#yes. gender. transition goals. I WANT IT

[theygender]

Trying to get back into exercising but it's hard bc I'm disabled and honestly a weenie and ADHD means I have a very hard time finding any sort of intrinsic motivation for anything. So far I've been trying to find extrinsic motivation to get me to do it, like imagining being able to punch my QPP's shithead exes square in the face, and that works a little bit but it hasn't really been enough to keep me exercising consistently. I've also tried to imagine finally having my body look the way I want it to, and that's definitely a good goal but unfortunately it's also a very nebulous one. How do I know how my body will look when I have muscles? What if it's not the same as in my head? I do like building my strength though, and I just imagined myself being able to actually do a pull up (or even multiple pull ups—easily!) and got hit with the biggest wave of gender euphoria I've ever experienced. Y'all... I've cracked the fucking code. I'm gonna use gender to hack self care

#rambling #ive said in the past that i want to be able to do 200 push ups a day like gideon nav and thats still true #but tbh thats not a very good goal to think about bc even if i was able to do so easily it still sounds boring and kinda tedious #imagining being able to do one (1) pull up tho? that seems very attainable with the proper work #and the first time im able to do a pull up i think im gonna flip my shit (in a good way) #gonna tell all my friends and celebrate it like i just scored a winning touchdown or smth #and being able to do MORE than one pull up? #yes. gender. transition goals. I WANT IT #so no more thinking of external things to motivate me #no more trying to imagine being buff and then being disappointed that im not seeing any immediate changes #im gonna specifically focus on building my strength enough to one day be able to do a pull up #my therapist would be so proud

[crypt1dcorv1dae]

Apollo with thick eyebrows and freckles and body hair is my truth. He's a small tank also. Wide. He works out bc 1: he does not want to ever be called a twink and 2: it helps with stress and God knows he is STRESSED. Oh also he's trans. Also when his hair is un-gelled it looks almost exactly like trucy's, his lil bunny ears curl around his face all cute and he hates it which is why he gels it back so aggressively

#apollo justice #hes my ideal transition goals ngl #like the image of him in my head is like yes. yes this is what i want to be someday. #he has inspired me to finally talk to my dr about being trans and wanting to seek transition #im goig to be really really clear abouty dysphoria being one of the biggest sources of anxiety and depression for me #and it making me feel so bad i dont even want to leave the house sometimes bc i dont pass well usually #bc you never want to undersell your dysphoria to a doctor or therapist. if anything you should oversell it to ensure you can get care #like you dont have to say you want to die or anything bc thats always risky to tell any medical professional but like. #but always tell them it makes you hate yourself even if its not true #if you need to lie about what exactly your gender identity is to get the type of care you need too then fucking do it #doctors will not give a nonbinary person HRT 90% of the time sometimes u need to fib a little about your gender to get what u need!!!!

[that-one-scared-gay]

cis people talking about transition: what’s your end goal? where are you headed? (where are you stopping?)

trans people talking about transition: which direction are you walking? do you want to take a left here? are you having fun?

#trans #transgender #transition #gender #genderfluid #nonbinary #lgbt #queer #was talking to my therapist about how i've tried to talk to my parents about gender and it hasn't gone great (hasn't gone terribly either) #her advice basically boiled down to 'well you should probably be more certain of what you want first and then they'd take you more seriously #yes my therapist is also cis #it's like no you don't understand #i'm entering a fun little journey and i want to share it with you #i want you to watch me frolick in the gender playground #i don't know where i'm stopping and frankly i don't know that i want to #transition not as heading towards a goal but as enjoying the journey #picking flowers along the way #yeah i might double back or decide to change direction for a while but that's fine #that's part of it #i don't feel bad for it #you shouldn't either #some of my cis friends are cool with it #they call me by my birth name while using male pronouns and it's like #yeah you get it #i haven't figured everything out but what i have figured out is what we're working with #being trans when you're in a safe situation isn't all suffering #this is fun guys i'm having fun #stop worrying so much about my goals #enjoy the proccess

[gibbearish]

hi i’m not really sure how to do this but i came from your uquiz and you seem knowledgeable and nice and so i’m asking you a question now i’m sorry

uhm, so, i think i maybe might be trans (ftm) because i’m super dysphoric and i sometimes look at guys and i get really jealous because they just get to, like, exist like that (i’m not really sure what the “that” is, but god, do i want it) and i very much don’t and when i refer to myself using he/him pronouns in my head it feels, uhm, at the risk of being a cliche, right, i guess.

but the thing is that i don’t really fit into any of the stereotypical trans guy things. like a lot of my friends when i was little were girls and though i have some stereotypically masculine hobbies (sports and physics) i also sew, and when i was little i was obsessed with being a princess for like a month before i started refusing to wear dresses.

i don’t think i’m non-binary, i tried using they/them pronouns this summer and while they didn’t actively hurt like she does, they didn’t really feel right.

so, like, am i lying to myself? i don’t know, maybe i just want to be special (i don’t want it, though, if i could just be happy as a girl i would).

sorry i just unloaded half an essay on you you obviously don’t have to reply and i know you’re probably not qualified to answer anyway, i just needed to tell someone, you know?

anyways, i hope you’re having a nice night or day or whatever. thank you, for, like, existing on the internet i guess. your quiz was very nice. bye.

howdy anon! dw i am always glad to answer questions abt this stuff even tho it make take me a while lol

my best advice for situations like this is i know its easy but don't let yourself get caught up in the trap of "well this is the label that makes me feel best but i dont technically check off every single box for it so am i just lying?" people arent video game quests, you dont have to hit every single box for it to count, youre allowed to have stuff fall outside the technical definition of a term while still calling yourself it. im very similar to you, i was in tap and ballet growing up, wore dresses and makeup for most of highschool, sewing crocheting knitting the whole shebang. but the important part is that none of those things make a difference to your identity. knowing how to sew doesnt make you a girl, it can just make you a guy who knows how to sew. its a thing you do, not who you are.

all that being said, i think another helpful angle to look at things is "does the distinction between two similar labels actually make a difference to me?" using myself as an example again, i dont call myself a trans man because while i do prefer presenting masculine, for some reason the term 'man' just doesnt feel right for me. but at the same time, to the rest of the world that's functionally what i am, right? so does that change /who/ i am? no. so for me personally, ive deliberately chosen not to file myself into either "trans man" or "nonbinary" and just move on with my day, because to me it doesnt actually make a difference which one i am, im still gonna stay on t, i still want top surgery, i still want to be perceived masculine, and thats not gonna change no matter what name is on the box so who gives a shit. just do what makes you happy

#also this is a side note but going back to the whole 'when i was growing up i was more feminine' angle #one thing ive found is that the more masc i get the more pressing the Need To Be Masculine becomes #so like. accepting that identities can be fluid and change over time can be very helpful imo #maybe i was a girl at one point and now im not‚ or maybe i never was‚ who cares. either way‚ im not one now‚ and thats what matters #gender is a game we were all forced to play from birth‚ youre allowed to say fuck all these rules im just gonna exist how i want #i hope this all makes sense and isnt an incoherent ramble labflsbfksbfkeb ive been having brain fog lately so i tend #to lose track of where i am when im talking sometimes #i dont think youre lying to yourself‚ i think introspection and understanding your identity are very difficult things to do #and i think like a lot of trans(?) people pre-everything youre scared that the answer will be 'yes‚ you are trans‚ and now you have to #figure out how to live in a way that feels right' #not to say nonbinary people dont have to deal w the same stuff as trans ppl obv bc Hello Thats Me ksnfkshfkek #but like. i feel like most ppl see it as 'figure out identity then work on transition goals' but like you absolutely dont have to #you can just say 'idk what i am but i know doing xyz will make me happier' and just go from there #and who knows! maybe doing so will change your understanding of yourself to the point you find picking a label far easier #or maybe it wont! you wont know till you try though #anyways hope this ramble helps have a good day osbfksbflsnls

[doberbutts]

I think, honestly, the thing that gets me about The Collection of Posts from last night is:

“Trans men would rather be misgendered than admit any culpability or power”

1: culpable for what? What exactly did we do? I’m not talking individuals. Individuals of any demographic can be bad people. What are we, as a demographic, culpable for?

2: what power? Seriously, outside of some social power in individual interactions, which can change on a day-to-day or even scenario-to-scenario basis, what power to trans men have?

3: you know, it really sucked to be called a gender traitor by someone who I once held as a friend before they went full mask-off TERF. I was so incredibly hurt by it and I didn’t speak to that person for several years, nearly a decade, before they approached me to apologize and extend an olive branch. Even now, our relationship is strained at best because I cannot get over the amount of pain I felt at their words. We talk... maybe once a month or so, where we used to videocall every night and chat for hours about everything and nothing. And... this type of thing now coming from other trans guys is really not any better.

And

“Trans men have transition goals that match their Anime Boyfriends while refusing to break up with cishet men who won’t let them even cut their hair”

1: it’s now funny to joke about transphobic abuse in romantic relationships?

2: you know every single abused person in a relationship has heard “just leave” and “it’s your fault because you didn’t leave sooner”, yeah? Victim blaming is okay when it’s trans guys though? Is that the lesson from this?

3: again, TERFs and TEHMs say this. “You just want to look like an anime boy” and “you’re trans because you watch too much yaoi” and “you’re not really a gay man since you’re trans” are nothing new and having it come from other trans guys is, shockingly, not better.

Can you hear yourselves? Do you really think you’re doing anything but being outlandishly cruel, mean-spirited, and, yes, transphobic? Who are you helping by doing this?

[transmascissues]

building off of this post, people love to say that “trans men want to keep going into in women’s spaces after they transition because they just want to have the best of both worlds!” but in my experience, there are four main reasons that a trans man might use a “women’s space” after they transition:

it’s an important resource that’s being arbitrarily gendered and we need to use it regardless of which gender is “supposed to” be using it.

it’s a public facility where we’d be significantly less safe in the men’s version and we have to choose our safety over our desire to not be misgendered.

it’s a social space that we’ve been in since before we transitioned and we don’t want to suddenly be cut off from our friends and support system.

the trans man in question is multigender and is also a woman, or maintains some other kind of connection to womanhood alongside their manhood.

do any of those sound like “evil men rubbing our dirty little hands together making plans for how we’re going to get male privilege without losing access to women’s spaces” to you? they sure don’t to me!

i think it’s pretty reasonable that we want to transition without losing the ability to access the resources we need, keep ourselves safe, keep up the relationships we’ve built, and express all facets of who we are. all of those are really, like, pretty basic parts of having good life and we shouldn’t be expected to give them up when we transition.

and honestly, if you claim to care about trans people, you should not be so attached to the gendering of these spaces that you’re willing to deny trans men those things for the sake of upholding gender restrictions. anyone who prioritizes the sanctity of gender segregated spaces over the safety, health, and well-being of trans men is a fucking transphobe. (yes, even if you’re trans yourself.)

and that’s what really gets me about all of this — the vehemence with which people are willing to defend those spaces being entirely and inflexibly gendered, despite how enforcement of gendered spaces has hurt trans people time and time again. gendered spaces have literally always been set up in ways that force trans people to break the rules; some trans men might break those rules in ways that don’t make sense to you, but that doesn’t mean it’s wrong for us to do so! it just means you might feel weird about it and that’s okay, discomfort won’t kill you.

“but using women’s spaces after transitioning to male defeats the purpose of transitioning! the whole point of transitioning is to be able to live as a man!”

and who are you to tell trans men what the point of our transitions should be? what if the purpose of us transitioning is just to live the happiest and most fulfilled life possible, and forcing ourselves into unsafe spaces or denying ourselves access to important resources or cutting ourselves off from important people in our lives or pushing down the more complex parts of our genders would “defeat the purpose of transitioning” for us? what if being able to go where cis men go is just one part of a much bigger journey, not the end goal?

if you really want to talk about “defeating the purpose,” let’s talk about how policing which gendered spaces trans men can access defeats the purpose of trying to stop cis people from policing which gendered spaces trans people can access, because it allows the policing of trans people in gendered spaces to continue in some form instead of eliminating it altogether. let’s talk about how using “evil men invading women’s spaces” rhetoric against trans men defeats the purpose of trying to stop cis people from using it against trans women, because it allows the rhetoric to continue in some form instead of eliminating it altogether.

the point of saying “let people decide which gendered space is right for them” isn’t to make sure everyone uses the one aligned with their “true gender,” it’s to let people do what’s best for them without punishing them for their choice. sometimes the best choice is one that seems wrong from the outside, and you need to learn to live with that.

i just think we as a community need to be more hostile toward people who think upholding the sanctity of a gendered space is more important than giving trans people the freedom to move through the world without being punished for existing in those gendered spaces. that kind of thinking is fucking dangerous and it’s weird as hell that some of y’all are so comfortable with it being directed at us.

moral of the story: stop giving so much of a shit about where a trans man decides to piss or see a doctor or hang out or whatever else. even if you think he doesn’t belong there, he probably has a good reason to be there anyway, and that reason is frankly none of your damn business.

#im SO tired of this bro #like just shut up why are you so worried about this #i promise the big bad trans men arent here to hurt you. were just living our fucking lives #our mere presence is not a threat to you any more than yours is a threat to us #and even if you dont give a shit about us. this thinking leaves the door wide open for transmisogyny to join the party #so like. if you wont shut up for our sake do it for the trans women&fems who also get fucked over in the end #transandrophobia #transandromisia #transmisandry #virilmisia #virilphobia #anti transmasculinity #transmascphobia #trans men #transmascs

[catboybiologist]

Be honest: do you think there are femboys who aren't just eggs?

Yes, and tbh I resent that their existence is questioned so much. And I know this is gonna be considered a Bad Take by many people I've fostered a community with, so uh. Yeah.

As a former femboy, and current dykey/tomboyish trans woman, gender nonconformity within your actual gender is an essential part of a trans or genderqueer identity. In a lot of ways, my transition goals are the inverse of being a femboy- I'm going from a feminine man to a masculine woman. And yet, the trans community doesn't question my feminimity as a masculine woman in the same places where many people would question the masculinity of a feminine man. And don't even get me started on where NB identities fit into all of this. This is largely coming from the same place where people are okay with women wearing pants, but men or AMABs in general wearing skirts is Bad (tm).

Like don't get me wrong. The caricature of the Bad Trans pushing all the femboys to become eggs is a wildly overexaggerated, and I've met many, many femboys online that used that caricature to excuse rampant transphobia. But. I hate that there's a but. But.... I literally experienced it myself many times during my femboy days, especially online. Here's a short list:

-Had a transmed bombard me with harassing messages and comments on reddit telling me that I was a "fencesitter" and I just needed to "fucking transition already and stop making trans people look bad"

-Had a trans woman I knew irl shove an estradiol pill in my face, and try to order me to take it, in front of a group of people I wasn't even fully comfortable presenting as a femboy to, until she was eventually asked by someone else to stop.

-Had several comments indicating that I should be force femmed in femboy subreddits

-Had many, many DMs trying to tell me I was a "failed man" that should just transition already

And to clarify- all of this is so, so mild compared to transphobia that myself and others face. But it is a very real thing that happens. To many femboys, I think this is the first time they've received any kind of queerphobia or questioning of their identity, so it feels far worse in their heads than it really actually is. And, to be fair, I think it mostly happens from the more gender binary minded cis community than it comes from trans people- but as I've said, I've had it coming from trans women both irl and online.

I've also tangentially noticed that it seems to be transmed adjacent. Not saying that this anon is, or others who try to encourage femboys to explore their gender, but there certainly is a correlation. If its difficult for you to acknowledge cis gender nonconformity, then its easy to see that extending to a lack of understanding of nonbinary people or others with different trans experiences.

Every time one of these things happened, it didn't put me any closer to transition. It made me feel unsafe. It made me feel on the spot, and scared, and almost outed.

I've said this before, and I'll say it again- if you want historical parallels to femboys, we have a perfect example in drag. Drag is performative, over the top femininity that has become its own artform, style, and means of expression in a way that is intrinsically tied to gender nonconformity. Being a femboy is also all of those things. And guess what? Many drag queens have used it as a way to explore their own gender and realize that they're trans. There are also many who are cis, and remain confident in that identity. Is the percentage of trans people among people who have done drag at some point higher than the general population? Of fucking course- its one of the few places where exploring gender is encouraged and celebrated. Of course trans people flock to that. And the exact same thing is true of femboys. Are a higher proportion of femboys trans or eggs than the general population. Of course. It's a great venue for trans people to explore their identities. But even more of them are

Am I saying you're a bad person if you encourage femboys and gender nonconforming people to consider the possibility that they're trans? Of fucking course not. It was the gentle, affirming pressure with respect and care for my comfort levels from several incredible trans women I know irl that eventually made me confident enough to start HRT. Their continually support is a key factor in my social transition plans for the future. I needed that pressure, and I think everyone, including people who aren't actively engaging in gender nonconformity, needs some push to question their gender and start unlocking cis+. But to be blunt, questioning whether cis femboys even exist is not gentle, comfortable, and affirming pushes.

#trans #transgender #femboy #gender #gender discussion #egg

[drdemonprince]

I was never really certain about my transition in the way that most gatekeeping hormone prescribers and curious members of the public demand that a trans person be. I didn’t “always know” that I was not cisgender. I haven’t “always known” anything about myself. Very few truths about me have always remained true, my existence is too interpersonal, contextual, and ever-evolving for all of that. (So is most everyone else’s, I think). I don’t think that the fact I’d eventually choose to exercise my body autonomy at age 30 by taking hormones is a decision I could have foreseen when I was a child. All that I knew about being transgender when I was a kid was a fact that most children intuitively know: gender assignment was a violation of my freedom, of everyone’s freedom in fact, and it was wrong. As an infant and then a child and teenager, people kept imposing labels on me; they kept forcing me and my body into prescribed gendered boxes, and while the specific labels and boxes never really felt like the right ones, the most disturbing part about it all was the forcing. No coerced identity would have ever felt right. Children can tell when secrets are being kept from them, and when adults are restricting their choices. They notice that they and the other children are being lined up boy-girl, boy-girl, without ever being told what a girl or a boy even is. They can see their parents frowning when they reach for the doll with the shimmery hair, or climb atop the neighbor kid on the playground. Kids know that they are forbidden from sitting with their legs spread wide or flicking their wrist, and their gender illegibility is shamed in them, long before they get any answers about what gender means or where it comes from or why it’s so important that they make themselves easy to understand.

Like the cloned children in Never Let Me Go who grow up being conditioned for a life of forced organ donation, children in a cissexist society grow up conditioned to fall within certain gendered boundary lines, and by the time they learn that the reason for this is almost completely arbitrary, they can’t imagine any alternative. Not until some of them hear about gender transition and find the prospect very compelling, for some reason. You can say that reason is because some of us are inherently trans, but there’s absolutely nothing in the way of brain science, genetics research, or even sociological data to back that up. Besides, the search for a biological “reason” that people are transgender or queer runs counter to the goal of queer liberation in the long run. Science only needs to explain the existence of transgender people (or queer people more broadly) if our existence is in some way aberrant or a problem. If queerness is accepted as a form of human diversity that simply exists, then there is no need to excuse it by claiming that it is never a choice. It can be a choice, if a person wants to make it, and hopefully it satisfies them, but maybe it won’t. Freedom to choose means freedom to forever be dissatisfied, to search endlessly for more, and yes, to capable of making a mistake. I would say that viewing myself as transgender was a choice. I decided to break away from the straight, female categories to which I had been assigned, and doing so allowed me to view the legal and societal power structures that had restricted me more clearly. It helped me better understand myself. But that does not mean the actual act of breaking away was always the truest reflection of who I am. The version of me that transitioned was a person on the run — and how a person behaves, thinks, and self-conceives when they are fleeing is not a great reflection of whom they might be if they were safe. If we all lived in a world free from mandatory gender assignment, and where our bodies were not mined for meaning about the kinds of sex we liked, the clothing we should wear, the personality qualities we have, the roles we should play in society, and the connections we are allowed to form with others, who knows who each of us might be. But none of us get to live in that world, or ever gets completely free from the frameworks of heterosexuality and the gender binary. These frameworks shape every legal institution we encounter, every school we attend, every item of clothing we put on, every substance we take into our bodies, every piece of paperwork that ever gets printed about us, and every look another person ever gives us. And so we make due with rewriting and recombining those frameworks as best we can. It should come as no surprise that those us who break away from the binary have to experiment and revise how we understand ourselves quite a bit — sometimes getting things “wrong,” sometimes searching forever for the semblance of something “right.” Sometimes reveling in the “wrongness” of all the available options is kind of the point.

I wrote about my detransition, retransition, and the eternal dissatisfaction that is probably the corest truth of my identity. It's free to read or have narrated to you on my Substack.

[moongothic]

Seen quite a few people comment how they believe it's more likely the Dragodile Divorce happened due to ideological differences rather than because Dragon was too straight to stay with Crocodile, and. Like I did suggest that (or at least tried to) in my Crocodad Giga Thesis (really I should've been more clear about it in my essay so I wouldn't be writing this now lol), but like yes, Dragon and Crocodile absolutely have drastically different beliefs on How One Overthrows The World Government. And that absolutely could have contributed to the two separating and/or Crocodile deciding to go his own way instead of becoming a proper Revolutionary

Because like, as I tried to imply in the essay (but failed to deliver); if Crocodile's goal had always been to get Pluton so he could just nuke Marijoa off the face of the earth by himself and end it all in one go, then Crocodile and his way of thinking could work as this, like... contrasting opposite to how Dragon believes things should be done. Some fans (unfairly imo) call Dragon a "fraud" because over the past 20+ years he has only attacked Marijoa and the WG directly just once, and even when he did, instead of doing something to stop their corrupt reign for good... the Revs destroyed... the Tenryuubito's... food storage..? Like. Sure, that'll bother them for a little while, get their panties in a good twist etc, but in the end they're just going to demand more tributes and more free food. The Revolutionary Army may be successfully inspiring more people and more countries to rebel against the World Government's corrupt rule, but the Tenryuubito are still in power and will continue to be in power for a long time. And that's kind of how Crocodile would greatly complement Dragon within the narrative. Dragon being arguably "too soft" with his slow, methodical way of overthrowing the WG, while Crocodile would just kill them all without mercy, even if it meant hurting innocent people in the process. The two would act as the opposite sides of the same coin, the different extremes of the same spectrum. Crocodile would become like a response to the complaints people have against Dragon.

And yeah, the two having such wildly different ideological views could VERY EASILY contribute to a divorce, for sure.

My thing is that... If (and this is an if) Crocodile is meant to go a character arc and grow as a person, if we're meant to see him as a sympathetic character at all and maybe even feel bad for him... It'll be much harder to write that if the Dragodile Divorce happened only because of the two having ideological differences. Like who's going to feel bad for Crocodile if the two got divorced because Crocodile wanted to mass murder people and Dragon wasn't okay with it? That's not a tragedy, that's not a situation where we as the readers would feel for Crocodile and want to root for him. That's not something that would give a character unprocessed emotional trauma to heal from and overcome. He'd just be a villian who'd need to have his beliefs changed.

Where as, if The Divorce was caused by Dragon and Crocodile no longer being compatible due to Dragon being straight while Crocodile transed his gender... Even in the most respectful of scenarios that is a heartbreaking situation, a painful thing to go through. That is a tragedy without bad guys, a story where you could feel bad for Crocodile and want to root for him. That is a situation that would give him trauma to heal from.

And that's kind of why I so strongly believe in Crocodile's transition being a more important, contributing factor in The Divorce. Again, this does absolutely depend on what Crocodile's actual role in the story is going to be and whether or not he's even meant to go through a character arc at all. Like if he's not going to be that important and if he isn't meant to go through an arc then sure, Crocodile's transition doesn't have to matter one fucking bit. But if he is meant to go through an arc, if we are meant to feel bad for him and find outselves rooting for him eventually... From a writing perspective, that'll be far easier to do if we can find ourselves sympathizing with him even just a little bit.

Also like. Yes, you can have queer characters who are just queer for the sake of being queer, their queerness does not have to be an important aspect in them or a huge plotpoint in their story at all. Crocodile could be queer just for the sake of being queer. Because that's what it's like being queer, you just are what you are. At the same time, from a writing perspective. What would even be the point of making him queer if it didn't matter to his character at all and have an impact on his character?

Also while Crocodile and Dragon clearly have very different beliefs on how the WG should be dealt with right now, we don't really know when Crocodile came to his beliefs. Like for all we know Crocodile could've formed his worldview years after the divorce. Hell, based on the way he spoke to Vivi about her ideals, and how we know he spent over a decade in utter emotional solitude, his current worldview could have been partially born from resentment towards Dragon (and his ideals) that's been simmering away over the years.

All of this to say; yes I think the two's beliefs could have been a contributing factor in The Divorce, but from a writing perspective (and based on the direction I personally want to see the story go), I find it far more likely if Crocodile's transition was the main cause, one way or another.

#Moon posting #OP Meta #Dragodile #Like for me it's either they divorced because of the transition OR the transition AND ideology #But not because of the ideology alone #There is also something to be said about people having it hard to imagine Oda writing something... So nuanced about trans people #Which. Fair. Like eight months ago I had zero fucking hope either #But also if you look at how Oda has been writing characters (queer or not) you can see he should actually Get It #Like when I shared that video from MelonTeee about Katakuri and joked about Katakuri being trans as hell. Like yes I was joking #But also the way MelonTeee explained Katakuri's story made me realize how queer coded it actually was #If Oda can write about Katakuri having to hide his true self from his family for a fear of rejection for who he really is #Then maybe Oda can write about Crocodile being rejected by his significant other for who he truly was #One Piece is so much about finding love and acceptance no matter what and no matter who you are #I think Oda could do it. I want to believe

[justghostthings]

Yes I could definitely search this on my own but does anybody know anything about facial hair transplants for ftm affirming surgeries??? I grow some hair but not a lot and I know that they can do hair regrowth surgeries on scalps n things so I assume there's something that can be done to help facial hair growth??? Or at home stuff I could try. I know minoxidil hasn't been approved to be used on the face but I have tried it a little, I'm not super consistent with it and ik it's more meant to bring back hair that was prev. there n I never previously could grow hair on my face. Idk !! My biggest transition goals ever since I knew I was trans was to get top surgery and have my name/gender marker changed, and now that it's over I've started to look into other things I think I'd like. Idk ! If anybody had any input, or sites I could check out I wld rlly appreciate it!!! Or if anyone just wants to DM and talk about transition stuff I would love that. Or u can send asks abt it. Whatever is cool

#i really want to connect personally with more trans ppl n kinda have like a support network #which js why im posting this instead of just googling #but ill do that too #i have very briefly looked into it but j cant afford to do much rn anyway money is tight #mine #rambles #ftm nsft #t4t nsft #queer nsft #trans nsft #ftm sub #mlm nsft #ftm punk #ftm #ftm bottom #ftm t4t #ftm ns/fw #ftm puppy #female to male #transmasc #trans man #trans ns/fw #transgender #trans #lgbtq #lgbtq community #lgbt nsft #lgbtqia #lgbt pride #top surgery

[transgenderpolls]

*this doesn't necessarily mean that you want to change your transition goals or anything, but just that you have that wish. maybe it's just because you want to have the other agab. maybe it's because you wish that you could come at your assigned gender in a trans way. maybe you just think sometimes that it might be simpler. it doesn't have to be deep, it's just a wish.

#trans #transgender #ftm #mtf #nonbinary #lgbt #polls #mine

[havegaysex]

Why are you telling people to vote for the guy committing genocide :/

because voting is not an endorsement it's harm reduction.

Trump is going to be at best doing the same as Biden and likely much worse for Palestinians and all the countries suffering from American Imperialism than Biden is.

Republicans want to bring back child labor and get rid of social security, medicare, Medicaid. As someone who is surviving on Medicaid and social security I don't want those taken away. The Republican majority house already put a lot of limits on food stamps in this past term and I don't think we'll still have food stamps if we get a republican Congress and a Republican president.

They've made it pretty clear that if they get a republican Congress and a Republican president they're going to enact project 2025 and call a conference of states and try and take our rights back to the days when only wealthy white men had any rights when women and racial minorities had no rights, they want to make it illegal for LGBT+ folks to safely exist in public and get lifesaving healthcare.

In short

Do I support every single thing Biden has done as president?

No.

Do I like him?

Not particularly. But I'm still voting for him because apathy is not a choice.

Do I think that Joe Biden having another term means that we can actually make more progress for labor rights, trans healthcare, abortion access, advancement of the rights and protections for disabled people and so much more?

Yes absolutely.

Do I think that the genocide in Gaza needs to end and the United States needs to stop sending weapons to israel?

Yes, I think that un restricted flow of humanitarian aid into Palestine needs to happen, the siege needs to stop, and the country of Israel and the United States need to be held accountable at an international level. I think that the soldiers of the IDF/IOF need to be held accountable for their war crimes and pillaging that they continuously post evidence of on social medias. I'm trying to put a read more here so ce I've put a few linked articles and quotes from them.

A quote from the article below:

"While our map focuses solely on high school aged youth (age 13-17), some states, such as Oklahoma, Texas, and South Carolina, have considered banning care for transgender people up to 26 years of age. "

I've seen lawmakers in some states try to make it felony punishable by life in prison to get your trans child healthcare to keep them alive because they want to make it illegal for us to exist and a legal for anyone who helps us exist.

some quotes from the article above:

"Led by the long-established Heritage Foundation think tank and fueled by former Trump administration officials, the far-reaching effort is essentially a government-in-waiting for the former president’s second term — or any candidate who aligns with their ideals and can defeat President Joe Biden in 2024. With a nearly 1,000-page “Project 2025” handbook and an “army” of Americans, the idea is to have the civic infrastructure in place on Day One to commandeer, reshape and do away with what Republicans deride as the “deep state” bureaucracy, in part by firing as many as 50,000 federal workers. “We need to flood the zone with conservatives,” said Paul Dans, director of the 2025 Presidential Transition Project and a former Trump administration official who speaks with historical flourish about the undertaking. “This is a clarion call to come to Washington,” he said. “People need to lay down their tools, and step aside from their professional life and say, ‘This is my lifetime moment to serve.’” The unprecedented effort is being orchestrated with dozens of right-flank organizations, many new to Washington, and represents a changed approach from conservatives, who traditionally have sought to limit the federal government by cutting federal taxes and slashing federal spending. Instead, Trump-era conservatives want to gut the “administrative state” from within, by ousting federal employees they believe are standing in the way of the president’s agenda and replacing them with like-minded officials more eager to fulfill a new executive’s approach to governing. The goal is to avoid the pitfalls of Trump’s first years in office, when the Republican president’s team was ill-prepared, his Cabinet nominees had trouble winning Senate confirmation and policies were met with resistance — by lawmakers, government workers and even Trump’s own appointees who refused to bend or break protocol, or in some cases violate laws, to achieve his goals. While many of the Project 2025 proposals are inspired by Trump, they are being echoed by GOP rivals Ron DeSantis and Vivek Ramaswamy and are gaining prominence among other Republicans. And if Trump wins a second term, the work from the Heritage coalition ensures the president will have the personnel to carry forward his unfinished White House business. “The president Day One will be a wrecking ball for the administrative state,” said Russ Vought, a former Trump administration official involved in the effort who is now president at the conservative Center for Renewing America. Much of the new president’s agenda would be accomplished by reinstating what’s called Schedule F — a Trump-era executive order that would reclassify tens of thousands of the 2 million federal employees as essentially at-will workers who could more easily be fired. Biden had rescinded the executive order upon taking office in 2021, but Trump — and other presidential hopefuls — now vow to reinstate it."

"There’s a “top to bottom overhaul” of the Department of Justice, particularly curbing its independence and ending FBI efforts to combat the spread of misinformation. It calls for stepped-up prosecution of anyone providing or distributing abortion pills by mail."

Personally I think that voting for Joe Biden is better than someone who wants to enact this stuff on day one. It's like they read handmaid's tale and want to make that the reality of this country.

"Chapter by chapter, the pages offer a how-to manual for the next president, similar to one Heritage produced 50 years ago, ahead of the Ronald Reagan administration. Authored by some of today’s most prominent thinkers in the conservative movement, it’s often sprinkled with apocalyptic language." Ronald Reagan is a big reason we have a lot of problems we have today with our economy and with a lot more things. The people that supported Ronald Reagan do not need another term in office.

A quote from the article linked below:

"Trump has given no indication that he would be more sympathetic to Palestinian claims, nor that he would place more pressure on Israel to agree to a ceasefire. “The approach of the United States would be that Israel needs to win this war, it was attacked brutally,” Trump’s ambassador to Israel, David Friedman, told the Jewish Telegraphic Agency, describing how Trump would act. Friedman is now a campaign surrogate for Trump."

Personally I think Trump telling Israel to finish the job is indicators that another Trump presidency doesn't mean that weapons would stop being sent to Israel from United States

I fail to see how another term of Donald trump will be any better for the victims of the ongoing genocide in Palestine than President Joe Biden.

i think our system is absolutely messed up and broken but I don't think abstaining from voting is going to actually help.

#I don't support the genocide happening but I don't think that a republican will improve the situation happening in Gaza #I think that there needs to be a lot more grassroots effort for any third party candidate to be viable on the presidential level #We have two choices this election another term of Biden or another trump term #(if by some miracle the republicans managed to elect anyone else for their party nomination I still don't believe that a republican will #Improve the situation of Gaza or anything the United States is doing in the international level) #Asks #Mutuals #Im open to having further discussion about this #Also since this wasn't a DM or marked for private response I'm assuming you're fine with me posting my answer publicly. #I tried to pick out decent articles to link sorry if there not the best #None of my responses above are me trying to be hostile or combative #I'm genuinely trying to answer this question and I am not great at proofreading before posting but I did try here #vote blue no matter who #vote biden #vote democrat #vote blue #voting #us elections #election 2024 #trump 2024 #2024 election #biden 2024 #biden administration #president biden #joe biden #2024 elections #kamala harris #palestine #Israel

[tommyssupercoolblog]

Beta problems (cw unreality)

Gonna take a sec to talk about Beta problems bc I feel like no one really does. When people talk about secondary gender issues they focus on Omegas, which like, I get it, but Alphas and Betas struggle too. Here's some stuff I've noticed personally about it

Beta identities are like, so diminished you guys. How many times have you heard someone brush off Betas as "the same as" one of the other two trinaries depending on the context, lumping a Beta friend into an "Omegas night out" or saying they're basically just Alphas because they don't (if they're cisgender) have heats. As their own identity they seem to be sidelined or just called "boring" or "basic". If you're assigned Beta at birth you're kinda left out and if you transition to Beta than transphobic ass people will ask you what "the point" is.

another problem I've noticed is relationships. Stop me if you've heard any of these before- "oh that alpha? She's only dating that beta for practice, she'll pursue an omega when she's ready." "Omegas need an alpha, you're just dating a beta to feel special." "Beta/Alpha and Omega/Beta relationships are basically straight, so they shouldn't be included in LGBT spaces." "If you're not gonna date an alpha, why not just commit and date an omega like you?" "Betas will always end up with other Betas, they stay in their own little space. It's just the way it is."

Like what the actual fuck??? It's like betas are sidelined out entirely into their own beta-only-zone and punished for leaving.

Betas are supposed to be "supporters" or whatever as their gender role; yes-men and the best friend characters, second in command or just a "helper", and no one seems to stop to think about how damaging that is for a Beta's mental health. If you grow up in any sort of traditional or religious environment then you are taught that you're basically a tool for use by your pack members. You're a faceless worker in the hive. Your value as a person is tied to supporting your alpha's decisions or helping hype your omega friend up for a date. What about your own goals and wants and desires? Don't they matter too??

Betas are in a spot where, culturally, they're so pigen-holed into the background that discussion on them is nearly impossible to find. We're starting to see more Beta celebrities, we're starting to have one or two main characters who are Betas, but it's rare and it still hasn't moved their image at all. Please stop ignoring them.

#i made a textpost #miscecanis #miscefelis #a/b/o lifestyle #misceanimalis #miscelupus #omegaverse #omegaverse lifestyle #Unreality #Tw unreality #unreality tw #Unreality CW #CW unreality #In character omegaverse #In character a/b/o #Unreality omegaverse #Unreality a/b/o

[hikarry]

For long have you known you're genderfluid? And how did you figure it out? Gender is so much more confusing than sexuality

You know if you like dick or tits, but gender? A whole other monster

This is going to sound ridiculous, but I figured it out because of tiktok

In 2020, during the pandemic, I had a full-blown gender and sexual crisis. I still had long hair, but I found a way to make it so it looked short in pictures and when I was wearing a beanie.

Here, I offer you my pretend short hair and half of my face for the first time on Tumblr

(Yes, this is me with long ass hair pretending i have short hair for pics. The logistics were complicated as fuck but i believe i achieved my goal).

Feeling masc made me so so confused. Because i was used and raised to be hyper feminine. I considered the fact that I might be a trans guy, but no. It didn't make sense. Most of the time I didn't quite care about my gender - just my gender presentation -, I 100% did not and do not want to have a dick, I love my chest (for existing. Not for being gigantic the way it is. That I hate) and my curves (your boy has a tiny waist and child bearing hips, yall) so being a full on guy didn't make sense to me

One day I came across this genderfluid tiktoker and they like could transition from looking like a woman to looking like a dude in a snap and I was like THATS IT. THATS EXACTLY WHAT I WANT

Et voilà

I'm a proud and out genderfluid

You are correct. I'm also of the opinion finding your sexuality is easier than the gender

Sexuality is something more "exterior". It's easy to know what you like and don't like If you think hard enough or if you try both flavors (I dated a man and went on dates with men. Not my thing at all. I was uncomfortable the whole time. I'm 100% gay for sure). Gender is a more internal thing and can be tricky

My advice is: if you can, don't give a shit about the labels and just be you. But, if you really feel like you need to put a name on it, research. I'm sure there's a label out there that will fit you 99%, for as obscure as it might be. Whatever it is, wear it proudly and live your best life

#im so sorry if this isnt the best answer #im legit writing this after one of the worst night of my life #im barely awake at all #so im so sorry if it doesnt make sense or smt #transgender #genderfluid #gay #lesbian #queer #anon #ask #also please be gentle about my face #i have self-esteem problems enough

[aspirationalt0i]

Hi there,

Jason, he/him whatever you want to call me

FtM, subby kinksters with detrans, CNC, patriarchy kink

Minors DNI!

All misogyny, homophobia, transphobia, rascism, abuse regardless of gender, etc, are played for fantasy and using kink to deal with this world

Real bigots DNI

All others feel free to interact publically or privately, all interactions are assumed to be from a place of mutual understanding and consent

Yes, i mean it you don't have to ask first you can just start with threats, invasive asks, etc, just i might not respond in a timely way and reserve the right to call red

5 ft 3 inches, age 26, i keep my inferiority hole and ass waxed, north east asian, has had top surgery (kink to be forced to have massive tits), pierced nipples, HRT for nearly 6 years

I do have an irl bf, he knows, he's not as kinky

Kinks:

CNC, rough use, physical abuse, free use, forced intox, sexual slavery/trad wife, kidnapping, brainwashing

forced feminization, detrans, forced sterilization, misgendering, bimbofication

Degradation, humiliation, pain, impact play, choking, hanging, bondage, spanking, caging

Orgasm control, overstim, denial, ruined orgasms, chastity, torture

Piss, food control, airlocking, fisting, workplace harrasment

Loves to be trained, punished (especially for transitioning), freely and roughly used, physically beaten (no reason necessary, maybe you just had a bad day and you feel better beating a pathetic slut)

Dislikes: praise (if you need it for aftercare let me know it advance, but i don't care for it in scene)

Limits: scat, vomit, extremd gore

Might not send pics, will never send face, phone also kind of sucks and i don't have a yon of privacy where i live so taking photos/vids isn't easy, sorry

Sorry this is so long, but i've had some people have concerns about the diet/weight loss/food control aspect of my blog/kink

Thanks for the concern, and yes i'm mixing some (not all) fitness goals with kink here. I had a bad workplace injury which meant i had to stop doing martial arts, and soon after pandemic happened and that was a shitty combo for my health and mental stuff. Basically i'm really enjoying getting back into pre-injury, pre-pandemic shape- but also HOLY FUCK i love being called fat, ugly, and bullied to starve or work out. When I reach my fitness goal i'll still probably love being called a fat cunt. Or maybe i'll want to be called shapeless, thin, whatever, i just like being abused. Also hate working out so it's nice to motivate with kink, hehe.

#degrade and humiliate me #humiliation kink #cnc free use #pain slvt #ftm detrans kink #cnc k!nk #slvt training #use me pls #cvm in me #send me threats #food control kink #propatriarchy kink #misogyny kink #misgenderingkink

[catboybiologist]

Interesting personal thoughts about gender I've been having recently.

I've been feeling very nonbinary recently. But in a very particular way that's distinctly in between man and woman.

Okay. Several times, I've described my experiences as gender as "yes, I was a man, I was a femboy, I'm working towards becoming a woman, I don't feel like one yet, but it's still my goal and working towards it makes me happy." That doesn't track with a lot of people's gender experience, I know. But for me, there is a delineation between what I am and what I want. It's not defined by my physical body, it's defined by an imperceptible number of social, biological, and psychological factors that are constantly changing (including significant changes to the biological factors, since I'm on HRT).

My goal is still transitioning into a woman. I still want to be a woman. I still don't feel like I'm there yet, though. But for the first time.... I really, really don't feel like a man. Something in me "clicked" recently, and I do feel like I've fully left manhood behind. And so, my current identity feels like it's falling in between. I'm passing through a town- some people live there, and I'm just visiting, but it's where I am right now. I know that's coming a lot later than mostly people think it would, especially considering my presence online is essentially fully presenting as a woman.

I know this state is transient. I know it'll be gone. I know I will be a woman eventually. But this is honestly a huge sense of peace for me. Maybe it's "just a phase", but dynamic, changing phases can still be real. And that's what this feels like right now. I told my therapist some of my thoughts on not thinking of myself as a woman until I'm further into my transition, and she warned me that it could be easy to fall into the rut of *never* feeling like you're good enough for it. And this feeling is essentially a confirmation that that's not happening. I'm going somewhere steadily.

Again, pronouns are absolutely whatever. Tbh the language used to refer to me is a fun mix rn. People here tend to use she/her for me. My labmates/professors use he/him for me, my irl queer friends tend to use they/them, and I get my she/her fix here. I've found it to be a good mix. So thank you! But again of course, I'm so used to boymoding that I really don't mind anything.

#did this make any sense? #it makes perfect sense to me #idk #gender #transgender #nonbinary #trans woman #transfemme