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avisisisis · 2 years

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“Don't stereotype AroAce people by making them serious or shy all the time it's wrong!!” EXACTLY where's my slightly insane character that acts like a child, thrills on battle and was born to destroy the world yet doesn't want to?

#yes i'm talking about senti what about it #honkai impact #honkai impact 3rd #hi3 #hi3rd #herrscher of sentience #senti #sentience #herrscher #aromantic #asexual #aroace #lgbtq+#this is coming from an aromantic person btw #idk if i'm asexual i'm still finding out #avis talks

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universe-of-peoples · 1 month

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Does anyone else on the aroace spectrum ever feel like

I’m in my twenties and I WANT these big epic romances I see in movies and tv and books and even in my social circles but

I literally feel no attraction to anyone

Like I feel like I’m missing out on this life experience but I can’t help it

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moinsbienquekaworu · 10 months

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The struggle between being happy that all kinds of aspecs are talking about aspec experiences more and barely being able to stand the way people talk about aspec experiences

#i don't know how to say it but like. i'm aro and i hate how nobody ever. talks about us except us #if i was the type of person who comes out and if i didn't already need a powerpoint to explain asexuality #i'd start telling people i'm aro and not aroace #like just. the way i feel towards both alloallos & alloaces who try but fail at being inclusive....#towards alloace and sometimes aroace communities & the way they are & act....#legit making me think about identifying as like. non sam aro or something #yeah technically i'm asexual but i'm going to take that word away from everyone #my allo friends are trying bless their heart but they DO NOT GET IT!!!!#they're trying and they're FAILING!!! BADLY!!!!#i understand people who use certain sets of pronouns but only with specific people. holy shit #like if i see one more time that asexuality means not being interested in relationships.#if my friends ask me and only me if i'm comfortable with a sex discussion when i am participating in it #if i get told 'no bitches!! :D' as a pride thing ONE MORE TIME #i'm sorry if you're seeing that m btw. on the infinitesimal chance you do see it. it's not against you it's my aro rage #i just. i'm not ace and then aro as an afterthought.#i'm ARO and eventually if it comes up i'm ace #'oh but no bitches isn't necessarily about sex it can also be about relationships'#yeah okay. well. i'm interested in both of those. i do want bitches. not like allos but i'm not signing up to be a nun here.#the flattening of the aspec experience to 'asexual and possibly aromantic' is making me want to tear things apart with my teeth #hate hate hate hate #and let's not forget adolescent romances. listen. i'm a teenager and i love romance #but all the stuff where the 17yo alloace teen feels broken and ends up dating a comprehensive partner......#i keep seeing it like you see the fin of a shark. and that's already more than i can stand #i'm happy it's resonating with people but it's exactly as insipid as bland straight love songs to me #anyway. i didn't get everything i wanted out but i chipped away at it.#wow i have a ramble tag now

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cledubs · 4 months

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i really don’t understand how some fantasy high enjoyers don’t see the very obvious metaphor for aromantic denial within baron from the baronies in sophomore year. baron is a nightmare creature that came into existence because riz lied about having a partner so his friends wouldn’t bother him about it? he made up baron when his friends were all talking about the people they wanted to kiss? how is that not aromantic to some people. maybe it’s more obvious to me because i HAVE been in denial about being aro and made up crushes for myself and tried to pretend i had them. just because i felt it was a thing i needed to do, that it was a thing that EVERYONE had to have a crush and that it was normal. how do you see the confrontation between baron and riz as anything other than accepting aromanticism. this thing, his nightmares personified, says to him “the years will go by, and everyone will find someone that matters more to them than you.” as an aro person yeah that’s gotta be up there with the top ten nightmares.

how do you look at this interaction and NOT see an aromantic boy.

(for further elaboration, yes i am aware that aromantic people CAN want to kiss others and hell yeah power to you, i’m just saying that it’s a common thing to not care about kissing/not want to do it)

and another thing with with the fhigh fandom is that like, some people will go through every loophole they can to try and pair up riz anyways. aromantic people CAN be in relationship, of course, but why would people take this specific boy, who has repeatedly expressed distaste in being in a relationship, and ship him with other people. especially since fabian and riz is a common ship. is it because they’re best friends? is it because people value romance over friendship? oh they’re such close friends they must have a thing! it’s so stupid. why is it, that when a character is asexual (riz, being confirmed asexual), people respect that. they don’t often go “oh yeah i know they’re asexual but asexual people can have sex! or want to have sex! it’s a spectrum!”. (that is true, btw, ace people can have sex and all that. but it’s different when allosexual people do it to try and just make up excuses to not treat asexual characters like they’re asexual.) why do i mostly see it done with aromantic people? one of this boy’s biggest fear is people pairing up and leaving him behind. how do you see that as a boy who WANTS to be in a relationship? do you think he WANTS to pair up as well?

just because it’s not been outwardly confirmed and directly said “riz gukgak is aromantic” doesn’t mean that it’s not true, y’know? there’s subtext, there’s symbolism, there’s metaphors, there’s DIRECT REFERENCES TO RIZ NOT LIKING ROMANCE! i don’t really know how people can see him as alloromantic

anyways thank you for coming to my ted talk, this is sam (confirmed aroace) signing off or something

(also some of my non-aro, romance enjoying friends have confirmed that the aro implications are very obvious so clearly it’s not just an aro brain thing to understand)

#sam.post #riz gukgak #fantasy high #i don’t know if this counts as discourse?#maybe it is #it probably counts as a rant #rant #rant post #whenever i see anyone ship riz it makes me explode and shatter into a million tiny pieces #i know most of my followers and mutuals aren’t fantasy high watchers #but if there are fhigh watchers that follow me #and disagree with aro riz #i’m going to be entirely honest i don’t particularly want to interact with you #i’m not going to be like DNI!!!! i can’t really control what you do #but if i see people posting allo riz stuff i will block etc etc #no offence but also kind of offence

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thechurchoftheradiodemon · 22 days

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I've been mulling over something. I read one of Vivzie's interviews lately and I've come to some conclusions about Alastor's character (these are just my own theories, though, so we'll see how everything actually develops in s2).

Unfortunately, I believe, canonically, Alastor is NOT aromantic. Maybe on the aro-spectrum, and deffinitely asexual, but not aro per se. In this interview, Vivzie confirms Alastor's asexuality, and plays with his aro identity saying something like "I don't want to ruin people's fun with him". This could be queerbaiting in a sense (I don't actually think so, when Vivzie is high on queer representation, but aro people are very left behind in the community, sadly).

But she continues to add on that there are plans for Alastor in the future of the series, saying something like "I can't confirm that he is aromantic". To me, this reads like we will see romance in Alastor's life in season 2, wether it's a past lover/romantic interest or a new one I could not say. She would've had no problem in confirming Alastor as aromantic otherwise, and I interpret this as Vivzie not wanting to spoil part of the plot.

I used to think that Alastor's deal would most surely be with Lilith, but, while it could be the case, I'm not so sure anymore (although it could be a fun dinamic). But, nontheless, I think Lilith's and Alastor's 7 year absence and his deal are intertwinded somehow.

My bet, for the future romance plot, is that it could be one of these three: either Lilith, whom the fandom is already considering in a sense; the mysterious Eve, or... Lucifer. HEAR ME OUT. I don't say this as a Radioapple enjoyer. The reasons I think it could be Lucifer are the same that I think it could be Eve (although we know absolutely nothing about her).

Mainly, I draw these conclusions from the early comic Zoophobia, from where we know Alastor's character was taken. In this comic, his character is supposed to have a crush on the character of KayCee, a powerful being with whom he could have made an alliance to reign chaos.

KayCee's descriptions could match either of the three romantic interests I mentioned, but what strikes me more are her defining traits: white and gold colour palette, and the apple. We know not all of Vivzie's characters stem from Zoophobia, and the ones that do have (understandably so) went through important changes through the years, mediums and aesthetics.

BUT these could be some clues into what we might discover in s2 of Hazbin. And, so long, the character we've seen fit this palette and apple motif is none other than Lucifer himself. Eve, on the other hand, is also shown during the intro sporting some sort of apple motif, which could be indicative of her future appearance in the series. But we know so little about her, and, knowing Hazbin Hotel will only have 2 seasons confirmed, I'm not sure we will see more of her.

I personally don't like the idea of losing Alastor as an aromantic character. I'd much rather not see him in a romantic relationship whatsoever in the canon series. But that is not my call to make, and he will always be our ace-king no matter what. Also, that wouldn't mean his story or character will be less interesting or developed. So we'll have to wait and see...

(This is visual representation of me reaching these conclusions, btw)

I would love to hear what other fans think about this, so if you want to leave and opinion in the comments we can discuss!

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bloggingboutburgers · 3 months

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Regarding the anon about "Is it romantic love or obsession?"

It is such an interisting topic to me right now because I am aro and also have been doing some childhood trauma work these last couple of month.

And alot of "mystery" about romantic love really dissolved in that time learning about that alooooot of people have childhood trauma wounds that leave them yearning for "unconditional love" that they never got from their parents (but should have) and now asking asking from their partners.

That is also part of alot of these lovestories we tell each other, that someone must love you unconditionally, or they don't really love you.

That is really a trauma driven thought pattern. Unconditional love is for children to receive, and not a "job" for your partners (aromantic or otherwise).

I think that's where alot of the confusion (including myself here) is coming from, that the topic of childhood trauma is really not on the radar, or not in a right way.

I personally think a healthy romantic couple isn't really that different from a healthy qpr. Just as much as an unhealthy qpr can look like a toxic romance.

The desire is just different.

...God this is so real and so interesting to think about

I feel I'm also a bit part of these many many people with that kind of trauma, and yeah, I feel like as an aromantic person, I do tend to expect that from what I would describe as "a true friend", and it just exacerbates the fear of abandonment a few of us aro people may have, I feel...

It's honestly such a good point, thank you so much for the add-on

(This was the post anon is referring to btw, also very interesting!)

#anon #aromantic #romance #queerplatonic #facts #thank you for this

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sexhaver · 4 months

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Howdy friend! I feel like that meme with doctor eggman that just walked in on rouge and shadow having a spirited discussion on something I have no pretext about. But it sounds important and I do wanna educate myself if there's a lacking somewhere, genuinely. From what I understood from scrolling down to a screenshot poll and other screens, it's trying to figure out if people are automatically taking frat boys (the classic stereotype kind, btw, genuinely players) in good faith by queer-ifying them because they have been fortunately unfortunate enough to not have the life experience of being used by this type of person that will take their good faith and hurt them?

Because I do think that there *could* be a cishet aro man out there, if it's defined very explicitly as: a man (born with a penis and identifies as he/him) and likes women (including trans women) and is aromantic. Face value wise, that is.

Because the question wasn't if the hypothetical man was superstraight (and don't count trans people at all) or just pussy-seeking (i.e. looking to have sex with ciswomen and trans men who haven't had bottom surgery, is explicitly Not transphobic). Or if this hypothetical man wasn't also, say, a "friend" met at a party/tinder/hookup/through mutuals/etc that is really just an acquaintance with little of substance genuinely known...or if this man was actually what one would consider a genuine friend. Or if this hypothetical man was poly (and/or if you were poly honestly, this feels like this is being framed in a mono mindset, which is okay! But poly adds extra details to account for). Also if he was out as aro.

The point is, I am aware of cheating. I am aware of using terms to get around cheating. Or trying to justify it. But aromantizim by itself isn't cheating. Poly by itself isn't cheating. FwB by itself, or hooking up by itself, or sex work by itself, isn't cheating- if there is informed consent on both sides with all affected parties, which includes all other partners. Wanting to sleep around isn't a crime, regardless of who or where or what gender.

I know there's plenty of men that aren't allies, that are homophobic or transphobic or sexist, but that wasn't the question. You aren't making that distinction or posing a scenario, just a screenshot without any added distinction other that the consent (after it was asked for by voters). It's taking the assumption that practicing genuine safe sex ( not that bullshit abstinence thing schools and "god fearing Christians" teach), is limited to only cishetero men... And not something to practice with everyone.

It shouldn't matter my gender or background or beliefs or sexuality, since these are simply opinions and all opinions come with grains of salt, but I know if I don't add context of me being the one giving these opinions, I'll be discredited.

I'm a cis-women (so very petrifiyingly aware of that Fear/wariness of being approached at night by strangers, or followed. I don't like ANYONE strange coming up to me, regardless of gender, a woman can stab me as much as a man can rape me, but I feel like I know the mindset extreme examples being presented here so there were go).

I'm demi-omnisexualromantic. Everyone's free game once I get to know them on a genuine emotional level. We HAVE to be besties (or we have to never ever see each other again if I'm gonna sleep with you and you're not a friend, oh gOD WHAT IF I FART OR THEY'RE A SERIAL KILLER OH GOD).

I'm poly. The first thing is with my girlfriend and our paramour, since we are the "oringal polycule" is had a sit down discussion about what we agreed upon what being in a relationship is like (we happen to be romantically and sexually attracted to each other btw). It was Poly from the start and Open from the start. We are all okay and open to each other going out to bdsm clubs or kink parties or sleeping around, or if asking out cute people..... BUT we have to ask permission/inform the other partners in our polycule. There's nothing to hide and they consent. They can say no, and that's okay!! Because then!! We can have an open and honest discussion as to why (lonely, conflicting plans, insecurity, safety worries, etc). Also also, anyone new that's meant to become a fwb or a pet needs to know about and meet our polycule, and it's a one-no situation here. If *anyone* is uncomfortable, nothing goes forward.

Sex is nice, sex is great if you're a freak like me and into that sorta thing; and sexual safety awareness and stranger danger awareness and informed consent awareness is MAJORLY IMPORTANT AND CRITICAL AND EVERYONE SHOULD BE TAUGHT THIS IN SCHOOL OH GOD but in my humble opinion the execution has spiraled into something messy with rampant misunderstanding and accidental invalidation of aro-spec men, poly people, and our allies,,, as well as anyone trying to be open-minded even if they dont understand.

Telling people that they're naive and ignorant isn't going to teach them a lesson you appear to feel strongly that they need to learn, it only shames and makes them not likely to actually follow the good advice (?) that's being presented in a not-clear format.

And it also earns you a buncha people getting angry because they don't understand the question actually being asked because the context wasn't clarified or what the actual answer is in a no patronizing manner/delivery,, and I'm sure you're feeling very much harassed and exhausted for answers that have little to nothing to do with your actual question, and I'm really sorry for that because I've been there and I hate this for you because it's exhausting and dispiriting to find people who never got taught how to keep themselves safe... But I'm also happy that they haven't had to learn it the hard way *yet* and that I can still help, or even that the people I was so stressed over not having the lesson... Actually DO know the answer but just misunderstood the question or that I just asked it confusingly!!

Anyway, sorry for the extremely long ask, double sorry if I misunderstood anything you were trying to say or explained anything that you already know. But if you could clarify in your own words and time, I would be very grateful! If not, that's still okay and I hope you take care of yourself out there, friend! Also, I'm on anon less because I'm ashamed of my opinion, and more because I don't want anyone else randomly messaging me back because they don't like me for my views online and I happen to really like this account dghjfedhjfdsjk

oh my god i thought there was a character limit on anons. what am i even being asked here? i literally just woke up and opened my inbox and made this face

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ar0acejay · 2 months

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hiya, here's the link to alastor not being explicitly aromantic being discussed on another blog: https://onesidedradiostatic.tumblr.com/post/743154763842093056/apparently-alastor-is-not-canonically-aromantic

tbh, I agree very much with what that blog said -- amir talai said "him being aroace is not explicitly known" which is true. the word "aro" hasn't been said explicitly in the way "ace" has. it's been stated as word of god and discussed and hinted, but it's not been said BY any character/s (yet 👀👀👀)

I think a VA of the character saying "my way of reading things is if it's in the script it's explicit, and if it's not, it's not" makes a lot of sense. that being said, it's not to say it won't be made explicit down the line, in the way "ace in the hole" was a way of making the aceness a Statement That This Is The Character

amir talai strikes me as the kind of guy who's been consistently very deliberate in only discussing what's on the page about his character, so not wanting to discuss his being aroace until/if it's on the page is very fair -- with "ace in the hole" he did also speak about how that was a way of making something explicit, while still being true to the character not knowing the terminology or the identity. until that moment, "ace" was not explicit either

(I don't btw personally totally agree on reading characters this way, considering the long history of queercoding being that one Couldn't make something explicit + that's still a very deliberate method of writing show-don't-tell today, But that's coming from my side as someone who's well-versed in that history, rather than a "I am the random person voicing a character and I do what's on the page in front of me, because that is my job and I talk about what is on the page in front of me" -- but he's clearly also trying to learn, which is awesome)

also he DID do some learning/hyping on aro-identity during this week of aro awareness, so it's also nice that he definitely understands that ace and aro aren't interchangeable and is putting in that work to open his horizons on that front

Thank you for linking the post!!

I totally agree with what the post said. Alastor got 1000% confirmed as ace by that joke and personally I also think that it included him being aromantic. A lot of people still think that ace and aro go hand in hand the same way that they assume that (for example) bisexual and biromantic go hand in hand (which they don't but a lot of people think that) so maybe the writers are part of that group. Also, like the other blog said, Rosie said the "ace in the hole" joke in relation to him dating Charlie and it basically went "she's too young for you lololol jkjk ik you're ace" (which doesn't stop people from being in an alloromantic relationship, people just think aro and ace means the same thing) so I do think they included aro into that scene. However aro actually being in the script is only my own interpretation so I get it if people think otherwise.

I completely support your point about stating things explicitly and queer coding. I think Alastor is extremely aro-coded apart from the fact that his VA didn't actually un-confirm it - he just said that it's not explicitly in the script. Personally, it's super duper implied that Alastor is aromantic but again, I get it if people don't see it. So yeah, despite what anybody says, as long as Alastor isn't confirmed to be not-aromantic I'll headcanon him on the arospec

Also, even if Alastor turned out to be not-aro, I don't think anything would change because about 95% of this fandom doesn't give a shit about aros or aces and just continued erasing Alastors aroace identity that we thought he had at that point so yeah.

(also amir talai doing research and posting about ASAW is so important to me AHSHSAHAHAJJWJFJS) (I never thought I'd be hyping up a man for doing the bare minimum but here we are)

#aromantic #asexual #aromantic asexual #hazbin hotel #hazbin #alastor #aroace #the aroace ever

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oscconfessions · 1 month

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Sigh... I'm gonna add my two cents about the Balloon arospec drama(I'm AroAce BTW) and by my two cents I mean I'll mention it two times and just talk about something else related. I'll also be providing some knowledge about AroAceness and all that.

For those of you who don't know,

Aro: Aromantic - Little to no romantic attraction.

Ace: Asexual - Little to no sexual attraction.

Aro+Ace are spectrums and aren't just "every Aro person doesn't feel any kind of romantic attraction" or "every Ace person can't feel sexual attraction." I feel as tbough people forget that all the time so I wanted to remind you lot haha.

I'm noticed this kind of drama a few times, where people argue about a character on where they are on the AroAce spectrum. It's difficult for me to put what I think into words here, but if a character(either canon AroAce or not) doesn't have a canon placement on the spectrum then whatever, go wild.

To help with my previous statement, I'll use SakiK from... SaikiK. People generally agree he's AroAce, yet people argue about where he is on that spectrum(mainly the Aromantic part). Since it's not ever stated where he is on that spectrum(or even if he is AroAce but SHHHSHSHHSH 🤫🤫), everyone has their own interpretation of it.

I believe it should be the same for Balloon, unless Balloon comes on screen and says "I am *insert very specific thing here* " as he points to a picture of the Aro spectrum then its to to you. Obviously, don't make him a sex crazed fiend or constantly searching for love, you eejit, but it should be up to interpretation.

A little off-topic here, sorry, but I wanted to bring up umbrella terms in both the Aro and Ace spectrums(I'm included ace because eh why not! This is for my people who HC Balloon as Aro AND Ace 🙏🙏)

Here are some terms under both the aro and ace spectrums. I feel as though you guys and many, MANY others tend to forget that there are umberlla terms for AroAce. I'll define them below:

Ace umbrella:

Aceflux: someone whose sexual orientation fluctuates but generally stays on the asexual spectrum

Greysexual: only experience sexual attraction some of the time, and sometimes not at all.

Demisexual: An individual who does not experience sexual attraction until after a close emotional bond has been formed.

Aro umbrella:

Aroflux: someone whose romantic orientation fluctuates but generally stays on the aromantic spectrum

Greyromantic: Some may feel a strong emotional connection with others but do not desire romantic relationships, while others may feel a weak romantic attraction to some people but not all.

Demiromantic: An individual who does not experience romantic attraction until after a close emotional bond has been formed.

Now, there are MANY more, feel free to add in the replies or the reblogs (o: !

Also, my apologies that this post was very long! Also also, my personal opinion on Balloons arospec thing? Idfk, lmao. TBH, this was kinda an excuse to just talk about stuff I like and am interested in so... 👍I've seen the tweet where one of the people who worked on II said yes, Balloon is meant to be Aro, but I couldn't tell you if they went into specifics about it. Sorry for constantly saying AroAce instead of just aro for Balloon, I felt like it was still important to include all my asexuals out there and educate others about it.

(BTW! Any inaccurate info, PLEASE, PLEASE correct in the replies)

Anyway!

TL;DR:

If a character who is just stated to be AroAce(not demi, grey, flux ETC) and never has their place on the spectrum explained whatsoever, it's okay to have a little fun experimenting with it IYKWIM. As I've stated, we all have our own interpretation of the AroAce character and there's no point arguing about it and getting mad because that's fucking stupid, unless they start actively getting rid of the AroAce rep then burn them to the stakes! /j

I know how wild you mother fuckers can be, so don't shank me please. If you disagree, take a deep breath and remain calm because getting all pissy about this isn't gonna do shit. Try to go about it calmly and reasonably. <3

I'd love to see others' opinions on this, remember to be respectful! 🩵

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#confession #/ii #/ii/balloon

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xcreepypastaheadcannonsx · 5 months

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Hi, if they ever had sexualities or anything like that… what would they be? or would anyone be like homophobic?? this is a weird ask but i was just curious. thank you!

Oo this is fun! This is not weird at all btw, I’ve been considering these headcanons for a long time lol.

Jeff The Killer: Aromantic Pansexual.

Okay so Jeff doesn’t feel romantic attraction whatsoever but he feels sexual attraction towards literally anyone no matter the gender. He believe as long as his victims/sexual conquests have a hole he could give two shits what comes along with it. But to say he’s a stranger to being homophobic as a way to demean and hurt his victims would be a lie. Jeff displays homophobic behavior, but it doesn’t come from a place of feeling as if it’s wrong - it’s actually just a way to emotionally abuse another person. He doesn’t care about hypocrisy, literally anything to make someone feel horrible about themselves works for him.

Homicidal Liu: Aromantic Bisexual

Homicidal Liu, just like his brother, feels no romantic feelings toward anybody at all. He might act the part and have multiple partners but he feels NO attachment to them whatsoever and actually kills most of them off once he's done with them. BUT sexually he swings both ways (secretly). Liu is a very closeted bisexual, and while he doesn't really care internally when it comes to his sexuality - he cares very much about his reputation, and he believes he would literally shrivel up and die if anyone useful to him knew he swung both ways. He'd find it to be the most shameful thing in the world because he was surrounded by outwardly homophobic straight men his whole life, he literally based his personality around it. It would just be very scandalous in his circle.

Masky/Tim Wright: Slightly Bi-curious Heterosexual/romantic

Okay, so Tim himself is a bi-curious guy leaning towards being hetero. He himself has no problem with the thought of being with a guy, but it’s very rare he experiences the feelings of being attracted to another man. While Masky, is totally against the idea. This is purely due to his toxic masculinity and not wanting to look effeminate. Any feelings he would have for a man is shoved down and ignored. he’s the type of guy to make a complete scene over someone being gay, acting like it’s the most disgusting thing you could be in order to not look gay.

Ticci Toby: Straight lol

Toby is a heterosexual/romantic guy but he always has to make it CLEAR he is STRAIGHT, loves PUSSY and TITS and is not GAY. He has a lot of genuine homophobia, and of course this comes from the same place Masky’s homophobia comes from.

Hoodie: Bisexual/romantic

Hoodie and Brian are both bisexual, while leaning more towards attraction to women they wouldn't mind being with a man at all. But I'd say that they just really like a feminine person no matter their gender, pronouns etc. And although Hoodie doesn't have a homophobic bone in his body he's gotta keep it hush hush around his extremely homophobic coworkers that he would be interested in men at all. (Plus he's like "it's no one's fucking business" lol)

Eyeless Jack: Panromantic Demisexual

So Eyeless Jack is not a very sexual person really at all, ever since he became a demon he doesn't really feel the need or want to have sex - and it would probably be very uncomfortable for him in a casual sense because of his own relationship with himself and being half demon and alone for so long. He would have a lot of self esteem issues as well due to fear OF himself, which would make sex a lot more complicated and emotionally difficult for him. But I could definitely see if he was in a very patient, accepting and open environment he'd be able to feel those feelings again. But from a romantic perspective he doesn't care the gender, you could be a man, non-binary, lady, he would not care. To him everyone is human and special, and he's so removed from the concept of human gender that it doesn't phase him, he'll take any kind of attention or affection from anyone.

Jane the Killer: Homosexual/romantic

You already know Jane is a LESBIAN, this isn't even a headcanon it's just canon lol.

Clockwork: Bisexual/romantic

I would say Clockwork is a bisexual person who heavily leans into an attraction for women. Although she'll find guys attractive and have flings with some, I do believe as a whole she feels much more emotionally comfortable around girls. Regardless of her take on girls back in high school, (*Cough cough* pick me.) - she feels generally safer with women, and just really enjoys femininity. And it's really nice to have someone feminine with her as a partner, it almost gives her the comfortability to be feminine herself when for her whole life she always had to be on guard and as strong as the men around her to gain respect. She just really likes women and having girlfriends, and her misogyny in high school really came from a place of not being accepted much in that community in adolescence and jealousy of not being able to explore that part of herself in a safer environment. Plus she just uh, really like boobs lmao

~Olive🐰

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gingery-juniper · 5 months

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PERSONAL BLABBER TIME

-long personal ramble ahead-

I don't really post personal stuff here, but there's no other platform I feel safe sharing. I don't really share a lot personal stuff online anyway, but I'm really excited about this and I'm just dying to get it all out and share my excitement with someone.

Like

Orange-cat zoomies excited.

🐈[nyoom]🐈

I've been afraid to open up and unmask for so long, but this is the one place I feel like I can be open about who I am. I don't care if anyone actually reads it, I just want to vent it out.

I'm about to start taking T (testosterone)!!!

I am AFAB and non-binary, and now trans-masc.

I've always hated the body I was born with since I was a kid, but never quite knew why. I was raised in a very conservative Christian household that strongly condemned anything outside the "norm". I was raised to be a "good submissive wife"

That never sat right with me, even as a religiously brainwashed kid. And now I understand why. Not just the creepy religious aspect (that's a whole 'nother deal), but that I was never supposed to be a woman.

I knew something was different about me ever since middle school, but I didn't have the experience or exposure to know why I felt wrong in my own body. I was a tomboy I guess, but it was more than that. I my autistic ass always hyperfixated on male fictional characters. Everyone always assumed I had a crush on them, but no, I wanted to BE those male characters.

I spent so many years thinking maybe if I was more perfectly feminine I'd be happy, starving myself to be ~pretty~ and accepted by my family and peers. That didn't do shit and just made me deeply and harmfully depressed and more confused.

I spent so many years "believing" gender and sexuality was a strict "good vs evil" thing. Even daring! to think of deviating from being cis or hetero (those terms are evil and "woke" btw /s) was an abomination. Anyone at all queer (definitely used as a slur by them) was going straight to hell.

I feel sick knowing I used to believe that.

Well, I didn't really believe it. It didn't make sense to me, but I was conditioned to think that way (for fear of punishment) so I went along with it. But it didn't make sense and confused me when I started to meet and make LGBTQ friends in high school and at my first job. They were such amazing people. I couldn't figure out how they were possibly "evil".

I'm so angry it took so long for me to finally break out of that brainwashed mindset and start thinking clearly for myself.

10 years later, after a long time away from my parents/family, it's all making sense. The egg has cracked.

I've since found the LGBTQA+ community and have never felt more accepted and understood. This is where I have always belonged and I'm so grateful to have made it this far to realize that.

I was making formal plans to off myself a few years ago (many factors involved), but seeing some of the things people posted here made me realize that I'm not broken and not worthless and helped inspire me to live.

Over the last few years (and yeah honestly tumblr has been an incredible learning and supportive community resource) I have come such a long way in my personal journey. I am learning who I am now.

I had top surgery earlier this year and it's the best decision I've ever made. I've never been happier in my life.

Somehow my family hasn't noticed.

Now I'm going to start T.

My family won't take kindly to this change. They are very homophobic and especially transphobic. But I'm no longer interested in being palatable to keep them comfortable. I am going to be me whether they like it or not.

For the first time in my life, that I can say with confidence, I want to live.

I am asexual.

I am aromantic.

I am non-binary.

I am trans.

I am queer.

#personal #lgbtqia #lgbtqa #lgbtq community #asexual #aromantic #nonbinary #transgender #queer #queer community #hrt #ftm hrt

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chase-the-ladybug · 11 months

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I’ve had skip to loafer on the brain lately and this one’s been marinating for a bit, but hear me out: aro Mitsumi.

Bear with me (manga spoilers ahead)

Firstly I know Shima has been headcannoned as aromantic (or arospec) by a lot of the fandom- and I do agree btw- but aro Mitsumi is slept on.

Are you telling me this is how she fantasies abt romantic confessions:

And she isnt remotely aro?

‘But OP’, you say. ‘She has a crush on Shima- how can she be aromantic?’

Firstly, there’s a spectrum of aromantism. She could be demiro, grayro, or another variation of the aromantic spectrum. A lot of these account for exceptions or other feelings of attraction outside of romance.

Moving on, from the start of her ‘catching feelings’ we’re introduced to the idea of having a crush through her best friend, Fumi. Whenever she has any sort of particular breakthroughs in understanding her feelings, it’s through Fumi talking about her own romantic experiences.

This is not to say Fumi is incorrect in how she descirbes romance, but often ppl who don’t experience romantic attraction struggle to distinguish what romantic feelings are in comparison to other types of feelings/attraction. This, coupled with the fact that even things that can be labelled ‘romantic’ vary from person to person, and the complexity that comes with that, means Mitsumi could have entirely mislabelled her feelings bc there’s no ‘non-romantic’ explanation for them.

In addition, the way she approached her relationship ending was another thing for me imo. The feelings were one part, but she also said she didn’t want to stress out about it with everything else in her life going on.

Obviously she still cares for Shima a great deal, and was mature and responsible in how she decided on/approached breaking up. But as someone who grew up saying ‘i don’t have time for relationships when i have so many goals i want to achieve- romance would be too stressful’… her goals respectively give her a convenient ‘out’ to developing a romantic relationship.

This out of hers allows her to not pay mind to romance, and we can see this play out through events with the student council. Ppl see her and Ujiie, and immediately make romantic assumptions about them. However, she’s oblivious to any of that, until it all hits her at once and she PANICS.

Ofc, we know it’s immediately dismissed by the narrative, and Mitsumi has always been oblivious. But I think it’s interesting how, specifically, her ignorance to amatonormativity is so blantantly presented to us after the break up.

Even with all of that though, I also want to mention that the way she cares about Shima is, awfully familiar to the way Shima does Mitsumi (aside from his specific complexity of recognising his own emotions). I think, if we are going to say Shima can like Mitsumi aromantically, that it’s only fair to say the other way around too.

In conclusion, aro Mitsumi is a valid reading.

#skip to loafer #skip and loafer #iwakura mitsumi #i was gonna meme it but tbh the essay already wrote itself by the time i got here #i love mitsumi sm and she reminds me of my younger self too #autistic… ambitious… why not aro?#if anyone else still wants to clown me abt this after reading all that- consider #im aro so i can headcanon whoever i want as aro 😌#stl #stl spoilers #oop i didnt forget the spoiler tag

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thetooclevermartian · 5 months

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need to get on my a-spec soapbox for a bit

something that's been on my mind and bothering me is the fact that people are, in a way, gatekeeping characters from being headcanoned as aro/ace. most often i see it manifesting as "this character can't be aro/ace/aroace because they did x!" and it really really bothers me because we a-spec people have such little representation, and when we try to find some for ourselves, even through headcanons, that's taken away from us too.

for example, i saw a post about how katniss everdeen can't be aroace because she married peeta and had kids. (no hate to op btw, i'm just explaining why i disagree strongly). but that statement negates several things. 1) sexual and romantic attraction are spectrums. meaning that some people are going to be on them and still experience sexual and romantic attraction to a degree. they're still a-spec. personally, i headcanon katniss as demiromantic demisexual, meaning she'd need a close emotional bond with someone before she could be attracted to someone in either way. which fits with canon that she is attracted to peeta and also doesn't acknowledge experiencing attraction to anyone else (except maybe platonic attraction with gale but that's another thing). anyway. 2) ATTRACTION IS NOT REQUIRED FOR A RELATIONSHIP. or marriage. or kids. or sex. or kissing. or anything, really. to say katniss can't be a-spec because she does these things erases the experiences of aroaces that do do these things. plus, for younger me, an aroace kid who didn't know he was aroace, seeing a character that wasn't focused on romance at all was important to me. even now, it's still important to me! i'll stand by a-spec katniss because of that!

one that also bothers me, though i see where people are coming from, is kaz brekker and inej ghafa. and though i completely understand not headcanoning them as a-spec, i have seen people shaming the fact that others would interpret them as such. (not to mention i have a-spec headcanons for them both that are supported by canon, but that's a post for another time). in a world where a-spec people have such little representation, why would you try and make us feel bad for looking for it? who does it harm if we headcanon characters as such? i've also seen other people say, "you have tolya and harshaw [other grishaverse characters if you don't know], who are either confirmed or heavily implied, why would you headcanon kaz and inej?" and again, no hate to these people, but have you ever considered that a) i want a wide variety of aro/ace spectrum characters. this includes characters that experience sexual/romantic attraction to some degree, or not at all but still engage in sexual or romantic actions. b) aro and ace people are never the main characters. (and in the case of tolya and harshaw, i'd like there to be more than just two minor characters who are in only 4/9 books combined). because in typical literature and media, main characters have to have romance. they have to have sex, or sexiness, at least. and behind that, they have to have attraction. if they have these things without attraction, they're a slut or a whore or an emotionless robot. c) so often, i am looking for myself in characters, because i know if i don't search, i will almost never explicitly find them.

all this big long stuff to say that i cannot put into words the exact, deep, acute ache i feel when i think about aroace representation and about how little we have. who does it benefit to keep us from finding ourselves and our unique experiences in characters we like? i'm just so exhausted of having my identities' representations stolen from me just because people don't understand what it means to be aromantic or asexual. so for the love of all things, please just let me find happiness in my favorite characters, cause god knows we aren't getting good, varied, common representation anytime soon.

#ok i'm off the soapbox #for now #LET US HEADCANON CHARACTERS AS A-SPEC WITHOUT BACKLASH PLEASE I'M BEGGING #you can pry my a-spec headcanons out of my cold dead hands #aromantic #asexual #katniss everdeen #the hunger games #kaz brekker #inej ghafa #tolya yul bataar #harshaw #six of crows #shadow and bone #king of scars #grishaverse

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denalis-fnaf-shenanigans · 3 months

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~Random tidbits from the What Lurks Beneath FNAF SB AU~ (or head cannons, i guess)

It's not commonly known in the au that any of the hybrids are in a relationship, the only one that was known to the public was the one between Glamrock Freddy and Captain Foxy. The extent of that relationship was never really pondered by anyone. Freddy and Foxy are a queer platonic couple. (Freddy has stated that while he does carry deep affection for Foxy, he does not believe either him or Foxy express any sort of romantic love nor have either had the desire to express their love that way. could they if they wanted to? sure but they are both very old, soul wise and are comfortable with how they currently express their love. they absolutely kiss each other to embarrass Scout and Gregory however, laughing as the kids cringe at the PDA.)

Monty was known by most of the staff and fellow hybrids to have had a deep crush on Sugar, which was reciprocated and the two were possibly dating when Sugar failed to reawaken. Monty is then confused when he realizes that he likes the human caretaker, Laia, the same way he liked Sugar. he does not act on these feelings as Laia is a recent widow and single mother when he comes to understand what he was feeling, especially considering he still held feelings for Sugar. Laia did not deserve someone who still wanted someone else. (Monty is pansexual, like Laia. he's a big green gator man, he's gonna be happy if someone likes him to consider him in such a way. He's also the most mushy and doting man ever (after Freddy of course), and tries desperately to deny this and usually succeeds until Sugar is around. She makes him a big mushy puddle.)

Roxanne has never expressed any interest in a relationship but she often will playfully flirt with female staff, usually Laia or Angel as they are who Roxy like the most. Roxy has also flirted with Ash, who will often flirt right back and fluster the fuck out of the wolf. it is pondered that Roxy is also pan with a preference for feminine presenting people. (the closest person Roxy ever even considered dating was Ash, really liking their overall attitude and ability to sass her back when she sassed them. the only reason she did not is because it'd have been seen as an abuse of power of Ash's part as they are the head manager of the Pizzaplex and Roxy being quasi-property.)

it is speculated that Chica and Bonnie are similar to Freddy and Foxy, simply because Scout calls them mom and pops. While they do care for each other, neither have expressed an interest in any sort of relationship. be it with each other or others. Chica is ace while Bonnie is aromantic. (if asked who they would be in a relationship with if they wanted to, Chica answers with Freddy and Bonnie answers with Foxy. Bonnie considers Freddy as a brother and feels kinda weird about choosing any of the younger ones or humans. plus him and Foxy are a rambunctious duo if left to their own devices. Chica adores Freddy and says he's good friend who shows he cares a lot, Foxy does too but he's too rowdy for Chica's liking sometimes.)

(DJ, Sun, and Moon are also ace like Chica, btw. i just don't have much info for them as they are relatively new additions to the hybrid list.)

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aromantic-character-showdown · 10 months

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well, boy, im so glad you asked!

before we get there - hello, the person who has been obsessed with the visual novel in question for almost a year speaking. for any poll you see an entropic float character in, i am always one of the people to have submitted them, and i am the person who has been writing most of the propaganda for them (qpr-competition is also me, btw, any "i wrote that massive essay" over there come from me as well). my obsession is in part fueled by the fact that almost nobody knows it, but ive been working on that

with that out of the way...

Entropic Float: This World Will Decay And Disappear is a visual novel that features a cast of 14 characters in an Anomalous Clocktower. the anomaly is of the timeloop type - every 24 hours, as the clock strikes midnight, time rewinds, and you might or might not be able to remember the events of the past loops.

ive said this before and ill say it again - i consider the selling point of the game to be the characters, which is great, because at its core its about getting to know and love them - the phrase "mortifying ordeal of being known" is used verbatim in the route leading up to the true ending.

for example, Peri and Abel, both featured in this poll, are canonically aroace. they have been joined at the hip since they were kids, although that wasnt quite for the right reasons - Peri was being raised as a bodyguard for Abel and his older brother. at the core of their shared character arc is the struggle against amatonormativity - people assuming that, since theyre a boy and a girl and are best friends, they must fall in love with each other eventually, and are just too young right now; that they should give it time, and it will happen. the pressure is worrying for both of them, and Abel in particular has gone on puberty blockers; "these people must be right, but i dont want to become someone who falls in love, so i will stave off my growing up".

Jasper Jasmine "Jazz" Jekyll, who has been voted out in the preliminaries, is grey-aromantic and pansexual. however, the more present in the narrative part of her character is that she is a trans woman, and that she considers her gender to have changed rather than having always been there; "i was fine being a boy until i wasnt". she is working towards her masters in social studies, and has used her falling into the anomaly as data for her thesis.

as i have said, there is a total of 14 characters in the main cast; ive told you about three, as they are fitting for the theme of the bracket, but all of them are queer of various flavours, and written in a very alive way - from Shinji who im pretty sure is only stated to be bisexual in his profile and nowhere in the rest of the text, to Kanatsun who brings up questioning his sexuality in his memories and is still written down as questioning, to Loam whose gender identity isnt respected because of their disability, to JJ who throughout the anomaly gains the courage to come out as trans to his adoptive mom... theres a lot of different ones! fourteen of them!

and btw, its free, and available on steam and itch

Oooh!!!

#aromantic poll tournament #propaganda #entropic float #this sounds so fascinating!!

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northmelter · 9 months

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This post has been popping up on my dash every few days for the past MONTH and it's been kinda annoying me because it's so clear to me that this person does not read comics and is essentially angry over a game of telephone. We can have a conversation about asexual Shatterstar without pretending that FUCKING ROB LIEFELD EVER INTENTIONALLY WENT "today I will make representation for the asexual aromantic people of the world :)". ROB LIEFELD. He was supposed to be a cool emotionless alien warrior dude in Liefeld's eyes. Liefeld was not thinking about his sexuality when creating him in the 90s alongside all of Liefeld's other cool emotionless/angry (insert adjective) warrior dudes with 50 different belt pockets.

Shatterstar was not made bisexual to erase any asexuality. That isn't what happened. Liefeld CLAIMED he was acearo (not using that term, mind you. He just said he would never fuck, essentially, because "he's a Spartan. And not a gay one.") It was accidental coding at best, and it was used most prominently in a homophobic rant to shit on the choice to make him bisexual.

It'd be very cool if Shatterstar was acearo, and maybe he should've been, because acearo people are very, VERY underrepresented in media and there are only a few even slightly prominent asexual characters in comics, all extremely recently confirmed, but Marvel did not make that choice with him and the choice they did made was not to spite asexuality. It was the 2000s, and cishet comic writers from the 2000s barely knew what bisexual people were, much less asexual. That aside, I personally hc him as aspec as well as bisexual, which is definitely something a lot of people id as!

It's like... this person's mad and I get it because there really are so few acearo characters out there but also... please.... Rob Liefeld was not intentionally making rep for anybody outside of insanely jacked usually white guys who wear a shoe size 4 and who never feel any emotion except for :I or angrily screaming.

It's not much, but I recommend reading Gwenpool's Love Unlimited Infinity comic for a sweet story about her coming out as acearo, Conner Hawke's more recent appearances where he's canonized as asexual (and his old ones have similar accidental coding to Shatterstar, if you're interested!!! Again, not intentional, cause like with Shatterstar and Liefeld, a lot of them were written by a homophobe (Dixon) but still!) and the Pride stuff DC and Marvel put out yearly unusually have at least 1 ace story. And hopefully more prominent asexual characters get added/confirmed soon!

Also, don't be aphobic on this post btw. This is me correcting comic history inaccuracies, not shitting on someone for wanting more asexual comic characters.

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