#to navigate polyamory

[seventhcallisto]

Prologue.

—His Cologne.

It's said there is nothing truly perfect in this world. Yet the thought of two people coming together and finally tying the bond is considered so. It took you by surprise. Truly, was that really the most perfect thing?

When two (or more) people get together. And their bonds glow. It's perfect, and they live happily ever after. The end. But it is never really the end. You grew up with two of the most proclaimed and promising soulmates. Childhood friends from a run-down neighborhood. Being mischievous and biding time skipping school. Tied by time. Yeah, pretty perfect.

But as they grew, they dabbled in things they still have yet to tell you. (You have a clue) And began getting into terrible relationships. When they finally reconnected, they noticed the marks on their wrists glowed a beautiful violet. For a while they were content, quietly living for months. During that time you were conceived. After a while they met their third and final soulmate. mere months passed, they were worse together than they were apart.

Three young souls were burdened by the world of men and women who tore their innocent hearts and made them ruthless and savage. You'd wake up most days to screaming and yelling. Fighting and crying. Makeup breakfast and all three of them pretending to sweep it under the rug. Like clockwork. You wondered if it was just your soulmate parents. Or maybe it was an occurrence for other people. You didn't know. Sometimes, when they fought, and you'd cover your ears and pretend they didn't. You wished they had never met.

But the thought made you feel terrible. How could you wish something like that? How could you wish to tear people apart from each other; or their destined person? It turned your stomach. You cried yourself to sleep most nights they fought, not because they were fighting. But because you wished they had met different people, had different soulmates, or even.. didn't have a soul bond at all. Even going as far as to curse whoever made the marks. Truly why would God-knows-what put three mentally unstable and unwilling people together when they can't even cope around each other? You didn't get it, you would never get it.

It was a hot June day, you stepped into the house after school. Tired from the walk in the heat. You step into the hallway and then. You think. Yeah. It was then you were determined to never want a soul bond. You overhear your father. He who was the last one to be welcomed in the bond. He's hushed on the phone. His sobs pull your heart apart, he confides in your aunt. He cries through his words. He tells her 'i feels unloved, unwanted' 'i feel like a third wheel' and he doesn't know what to do about it. You hear your aunt on the other line, you can hear her worried voice and tone. He said he tried for years to fit in, but he'll never feel as close as his other partners who grew up with each other.

He doesn't even know if your two biological parents even genuinely love him. He doesn't know if he can find it in himself to even love you. The child he raised alongside his partners. His supposed soulmates. You, the kid of those two people- remind him everyday, that he's an outsider. That you'll never truly be his kid, but the kid of two people he desperately wants to love him back the way he wants. You don't eavesdrop anymore. You don't eat dinner that night. You don't even wail like you should. You're numb. Your head meets your pillow as you drift into thoughtless summer.

You don't believe in soul marks, you don't believe in the fact someone can love someone because a bodily detail told them so. No. You don't. You don't want a soulmate and you don't want a mark.

Your eighteenth birthday rolls around. Still no soulmate marks. 'You're a late bloomer,' everyone tells you. You could care less. You're ecstatic at not having one. Your birthday party ends in your parents fighting. Something you're used to by then. you're moving out sooner than a month later. Biding farewell to your run-down neighborhood and childhood friends, some of whom have their soul partners hanging off their arms. Every glance you make at their soul bonds makes you queasy. Deep down your gut, still twists at the thought of it somehow appearing. A sudden bloom of a mark catching you off guard. You shake those thoughts away.

Your new apartment is centered in the city, even though you aren't a big fan. Anything to get away is fine with you. It's small, homily, with good lighting and a small balcony that you spend most nights reading by. Your bedroom is not even two steps away from the kitchen. You can't complain though. It's mostly modern for the price you're renting it at.

You're more than settled when it's three and a half years later. You've just earned a promotion at your job. Your passion for graphic design really blossomed into what you wish it would. You find yourself becoming satisfied with the way your life is. Maybe a pet would make it better?

You've thought about it most days. You slip into the bathroom, brushing your teeth. You don't mind your reflection. You know what you're gonna see when you look up. It's warm enough to wear spring clothing. A long dreadful winter has passed once again. You spit the remaining toothpaste and wash it down with some mouthwash. You know every nook and cranny of your small apartment. Finding your dresser and pulling clothing out.

Before you shimmy it on. You're looking in your reflection. Your heart drops. A single mark on your left shoulder. A mark in the shape of a rose. You're out of breath as you scrub and scrub. All you leave behind is a red mark. You cry silently to yourself all day. The city lights glimmer and shine upon your tears on the balcony. Your pants ride up your calves. You haven't gotten dressed since earlier that day, a loose hoodie and a plain pair of grey sweats you threw on frantically to cover up. of course, on your day off, you get this terrible news.

It was so rare that someone wouldn't have a soul mark. Deep down, you prayed you would be a part of those rare people. How silly of you to hope you'd be spared from this. You're mindlessly scratching your ankle, tracing a pattern. For some reason, your head drops down to look at what you're doing. A gasp gets caught in your throat.

There on the curve of your left ankle that's propped up on the chair with you: is another mark. The infinity symbol with two dots on each side. You pull away like it burned you, foot slamming onto the concrete beneath you. You're rushing into the apartment like you can run away from it. Slamming your sliding door behind you. You're striping off your clothes frantically, only left in your undergarments. Not soon after you stand bare in front of your mirror. Tears welling up in your eyes.

There are four more symbols you can spot immediately. 3. in the center valley of your breasts, it mimics a tattoo. it's the arrow of a bow. 4. Another on the front of your right hip is a seventeen percent full waxing cresent moon. The rest is filled in with black to simulate the shadow. 5. flushed on the front view of your left hip, four distinct fingerprints, they connect like constellations, short bursts of lines. It's curved to mimic where a hand would press flat.

6. On your stomach, right below your belly button. A tiny figure of a man lays on his palms, he's no bigger than an inch. He's etched out like a sketch. His features are small but extremely detailed. His torso is bare, showing off his lean muscles, his hair fluffy, and it pools around to caress his blurred face. His left leg is tucked under his extended right that drips off like it's plunged into a body of water that creates ripples. Across his lap is a blanket. 7... seven? You take a sharp breath. It's brand new. It wasn't there a second ago. How'd you miss it?

The seventh mark is on your left thigh, it's a twisted branch that flowers hang from, there's no color but if there was; red would be the color of every pedal, it almost covers the whole front of your thigh. You pray that's it. You pray there's no more. You turn around to check the rest of your body, oh no. Just your luck. When you pull your hair over, you catch sight of the 8th soul mark. A dragon, how silly. But it's just a dragon, wings spread wide and it crawls up the length of your neck. Barely out of view, hidden by your hair or clothes when you wear some, an inch and a half at most. Next, 9th. A butterfly thats missing a corner of its wing, Nestled on your left shoulder hanging to a flower. 10th. An outline of a tiger ready to strike right between your shoulder blades.

11th. Your collarbone, new and appearing before your eyes. An acurate black hole swirls right where your collarbone would be/is. 12. A shooting star, its on your right wrist. 13. A goldfish on your left wrist, swimming in a circle. 13...

You're a wreck. You counted 13. Thirteen marks. Soul marks. Soulmates. You have thirteen. What kind of sick joke could this be on you. When you finished counting you threw a fit for the first time in your life. Even when you were a kid, you were never fussy. How the tables turn. Hyperventilating and kicking anything closest to you. You acted out to gain any sense of control. By the time you were done screaming at the world, towards the sky, and whoever above. You fell into a heap on the floor. Tears streamed. And streamed. And streamed.. until you couldn't cry.

You got dressed, made yourself comfortable, all silently. Then went to bed.

Your neighbors weren't very happy. Actually- they're nice people, almost called the cops though at your outburst. 'I'm fine, really. I thought I saw a roach,' you joked. Not a roach, but the feeling of thirteen marks on you made you feel uncomfortable with yourself as if there really was one. The week following was the lowest in your life. You did enough research to kill an interviewer. Soulmates dont really have divorce. But you can remove a soul mark, If you do, it will hurt. Forever, actually. You'll always feel empty. And lonely without your soulmate, under the wiki is a soulmates therapy helpline. Slapped into your face in bold red letters.

God. Your head hurts. Last week made you feel like you were on a roller coaster. You're all out of excuses that allow you not to attend anything. You need time to think about what you're gonna do, how you're gonna avoid this. No way are you gonna bunker down with thirteen people, and somehow find a middle ground and live happily ever after. You don't usually run away from your problems.. but maybe this time, you can get away with it.

Your name is called, and you blink back into reality. "Yes?" You respond, glancing up at your boss. "We're gonna go grab some dinner. Do you wanna come?" She smiles, Eunha is on the older side. Her smile lines are beautiful, and her clothing always fits perfectly. "Sure, let me grab my bag." You smile politely. Food has surely gotta get your mind off this. Even for a moment.

The restaurant is bustling with life. Everyone from every office has a table, smacking of lips and laughter rings out. Clinks of glass surround you. You find yourself in the center of it all. Yet you can't help but feel farthest away. Your fingers pull at a loose thread on your blouse. To avoid suspicion, you converse as much as your mind will let you. Drink as much as you can, and eat as much as you can stomach. All the while drowning in your own thoughts.

"Hey, is that your soul mark?" Taejun points out directly at the goldfish poking just under the cuff of your blouse. The hue shines brightly, almost as if a black light is on it. He's always been nosy. Yet your stomach sinks, and your smile falls away. He notices, of course. "Sorry. Touchy subject -" You're cutting him off. "I gotta go to the - the restroom," you pull away abruptly, grabbing your purse. Pushing your cuff down. You smooth your hand over it a couple of times ferociously.

You hope that glowing hue isn't what you think it is. You excuse yourself past people, moving towards the exit of the establishment. Just your luck, you bump into someone, their drink spills all over your left arm. "Sorry -" You go to apologize just as they do. Your wrist catches the corner of your eyes. The goldfish swims animated. It's so bright in such a dimly lit area. You can't hide the shine it creates. An orange glow casts off your face and the man you bump into.

Your eyes pull up like magnets to the man. His face is hidden behind a black mask, and an equally black hoodie is pulled over his head. Dark hair pools around his circular glasses. Your breath catches in your throat. He doesn't move an inch. His eyes search yours. His words are lodged in his throat. "I.." he speaks first.

"Wonwoo!" Dokyeom calls for his friend, his soul mark glows vibrantly, and he feels a connective pull to the brunette man. Wonwoos eyes pull from yours, glancing to his younger member.

You take the opportunity. It takes every ounce of strength to pull yourself away from the gorgeous man. You feel like Cinderella, God - why are you pulling away? You're pushing against people and finally make it out the door. "Wait!" A voice calls. A hand grips your own. The same left wrist, it glows brighter than before. The marks are connected despite you wishing they weren't.

"No!" You cry out, like it'll stop glowing. It's blinding. You feel like you can't breathe. The man from before pulls you back from the door. His eyes are squinted from how bright the connection is. People gasp and bump into each other, flash-banged by a sudden- unsee before soul flash. You wiggle out of his gasp.

Then you run, and you run. And you don't stop until you've made it all the way home. A drive that would take 10 minutes at most through the city. You block out every street lamp, every step of stairs you take, every person you bump into. You block it all out. You're running away again.

And you feel deep down that this time... it wasn't the best idea.

#seventeen x reader #say the name seventeen #seventeen #seventeen x y/n #seventeen ot13 #svt ot13 #ot13 x reader #prolouge #kpop x reader #x reader #seventeen x you #seventeen wonwoo #seventeen dokyeom #soulmates #idol au #non idol au #polyamory #polyamourous #soulmate marks #callistos navigation

[mx-myth]

Personally as an aroace being in a queerplatonic relationship and/or a poly relationship sound really freeing to me. I feel like in a QPR there would be less pressure to be more amatonormative or present that way. The kind of "omg I totally thought you guys were dating" sort of relationship that just comes from the pure intimacy of willing to be comfortable around each other and to be intimate without necessarily having to involve kissing/sex/"real" intimacy (and the possible aro or ace solidarity). Meanwhile in a poly relationship I feel like at least for me there would be less pressure be "involved" to an extent. A whole other person (or people) would negate a lot of anxiety on my part enough not being enough (especially if one or more of them are alloromantic). And potentially that's someone who can provide romance or sex that I just can't.

Obviously these are still relationships that you consciously need to put work into maintain and have open lines of communication and discussions of boundaries, etcetera, just like any "normal" relationship but that's really the point here. I'm not allo (and I'm perfectly fine with being "abnormal" by most societal standards, but that's obviously not true for all of us) in any way, shape, or form, so why should I have to fit myself into a little allo box?

#not to say that aros or aces or aroaces CAN'T be in a “normal” relationship because we totally can #but also we shouldn't have to be if we don't want to #there's probably a lot that could be criticized here but please don't be mean #just honest thoughts from a person who is comfortable with their aroace identity but still figuring out how to navigate the world as one #speaking of which I feel like this isn't something you can just. discuss outside of tumblr #I would be surprised if a random person on the street knew what a qpr is #or if they didn't think polyamory was just cheating or like. have negative connotations about it #which makes it hard to discuss and explore topics like these outside of internet anonymity #and there aren't a lot of communities that are as varied and unhinged as tumblr so I'm thankful I can spit this out at the end of ace week #ace week #asexual awareness week #acespec #asexuality #ace pride #ace week 2023 #asexual spectrum #aromantic spectrum #aroace #aromantic #aro pride #arospec #aspec #asexual #qpr #qpr pride #queerplatonic #queer platonic relationship #polyamory #polyam relationship #polyam pride

[foxgirlplushie]

Do you ever update a fic after. Literally a year?

Haha me neither (technically it was 364 days) but there's a new chapter of foxes/wolf/knives out now go read it!!

#my fics #arknights #if you werent aware f/w/k is my ongoing 'cutter/frostleaf/red navigate polyamory' fic! go read it its very good if i say so myself #in this current chapter frostleaf finally broachs the subject of 'hey i want to keep dating you but maybe also date red' with cutter! #it goes mostly alright

[faroreskiss]

Finally!

The Power of Understanding is finally also on Ao3, with proper chapter names for easier navigation (and also less typo overall... I hope)

What is this?: Random snippets from random times of adventure of Translator!Isekai!Reader and Linked Universe AU. Chapters are not presented in a linear way.

There is fluff and multiple pairings, and mostly optional NSFW.

Wild x Reader x Flora, Wild x Reader, and maybe even Twilight x Reader in one go.

Enjoy!

As always, open to requests & asks <3

#linked universe x reader #zelda x link x reader #zelda fandom #zelda fanfiction #legend of zelda #linked universe #fluff #ethical non monogamy #linked universe au #link x reader #fanfic #zelda x link #hylian #fictional language #ao3 #queer #polyamory #navigating poly relationships #bisexual #lgbtq

[starchaserdreams]

oh my god oh my god oh my god I just texted a guy in the sense of "I just texted a guy" this is not a thing I do, I feel as stupid about this as I did in high school holy shit help

And if you're like "what, phoebe, you don't date guys...?" IDK. I JUST DK.

And he hasn't texted me back so now I'm in a panic but it's been sixty seconds, like I messaged him and came straight here to panic about it, so like I need to chill tf out about it

How do I do this?? How do I do any of this??

But we met at a Halloween party and he made me feel so cute and sexy and confident and funny and I have only very rarely in my life felt *that* good about myself, and boy did he ever do it right. I felt on top of the world the whole time I was with him.

#the bartender #that's what imma call him #he's not one #but i think he fancies himself one #as like a cute lil hobby #anyway HELP #HOW DOES ONE DO THIS #I can do my taxes and drive a car #(why are those the only things that came to my head in the category of “things adults do”) #but I CAN'T NAVIGATE THIS SHIT #and it's polyamory which I have not done before which makes it EVEN SCARIER AND MORE CONFUSING #HELP #polyamory #dating #crushes #relationship #this is all terrifying

[impishtubist]

Why do people like McGonagall and Andromeda so much??

I do appreciate they were amazing witches, and I do admire how Andromeda ran away from the Blacks, but they both just left Sirius to rot in prison?! McGonagall and Andromeda were probably the only people still alive who knew and had seen what James, Lily and Harry meant to Sirius, and how much he hated being a Black - so they just… left him in Azkaban?

But more than that, why does no one ever include McGonagall on the list of people who failed Harry? There were precisely three people who knew for sure where Harry was living. McGonagall watched the Dursleys for an entire day, raised concerns to Dumbledore… then promptly forgot about him? She either never bothered to check up on him in those ten years, which is cold, or she did… and ignored the clear signs of abuse that were probably visible from one meeting? Then again, she also managed six years of conveniently managing to overlook any signs of abuse on Harry, particularly after he returned from summer.

TRULY. Anyone who left Sirius to rot is not in my good books. I can sort of understand the fandom fascination with Andromeda--we don't know a ton about her, so she's essentially a blank slate, and her story mirrors Sirius's. They're both the black sheep of the family, involved with "unsuitable" partners, etc.

But McGonagall.........oof. I cringe every time she's depicted as Sirius's mother figure. Why???? She believed he was the traitor as readily as everyone else! And she knew what Harry's home life was like, and did nothing. She knew Harry was sleeping in a cupboard, because that's where his letter was addressed. She saw his condition every time he returned from the summer holidays. She watched the Dursleys and knew what they were like.

Yeah, no, truly the only people Sirius and Harry can rely on are each other.

#imp speaks #chaos night #okay i actually do kind of like the idea of a harry/hermione/ron polyamory thing going on #i'm mad at hermione for calling sirius reckless and saying he deserved his fate but i'll chalk that up to her being a teen #and also jkr using her as a mouthpiece for feelings about sirius #anyway give me supportive godfather sirius black #watching his godson navigate a blooming and unexpected relationship with his two best friends #this has nothing to do with this ask but i think it's cute

[tricornonthecob]

Oooh she came in :)

#polyamory #been thinking about it for a decade and just now sorted it out #my boyfriend is supportive 🥺 #i have no idea how to navigate this but i’m excited to be here

[everymanpdf]

podcast episode i want desperately to listen to but don’t have the mental focus required. Evil

#love the rabbi. currently navigating polyamory. however have useless brain

[lovexfroggie]

Why don't u ever post ur other partner :(

My husband? My Obi-wan? He works all the time and doesn't really enjoy being posted about. So I try to respect his boundaries on it. I also tend to say more about my Fives cause I gear this blog towards the clones more. My FB, however, I post more about my Obi-wan cause that's where him and I harass one another 💕

I'm sorry if it seems like I favor one more than the other, it's moreso about boundaries and the websites they prefer.

#bunny's box #bunny's ask box #boundaries and polyamory can be tricky to navigate sometimes 💕 #thank you for worrying though it was very kind of you

[probably-enjolras]

i think i’m genuinely going to write a jbm+r fic… idk if it’ll ever be posted but i have so many thoughts and i miss writing

#i have an idea about grantaire falling in love with the three of them #and navigating polyamory both for the first time (grantaire) and experienced (jbm) #ryan.txt

[thebluestbluewords]

Hhrgh all I wanna write is my weird politically motivated babyfic and I know that it’s not something I can ever finish and post but my brain is BUZZING about the social landscape of being a young royal person and the expectation of having babies for Inheritance Reasons but also not wanting them for Personal Reasons and the tension between that.

also it’s set in the weird omegaverse polyamory AU so that’s….something

#don’t look at me all I wanna do is think about the political tension of NOT having babies right away #and also like navigating a polyamorous relationship in a world that does not want that #and just endless talking about babies and Auradon politics #the omegaverse part is just to set up the relationship #because in my OTHER post canon AU there’s a very different relationship setup that is also polyamory but different

[tbcanary]

what do you think about love triangles?

mmmm they tend not to be my cup of tea but it truly depends on the characters themselves and how they’re portrayed. I think conflict is interesting, and differing levels of interest in one another does count as conflict — but the standard issue sort of “love, actually” triangle does not usually do it for me personally.

#ask.tb #anonymous #unrequited romance? perfectly fine #navigating polyamory? also acceptable! #‘a loves b and c loves b and b can’t choose which one they like more’ is where I tend to lose interest

[noirsongbird]

realizing that i could extract heretofore unknown amounts of romantic stupidity and angst from neuvi/furi/wrio as an ot3.

#genim #finally got caught up on story quests etc #realizing i really like the concept of this ot3 #neuvilette: gloriously autistic terrible at feelings #furina: actual disaster area #wrio: self worth issues deep as the primordial sea under the fortress of meropide #IMAGINE THE FOOLISHNESS #IMAGINE THE MISUNDERSTANDINGS #imagine furi and wrio each assuming neuvi is in love with the other #imagine poor neuvi having to navigate not only human emotions but also polyamory

[libraryleopard]

Adult romance novel

Follows Amy, a twenty-something bi woman in an open relationship as she navigates the ups and downs of the dating scene–until one-night hook-ups are complicated by real emotion and she must learn how to deal with unexpected new feelings

Bi, polyamorous main character; various queer side characters

#eh this wasn't really for me #i respect what the author was doing with this book #like having frank explorations of characters navigating open relationship and polyamory #i think there were two things that didn't work for me #and one was that it just felt very repetitive #and the other is that i personally just found amy kind of unlikable and it was a bit frustrating to read about #like not telling a guy she has a bf… #and you know i support books with messy queer protagonists #i just felt like the things that were catalysts for her reflecting on/changing her behavior #came a bit later than i wanted #but hey it's cool to a self-published book about contemporary polyamorous dating #also i do love the cover #2023 reads #open #lulu reads open #books #emilie nanttel #lulu speaks #lulu reads

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

WIBTA if I tell a couple I'm a mistress for both of them?

this is a long one and a very weird situation but here we go. I (28F) have been seeing two people recently. I've been seeing C (30F) for a little over 5 months and M (29M) for almost 6 months. both relationships are currently in a state of non-commitment, even though I've expressed feelings in both relationships and theyve been reciprocated, but I'm naturally not a super commitment-focused person and both of the people I'm seeing have respected that a lot, so yeah.

anyways, both relationships have been great and I'm incredibly happy w them, and since neither are committed to me I've kind of just assumed that both C and M were likely seeing other people as well even if we haven't talked about it.

WELL. about a week ago C came over to my place to spend the night, which she does like once a week or every other week. she goes to take a shower and I start gathering laundry and grab her stuff to throw in with mine and take her phone out of her jeans. I glance at the screen and see a few texts from a contact called "my love <3"

I was kinda surprised by this because while not talking to me about casual relationships is not something I would care about, the contact name made me think she had a more serious relationship going on, which I don't mind but would like to be informed about.

soooo okay I did an admittedly asshole thing and read the text. and then read a few more. and it became apparent that this was a REALLY committed relationship. like, I love yous, I'll be back home soon, please remember to grab so and so from the grocery store, stuff like that.

the contact picture looked kind of familiar too so I clicked on it to see better and it ended up being a picture of M.

I kind of flipped at this bc this is kind of a ridiculous situation, and I left my apartment for some air. I came back like 30 minutes later and C was waiting for me and confused where I'd been (she didn't see/hear me leave since she was still in the shower).

I apologized to her for looking at her phone but told her that I saw the texts from her partner, and that I was feeling kind of hurt that she hadn't told me that she had a more serious relationship going on, since she knows I value transparency. I specifically did not mention that I was also dating M or knew who he was because I felt I needed to scope out the situation more.

she ended up breaking down in tears and spilled everything. told me that M is her husband, that he doesn't know she's been seeing me, that shes felt so conflicted and guilty because she loves him but has really grown to love me too, that she feels wrong and dirty for keeping everything secret. I'm upset that I've been made into a mistress without knowing, but I try to talk to her about everything, we end up staying up super late talking and crying and pouring our hearts out. I still don't mention that I'm dating M too because I feel like I need to talk to him about this before any big decisions are made on my part.

I ended up inviting M to stay at my place a few nights later, and I confront him about the fact that I know he has a wife (made up something about my friend seeing them out together) and ask why he's kept this from me. his reaction was really similar. guilt, not understanding why he's attracted to two people at once, saying he very deeply loves C and doesn't want to leave her but really loves me too, says he's confused and doesn't know what to do. I don't mention to him that I know C or that I'm dating her.

I asked him if he's heard of polyamory before, and he said yes but he doesn't know anything about it really. I ended up encouraging him to maybe talk to his wife to see if that's something she'd be interested in, but he was terrified that she'd be hurt by the suggestion.

I really do love both of them and don't want to leave them. I've been poly for a long time and am very familiar with navigating ethical non monogamy, and to me this feels a lot like two poly people struggling to come to terms with and accept a facet of their sexualities, and they're just navigating that confusion and self discovery in ways that are...not great. but, I want to give them grace for their mistakes I guess?

so this is the part where I think I might be the asshole if I go thru with it. I've talked with both C and M separately about talking to their spouse about what's been going on and about polyamory in general, and they're both fucking terrified and really don't want to. so, I was thinking of inviting them both to my place at the same time to hash it out (without telling them that the other person will be there, since they still don't know I'm dating both of them). I think once they realize they've been dating the same person things might be easier to navigate, and will force them to confront what's been going on?? but also idk if springing this on them is the best thing I could do, but I really have no idea how to navigate this differently.

to be frank, if they love each other and both love me, my ideal outcome is that we continue things as they have been but with no secrecy and 100% transparency. I'm also afraid that even though they've both been seeing the same person and have expressed interest in polyamory after talking about it with me, they might feel personally betrayed by each other and everything could backfire spectacularly, AND I could possibly explode their whole marriage.

so, WIBTA?

What are these acronyms?

#aita #am i the asshole

[astrosouldivinity]

Venus Sign Observations: 💞🤎💞

Mutable Venus Edition: ♾️

Pisces Venus: 🌊

🌊 Pisces Venus is open-minded when it comes to various love styles, which can be attributed to their mutable water nature. They possess a remarkable ability to offer unconditional love to virtually everyone they come across.

🌊 In intimate relationships, they enjoy pleasing their partners and don’t mind adapting to their partners love style/needs especially if that would make them happy.

🌊 Venus in Pisces can get obsessed with their partner too high-key. They are flighty but obsessed at the same time which can be confusing for their partner. However, I think their love can be pretty intense in general.

🌊 As loving as Pisces Venus are, I think it’s lowkey a f-boy/girl placement. They have a tendency to fall in love quickly, but they can also move on just as swiftly. However, the process of moving on can sometimes take a considerable amount of time for them as well. Their emotions can be chaotic, leading them to appear flighty in their relationships.

🌊 Pisces Venus doesn’t always want to be floating around in love. They yearn for a secure and comforting space to calm their emotional waves. Essentially, they desire a safe haven where they can find solace and relaxation in their relationships.

🌊 Venus in Pisces will love all of you even the darkness that is kept tucked away. It truly doesn’t scare them. So long as you keep up with their fantasy, don’t take advantage of them, and hurt them too many times to the point where they can’t forgive you, they aren’t going anywhere.

🌊 Venus in Pisces tend to be open-minded when it comes to relationships, they may even be open to polyamory, but they are not opposed to monogamy either. Their preference for one or the other depends on their other placements. For example, as a Pisces Venus myself, I am capable of being loyal when the situation calls for it. This ability to navigate both relationship styles can be attributed to my Taurus Sun/Mars placements, which provide stability and a sense of commitment.

🌊 Having a Gemini Moon further enhances my openness to explore different relationship dynamics. However, I will only participate in them if I am with a partner who is mature about it. I’ve been with people before that were non-monogamous but didn’t like it when I was the same way. Like, babe, I'm simply matching your energy.

Sagittarius Venus: 🏹

🏹 Sagittarius Venus is open-minded when it comes to choosing a partner. In fact, they are more likely to have a partner from a foreign country or a different cultural background. However, they do have a fear of commitment. Which often leads them to explore various relationship dynamics, as they value their freedom and independence.

🏹 In their intimate relationships, Venus in Sagittarius likes to maintain an easy-going nature. They prefer to let things unfold naturally and avoid rushing into anything. Clinginess is not well-received by them, as it gives them a sense of discomfort when their freedom is suffocated or suppressed.

🏹 They may be more inclined to explore relationship dynamics such as ethical non-monogamy or open relationships. Their love for diverse experiences extends to their romantic life, and they may find fulfillment in connecting with many different individuals.

🏹 Venus in Sagittarius’s adventurous nature and desire for new encounters can make them more open to exploring non-traditional relationship structures that allow for multiple connections.

🏹 While Sagittarius Venus have a tendency to value their freedom, they are still capable of committing to a relationship. However, it requires finding the right person. Like someone who shares their open-mindedness and free-spirited nature. They need someone who won’t restrict them.

Gemini Venus: 🦋

🦋 Gemini Venus are adaptable with their approach to love. They will adjust their mindset and actions when it comes to matters of the heart. While they may appear flighty and free-spirited in their romantic endeavors, once they make a decision to commit to a partner, they are decisive and fully dedicated.

🦋 Gemini Venus are witty and possess a great sense of humor. They enjoy playful banter and need someone who can match their energy and make them laugh overall.

🦋 Venus in Gemini values intellectual stimulation in their relationships. They seek a partner who is not only intelligent but also intriguing and captivating. They desire someone who can engage in meaningful conversations and challenge their thoughts and beliefs. The ability to broaden their perspectives is essential for them, as they thrive on continuous learning and growth.

🦋 They appreciate partners who are open to new ideas, experiences, and perspectives. Gemini Venus enjoys exploring different viewpoints and needs a partner who can also embrace diversity and adapt to new situations.

🦋 They are attracted to partners who can strike a balance between nurturing the connection and allowing each other to flourish as individuals.

🦋 Venus in Gemini values their independence and needs a partner who will respect and appreciate this aspect of their personality. It is important for them to be with someone who has their own interests and hobbies, as they believe in the importance of maintaining individuality within a relationship.

Virgo Venus: 🍃

🍃 Virgo Venus tends to approach love and relationships with a practical and analytical mindset. They value stability and reliability in their partnerships, seeking a strong foundation based on trust and mutual support.

🍃 They often have high standards in their intimate relationships, but it stems from their desire to see their partner reach their highest potential. They genuinely want their loved ones to be the best version of themselves.

🍃 In their intimate relationships, Venus in Virgo values self-improvement and personal growth. They always strive to become better versions of themselves and expect the same from their partners.

🍃 Intellectual stimulation and engaging conversations are important to Virgo Venus, as they enjoy exchanging ideas and learning overall.

🍃 Venus in Virgo has a strong desire to fix and save others, driven by their compassionate aura. However, their giving and selfless nature can make them vulnerable to being taken advantage of by others.

🍃 In their intimate relationships, they prioritize finding someone who fits seamlessly into their lifestyle and meets their high standards. However, if they genuinely love someone, they are willing to be more flexible and make compromises.

🍃 Virgo Venus values cleanliness, organization, and orderliness in their surroundings, and this preference often extends to their relationships as well. They appreciate partners who are responsible, hardworking, and self-sufficient.

🍃 Open-minded when it comes to different love styles. They are willing to try anything once, especially if it makes their partner happy. Open relationships could be a possibility for them, especially if they have other mutable placements.

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