#they just make me feel impowered

[lilybug-02]

When I see confident women 💕

#y’all I love women #in a non gay way uwu #they just make me feel impowered #okay…..I may be watching Legally Blonde for the fist time and now I’m going on a full on Barbie Girl Boss Binge

[angelltheninth]

I wonder how neuvillette acts in heat because he is s dragon

Well let me see if I can figure it out for you.

Pairing: Neuvillette x Fem!Reader

Tags: nsfw, smut, kissing, mating mark, biting, tail use, growling, mating press, begging, pregnancy mention, semi-public sex

A/N: I feel like a werewolf during a full moon around this man, I just... want him you know? Feraly.

It's important to remember that even with hormones coursing through his system he will still try to perform his duties first and have pleasure second

Trying to get him to take a week off won't work

You will be getting fucked every night though, all the way till morning so your own sleeping schedule will be a little messed up when Neuvillette is in heat

During his heat he does get hard at random times because even at work he is thinking about how good your warm pussy would feel around his dick

When it gets to be too much he will ask you to take the edge of him

You have to swallow, he can't make a mess of his desk

It pains him greatly to see his cum go down your throat instead of your womb where it would get you pregnant with his babies but this isn't something you spoke of much so he wouldn't pressure you into it despite what his dragon instincts are telling him

Trust him if he could get away with more then a quick blowjob, if he could get away with fucking you in the courtroom he could

As it stands he can only do it in the bedroom or if he's feeling really pent up in a empty room that he found

For most of the day he will try to keep his desire for you at bay even if you're standing right next to him, honestly it's almost better for you both when he has all this pent up energy to spare

There's a lot of rain that day though, it's the only way he can make his frustrations known

One of the sure ways for him to lose control is if he catches a glimpse of the mating mark on your neck, it's a weak spot of yours that he created, and one that is also his weak spot because the moment his teeth find it he's coming, doesn't matter where, in you, on you, your hand, your back, your pussy, you will be covered in lots of cum

Not above begging you to relieve him, sure he could overpower you easily should he choose to but again, it feels better when he's pent up and you love teasing his cock when it's being so sensitive and responsive to your touch

Dragging your palm over the throbbing length, up and down, spreading all that cum from tip to his balls and watching him clenching his teeth and fists against the sheets until you hear them tear is impowering for you, having control over someone so powerful

But it's also exciting when he takes control back, his tail firm and soft and hard and gentle as it manhandles you around and puts you into any position Neuvillette wants you in

He loves the mating press of course because it's a good way to get in so deep and make sure most of his cum doesn't spill, also really easy to eat you out afterwards, your pussy is practically served up to him

Growling is a thing he discovered you like a bit too much, every time he does it your pussy milks him some more, or if he does it before he's inside he can smell you getting more horny, which makes him less able to resist breeding you when it's clear to him how much you want just that

Spreading your legs and your pussy with your fingers, showing him the emptiness you want him to fuck and fill with his cock until you can't help yourself, you finally beg him for the one thing he's been wanting to hear, you beg him to breed you

How can he ever say no when you're being so cute and sexy and your pussy so inviting, no one could resist, not even him and he won't even try

Of course he will give you what you want, what you both want

#genshin impact x reader #genshin x reader #neuvillette x reader #genshin impact imagines #genshin impact headcanons #genshin imagines #genshin headcanons #neuvillette imagines #neuvillette headcanons #genshin impact smut #genshin smut #neuvillette smut #genshin impact x female reader #genshin x female reader #genshin impact x you #genshin x you #genshin impact #neuvillette

[kovanz]

𝗖𝗢𝗖𝗞𝗪𝗔𝗥𝗠𝗜𝗡𝗚

" Please me.. "

WARNINGS : LAUNGUAGE, SEXUAL THEMES. Starring ˖ ՚ Lyney, Xiao, Wanderer, Aether. Minors dni, viewer is gn.

𝐋𝐘𝐍𝐄𝐘.

He won't shut up. Will have his fingers digging into your thighs with his chest heaving against your back. Any movement you did while focusing on your work is pushing him over the edge. He can only mutter small pleads as you ignore him further on. He will try rutting up into you but with your force you keep him in place, much to his demise. Poor lyney, doesn't know what he's in store for. If you want him to be quiet then good luck, he won't stop choking out his own pleasure. He'll feel like such a whore for being this turned on and so close just with nothing. So many things run through his head, he wants you to let him have his way but that's the reason why he's here now. He's so bratty when it comes to commands, but now that it's just the two of you the upper hand is fairly yours, as he gives into the ecstasy.

𝐗𝐈𝐀𝐎.

At first he'll be quiet, but his constant shifting tells you everything. His nails dug into his palms, afraid that touching you will worsen his burning desire. This was the first time you had tried something like this with him, having him so vulnerable. To have a Yakshha filling you up so well, even taking in this punishment for so long was impressive to say the least. The smallest whines escaped his throat now and then, proving that you were pleasing him just right for his liking, despite the show torture. Play with him a little more and he becomes a mess, his own cum spilling out into view as your back faced his eyes that could barely stay open. Tears streaming down his pretty face, all tuckered out, embrarrassed how he came with no sudden movement given from you at any time. Pray the archons they didn't hear him.

𝐖𝐀𝐍𝐃𝐄𝐑𝐄𝐑.

Oh this cocky bastard. He'll find a way to make it a torture session just to prove he wasn't weak in the moment. His left hand caressing your thigh as his right will touch your sensitive areas, playing with you. Just 'accidentally' move yourself and his whole act will surely plummet. He isn't that much of a vocal, but he'll groan into your ear as his face is pressed perfectly into your neck that you genrously desplayed to him. He just wants to feel impowered in the situation, often he'd brag that he's the one in charge. However in just one command from you behind closed doors he's at your beck and call. Feeling his cock balls deep into you with no movevent wasn't easy, oh no. He was trying to hold onto whatever humanity he had left in him, this was just a punishment. He wanted to be rewarded, to be praised. Soon he'll reach that high.

𝐀𝐄𝐓𝐇𝐄𝐑.

He loves it, so much.. He'd act like such a good boy for you despite his tear filled eyes that begged for you to let him loose. Petnames will spew out of his mouth ever so often, even through the punishment he still wants to be good for you. His left hand will run slowly up and down your bare side and his other plays with your sensitive nipple, giving kisses to your shoulder. He'll make sure you feel just as good, doing everything in his power. His whimpers don't go unnoticed either. He loves the skin on skin contact, he'll keep his hands on you forever if he could. His cock twitching deep in you almost made you want to stop and give him a treat but.. Punishments are supposed to be complete. He can last hours like this just for you, but not forever, the poor traveler can only take so much. Cum pouring out from between the two as his body slouches against the chair you had him sit on from the beginning. Such a big mess, all for you. He did it for you. Aren't you proud of him?

First post, wow.. I hope you enjoy the treat before the feast. More to come. If you wish to request go right ahead.

#Wanderer #wanderer x reader #wanderer genshin #xiao #xiao x reader #xiao genshin #lyney #lyney x reader #lyney genshin #aether #aether x reader #traveler genshin #aether genshin #genshin x reader #genshin x reader smut #smut #18+ content

[starrclown]

Ya know what would have made Losers, Baby better in my opinion? Instead if Husk downplaying Angel's abuse and SA he was telling Angel it's okay that's he's slept around and tries someone (he) would still love him.

Like do you know how much slut shaming there is in the world and most likely hell??

Like Angel makes sex his WHOLE personality.

Instead of the song about impowering you abuse and getting over it, have Husk tell him that no, just because he likes sex doenst mean that's all his is. He's more than sex, he can have a loving relationship.

Husk: "We're loser baby, that's okay with me."

Angel: "Even a coked up dick sucking ho?"

Husk: "Baby that's fine by me."

Like that feels better in a diffrent context.

(Sorry that I'm talking about this so much, it just annoys me.)

- ⭐️StarClown⭐️

#hazbin hotel critique #hazbin hotel critical #hazbin hotel criticism #hazbin hotel #hazbin hotel husk #hazbin hotel angel dust #vivziepop critical #vivziepop criticism

[hammerhead-jpg]

Srry if I'm spamming redacted nation but I gotta talk about this

It's always annoyed me how the demons are implied to either look like regular humans or just regular humans with horns, I just don't understand the decision like- the reason there are demons in the story is for the monstefuckers right??? So why do they look like humans??? Like I listened to a Goodboyaudios video for the first time yesterday and there's also a character that's a demon and just??? looks like a regular person??? Is this a trend or something???

I mean I know not every interpretation of what is called a demon is the red demon with horns and a tail but some of them have horns!!! and also incubus/ succubus are usually portrayed as demons with horns and stuff you get what I mean

That is not that much of an issue if not for the fact that you let me design a demon character but then say "but just remember!!! They have to look like regular people!!! You only get to draw horns on only like 50% of them!" AND SO I tell myself that with the characters that are implied to just look like regular humans just shapeshift/ cloak their demonic features when around unimpowered humans but THEN I can't go too far with the demonic features because then the change between their "true" form and human disguise would be too jarring so I can only go all out on characters that I know don't have a human disguise/ aren't implied to look like a regular human AND SO I get grumpy because I feel like my demon designs look too "safe" and aren't creative enough compared to other artists who don't care and go all out with their designs

SO GUESS WHAT

NEW EXPLANATION!

Demons put up a illusion ward/use illusory magic to make themselves look like regular humans to unimpowered unimformed humans but it doesn't work on impowered people and other demons so they can tell that they're demons SO YOU AREN'T GONNA FORCE ME TO DRAW THEM AS HUMAN LOOKING WHEN THEY'RE IN PUBLIC SO FROM NOW ON IDC!!! I'M GONNA GO ALL OUT!!!

Does this make complete sense? Is it cannon? NO! BUT I DON'T CARE ANYMORE!

#redacted audio #redacted asmr #redactedverse #redactedaudio #redacted demons

[transarsonist]

Different anon. I don't want to argue, I'm mainly just wondering how much thought is being put into this. It sounds accelerationist rather than... actually wanting to keep our own safe.

I know I could be reading you wrong, so that's why I specifically am not trying to argue. Instead, I'd rather share reminders of the garbage trump already got into in his first term. Potentially a refresher of what he could make even worse in a second term.

https://www.businessinsider.com/trump-biggest-accomplishments-and-failures-heading-into-2020-2019-12?op=1#failure-replacing-the-affordable-care-act-aka-obamacare-10

The two main ones from this specific article that stand out to me are about his horrific covid response and the fact that the Supreme Court is THIS bad being due to who he put in power.

If I am reading you correctly and this is an accelerationist route, please just be direct about it. Your current phrasing comes across as not actually wanting safety for other queer and disabled people. Just so long as people keep talking. I don't want to die from covid, I don't want to die from bigots feeling impowered by him getting back in. I don't want my loved ones to die either.

this isnt accelerationism, rather im noticing that biden didnt do anything signifigant to undo or harm reduce the effects of trumps presidency, then went on to allow even Greater atrocities than trump even mananged to perpetrate, im noticing that bidens voting history has indicated a greater love of money than people.

Remeber when this was a fucking option?

remember how this is a fucking option? I AM TELLING YOU. BIDEN COULD HAVE FIXED TRUMPS CRIMES

HE CHOSE NOT TO

[ruminate88]

Soul, Mind and Body:

Before the emotional abuse, I weighed 125 lbs. I dealt with 3 toxic men but only dated 2 of them. By the time I’m with Andrew, I’m up to 127 lbs. I know that isn’t a lot more weight but I stayed that way for years!! I went to the gym 3 times a week during the love bomb phase with Andrew. I felt so impowered, motivated and like I needed to impress Andrew. The energy between us was fire at that time 🔥I would Snapchat him from the gym and he would compliment me and flirt with me so hard… I didn’t lose any weight though… I was trying to eat so healthy too. I was just on a major high! I was just getting badly obsessed with Andrew though!!!! 🥺

Towards the end of the relationship with Andrew and after we break up, I’m just living on Mountain Dew really. I’ve quit the gym now. I can’t even think of that place without being overly emotional becuase that place represented when I felt my best with Andrew. For sure after we broke up, we went through a phase where he’s still flirting with me, calling me beautiful and trying to get my nudes but he claims he doesn’t want a relationship and shames and blames me for continuing to talk dirty with him. Says I make him weak and it’s all my fault he keeps coming back to “be with me”. Says I don’t respect our friendship 🤪🥴😳😭 I mean… I wore that too. I spoke up and told him “it takes two” that he’s also just as responsible which he won’t accept. It’s all me, none of him but the whole time I can’t eat ANYTHING 😝 there was so much drama and heat between us!

A couple years later, I’m now married to someone else and feel like I’m in an okay safe place where I can eat and be happy. No one blaming me for anything or working against me. So, I can eat and I still am a heavy Mountain Dew drinker!! Now I’m up to 133 lbs. the most I ever weighed!! Covid happens and the stress of covid was actually the eye opener for me to realize I was losing hair and that my stomach was all messed up! Randomly I had burning in my esophagus for weeks and I lost 25 lbs out of no where!!

No one had the answers to what was going on. I began to stop eating and of course I gave up Mountain Dew. I went from 133 lbs. down to 113 lbs. down to 106 lbs. None of my clothes would fit! I couldn’t eat hardly anything without feeling so bloated and full. I couldn’t even feel the “hunger” feeling. Everyone was worried and begging me to eat. I WANTED TO EAT!!! I just couldn’t 😭😭😭

okay… off and on my stomach would act up and I couldn’t understand it fully. I read that emotional abuse takes a toll on your nervous system and can cause various physical problems including IBS and digestive issues. One day it all clicks in my brain that your soul, mind and body are all one and if your mental is suffering, so is your body. So it’s really a mental thing caused by the emotional abuse!!!

today I’m around 102 lbs…. When I look in the mirror, I see bones and baggy clothes. 😢 I eat but I get so full so quick cuz my stomach has shrunk AND when I am full, I have to get up and walk around to help digest my food. I have to make sure I have plenty of fiber. I’m okay now. Just when I look at photos of the old me and the new me, wow… I’m sooooo skinny like sickening looking and my face has aged some for sure!!! But I’m still ok. It’s one day at a time and just keep going forward.

When I first lost the weight, I stupidly thought “oh wow I’m skinny I bet my exes wish they still had me now” 🤪🤪 that’s so delusional and messed up! My exes don’t give a care about my health 🥴😝 I have learned a very hard lesson that they’ve programmed me to seek their approval and I have to break free from that!! I HAVE to take care of myself and do it for me only. It’s sad to think I was so in love with Andrew when he does not care one ounce about if I’m okay or healthy or happy. Get it through my skull 💀 ugh 😣

#emotional abuse #my story #unpacking #healingjourney #online relationships #heartbreak #self awareness #self healing #narcissistic abuse #narcissism #mental health #health and wellness #healing from trauma #healing from abuse #toxic love #toxic relationship #toxic people #toxic boyfriend #toxic bf #toxic behavior #abusive boyfriend #manipulation tactics #manipulation #soul mind and body #real life #life lessons #betrayal trauma #trauma bonding #love bombing #cognitive dissonance

[kindaawesomebutnotreally]

I feel cringe and upsetting very often. That makes me want to apologize and go away and be sad. However, it is just too impowering to not give half a fuck and just BE. It matters so much to be able to believe myself when I say "it isn't so serious that you need to feel this badly about it"

#tumblr is my journal #anxiety can suck it #I am a cringe guy #and that's good #I will never be actually awesome #and that's not... well yeah that's still cringe #I'd rather be a cringe dragon than a cringe person

[plutoswrath]

I saw that you had an ask where someone was talking about 8th house overlays for platonic relationships and I’ve never seen anyone talk about platonic 8th house before. So I decided to talk with my sister because we actually have a mutual 8th house Mars in synastry. It was insightful as hell and we recognized a pattern because she and I have been surrounded by people with Mars in Pisces, all of which place in my sisters 8th. So we know that 8th house should make you possessive and we would always have to read 8th house synastry and try to interpret it platonically because people always sexualize it. It always talked about being obsessed with each other and being jealous and possessive. For context, my sister is the least jealous, possessive, and obsessive person I know. She has an Aquarius Mars, a lot of 10th house, and she just doesn’t ever feel that way. We both have Pluto in 5th and she only ever obsesses over her interests. BUT we noticed a pattern with every single person who’s Mars placed in her 8th and then other Pisces Mars’ who didn’t. With every 8th house overlay, she was extremely judgmental of who they surrounded themselves with. So with me, if she ever hated my friends that I would introduce to her, she would get mad that I stuck near them. But not because she was jealous, it was because she has her own dislike towards them and she lives by the ‘guilty by association’ saying. And with friends it was the same. She would zone in on who her 8th house overlay friends would hang out with and then if she didn’t approve of them, she’d ditch them. So if her friend hung out with bigoted kids who say racial slurs, sexist comments, etc. then she would immediately judge that friend. My sister said she would talk about certain people and why they weren’t good to surround yourself with and when that friend decided to conform to the bigoted friend group, she would finally cut the friendship off. We also have a mutual Mars in Pisces friend who she does the same thing with, except it’s more innocent. She will judge his friends immediately and they basically have to pass a morale/vibe check lmao. She’s very particular about certain things when it comes to people’s behavior so people rarely ever pass and it’s rather hilarious and light hearted but she will insult them if they do something dumb or are cringe in any way. For more context, my sister is a gifted ADHD Autistic kid so she can be very particular over behavior others will overlook even if they are bothered by them. My sister applies this to other people and we were excited to finally break down how our 8th house synastry and composite manifested because we always hear the worst things about it. We’ve noticed that 8th house is not for the undeveloped and when we see people trash talk it then we begin to raise our eyebrows at the ones who hate it. It may be rather mean of me to say but if people can’t handle 8th house then I think the the problem lies within the individual. My sister enjoys astrology but hates when patterns don’t line up so we basically wanted to thank you for the ask that prompted our deep dive into our 8th house that helped us finally connect and recognize the pattern. We’ve come to love 8th house synastry. On another note you can probably see our 8th house synastry just off of how much I’ve brought her up and love her lol. We have a lot of mutual respect for one another and we noticed that when she was younger she wanted everyone to know I was her sister which may be another little 8th house note. But we have a lot 10th house synastry too so it could just be that mutual respect. Sorry for the tangent but I was excited to share. I hope you’re doing well and I wish you the best.

Disclaimer: long post, continue to read under the cut!

Thank you for sharing your in depth experience and observation. As someone who has two sisters as well and is very very close to them I can understand where you’re coming from. I too share with each of them a strong 8th house synastry and they do so with me too.  I agree that 8th house snyastry doesn’t have to be about jealousy, possession and obsession in the sense that most people think. Peopl assume it’s this dramatic burst of emotions that makes you go ‘oh your are mine’, but one way it can play out is defenitely in the protectivness you get over this person. This protectivness inclines this ‘possessivness/obessesion/jealousy’ if you will. 8th house synastry, especially when placed in personal planets can make two people merge so close together, the bond they share is build on ultimate vulnerability. If something happens or threatens to destroy this bond it’s going to hurt as hell, naturally. We not only have protection of the other person and the bond you share here, but 8th house in synastry talks about merging together and sharing your inner ressources - that’s why this overlay can feel so incredibly empowering (and can become possibly addictive, not being able to cut ties, in worst case scenarios). You are so much in the other persons mind and soul (as you tend to try to figure out the other person, especially the 8th house person), that you naturally care for their well being. You fact check the new people coming in their life, because you exactly know about your friends/partner/sibling vulnerable and raw side and as we all know about the archetype Scorpio: it will sting and even poison you if you try to hurt it. 

That can definitely be one of the 8th house effect. Even if you are not possessive and jealous by nature, the 8th house synastry touches so many sensitive spots, it will awake classic Scorpionic traits in people, sucha scanning for real intentions, waiting to let ones guard down, etc. You might as well just call it serious concern if the situation calls for it that is (!!!), I have not only strong 8th house synastry with my siblings but with a lot of close friends of mine and none of us are possessive, jealous, or any of that sort, but we’re pretty much naturally very much in each others life because we want it like that. We really, really feel  the benefit of this deep bond, because it impowers us and makes us feel safe, because we’re able to and can trust and let go in front of/with the other!  And I will agree with you, 8th house synastry requires individuals who can handle it, or have Scorpio/8th house/Pluto in their own chart and know how to handle it.  I am not excusing and pushing blame on anyone who went through bad experiences here by the way, but I will state that 8th house synastry can be pretty much a blessing, but it does require the ability to either learn or to have knowledge, and the experience, as well as inner ressources on how to deal with it because it is a house that is meant to trigger. This doesn’t mean it is supposed to hurt all the time but chances are you will share very vulnerable moments of any kind with the person you have 8th house synastry with and thus leads to the intimate connection. 

Thank you again for opening this in depth conversation, and I think it’s absolutely sweet how you talk about the connection you have with your sister!! I do bring up my sibling a lot as well, they are my soulmates, so this really warms my heart!! <3 Thank you so much for the kind words as well, I hope you two are doing great as well and wish you only the best! xx

#replies #anonymous #synastry #astrology #8th house synastry #8th house #overlays #8th house overlays #8th house overlay

[fatphobiabusters]

actually, i don't really think that a fat character being in love with food is that bad? (in response to all of your posts about soos and hunk, specifically)

it's not like their eating habits are something forceful, it's not like they bodyshame themselves or are disgusted by their own eating.

don't get me wrong, i've watched gravity falls, i'm two episodes into voltron and i really see all of the points you made. the stupid or lazy stereotypes for example and i'm not here to argue with those.

but so far i get the impression that eating isn't something bad for these characters. like you said, hunk's always thinking about food and that's supposed to be some crappy kind of joke but eating seems to be something hunk genuinely enjoys. and if you genuinely enjoy eating, there's a chance you're fat. and maybe the intention of these jokes is fatphobia but there's no fatphobia itself in the show, like hunk doesn't get really insulted for being fat and therefor doesn't lose his positive attitude towards food. that's a good lesson i, as an overweight person, take from this character. (please correct me if i'm wrong, as i said, i've just watched two episodes so far.)

and soos gets insulted from characters in the show a lot, that's true but it's not like he's bothered. he doesn't mind the fatphobia in his surroundings and whether that is because he was written to be rather stupid or because he just doesn't care, it's not something to make out as bad. if little me who was teased and bullied for her weight would've seen this earlier, maybe she would've been off better.

again, feel free to disagree and i'm not here to fight or say that you're entirely wrong, that's just my view on the eating thing because as long as the love for food is genuine and not made out to be a toxic element that the characters suffer from, i don't see a real problem there.

This is probably about a older post and tbh I don't know which mod originally posted about these characters. Hopefully I can explain this:

Loving food can be a neutral character trait but it disproportionatly is applied to fat people. Because content creators think people are only fat because they eat too much. That's the crux of it.

"Like you said, hunk's always thinking about food and that's supposed to be some crappy kind of joke" but nothing that's it that's the joke. "Fatty gonna eat." The implications is that food is a source of earthly pleasure and fat people don't have any other hobbies other that food because again, content creators think you can only be fat from over eating.

"and if you genuinely enjoy eating, there's a chance you're fat." There's a chance that any body type can enjoy eating, fatness has nothing to do with it.

People should enjoy eating anyway. Being obsessed with food is not enjoying eating, is a disordered eating condition. Thinking about food 24/7 is an obsession. (IRL this can be a sign of malnutrition, dieting/starvation/caloric deficit or working in a way that requires meal planning, like chefs or a soup kitchen coordinators. I don't think even mukbang people think about food all the time.)

Why would they change Hunks character joke, it's a tried and true one after all. Even if the in universe cast don't mock Hunk doesn't mean it doesn't play into audience expectations in a negative way.

Next character:

"he doesn't mind the fatphobia in his surroundings and whether that is because he was written to be rather stupid or because he just doesn't care, it's not something to make out as bad" if a character is being bullied and harassed and doesn't call it out its still bad? Even if he doesn't get on a soap box and have a speech he needs to have friends checking up on him, defending him. Especially on a children's show. I have no idea if this ever happens (I haven't watched it all) but bullying a character and showing that character and his friends putting up with it isn't great. Little you deserved to feel impowered by a fat character saying "fuck off" to bullies, not someone putting up with it.

If he's supposed to be "dull witted" and can't realize he's being bullied I just....the fuck? I mean "fat people are stupid" is a stereotype, so, yikes.

You know, I'd hate to bring this series up but you know enjoys eating? Like in a healthy way? The family in Blue Bloods. I catch parts of it because my mom watches it, I hate it so much its clichéd cop propaganda. They have family meals together. Delicious food, variety of foods too, everyone has helpings of food on their plates (including the women no bird eating cliches to be found!) and they talk and enjoy meals together. It's probably a nightmare to film, but delicious to watch.

No one character is obsessed with food. But they enjoy these meals. Some are more chubby than others but it's all equal enjoyment.

Anyway,

If a character is fat and is shown constantly eating then its a stereotype. Especially if there is no thin people to match.

Fat people have assumed relationships with food. Thin people don't. Fat people are assumed to care too much about food, eat too much and that's why they are fat.

You don't have to blacklist and throw away media that you love when there are problematic elements either. If you personally found it comforting that Hunk is still obsessed with food but his friends don't mock him for it then I won't try to take that from you, we all like stuff that can be bad. The media is out there and can't be changed, but moving forward I want better rep. I hope I kinda explained why it's a sticky situation.

#Lady namo #Ask #ableist language cw #Fatphobia #Mod squirrel

[adversitybloomed-a]

🌸┊ @aniimvs​ asked:     4, 8, 38 & 39 !

munday asks !!!

🌸 4) what made you choose this muse ?  🌸

so its super funny right !? i didn’t actually choose her, she chose me. like, i tried to write her 4 years ago, but i didn’t remain true to myself && i wrote the disney-fied version of her && hated it. i got so bitter && upset && i swore to myself ( because i heard her calling to me the moment i returned to tumblr ) that i would really make her my own && go more lore based. && BAM !! my little angel went from my multi-muse to her own separate one. 

but in all honesty, i picked her because she made me feel IMPOWERED && inspired. like she fits my moods, && she inspires me every single day to do better for myself && in all honesty, makes me feel like i can be the person i want to be, verses what people expect me to be. 

idk man i just... i adore her so much. she is legit one of the lights in my life. 

🌸 8) did you have a muse you tried to play, but didn’t feel connected to ?  🌸

YES !! i used to actually play Uchiha Sasuke way back in the day, in between my first blog aka Anakin Skywalker && my third Jace Herondale ( who is now a side blog to this one lmao ). I loved the character  && i tried really hard to do right by him, but i only lasted about four months because he got too heavy for me. 

🌸 38) what’s the best inspiration for your muse ?  🌸

so i mean... it really depends ? i take a lot from chinese Mythology, lore && of course cultural stories that help me to inspire the background of Mulan. but i also watch soooo much chinese drama’s especially period pieces && i gotta tell you, i take a lot of inspiration, especially for plot from there. 

but also too, music. like i won’t lie, Avril Lavine, Lindsey Stirling && a few others help me kinda inspire her && she feels there music hard in my head, so i usually point a lot of references && respect in there direction. 

but my best inspirations again, come from the lore && mythology, because there is just so much rich history you can take from there && it helps inspire you to write && makes you think thoughts like, “OH HOW DO I INCORPERATE THIS INTO HER STORY?”. 

also another inspiration && i can’t say this enough, is my RP partners ( especially @skjebne​ , @xthesparequeen  && @oraclefreed ). when they send me things saying how it “made me think of mulan” && or “this our muses”, && come up with brilliant plot ideas && sit there for hours listening to me talk about my muses ? its just not only inspiring, but helps me focus && flesh my girl out to life. 

🌸 39) what’s a song that reminds you of your muse ?  🌸

hahaha so i legit listen to a shit ton of music which is really funny, mostly all of it is instrumental. but i do listen to it to write lol ( viking, chinese, japanese && egyptian, etc ). 

              🌸  Fall Out Boy - THE PHOENIX               🌸  Shatter Me Featuring Lzzy Hale - Lindsey Stirling               🌸  Lindsey Stirling - Til The Light Goes Out               🌸  Lindsey Stirling - Guardian               🌸  Lindsey Stirling - Between Twilight               🌸  Christina Aguilera - Loyal Brave True 

just don’t mind me, breaking rules && posting more then one, ooops !!

#aniimvs #🌸 ⁱ ʰᵃᵛᵉ ʳᵉᶜᵉⁱᵛᵉᵈ ʸᵒᵘʳ ( letters ) #🌸 ᵐᵉᵐᵉ ʰᵃˢ ᵇᵉᵉⁿ ( completed ) #🌸 ᵇᵉʰⁱⁿᵈ ᵗʰᵉ ᵖʰᵒᵉⁿⁱˣ ( ooc ) #( thank you for sending <3 )

[anxiousgirlblog]

10 ways to calm anxiety

We have all at some points in our life felt the cripling feeling of anxiety. I myself have been dealing with a social anxiety disorder for many years now. This means I have lot of experience in handling and calming my anxiety. This is a list of tips (that have worked for me) on how to calm down anxiety or anxious feelings. Just remember that everyone’s anxiety is different and the best thing you can do is to get professional help.

1. Talk to someone

I have always been prone to bottle up my feelings and try not to think about my worries. But instead of forgetting about them, they become even more consuming. It is therefore always a good idea to get it out and a good way to do this, is to talk about it with somebody. Tell your therapist, your parent, your friend, your teacher or someone else about what is making you anxious. If you don't really know what the trigger is then just talk about what you are feeling. When you have talked about it with someone you will likely feel a bit lighter.

2. Write it down

If you don't feel like talking to someone another good way to get some of your worries and anxiety out is to write it down. There is something calming about getting your thoughts and feelings out of your head and down on paper.

3. Be creative

Another way to cope with anxiety is to use it to make art. If you like to draw, paint, write poems, write songs or something else creative, use your feelings and thoughts to create something. It doesn't need to be a masterpiece but it is a good way to express your feelings and work through some of your worries. 

4. Get moving

Exercise can be a good tool calming anxiety. It is a way to distract yourself and focus on something else for a moment. Feeling your body will likely take focus away from your anxious feelings and you will likely feel impowered and strong after a nice workout. 

5. Relax

Even though it can be nice to use and feel your body through exercise, sometimes you just don't have the energy or urge to get moving. Worrying and feeling anxious takes a lot of energy and you therefore need time to recharge. It is importend that you allow yourself to relax.

6. Listen to music

If I'm feeling anxious I like to have headphones on and listen to some good music. Make a playlist of songs that you found soothing so when you are in need you have a playlist of songs that can calm you.

7. Go outside

For me being outside in nature is a very therapeutic thing. There is something so calming about being in surroundings of nature. Go to a beautiful place and feel the powers of the nurturing mother nature. Listen to the wind, the sea, the birds, and think of the fact that you are a part of this big beautiful world. 

8. Indulge yourself

When your mind is tangled in a mess you have to remember to treat yourself right. You should be extra nice to yourself and indulge in things you like. This could be a good book, your favorite movie, ice cream, a cup of tea, etc. 

9. Be near animals

Animals have a calming energy about them. If you have a pet go cuddle it. Many animals are very aware of our feelings and will try to comfort us. If you don't have a pet then go somewhere there are animals like for example outside where there are birds or to a farm where there are cows or horses. .

10. Ask for help

And at last if your anxiety is too consuming and you can't seem to do anything to make it better it is differently importend that you ask for help. Use the resources that are available to you and get help from professionals. 

Thank you for reading. I really hope you found it useful. If you ever need someone to talk to, you are welcome to write me. 

Love Frida

#anxitey #tips #social anxiety #anxious #self care #help #self help #therapy #mental help #mental health #mental instability #mental disorder #anxiety #anxeity #anxiety disorder #diary #online diary #blog #blogger #awareness #depression #support

[lisinfluencers]

K-POP!

So I’m going to try to stay on topic… The article that I found extremely interesting was the one about brand loyalty.  This may sound dumb but I pride myself on not caring about brands.  I’m also completely wrong when I say that.  It felt like an emotional struggle when I bought an IPad because I have always hated the company.  I won’t buy surf wax unless its Mrs. Palmers.  As I’m struggling to think of more examples so I guess I’m not that bad, but I normally look at the Samsung phones first and continue to buy Asus computers.  I wouldn’t say they have become part of my identity.

             What I found so interesting was that out of the 4 relationships described in the social media brand loyalty groups, the relationship of consumer to consumer was dangerous and unpredictable.  It is also where the company has the least control. I’ve seen this happen very often. A company is too interested in building fandom and then when they underdeliver there is a backlash.  I see this happening often with the video game community.  The company spends all this time trying to hype how amazing their next video game release will be.  Since video games take a long time, this hype could be building for up to a decade. Then after pushing the game release back a few times they finally give in and release a video game that is half done. They basically created an army just to attack them.

             I’m going to pivot and talk about the brand fandoms I find most interesting.  K pop fandom! I’m not a huge fan but I totally get it. The music is catchy!  I was hugely into the Jam Band music scene for a long time. There were little clichés for sure. Little scenes would form around certain bands.  I was a Biscuit kid, and have seen the Disco Biscuits almost 100 times.  We all loved all the other bands, but there definitely developed a certain identity around the jam band you had chosen to follow.  K-pop takes it to another level.

             Standom is word I’ve only heard recently that I absolutely love.  It comes from an early Eminem song called Stan about an obsessed fan.  Attempts by fans to push their artist to the top have probably always existed.  I guess I first noticed it myself with the Boy Band fights on MTV’s TRL.  I even remember when rock fans came together to get Korn to number one which makes me feel old.  Some things haven’t changed.  Now fans push artists views on youtube.  They do even more creative things with social media now but to me its all the same.  OF COURSE the music is the first and most important thing… but honestly it’s the community building, teamwork, friendship, comradery that are just as important.  At the end of the day these fans still love the music of all the other K pop artists.  Knowing that you are part of a community that can make or break a company just by supporting it is impowering.  I know that this happens when artist advertise products.  Now though these fandoms have moved to the next level and become political. Trying to do some research I found that BTS fans helped disrupt a Trump rally.  I had heard about this but didn’t know BTS had any relation.  Now the fandom is getting behind movements like Black Lives Matter. I’m not talking about Kylie Jenner Pepsi commercial.  I’m talking about donating 1 million dollars to a social justice movement.  To me that’s just insane.  It’s important to remember that this band is not really independent but run by a company.  So when the article says there needs to be more research into the customer-customer relationship well… K pop is all the research they need.

I listen to so many podcasts and I wanted to link to this amazing one about the power of K-pop fandom but... I cant find it,  so here’s one just about K-pop that’s dope

#longo

[jewist]

I'm sorry for making you feel worse, my honest intention was to round-about impower you in a way. I definitely understand what a huge letdown that is :( it's so incredibly shitty that your hiring boss wasn't entirely honest with you

no no you didn’t make me feel worse! i understand you had good intentions. it just sucks when something is too good to be true ya know?

[ang3lkurom1]

ateez reaction to their s/o being unafraid & physically strong (basically an impowering female)

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↷ request: nope! i wanted to write about strong females because i don’t see it enough in fics :( i always see reactions of members in groups protecting the reader so i want to write fics where it’s different. no shade if that’s not who you are because being scared easily is okay too!! <3 basically this is a reaction to them dating a female who doesn’t get scared easily, sticks up for herself, physically and mentally strong, and hella confident-!

↷ genre: fluff

↷ pairing: female reader

↷ warnings: none

↷ the feminist in me jumped out

hongjoong:

shocked when he first noticed it but loves that side of you. having to take care of seven kids i think him being with someone independent and strong would be a relief. not saying he wouldn’t love having a soft and babie partner; i just think an independent woman would be intriguing to him. hongjoong is a very brave person so you having that in common with him makes him happy. maybe even a way to connect with him more!

seonghwa:

well- seonghwa seems like a very protective person who loves being a parenting role in a relationship. i see him liking someone who he can protect, so you being the opposite would be a new thing for him; but that doesn’t mean he wouldn’t like it! he appreciates having someone not always so dependent on others. tbh.. you being a representation of a powerful woman is something he worships. he likes how confident you are and finds it sexy. (sorry not sorry)

yunho:

intimadated at first. yunho is a soft babie and seeing someone so tough would make him o.o but in the best way. i can see him looking up to you. seeing how you’re not scared easily would be very impressive to him. whenever you do something like stand up for yourself or decline help with carrying something heavy he does that surprised laugh where he covers his mouth w his hand. overall, babie is just impressed and it would be one of his favorite things about you.

yeosang:

shy babie. i see him being in love with the way you’re so fearless but he probably wouldn’t say anything. he secretly fonds over you and likes how whenever a jumpscare comes up on the screen you don’t even move a muscle. he notices it every time and giggles to himself, adoring how you didn’t need him to hold you when something scary happened. he wouldn’t ever confess this but you could hear his soft giggles confirming his admiration.

san:

babie ABSOLUTELY loves it. i see san as a feminist to be honest- i mean all of them are very supportive but i just get this vibe he’s like *grl power* behind the scenes. he applauds you for how capable you are and would always be like "yes, you go baby” when you open a jar of whatever that no one else could open. in conclusion, a very supportive boyfriend who hypes you up 24/7.

mingi:

basically the ‘O’ face whenever you lift up something heavy or don’t even flinch the slightest when you’re watching a horror movie with him. mingi is a scared softie so i believe he would find comfort in your arms. even if he’s bigger than you- mingi is someone who loves to feel safe and protected and you doing just that makes him confide in you and view you as his protector.

wooyoung:

shocked boyo #2 but also adores it. i lowkey think he’d find it hot? maybe that’s just me... but to him you being so impowering would be a turn on. you not needing help with lifting anything and/or not hiding your head in his chest when something randomly popped up is charming to him. of course it’s not just attractive to him, he also finds it interesting. asking you again and again on a daily basis how you are so brave all the time.

jongho:

i think jongho would also be a lil intimidated in the beginning. he’s a strong boy and he might see a challenge in you being very tough on your own, not needing him to defend you. but!! i think the closer he is to you he doesn’t really end up caring so much. he would start to find it cool even if it took some time for it to fully settling in. and when it does... hype boyfriend #2. cheering you on when you lift something heavy on your own. but lowkey challenges you to arm wrestles now and again-

the end~ hopefully it was a good first post!! <33 thank you for reading!!

#ateez fanfic #ateez au #ateez reactions #ateez scenarios #ateez fluff #hongjoong reactions #seonghwa reactions #yunho reactions #yeosang reactions #san reactions #mingi reactions #wooyoung reactions #jongho reactions

[iamperfectlyimperfect]

Lions not sheep!

Recently I dated this guy, I bought a hoody from this clothing line he had talked about for a birthday gift. Lions not sheep, I figured I would buy one for me as well. (Since I always steal his 😉)

Well he dumped me... I'll dig into this on a later blog. But without realizing it, I did something out of character and he ended things. I'm stuck, I'm lost without him. So dumb that I'm struggling as much as I am. I was just about to cancel the order and I stopped myself. I am a LION NOT A SHEEP and I will keep that fucking hoody! FUCK HIM!

Shortly after I remembered talking to him that the founder of said clothing line also wrote a book that might help with my depression. So I went and looked up the book called "How to Make Shit Happen" I placed my order.

And somehow I ended up on the authors Facebook page. Where I watched a video about "What is The Lions Den" at this point I had been in a deep depression for 5 days and I was struggling at 11:30 to get out of bed. I started to watch this video and felt impowered. Enough to get out of bed. Put in clothes and do my make up while listening.

Not only that but my bosses and I recently had a conversation about how to feel accomplished each day with even the little things. #makeyourbed every day. Well with the current state of my depression I made a promise. To make my bed every day and send them a photo. Let's just say for the last five days my bed was made but with me in it. So after I was done with my make up I then made my bed!

Sean Whalen! Thank you.

In the last 24 hours your words, honest, truthful harsh words of reality pulled me out of the dark. And brought me some light.

His registration for this class is closed. But I am going to read his book. I am going to take notes. I will be joinging the lions den when registeration opens again because I want to be surrounded by like minded people. I am that lucky 49% of entrepreneurs that struggle with mental illness! And I need love and support but a kick in the ass sometimes works too, especially when I don't want to hear it.

Tonight while I was editing. I did open Spotify and listed to his 1st episode of his podcast he did in January of this year. Just explaining his life journey. Mind you I hate pod casts. I just drown out thier voices. Like I just don't give a shit what you have to say. But I listened to the entire thing.

Here is a link to the podcast:

https://open.spotify.com/episode/3LZnpTRvuFknHV7RNEp2EH?si=BWH_ZeMLTCSl0nay93xjLA

And here is a link to the book:

https://www.amazon.com/dp/1984268945/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_G7sOFb3TQKPWM

#sean whalen #lions not sheep #motivationalcoach #podcast #fighting depression #finding self-worth #otat! #obata! #afgo #another fucking growth opportunity