#Notes to Self

[oysters-aint-for-me]

tips on refrigerator ownership for the mentally ill

1.) letting food go bad does NOT make you a Bad Person.

2.) it is okay to throw out only one thing at a time. even especially if there are a lot of expired things in there.

3.) give yourself permission to throw out tupperware once in a while.

#mental health #adhd #mental illness #notes to self #idk if anyone else will find this helpful or relatable lmaoo i don’t know if these are universal or common problems…. #like maybe most people don’t develop a guilt complex about their tupperware. #but i definitely did. so

[creatingnikki]

another year is ending and I want you to know that it is okay if you:

have not healed from the things that happened/did not happen from six months ago. just because the year is ending it does not mean your grief is too.

don't have any "fun" NYE plans to ring in the new year. this life is yours to live across days and months and years, and you can celebrate days other than the ones heavily marketed and shoved down your throat to shroud you in severe FOMO.

have no resolutions or goals for 2024 laid out in elaborate lists or shared on social media or with your friends. you are braving through this life trying to do your best every day and hold the fort and so of course you know, deep down you know what is needed from you for you going forward and of course you are going to work in that direction. good luck love.

have not become a "better" version of yourself by any of the tangible or conventional measures. that kind of bettering is mostly to serve others, not yourself.

are not happy with yourself/your life as it is now. you're a work-in-progress, remember? and if you're progressing in a direction you do not like, then it's time to change the blueprints and the strategy.

take time off social media around this time to protect your mental health and whatever little joy you have managed to keep.

don't want to spend too much time reflecting on how this past year went and doing various forms of 2023-wrapped. again, it's your life. you can also revisit this year in memories and pictures and feelings whenever you'd like. it's not like you don't still visit 2012, 2017, and 2022, right?

feel disconnected from your friends, family, lover. I know this is "ideally" a time to be celebrated with your loved ones. but life is not ideal, is it? it's just life. and if right now you are not feeling the love, the joy, or just don't have the headspace or social energy to engage , that's alright.

are finding comfort in simpler things like a TV show from the 90s or that book you first read at sixteen or that slice of strawberry cake or a random post like this you come across.

don't feel hopeful, encouraged, or excited for 2024. given everything that's happened in the last couple of years, on the macro and micro level, it's only natural for you to feel weary as well as wary. when the good things happen, when the healing happens, when things begin working in your favour over time, you will automatically feel all those things. it's okay if until then you choose to be neutral.

#notes to everyone #goodbye 2023 #writerscreed #poeticstories #twc poetry #inkstay #hello 2024 #nye #new year #new year eve #nye 2024 #year end #notes to self #self care #self compassion #mental health #mental wellness #words to live by #dark academia #desiblr #poetryportal #writers on tumblr #poets on tumblr #december 2023 #words of affirmation #words of wisdom #it's okay #it's ok to not be ok #spilled ink #creatingnikki

[888notes]

Trust in the universe, the redirections and perceived setbacks. Everything is always working out in your favor.

#notes to self

[museaway]

"I have to get it right the first time!"

why? why do you have to get it right the first time? what's actually going to happen if your words aren't in the absolute perfect order before you move on to the next sentence? you aren't showing the draft to anyone. this is why we have the editing and revision process. perfection is a trap that keeps you from making progress. dare I say it's rooted in fear? let it go. allow yourself to be imperfect.

#notes to self #writing #said this on discord and figured I'd archive it here #I am still working on this #fandom positivity

[kindnotestoself]

[You cannot hate yourself into becoming a person you love.]

#Healing #recovery #mental health #notes to self #gentle reminders

[napqueenkae]

Step out of survival mode baby girl you deserve it 💕💕💕

#notes to self #napqueenkae #black tumblr #black women #black women in femininity #self love #hypergamy #level up #soft black women #love #glow up #leveling up #soft black girls

[thebibliosphere]

In an attempt to combat the ADHD trauma I have over rewriting Phangs (and, y'know, the general trauma that was happening to me while writing it), my therapist has been getting me to vocalize the moments I enjoy writing in the hopes that it'll create happy associations for my brain. Sort of like affirmations, I suppose.

Except I've no one to talk to right now, and I hate saying things out loud to myself, so I'm just going to note this here for my brain to stumble over later:

I'm really happy with how sweet and tender Nathan and Ursula's courtship is (and maybe laughing at Ursula's frustration). And I'm also really happy with how chaotic Vlad and Ursula are together, and I'm excited for my readers to enjoy it.

#notes to self

[ub-sessed]

For my daughter's 17th birthday I made a cake with all the flowers that Ophelia mentions in Hamlet.

Not my best work, but I've had a lot of other stuff going on.

Notes to self:

Practise with the actual icing you're going to use?

Make sure you have all the tips you need before you start! I have like 50 icing tips but somehow I didn't have the two main ones I actually needed.

Practise beforehand! Like, not on the day you're icing the cake. (I knew this already but didn't have time.)

Get a third coupler. Maybe even a fourth.

You are no longer healthy enough to do all of this in one day. Bake the cake the day before!

#cake #my cake #Ophelia #Hamlet #flowers #Ophelia cake #notes to self #cake decorating

[forfoxessake]

LOST CONNECTION!!

I’m looking for more pictures/videos from this concert. Judging by the tags and style I assume it’s 2005/2006 and somewhere in Australia?

Any info would be of great help.

#Frank iero #lost connection #my chemical romance #mcr #my chem #notes to self #picture search #Frankenstein Guitar Strap

[creatingnikki]

What it means to go easy on yourself

When you are having a hard time, the way you can go easy on yourself is by allowing yourself to be instead of trying to find answers to everything right away and fix things as if there are instant solutions to such deep-rooted problems and patterns.

Going easy on yourself does not mean indulging in self-destructive behaviour that will make you feel good for maybe a few hours or desperately seeking instant gratification in any way and form you can find. 

It means not jumping to conclusions or thinking too deeply or forcing yourself to figure it all out. It means eating well, getting enough sleep, brushing your hair, and having fruit.

It means laughing with a friend, going for a walk or lying down on the cool marble floor in Shavasana. It means constantly filling your bottle of water and carrying it everywhere with you and reading good books the ones that give you some comfort and leave you with a sense of warmth and hope.

It means engaging yourself in things that allow you to breathe a little better as you do all the functional things life is demanding out of you, like work and chores. 

Going easy on yourself during such times means you don’t take yourself so seriously because that is the quickest way to skinny dip in rabbit holes and camp there for extended periods. It also means that you say no to things and people who make you feel anxious, conscious, and uneasy. Yes, you should step out of your comfort zone and push yourself and all that but there is a time and place for that. And when you’re feeling such heaviness of being, that is not it. 

Not demanding more from yourself, not caving into the demands of others, not using your sadness and pain as an excuse to fall back on maladaptive coping mechanisms, not getting existential about everything — that’s what it means to go easy on yourself. So, please, do go easy.

#notes to self #writerscreed #poeticstories #poetryportal #inkstay #writers on tumblr #poets on tumblr #things to remember #life lessons #words to live by #words to remember #mental health #mental health stuff #mental well being #self care #go easy #take care of yourself #be kind to yourself #be kind to your mind #spilled thoughts #spilled ink #creatingnikki #lessons learned #lessons

[cerulean-hedgehog]

See the little storyteller

hiding in her room:

a god of all creation,

or a body in a tomb?

Her woven worlds escape the pages,

scenes of could-be-true,

each character a costume

to hide the self she knew.

She acts out all her stories

in the world she made to be,

smiling through her mask at friends

but never feeling free.

Remember, little storyteller,

you've just one self to give.

Love it, grow it. Only then

will you begin to live.

- AVS 2024.01.15

#been thinking a lot about identities lately #how many selves am I? can I just be one? #can I be true to the one I have? #I think it would be nice #notes to self #my words #poetry #spilled thoughts #writers on tumblr #my art

[pureheroine2013]

“One day last year I came home from work to find R raking leaves in the garden. He smiled and I noticed in the bright autumn light the new strands of silver at his temples. And it hit me. We are growing old together. This is what it will be like as we watch each other age, as our partnership ages. And this unexpected moment made me happier than I could have imagined. I see a life ahead for us, a shared life. A great life.”

Notes to self, Emilie Pine (2018)

#❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ #this book is so incredibly beautiful and moving #writings #notes to self #Emilie pine

[malbecmusings]

Forever is only the sum of right nows.

#i don't know who needs to hear it #notes to self

[kindnotestoself]

[I see how hard you are trying to unlearn bad habits and I'm so proud of you.]

#healing #recovery #positive #bad habits #notes to self

[macsoul]

to myself

Não quero desistir de você, mas te vê morrendo aos poucos em uma existência que não te cabe me mata também.

#notes to self #divagamente #meusescritos #mentesexpostas #pequenosescritores #ecospoeticos #liberdadeliteraria #carteldapoesia #espalhepoesias #mardeescritos #lardepoetas #poecitas #autorias #eglogas

[nachosncheezies]

People like Bill Jr. got all kinds of things wrong about Scully but probably none moreso than thinking it was tragic that Mulder was dragging her along on some descent into madness, when actually the real tragedy was how few of the people she loved ever realized it wasn't a descent.

(It couldn't be bc 1. it's not madness and 2. she was already there.)

#she worked hard to mask it and clearly did a good job #Mulder's gift was he could meet her where she was #I think Maggie knew it I think that's why she liked him immediately and continued to despite all the tragedy that followed #setting aside the way he was right there with her clearly devastated and ready to go berserker on a whole hospital over her daughter #and the unspoken vote of confidence from Scully herself when they found out he was the one who witnessed her living will #'oh he sees through her too. AND she hasn't jettisoned him for it. iiinch-resting.....' -maggie scully probably #i love that relative to the people I knew when I first watched now all these years later i see so many more people #recognizing how incredibly Not Normal this Put Together Human Adult Woman is #this (including above tags) has been in my drafts for weeks thems was fic-readin thoughts #i think i had just started reading AV's henry au and was having a moment over the comments about scully having a recklessness in her #and her self-destructive streak #might've also been incrementum and the part about she's crazy and he loves it bc he's pretty sure he's the only one who knows #also was not long past cancer arc and emily on my rewatch so basically #get rekt bill jr #anyway #notes to self #x files #the x files #scully #bill jr #nachos thoughts