#abuse of trust

[sweaters-and-vertigo]

a few days ago i went on a ride along with two police officers, as extra credit for my criminal justice class. i never liked cops but i saw this as an opportunity to change my perspective on the issue. after the ride along though….. i realized……

i was absolutely correct. cops are terrible. they do not care about people at all. you should not trust them ever.

i don’t think citizens have an automatic obligation to trust or respect police. i think that police have a RESPONSIBILITY to prove their trustworthiness and then citizens can respect them. until then, fuck em.

#police officer #police brutality #all cops are bastards #cops are pigs #well actually #‘pig’ is too good for them #pigs are loyal animals and yummy food #fuck the police #abuse of power #abuse of trust #protect and serve #corrupt police #black lives matter #police lives don’t matter #blue lives murder #blue lives don't matter #i hate cops #police #now i know #now i know for sure #there is no doubt #they are disgusting people #this is a public service announcement #seriously #blacklivesmatter #fuck cops

[inkskinned]

hey btw if you're in the USA at  2:20 p.m. ET on Wednesday, Oct. 4, they're testing the emergency broadcast system. your phone is probably going to make a really loud noise, even if it's on silent. there's a backup date on the 11th if they need to postpone it.

if you're not in a safe situation and have an extra phone, you should turn that phone completely off beforehand.

additionally, if you're like me, and are easily startled; i recommend treating it like a party. have a countdown or something. be surrounded by your loved ones. take the actions you personally need to take to make yourself safe.

i have already seen mockery towards any person who feels nervous about this. for the record, it completely, completely valid to have "emergency broadcast sounds" be an anxiety trigger. do not let other people make fun of you for that. emergency sounds are legitimately engineered to make us take action; those of us with high levels of anxiety and/or neurodivergence are already pre-disposed to have a Bad Time. sometimes it is best to acknowledge that the situation will be triggering for some, and to prepare for that; rather than just saying "well that's stupid, it's just a test."

"loud scary sound time" isn't like, my favorite thing, but we can at least try to prevent some additional anxiety by preparing for it. maybe get yourself a cake? noise cancelling headphones? the new hozier album? whatever helps. love u, hope you're okay. we are gonna ride it out together.

#watching ppl go from being like ''support neurodivergent ppl~~!" #to being like ''if this is going to give u a panic attack ur fuckken stupid'' #like..... gets me #yeah man. i know im going to be triggered by it . in the old fashioned term. it is GOING to give me a panic attack. it's pretty much certai #and i shouldn't have to tell u about what i have survived for you to be okay with that. #you can just trust that i ALSO don't want me to react to it. i'm not gonna be having a FUN time. #dismissing that bc you think it's stupid.... like is the whole problem. #these sounds are workshopped by entire teams of people to get you to pay attention and move quickly. #they arent meant to be fun and exciting. #OBVIOUSLY it's gonna set ppl off. #but yeah there's something so fuckken demeaning about ppl being like. well that trigger isn't valid bc u haven't undergone X #dude i have ptsd bc i was abused as a child. like plain and simple. the fact im 30 and afraid of the dark tells you how bad it was. #i shouldn't have to ask u for permission to be mentally ill. #the reason it's a fucking disorder and not a fucking choice is that I DO NOT CONTROL IT. #like how is it any different from when ppl are like ''oh public speaking isn't that scary'' like FOR YOU #for YOU this isn't scary. now if i could fucking eat my own amygdala...

[backpackingspace]

Came across my holds child's self face its not your fault and not pushing boundaries post again and like holy fuck does thst post hurt every single time I come across it. It's been years since I've made it and I'm still processing that one concept. Don't get me wrong I've gotten better at it and I barley have those old thought patterns in my head anymore amd that's huge. Buts it's been years. And it's still hurts and I am still fiercely lovingly bring my teenage self close and going its not your fucking fault it's not its not its not. And I hope. To all those that need to hear it: it's not your fucking fault. We are not to be blamed for other people taking advantage of our ignorance. It's not our fault we got stuck in a bad situation because others made us stuck so that they could keep hurting us. Even if you made bad decisions in that situations, the pain done unto us is not our fucking fault.

#Mental health #Pain #Abuse of trust #Abuse of authority #It's not our fault #I hope for those who need it #This helps

[unsanctitude]

tried to make a new elf to introduce to the abysmal ecosystem here. brought to you by Women who stare at thiings

#my art #oc #elf #dark elf #i designed this immediately after watching someone play oblivion so shes kinda dunmer inspired (she isnt one though #shes MY elf. MINE! MINE! MINE! MINE! #MINE! #MINE!!!!!!!!! #um i feel like i had more info but im too lazy to write it down now ill do that when i bump the post tomorrow or something #i love her thoughhh ohhhhhhhhh she can be trusted unless every other elf i put here #oh i discovered the sharpen tool im gonna abuse the shit outta that thang

[melblogsgfreethruptsd]

#toxic parents #emotional abuse #trauma #aftermath #parental abuse #accountability #repentance #manipulation #dysfunctional family #boundaries #trust #trust issues #ptsd #relationship problems

[proudfreakmetarusonniku]

but also like. guys you don’t need to leave the minecraft youtube community bc one person is bad to clarify. like. shelby is a minecraft youtuber. a lot of her friends are minecraft youtubers. those friends are supportive and as far as we know all believe her. the vast majority of minecraft youtubers are like. fine. this shit is something that Happens because Abusers are Manipulative, going to another hobby will Not shield you from anything and you’re not immoral for liking something bad people also liked. which is. one of the biggest video games ever. like in this situation no one was knowingly harbouring an abuser and it seems everyone was supportive. this is just a case of some people being shit, not anything to do with mcyt. hell, the guy hasn’t been on minecraft in like a year lmao.

i fully understand why the content might be uncomfortable to you guys now but like, please don’t self flagellate and cut yourself off from an entire genre of media because of one guy again. i saw that happen after the dream stuff and a lot of people ended up losing important things because they made rash decisions and felt like they Had to leave. but please. take one deep fucking breath. this has happened before. this has happened so much before, and in ways far worse than this. because abusers, unfortunately, exist. you should not feel guilty for being manipulated by a manipulative abuser, don’t blame yourself. do what you have to, but please, please keep in mind that the majority of minecraft youtube is fine. it is fine to continue engaging with it. it’s fine to be manipulated by an abuser and it’s not your fault. please don’t make rash decisions and end up losing things you care deeply about and being unable to get them back. distance yourself all you want, but please be careful to not do so out of emotional self harm from the guilt. that’s something this fandom encourages far too much- even outside of this- and it’s unhealthy and anyone expecting it of you is cruel.

#mcyt #abuse tw #i guess this is discourse idk but like #this happened two years ago and the amount of people who realised cutting themselves off from All mcyt was self harm and came back #only to have lost a lot of content they created and valued because they wanted to punish themselves for trusting a predator #and like. you’re victim blaming yourself. obviously you are not anywhere near as much a victim as The victim #but being manipulated into supporting abusers is still something that is an action they take to harm others #Being used as a tool to silence others unknowingly is a cruel thing and can be traumatic to go through #its honestly really concerning as someone working on their own emotional self harm to see it. like this isn’t about anyone in specific but #guys. emotionally self harming isn’t helping. you don’t need punishment. breathe and think through things.

[podcastenthusiast]

The way BG3 approaches revenge is so interesting. It never says anyone is wrong to kill someone who's done them harm, but it does say that doing so alone won't fix the trauma.

Aylin just feels empty after killing Lorroakan. Astarion admits killing Cazador didn't feel how he expected it would either; he feels numb for a while and it changes his perspective on things. Karlach kills Gortash and it isn't satisfying, because he never felt sorry for the life he took from her and now she has to grapple with how little she has left.

Again, they weren't wrong to crave that catharsis and the safety it brings them. But revenge is never the end of healing. It's only the beginning. Choosing to live again is maybe the best revenge there is.

#bg3 #baldur's gate iii #baldur's gate 3 #bg3 spoilers #counselor plays video game #killing is pretty normalized in their world but like as far as i know you can't tell your companions to just forgive their abusers #you can tell them to avoid direct confrontation and run but they remind you they'll never be safe if they do that #in fact taking that choice that catharsis by for example killing cazador without astarion is framed as a bad option #a betrayal of his trust and autonomy. which it is even with good intentions

[thisismisogynoir]

I love it when women hate men. I love it when women are allowed to vent to each other about how horrible and creepy men are. I love it when women form friendships with and prioritize each other over relationships with men(whether they're attracted to them or not). I love it when women put men dni in their bios and on their nude photos and on posts on their blogs. I love it when women refuse to mollycoddle and accommodate entitled male feelings with "but this doesn't mean I hate all men, I know a few men who are great, I love my father/sons/brothers/uncles/male cousins/guy friends" I love it when women complain about men WITHOUT "not all men" being a disclaimer. I love it when women avoid socializing with/refuse to be around/befriend/get close to men because they know men can't be trusted. I love it when women make "kill all men" jokes. I love it when women offer absolutely no concern or care for men's feelings and if their misandry offends men whatsoever because why should we, men are the oppressor class who have raped and killed and abused us and kept us as subjugated as second-class citizens for millennia, they regularly mistreat us and the women in their own marginalized communities still every single day and make this world so much harder and more awful for us to be in, and if we choose to hate them and not spare them any sympathy then so be it, and I don't just mean "men as a class" either, you can be a woman who doesn't want to have anything to do with any man on an individual basis and completely cuts off men from her personal life too and ykw I will love and fucking support you in that because men deserve absolutely NOTHING from us. If they're so tough and strong then they can handle it just like they can handle being lonely. If you are a woman who hates men, ESPECIALLY IF YOU ARE A LESBIAN AND/OR A TRANS WOMAN, then just know that I love you. I love you, I support you, and you are safe here.

#was going to make a post about how much i hate that women aren't allowed to hate their oppressors but i decided to spin it into something #positive instead #this is supposed to be the feminist site that makes reddit mgtow piss their baby diapers so let's go back to despising men and not coddling #their feelings and let's dye our hair blue while we're at it #i am so tired of this new wave of guilt-tripping and gaslighting women who hate men and don't trust or want to be around them #i hate how we're made into villainesses or the problematic ones for not valuing them in our lives or for wanting to guard ourselves or be #safe from our oppressors #and i'm tired of people who don't know the first thing about feminism being like 'BUT THAT'S TERF RHETORIC WHAT ABOUT X MINORITY MEN' #guess what women can also be x minority that you're trying to protect the men of and we get to hate men too #trans women are included when i say women btw and trans men are included when i say men #if anyone has the right to hate men more than anybody else it's trans women esp trans lesbians because they put up with so much shit #from men that even cis women do not and they especially know how vile men are behind closed doors #so #terfs fuck off #radfems fuck off #and if anybody tries to make this post more appeasing to men or 'not all men's this post you are getting blocked and hit with a hammer #feminism #misogyny #sexism #patriarchy #tw men #tw rape #tw abuse #misandry #terfs dni #radfems dni #feminists need to go back to being scary and unpalatable for men none of this 'but some of them are good!' bullshit #men are entitled to nothing from us #and if you try to prove me wrong then you are just proving my point if you have nothing good to say then simply keep scrolling #ok? ok.

[that-crazy-five-foot-two-chick]

They made Souta a chair for 97% of the movie because they knew we'd all pass away from his beauty if they didn't

#suzume #suzume no tojimari #munakata souta #like seriously heaven help us all if we had that babysitting scene with the twins with his human form 😭 #a woman's heart becomes weak your honor #men who pass the kids and animals check get all the green flags no cap no cap #but i did lowkey want to commit animal abuse bc i did NOT trust Daijin nope nope nope #madoka magica gave me trust issues man #i was having flashbacks #but anyway more towards the topic i was very ready for souta to be a jerk #and it's really too bad he wasnt because i did not need another fictional crush

[dirtytransmasc]

... she never made an effort... she only ever furthered herself from her siblings... she only made herself look like a threat, having it made clear viserys would always favor her, protecting her lies at the risk of others, after abandoning her mother when she needed her most, and used and lied to her, hurting her more than she already was from Viserys, for her own benefit (not to mention her manipulative father buried those thoughts deep in her mind while she was still a CHILD herself)... she had every reason to "hate" (fear) Rhaenyra and in her attempts to protect her children, extend that fear/hatred to them. even then, outside of Aemond (justifiably, considering she felt entitled to his eye and wanted to have him tortured) none of them even really hated her until the dance, at the very most, they felt resentful because their father loved her 10x more than he loved all 4 (including Daeron) of them combined, and at the very least, they felt nothing as she was never there, never mattered to their lives outside of court and politics.

this take is shit. Rhaenyra never cared. she never wanted her siblings in her life. she felt entitled to Aemond's eye, and you want to tell me she gave a shit, not even enough to spare her 10 year old brother, over an insult?

(and before you bring up her call for her siblings to come bend the knee, we know how she can kiss up and lie through her teeth in times of need, her words hold little backing. see it as truth if you want, but I can't trust it, not with how she's acted previously.)

#stop putting it on the used abused and abandoned women who had no reason to trust Rhaenyra after everything she put her through #to form a relationship between Rhaenyra and her kids #stop blaming her for the fact Rhaenyra wasn't someone she could trust #stop acting like Rhaenyra was some saint that would have wanted a relationship with her siblings because she never tried #she never gave a shit #she was a threat. active or not. she would have out those kids at risk #her or daemon #or some other factor like a betrothal #dear god #those kids had enough reason on their own to not like her #stop blaming alicent for trying to fucking survive #alicent hightower #pro team green #anti team black #anti team black fans #aegon ii targaryen #aegon targaryen #aemond targaryen #helaena targaryen #daeron targaryen #rhaenyra targaryen #hotd #house of the dragon

[canisalbus]

As a survivor of abuse I relate to Machete so much. I've always felt unclean for no reason except being told I was unclean, and it made me feel worthless or revolting by default. Like, no matter what I did I would be filthy and unpleasant to be around.

Seeing that he can be loved, makes me feel like maybe I could be loved too.

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#abuse is one of those things that can strongly warp your perception of yourself and the world around you #if you're told you're a bad person often enough (especially by someone you should be able to trust and rely on) #you start to believe it yourself #even in the absence of any proof of that being the case #sometimes you're able to view the situation objectively and come to a rational conclusion that you're not #uniquely awful/ugly/stupid/sinful/worthless #you're just a normal person and you have been brainwashed to resent yourself for your imaginary flaws #it's still really difficult to free yourself from that way of thinking once it has taken root #it's not impossible but it is a test of perseverance #in the beginning it just feels like you're lying to yourself when you make the conscious effort to fix the damage #and think of yourself more kindly #sorry that got off track #answered #anonymous

[abombihoney]

this has been rolling around in my head since we Al just fucking grabbed her face in ep 7

#i think we should let Al be more sinister he's hasn't got to be creepy enough i think #hazbin hotel #hazbin hotel spoilers #alastor #charlie #hh #my art #comic #love how ambiguous alastor motivations and goals are so much fun to guess whats rattling in his skull #anyway dont yall think it's fun how trusting charlie is of al by ep 7 #sure hope he doesn't abuse that trust :)

[hussyknee]

I'm really not a villain enjoyer. I love anti-heroes and anti-villains. But I can't see fictional evil separate from real evil. As in not that enjoying dark fiction means you condone it, but that all fiction holds up some kind of mirror to the world as it is. Killing innocent people doesn't make you an iconic lesbian girlboss it just makes you part of the mundane and stultifying black rot of the universe.

"But characters struggling with honour and goodness and the egoism of being good are so boring." Cool well some of us actually struggle with that stuff on the daily because being a good person is complicated and harder than being an edgelord.

Sure you can use fiction to explore the darkness of human nature and learn empathy, but the world doesn't actually suffer from a deficit of empathy for powerful and privileged people who do heinous stuff. You could literally kill a thousand babies in broad daylight and they'll find a way to blame your childhood trauma for it as long as you're white, cisgender, abled and attractive, and you'll be their poor little meow meow by the end of the week. Don't act like you're advocating for Quasimodo when you're just making Elon Musk hot, smart and gay.

#this is one of the reasons why #although i would kill antis in real life if i could #i also don't trust anyone who identifies as 'pro-ship' #it's just an excuse to shut down legitimate ethical questions and engaging in honest self-reflective media consumption and critique #art doesn't exist in a vacuum #it's a flat impossibility for it not to inform nor be informed by real world politics and attitudes #because that's what it means to be created by human hands #we can't even make machine learning thats not just human bias fed into an algorithm #if the way we interact with art truly didn't influence anything then there would be no value in it #just because antis have weaponized those points in the most bad faith ways possible #doesn't mean you can ignore them in good faith #anyway fandom stans villains because society loves to defend and protect abusers #it's not because you get the chance to be free and empathetic and indulge in your darkness and what not #it's just people's normal levels of attachment to shitty people with an added layer of justification for it #this blog is for boring do-gooder enjoyers only #lol #knee of huss #fandom wank #media critique #pop culture #fandom discourse

[very-uncorrect]

When they first started travelling together Tails would run off and hide somewhere whenever he was scared since he still didn't trust anyone to fully protect him and was still scared that Sonic's kindness may be temporary and that he'd abandon him at some point.

One day, after enough time has passed since Sonic took him in, he finally fully realises that Sonic has fully intended to be his guardian since about 2 seconds after they first met

Not long after a super violent thunderstorm rolls in and Tails runs to Sonic for protection, snuggling into him, hiding his face in the other's chest, whilst Sonic is trying not to vibrate in excitement because holy shit his kid finally trusts him to protect him after so long

#whilst petting him to calm him down he accidentally brushed his hand against his two tails #and before then tails was super sensitive to any touch on his tails due to how much they were injured by the people on west side #(and humself in a few situations) #but this time tails doesn't jerk back. instead he just snuggles further into them #and sonic is so goddamn giddy like he trusts me he TRUSTS ME HE TRUSTS ME!!!!!!!!! #sonic the hedgehog #miles tails prower #tails the fox #sonic and tails #tw abuse #tw child abuse #unbreakable bond #cosmic truth #they're brothers your honor #that's his kid #sonic was never gonna give up on him #it's like when the stray kitten you adopted purrs for the first time #dadnic

[medicalunprofessional]

life is wasted

#psychonauts #caligosto loboto #medical abuse cw #<-yeah i think.That covers it #nightmaretheater #so sorry if you were innocently checking my blog after the crowment and were blasted with this #i was going to do a bit of artistic censoring but.Nahhh #time on canvas : 6 hours #i had to watch some videos of a transorbital lobotomy being preformed for refference 😁 #god forbid i had my photos app open and someone looked over my shoulder and saw several screenshots #also Yes thats text from berenice. I cant be stopped #ohhh im so hungry.Chili for dinner…… #wait. i forgot my watermark #thats okay. Theyll know its me from the berenice quote /nsrs #also yeah the orbitoclast looks a bit small. its the angle. Trust me. Okay. #I dont know how to paint flowers . I….Kind of my first time.Sooorry #Sorry guys . Had to post Horrifiying Upsetting Art again. Will continue to happen #its kind of funny this barely looks like fanart #good. Cant wait for someone to stumble upon this and freak out when they realize it is indeed fanart #surprised this was. 6 hours? Looks down at my hands… Woah… #reminder: I am drawing on my phone i did not go to art school💞 #Okay time to collapse . Im really hungry #sorry . Just had to give my artists commentary

[furiousgoldfish]

I dislike the term 'trust issues' because it implies that the trust should be the default, and that the one who 'doesn't trust' is somehow morally wrong for it.

In reality, we learned very slowly and painfully where we can and can't trust. People are born with infinite and instinctual trust; as a toddler, you didn't suspect anyone, didn't doubt anyone. You couldn't. It was by repeated interactions, inflicted displeasure, disappointment, pain, betrayal, rejection, abandonment and grief that you learned to predict and mimic other people's behaviour. Your trust has remained only where it has not been broken.

For someone to fear interactions with other people, they would have to be utterly broken by what other people did to them, and how much verbal abuse and trauma they suffered. For someone to not trust others to touch them, they would have to be tortured and severely violated by human touch. People crave both interaction and touch, and for that craving to be overwritten by fear, it had to be proven unbearable and deadly to be touched and interacted with. People don't lose their trust completely for anything less.

Even when all trust is lost, it can be re-established by very slow, cautious and consistent actions. If another person took care to approach you slowly, to be very consistent with their actions, never attempted to violate you, took great care to understand and protect your comfort - after a while of confirming that they mean it, you could potentially feel safe around them. Unless this is exactly how someone approached you before, and they did it right until the point you relaxed, and then they betrayed your trust and hurt you. Sometimes, that happens too. In that case, it becomes even harder to establish trust.

But if someone wants your trust after all you've been put thru, they should earn it. They should figure out your ideal pace and your level of comfort and be respectful of your boundaries, not once or twice, but consistently. And even then, you don't owe your trust to them. You don't owe it to anybody. You do not have to risk your well being for someone else's curiosity or desires or whatever kind of intentions they have with you. You don't need to expose yourself to a potential new trauma just so someone wouldn't accuse you of having 'trust issues'. What exactly do they want to do to you that requires your blind trust? Why should anyone require trust they didn't earn?

Trust comes naturally, and is broken forcefully. If someone refuses to acknowledge that your trust was broken by force, and not by your choice, they're not the kind of person to be trusted.

#trust issues #betrayal #trust to be touched #trust to be interacted with #social anxiety #trauma and trust #getting triggered by people repeating abusive patterns #then accused its your fault you feel uncomfortable around them #like you can control where you do and don't feel comfort in your life #ugh