#Essays in Love

[sirenofthegreenbanks]

i want

sometimes, you just want something so hard you have to lie about it, so you can hold it in your mouth for a minute

most days i want to live

to experience

how real hunger has a real taste

most days the garden‘s almost enough.

your vulnerability

little pink flowers

on the sage, even though

the man said we couldnt‘t eat it. not this kind.

and i said,

then, gosh, what‘s the point?

not all days. but most days i do

but

i don‘t want

to be vulnerable

in a field i am the absence of field.

this is always the case.

wherever i am

i am what is missing

do you love me enough that i may be

vulnerability is courage in you and inadequacy in me

weak

with you? do you love me

i‘m drawn

stripped of everything

to your vulnerability but

that might be lost, for only

the things i will

have

repelled by mine

for ever?

Dancing Greatly, Brené Brown | 《山河令》 Word of Honor (2021) | Lies About Sea Creatures, Ada Limón | Most Days I Want To Live, Gabrielle Calvocoressi | Keeping Things Whole, Mark Strand | Essays In Love, Alain de Botton

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[soracities]

Alain de Botton, Essays in Love [transcript in ALT]

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[derangedrhythms]

The most interesting faces generally oscillate between charm and crookedness. There is a tyranny about perfection, a certain tedium even, something that asserts itself with all the dogmatism of a scientific formula. The more tempting kind of beauty has only a few angles from which it may be seen, and then not in all lights and at all times. It flirts dangerously with ugliness, it takes risks with itself, it does not side comfortably with mathematical rules of proportion, it draws its appeal from precisely those details that also lend themselves to ugliness.

Alain de Botton, from 'Essays in Love'

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[darkacademiaposts]

"Do you love me enough that I may be weak with you?"

Alain de Botton, Essays in Love (via -- thelovejournals)

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Excerpts of the essays in love

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[oscarwetnwilde]

James Wilby's singing performances in his audiobooks and films, in order of appearance: Essays In Love, 2009. (Audiobook) The Wish List, 2003. (Audiobook) The Fatal Englishman, 2021. (Audiobook) A Summer Story: The Gentle Maiden, first appearance, 1988. (Film) A Summer Story: The Gentle Maiden, second appearance, 1988. (Film) A Handful Of Dust: Praise, my soul, the King of heaven (Praise, my soul), 1988. (Film) A Summer Story: New Every Morning Is the Love (set to the tune of "Melcombe," 1988 (Film)

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[tarotwithlove]

Perhaps it is true that we do not really exist until there is someone there to see us existing, we cannot properly speak until there is someone there who can understand what we are saying, in essence, we are not wholly alive until we are loved.

What does it mean that man is a ‘social animal’? Only that humans need one another in order to define themselves and achieve self-consciousness, in a way that molluscs or earthworms do not. We cannot come to a proper sense of ourselves if there aren’t others around to show us what we’re like. ‘A man can acquire anything in solitude except a character,’ wrote Stendhal, suggesting that character has its genesis in the reactions of others to our words and actions. Our selves are fluid and require the contours provided by our neighbours. To feel whole, we need people in the vicinity who know us as well, sometimes better, than we know ourselves.

Without love, we lose the ability to possess a proper identity, within love, there is a constant confirmation of our selves. It is no wonder that the concept of a God who can see us has been central to many religions: to be seen is to be assured that we exist, all the better if one is dealing with a God (or partner) who loves us.

– essays in love, alain de botton

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[sincerelydostoyevsky]

- Essays in love

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[thelittledaily]

do you love me enough that i may be weak with you? everyone loves strength, but do you love me for my weakness? that is the real test. do you love me stripped of everything that might be lost, for only the things i will have for ever?

Alain de Botton, Essays in Love

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Essays in Love by Alain de Botton

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[soracities]

Alain de Botton, Essays in Love [transcript in ALT]

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[voicesfortorment]

"We fall in love hoping we won't find in another what we know is in ourselves, all the cowardice, weakness, laziness, dishonesty, compromise and stupidity. We throw a cordon of love around the chosen one and decide that everything within it will somehow be free of our faults. We locate inside another a perfection that eludes us within ourselves, and through our union with the beloved, hope to maintain (against the evidence of all self knowledge) a precarious faith in our species."

Essays in love , Alain De Botton

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[derangedrhythms]

Desire had turned me into a relentless hunter for clues, a romantic paranoiac, reading meaning into everything.

Alain de Botton, from 'Essays in Love'

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[darling-little-quotes]

Do you love me enough that I may be weak with you?

Alain de Botton, “Essays in Love”

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[sleepyhaedd]

Alain de Bottom, Essays in Love

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[therine-reads]

a Review - Essays in Love

Essays in Love is, essentially, essays in love. 

The book begins immediately on brand with its theme, broken down into multiple bits on the ubiquitous journey of love from its birth to its very death. In short, it is a dummy’s guide to falling in - and out of - love. 

Essays in Love is a book I have never quite read before; each word is carefully seasoned with heavy meanings and observations. We often read books where we fall in love alongside the main character and travel 300-something-pages to a skewed and blind narrative of infatuation, love, fights, breakup, make-ups, and the absurdity of it all. Essays in Love takes the same progressional route; however, the only difference is that we don’t fall in love with the characters. Instead, de Bottom throws us into the love story with no love, gently forcing us to confront the confusion and illogicality when love is present. We see the story through an objective lens where it is not the narrator’s thoughts we are consumed by, but rather, our very own previous or present lovers by the guide of de Bottom’s service in giving the feelings the words to understand. 

It’s a brilliant book. Admittedly, it did take me 2 months to pull through, and there are moments when it is difficult to move on as the pages are heavily packed with so much substance with little to no room to rest. Regardless, the book is rich in insightful observations without coming across as recycled or pretentious, and the brilliance lies in the novelty of its structure and de Bottom's ability to carefully structure a meaningful yet objective walkthrough love. 

/ Essays in Love (1993) by Alain de Bottom 

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