#help everyone

[lets-dance-to-joy-division]

I won't lie, it was difficult to not just post the lyrics in their entirety for this one. If this song doesn't describe how I try to live my life I don't know what does.

BL

Bowl of Oranges

Song by Bright Eyes

.

"...And I came upon a doctor

Who appeared in quite poor health

I said there's nothing that I can do for you you can't do for yourself

He said oh yes you can, just hold my hand, I think that that would help

So I sat with him awhile

Then I asked him how he felt

He said I think I'm cured

No, in fact, I'm sure of it

Thank you, stranger

For your therapeutic smile

So that's how I learned the lesson

That everyone's alone

And your eyes must do some raining

If you're ever gonna grow

And when crying don't help

You can't compose yourself

It's best to compose a poem

An honest verse of longing

Or a simple song of hope..."

#music #indie music #bowl of oranges #bright eyes #lyrics quotes #i am not alone #you are not alone #just love everyone #help everyone #make the world a better place #Spotify

[secondlifep]

Let's keep an eye on our friends and family please...

Self-harm trigger warning...

So yesterday was my cohabitating partner's 50th birthday. We had a nice day however, she felt off ... Her family is known to have strong intuition and connections so when someone "feels off", you always wonder what has gone on, what might go on, etc.

Well, yesterday afternoon, her cousin, someone that I also knew prior to our relationship as we played baseball together when I was 9-10-11 years old, was found with a self-inflicted gunshot wound to the head in his home office... fuck ... found by his teenage daughter ... The surviving family lives in another state, not close enough to immediately provide direct support...

Of course, we went to be with my mother-in-law and father-in-law, who were both completely taken aback and devastated at the loss...

My father-in-law made the comment of all comments, which is why I decided to make this post - "I could create a list of 50 people that I thought might take their own lives, and he would not have even made the list."

And there it is ... I don't think I need to say anymore ...

I share the global list of suicide hotlines that provide help to those in need.

Please contact a hotline if you need support yourself or need help supporting a friend. If you're concerned about a friend, please encourage the person to contact a hotline as well.

Global Suicide Hotline Resources

United States

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org Phone: [phone] TALK (8255)

Lifeline Crisis Chat http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/gethelp/lifelinechat.aspx

Veterans/Military Crisis Line (for active U.S. service members, veterans, and family members) http://www.veteranscrisisline.net Phone: [phone], Press 1 SMS: 838255

The Trevor Project (for LGBT youth, friends and family members) http://www.thetrevorproject.org Phone: [phone]

Worldwide

Befrienders http://www.befrienders.org

Australia

Lifeline Australia http://www.lifeline.org.au Phone: 13 11 14

Kids Helpline http://www.kidshelp.com.au Phone: [phone]

Headspace http://www.eheadspace.org.au Phone: [phone]

Austria

Rat auf Draht http://rataufdraht.orf.at Phone: 147

TelefonSeelsorge – Notruf 142 http://www.telefonseelsorge.at Phone: 142 (24 Stunden täglich) Email: https://onlineberatung-telefonseelsorge.at (chat & mail)

Belgium

Centrum Ter Preventie Van Zelfdoding http://www.zelfmoord1813.be Phone: 1813

Brazil / Portugal

CVV http://www.cvv.org.br Phone: 188 Email: [email protected]

Canada

Kids Help Phone (for youth under 20) Phone: [phone]

For people over 20, find a crisis centre that serves your area: http://suicideprevention.ca/thinking-aboutsuicide/find-a-crisis-centre

Czech Republic

Linka bezpečí www.linkabezpeci.cz Phone: 116 111

Pražská linka důvěry http://www.csspraha.cz/linka-duvery Phone: [phone]

Linka důvěry Ostrava http://www.mnof.cz/linka_duvery Phone: [phone] Phone: [phone]

Linka duševní tísně Most http://www.mostknadeji.eu/linka-dusevni-tisne Phone: [phone] Skype: ldt.most

Linka důvěry DKC http://dkc.cz/linka_duvery.php Phone: [phone] Skype: ld_dkc

Linka bezpečí http://www.linkabezpeci.cz Phone: 116111 (děti a mládež)

Denmark

Livslinien http://www.livslinien.dk Phone: [phone]

Børne https://bornetelefonen.dk/ring Phone: 116 111 (Child Helpline is open daily from 11:00-23:00.)

Finland

Suomen Mielenterveysseura http://www.e-mielenterveys.fi/en/ Phone: [phone]

France

S.O.S Amitié http://www.sos-amitie.org Phone: [phone]

Germany

Telefonseelsorge http://www.telefonseelsorge.de Phone: [phone] Phone: [phone]

Nummer gegen Kummer https://www.nummergegenkummer.de Phone: [phone] (adults) Phone: [phone] (children)

Greece

Klimaka NGO http://www.klimaka.org.gr

Suicide Help Greece http://www.suicide-help.gr Phone: 1018

Hong Kong

The Samaritan Befrienders Hong Kong http://www.help4suicide.com.hk

The Samaritan Befrienders Hong Kong http://www.sbhk.org.hk Phone: [phone]

The Samaritans Hong Kong http://www.samaritans.org.hk Phone: [phone]

Hungary

Magyar Lelki Elsősegély Telefonszolgálatok Szövetsége http://www.sos505.hu Phone: 116 123 Email: [email protected]

Kek Vonal Phone: 116-111

India

AASRA http://www.aasra.info Phone: [phone] Phone: [phone] Email: [email protected]

Israel

ERAN http://www.eran.org.il Phone: Free call within Israel: 1201 Phone: Out of Israel: 972-76-8844400

SAHAR (Emotional support chat line)(Hebrew) http://www.sahar.org.il

SAHAR (Emotional support chat line)(Arabic) http://www.sahar.org.il/?categoryId=63068

Italy

Telefono Azzurro www.azzurro.it Phone: 19696

Telefono Amico http://www.telefonoamico.it Phone: [phone]

Latvia

Skalbes http://www.skalbes.lv Phone: [phone] Phone: [phone]

Lithuania

Lithuanian Association of Emotional Support Lines http://www.klausau.lt

Vaikų linija (Child line) http://www.vaikulinija.lt Phone: 116 111

Jaunimo linija (Youth line) http://www.jaunimolinija.lt/laiskai/ Phone: [phone]

Vilties linija (Hope line) http://www.kpsc.lt/vilties_linija.html Phone: 116 123 Email: [email protected]

Pagalbos moterims linija (Women's line) http://www.moteriai.lt Phone: [phone] Email: [email protected]

Linija Doverija (Support for Russian-speaking clients) Phone: [phone]

Luxembourg

SOS Détresse – Hëllef iwwer Telefon http://www.454545.lu Phone: 454545

Kanner-Jugendtelefon http://www.kjt.lu Phone: 116 111

Mexico

Consejo Ciudadano http://consejociudadanomx.org Phone: [phone]

Instituto Hispanoamericano de Suicidologia, A.C Phone: [phone] Email: [email protected]

Netherlands

Foundation 113Online http://www.113online.nl Phone: [phone]

New Zealand

National Depression Initiative http://www.depression.org.nz

The Lowdown http://www.thelowdown.co.nz Phone: [phone] SMS: 5626 Email: [email protected]

Youthline http://www.youthline.co.nz Phone: [phone] SMS: 234 Email: [email protected] Email: [email protected]

Norway

Kirkens SOS http://www.kirkens-sos.no Phone: [phone]

Poland

Fundacja Dzieci Niczyje http://www.116111.pl/napisz Phone: 116 111

Serbia

Centar Srce http://www.centarsrce.org Phone: [phone] Email: [email protected]

Singapore

Samaritans of Singapore (SOS) http://samaritans.org.sg Phone: [phone] Email: [email protected]

South Africa

The South African Depression and Anxiety Group (SADAG) http://www.sadag.org Phone: [phone] SMS: 31393

South Korea

중앙자살예방센터 (Korea Suicide Prevention Center) www.spckorea.or.kr Phone: [phone] Email: [email protected]

HopeClick http://www.hopeclick.or.kr

보건복지부 보건복지콜센터 (Ministry of Health & Welfare Call Center) Phone: 129 (24시간 위기상담 / 24 hour hotline)

정신건강증진센터 정신건강위기상담전화 (Mental Health Center Crisis Counseling) Phone: [phone] (24시간 위기상담 / 24 hour hotline)

Spain

Teléfono de la Esperanza http://telefonodelaesperanza.org Phone: [phone]

Sweden

Mind https://mind.se/

Switzerland

Tel 143 - La Main Tendue – Die Dargebotene Hand – Telefono Amico http://www.143.ch Phone: 143

Taiwan

Taiwan Suicide Prevention Center http://www.tspc.tw Phone: [phone] Email: [email protected]

United Kingdom / Ireland

Samaritans http://www.samaritans.org Phone: 116 123 Email: [email protected]

#about me #self harm #trigger warning #please keep an eye on your friends and family #help everyone

[tentacleteapot]

solved the paradox of the ship of Theseus btw!! turns out the answer was “it depends”. hope that helps, have a good weekend everybody!

#add tags to help people find your post #for the record this is my genuine opinion on the matter #hall of fame #I like this post a lot actually I’m glad it’s getting notes thanks everyone #daphne.txt

[liones-s]

one of the biggest things I can advocate for (in academia, but also just in life) is to build credibility with yourself. It’s easy to fall into the habit of thinking of yourself as someone who does things last minute or who struggles to start tasks. people will tell you that you just need to build different habits, but I know for me at least the idea of ‘habit’ is sort of abstract and dehumanizing. Credibility is more like ‘I’ve done this before, so I know I can do it, and more importantly I trust myself to do it’. you set an assignment goal for the day and you meet it, and then you feel stronger setting one the next day. You establish a relationship with yourself that’s built on confidence and trust. That in turn starts to erode the barrier of insecurity and perfectionism and makes it easier to start and finish tasks. reframing the narrative as a process of building credibility makes it easier to celebrate each step and recognize how strong your relationship with yourself can become

#this is my experience so I know it won’t work for everyone #like all things there is no universal formula #we all have different capacities and capabilities #but I like sharing things that work for me in case they can also help someone else #studyblr #study motivation #study tips #university #academia #uni tips

[rhinestonesox]

When Senshi was young in the dungeon the majority of the adults he were with ostracized him. All except Gillin, who died to make sure Senshi had something to eat: unseasoned boiled meat that may or may not have been one of their comrades.

It really puts into perspective why he was so nurturing towards Chilchuck. When Chil reveals he’s 28 to the party, Senshi responds by telling him that he thought he was older. Senshi was in his 30s when he and his comrades got trapped in the dungeon, so it’s safe to assume that he thought Chil was at a similar age.

He met a young boy who was, from his perspective, forced to do dangerous work in the dungeon just like he was, and so, Senshi made an effort to look after Chilchuck in the same way Gillin looked after him.

Mind you, when Senshi was young in the dungeon he had to starve for weeks, eat the horse he loved, and finish it off spending the next i don’t know how many years wondering if he committed cannibalism.

Senshi understands first hand the value of nutrition and proper eating, so when he’s with the party he makes an effort to make sure they’re all eating a full and balanced diet. Not only that, but Senshi INVOLVES them in the process of getting food to eat, always preparing it in front of them and narrating every ingredient in the process so that there’s no doubt about what they’re eating.

#i woke up in the middle of the night to write this and haven’t proof read so i seriously hope it’s coherent lmaoooo #dungeon meshi spoilers #delicious in dungeon spoilers #senshi #dungeon meshi #everyone jokes about senshi giving chilchuck the talk but he’s literally just trying to take care of a young boy who needs help #i’m crying #and sobbing #and punching the air

[spotters-unleashed-in-motion]

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#please help #earn money online #dollar #money #true and honest #help everyone #open to everyone #follow me #viral trends #foryou

[everchased]

can someone please get these hoes under control i'm BUSY

#gun cw #it's EVERY 5 HOURS AT LEAST #AND THEY STAY UP???? LIKE NONE OF THE ONES I'VE REPORTED HAVE BEEN DEACTIVATED #GO AWAY #anyways... #my art #edit: everyone who says i look like [insert anime guy here] has holes in their brain hope this helps some of u figure out what's wrong

[bisexualpercyjacksons]

pjo tv show episode 5 alignment:

#percy and annabeth mighttttt be switched but grover as gaslight is undeniable #grover lying through his teeth captivated me I was like sweetie WHAT are you doing #annabeth said either help me or leave to a GOD amongst other things which is why she deserves girlboss #percy gatekeeps everyone (but himself) from sacrificing themselves which is as always true to character #pjo tv show #pjo #pjo tv spoilers #pjo tv #percy jackon and the olympians #percy jackson #annabeth chase #grover underwood #character alignment #a god buys us cheeseburgers #like no one has posted content yet so I’m making something and going to bed #mine #gaslight gatekeep girlboss #humor #no one bully me on the image sizes I’m on my phone at midnight using photoshop without an account #which means I can only layer one photo at a time so each time I have to make it a new photo #I’m bullying myself don’t worry

[xxscarletisdeadxx]

Amidst the selfless embrace of humanity, she stood, a lighthouse of compassion; weathering the storms of solitude.

#relationships #love #relatable #dating #help everyone #sad #helpful person #I love everyone #I try

[theoldkyokodied]

The Allegiance of the Ascended Vampire and the New God of Magic

#bloodweave #baldur's gate 3 #bg3 #gale x astarion #astarion x gale #gale dekarios #astarion ancunin #yes this is about astarion helping gale defeat mystra and take her place with the crown in exchange for gale helping him with the ritual #the ‘they can make each other worse’ part of their relationship turned to the max #I enjoy them being reluctantly soft for each other more but from time to time I just think about how powerful they could get together #toxic evil boyfriends. take love and twist it up until it’s unrecognisable #I like to think that astarion approached gale with that offer after realising no one else in camp is gonna help him #and that he can use gales own hunger for power which backfired when astarion actually became emotionally invested in gale #and after gale kept his word despite everyone’s concerns astarion changed his plan from not fullfilling his end of the bargain to actually #helping gale kill mystra (mostly so that gale could belong to him and him alone. and letting him take the place as a god bc having a god #at you beck and call is definitely appealing. especially one as eager to please as gale) #anyway what I want to say with this is please please please let me kill mystra i don’t even care if the weave gets destroyed again

[inkskinned]

the thing is that they're so fascinated by sex, they love sex, they can't imagine a world without sex - they need sex to sell things, they need sex to be part of their personality, they need sex to prove their power - but they hate sex. they are disgusted by it.

sex is the only thing that holds their attention, and it is also the thing that can never be discussed directly.

you can't tell a child the normal names for parts of their body, that's sexual in nature, because the body isn't a body, it's a vessel of sex. it doesn't matter that it's been proven in studies (over and over) that kids need to know the names of their genitals; that they internalize sexual shame at a very young age and know it's 'dirty' to have a body; that it overwhelmingly protects children for them to have the correct words to communicate with. what matters is that they're sexual organs. what matters is that it freaks them out to think about kids having body parts - which only exist in the context of sex.

it's gross to talk about a period or how to check for cancer in a testicle or breast. that is nasty, illicit. there will be no pain meds for harsh medical procedures, just because they feature a cervix.

but they will put out an ad of you scantily-clad. you will sell their cars for them, because you have abs, a body. you will drip sex. you will ooze it, like a goo. like you were put on this planet to secrete wealth into their open palms.

they will hit you with that same palm. it will be disgusting that you like leather or leashes, but they will put their movie characters in leather and latex. it will be wrong of you to want sexual freedom, but they will mark their success in the number of people they bed.

they will crow that it's inappropriate for children so there will be no lessons on how to properly apply a condom, even to teens. it's teaching them the wrong things. no lessons on the diversity of sexual organ growth, none on how to obtain consent properly, none on how to recognize when you feel unsafe in your body. if you are a teenager, you have probably already been sexualized at some point in your life. you will have seen someone also-your-age who is splashed across a tv screen or a magazine or married to someone three times your age. you will watch people pull their hair into pigtails so they look like you. so that they can be sexy because of youth. one of the most common pornography searches involves newly-18 young women. girls. the words "barely legal," a hiss of glass sand over your skin.

barely legal. there are bills in place that will not allow people to feel safe in their own bodies. there are people working so hard to punish any person for having sex in a way that isn't god-fearing and submissive. heteronormative. the sex has to be at their feet, on your knees, your eyes wet. when was the first time you saw another person crying in pornography and thought - okay but for real. she looks super unhappy. later, when you are unhappy, you will close your eyes and ignore the feeling and act the role you have been taught to keep playing. they will punish the sex workers, remove the places they can practice their trade safely. they will then make casual jokes about how they sexually harass their nanny.

and they love sex but they hate that you're having sex. you need to have their ornamental, perfunctory, dispassionate sex. so you can't kiss your girlfriend in the bible belt because it is gross to have sex with someone of the same gender. so you can't get your tubes tied in new england because you might change your mind. so you can't admit you were sexually assaulted because real men don't get hurt, you should be grateful. you cannot handle your own body, you cannot handle the risks involved, let other people decide that for you. you aren't ready yet.

but they need you to have sex because you need to have kids. at 15, you are old enough to parent. you are not old enough to hear the word fuck too many times on television.

they are horrified by sex and they never stop talking about it, thinking about it, making everything unnecessarily preverted. the saying - a thief thinks everyone steals. they stand up at their podiums and they look out at the crowd and they sign a bill into place that makes sexwork even more unsafe and they stand up and smile and sign a bill that makes gender-affirming care illegal and they get up and they shrug their shoulders and write don't say gay and they get up, and they make the world about sex, but this horrible, plastic vision of it that they have. this wretched, emotionless thing that holds so much weight it's staggering. they put their whole spine behind it and they push and they say it's normal!

this horrible world they live in. disgusted and also obsessed.

#this shifts gender so much bc it actually affects everyone #yes it's a gendered phenomenon. i have written a LOT about how different genders experience it. that's for a different post. #writeblr #ps my comments about seeing someone cry -- this is not to shame any person #and on this blog we support workers. #at the same time it's a really hard experience to see someone that looks like you. clearly in agony. and have them forced to keep going. #when you're young it doesn't necessarily look like acting. it looks scary. and that's what this is about - the fact that teens #have likely already been exposed to that definition of things. because the internet exists #and without the context of healthy education. THAT is the image burned into their minds about what it looks like. #it's also just one of those personal nuanced biases - #at 19 i thought it was normal to be in pain. to cry. to not-like-it. that it should be perfunctory. #it was what i had seen. #and it didn't help that my religious upbringing was like . 'yeah that's what you get for premarital. but also for the reference #we do think you should never actually enjoy it lol' #so like the point im making is that ppl get exposed to that stuff without the context of something more tender #and assume .... 'oh. so it's fine i am not enjoying myself'. and i know they do because I DID. #he was my first boyfriend. how was i supposed to know any different #i didn't even have the mental wherewithal to realize im a lesbian . like THAT used to suffering.

[melmov]

I cast: curse of the eldest (can’t ask for help)

#dick grayson #nightwing #jason todd #red hood #dc #art #my art #digital art #fanart #dick has eldest daughter syndrome #cant ask for help or burden anyone but will always be there for everyone else #Jason sees right through him but he doesn’t know how to make someone feel comfortable with being open #ugh I have so many feels #I’m about to make dick and Damian art because me and my youngest siblings are closest and idk how to even talk to the others

[tawaifeddiediaz]

you know what boils my blood.

over the last 2 weeks, i've seen countless patients walk into my urgent care center, symptomatic for so many things, refusing to get tested for covid and flu, citing that they don't want to knowingly bring it to their holiday tables. i had a patient tell me, verbatim, "i don't want to test for covid, because i don't want to be the asshole who brings it on a plane."

i understand that - i understand that holidays are times where people look forward to meeting loved ones that they might only see once a year, or where they get a break from the hectic back and forth of their lives.

but here's the thing - whether they get tested or not, they will bring whatever they have to their holiday tables. it's pure recklessness to know that you're sick, and walk into someone else's house spreading the disease.

today, january 2, i saw 91 patients, many of them who have tested positive for covid and flu. many of these patients are the same ones who didn't want testing 3 days ago, until their events were over, and now, they will have to reach out to everyone they know to let them know that they were positive because they were showing symptoms well before their event.

the next week or two? we're going to see many, many more, all people with symptoms that started around christmas. these are the only two viruses we test for rapidly in our office, but they are potent and can be fatal in many people.

so here's why i wrote this post, and maybe it's a little late, but - if you care about your loved ones, please get tested if you know you're sick. it doesn't have to be at a clinic if you don't want it to, because the over-the-counter tests work just fine too (if you test within 5-7 days of symptom onset). just...please don't try to run from the knowledge that you might have covid, because immunocompromised people, elderly people, people with co-morbidities like asthma, pregnancy, diabetes, etc...many of them may not recover. and they may not be sitting at your holiday table in the future because of it.

#zee rambles #this isn't to guilt trip anyone #but im so so tired of people coming in and just refusing testing because they want to see grandma or whatever #and on top of that people are avoiding vaccinations and all that too?? #we all lived through the pandemic - everyone saw how many people unfortunately passed away from it #now because of vaccinations and some amount of herd immunity we're finding milder cases in healthy people #but that doesn't mean its gone #that doesn't mean it doesn't have long-term repercussions even in healthy people and that doesn't mean people aren't still dying from it #honestly i just needed a lil rant #and if this helps at least one person??? im all for it #also i can't sleep so here we are spilling thoughts into the voidddd

[blueboyluca]

“When I first heard it, from a dog trainer who knew her behavioral science, it was a stunning moment. I remember where I was standing, what block of Brooklyn’s streets. It was like holding a piece of polished obsidian in the hand, feeling its weight and irreducibility. And its fathomless blackness. Punishment is reinforcing to the punisher. Of course. It fit the science, and it also fit the hidden memories stored in a deeply buried, rusty lockbox inside me. The people who walked down the street arbitrarily compressing their dogs’ tracheas, to which the poor beasts could only submit in uncomprehending misery; the parents who slapped their crying toddlers for the crime of being tired or hungry: These were not aberrantly malevolent villains. They were not doing what they did because they thought it was right, or even because it worked very well. They were simply caught in the same feedback loop in which all behavior is made. Their spasms of delivering small torments relieved their frustration and gave the impression of momentum toward a solution. Most potently, it immediately stopped the behavior. No matter that the effect probably won’t last: the reinforcer—the silence or the cessation of the annoyance—was exquisitely timed. Now. Boy does that feel good.”

— Melissa Holbrook Pierson, The Secret History of Kindness (2015)

#dog books #this chapter was very sad reading #when you become aware of punishment #and its use and its prevalence #it's hard not to despair #again this is why positive reinforcement feels like absolution #maybe now my eyes are open I can make up for what I did #what I did because it's what everyone does #because it's more acceptable to punish than to do anything else #I've been having so many thoughts about punishment and society and justice #this book was very validating #another great validating moment in my jumbled thoughts #was listening to the You're Wrong About episode on justice #with Amanda Knox #it helped to ease the despair a little

[ringosmistress]

#this is doing numbers #follow me for more beatles bangers guys #god john was on something back then #john can't possibly hate octopus's garden more than maxwell's silver hammer #poor ringo #what was paul's take on that octopus song #i love it though #loved that scene where george was helping ringo with that song #made me believe in starrison #peace and love everyone #the beatles #john lennon #paul mccartney #george harrison #ringo starr #beatles #memes

[mokeonn]

"But if college was free, then people would abuse that and get useless degrees" hell yeah I would! If I could go to college without debt I would make it my job to get a degree in every little thing that interested me. I'd get a doctorate in film studies. I'd have a bachelor's degree for every science I like. I'd try to learn at least 5 languages with varying results. I would learn something "useful" like coding and then follow it up with a ""useless"" degree like art history. I'd be the world record speed run holder for getting every degree possible.

But I can't afford college without going into massive debt, so instead I spent the last 5 years trying to figure out what I am passionate enough about to consider going into debt over, because unfortunately being passionate about everything is extremely expensive to pursue.

#simon says #i love learning so much and I hate the USA's college debt system #once they make that shit free I will be unstoppable #this topic sprung up because I had the idea that im very academic and annoyingly analytical that I might as well get a degree in it #because without a degree you just seem like an autistic asshole #but with a degree? then you look like a CREDIBLE autistic asshole #don't worry I will still learn but I still want that funky piece of paper to tell everyone I learnt it #also there's some things that are VERY difficult to learn #like I would love to persue this topic further but unfortunately I would need help with that #also before you say 'try taking [blank] classes instead! it's less expensive than a degree!' im broke #my only learning resource is the library sorry about that #also this is not the post to give me unwarranted financial advice #finances are one of the topics I DO NOT care about and I WILL NOT listen to a word you say