#advice from a friend

[slfcare]

Hi!! I was just wondering how you tackle trolls and if you’ve got any tips, thank you <3

While valuing critique and being open to learn, you must always live and post from your own perspective.

Trolls are everywhere and they'll always find something to be unpleasant about. I'll never forget that when I was sixteen and had a positivity Instagram account, someone sent me a message that literally said, "you're so nice on here, you're probably a fucking bitch irl" ???? I think I responded to that with something like, "I'm sorry for the things you endured that made it so hard for you to believe in kindness when you see it." Because that's truly what it is. There always will be people who reject your message, and there will always be people who, rather than scrolling when they see something they don't like or relate to, will feel the burning need to add their own negativity to it. Negativity that stems from their past experiences and often has nothing to do with you.

You can't really tackle trolls. But you must deal with them intently. Block anyone who makes you feel less than, or whose additions you don't like. Don't spend time replying to messages meant to hurt you, like I shouldn't have done at sixteen. And recognise the difference between critique meant to educate you / help you do better, and comments meant to simply hurt you.

Is the internet ever going to be a 100% positive experience? No. But you can increase the odds by not sitting with the trolls, blocking them fast, and then moving on with your day.

#advice from a friend #don’t be a stranger

[we-might-as-well-live]

#mantra #advice from a friend #you can do this #you deserve this #gij kunt da #gij verdient da

[criticalrolo]

I had a post a while ago about making sure your dnd character WANTS to be an adventurer a while ago, something else I’ve been thinking about is the importance of making a dnd character that WANTS to be in a group and have some sort of relationship with other PCs. the Group Nature of ttrpgs means lone wolves just aren’t feasible. if you really want to play a lone wolf or antisocial character at the beginning then I highly recommend telling your dm and the others players that you plan on forming bonds along the way and growing out of that mindset. otherwise why are you playing dnd, a group activity that involves cooperation and building relationships? Just Write A Book if you don’t wanna be in a group

#the advice Just Write A Book goes out to DMs a lot but it also applies to PCs I think #I’ve had character ideas that I’ve moved from PC to Book Character for this reason!! #I do like lone wolves who don’t trust others but they’re way more fun to read about than actually play #pls cooperate with the other players and be friends at the table lol #dnd

[flamingpudding]

Cassiopea and Orion #2

Previous Part

A/N: I probably shouldn't be thinking up so many different story lines. But my mind won't let me focuse on something else in peace unless I write these snippets and parts out. So here have another part XD I still have a whole Danny and Bruce backstory conversation in my head that I will probably write out at some point too.

"Really B, another one?" A red helmet wearing guy huffed the moment he spotted her, the little black haired blue eyed girl, sitting on a railing by a huge computer set up Ellie was sure Uncle Tuck would have drooled over.

She blinked at the new arrival before her eyes went over to the man. The one she had told that Phantom lost his haunt. When she had spoken these words the air around the man had changed. Before Ellie even really knew what was happening, the man had turned away from her, talking to the still tense boy before whisking the both of them away to a cave. The place she was now, and one after another more and more of the weirdly dressed people showed up. Each of them appeared to feel the need to comment on something, Ellie heavily believed to be an inside joke.

She let her eyes wander over all the arrivals, her fingers nervously drumming on the metal of the railing she was sitting on. Watching them carefully, despite what Danny had told her, she would bold at the first sight of danger from them. They didn't appear to have any ecto-weapons but that could be false impression. Like the GIW. They had appeared so incompetent only to do a 180 decades later.

"So what is going on? Is B printing adoption papers already?" The red and black one appeared to joke and Ellie tilted her head. There definitely was a insider joke she was not aware of. It would be weird to ask them about it wouldn't it? It would also be rude and tactless. Danny and Aunt Jazz had tried to teach her to not always blurt out every question that pops up in her head. Key words, not always.

"Why would the furry need adoption papers?"

She blinked at how a couple of the people broke out laughing while the kid, who had been watching her like a hawk, was now full on shooting daggers at her. She was pretty sure the kid would have thrown a literal one at her, but something as keeping them from doing so. She heard a grunt, and her eyes went back to the man that had brought her here.

"Not necessary." The man muttered as he turned to face them, clicking a key on the keyboard of the computer, and Ellie blinked as an image of Phantom popped up on screen. The people laughing appeared to quiet down now. "She already has a father."

"Mom." Ellie automatically corrected, shrugging when they looked at her. Before everything had gone to shits and Danny's capture, he had become quiet the mother hen, especially with Dan's and her de-aging. The constant mothering and worry about their well-being had caused Dan to joke that Danny was acting like a mother and she had continued to run with that joke. Even after they had to put Dan into a frozen state under Frostbites care in Far Frozen. The two had silently agreed on that Danny was their mom. The past didn't matter and she would honour their silent sibling agreement.

She didn't elaborate any further and they seemed to get that as they turned back to the man by the computer, putting their attention on that. Though she did noticed that the other kids eyes lingered on her longer.

"This is Phantom. A ghost hero stationed at Amity Park. Code: Rho, one of Cassiopea's dying stars." The man paused, and Ellie swore he had looked at her under his cowl. "And this girl's, Elliza Danielle Phantom Nightingale's, mother. Code: Jupiter, the wandering star."

"How do you know my full name?! Plus, my only recently added ones! They are like only a month old! And what about these weird Codes?" She blurred out wide-eyed, staring at the man in bat costume.

"Even if sparse Phantom and I stayed in contact using these codes." And Ellie narrowed her eyes at him. "Doesn't answer my question."

"Actually, B we would also like to know more." One of the onlookers, that's what Ellie decided they were for now, piped up.

Bat guy grunted, staring them down but not answering. The onlooker in blue sighed but Ellie wasn't giving in. She crossed her arms, keeping her balance by floating slightly on the railing.

"Look, you big bad bee, if you can't tell me that, then how am I supposed to trust you to help me, let alone the rescue of Da- Phantom!"

The onlookers snickered as she held her little staring contest with the big bad bee. Jokes on that guy she had held staring contests with Frighty before and he doesn't even remember how to blink at times.

"Phantom and I correspond about various topics since our teen years." The bat guy finally admitted. "One of which was about... our children."

Ellie blinked several times. Until her eyes widened in realization and she pointed an accusing finger at bat guy. "You're the one that kept calling Danny about parent advice! Like how he got me to go to online school and prevented me from sneaking out or how he handled Dan's anger tantrums!"

"Wait... B went to someone other than Agent A for parent advice?" The red and black onlooker questioned and Ellie shrugged. Danny had always been sort of parenting her since he was 16 and Dan once they learned he was aging lower and then the de-aging happened. She did remember that Danny got his first phone call about parent advice when he was around 24.

Now that Ellie thought about it. That was also around the time he took her aside to tell her about the emergency code.

"Which one of us do you guys think was the cause?"

"Wing."

"Hood."

"Demon Brat."

Ellie blinked once more, her attention turning back to the onlookers as thet started to argue among themselves. She tilted her head, watching them. Looks like she accidentally got them off topic. Though now she really wanted to get the story out of Danny once they rescued him. For years she had caught snippets of Danny's phone calls, to think that the guy on the other end was a armored spandex wearing furry. She couldn't wait to tell Dan about that.

Well, once their mom was saved and her brother stabilized again.

#danny fenton #danny phantom #dp x dc #dpxdc #crossover #dcxdp #de aged ellie #de aged dan #ellie phantom #bruce wayne #damian wayne #tim drake #jason todd #dick grayson #danny and bruce are childhood friends #they have a series of star and constellation themed code words and phrases #danny got captured and amity is gone #Ellie is seeking help from the bats #parent Danny #Bruce got parenting advice from Danny #Danny was a acting like a parent before Bruce #all this is news to the batkids #like how did Bruce keep a childhood friend like that a secret from them for so long #Alfred knew though #late night ideas continued

[yuwuta]

Nanami ver of bsf upstaging bf?? ❤️

listen… i meant what i said when nanami is just as bad, if not worse when it comes to driving your boyfriend away/upstaging him... maybe his tact makes him a better man than satoru, but you could also argue that it doesn’t; you could argue that kento is is only as respectful as necessary and consciously pushes boundaries, whereas satoru just does!! he just IS!! satoru IS overbearing and knows no consequence, but kento is not and he is very aware that evert action has a consequence, but he weighs it, determines it’s worth it, or—arguably worse—determines that the threat of your boyfriend getting mad or figuring him out isn’t high enough. kento is premeditated murder, he is going to drive your boyfriend so insane, to a place where he fully believes he cannot compete where he cannot compares, and kento will not feel bad about it. so, i rest my case, vice president of the not shit club, and their children are NO better!! 

also, having been friends with kento sets a bar that your past and/or current boyfriend must quickly learn to meet, and more often than not, they don’t even come close. why go on random dating-app dates when kento sends food to your house just because he had an inkling you were sad (you texted him in a certain way that tipped him off). dates meeting you halfway at a restaurant/bar isn’t nearly as flattering when kento drives an hour in heavy rain and traffic after work to pick you up, just to make good on seeing a movie you told him you were excited about. expensive dinner dates and bar hopping becomes mundane when that’s the normal for you and kento, when he regularly takes you out to dinner, if not weekly, then at least bi-weekly, because he’s intentional about your friendship and having time to spend and catch-up with each other in between busy work days. it’s hard to be impressed with a boyfriend when your best-friend takes you on his twice-yearly vacations and pays for everything, citing that even though getting a proper vacation is hard, he loves the time spent with you, so it’s all worth it. kento doesn’t even have to wait for some guy to become your boyfriend, he puts any potential partners out of the running by the standards he’s already set for you. 

#anonymous #in the words of exo he did it all with a smile on his face too like he is JUST as bad as satoru!!!!! #it's always nanami respectful king this nanami the standard that--HES NOT SHIT!!! TRUST ME!!! #and say you do get a boyfriend or a partner... that poor person.... it's a wrap for them #kento doesn't even need to show how close u two are your bf is gonna feel insecure by sheer comparison and kento is going to enjoy it..sick #no wonder he and gojo are friends! birds of a feather flock together!!! #their children (megumi/yuuji/yuuta) learned this behavior from them. it was TAUGHT #the takeaway dating advice is just 'dont let someones boyfriend stop you from being their husband' 😇😇 NOT SHIT!!!!! #jujutsu kaisen x reader #jjk x reader #jjk fluff #jjk smut #jujutsu kaisen fluff #jujutsu kaisen smut #nanami kento x reader #kento x reader #nanami fluff #jjk scenarios #jjk imagines #nanami x reader

[hylianane]

And when OPLA calls back to Zeff telling the crew to read stories to Zoro so he can hear their voices and recover faster, by having Sanji sit by his bedside on Thriller Bark and read him a book about the All Blue. What will you do then?

#literally the scene of Nami reading Zoro Noland’s book at the Baratie is my favorite addition #cause East Blue Nami is so damn prideful so seeing her do something that seems silly- #(reading to someone who isn’t listening) #-is such a fun way to mark her progress as a character #I can see her being the one to remind Sanji of Zeff’s advice and the act of reading to Zoro being a way to process the sort of. #hit to his pride and even self-perception that is Zoro’s interference in Thriller Bark. #why did Zoro stop him? Why would Zoro want to die in his place? Choose his dream instead of his own? #(maybe because he knew that sitting by your friend still body- helpless- is the worst feeling in the world) #Aside from this though I can specifically see the book being about the All Blue working #cause its a reminder about what a wonderful dream Sanji has. It’s a way to regain vigor and the willingness to fight for it #after having just tried to discard it in the face of Kuma moments prior #matt owens are you out there. please #opla #one piece #roronoa zoro #blackleg sanji #opla spoilers #for like future seasons that may or may not even happen #my post #zosan

[hrokkall]

HOW TO PIN YOUR INSECTS:

Position limbs into desired arrangement and pin in place

Maintain eye contact

Pin should pass through the center of the thorax

Move slowly; lest the divine light leak out along with the ichor

Wait for the embers to die.

Wait for the embers to reignite.

#Ultrakill #V1 #V1 Ultrakill #Gabriel Ultrakill #Gabv1el #Insects #Disclaimer. Not actual insect pinning advice. If that wasn't obvious from the start. #Cw: #Blood #Should I tag this animal death. Maybe? Hell if I know #Hm. I think I'll leave it at #Ask to tag #Just in general. #Don't ask me to put this in the ship tag though I'm not doing it (if I tag it ship know it was a moment of weakness... Joking.) #Anyway I don't want to talk about how long this took. Fuck's sake. This is like the third attempt at this concept #The first one I just didn't vibe with and the second you couldn't see the pins well enough (I would say it was also too horny-looking but.) #(but so is this one. As told to my by my peer reviewer. And by that I mean my friend I sent the sketch to and they said- #''I don't see how your other sketch could possibly be worse than this''. Thank you for the encouragement. I'll add more bloodlust next time #EDIT: FIXED A MISTAKE THAT WAS BOTHERING ME #EDIT 2: I caved. It's in the ship tag now.

[the-lark-ascending69]

Sick of "Robin wouldn't date her best friend's ex". Get ready for "haha Steve i'm fucking your ex"

#robin would actually think it's so funny that she got back at steve after he (unknowingly) ''stole'' tammy from her for years #it's something that only makes sense in her head #ronance #tbh i don't think Robin would even register it as a problem #i imagine her talking about it with Dustin and Lucas (they're all she could find) #and they're like !! no! your friend's ex is off limits!! you can't do that! #and robin is like ?? why not?? #''dude think about steve!'' #''what about steve?'' #''he's your friend!'' #''he said it didn't bother him'' #''yeah duh he can't say otherwise #that will make him look like the bad guy'' #''why would he say he has no problem with it if he did? i can't read his mind you know'' #''dude it's obvious'' #''i still don't understand what the problem is'' #she wonders how come she ended up taking advice from 15yo boys anyway

[telepathic-burden]

So, was I just meant to learn that Saiki full on called himself Kaidou's friend in episode 3 all by myself or...?

#because what do you mean #what do you mean “choose your friends more carefully“ and ”that's advice from a friend” huh?? #what do you mean #berryrandom #saiki k #tdlosk #the disastrous life of saiki k.

[moonstoneraven]

they are friends now :)

#kingdom hearts coded #kingdom hearts #kh #kh ienzo #ienzo #data sora #data riku #ienzo and the data boyfriends are now friends #he has two gay little computer programs as his assistants :) #kingdom hearts recoded #they give him advice and it ranges from very helpful to wtf is this

[itscuntingseason]

zuko: just be confident katara! boys like that

toph: how the fuck would you know what boys like?

zuko: cause i'm a BOY toph, i'm a real live boy

aang: oh yeah like pinocchio

#text #atla #avatar the last airbender #toph #katara #zuko #aang #derry girls #shitpost #quote from derry girls btw #just imagine zuko is helping katara with boy advice idk #idk like even though zuko isn't the only guy in the friend group i just feel like he's the James in comparison to derry girls

[zishuge]

Mysterious Lotus Casebook (2023) | Ep. 19

#mysterious lotus casebook #莲花楼 #li lianhua #fang duobing #cheng yi #zeng shunxi #cdramaedit #mlcedit #*gifs:mine #remember when llh tells fdb “we can't always live up to the expectations of others – maybe li xiangyi never expected so much from you” #first time i saw it i was like TAKE YOUR OWN ADVICE! but then i realized that for li xiangyi it wasn't simply “others” #it was “the whole world and everyone he knew including himself”* #because no one's expectations of li xiangyi were ever higher than li xiangyi's #and of course we all know that the second something went wrong most of sigu sect immediately laid the blame at his feet #but fdb is saying that no... everyone's expectations of li xiangyi were bullshit actually #the standards were simply unattainable #li lianhua told fang duobing “maybe li xiangyi never expected so much from you” #and this is fang duobing telling him “maybe li xiangyi should never have expected so much from himself” #and you can see li lianhua's entire worldview shifting just a little to the right (gifs 3+5) #and that soft smile at the end. which of course leads into “to my new friend. my best friend.” lsakjfdsldfkjasldk #it's not enough to change his mind really – it's too little and much too late to drown out a decade of self-loathing and guilt #but i wonder – if fang duobing had been able to be by his side for those ten years #telling him this again and again and again #you weren't perfect. you didn't need to be. you were young. you were trying. you were good. you were so good. #if li lianhua might have been able to heal that terrible rift inside himself #aughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh #translation notes: it made me chuckle that iqiyi's translation for gif 6 was: “they're just a bunch of selfish posers” very succinct. #also this lighting was so difficult to color ack i never really know what to do with a super green bg #*shifu as the only exception and thus shifu remains forever the best.

[corvase]

platonic soulmate prompts

these came from my heart and a past friendship of mine. enjoy and feel free to use :)

“you’re my sister, my love, and my best friend. thank you for existing.”

holding hands <33

hugs !!!!

long distance friendships </3

but if they’re long distance they can send each other packages n stuff

“you mean the world to me. did i ever tell you that?”

if one of the characters doesn’t have a father figure, what if their friend walked them down the aisle

“STOP LAUGHING I DONT KNOW WHAT TO GET YOU FOR YOUR BIRTHDAY.” “whatever you get me, i’m sure i’ll love it.”

“i love you.” “don’t make me cry.”

the moment they have their first real conversation and they’re both so much like “THEYRE JUST LIKE MEEEE” and they know right away this is going to be a forever friendship

“this is so weird to say, but i’m so glad i met you.” “that’s not weird to say at all.”

“you’re so freaking cool.”

“i feel like we haven’t talked in a minute. how are you?”

“i love you. i don’t think i can say that enough.” “i’m pretty fond of you, too.”

“i feel like, id give my heart to you if you were about to die.” “…….. id pour water on you if you were on fire too, i guess.”

“you’re a nerd.” “you’re a dummy. now what?”

giving each other life advice

^ “i know it may not help now, but honestly, what’s meant to happen will happen. what’s meant for you will find you.” “i guess that’s why you found me.”

“if you don’t go i’m not going.”

“you know that guy i was talking to?” “which one?” “STOP.”

them saying things at the same time and then being like TWINNNN

“i get to tell everyone my best friend is a [profession]… sounds like a win to me.”

#i love platonic soulmates #i miss having one :’) #these may or may not have been taken from my own messages… will i delete them ever???? probably not. xoxo gossip girl #friend prompts #friendship prompts #platonic writing prompts #platonic prompts #platonic pining prompts #friendship writing prompts #imagine your otp #otp prompts #writing prompts #writeblr #writing #writing tips #writing advice #dialogue prompts

[akkpipitphattana]

ray saw those "say thank you instead of sorry" posts and decided to thank sand for saving his life instead of apologizing for calling him a whore

#ray takes mental health advice from derange tumblr girlies only #only friends #sandray #ofts

[uncanny-tranny]

I think what might actually help the families of trans loved ones is to actually engage with where the trans person is at - especially if the family isn't quite understanding yet. When I came out, I was completely alone in figuring out my manhood. I had peers and I had exposed myself to so many trans people who explored gender, and while it was amazing, it isn't quite the same at times. I grieve quietly, sometimes, about all the missed opportunities that might have just made it easier for my family to have seen how utterly happy I was. It took them a very long time to actually notice that I was happy, especially once I got on testosterone. I'm lucky that they saw that happiness eventually, and slowly accepted it. My manhood is completely detached from their influence, both to my relief and chagrin. It's sad to me that I learned to shave from a kind online stranger, somebody who didn't even have a father and yet, I do. I have a father. I grieve at the loss of a potential shared experience. I grieve about the pain I went through when I was in that stage of transition, especially because it was raw and vulnerable. I grieve that many trans people today are traversing the path I had to, because it's sometimes lonely (even when you do have other forms of support).

It's hard to know that I will never have gotten my sense of being from my family. In many ways, it has severed a lot of connection with them because there were so many times that I was begging them to see happiness when they were focused on the idea that I was almost in a state of purgatory - flesh which felt warm but held no familiarity to them. I don't harbor ill-will toward them, I hope I don't leave the impression that I despise them. I understand what they felt, even if I can't conceptualize it myself. However, it's a raw wound in my heart, and I don't want to leave anybody else feeling that way, either.

#trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #mtf #nonbinary #ally advice #i'm thankful that my manhood is the way it is. but it was a painful journey to get here and i did it partially alone #i absolutely am grateful to have had my friends and the trans people who made themselves known though. i owe these people my life #i still think it's not unreasonable to have wished for my /family/ to have been part of that journey sooner especially when i was young #sometimes it seems like parents who believe their child has died after they express their transness make that a self-fulfilling prophecy... #...in that the parent often aloenates themself/themselves from their child in a variety of ways... #...i was alienated from my dad when he threatened my transition - it became a self-fulfilling prophecy in that i shut myself down... #...i retreated inward and in a way became a ghost - corporeal to the touch but a spirit who may not be seen... #...in many ways i felt in limbo between life and death. it was a cycle of purgatory #and that is something i think is best avoided. it's lonely and scary and it makes it hard to imagine a future #i need to emphasize that even though this was shitty i am still lucky in so many ways #i just faced a lot of undue shit even so - shit i don't think was conducive to a good environment or well-being

[cerealmonster15]

i love these freaky little teens and their freaky little relationship problems within their freaky little marriage. this is how it works in MY mind no matter WHAT anthony burch may or may not say re: hermies feelings 😌

#oakworthy #dndads #hermie the unworthy #normal oak #lincoln li wilson #taylor swift dndads #scary marlowe #dndads spoilers #dungeons and daddies #cereal tries to draw #LISTEN god i will go to my grave insisting hermies in mega denial rn #also i just love how into the role lincoln got calling everyone honey jslkdjfklsdj HES SO FUNNYYYY #and also. i love that lincoln is both the number 1 hermie hater #and also the number 1 oakworthy wingman #hes trying so hard to help normal look good sdljkfd HE'S A TRUE FRIEND IT'S SOOO SWEET #what a good husband 😌 #anyway i was just thinking about how it would be funny #if normal and linc were spending a lotta time together #bc normals agonizing over his crush/getting advice from lincoln or something #like about hermie but hermies off out of earshot and is just like whatever. #those 2 can be married forever for all i care. we have nothing. i dont care i DONT #and the taylors like wow dude youre really loud over here this is just like my animes #and terriscary comes too bc shes soooo excited to get to play matchmaker between her husbands!!!!!!!! wow!!!! #also i love drawing tiny pouting hermie it's my favorite thing ever #ok thanks bye