#gender dynamics

[alwaysbewoke]

this is why prenups are important because you have to leave her. she's not an adult. she's a child in an adult body who wants this guy to just be a walking, talking atm machine with a dick. she's clearly contributing nothing but wants him to work himself to death so that she can have a social media worthy life. this is why men need to continue asking "what does she bring to the table?" or they will find themselves in this situation.

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[femmefatalevibe]

What’s your view on toxic female friendships. I think it’s such a shame betrayal seems to be more common theme in female friendships. Men seem to have life long friends without any drama at all. Of course there are women out there with good life long friends but sadly it’s rare especially in this era we live in

xx

I think the underlying themes here are patriarchy and internalized misogyny. It can appear in blatant forms like women who sabotage each other for male attention, body/appearance/slut shame other women, or overly criticize other women's behavior and choices.

But I also believe there's a more covert patriarchal dynamic to women-women friendships vs. men-men friendships that's only recently become a prominent conversation in the public sphere/social media. As women, we're taught that it's our responsibility and culturally conditioned to perform all the emotional labor for the people in our lives – mainly men, but also other women. Men are taught and socialized with the opposite mentality.

So, I believe the dilemma comes down to this:

Female friendships exist as an outlet to unload our emotional stressors from all the men and women in our lives, so along with strict standards to be the "perfect" woman, it is easy for women to get on each other's nerves/bad side when we're all constantly emotionally exhausted and unloading onto each other. We overemphasize the emotional labor we should expect out of each other because we are conditioned to do this for the men in our lives. But, because other women aren't men, we start to resent/project onto them this anger. It's a very insidious type of internalized misogyny that I think a lot of women aren't aware of and therefore do not confront.

Then, there's the other side of the coin, where men don't really have these expectations of other men. Their friendship is based more on camaraderie through mutual interests, upbringing, lifestyles, or shared experiences (like working together, attending the same university, etc.). They don't uphold this expectation of performing emotional labor for themselves or each other. That role is reversed or the women in their lives.

Of course, I believe most men are so socially conditioned by patriarchy that they don't even realize this underlying dynamic and there are plenty of exceptions of emotionally intelligent men who desire to/actively unpack this to create more emotionally nourishing and equitable relationships in their lives, but I'm speaking in generalities for comprehension's sake.

Hope this resonates with some of you and answers your question. Bisous xx

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[worldanvil]

Ever considered worldbuilding a Matriarchy? Janet from World Anvil chats with her own mommy, archaeologist and ancient historian Professor Lin Foxhall, about matriarchies and gender dynamics, both past and imagined. Glean insights into worldbuilding families, cultures and power structures in this expert discussion!

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[humilibee]

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[blogjeepster]

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[sophia-epistemia]

There's definitely a thing that happens where, because the stereotype is that men are obsessed with sex and women uninterested, in the cases where the man genuinely isn't interested the woman who's trying to bed him just keeps repeating and trying again because she assumes he just isn't understanding. I particularly remember one time in college where it eventually escalated to the point that I was literally shouting "GO AWAY!" at this girl and she was just giggling and brushing it off and laying her hand on my arm (something that I'd repeatedly told her made me uncomfortable) because obviously I'd be into it if I understood what she was getting at.

well, yeah, that does happens to both genders. 's just ~nobody cares when it's the woman pursuing and the man uninterested

#gender #gender dynamics #sexuality #stereotypes

[grunge-samurai]

Not too sound like a self-centered, arrogant, narcissistic asshole (which, not gonna lie, I can tend to be) but I fucking HATE when I'm at a party or any other type of social gathering, and I walk past a girl that's eyeing me like candy, just for one of her friends to tell me "hey, she said she's interested in you”.

No, she's not. She's probably already fallen in love and imagined a life together with an idealized, tender but hyper-masculinized version of me where I'm the perfect boyfriend that checks all of her boxes. I'm just human. I have my flaws. Just because I may look like a hunk doesn't mean I am or even act like one. I'm a massive nerd with niche interests that get brushed off as weird or boring by 90% of people that are too caught up on my looks. Yeah, I exercise, take good care of myself, have "traditionally masculine" skills that I like to even out with what would be considered more "feminine" ones (like cooking or sewing), but so what?

I'm only a guy trying to find his own peace of mind. Don't come into my life trying to turn me into yours.

I feel for every woman that has to suffer from the same kind of shit from low self-steem guys with mommy issues that think they need a female figure to save them because they're too chicken shit to work on themselves and their issues.

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[howifeltabouthim]

' . . . a man at my age does not like to be denied.' 'What man likes to be denied anything by a woman at any age? A woman who denies anything is called cruel at once,—even though it be her very soul.'

Anthony Trollope, from Phineas Finn

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[healthyhabitjournal]

Dive into the elusive mystique of Jordan Baker in The Great Gatsby through our latest article! Uncover the layers behind this iconic character and see how she symbolizes the complexities of the 1920s America. Don't miss out on a fascinating exploration of gender dynamics, independence, and the quest for happiness. Spark your curiosity and join the conversation on Fitzgerald's masterpiece.

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[alwaysbewoke]

the reason why she thought people will celebrate this instead of holding her accountable is because it's what we usually do. just go look at the replies. this woman hung around this young man before he was "of age," waited until he became legal, and started a relationship with him. if a grown man of this particular age had done the exact same thing to a young woman, there would be no one in your comment talking about "two consenting adults." we have always given women a pass on this behavior, hence why she was totally logical to believe that she would also get a pass. we do not value or try to protect young men the way we try to protect young women. we are just fine with them being preyed upon by women. and some even celebrated.

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[femmefatalevibe]

Hey there! Absolutely adore your blog. Anyways, wanted to ask how to heal myself enough to be comfortable around men? I realised I get very nervous around men and my body still doesn’t trust them recently. I thought I had made progress and was maybe open for relationships and stuff but being around a new guy automatically makes me flighty. I just don’t know how to overcome it

Hi love! Thank you so much <3

Honestly, there's probably a good reason (or a few) for you to have this unease around men, so validate that these uncomfortable emotions are coming from an informed place.

I believe the key here is to stop focusing on "men" as a monolith and focus on fine-tuning your misogyny radar. Be open to letting men show you who they are and take their words/actions seriously-–whether that be positive or negative in that specific circumstance.

Don't anticipate, evaluate.

Hope this helps xx

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[as-rethinking-norms]

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[fictionophile]

"So Late In The Day" by Claire Keegan - Book Review #NovNov23 #novellas @groveatlantic @CKeeganFiction #SoLateInTheDay #BookReview

Three stories that really pack a punch! “So Late In The Day” – The title story tells the story of Cathal, an Irishman who has misogyny bred in his very bones. He becomes engaged to a woman but his true nature rises its ugly head in time for her to leave him shortly before they were to be wed. There was one powerful scene in this story that I will never forget. It involved Cathal and his family…

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[dc-probate-attorney]

Marriage and Gender Roles - Keeping Tradition Alive in Modern Times

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[babys-nsfw-thoughts]

We really need to talk about how good balls are more bc like,,,, mouth stuffed full, nose pressed into their pubes, cock resting on your face,,, the picture of cute, dumb submission,,, you’re not gonna make them cum with any of your licking and sucking but it makes them feel good and it makes you look like a desperate slut,,,, them forcing your head into them, nose filling with their musk, head spinning,,, I’m just a bonus to your jerk off session <333

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[crybabyzine-subtext]

Crybaby Book Club: My Body by Emily Ratajkowski

Hello friends! I am a professional eating disorder therapist who used to work in a treatment center and now works in private practice. I miss running groups and having discussions about body image, gender, and emotions. I want to create resources for people (especially marginalized and vulnerable people, like teens, queers, and queer teens) to explore their thoughts and feelings about body image. I just finished reading My Body by Emily Ratajkowski and have created a set of journal prompts/emotion exploration guide for one of my teenage clients. I figured some other people could use it as well.

Send any feedback or thoughts my way, and please feel free to pass it along if you think it is helpful!

Disclaimer: this is intended to be inclusive reading guide for anyone. However, YOU may come up with some really interesting questions or notice something I didn't. That's great! Add whatever you like to your own exploration on body image--there are no rules.

SECTION 1: Questions for Journaling/Discussion/Introspection

Chapter 1 - Beauty Lessons: Emily gives us a list of moments that shaped how she thought about her own beauty and its value in her family, at school, and in the world at large. What lessons about beauty have you received? To what extent do you (and/or others) value beauty in your appearance?

Chapter 3 - My Son, Sun: Emily writes about trying to act like she imagines she is "supposed to" throughout her relationship with Owen. She continues to engage with him after he has assaulted her, and is unwilling to confront what happened to her. Why might trauma victims distance themselves from acknowledging the reality of their experience? How are you expected to behave in intimate relationships? How are you expected to behave with boys?

Chapter 2 - Blurred Lines: Emily gets her big break in the "Blurred Lines" music video. At the time, she considers the experience empowering: she has a female director in charge and has a lot of freedom compared to the modeling gigs she is used to. It isn't until years later that she remembers Robin Thicke grabbing her breasts on set. She then reflects on the lack of power she had to speak up for herself against a more powerful man. Have there been times when you did not have the power to speak up without facing negative consequences? How did you feel at the time? [See Exhibit A below: video is obvs NSFW.]

Chapter 4 - Toxic: This chapter focuses on two girls Emily looks up to as a young woman--Britney Spears and her friend Sadie. She idolizes and compares herself to both of them, but doesn't know what their day-to-day struggles look like. Who are the larger-than-life-idols that you look up to? What about your real-life idols? What do you admire about them? [See Exhibit B below: Britney's statement regarding her conservatorship.]

Chapter 5 - Bc Hello Halle Berry: Emily writes about the conflict that comes with beauty. She has learned can use her looks and fame to her advantage in a capitalist system, and feels powerful and validated when posts go viral. How much do you feel like you can use your looks as leverage in a capitalist system? What do you use your appearance/looks/body to get? To what extent do you feel that if you looked better/prettier/hotter that things would be better for you? [See Exhibit C below: Hannah Black's, "My Bodies."]

Chapter 6 - K-Spa: Emily writes of feeling disconnected from her body, of seeing it as a tool, a thing she expects to function on its own. At the K-Spa, unlike in her work, no one is assessing her appearance in any way. In what ways has your appearance been assessed and evaluated? What makes you feel connected/disconnected from your body? How comfortable are you with being naked (alone or with others?)

Chapter 6 - The Woozies: One of the themes in this chapter is how the home environment (i.e., growing up in a house with no walls) influenced the relationships in her family. How do you think your home environment (architecture, layout, schedules) affects the relationships in your family? Is privacy available or encouraged in your home?

Chapter 7 - Transactions: Emily's valuable hotness gives her access to exclusive events that she could never afford on her own. She says that although she was paid in money and access, there was always a cost, usually in her autonomy. She notes how other women choose to use their looks and sexuality to gain favors and acceptance from powerful men, and compromises that they may have to make. Young, female sexuality has a monetary value in society. How do you/would you feel about using it to your advantage? How comfortable are you with appearing sexual? [See Exhibit D below: the clear baby grand piano referenced at the end of this chapter.]

Chapter 8 - Buying Myself Back: This chapter is about a series of pictures of Emily and who owns her image. How do you try to present yourself in photos or on social media? How much control do you have/have you had over how your image is used? What feelings do you have about having your photo taken and/or shared? Who has access to your image? [See Exhibit E below for the images in question.]

Chapter 9 - Pamela: This chapter reflects on how Emily is supposed to behave at Hollywood events and the social respect afforded former sex symbols. Have there been times you have noticed attractive people being devalued or mocked? Have there been times you wanted to speak up and defend someone who was being mocked? Why do you think it is socially acceptable make fun of people (even hot people), even if they have been mistreated?

Chapter 10 - Men Like You: Emily writes about learning how to use her body to gain attention and opportunities from powerful men. She writes about the invisible work she is doing to seem interesting, worthwhile, valuable, and "to present myself as more than just a body" to men in power. What are the costs to relying on male approval of your body? The chapter begins with an offer to promote her work, focusing on empowerment and flattery. How do people change their behavior toward you when they want something from you? How do boys/men treat you when they want something from you?

Chapter 11 - Releases: Our bodies store the tension and emotions we have been unable to express, sometimes surfacing much later. Anger, especially seems to be something that young women are not taught to express. How comfortable are you with voicing your anger/discomfort/rage? How do you get your anger out? Why do you think society is more comfortable with male anger than female anger?

♡ EXTRA CONTENT + EXTRACURRICULAR STUDY ♡

Exhibit A: The unrated "Blurred Lines"music video. If you've seen it before, I recommend watching it without the sound and just observing the performances. (If you're conflicted about clicking, know that Robin Thicke got sued for copyright infringement, and now has to share songwriting credit with Marvin Gaye.) It's got 79 million views and broke the internet when it was released in 2013.

What behavior do you notice in the video? How are the male musicians treating the female models? What moments stand out to you and why? What message(s) do you think this video sends about gender roles? What part do you think Emily played in the video's success?

EXHIBIT B: Britney Spears' Full Statement Against Conservatorship

In her own words, Britney detailed her experience under the conservatorship. Honestly, you can read more coherent, laid out accounts about why the conservatorship was abusive, but I think her statement hits harder. She finally got a chance to speak, and this is what she said.

We now know that Britney Spears had very little control in her life and was being abused and controlled by the terms of the conservatorship agreement. At the same time, she was working and being positioned as an empowering comeback story following her mental health breakdown. While it can be helpful to look up to celebrities and other idols, it's important to remember that we never have the full picture of what their daily lives are actually like. Even while she was perceived as rich, famous and beautiful, Britney had almost no control in her life. What problems can beauty, money, and fame NOT solve? What problems can they create?

Exhibit C: Hannah Black's My Bodies, 2014

I think it's pretty difficult to listen to, but I wanted to include it since Emily gives it a shout out. Interesting isolation of two words you hear in a lot of songs. Try and see if you can recognize what songs are used in this piece.

Exhibit D: The clear baby grand piano that Miranda Kerr received as a fraudulent gift that was too big to repossess. It's magnificent. I'm not even sure if she plays piano.

Exhibit E: A series of images of Emily discussed in the chapter "Buying Myself Back."

The Instagram post Emily was sued over.

Emily poses in front of the Richard Prince "painting," while promoting it as an NFT.

The cover of one of Jonathan Leder's books. He's gross. It's gross that he includes her name like she's a coauthor. This is the only image of his I'm going to include, and you should understand exactly what kind of art he is releasing, without Emily's consent or permission.

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