#but please. allos. for the love of god.

[questioning-aspec-culture-is]

who wants to hear me rant about how fandoms treat asexuality and aromanticism for a bit?

To me, it seems like there is no place where amatonormativity is more rampant than shipping spaces. And it's infuriating.

The way many fandoms treat lgbtq+ characters is sketchy at best - there are several instances of explicitly gay characters being shipped in straight relationships, and other such invalidation of sexualities, but that is a wider issue that I won't go into here, because my main issue is the complete eradication of aspec identities.

Aro and ace representation is rare. Good aro and ace representation is even rarer. And I know what you might be thinking. So is gay and lesbian representation! So is pan and bi and polyam representation! But here's the thing. If fans don't like the overwhelming straightness of characters in canon media, they will fix it for themselves in fanon. They will put straight characters in gay relationships. They will put characters who have no canon love interest in relationships (gay or otherwise).

And this is where the problem lies.

In a society where romantic relationships are valued over nearly everything else, it's rare and exhilarating to find characters who aren't in relationships, whether they are explicitly stated to be aro/acespec or not (which is even more rare). And fans invariably take those characters and ship them with other characters, because heaven forbid a character be happy without a romantic partner who will 'complete' them!! /s

It is obvious that to most people, queer representation in media/fandom is important... until it comes to aspec identities. Because the allos don't seem to give a shit about us and it fills me with rage. We deserve to be included in those spaces, and we deserve to have our identities respected in the same way that gay/lesbian/mspec identities are.

And there will always be queer people who say "oh, well if they've not got a canon love interest it's okay... that's not aphobic... if you tell us we're not allowed to have those ships, that's erasing our identities" and yes of course if it's not canon aromanticism there is nothing *strictly* wrong with shipping those characters but just. just have a think for a minute. If you are so openly eager to ship those characters, and you get so outwardly upset when you can't, what message is that giving to aspec people? you're telling us that unless there is a 'valid' reason not to, you think that being in a relationship is necessary, normal, the default state of things. You are upholding amatonormativity and yes, that is harmful.

And that doesn't only hurt aspec people!! not even allos are in relationships 100% of the time - when you're pushing this agenda, it is harmful to everyone. We need to de-normalise the need for relationships. Characters and people are allowed to be single and live fulfilling lives and not need to have a partner!!

thank you for reading my angry rambly rant i hope it makes sense and if you are allo and think i am being too harsh i do not care because i am fed up of you overlooking and outright excluding us <33

allos are welcome and encouraged to reblog but I would ask that you don't add on! aspecs I would love to hear your opinions, if you want to add anything to what ive said :)

#not questioning aspec culture #i love a good ship as much as the next person #not criticising the concept of shipping #but please. allos. for the love of god. #know when to stop #relationships are not NECESSAry #long post

[sparky-is-spiders]

Ignoring my Tumblr screentime limit to say that this song would be the perfect Amaldyne and Eityr song (from Eityr’s perspective) if it was less strongly implied to be about a romantic relationship.

#eityr is aroace #amaldyne is allo but too busy making her entire personality saving the world and maybe also doing some moral no-nos to worry about dating #but I heard ‘she’s bad news / but i’m no better’ and went ‘oh that’s exactly how eityr feels about amaldyne! #eityr: hey is it normal to obsessivly hold onto another person because they excuse and enable your bad behavior and they’re the only person #who can fucking stand you and you see yourself reflected in them on a fundamental level? even as you know they’re making you worse and their #love is conditional because it’s the only love you’ve ever gotten? #amaldyne: yeah that’s how I feel about you and i’m a regular everyman. anyway please stop having doubts about whether or not being my bff is #‘bad for you’ i found some bad guys and i need you to eat their brains and tell me everything they know ok thx ily #they’re the worst <3 #amaldyne #amaldyne rotwing #eityr #god she really needs a last name i’m so sorry #anyway #the lizard crew #(technically eityr is one of my few non-lizards (noctar + bug person) but that’s the tag sooooo) #but yeah back on the romance stuff #eityr came aromantic pre-story (or at least this specific iteration of it) #and i think making them have a romance would actually take away something from their ddynamic #they’re platonic soulmates who are obsessed with each other but also sort of ruining each others lives (and tbh it’s mostly amaldyne’s fault #) #ok very tired hope all of that made sense #analdyne&eityr #<- idk what my tag for their relationship is so its that one now #okok for real goodnight #Youtube

[convolutedblasphemy]

Okay we're gonna try and settle this

Because I've seen so many people try and speak for the entirety of the ace community in regards to this discourse, I thought why not make a poll just to gauge out the general opinion

Disclaimer: This poll might not turn out entirely accurate given that there's always a possibility some people won't answer truthfully or throw this poll into an echo chamber with people who agree with them.

Disclaimer 2: I'm leaving reblogs open because I want the poll to reach more people but please for the love of god don't start a fight in the notes.

About Option 3: The distinction here is that you're fine with people portraying an asexual / aromantic character as anywhere on the ace / aro spectrum as long as they actually put in the effort to portray a sex-favorable ace or a romance-favorable ace and their experiences as opposed to just making the character allo.

#asexual #aromantic #fandom #aroace #ace #aro #aspec #arospec #asexuality #sex repulsed #sex favorable #ace community #poll #lgbtqia #tw: discourse #bojack horseman #hazbin hotel #alastor #hazbin hotel alastor #asexual alastor #ace alastor #aroace alastor

[herbirdglitter]

ok send help. I found this reddit post with a bunch of links to a ton of really cool articles on asexuality and resources and that kind of thing (X) but OH MY GOD. I’M DYING. One of them was a link to an article on what sexual attraction actually feels like (X) and NOOOOOO JUST NOOOOO PEOPLE ARE JUST WALKING AROUND LIKE THIS??? Y’ALL ARE CRAZY

Edit: for fucks sake, stop being so mean in the comments. I know what I said but people who experience sexual attraction are not crazy, nor are they gross. I was merely trying to illustrate how foreign these feelings are to me. Trust me, I understand what you’re saying, I don’t have a sex drive and I’m sex repulsed, but try and be decent human beings PLEASE. The allos are lovely. Sex is beautiful. I’m beautiful. Which wasn’t really up for debate but it’s worth mentioning

#asexuals #asexuality #asexual #aspec #lgbtq+

[dragimal]

listen. I'm usually all on-board for ace headcanons, but I can't help my bitter aversion towards ace!Laios specifically because ppl keep fucking infantilizing him. mostly bc he's autistic, but the way allos handle ace characters doesn't help either

so I'm going to do you allos a great service and provide some examples of in-character, potential ace headcanons for Laios that DON'T boil down to, "whuh? sex? what's that??"

kinky ace: he can only get off under very specific conditions. usually it's some manner of BDSM for the aces I've talked to, but I think we all have an idea of what Laios' specific conditions/kinks could be, lmao

demisexual: he's gotta get be closely bonded with someone to experience sexual attraction to them. I can just imagine him spending like 5 years befriending somebody, and suddenly sexual attraction hits him outta nowhere like a brick to the face.

'the voyeur': he mostly gets off to fantasy scenarios or others having sex, and doesn't have much desire to participate himself. I've seen this lumped under demisexuality, but I'm not 100% sure abt certain ace microlabels, so I'm just leaving it as 'voyeur' for now.

'the researcher': interested in sex in a purely academic capacity-- he just wants to observe. imagine him blank-faced, nodding his head and taking notes in his little journal, saying, "I see I see," while visiting a BDSM club. obviously his canon interests lean more biological, but I could see him getting really into discussing other people's kinks for the pure fun of it.

I personally can't really see Laios as sex-repulsed, but I'm not opposed to it, if someone has a good argument for it. I just think there's enough evidence in the manga him "getting off" to certain situations (we all know the Winged Lion bit...) that he feels more sex-positive or neutral at most.

anyways these are just a few examples of the vast, nuanced ace experience, so please for the love of god, stop writing him like he doesn't know what sex is!!!

#shut up ashley #dungeon meshi #laios touden #ace

[campyvillain]

I’m going to say something not a lot of people will like to hear but fuck it. discrimination towards ace and aro ppl - and those adjacent - is 99% of the time just blatant ableism disguised as “discourse”.

neurodivergent - and specifically autistic - ppl tend to make up a large portion of the aspec community since we tend to experience attraction differently than nt ppl, and I’m just saying that the perception of aspec people in the eyes of people who disagree w our existence being that we’re “childish and immature whiny people who are deeply obsessed with childish things and are too infantile to be taken seriously” being not far off at all from a very ableist stereotype of autistic people? yeah no way in hell that’s not a coincidence. when aphobia and arophobia were at their peak, discriminatory allo people LOVED to be like “ace/aro people are so cringe lmao!!!,!, all they do is obsess (insert ‘childish’ media here) but they still want to be TREATED WITH RESPECT?? how dumb lol unlike us REAL lgbts who care about the REAL world and don’t live in some FANTASY LAND they give US a bad name and need to be removed from our community!” and like…. You’re not gonna take a step back and read back what you’re saying? not at all? you’re not gonna do that huh. you do realize you’re falling eerily in line with a verryyyy specific type of ideology that’s also used against nd people here right?

and the thing that blows the most is that a majority of people engaging in “ace/aro discourse” at its peak WERE neurodivergent - but the thing is back then neurodivergence wasn’t NEARLY as recognized or treated with respect as it is in the current time, back when openly admitting you were autistic and being proud of it was unheard of. so instead, neurodivergent allo people with shitty mentalities chose to go after nd aspec/arospec people because the internet had reduced autism to such a drastic punchline that a lot of autistic people internalized that ableism, and so whenever they saw people being open about their neurodivergency they saw it as “cringe” and would make up any reason they could to justify harassment against them. and since a lot of aspec communities are made up of autistic people that those w internalized ableism saw as “infantile” or “threats to their reputation” - its unfortunately no wonder why so many allo nd lgbt people became so obsessed with attacking them for years on end.

and I know this because I (an ace lesbian) used to be in a lot of friend groups who WERE composed of these allo nd lgbt people who would just say the most vile shit about ace and aro people to make themselves feel more “valid” as “true members of the lgbt community” but these were also literally the only out lgbt friends I had. i kept my ace status closeted from them for years and never engaged in any conversations centering around “ace discourse” because I was afraid of the things that they’d do to me - I had seen them turn on their former friends who confessed they were aro or ace overnight because they were “embarrassing to be around”and i didn’t want to lose the only people in my life who’d “cared” about me. I eventually came to my senses and left them and found friends who knew all the gatekeeping was total meaningless bullshit and thank god I did because it damn near saved my life.

people who say that ace, aro, or any group of people who don’t have a “typical” means of attraction “don’t experience oppression at all” are fucking lying. they’re trying to remove any means of accountability from themselves because people who say that ARE the reason why we face the shit we do. THEY’RE the ones perpetuating it. they’re the reason why harassment against us isn’t as taken seriously because they’ve spread the belief that we are making shit up when we continue to call out the harm they’ve done.

so this pride month please just. fucking take a step back and really think about how many exclus talking points just so happen to coincide with ableist talking points. because I guarantee you there’s a lot of them, and in a climate where neurodivergency is actually able to be discussed and handled with respect now, it’s shocking that more people haven’t caught onto this yet.

[abcwordsurge]

aromantic character prompts

Because I'm so desperate to see these that I guess I'll just make them myself.

The aromatic character will be called "X," the plot convenience secondary character will be called "Y."

X feeling left behind when their best friend Y gets a romantic partner

X going on a blind date with Y, really enjoying themself, but panicking when Y asks to kiss them (or tries to kiss them without asking, for a little extra angst)

X nervously asking Y to be their queer platonic partner

X responding to "one day you'll find someone"

X listening to Y's romance troubles and trying to figure out how to say "I have literally no idea what you think you will gain by telling me this"

two (or more) romantic characters comparing their experience (i.e. an aro character in a relationship and a loveless aro talking about their difference, or aros bonding over their mutual annoyance over allos' tendency to invalidate them)

X realizing that they're aromantic and breaking up with their partner (or communicating and transforming their relationship into a QPR??)

and dialogue prompts:

"no, please... please don't say you love me"

"oh my god, same!"

"why is none of your art about love? don't you feel love?"

"I didn't know you felt that way about me"

"you don't even know what that means, do you"

"oh, I get it now, I don't like them, I just think they're pretty"

"I'm sorry I can't feel the same about you"

"I don't want to explain myself to you!"

"wow, that makes me feel so much better"

and, tip, just... listen to AJR's "Turning Out" trilogy. they just inspire me so much. sometimes when I'm writing something about an aspect character I put on those three songs in a loop to get into the mindset of an aspec person confused about romance.

feel free to use these with or without tagging me- because I am firmly of the opinion that if someone writes a fic (or draws something) based on the, like, ten words I wrote, they owe me nothing, because that art is theirs. but also I'd love to know I inspired someone haha

happy writing!

#writeblr #writing prompt #writing #fluff prompts #angst prompts #aromantic prompts #aspec prompts #dialogue prompt #aromantic #arospec #aspec

[strawberrymilksystem]

Heyyyy it’s bad opinion time again.

I’m taking qpr away from the allos until they stop using it as an excuse to put every single character in a relationship. Jesus fucking Christ one of Admins comfort characters is a pretty obvious relationship repulsed person (like. Canonically) and the amount of people who use qpr as an excuse to ship him with his best friend is :/ the allos don’t get qpr anymore until they can fucking accept that people who don’t want to get into any sort of relationship need representation, too. The world is already so couple centric please for the love of god “they marry for tax reasons” They don’t marry at all.

-Pearl

#aroace #aromantic #loveless aro #begging. hands and knees #just let loveless people exist let us have representation omg #HIS WORST FEAR WAS A PERSONIFICATION OF BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP. WHY DO THEY CONTINUE TO SHIP HIM

[scarletspider-lily]

this bullshit discourse around cishet aromantic men is driving me insane and im not aromantic or aspect in the slightest but i gotta rant. because it's just getting very ridiculous at this point, because people make assumptions about everyone and also want to twist the definition of being queer- for some reason?? 1) "well- well they dont get oppressed!! >:(" sorry, pause, why the FUCK are we making "oppression" a part being lgbtq+ ? is this some new fucking requirement?? are you people okay?? i dont give a fuck if some queer child has had the best life ever in a super inclusive area from the second they were born, i would be happy for them?? maybe you should too? listen, ive faced oppression for being bisexual, and have felt envious of those with accepting family and whatnot, but what im not going to do is discredit my fellow queer person for facing "less" or no oppression at all for their identity. crazy take, but i think the goal should be to reduce queer oppression...

and oppression is not... some fixed scale type of thing, someone was trying to say that being asked "when will you get married?" to aro people wasn't oppression. as if that is not the only thing aro people face, as if instituitions like marriage dont exist, with certain economic benefits aro people can't partake in, and social constructs making certain people seem "weird" and straight up ostracized from social groups if they choose not to partake in romance.

2) amatonormativity is a thing, look it up. i get that it may be frustrating if you are allo to accept that youve been taught a lot of stuff about romance that seems magical and all encompassing and you dont want to give it up, but no one is asking you to do that. i used to be taken aback at some things aro folks pointed out, but as ive read more, ive realized that romance is wonderful to some people but shouldnt be held up as the ultimate pedestal in society. so, romanticize romance and whatnot if you personally want to, but understand that certain social constructs may harm people, especially those who do not want relationships for whatever reason. plus, learning about amatonormativity has helped me positively go about my own relationships- platonic and otherwise! 3) im gonna piss people off with this one, but please stop with the bullshitty radfem takes about cishet men being the ultimate spawn of satan, or something. the jokes here and there were one thing, but some of you guys actually believing that most of what cishet men do is inherently evil is legitimately concerning and this doesnt do much to actually help any matters. no, the man choosing to have another hookup this week or continuing to fuck a female friend-with-benefits isnt the ultimate enemy here against women. most takes on "hookup culture" generalize a lot of people's experiences, and i know there is research backing multiple perspectives on this, but at the end of the day what needs to be realized is that you cannot stop two consenting people from doing things together. it has no impact on you, and does not have a grand impact on society. unless you have definitive proof that whatever evil man you're talking about is "using women", there's no point to what you are saying, and if there is such a man, cishet aro men still are legitimate in their identity. would you exclude gay people from the community because of gay people who do bad things? would you do that for most identities? no? what makes this so drastically different, then? dont pull the oppression argument again for the love of god anyways, i hope all the cishet aro men and aro people in general are having a nice day. you will always be a part of the lgbtq+ community. dont let anyone tell you otherwise, or discredit you for the amount of "oppression" you face, as im sure they dont know half of any struggles you have. and if you (or any queer person in general) do happen to have few struggles, im very happy for you, as that's how it should be!!

#rant #i genuinely cannot stand this discourse anymore #discourse critique #queer #aro #aromantic #arophobia #tw arophobia #scarletspider-lily #long post #btw im not aro so if i got smth wrong lmk but ya!

[web-novel-polls]

Aroace-spec Character Winners' Tournament

[Please vote for who you believe has the most canon evidence to be aroace-spec, not the most popular. It will never be acceptable to post "anti-propaganda" in this tournament or invalidate a suggested identity because "they're not aroace enough." You will be blocked unless it's clearly a genuine mistake / misphrasing.]

Propaganda underneath the cut

Shen Qingqiu from The Scum Villain’s Self-Saving System

Submission 1: Gay Asexual

I mean have you met the man? "Assuming you're straight because you feel nothing towards either sex but you have to be the default, right? before realizing you're romantically attracted to someone but not realizing you're romantically attracted to someone because it doesn't feel like sexual attraction which is how allos explain what love is until the romantic attraction hits you like a sledge hammer" is both a common ace experience and absolutely his story arc. Also I would have submitted him sooner but I thought he was a shoe in

Submission 2:

Asexual, somewhere on the aro spectrum - I would have submitted him earlier but based on the tags I assumed I wouldn't need to and didn't want op to be spammed with too many submissions ;_; anyhow he's here now!

Mod Propaganda

Was completely okay with not marrying anyone (because all the women in the world “belong to the protagonist”)

So fucking weird about sex. He has to mentally contort his brain seven ways to Sunday to even IMAGINE fucking someone (earning him the title of “most homophobic gay person”)

“He’s not gay, Binghe is”

Reads bad erotica and then complains about the plot inconsistencies

Accidentally wife beams/romances pretty much every single character he meets

Liu Qingge from Scum Villain’s Self-Saving System

Submission 1: Gay Grayace

He spends most of his life with one interest and that's fighting and then when he falls for a man he's confused by it and proceeds to flirt in the most awkward way possible. Also he has the grey-white-sometimes purple colour scheme

Submission 2: Aroace

The idea of him being asexual is presented right there on the page and you can't take that away from me. Yes I think he is in love with sqq yes I also think he is aroace. He can be both!

Submission 3: Asexual/Ace-spec

I think he’s sex repulsed given his icy or horrified reactions when sexual topics are discussed. He was also once forcibly aroused when hit by an aphrodisiac, and he responded in a way that implied he had never experienced that before. Additionally, his instinct was not to do anything sexual, but to commit acts of violence.

Mod Propaganda

Canonically not interested in romance by word of God

MXTX: “[Liu Qingge] isn't interested in Shen Qingqiu. He isn't interested in anyone. He's only interested in fighting. He wants to be the strongest and the best.” (Source)

Canonically had no clue he was sexually aroused in the Succubi Extra / interpreted it as “wanting to fight” (which isn’t the same as not experiencing sexual attraction, but that’s also not a trademark of allosexuality)

Speaking of, he never specifically seems interested in Shen Qingqiu romantically or sexually - he’s usually shipped with him bc of his devotion, not a clear desire for romance. Though that’s pretty much just up for personal interpretation

#shen qingqiu #liu qingge #svsss #aroace spec character tournament #aroace spec winners semifinals #polls #queue

[screaming-cicada]

QPR headcanons w/ RoTTMNT

headcanons \ aro-spec reader \ GN reader \ Non-Romantic (platonic or alterous) \ second person

A/n: I got a surge of aro joy so im writing this. yea. this is short but its all i got

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Raphael

- Very happy when you asked him to be in a QPR! Like his face lit up

- CUDDLE BUG!! Physical affection is his favorite; doesn’t have a preference on who’s holding who

- You and Raph are the DDR reigning champions.

- Really really loves holding your hand

Leonardo

- ngl i might be projecting a bit but he is kinda arospec/allo he’s literally the arospec flag

- bonks his forehead on yours, it’s like kissing for him.

- you guys do really dumb shit all the time.

- “I bet i can fit 20 tater-tots in my mouth at once!” “That’s rookie numbers; make it 30.”

Donatello

- He’s oriented aroace, as we all know

- You're his new lab assistant? yes. he literally calls you his lab assistant (affectionate)

- Not that into physical affection but will hold hands (to secretly stim)

- Please for the love of god make him go to bed

Michelangelo

- Sweetest boy! you guys are like inseparable

- He often cooks with you, making up new recipes and letting you taste test them

- Glomps you i guess? (idk i wasn’t on the internet when that was a common word)

April O'Neil

- Bestest bestie that ever bestied

- She puts her arm around your shoulder almost every time you’re in the same place

- Riding bikes in central park! Yes!

- Talks with you so much, it’s great

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#rottmnt #tmnt #rottmnt x reader #platonic #tmnt x reader #gn reader #aromantic reader #rise of the tmnt #rise of the teenage mutant ninja turtles #teenage mutant ninja turtles #platonic tmnt x reader #leonardo x reader #raphael x reader #donatello x reader #michelangelo x reader #april o'neil x reader #aromantic writer #headcanons

[aroaceconfessions]

Dear sex favorable aces, please consider that if you see a post aimed for sex respulsed/averse aces, you don't really have to go and add "not all aces ", "I for one love sex", etc etc. SPECIALLY if it's about their own personal experiences and settings of boundries with allo people. Instead you could go and search or even create content for people like you!! There's plenty out there!!!

I swear to god, there's better ways to spread the word that asexuality is a specturm yadayadayada than adding unecessary comment under contet target to other types of aces that are not how you would describe yourself!!!

Submitted April 6, 2023

#asexual #ace #aspec #acespec #infighting

[writing-rat]

Is That My Hoodie?

Pairing: Wednesday x Enid

Content Warning: Fluff, Clothes stealing

Summary: Enid steals Wednesday's hoodie. Wednesday is shocked

It was a cold Friday day, and Enid was cold. She was shivering when she got up, and saw the snow. She sighed, knowing all her other hoodies were in the wash due to not having many hoodies in general. She only had thin jackets at that point. She grabbed a pair of jeans, her favourite sweater, which was a lesbian flag, when an idea slipped into her mind. She glanced over at her roommate’s side before she glanced at the bed but knew Wednesday would be gone already. She always left at 6am, school day or not. She was soon wandering over to the wardrobe and grabbed a hoodie, unaware that it had her family’s name on it and their motto. The hoodie only had a ‘W’ on the front. The back had a big ‘A’ on the back with the motto circling around the A. ‘Sic gorgiamus allos subjectatos nunc’ surrounded the A, meaning ‘We gladly feast on those who would subdue us’. 

Enid put it on as she was soon starting to walk out the room, going over to Yoko’s table. Divina was sick due to being in the lake for too long in the cold, meaning Yoko missed Divina, and was pouting. That was at least until she saw Enid walk over where she grinned. “E!” She yelled out happily.

“Yoyo!” Enid yelled out again with a smirk. She sat down as Yoko hugged her, then smelt the hoodie. 

“You have a brave soul stealing her hoodie,” Yoko joked. “She won’t mind, I do this all the tim, but only with shirts,” she explained, Yoko looked shocked. “Why are you shocked?” she aksed, furrowing her eyebrows. “In the locker room, Bianca accidentally grabbed Wednesday’s shirt. One death threat later and a near stabbing, the shirt was handed back,” Yoko spoke. Enid smirked. “I’m special then,” Enid spoke with a shrug before she got up. “I’m getting food now,” she explained, about to leave when a hand was on her shoulder.

“No need,” Wednesday stated, putting the plate down with Enid’s favourite foods as well as a hot chocolate from the Weathervane. She proceeded to hand a mocha to Yoko before she sat down. “Is that my hoodie?” she then asked Enid, who went bright red, her crush on Wednesday overriding everything else. Yoko tried to not laugh so she was taking a sip of her drink, her fangs puncturing the lid, making her teeth stuck. Yoko didn’t want to ruin anything so she waited. She didn’t miss the small smile from the little devil however. “I’m sorry, I didn’t have any other warm clothes,” Enid explained. “I just had to grab something from you. Why? Is this an important hoodie?” She overthoguht. “It is fine. It is ok to wear that hoodie IF you want to be an Addam’s,” Wednesday explained. Enid blinked in surprise.

“Why?” she asked dumbly. “It is the family motto. It is on the back. If you are to be the love of my life, then you will get your own too. It can be whatever size, so I decided to get a size too big in case I grew. Clearly, it didn’t happen,” Wednesday stated. 

“I-I see. I mean, we are the same with the only one love thing I believe. We have mates after all and you are mi-” Enid was about to speak but covered her mouth. Wednesday raised an eyebrow. “I assume I’m your mate,” she then spoke casually. Enid blushed and hid her face before she nodded. “I will get one custom made for you, what size?” Wednesday asked. Enid blushed even redder.

“Size extra large please,” Enid spoke, her brain catching up. “Thank god,” came a muffled noise from Yoko, to which Enid looked up, seeing Yoko cross eyed as she was trying to shake the lid out of her mouth. Enid sighed and pulled it off before she was glaring. “You know how many times she has come to me about you? Too many times, so now I can be happy,” Yoko spoke happily. “Is that so?” Wednesday spoke. Yoko nodded. “Now… can we go to Jericho and shop for clothes?” Enid asked. Yoko nodded as Wednesday smirked. “Can I join you?” Wednesday asked. “Of course!” Enid spoke. Yoko groaned, but she liked Wednesday so it was going to be ok at least.

#wenclair #wednesday x enid #wednesday #ratboy writing

[silver-ink-iron-words]

As an aro who wants a qpr, reading your qpr of Hero and Villain makes me feel wonderful about myself. Especially because I’m ok with my future qpp feeling romantic feelings for me, as long as they respect that I don’t feel romance towards them.

I’m interested in you writing a prequel snippet where Hero comes out to Villain!

Hey there fellow aro! It means so much to me that you like this series

Part 5 may have gotten a little heavy? But I hope you like it anyways

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Part 1

Part 2

Part 3

Part 4

QPR, Part 5 (Prequel)

This was all the hero’s fault.

In their defense, it was news to them that the villain had been flirting.

But maybe they should have known. The witty compliments, the thoughtful gifts, the flimsy excuses to run into the hero again and again and again . . . yeah, anyone else probably would’ve seen this coming from a mile away. 

It’s just that the hero didn’t see why those things had to be romantic. They complimented their friends all the time. Bought them presents, spent time with them, told them they loved them. Why did everyone act like romance had a monopoly on care?

Why was friendship never enough?

But none of that made a difference right now. Because the villain clearly had other intentions. The hero felt a pang of guilt for every close moment they’d ever shared with their nemesis.

“I tend to find,” the villain said, resting their arms on the balcony’s rails, “that if you lean into the cheesiness, it becomes endearing.”

The hero glanced at them. “How many laws did you break?”

“Surprisingly, not that many. You wouldn’t believe the kinds of things you can get a permit for.”

“Still, I’m sure there’ll be noise complaints.”

The fireworks spelling “[Hero], will you go out with me?” burned in the night sky like glowing colorful candy. A second bout of fireworks shot up, forming an enormous heart.

“So, did it work?” the villain asked, grin as bright as the explosives. “Did I endear you?”

The hero peered over. The villain’s expression was easygoing, their stance casual.

But their eyes betrayed them.

Their eyes held enough hope to flood a citadel.

This was all the hero’s fault.

“Look, [Villain] . . . I . . .”

The light flickered dead on the villain’s face, and the hero felt like a murderer.

“Oh,” they said, voice deceptively calm. “I see.”

“It’s not because of you, it’s – ”

“Please.” The villain’s eyes were cast downwards. Away from the hero, away from the dazzling display. “Please spare me the ‘it’s not you it’s me’ speech.”

The hero faltered.

But then their jaw set. They needed the villain to understand.

“I’m aroace,” they said.

The villain glanced up, brows scrunched in confusion. “What’s that?”

The hero should have expected this. But still, they wanted to groan. Of all the times to pull out the god damned vocab lesson.

“It’s short for aromantic asexual,” they said, suppressing a sigh. “It means you feel little to no sexual or romantic attraction. In my case . . . I don’t feel it at all.” They met the villain’s eyes. “Ever.”

The villain paused for a moment. Was the hero imagining the disbelief on their face?

“So you just . . . can’t fall in love?”

I love so much and so deeply, the hero thought, some days I’m sure my heart will burst from it.

“Yeah,” they said. “I’m just not capable of that sort of feeling.”

Because allos only ever meant one thing when they said “fall in love.”

The villain searched the hero’s face. “Are you sure you’re not just a late bloomer?”

The hero’s fingers curled at the question. The villain didn’t know any better, they reminded themself. They didn’t realize the implications behind those words.

Maybe you’re just a late bloomer. Maybe one day, you’ll mature out of a fundamental part of yourself.

Maybe one day, you’ll be normal like the rest of us.

“Even if I am one,” the hero said, with a sad smile, “do you really want to wait around forever on the slim chance that I am?”

The villain averted their gaze.

“I’m never going to date again,” the hero continued. “I’m not going to get married. So it’d be best if you just try to move on.”

Of course, the hero’s statement was misleading. It made it sound like the hero wasn’t open to anything. But silently, secretly, within their quiet moments all to themself, the hero longed for a QPR.

Something lasting. Something real. Something treasured and special and intimate, that defied the very definition of what a relationship could be.

But that wasn’t the sort of relationship the villain wanted. Even bringing it up right now would just give them more false hope. It would be nothing but cruel.

“Can we be friends, then?” the villain asked, pulling the hero out of their thoughts.

“Sure,” the hero said. But their smile was fake.

They’d done this dance before. The villain would make an honest effort at friendship. They really would. But then, eventually, they would realize that the hero’s continued presence in their life was making it impossible to move on.

And then the hero would lose the villain forever.

They blinked. If they weren’t careful, they were going to cry.

“Okay,” the villain said, sounding relieved. “So long as we can stay friends.”

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The villain sat in front of their computer, illuminated by its cold ghostly glow.

On their desk sat a bottle of whiskey. There was a tiny pink post-it note stuck to the bottom corner of their screen, covering the digital clock so that they couldn’t see what ungodly hour of the night it was.

This evening had almost been the most devastating fuckup of their life.

What if the hero had been creeped out by their romantic advances? What if they hadn’t believed the villain about remaining friends?

The hero could have disappeared from the villain’s life entirely.

The villain took another shot of whiskey.

So here they were, combing through the internet for every mention they could find of asexuality and aromanticism. They had to make sure they didn’t mess things up again.

As it turned out, there were never-ending nuances to these identities. Hundreds of different perspectives, piles upon piles of vocabulary words, strange new concepts that the villain struggled to wrap their head around.

It was getting increasingly difficult to keep up.

They were currently scrolling through reddit, a surprisingly helpful resource. Some person had started a thread asking the internet if they might be aro.

At least I won’t have to watch [Hero] get with anyone else, they thought, as their eyes drifted over the comments.

Then, their attention snagged on a new word. Actually, an acronym.

QPR.

Great. Yet another thing to look up.

They clicked open a new tab, and typed the term into the search bar.

As they read, their gaze sharpened. They sat up straighter. Leaned in.

This was . . .

But was it actually viable? What if this was too close to romance? What if the hero wouldn’t go for it?

Could the villain dare hope that they had a second chance?

They finished their whiskey, and slammed the empty bottle back down on the desk.

Well, there was no harm in asking, right?

Part 6

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[aroacechillzone]

Yo aros... what are you guys’s shipping habits? I feel like cuz of our aromanticism, we might ship things differently than allo people (or not! i don’t know). Personally, I’m pretty neutral on 90% of ships, with my opinion ranging from “ehhh not for me” to “neat.” Out of all the fandoms I've been in over the years, I only have one ship I could call my OTP, and that’s because I basically got to make them OCs because there's hardly any canon to them.99% of the time when I look at a fandom tag it’s for posts actually about the thing and not just shipping and x reader fics, so it really annoys me when it shows up a lot. aka ATSV FANS PLEASE SHUT UP ABOUT HOW HOT MIGUEL O’HARA IS I SWEAR TO GOD*—I get it. He’s hot. Objectively. But please can we talk about the movie in general for once??? No??? Okay then.

*Putting this here because this is the Bad Faith Reading Website. No, I don’t think it’s bad if you find him hot. I get it. He’s attractive (objectively). I’m just annoyed because I loved other parts of the movie too and I want to see more love for them (both the other characters and other stuff like the visuals and themes).

#aro #aromantic #fandom #tbh all the miguel stuff #is DEFINITELY tied to the fact hes not white #but thats a whole other can of worms #i just hhhhhh #why do ppl like x reader fics so much #bruh i dont wanna be in the story i just wanna vibe #anyways if u get annoying about miguel u r getting blocked #i dont expect most of my audience to bc i think u guys are all aros LOL

[greyro-problems]

oh god it looks like im greyro and i think im falling in love and lads oh it is not worth it. what are these feelings please take them away??? romance?? no thank you please put it back¿??

like i've felt love. i love my friends. i love my family. it's like lying by a warm fireplace in the winter, or like the morning sun glowing on your skin. this shit? I AM THE FIRE. I AM ON FIRE. I AMI NSIDE THE SUN. so much energy and heat and intensity but uh randomly all at once? and its very nice somehow for a while but fuck IM STILL ON FIRE please someone come PUT ME OUT

I understand why allo ppl cant describe this shit its so fuckng odd, like, id like control of my emotions back please thank you

does anyone else feel like this or am i the only one losing their own mind

i seriously feel i might spontaneously combust

This may be one of the most relatable asks that I've ever gotten. 100% this. Why is romance and can it go away and let me feel my feelings at my own time pls

#ask #anon #greyro #greyromantic #greyro problems #fire #crushes #squishes #the pain of Feelings(tm)