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currantlee · 4 months

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The A in LGBTQAI+ does not stand for ally. Yeah, allies are cool and all, but the A isn’t for them. The A is for all lovely aros and aces who are just as queer as I am.

#Aphobes fuck off #Exclusionists fuck off #Aros welcome!#Aces welcome!#Aromantics and asexuals are queer #Yes; the cishet aros as well #LGBTQAI+#Queer #Aromantic #Asexual #Aro #Ace #Aphobia #Exclusionism #Lesbian Lady here #Currantlee here

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lovesick-ritz · 1 year

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We don't talk about platonic marriages enough

I am bisexual. My partner is aroace. We are in a queerplatonic relationship. We have been together for around 4 years and got engaged a little over 2 years ago. We don't do romantic things (we do sometimes, but not usually.) and we don't do sexual things. There's no romance, but we love each other. It is 100% platonic.

But I ALWAYS feel the need to clarify this with people we meet that, it's not "oh haha we were best friends for so long we just decided to get married teehee"

NO

It's still love. We live for each other. We would die for each other. We are attached at the hip. We are each others most important thing in the entire world. Just because we don't kiss or have sex doesn't mean it's not love.

I LOVE my fiance in ways words can't explain. And they love me just the same.

Just because it's not romantic doesn't make it any less of a relationship.

Just because it's not sexual doesn't make us any less engaged.

I am going to marry my fiance, my best friend, the love of my life, and I need people to know that it's not because we couldn't find anyone else. It's not because we said we would if we were still single at X years old. It's not a trend or a phase or anything like that.

I'm going to marry them because I LOVE them.

@novelcain <3

(update since this is gaining traction again: we're married now!! :D)

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i-like-the-eyes · 10 months

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Another pic from your favourite nightmare at pride😎🏳️‍🌈

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Update from another pride🏳️‍🌈

#the corinthian #the corinthian cosplay #sandman #pride #lgbtqai+#lgbt #nonbinary #gay nightmare #nonbinary nightmare #let me eat your eyes!#trans rights are human rights #i support my queer siblings!#you're safe with me #straight as a circle

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squishymain · 1 month

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Overwatch Venture Nonbinary flag icons

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sonnae · 11 months

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vortigaunt pride mural!!

#vortigaunt #half life #hl2 #vortigaunt oc #vortigaunts #pride #lgbtqai+#i know it looks off shush

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thenightling · 3 months

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Demisexual and Queer language

There's been some heated "debate" about the word demisexual and if it is necessary.

I admit there are certain words I don't really think are necessary but I sort of like the sound of, like Pansexual.

First, to be clear, Bisexual didn't originally mean "excluding nonbinary and trans." It wasn't a strict attraction to the binary. It wasn't transphobic or nonbinary-phobic. And most self-identified bisexuals, even now, do NOT heed these newly added restrictions.

Bisexual was a third option when, once upon a time, there were only two options.

Late into the 90s (and even now) there are still some gay folk who think bisexuality is a myth and you have to be attracted to one or the other, men or women, but cannot be potentially attracted to all genders / either gender.

For a lot of bisexuals the term means attraction to your own gender and all other genders. And that's what the "bi" actually means. I only like the term pansexual because of its connection to the Greek Pan.

There was even the weird stigma and notion that bisexual meant you were horny for everyone. Into the 2000s you saw this in pop culture even with beloved characters like Jack Harkness in Doctor Who and as recently as the AMC Interview with The Vampire TV show version of Lestat, where bisexual felt like code for "Horny for everything" and even physically abusive and dominating. Odd that the 90s movie depiction of Lestat felt less... negative-stereotype-y.

Anyway, for a lot of older Queer folk "bisexual" was still a new term as recently as the 90s. When David Bowie came out as bisexual in 1972 a reporter mistakenly took that to mean he had the sex organs of a man and a woman. (Source: the 1993 book "Bowie: In his own words.")

Bowie was so stigmatized by America's obsession with him being bisexual that he walked back into the closet until the mid-2000s when he came back out and admitted he had only gone back into the closet because he was sick of American reporters asking him about it. And he admitted it felt like no other country did that, just America.

And when Vincent Price's daughter found out that her father had been bisexual she ran to Roddy McDowall and confronted him by asking "Why didn't you tell me my father was bisexual?" and Roddy responded with "We didn't know the word. How can you deny something when you don't know the word?"

Based on Roddy McDowall's response about Vincent Price, there are probably a lot of older and historic Queer folk who were actually bisexual but the moment they had any same-sex attraction the title of "homosexual" was pinned to them.

Language evolves for a reason. The acceptance of the idea that someone could be attracted to more than one gender is why we have the word bisexual. Demisexual has always existed, we just didn't have a term for it. Yes, there are a lot of new terms in the LGBTQAI+ spectrum. And change can be scary. This is why a lot of folk have started to positively use the term Queer, to keep things simple while also taking back a word some used to slur-like capacity. The 1963 novel The Man who fell to Earth by Walter Tevis had a line "He walked like a queer." and in the 1970s that line was changed to "He walked like a homosexual." I half-imagine that if Walter Tevis was still alive he would acknowledge the character Nathan Bryce's internalized homophobia (the character whose internal monologue uses the description) or drop the description entirely but it is interesting to note that the original wording would be more accepted today than back in 1963 when it was first published.

#Demisexual #Bisexual #Pansexual #Queer #LGBTQAI+#LGBTQ #LGBT

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dirtyvirgotarot · 3 months

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PICK-A-CARD: Healing Words For YOU!

I return with more PACs!! This one includes some healing messages and advice. This one speaks inwards, towards your shadow self, or inner child! Whether it's words that may bring you peace, or advice on how to soothe your heart and mind, this is the PAC for you! Choose one or more of these healing stones, and let spirit kiss your boo-boos better! ~~~~~~~~~ Pile 1 (Rose Quartz): Pile 1, you may be mourning the loss of a lover or friends. You may feel like you were not enough for them, or that you have a hard time making new ones. Your self-confidence has taken a blow, but the worst thing you could do is to step back. Manifestation for you is at it's strongest! Don't stop your feelings from letting you go out and have fun. Sometimes, you need to get a little uncomfortable to find something or someone new! Now is the time to put yourself out there, and continue being you. Now is the time to manifest, but you must meet your manifestations in the middle! Sitting around on your booty isn't going to make it happen. Your social life will not just fall into your lap! Take what inspires you, and run with it. believe in yourself. The universe does, and so do I! Manifest. Embrace your energetic side, be the life of the party, and see what happens! Even if 'life of the party' means you dancing with your drink in the corner! Be you, and the right people will gravitate to you like a moth to a flame! 💃 I manifest my life the way I want it to be. Success, abundance and happiness come naturally to me. ~~~~~~~~ Pile 2 (Amethyst): You feel as if something might be wrong, Pile 2. You sense something is off or amiss. You may have been feeling antsy, or anxious for seemingly no reason. You are being called to heed your own inner guidance. Listen to your intuition at this time. Be kind to yourself, nurture your instincts and feelings. Don't call yourself a worrywart. You're not overreacting, and you're not picking up bad signals where you shouldn't be. Listen to your gut, and act on it. If there's nothing physically around you causing these bouts of anxiety and worry, what possibly could be? Reflect using intuition, and if you need to, seek help from a mental health professional. You also may have emotions or feelings that you have been holding in. If you have a person you want to confess feelings to, and if you feel like there might be something mutual between you and this person in your gut, go for it. Don't be afraid! You've been through some rough times, and people may have treated you awfully, even abusively. Listen to your feelings, and nurture them! Honor yourself, Pile 2. You aren't a burden. Your feelings matter. 💗 I am open and aware of messages coming to me, and I trust that they will guide me on my path. ~~~~~~~~ Pile 3 (Moonstone): Pile 3, you are being called to honor your inner child. Honor love, loyalty and all things tender. Open your arms and your heart, it is safe to do so at this time! Even if a situation may typically have you skittish, cautious or even something like being barred by tradition, if you feel the call, let it all go. Gravitate towards what feels right, despite your worries. Use your intuition, of course, and it is more than perfectly okay to be shy, but if your heart truly wants something, seize it! You got this! Embrace every new opportunity with a childlike excitement! You are particularly strong in your intuition. Your connection between you and your inner child may be stronger than most. Now is the time to get together and do things with others. Call a friend you haven't talked to in a while, bake your loved ones some cookies! Embrace nostalgia and sensitivity, even better if it's with someone you love. Hug and nurture your inner child! Don't be afraid to be vulnerable. Laugh, cry, kiss, hug, make love, do what your heart calls for you to do. 🫂 I honor my inner child and feed it all it needs to stay happy, healthy, young and free at heart. ~~~~~~~~ Pile 4 (Topaz):

Pile 4, you are called to work on your shadow self. You feel like you are crumbling over the weight of your worries, your past. Bitterness, resentment, sadness, grudges, everything. You are having trouble going on with life, you feel as if you are not in control, and can't gain control unless you use force, whether that be with words or actions. You feel as though you can't make sense of the chaos, but that may be because you have been holding off on unpacking your past, or your trauma. You are putting it off out of fear, or unpleasant feelings. You know you won't like what you see, but it is necessary to move forwards and heal. Question your belief systems along the way. What's holding you back? What has created your current situation? It is time to be personally accountable for things you may have done to inflict pain upon others during your own moment of pain. You are more in control than you think, and to help you hone that, do shadow work as well as seeking help from a professional. It's time to stop being miserable. You can take those first steps to healing your shadow self. Things will get better, I promise. 🦋 I only hold positive thoughts. My actions are of pure intent. ~~~~~~~~ I hope these messages were helpful for you all! Please stay strong, and know that you are amazing!! -DV 💜💚

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den-stims · 6 months

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Autosexual Stimboard!! 🩵🩶

Made for myself because im autosexual & we deserve more representation 🩵🩶

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yeltsinsstar · 1 year

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Anti-trans activist Posie Parker escorted out of Auckland rally, hit by soup

I am so proud of where our country is headed, despite the efforts of the terfs & fascists. Kia kaha & much aroha to our lgbtqai+ community.

#new zealand #nz #aotearoa #auckland #lgbtqai+#trans rights #trans rights are human rights #antifa #trans lives matter #free speech not hate speech #anti-terf #terf = fascist

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dontfuckmylifewtf · 9 months

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To all the cunts who push people into boxes or exclude others in our community, have a happy fuck off.

#lgbtq+#lgbtqai #bisexual #transgender #homosexual #lgbtqai+#pansexual #aromantic #neogender #neopronouns

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demi-raven · 8 months

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Yep, writing this post got me blocked. The infighting needs to stop, this is ridiculous.

Tumblr is where we remind each other that we're valid, not where we pick and choose which microlabels we will reject as invalid because they seem contradictory to us. So sick of queers excluding other queers for being the wrong kind of queer. 😠

I'm not even sure how this very specific hatred starts. Do they have a sapphic club and one amab nonbinary lesbian decided to join it and now they want a PC way to kick her out? It's bullshit. (Reminder - you don't have to date that person, it's always up to you who you date or who you're friends with. But telling her she's not allowed to be a lesbian is BULLSHIT.)

#mspec #mogai #lgbtqai+#lgbtq+#queer pride #you are valid #inclusion #infighting #cw transphobes #mspec lesbian #nonbinary lesbian #he him lesbian

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gay-ppl-real · 1 month

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Inside me there are two wolves...

One wants more gay characters and for people to acknowledge gay characters (and real life people & historical figures) as gay rather than hiding behind "they're just really good friends"

The other wants people to stop insisting "best friends can't love each other like that," and "they love each other too much to be best friends," in response to people like the above and also queercoding and also any depiction of a loving friendship ever

... they are both sad.

#innisthoughts #asexual #aromantic #lgbtqai+#queer

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answersfromzestual · 2 months

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Can I have top surgery and be overweight? The Truth.

I am here to clear things about being overweight and top surgery (aka double mastectomy).

Can I have chest surgery if I am overweight? Blanket answer, yes you can.

HOWEVER, let's talk about some things first.

As soon as we peek under my blanket statement, most doctors will not want to touch you if you are too far outside their BMI index. Sounds like a preference, right? I mean, true, but they are a business and, like any other business, can refuse service for any reason. Especially when your life is in their hands.

The BMI index is followed to a degree by most plastic surgerons. This index is not to body shame you in this case. It is strictly for medical reasons. There are many medical reasons to refuse the surgery.

As you lay flat on your back, your own weight presses on your lungs and heart. This can actually cause damage your heart and lungs and also restrict your breathing even further.

Anesthesia issues are a lot deeper than most people realize. It is not just a harmless gas to keep you asleep. Anesthesia is poisonous to us, and it does more harm to your body the longer you are under its direct effect. Also, the more you weigh, the more they have to use. The best anesthesiologists in the world probably would have a hard time with this, especially depending on how long you can potentially be under. The more you weigh means more tissue they need to work with and extra time can mean complications not only while under the drug but can cause many complications after the procedure is done, and even when you wake up. Issues include headaches/migranes, intense nausea, vertigo like symptoms, having a hard time passing urine, lack of gross and fine motor functions, brain functions, paralysis, coma, and death.

Blood flow issues for people who are overweight are a real risk. The skin has stretched over time , and more skin, along with viable tissue, is thinner, with less of a blood supply being delivered to the skin and tissues itself.

Being overweight also means your skin is stretched and no longer has the same elasticity as if you were not overweight. This thin skin is easy to pull apart/tear.

Time in the operating room, more is not better. The longer you are being operated on, the more complications can occur during the procedure and during the healing process. (This is also a general risk)

Upping complications means more likely needing revisions. Plastic surgerons take this into consideration for your health. Insurance probably won't shell out for the same operation twice because of the views on transitioning lead to a lot of "this is just cosmetic."

Diabetes exponentially increases risk of infection and potential necrosis and gangrene (death of tissue).

You are a living canvas for the plastic surgeron(s), your results reflect highly on them. They want the best results for you, but they also have a reputation to upkeep.

If the surgeon gives a condition they consider reasonable and the patient does not produce results near their actual target BMI, which tends to be more liberal than the numbers that are thrown around, the surgeon can question the patients ability to be able to take care of themselves and adhere to the strict rules given for post operative care. A surgeon can also think "does this person want it bad enough if they can't do this request?". They may not say that out loud, but they may think it.

The heavier you are, the harder it is on your body to heal because the extra work your body needs to do to do daily tasks, let alone extra tasks yet also rest.

You do not realize how much and how often you use your chest muscles. Getting out of bed without being able to lift yourself up is really a thing. Using those muscles in some cases can cause rips and tears of stitches, tissues, and muscles.

Surgeons will give you realistic, cis-like results with your chest, this may mean you will not have a flat chest, they may perform more of a reduction than a double mastectomy. Surgeons will make your chest look proportional to your body, hence another surgery if you do lose weight.

Do they want you to have bad results? This is a physical correction to make a positive mental impact if you have bad results post-op. This may not really fulfill the function of procedures purpose to help you like your body.

Doctors want to know you want this surgery, so if they give you a time frame and you don't meet their goals, that's fair. You may have seen your day to day but the surgeron didn't and doesn't care. To them, you didn't meet their goals/ requirements. No surgeon wants to lose their job, role, or status.

Surgeons only want what's best for your health. It's not a shaming conspiracy, it's literally just biology.

Waiting sucks, we know. But what sucks more is that having bad results, you will have forever and potentially risking your life.

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Anesthesia 1

Anesthesia 2

Anesthesia 3

Anesthesia and Obesity

Surgery 1

Surgery 2

Post Op Risk

Minimal use of being overweight during a procedure personal experience.

P.s: I tried to use respectful and professional terms and wording. If anything is offensive, please let me know in my ask box, and I will fix it.

Stay Safe

Stay Golden Everyone ✌️ 💙 💜

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i-like-the-eyes · 8 months

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Nightmare at Pride again🏳️‍🌈

#the corinthian #the sandman #the corinthian cosplay #corinthian #gay nightmare #pridemare #lgbt #lgbtqai+#queer #straight as a circle #nightmare at pride #proud nightmare

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dianneking · 10 months

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Setting up for more Pride shenanigans!

I’m going to another pride parade next Saturday! And apparently the group I’ll be hanging out with will be composed by the following:

- my long-suffering, much loved partner, bless their soul, who dislikes crowds and heat and still makes a valiant effort every year.

- my ex, who after ten years (!) has apparently buried the war hatchet (or the guilt, since she was the one dumping me - on the eve of our anniversary btw not that I am still bitter about the dinner reservation I had made) and is now able to talk to me without sulking. Incidentally she has now been on several friendly nights out with my partner since they live in the same city and have common friends.

- our good friend who's been dumped by her girlfriend of nine years (that she was desperately in love with) because said girlfriend was "still not sure - she might like men, after all" - said girlfriend then proceeded to go on a streak of several failed and potentially toxic relationship with men while the friend is still somewhat grieving. We hope to find her some decent human being at pride.

- the students of the milf professor I kissed at the previous pride, who apparently can still look me in the face after that (people are surprising sometimes)

- my straight communist milf friend, who's going to loudly complain about rainbow capitalism, give away condoms and spit at cops and who's friends with every single bear in the parade (I don't know how she does that, there's a lot of them, but she know them all by name and they all squeal when they see her)

- her even straighter brother (the one person who's single-handedly making me believe that there might be some hope for cishet men), who still insists to dress like a lesbian and sees no harm in it. He usually gets adopted by a pack of sapphics by the end of the parade.

- my beloved 65yo auntie with rainbow colored hair, and whichever of her variety of lovers of any and all genders she decides to bring along for the ride

- (potentially) my musical theater actor twink friend whose love for drag queens might trump the discomfort coming from the fact that most of the masc crowd (and part of the femme) is made up of people he hooked up with and then left due to his fear of commitment. I feel like I am in a weird queer dnd campaign and I am LIVING for it.

#dianneking writes #Pride shenanigans #I love my friends #pride #pride 2023 #queer #queer fam #lgbtq #lgbtqai #lgbtqai+#queer community

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digital-magus · 1 year

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Happy Asexual Awareness Day to those who celibate.

#ace #ace pride #asexual #lgbtqai+#lgbtq #asexual awareness day

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