#adhd student planner

[domainspro]

#adhd journal #Printable Inserts #adhd planner #life planner bundle #self improvement #adhd student planner #adhd digital planner #add planner #adhd for school #student planner #adhd daily planner #adhd planner adult #gratitude journal

[gnc-tits]

my worst quality as a student is that if i think an assignment is not worth my time i just dont do it. like thats not to say if i think its annoying or dumb i dont do it bcoz i still do some of those but if the net gain to my education and me personally isnt substantial i just wont do it! like what is the value here. what does this teach me like actually. like girl shut up

#the pharmacy wont fill my vyvanse PLEASE LORD. I AM DROWNING LORD PLEASE #even the stuff that i want to do and that im GOOD at is like. oh my god the focus is not focusing!!!!!! #300 mg of wellbutrin xl and an absurd amount of notebooks and planners only gets a girl so far…………. #anyways genuinely i wish i were good at school like. its such a privilege to even be able to go to school and yet i am fucken. dying #constantly. like i have gotten so much better and i love the work i do and what i get to learn!! but oh my god like the adhd is suffocating #how did i survive this long without a diagnosis lol #ugh whatever #iits not just that ig i mean there r other factors. i wish i could just be like. an On Campus Student whose only responsibility is to learn #and do their assignments but. idk. i just didnt get that. whixh is not to say my life is like sooooo hard but idk its just #watching friends n my peers get to have the College experience when u gotta like pay bills n stuff is. idk. alienating. and idk how much of #my shittiness as a student is the syndromes and how much is just like my life situation #uggGHHHHH. WHATEVER #if i dont get my medication soon i will explode forever #first crit in my fiction workshop is comin up and i gotta get at least 10 pages done which is like feasible i just need to be medicated lol

[pancake-tries-college]

Does anyone have advice for what to do when a class’s schedule isn’t set in stone or up to date yet and you want to set up a planner? Do you just write down what is there tentatively or just leave it blank?

#planner #adhd planner #adhd student #adhd studyblr #studyblr

[katstudiessociology]

A peek at my chaotic notion planner. 4 out of 5 classes put in but the last one won’t be posted until tomorrow.

#messy studyblr #adhd studyblr #studyblr #study aesthetic #messy notes #adhd brain #sociologyblr #adhd #study hard #adhd post #adhd student #adhd stuff #adhd things #living with adhd #this took hours #notion #chaotic studyblr #notion planner #chaotic notion #class is back in session #sociology #sociology major

[studyinginthestorm]

Hello everyone!

I hope that you've all had an amazing first week of 2023-it feels odd to say and type that. I've already managed to write the date wrong a few times in my journal this week.

I'm currently away with my family and some family friends but we're going back home in a few hours.

It's been a good week, I managed to get a lot done and still find time to relax and enjoy myself before school starts on Wednesday. I can hardly believe it but yes. Eleventh grade.

I've barely written two sentences this last week though, so I'll definitely be grinding out some words before school starts.

~Miyah ��

#studyblr #studyspo #studyspiration #study blog #study motivation #study inspiration #study hard #adhd studyblr #studystudystudy #study stuff #honest studyblr #productivity #student #studying #studyinginthestorm #study aesthetic #studysthetics #studystuff #planner #honeststudyblr #soft aesthetic #new books #romantic academia #soft academia #light acamedia #light academia aesthetic #aesthetic #collage #photo collage #weekly recap

[homeworkplanner]

Never Use Slang Language In Front Of Children

Always try to bear in mind that positive feedback can easily inflate the functional skills of children. For children who are suffering from ADHD symptoms, it's quite normal to feel that they can't do anything perfectly. In that case, negative words can hurt their ego, and they may react more aggressively. In ADHD parenting tips say's that all parents need to be more careful about their worries or concern.

#ADHD parenting tips #digital homework planner #homework planning app #online homework planner #student homework planner

[growandrecover]

struggling to get through school?

Hi! I feel like it's been forever since I posted something, but I'm back! Lately, I've been struggling with my ed and school, and both are affecting the other. If you're dealing with the same thing, or something similar, you're not alone. Here are some things that may help :) Also- the first one is kind of related to restrictive eds. If you're experiencing a lack of energy not having to do with your food intake, I suggest that you either see a doctor or mental health professional.

Make sure you're eating enough protein. If you're not eating enough food as it is, you may feel like you can't focus as well, or you simply don't have the energy to study, do your work, or go to school, which is understandable. But please listen to me when I say protein is extremely important. According to Harvard, to calculate how much protein you need in a day, multiply your weight (in pounds) by 0.36. Here is the link to the article, which has a calculator you can use .

If you're worried about your grades, talk to your teachers/professors. Not all professors are the same, but if you're honest with them and spell out what's been going on (as much as you're comfortable with, of course), they may be able to help you, give you an extension, or some advice on their class.

Find study techniques that work for you. Not everyone has the same learning style, and not all methods of studying will work for you. I advise that you first find out what your learning style is if you don't already know. Then, you can research what may work for you as that kind of learner. However, if you have something else going on, that may not be enough. For example, I have adhd and have a hard time getting started with my work and staying motivated. Something like getting a planner, which may work for someone else, just doesn't cut it for me. Instead, I like to use asmr pomodoros and rewards for myself when I finish a certain amount of work, like doing something I've been wanting to do or watching a movie.

If you have trouble asking for help, like I do, I know it can be scary to send an email to your teacher, ask a friend, or even raise your hand in class to ask a question. But trust me, my grades started improving as soon as I did this. I know some of you may be thinking that your teacher will judge you, or your classmates will, but teaching is their job. They want students to ask questions, that's what they're there for. Your classmates could actually be wondering the same thing, they just might be too nervous to ask.

Try your best not to procrastinate. I know, I know. But hear me out. Procrastinating causes last minute stress and most likely isn't your best work. I'm not trying to call you out, because I do this too. But as I've gotten older, and been through years of school, I've learned that I hate the looming feeling of having an assignment due the next day and not having started on it yet. Your grades will be affected by not procrastinating, as you'll have had more time to study, do your work, and go over anything you need.

If you need someone to talk to, or have any questions, please don't be scared to send me a message or an ask, I'm here to help <3

(If I think of anything else, I'll make a part 2)

#school #school tips #college tips #high school tips #studying #study tips #adhd school tips #neurodivergent school tips #neurodivergent tips #ed recovery tips #school life #study motivation #study notes #studyblr #ed support #mental heath support #mental health

[brainstreamjournal]

ADHD- Study Tips

Being a college student with ADHD comes with its unique set of challenges. I struggled to study effectively until after my diagnosis, and even now, it's not always smooth sailing. However, I've discovered some strategies that have been real game-changers for me. Here are my top 5 strategies that have made a significant impact on my study routine:

Study buddy magic

Working with someone or just sitting in the same room as a fellow student who is also hitting the books can be surprisingly motivating. There's something about the shared focus that helps me stay on track. If finding a study buddy is challenging, opt for a change of scenery by heading to your school or public library. You don't need to engage in conversation; the mere presence of others working can provide the necessary motivation.

The power of good headphones

A few months ago, I invested in a pair of quality noise-canceling headphones, and let me tell you, they've been a game-changer! Plugging into some instrumental music creates a focused bubble, shutting out distractions and helping me concentrate.

Structure your study environment

Establishing a dedicated study space is crucial. Make sure it's quiet, well-organized, and free from distractions. Consistency in your study environment can significantly enhance your focus.

Planner perfection

Yes, the age-old advice of getting a planner holds true, but finding the right one for you is key. After experimenting with various planners, I stumbled upon my current favorite: a simple notebook that I've structured to fit my needs. It's a testament to the fact that personalization is key.

Embrace your unique brain

Acceptance is a powerful tool. In the early days of my academic journey, I tried to fit into the mold of "normal" studying. Accepting that my brain works differently was a turning point. Embrace your quirks, whether it's getting easily distracted, fidgeting, or moving around. Accepting yourself and providing what you need is not a weakness; it's a beautiful strength.

Remember, studying with ADHD is a journey, and finding what works for you is a process of self-discovery. These strategies have made a significant impact on my study routine, and I hope they prove helpful for others navigating similar challenges.

#adhd study tips #College life with ADHD #ADHDstrategies #study routine #adhd life #living with adhd #adhd community #Unique brain #student life #student #university #studying #studyblr #study motivation

[theprocrastinationwar]

ADVICE FOR FIRST DAY OF NURSING SCHOOL (or any school)

(From an ADHD student)

1. Print out and read your syllabi before class

2. Add any tests, quizzes, hw assignments to your planner, calendar or phone

3. At least skim the required reading before class

4. Print off your PowerPoints or write up an outline so you can annotate in class

Good luck everyone!!! You’ve got this!!

#studyblr #nursing student #nursing #tips for nursing school #adhd #adhd student #adhd study tips #adhd studyblr #nursing school #tips for college student #tips for college #first day of class

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

So, I'm about to havemy second year of high school. I'm nervous about the thought of going to school. Can you please help me?

Hi there,

I found some sources that might help:

Make a Four Year Plan

Short Term Goals

Long Term Goals

Create a List of Extracurriculars

Get to Know the Campus/school

Get to Know Your Classmates

Buy Your School Supplies

Don’t Forget a Planner

Use a Backpack Built for Heavy Books

Brush Up on School Subjects

The article will be below if you’d like to read it:

I found these tips on ADDitude:

Bring order (and color!) to your notes.

Review early and often.

Multitask — quietly.

Break down complex assignments.

Follow your interests.

Master test-taking.

When in doubt, seek help.

The full article will be below if you’d like to read more.

I hope these sources help. Thank you for the inbox. I hope you have a wonderful day/night. ♥️

#inbox #inbox reply #inbox is open

[lucysweatslove]

After spending THREE YEARS and thousands on trying to get an ADHD diagnosis / attempting to treat the primary inattentive symptoms behaviorally, I finally got the neuropsych report and and I….

Still do not have a fucking diagnosis.

Basically the report was all “markedly atypical CAARS, meets 8/9 DSM-V criteria for ADHD primarily inattentive subtype, but the WAIS we administered was invalid so we can only give a provisional diagnosis and suggest additional testing from [organization I was trying to avoid].”

I’m so fucking frustrated. The rest of the recommendations were all things I’ve been doing- chunking for memory, CBT, using phone alarms and planners. I have no idea if the “provisional” diagnosis is enough for my psych np to say yes let’s treat it with something actually effective. And I TOLD them before they even did the fucking wais that I had done it before and it wasn’t valid. Jdkspfpajciaodkxpap.

Me in intake paperwork: “I’ve done a battery of all kinds of psychological testing in bits and pieces as a Guinea pig for my mom’s students as she teaches assessment courses, including IQ tests- WPPSI, WISC, and WAIS.”

Neuropsych: “okay cool my psychometrist is gonna do the wais.”

Me, to the psychometrist: “full disclosure, I’ve done these tests before.

Psychometrist: “okay, I still have to repeat the instructions”

Neuropsych to me a month later: “Did you do the WAIS before?”

Me: “… yes like I said, I’ve done bits and pieces of the WAIS here and there.”

Neuropsych: “well we can’t give a real diagnosis because the WAIS is invalid.”

THIS COST THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS AND EVEN WITH AMAZING INSURANCE I PAID $360. FOR NOTHING.

This has been a not great week and adding this onto it, idk what I feel exactly other than just frustration and hopelessness.

#personal #adhd #or can I not use that tag because it’s only a provisional diagnosis

[uncloseted]

Do you have any advice for being a better student in college? This is my first semester at a new school and I feel bad because I didn't do good. I didn't fail but I didn't get the grades I wanted and I feel like I wasted all my time and I'll never get those opportunities back, and it makes me depressed. I want to do better next semester

I think that really depends on why you were struggling in your first semester. What do you feel like you were wasting your time on that wasn't your classes? Is there a way to find a happy medium between the things you were distracted by and the work that you want to get done? Is it that the classes you were taking weren't interesting to you or that they're subjects that you're not naturally good at? Are there subjects that might be easier or more interesting for you? Are you struggling with a learning disability or mental health issue that's making it difficult for you to do well in your classes, and, if so, are there accommodations that your school could provide to even the playing field for you? Were you just struggling to adjust to a new environment and a new way of learning? There are a million reasons why your first semester might have gone badly, and until you know why it was hard, it will be difficult to figure out how to fix it.

All that said, there are some things that I think are generally good ideas to make college easier:

At the beginning of each semester, look at the syllabus for the class. Notice which areas of the class are the most important (homework, exams, participation), and make sure you're putting your effort into whichever area is the bulk of your grade. Sometimes it's worth knowing which areas of a class you can skimp on and still get a good grade.

Look at the syllabus for the class and put any key assignments into your phone's schedule or a physical planner. Figure out when you're going to start each assignment and put those in your schedule or planner as well. I know every professor tells you to do this and nobody ever does, but doing a little bit of work on an assignment every day really is way easier than doing the entire thing in one go the night before. (I say this, but this could never be me. My ADHD brain has never started anything in advance ever in my life).

Go to class. I know it's really easy to skip classes because you feel like doing something else (and that's fine once in a while), but a lot of the time, just showing up will help you understand enough of the material that you're not lost when you start studying or working on an assignment.

Similarly, skim the readings. You don't have to read them all- there's usually just not enough time for that- but getting a general idea of what the point is makes a big difference when those readings are discussed in class and on your overall grasp of the topics. I think there are also some websites/apps that will summarize the reading for you and pull out the big ideas if you're short on time. Simple English Wikipedia and the r/explainlikeimfive subreddit are also great resources for easy to understand explanations of simple topics.

See if your school has on-campus tutors. The tutors are usually free, and it's way easier to learn in a one-on-one environment than it is to learn in a big lecture hall. Plus, the tutors will help to make sure your work is getting done on time.

Similarly, go to office hours. Pretty much nobody ever goes, and so they're a really good time to talk to your professor one-on-one and get them to clarify anything you're struggling with. Plus, in my experience, professors bump up the grades of students who they like and who are engaged in their class.

In terms of how to actually study, this article from UNC Chapel Hill is a really good resource, and I would highly recommend checking it out.

On a larger scale, I think it's important to remember that for the most part, your college grades don't really matter. If you want to apply to graduate school or a very competitive job, your GPA might be relevant, but in general, the adage that "Cs get degrees" is true. A lot of the time, getting a job has more to do with internships and networking than it does with your grades or which school you went to. That's not to say that you shouldn't study hard or that grades aren't important, but just to say that not doing well in college isn't going to ruin the rest of your life, even if you never get the grades that you want. It's okay to cut yourself a little slack if you need it. Figuring out how to learn, how to manage tasks, and how to be an adult is a part of college that's as important as the actual grades you get.

[fanboo]

Party Planners

Karl Jacobs

(I just checked my poll, he got the least amount of votes, therefore I’m writing him. Because ultimately I am the God of this operation and you can’t stop me!! Muahahahahaha)

Parent AU

There was nothing you hated more than the elementary school pickup line. The school itself was fine, but god that fucking line. It was worth it, though, because every day you saw your son’s teacher, Mr. Jacobs. And obviously your son, but you had a huge crush on his teacher. It was protocol for parents to get out and grab their kids (safety reasons) so you and him would chat every time you got Tommy.

Today was no different, so once you finally got a parking spot, you walked over to grab your son. “Hi Tommy!” You called as you got closer. He looked up, eyes puffy from crying, and ran to you. You dropped down to catch him. “Oh no, baby, what’s wrong?” You asked, picking him up. His teacher stepped forward. “Tubbo told him they’d be moving soon,” Mr. Jacobs said. He reached out to pay the child’s shoulder. “Schlatt has a job opportunity that he told me will help him take better care of Tubbo. I forgot about that,” you said softly.

Karl looked sad. You could tell he would miss his student. So would you, as you and Schlatt were great friends, not to mention your children. “We should throw them a going away party,” you said, hoping to get Tommy’s attention. He looked up. “You love parties, don’t you?” You asked your son. He nodded, making Karl laugh. “That’s a great plan. I’ll talk to Tubbo’s father about it. You’ve got my number, I believe, so I’ll text you if he’s okay with it.” You nodded. “Well, I better go. Ready Tommy?” He nodded again, and waved at his teacher. “Bye Tommy! Bye, Y/N. Pleasure to talk to you again! Have a great day.”

As you were buckling Tommy’s seatbelt, he watched you. “Do you like mister Jacobs?” He asked. The question had you taken aback. “Excuse me?” You stuttered. Tommy shrugged. “I think he likes you. You should kiss him.” You laughed. “That’s not quite how that works, kiddo. C’mon, let’s go home.”

Hours later, after you had Tommy tucked into bed, you got the text from Karl saying you had the okay from Schlatt. The three of you would be the only ones in on it (besides Tommy, who promised not to tell) to make sure Tubbo didn’t find out.

When the party finally came, you went in with Tommy. The room was decorated by yourself and Karl the night before. As you’d decorated, the two of you talked about life. How Karl loved kids but had none of his own, how Tommy’s other parent had left you a month after he was born, how he tried his best despite his ADHD. It was nice.

“Y/N! Everyone, say hi to Y/N,” Karl greeted as you entered. “Hi guys! I’m Tommy’s parent.” Everyone rushed to greet you, so Karl helped calm them down. As he explained to them why the room was decorated, you watched him. He looked so at home surrounded by the kids. This was definitely his dream job. “Me, Y/N, and Schlatt decided to give Tubbo a going away party.” Schlatt was near the snack table, gently instructing Tubbo on how to tie his shoe. Upon hearing his name, he rose and waved. “Hey ya little gremlins.”

The party went great, all the students were playing, chatting or snacking to their hearts content. It lasted all day, so when the final bell rang, you stayed behind to help clean up. You were arranging Tommy’s ride home with Schlatt when Tubbo tugged on your hand. “Hey bud. What’s up?” You asked, picking him up. “Thank you,” he said quietly, hugging your neck. You kissed his forehead. “Hey. You’re like a second son to me. Anytime. Tommy’s gonna spend the night tonight, your dad said it was okay. Here, Schlatt.” You handed him his child and let Tommy know the plan. Obviously he was ecstatic. “Bye guys! Be good for Schlatt, Tommy.” He nodded, then they were gone.

Once it was just you and Karl, he put on some music and the two of you started to clean. It took a few hours; you were famished by the time you were done. Karl must’ve heard your stomach growl, because he smiled at you. “Hungry?” He laughed. You blushed and nodded. “We should go get dinner. I’ll pay,” he offered. “Mister Jacobs, are you asking me on a date? Scandalous,” you teased. The two of you laughed. “Maybe I am. And please, call me Karl.”

“Okay Karl. Sure. And thank you.” He smiled at you. “Anytime, Y/N.”

#mcyt fanfiction #mcyt #reader insert #dream smp #mcytumblr #karl jacobs #karl jacobs x y/n

[navigatorwrongway]

okay finals week is over so here’s my ADHD online/remote student survival guide

1. This is the big one: if you’re stuck staring at a blank document that should be an essay by now, what you’re gonna do is turn off your brain and turn on your voice to text on your phone.

ideally, you should have at least one little guy (can be a figurine or stuffie or whatever) for moral support

just go on auto pilot about whatever your paper is supposed to be about. You can go back and neaten it up after you have some thing to neaten up, the point is get something down on the document to break the surface tension

I have speed-written so many essays using this strategy, you don’t even know



2. Get a floor pillow!! It will make your floortime so much more comfortable and sometimes doing work on the floor is necessary for your wellbeing i have this one and I slept on it for several weeks when I didn’t have a bed

just make sure it’s one you can stretch out on, belly flop style — those giant throw pillow-style ones are no good

3. For the love of all things holy go outside sometimes, open a window, anything to get fresh air will help

4. Find something you can have on in the background that will get your brain into over the optimal arousal threshold, I like Time Team and the Historical Farm series (both are on youtube)

5. i KNOW you’ve heard it before but you’re gonna hear it again use firefox and adblockers. Do it. I haven’t seen an ad on YouTube in two years and that could be you, too

6. Even if you can’t use one consistently, I hate to admit it, but a planner does actually help. It doesn’t have to be a planner planner, literally a notepad or stickynote where you write a to-do list and due dates next to the assignment is better than nothing. Black pen for everyday/general to-dos, red for the day it’s due

7. Alarms. Alarms for everything. I usually do three alarms for each class or assignment deadline; ten minutes before, four minutes before, and one minute before

8. Find a dopamine boost game that you can pop on for a second and jump off just as easily. I like dragcave.net because i can collect cute dragons but it doesn’t have any of the ‘drag you in and hold you down’ suction that mobile games do and I can put in as much or as little effort as I want (ie. no rewards for checking in every day, no time-out penalties, also free)

9. Work in daylight as much as you’re able to, lamp light if you must, and screen-only in a dark room as a last resort, your eyes and brain will thank you (see point 1 for alternative methods of essay writing at 10:37pm when there’s a midnight deadline)

10. If your school/institution has tutoring or workshopping resources, use them!! They help, both as an extra pair of eyes and as accountability prods; if you have an appointment to have your essay looked at BEFORE the eleventh hour, it can act as a little baby due date to get that deadline productivity magic working

11. Relatedly, research librarians are seriously SO helpful, see if you can get in touch with one.

12. Find a reason to visit campus every so often, if you don’t have any in-person classes. It’s wild how much the “I am a student, I rightfully belong here” feeling can do to strip away that plastic remote learning vibe

13. Seriously just try point 1 it will make the ‘getting started on essays’ part of your life so much less painful

(And please feel free to add on your own tactics!!)

#mar posts #mar does human things #adhd #adhd life

[cg-saturn]

hewwo saduwn 

m having a hawd time wite now cus i jus got axcepted inta a cowwege wich is weawwy good bu m awso weawwy scawed to gwow up an hafta live aw by mysewf ina state were i don kno anybody an i can’t be wif my mommy an daddy an bwoders an were i hafta fly to get to an dats weawwy weawwy scawy. 

m tuning 18 in jus a few monts an m weawwy scawed. i neva wike getting owder cus i jus wanna be widdle again an it makes me hav panic tacks an cwy wots wen i tink bout it too much. m weawwy scawed to be owder an hafta do tings by mysewf i jus wanna be baby again an not hafta wowwy bout stuffs. 

sowwy if dis is too much i jus don kno who ta tawk to bout dis an your weawwy nice an hewpful 

-cosmo (@littlespaceyboy) 

Hey little one, I want to start this off by letting you know you're not alone. Growing up is really scary and hard, but no matter what your big age is, you'll always be a little kiddo at heart.

College is not for everyone. I'm so tired of the way we (americans) pretend that you need to keep climbing the stairs instead of giving yourself a moment to rest. When you're 18, you shouldn't have to figure out the rest of your life. You are still a kid. We pretend that there's some magic change that happens as soon as you turn 18, but there isn't.

As someone who attempted college, I feel like the only thing I really learned was that I had no idea what was going on. I went for two years and didn't make any friends, the food was awful, and I really struggled with my classes. Maybe it was the school I was at, but also maybe I just wasn't ready for it. It's hard to be away from the things you know and the people you care about. For me, I was suddenly confronted by the fact that I have some severe mental disabilities that had never been delt with, like adhd and other issues. I never had to face them in high school, but suddenly I was struggling to wake up for a 9am class and getting straight d's when I was an a/b student growing up. It was a different world, and I couldn't adjust.

I also don't want to sound like I'm just dissing going to college, because I do think it's important if you have a goal in life that requires a degree, but not everyone's paths go in that direction, and I think it's important to remind the up and coming kiddos that growing up doesn't have to be as fast as we pretend it does.

If you are going to college, I do have some advice too- set your alarms and remember to eat at least twice a day. I really struggled with organization, both time and physical. Tote buckets and planners go a long way when you can remember to use them. Try to set time aside every day for assignments, and don't push them off until last minute. I know its hard to start things, but I promise the faster you get it done the less you'll have to worry about. Join a study group with kids from your classes, or go to extra credit workshops when they're offered. It helps to get out of your room and study around campus too- its a great way to socialize when you're someone like me who hates making friends, just go to the library and meet a mutual study buddy to sit silently with and maybe get dinner after.

I know being away from home is scary. No matter what home life you come from, a change in living situations is always hard. I'm so proud of you for going on such a huge adventure kiddo! And I promise- home will be there when you get back. Living now, your family is just a phone call away when you miss them. Sending letters back and forth can be really fun too, most schools give mailboxes for students to use. Definitely remember to bring your stuffies and blankies, and never forget that just because you're getting bigger doesn't mean you're any less of a little kiddo 💕

Sending you love cosmo, please feel free to dm me too if you need anything at all. I'm wishing you and all my other Littles who are moving on the best of luck, and im so so proud of you for making it through high school! @littlespaceboy

Pippi Saturn 💕

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[aindreisblythe]

✨ Aindreis Blythe 🪐

"Does the sun ask itself ‘Am I good? Am I worthwhile? Is there enough of me?’ No, it burns and shines."

Name: Aindreis Kenneth Oliver Blythe

Nicknames: Andy, Dreis.

Date and place of birth: 10th December, 1989 in Summerside, Prince Edward Island (Canada).

Gender identity: cisgender male, he/him.

Residential area: Downtown, East Haven.

Occupation: Project manager/event planner at Gemini.

In East Haven since: beginning of March 2023

Faceclaim: Logan Lerman.

Wanted Connections - Living Space

Biography

Trigger warnings: alcoholism.

Aindreis Kenneth Oliver Blythe sees light for the very first time on December 10th 1989 in Summerside’s General Hospital, the second biggest on Canada’s smallest province, Prince Edward Island. He’s the second of what would become 5 brothers. Daniél, Aindreis, Tomàs, Ethan and Ianathan. Only three of them would be born on PEI. Indeed, as Tomàs, 7 years younger than Aindreis, was approaching his first birthday, their father, Neil, got the opportunity to go back to Inverness and take over his retiring father’s fishing company. So they did, they left Canada behind for Bonny Scotland. Aindreis was almost 8 when he put down his little suitcase in his brand new room, in an almost new country where the accent was funny to his young ear. He had never been a tall child, and he was lean, and having skipped a grade, he always found himself among bigger kids. It wasn’t easy, and now he was going to be the new kid. He wasn’t looking forward to that.

Turns out that he didn’t have to. Turns out that Inverness wasn’t as bad as he thought it would be. His cousins were around, and he met a best friend, Ali, the only kid who decided he was interesting enough to sit next to at the camp fire. Inverness slowly turned into a home, and Andy couldn’t ask for more. His family was complicated and getting crowded, but he wouldn’t change them for anything in the world. Scotland was more welcoming than he thought, and it sometime reminded him of PEI. Came even a surprising moment when his lips unexpectedly met Ali’s. He’d never thought too much about dating before that, but the unasked question had found an answer. An answer that stayed secret, hidden, to Aindreis’s sadness, but it didn’t matter. He was able to hold his hand at lunch behind the bleachers and maybe that could be enough.

But Richard Siken was right when he wrote “Someone has to leave first. This is a very old story. There is no other version of this story.” Ali left first. Andy didn’t understand. Well, he was never given a head’s up or an answer afterwards. His best friend, his boyfriend, just didn’t dare even meet his eyes in school hallways, and Andy was lost. The rest of high school went by with dimmed colours, but the graduated from his A-levels first of his class. Now, he could leave Inverness and all the memories, good and bad.

Stars. Andy’s passions had always been the stars, the universe, space, you name it. So he was trying to get closer to them. Astronaut was never his calling. Nasa, maybe one day. Right now, he was heading to Cambridge University on a fellowship for a degree in physics, with a minor in astronomy. It was his dream… And he threw it away. Looking back, it was a combination of so many things. Freshers week and student parties, a bit of lying to oneself that was we’re doing is definitely not a problem, Cambridge University’s tendency to ask troubled students to isolate as to not disturb the studies of others, a “predisposition for substance abuse” as the doctor said after diagnosing him with ADHD during the three long months he spend in rehab after being kicked out of university for being drunk in class.

Sobriety didn’t last long once he left. And he did leave. Roaming around Europe then Canada, spending less than a year in each place, taking on every small job he could. He stopped fleeing at the sight of every serious thing, every problem, everyone in Toronto. Toronto where he stayed longer than anywhere else. 2 years. One of which he spend with his new boyfriend. Relationship he threw away as he threw away 10 month of sobriety, imposed by a dilemma. Me or the alcohol. The alcohol, Caleb, you lose. Andy did lose too. Back to square one, he thought as he stepped back into a rehabilitation centre.

You may wonder where he went next. He went back to the green field and colourful boats of Inverness. It felt like a failure at the time, but it was the best decision he’s ever made. A decision that lead him to here, to coming to East Haven This time, moving wasn’t running from something or someone, he was coming towards a new job, and a new life with found-again love far from old memories. A new adventure.

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