked you are unique /pos

people and friends with micro-labels you are wondrous

anyone i haven't mentioned yet because i only have one dysfunctional brain with a terrible memory and i also ran out of adjectives you are splendid and tell me your identities i would love to hear them ^^

(and tell me more adjectives pls i ran out even with a list dskljf)

#googled 'positive adjectives' about halfway through the list and i think it's sorta noticable when i used the list dkjfg #tag yourself #/hj #lgbtq+ #lgbtq+ positivity #positivity #queer #queer positivity #should i tag all the identities i mentioned cause that's a bunch but all of you should hear it #hm #also i spent a whole ass day writing this cause i kept getting distracted by life dfkj #microlabels are awesome btw #like i like both big umbrella terms like queer and microlabels cause it's just really nice to be able to both just give a really broad #overview (am queer) or give a detailed queer address how you want to like that's neat #also i know i didn't mention abrosexual and genderfluid and genderfae and demis and aspecs and so many genders i know and a bunch of #sexualities i just remembered but i actually ran out of adjectives so adjectives please? dkfjg #blog stuff

[specialagentartemis]

Carnival of Aros Round-Up from October 2020: Prioritization

The October 2020 Carnival of Aros theme, “Prioritization,” hosted by @jay-aro​, was a powerful one, and inspired many thoughtful responses - on the priorities of using different labels, on coming out, on using different community spaces, on getting married, and more.  However, a roundup of all the submissions was never collected.  Though I was not the host of that month’s Carnival, I thought it was a shame to see so many great entries languish, so here they are rounded up together for the first time.

🌿 🌿 🌿 🌿 🌿

Michelle (Quiet ‘n’ Queer): Why identifying as aromantic is important to me (as a 36-year-old woman)

As I get older, it’s my aromanticism that makes me feel queer in the world. My peers, siblings and cousins are coupling up and settling down, and here I remain, steadfastly single.  

Allos (menacingaro): COA 10/2020: Identity Prioritization

As someone who prioritizes my aromantic identity over any part of my sexual orientation and sometimes my own gender mayhem, I often find myself in some level of… I wouldn’t say conflict as much as I would say difference from most of the rest of the lgbtq+/queer circles I interact with.

Coyote (theacetheist): Not a Priority

This post, too, is about priorities, but to be more specific, it’s largely a post about deprioritizing. It’s post about my decision to deprioritize the romantic orientation model, and it’s a post about quoiromantic aces like me being deprioritized by a community that likes to claim us, and it’s a post about why getting hitched (as in married) is a logistical priority for me in way that has nothing to do with what gets prioritized in aro community discourse. It’s about politics and it’s about financial insecurity and it’s about the thought of dying. It’s about saying, and being, not a priority.

Kate (venatrixlunaris): Being Asked to Prioritize

I can't "prioritize" one orientation, my aromanticism or asexuality, over each other; that's not how I understand my own experience.  And finding spaces like PillowFort and the ace blogosphere that don't ask me to, that give me the space to figure out how to talk about it, has been liberating.  I have yet to find any aro spaces that allow me the same feeling of freedom to be my whole self.

HM (drivingthesehillsaway): Carnival of aros submission: October 2020

I’ve only had this label for a few months, but it’s so important to me. When I first discovered that I was asexual, I inhaled all the content I could find. But when I discovered that I was aromantic, I was running out of content very quickly.

aro-and-ace-memes-thoughts: Carnival of Aros October 2020: prioritization

Shifting my prioritization to aromanticism and engaging more with the aromantic community was very positive to me. The main focus on the aro community isn’t much “having sex without romance” (or like, isn’t comparable to the alloace focus on the ace community), but more the fact that we have few or no crushes, that is what we all have in common.

Sennkestra (nextstepcake): Identification For Whose Sake

In particular, my relationship with aromanticism is complicated by the fact that I prioritize my aromantic identity in community and activism work largely for the sake of others, and only secondarily for myself.

CharCharChar (charcharcharace): Internalized Arophobia: Be Nice

I realized prioritizing aromanticism (and becoming happier by shaking off my internalized arophobia) was something I wanted to do - but not yet. Self-growth isn't a race. There isn't a cut off date.

Briar Fenrirsbur (keeperofmykeys): Deprioritization

While I can find words to label my experience of romantic attraction and sexual attraction (and I have been able to use varioriented descriptions in the past), I don’t have a sense that my identity is split, really. I did the Questioning and the bi/pan/poly/omni ‘what am I?’ cycling when I was younger, and the simple answer is that I’m not straight.

Autumn (arias-hollow): Carnival of Aros: Prioritization

I'd say that my aromanticism has actually become increasingly important over time, as I used to be unsure if I was really aro/if knowing my romantic orientation was really important back when I only id'd as asexual, but now it's the identity I think about the most.

totakeke-mori: Carnival of aros 2020, prioritization

I think best of my aromanticism because it helped me put a word on what has always defined “me”.

🌿 🌿 🌿 🌿 🌿 

If I missed yours, let me know - and be sure to check out the July 2021 Carnival of Aros prompt, “Education”!

#Carnival of Aros #aro #aromanticism #aromantic #long post

[alloaroworlds]

Saw something about alloace people stealing the idea of an alloa flag from alloaros, but don’t most pride flags with counterparts start with one? Is it bad to use the alloace flag?

Thank you, anon, for asking this respectfully.

(There’s too many non-respectful, insulting, allo-aro-antagonistic and even cissexist asks in my inbox on the subject of flags.)

I agree with you: it's common in LGBTQIA+ spaces for pride flags to use other pride flags as a reference point, particularly when it comes to related terms and shared symbols or colours.

I, personally, take no issue with the concept of allo-aces using a flag that was inspired in its colour symbolism by the allo-aro flag. As much as I dislike the ways Tumblr pairs allo-aros and allo-aces in content (flag edit posts, positivity) as though "allo" is equivalent to "demi" or “flux” or “grey”, I see the symbolism in taking the allo-aro flag and transforming it in asexual-flag styling to suit allo-ace needs. (It makes sense given that our yellow/golds were chosen by @arotaro because they’re opposite on the colour wheel from purple and aro green was historically chosen because it is opposite from red.) I don't view it as "stolen" any more than I would another flag inspired by another flag.

Pride flag culture is, like fandom and fanworks, transformative.

What I take issue with is individual allo-aces or groups of allo-aces using a flag that was inspired by the allo-aro flag while engaging in, perpetrating, condoning and/or ignoring allo-aro antagonism and erasure.

The allo-ace flag doesn't exist in a vacuum. It's not disconnected from the ways allo-aces treat allo-aros--and the ways allo-aros have come to feel about allo-aces. It’s not disconnected from the ways the allo-ace and allo-aro flags appear together in solidarity/positivity posts that are entirely at odds with the ways allo-aces frequently treat allo-aros. It's not just four stripes on a flag that happen to be inspired by ours because of related a-spec symbolism.

I, personally, don't see not using the allo-ace flag as a viable solution. How is that going to change things? (Very likely, folks will switch to another flag and keep on with the same old erasure.) Allo-ace identity is important, and if allo-aces like and relate to the symbolism of the red/purple flag, they should be able to keep using it. (I definitely don’t want to police allo-ace identity and pride the way folks are trying to do with me, which is also a subject of anon asks.) When allo-aros discuss our frustrations with the context of the allo-ace flag, we're not doing it because we object to another a-spec identity's expression of pride.

We're trying to express how unfair it feels that allo-aces are using a symbol inspired by ours while creating and/or overlooking their involvement in an a-spec culture that treats and dismisses allo-aros as third-class a-spec citizens.

The relationship between allo-aros and allo-aces is a much broader subject than the origins and use of one flag. At the same time that flag is, because of the circumstances of its making, eminently symbolic of said relationship.

That doesn’t always come across in frustration-fuelled posts (often made to allo-aros by allo-aros in our tags/spaces, where everyone’s aware of the context and further elaboration isn’t needed, or as short vent posts). It looks like we’re just complaining about one flag being inspired by ours, which can easily be misunderstood as petty, hateful or policing at odds with transformative pride flag culture. But our feelings run far deeper than that, and that’s a hard thing to see if you’re outside the allo-aro community.

I can only speak my opinion, but I want allo-aces to use the current flag (if that’s what you decide you want to use, because you have the right to celebrate allo-ace identity with community-decided symbolism, language and pride colours).

I want allo-aces to use and take pride in the allo-ace flag with an accompanying spirit of valuing, supporting and encouraging allo-aro contributions to our shared a-spec community.

I want allo-aces to use and take pride in the allo-ace flag while acknowledging the accompanying fundamental necessity to recognise, challenge and halt the allo-aro erasure and antagonism common in the asexual and a-spec communities.

I want allo-aces to use and take pride in the allo-ace flag while recognising that such use must carry the obligation to respect allo-aros.

Until that point, though, I think the allo-aro community is fair to look at some uses of the allo-ace flag in frustration and pain (especially those solidarity posts that gloss over the reality of the allo-aro-and-allo-ace relationship). The flag is not stolen, and I don’t think it should be referred to as such, but its careless use by allo-aces without accompanying recognition of the way many so often harm allo-aros is contentious.

Does all this make sense, anon?

Note 1: I’m not the creator of the allo-aro flag that inspired the allo-ace flag, and I think @arotaro‘s feelings in this situation, in terms of ongoing use of flags, should carry far more weight than mine.

Note 2: The flag we’re discussing is by @varioriented-pride, who does a lot to reblog allo-aro visual/flag-edit content on an account devoted to a wide variety of varioriented folks, a category that includes allo-aros and allo-aces alike. (I regularly reblog their* posts over here, in fact.) I haven’t seen them engage in allo-aro erasure or antagonism; they stand as an example for the kind of allyhood and support I am asking.

(* Apologies if I have misgendered: I can’t find any mention of pronouns!)

Note 3: There is a second allo-ace flag by @flagify that isn't directly inspired by the allo-aro flag. I am in no way making a statement as to whether allo-aces should or shouldn't use it; I'm simply observing its existence.

#anon #ask #flags and banners #alloaro #mod chatter #long post #very long post #symbols #community flags and symbols #extremely long post #alloaros and alloaces as a shared category or paring #alloaro flag #as soon as I saw this anon I wanted to answer #but it's been hard to finish this in my current pain circumstances #links for everyone so it's clear what we're all discussing #flags flags flags #alloaro symbolism #alloaro symbols #alloace symbols #alloace flag #also these conversations have been completely erasing varioriented pride's agency #as the flag's creator #so I am tagging them for this reason as well

[raspberry-vari]

Here are some varioriented backgrounds I made. I made them with the mobile app Tapet.

#varioriented #varioriented pride #variorientation #varioriented positivity #vari #split attractions #split attraction model positivity #split attraction #split attraction model #SAM #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbt pride #lgbt positivity #lgbtq+ #lgbt+ #lgbt+ pride #pride #positivity #background #wallpaper #wallpapers #backgrounds #purple #purple background #purple wallpaper

[cubeflag]

Varioriented flag by @beyond-mogai-pride-flags 

(A person whose sexual and romantic orientations do not ‘match’ (such as aromantic and pansexual).)

#varioriented #varioriented flag #varioriented pride #varioriented positivity #lgbt pride #lgbt flag #pride icons #3d cube #cube #3d #image #cube flag #flag #pixel art #pixel cube #overall cube flag #requested

[raimi]

OC sexuality generator

Having trouble deciding on a sexuality for your OC? Or just looking for more sexuality diversity in general? Well, look no further. I’ve set up a generator -- or three, rather -- that will allow you to find a wonderful orientation for your character!

Step one: Use this wheel to create a basic template for your character’s orientation type, then consult the information below to find out what to do next.

Alloromantic-allosexual or oriented aroace: Skip step two and go directly to step three.

Alloromantic-acespec, arospec allosexual, or arospec-acespec: Go to step two.

Step two: Congratulations! Your character is on the aro and/or ace spectrum! Use this wheel to determine where.

Spin once for an alloromantic-acespec, arospec allosexual, or arospec-acespec with the note (same position on spectrum) or twice for an arospec-acespec with the note (different position on spectrum), once for romantic and once for sexual orientation.

If you spin the same position twice, you can keep it or respin until you get something different. Then, unless your character’s orientations all fall into aro/ace, cupio, apothi, abro, quoi, or ageo, go to step three. Otherwise, congratulations! You’re done!

Step three: Now it’s time to determine which genders your character is actually attracted to!

Use this wheel to find which genders the character is attracted to. If your result in step one included “varioriented,” spin twice: once for romantic orientation and once for sexual orientation. Otherwise, spin once.

That’s it! You now have a random sexuality for your character, and based on your character’s gender it shouldn’t be too hard to finish putting a label on it!

#character creation #character resources #character orientation #orientation generator