#tolerated not accepted

[aborderlineblog]

Today I accepted something small that was upsetting me and I could not change. I accepted it several times and noticed my irritation decrease each time I did it.

I said to myself, “I understand I cannot change this, I accept the fact that this is the way it is. I allow myself to have this feeling of irritation.”

I feel better now and I’m glad I did this exercise.

#actually bpd #mental health #recovery #borderline personality disorder #mental illness #positivity #radical acceptance #distress tolerance

[yardsards]

are you a "loves asmr" autistic or a "violently hates asmr" autistic? (i am the latter)

#some of it is tolerable but the minute mouth noises come into play i want to commit Atrocities. i wish to rend flesh from bone. #eliot posts #autism #actually autistic #tapping and clicking is tolerable but not good #whispering and scratching is bad #any kind of eating/mouth noises tho... misophonia hell #only mouth sounds we accept here is that neil cicierega album.

[strrwbrrryjam]

one thing homophobic gamer bros like to say to those who headcanon arthur was gay/bi or ship charthur is that "arthur was likely homophobic bc a lot of people were back then" and like. no??? he wasn't???

arthur meets margaret, the mistress of danger and his reaction is not anger, nor any sort of discomfort around his presence, he's honestly mostly confused and exasperated at his personality, as arthurs old and tired and margaret very well isn't. he isn't cruel to margaret at all and bares no judgement, he only really gets annoyed when margaret says he shouldn't give him the emerald because his dad wouldn't want him to.

he meets mr black and mr white, two men who have recently escaped from prison and watches their relationship change from hatred to love in a handful of meetings, he helps them go on to live a better life and when he figures out that mr black and mr white are in a relationship with one another, he advises them to go and find somewhere safe and secluded because "a lot of people don't like people like him," actively warn them against the type of people the gamer bros accuse him to be.

charles châtenay, comes to arthur while disguised as a woman and all he really is, is confused. charles asks him to help and protect him and arthur does. charles kisses arthur and the only thing he tells him is that "do not do that again," he doesn't yell, he doesn't shoot charles, and he doesn't even stop helping him, all he asks him is to not do that again. he's not even that annoyed, even though he would have been justified to be annoyed in this instance since he wasn't consenting to the kiss.

throughout all of this, there's no anger or discomfort to this, he's just- mostly confused, and once he gets past his confusion, he helps them anyway, even giving them advice and well wishes for them to be safe during this hateful time.

its like- no brad, arthur wasn't homophobic, you are though, and you don't get to hide your homophobia and general discomfort with queer people with a character who rockstar tells you, with a handful of examples, that he has no judgement and hatred towards people who are queer.

#he would. however. shoot YOU brad. he has no tolerance for assholes. and you. are an asshole. #he's honestly as accepting as they come during the 1800s. and I'm tired of misogynistic and homophobic gamer bros assassinating #his character like that. its infuriating and really just reassures me that they do not get the character and the theme of the game at all. #rdr2 #red dead redemption 2 #rdr2 arthur morgan #arthur morgan #rdr2 mr margaret #mr marget #is it mr or mrs for margaret. idk #rdr2 mr black and mr white #mr black and mr white #rdr2 charles chatenay #charles chatenay #strawberry speaks

[akindplace]

being “different” is a lifetime of people telling that they hate me without trying to understand me. being “different” is very isolating until i find community with other “different” people and realize my experiences are not that exceptionally strange, that other people can relate to me and i can relate to them. there is power in realizing that we’re not as alone as we think, because we can’t be excluded anymore by those who want us powerless. being “different” is realizing i’m not that different and i’m not alone and i’m not powerless. it’s being arm in arm with someone and telling the world you can hate us all you want, but we’re not going anywhere.

#self-acceptance #original writing #being queer and liking different things and having chronic illness might seem so weird to other people but i know i'm alone #i'm human and i happen to live very human things #and i wont tolerate being excluded because some bigot thing i should conform and pretend or disappear #like... fuck off... i know i'm not alone #in the end i'm not that different because it turns out i'm just a person in this world bye

[canisalbus]

just found ur blog and im kind of obsessed. especially with machete,, i relate to him so much. i know youve said he has anemia, does he have chronic pain? because i would love to project my own onto him. he is so!!!!

Thank you! I'm glad you like him!

I think a lot of the time he's in varying levels of vaguely uncomfortable. He gets headaches and migraines, often from some extremely fixable bad habits like not resting or eating enough, and from stress and work related neck and shoulder tension. His eyes are very sensitive to bright lights and he doesn't see that well, so he ends up squinting more than he should, which leads to chronic eyestrain and more headaches.

#some days you just ache all over for no reason #stress mental health issues and physical exhaustion all lower your pain threshold and tolerance #so there doesn't really need to be anything seriously wrong with you health-wise if you're oversensitized enough #the pain is very real but there's no good reason for it #answered #justagaygoosehoard #he has good days and good periods but he's never in peak condition for long #and he's mostly accepted that as a fact he has to live with

[leverage-ot3]

parker in the inside job is so real to me

parker, who has had a very complicated relationship with the concept of ‘family’, who blew up her abusive foster parent’s house, who bounced around the foster system before ultimately making a run for it

who was caught pick pocketing a world-renowned thief and taken in under his wing where he molded her into the best thief that ever existed, where he then ‘released her into the world’

archie took her in, yes, but he didn’t really take her in. he kept her at arm’s length, letting her live in empty warehouses and learning how to pick locks and beat security systems instead of going to school or learning what familial love was

he raised her, but only barely

and leverage did a great job of adding subtleties to her to have her come off as neurodivergent, most likely autistic. she was never what society would deem as ‘normal’, especially back then. and then archie tells nate to his face that she would never fit in, not anywhere

(and nate is mad. eliot is mad. rightfully so.)

parker is different from most people, thinks differently and acts differently. but that’s not wrong, and not her fault. but archie couldn’t see past that and take her in as she truly was, not when he had an ‘actual’ family at home. she wouldn’t fit in and that was something he wasn’t willing to risk, try or explain

and then archie calls parker asking for her thoughts on the steranko situation and she doesn’t even hesitate because his family is on the line. his real family. and he’s her father in a way no one had ever been before and looked after her in the only way she knew how and that meant something to her and she couldn’t have something like that happen to him

not on her watch

#i'm not autistic so please tell me if any of this comes off as tone-deaf or anything like that #but i am neurodivergent and sometimes resonate with parker and i'm rewatching the inside job and UGH IT HITS #something about being seen as 'other' and being kept at arms length because of that. never really being accepted only used for talent #that makes me extremely emotional #and pause the episode for 20 minutes to think out and write this post #this post is alternatively known as an archie-critical post #i will tolerate him for parker's sake in the same way nate does but that does NOT mean i like him #the inside job #leverage #leverage season 3 #parker #parker meta #archie leach #meta #episode analysis #my meta #autistic parker #neurodivergent headcanons #neurodivergent #mine

[gentleaffirmations]

I accept my emotions without judgement

#positivity #daily affirmation #positive affirmation #affirmation #daily affirmations #recovery #mental health #positive thinking #self acceptance #positive affirmations #emotional tolerance #emotions #emotional regulation #emotional health

[awesomecooperlove]

💯💯💯

#tolerance #acceptance #inclusiveness #inclusion #loss of common sense and self preservation #stupidity #the abnormal becomes the new normal #degradation of culture #indoctrination #mind control #political correctness #speak up #stand up for what’s right #standup #fight for justice #speaktruth #truth #please share #wwg1wga

[cabeswatersedge]

Thinking more about something Lisa said in the documentary, about Wille realizing he can’t both be a Prince and be with Simon:

So August never really became like a complete good guy. We got some more of his backstory to explain him, and I think he definitely grew as a person. But in episode 5 we see Vincent do that microagression against the other student (when they’re talking about the seniors superlatives) and August doesn’t stop it or call it out. August hasn’t become like a great guy, just a better guy than he used to be. He fixed some problems with Hillerska by changing the hazing ritual, but he isn’t suddenly fighting for social equality or whatever. Like he didn’t get rid of the hazing just adapted it. And that’s how it’s supposed to be. August doesn’t need to be a great person to be a great Prince. Because the Royal family’s job isn’t to be leaders or rally for change, their job is to uphold tradition.

Wille’s journey was never about learning to become a better Crown Prince and revolutionize the monarchy or upend the system. His journey was to realize that he could only grow and become who he wants to be by leaving the system entirely.

#young royals #young royals spoilers #yr s3 #yr s3 spoilers #Felice too! #she was never really accepted in that world even though she was rich and privileged #she was still other #and being the most popular girl in school didn’t change anything in the system. they all expected her to tolerate microagressions #not challenge the status quo #she could only be happy by breaking away from the system. from her shallow friends

[summershouto]

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#one piece #luffy #monkey d. luffy #sanji #blackleg sanji #chopper #tony tony chopper #zoro #zoro roronoa #Brook op #nami #usopp #op usopp #sanji needs to accept his bisexuality bc he only has game with men #men want him women tolerate him <3

[furiousgoldfish]

All your childhood you've been fed the idea that violations of your boundaries should be interpreted as love. And sometimes it felt wrong, you could tell that something is not right; these people should not be causing you this much pain, all of their 'concerns' or 'fears' should not be controlling every aspect of your life and keeping you from having any freedom. Their 'short tempers' or 'issues' should not mean violence towards you is okay, their words should never make you feel this despised, worthless and disposable.

But when you complained, you heard 'No, they're your parents! They do this because they love you. They know better than you, they're only doing what is the best for you. They would never intentionally hurt you, you have to understand their side of the issue. You have to understand their intentions when they did this. You have to forgive them and love them the way they are. They had a tough life. You'll understand one day.'

And since everyone is claiming this left and right, you eventually accept it. Boundary violation is done out of care and love. When people cause you pain, you have to look at their feelings and intentions first and not take it personally. When someone feels the urge to control you, it's because they care. If someone lashes out at you, it's your job to take it and forgive. You don't fight back because these people all know better for you and have your well being in mind when they're doing all of these horrible, painful, sometimes even traumatic things to you.

And then using these guidelines you end up in the hands of predators, you have one abuser after another barging into your life, finding you a perfect target, and your soul feels crushed. Because not after all you already endured, not this, you don't deserve this again, you got this far believing that if you keep your good heart and kindness and compassion that somebody will love you, and you don't understand what you did wrong, why couldn't you be enough, why weren't you good enough so these people wouldn't hurt you.

And those same people from before, who told you over and over to tolerate and forgive and take boundary violations as love, these people will people look at what's happening to you and go 'Well why didn't you build proper boundaries' WELL WHY DO YOU THINK

#boundaries #boundary violations #child abuse #abusive parents #psychological abuse #teaching children to tolerate and accept abuse #traumatic childhood #abusive childhood to abusive relationship pipeline #learning to recognize boundary violations #red flags

[odinsblog]

#lol #politics #me #the tolerant left #never ever accept the passive/docile labels that the opposition tries to put on you #or they will try to label you as shit like ‘the left that turns the other cheek and never hits back’ type bs #i hit back #im from the ‘i will curb stomp your ass’ left #noap - look up ‘the paradox of tolerance’

[yardsards]

clint mcelroy creating a dnd character: oh yeah, this bad boy can fit so much simple zest for life in him

#eliot posts #taz #the adventure zone #merle highchurch #zoox anthellae #ive not listened to graduation yet (and idk if i ever will) so idk if this applies to argo or not #i remember so little of amnesty and am only 10 eps into steeplechase so i can't speak for the non dnd campaigns either #it's funny how a lot of people's ttrpg characters often have common themes in them #me and my friend john from our irl dnd group were talking about that and it's like #alicia plays the most Friend Shaped girls imaginable. caleb's Cause Problems On Purpose. julia's are sassy and tend to do their own thing #john's are edgy in theory but extremely friend shaped and caring in practice. and i tend to play The Mom Friend. #not ALWAYS but pretty often. and basically always they're just really looking for human connection (whether they know/accept it or not) #even my goddamned PISS WIZARD is quickly careening towards mom friend territory??? somehow??? #very few people tolerate him so he's protective of those who do. even if it's mostly just a coworkers situation in the party #and most of the party is So Fucking Stupid #it's a very hilarious party composition overall. just 5 guys all thinking ''wow. what a bunch of freaks. good thing i'm normal :)'' #and the only one who is REMOTELY accurate in that assessment is the cleric whose catchphrase has quickly become #''hey. don't look at me. i just work with them.''

[leonardcohenofficial]

not miss girl DRAGGING lana del rey on stage with her LET HER LOSE IN PEACE

#i have a very low tolerance for her but this acceptance was particularly annoying LOL

[evicrystal7]

🏳️‍🌈✨️Happy Pride Parade🏳️‍⚧️✨️

I wish all those lgbt folks, all genders and labels, a pleasant day🤗💖

#me and my father were at a restaurant to eat when this happened #first time uploading a video on tumblr btw lol #also let's spread the awareness around for more acceptance and tolerance😄 #sorry if some parts a bit messy there but need to be careful with data saving😅 #lgbt pride #trans pride #gay pride #lesbian pride #nonbinary #pride parade🏳️‍🌈 #aroace #aromanitc #asexual #lgbt 🏳️‍🌈 #trans lives are valid #transgender🏳️‍⚧️

[appendixsaucy]

Thinking about Wilson….and thinking about Brokeback mountain….thinking about how he would’ve prayed that he could love his wives the way he loves house, but it’s likely the only time he would’ve let himself is during the five months before he died.

#would he even have let himself then ? #or would he think it’s too late #I’m going to cry #his life was a tragedy #he died before his sexuality would’ve been tolerated #he never knew acceptance #‘we could’ve had a real good thing!!’ #dear god #I pray that heaven is real so they can be free there #house md #gregory house #james wilson #hilson #house md headcanons