#unhealthy friendships

[cat-line-may]

I am actually so done with people calling Mike a bad friend. He's not a bad friend, he is just reacting to his trauma differently. Sometimes that happens. Sometimes traumatized people will close off their emotions, become defensive and angry at the slightest things.

It's NOT his fault no one sees his trauma as that. It's NOT his fault everyone thinks he doesn't have any because he doesn't 'have it as bad' as Will and El. It's NOT his fault that he doesn't have a support system because his friends and girlfriend 'have it worse' and don't help him, or that Nancy likes to pretend that helping him isn't part of her responsibility as an older sister.

Not everything is happy ever after, where They can move on to be better people and their trauma drives them close. It's not like that for Mike and he isn't a bad friend because of it. He needs support and love from the people around him and he isn't getting that because people have forgotten how trauma works.

#stranger things #mike wheeler #mike wheeler defender #mike wheeler deserves better #trauma #unhealthy friendships #unhealthy relationships #toxic fandom

[mq-writes-ig]

i know my place

in between the carpet and the soles of your shoes

squashed behind the bookshelf you bought years ago

gathering dust

i belong far away

can’t you see that i’m less than you?

even you, love, cannot make me whole

you treat me like we’re the same

but love, we aren’t

and even we can’t change that

i know who i am

i am a villain

a mess, a mistake

i will always be my scars

i will always be who i was born

i will always be beneath you

i know who i am

i know my place

one of these days, you’ll see my place as it is

beneath you,

always beneath you

one day you’ll see, my love

-aster/dorian/rin

(regulus kinnie)

#damn i think my trauma fucked me up #like i’m trying to unlearn that but i still feel unlovable and just less than everyone #because i still believe i am inherently less that other people #but i guess that’s what you get after years of #emotional abuse #and #unhealthy friendships #idk what im doing #thoughts #writing #anxiety disorder #poetry #mentally fucked #small writer #tw depressing stuff #suicudal #did osdd #major depressive disorder #ptsd stuff #ptsd recovery #ptsd thoughts #just cptsd things #trauma disorder stuff

[thepeacefulgarden]

#recovery #stop enabling #self care #self care is not selfish #doing the hard stuff #self care is not an indulgence #codependency #boundaries #relationships #unhealthy relationships #family #friendship #mental health #make yourself a priority #self compassion #healing #low contact #no contact #dysfunctional family #people pleasing #fawning #love #find your people

[herssian]

therapy? in MY fantasy game?

#art #ffxiv #xau #thancred waters #final fantasy xiv #comic #doodle #thancred's character development after ShB was because there can only be one unhealthy bitch in this friendship

[constellationcore]

The story of Jonah Marshall is one of rose colored glasses and loneliness, and it feels like the more we learn more about Adam and the formation of the modern iteration of BPS his story gets sadder.

It's easy (and fairly understandable) to typecast Jonah as the cowardly stoner, and that's largely to do with the way his character is framed by a primary character in the story. Much of what we know about Jonah is informed secondhand through Adam. It is also abundantly clear that Adam has a strained relationship with Jonah, and only seems to want to describe him as unserious, cowardly, and a stereotypical stoned slacker. And while I don't think any of that is necessarily wrong, there is potential for there to be more to his character than just a surface analysis.

I'd ask that you consider an alternate framing of Jonah, informed by some of the canon we learn from Adam's diary, Vol 2, and Vol 4.

Jonah gets a message from someone online asking for help with his ghost investigations, likely because of Jonah's interest in the paranormal or filming (probably the latter if we're considering his popularity on the BPS YouTube channel and his tendency to be the one operating the camera equipment). The opportunity is advertised as dangerous and potentially threatening, but at the intersection of living in your successful father's shadow and needing the chance to make something of yourself in a backwater town, any opportunity is a good one. This portion (to the next line break) is informed mostly from personal experience rather than canon, but this sort of willingness to take even the most dangerous opportunity with a complete stranger screams lonely, ignored teenager. The way he interacts with Adam in a potentially annoying, jokey sort of way is exactly how I tend to act when trying to make myself seem more fun while making friends, or how my siblings and I acted when we wanted our busy parents' attention.

Perhaps instead of just being a bored teenager who needed a way to pay for weed, Jonah used the new opportunity with BPS to make something for himself and to not be in the same lonely, isolated space as before. He tries to be friends with the person he works with, joking with Adam at any opportunity. For Adam, these investigations are extremely serious and has a lot of personal importance. But for Jonah, BPS doesn't have the same personal stake, rather it's an opportunity to do something he enjoys (to some degree) with people he's friends with. Specifically referencing a line from Vol 4, Jonah views himself and Adam as best friends, which is telling to how attached he is to Adam: even if the friendship is, in actuality, only one way. Jonah sticks with Adam during the more alternate-centric investigations because he truly wants to believe that Adam is his friend and the investigations will help him find/cope with the loss of his mother. It paints their Vol 2 argument in an entirely different light: instead of it being strictly about Jonah being cowardly during the entire investigation and not wanting to confront the truth/alternates (as Adam seemed to believe), it's Jonah's final attempt to reason with Adam. The rose colored glasses are off, and he's finally understanding that Adam will do whatever is necessary to know the nature of his mother's death and his own existence, and Jonah was just a stepping stone to get there.

Part of what made Jonah's character so effective to me is because he is such an everyman. Instead of staying and witnessing the existential horrors locked away in the basement, he does his best to convince his friend to choose self preservation and their friendship over a veritable death sentence. and when that doesn't work? He leaves. Presumably both with the intention of saving himself and to tell Sarah and any BPS associated party what happened, maybe to get help in some way and dying enroute (which is what occurs in Jonah's biblical counterpart's story). But what makes Jonah's death via M.A.D. so punchy is what he's torn up about: leaving his friend behind. This links directly back to what I mentioned about the argument as a last effort to get make his friend understand the danger he is in, but the way the alternate preys upon him? The most effective way to make Jonah succumb to madness, given the extent of existential terror a being like an alternate is capable of reaping on someone? The guilt of losing one of the only friends he had—and by extension one of the only things he cared about. That he would be all alone again through no fault other than his own.

#constellationcore writes #the mandela catalogue #mandela catalogue #jonah marshall #adam murray #i want to clarify that this is absolutely /not/ an attempt to villainize adam !! man has his own problems and i adore his character #rather i wanted to use his tendency to be an unreliable narrator due to his.. being an alt.. as a way to explore jonah's character potentia #also NOT A SHIP holy shit this is an exploration into an objectively very unhealthy friendship do NOT tag it as such #this is not a tmc ship friendly blog #also also this is obvs not canon! idk what the intention was behind jonah as a character but this is how i see him! w my big autistic eyes

[dontbelasagne]

Alice and Samama would have survived the fearpocalypse out of sheer spite to see which one of them could hold onto sanity the longest

#healthy (debatable) friendship with your ex? yes #unhealthy obsession with daring each other to be in close proximity to spooky things? also yes #i honestly love their dynamic so much #tmagp #the magnus protocol #tmagp sam #tmagp alice #samama khalid #alice dyer

[askthebadkidz]

Hot take I Think if Sklonda heard Pok tell Riz that work is his version of love she would have decked him so fast.

-Mod Fig

#fantasy high #d20 #dimension 20 #This is probably 100% incorrect but #I do not trust the man that went to workaholic heaven to give his son advice like that ya know #Riz’s ‘work as a form of love’ is unhealthy and physically exhausts him and he has not reason to work that hard as a form of love #He is not providing his is working because he perceives himself to not be good enough for natural friendship #And I think Sklonda knows that

[swkbiggestdefender]

People who says swk and mk friendship isn't healthy like are you blind did we watch the same show I mean sure swk have Communication problems but he's trying to fix FOR MK you know because he CARE about him just because he needs to work on his issues doesn't mak him toxic to be around and mk is patient with swk not because he have to but because he knows that swk is trying so hard and swk is soft on mk in training and other stuff he doesn't want to push him too hard he want him to grow in his own pace and don't forget how mk felt comfortable venting to him in season 4 about the past villains he fought their relationship is far from unhealthy

#lego monkie kid #lmk sun wukong #sun wukong #lmk monkey king #monkei kid #lmk #lmk mk #qi xiaotian #lmk season 4 #lmk sunburst duo #sunburst duo #lego monkey kid #monkie kid #if you think they're friendship is unhealthy you're just stupid sorry not sorry #people who say swk is a bad mentor and friend i hope you step on a lego <3

[sciderman]

Sometimes i remember a comics moment i randomly came across somewhere, where Sam Wilson mentiones a musical and Steve Rodgers says he doesn't like musicals, to whitch Sam goes "Guess that means you really are straight" and even tho i don't care about Cap America or the Avengers, the moment stuck in me for that quote by Sam. And like....Sci, any ideas if straight men actually don't like musicals or is that bullshit?

actually i think i know more gay men who hate musicals than i know straight men who hate musicals. i've had a drag queen stop me point blank when i was about to sing a barbra streisand song, and i know so many gays who pointedly hate abba. so based on my experience i think the inverse is true. most of the straight men i know are kind of impartial about musicals, but gay men? hate.

my theory is that a lot of gay men don't want to fall into stereotypes, maybe. but thaaaaat's just a theory! a gay theory.

#sci speaks #i'm trying to understand the gays. they are a mystery to me. #i've seen a lot more toxic masculinity coming from gay men than i have from straight men. #i think it makes sense. they have less women in their lives. so they reckon with a lot more masculinity. more dick measuring. #also gay men have some of THE most unhealthy romantic relationships i've ever seen in my life. #this isn't a blanket statement on everyone but just from what i've seen. it's such a strange pattern i've observed. #lesbians? healthy. straights? usually healthy. gay men? universally a tire fire that makes me say “if you hate each other so much ??” #“why are you together??????????” #i have never met a cis gay mlm couple in real life that was healthy. every single one of them made my eyes widen in horror. #i want them to be healthy. please treat each other better. #the number of bitchy bitchy fights i've seen between mlm couples in public that make me so terrified #but i know mlm relationships in general are usually less... affectionate than wlw relationships. even and especially friendships. #just an observation. #i hate to say that there is a definite difference between amab vs afab experiences when it comes to relationship dynamics but. #of course there is. there is. as much as i want to say gender and sex do not matter. it really does. #it makes a difference. it does. #which is kind of why i'm glad i was born in the body i was. when people say “trans means you feel you were born in the wrong body” #im like.. i don't think that's true. i don't think that's true for me. #i wouldn't be me if i wasn't born the way i was. and i want to be me. but i'm a boy. i'm a boy but in the body that i have. #my body is still a boy's body. because i live in here. #sorry this went off on a tangent. #but yeah i know my brain would be different if i was amab. and i don't want all those other issues. #i think the only reason i'm so peaceful and serene is because i'm afab. and afabulous. #i see cis guys and im like.. yeah i don't want what you got. #once again! lucky to be me! i'm lucky. im lucky i have a vargooba. thank fuck for that! #couldve been so much worse off. could've been born with a dick and would be fighting for my life right now.

[threedotsfromstardom]

THE AFTERPARTY S01E05 X S02E05

We're gonna be friends forever.

#the afterparty #theafterpartyedit #s1: e5: high school #s1: ch: xavier #s1: ch: yasper lennov #s1: ship: yasvier #s2: ep5: sebastian #s2: ch: edgar minnows #s2: ch: sebastian drapewood #s2: ship: sebedgar #post: gifs #mine: gifs #sorry to my friends who had to witness me freak out over this parallel in real time last week. they make me crazy. #unhealthy yaoi best friendships that fall apart you are so loved by me. #paralleling yasper to edgar... feels good feels great. the writers did this for me and my friend. #long post

[thenixkat]

[Thar be spoilers]

That bit where Thistle/Sissle decided that he liked Laios and Laios has great monster advice so he was gonna *keep him*.

Like boy, young elf, I am aware that you were either purchased or stolen at a young age, and the whole pesudo-adoption into the royal family/being a slave held by the royal family and put into a job as entertainment that clearly didn't suit you until you were old enough to be a court mage as a status symbol/flex on Delgal's dad's part that most certainly fucked you up six ways to Sunday before a demon started eating holes in yer memory/soul...

But you can't just keep people. They aren't ...pets. That's not a good way to make friends.

#nix meows #spoilers #dungeon meshi #thistle/sissle dunmeshi #laios touden #like i think they could have been friends in another timeline #but deciding that yer gonna keep someone and strap them into a perpetual forcefeeding plant #to keep them docile and prevent them from being able to escape from yer care #is a tremendusly unhealthy mindset to bring into a friendship

[now-a-witch]

Every time I see manga Dazai's neck I think of this thing a boy said to me in elementary school that roughly translates to: "You have such a pretty neck, so delicate, so easy to strangle"

Which is a weird thought to have about real people but thankfully Dazai is not and let's be real he would probably appreciate it.

#dazai osamu #bsd dazai #bsd #just some thoughts #bungou stray dogs #sometimes kids say the weirdest things #me and said boy were vest friends back then by the way #true friendship is telling your friend you've been thinking about how to murder them #also my elementary school class had an unhealthy obsession with strangling #as I said kids are strange

[thepeacefulgarden]

#healing #boundaries #walking away #letting go #detachment #forgiveness #detaching with love #mental health #family #relationships #friendship #codependency #do what's best for you #unhealthy relationships #abuse #low contact #no contact

[jasontoddssuper]

Nico:Percy,look!They got girl skateboards!

Percy:Oh my gods!

Nico:You can skate now!

Percy:They got gay skateboards!

Nico:Di immortales!

Percy:You can skate now!

Nico:We're fuckin' set!

@1clown1 @voradtras @thingsenjoyer @peachyblkdemonslayer @palerubyart

#nico getting percy into skateboarding is the only skater percy.in thanks she introduced him to animal crossing and time management games #skater4gamer friendship excellence #nico di angelo #percy jackson #persephone jackson #perseo jackson #black nico di angelo #black percy #latino percy #trans nico di angelo #bigender percy jackson #autistic nico di angelo #autistic percy jackson #they're both mdd too :) #also perc*beths dni the forced and unhealthy way y'all's ship was written is one the reason's percy is transfem-coded #luke/gods stans beat it too #pjo #hoo #nico and percy #skaterboards meme #💌 #letters from summer

[ellizz123]

I think Nico would be scared of Will. Not in AHHH!!! MEAN AND DANGEROUS PERSON COMING TO KILL ME!! way, but because he is so nice. Will would make him a cup of tea when he was tired, apologize after he got mad and yelled, walk him places, and ask before hugging him, all that stuff. Nico would care for Will too, but something about it would leave him on edge.

The thing is, Nico is used to being hated, and people only interacting with him because they want something. He's used to the bare minimum. So with all that overwhelming love coming from Will... he goes to hide out with Reyna in camp Jupiter for a while.

Maybe he would stay for a day or two until she figured out what was wrong and talked some sense into him. Cue the teary reunion and confessions with Will and booking an extra therapy session with Dionysus.

After that, Nico would still be scared of Will's love. But little by little, he would be getting better.

#percy jackson #pjo #pjo headcannons #nico di angelo #nico pjo #will solace #will pjo #reyna ramirez arellano #reyna pjo #nico and reyna friendship #dionysus pjo #solangelo #nico di angelo headcanon #tw caps #tw mental illness #yes nico gets therapy from dionysus #it would be so unhealthy to get it from your boyfriend #anyways this is based on a true expirience of a friend of mine

[qprstobin]

if robin and steve don't want to crawl into each others skin are u really writing their friendship right

#stobin #platonic stobin #platonic with a p #i love my stobin with an unhealthy dose of codependency #digarigjser it makes me get very picky with steddie fics sometimes bc a lot of steddie fics kinda shit on their friendship to prop up stedd #ie #walkie chatter #steve harrington #robin buckley #steve #robin