Thoughts on Barbie as someone transmasc btw. If you even care
Seeing some of the reception about Barbie as someone transmasc is a bit isolating and I wish more people who were transmasc were speaking on it. 100% understand the whole “womanhood experience” that a lot of people are saying about being represented in Barbie but I wish cis women understood that its not exclusive to them. Afab trans people relate to a lot of what is being discussed in the film because of how we were socialized and how unfortunately we get perceived as women. I don’t think it’s fair to label the film as strictly a womanhood experience because I’m not a woman. It’s frustrating because I relate to so much of the movie but then I feel isolated since a lot of people talking about it are saying how it’s about womanhood. And like I said I 100% get it because a lot of women experience what’s being discussed in that film of course. But I wish transmasc and afab nonbinary people were included more in the discussion of the film.
With how people keep saying what’s being described is a woman experience, it makes me want to denounce what I’ve been through because saying I relate makes people see me as a woman. And I don’t want to be seen as a woman. But I can’t denounce those experiences because it’s shit I’ve gone through.
And honestly that’s something I’ve struggled with in my gender journey. A lot of my experiences have been tied to being afab because of how men treat me so there’s been a part of me resistant to stop identifying in feminine terms because that trauma and treatment is apart of me. The trauma I speak on often resonates with women, so I feel like I have a connection to womanhood in that way (which makes me feel invalid about being trans but that’s a whole other can of shit)
I’ve gone through the idea of having to be perfect. Of being criticized no matter how I exist. Of mistreatment from men. Of sexualization and objectification from men. Of being underestimated. Of double standards. This is the reality for afab people. Not just women. And I guess I wish that was being said more.
Ultimately I’m glad so many women are finding joy and happiness in this movie. I really am. I just wish afab people who aren’t women were included more in the conversation in a way where we’re not seen as a women yet still have our experience represented
I am now certain that the writers of BG3 view some particular relationships in the game as between adults and the shadier aspects of it as k*nky and not as nefarious as tumblr interpreted them. (The only caveat I will say is that Larian clearly did not do due diligence when putting a black man in this dynamic.)
I think I will stop messing with people who want to view some of the interesting relationships in the game as victimizing because I have enough ammo to be certain that that was not the writers' intent. If stories of victimization resonate with people, then they can go over there and explore it as they wish.
But I am now certain, without a doubt, and not ever going to second guess my interpretation that the male companions of the game were written from the perspective of those characters being a stereotypical man. Some men, grown men, like being told what to do. And the game has no lacking of commanding women. And I've interacted with enough of these types of dudes to know 'em when I see 'em.
Some people like toxic yuri. While others like men on their knees.
I've been seeing a disturbing number of "queer safe spaces" describe themselves as things like "femme & them" and even worse "she+," conflating femininity & nonbinaryhood. cease this immediately. say it with me: nonbinary people are NOT women-lite and it is extremely violent and straight up incorrect to imply that all they/thems are fem adjacent. this is erasure and this verbiage does nothing but make gnc and nonbinary spaces unsafe for masc and male nonbinary people. nonbinary, genderqueer and other third gender people can be and are masculine and men, we can be hes as well as shes and theys, stop allowing yourself and your peers to view nonbinary as woman/femme-lite, signed a butch nonbinary person.