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people who do not know how to process their own emotions and the emotions of others, will interpret you expressing your emotions as “drama”

#i will try to find the tiktok that said this #automnelog #friendship #friends #ex friends #exes #ex #toxic people #toxic relationship #toxic friends #toxic frienship #toxic behavior #fake friends #friendship breakup #bad friends #bad friendships #bad friend #relationships #relationship #Toxic Relationships

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we have to stop labelling any behavior that we don’t like, or deviate from our own experience as “neurotypical” 

#automnelog #mental health #actually neurodiverse #neurodivergent #neurotypical #mental illness #adhd #actuallyautistic #autism #ment

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Asking your friend if they are ok is not overstepping boundaries wtf

#automnelog #i had a friend who taught like that #toxic relationship #ex friends #toxic friends #ex friend #toxic behavior #toxic frienship #toxic people #friendship #bad friends

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obsessed with these people that changes their whole aesthetics and personality when they discover a new media

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it’s always a pleasure when i wake up and there’s 20+ notes from the same blog, like glad you like what i post :) <3

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“why is every gay rep booooring??? why doesn’t it feel the same way as queerbait??” maybe if you stopped comparing lighthearted romcoms with highly dramatic action media that has queer subtext you wouldn’t feel this way. or if you stopped only watching popular and mainstream shows with sanitized rep digestible for a straight audience, or for teenagers, you wouldn’t feel like the representation you’re consuming is boring. 

also please stop using queerbait instead of subtext, it’s annoying

#if you don't like watching teens falling in love with minimal conflict or drama... #maybe don't watch the lighthearted highschool romcom #automnelog #queer #queer media #queer rep #lgbtq #lgbt #lgbt+ #lgbt rep #gay #gay rep #gay representation #lesbian #bi #bisexual

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nothing is more cringe than being around a person who really wants you to believe that they are super weird and quirky while being none of these things

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have you ever met a queer person that was very much cishet coded? most nightmarish experience of my life

#don't take this too seriously #automnelog #there's something uncanny about them #queer #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtq+

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It's weird when people say that gay/bi/trans people who want to move to the suburbs, own a house, get married and have kids are somehow "assimilating to the straight lifestyle" and are "domesticating themselves". Like what is the implication? That gay people shouldn't get married and have kids? That all gay people want is to live in the city, go to nightclub and only have hookups?

It's very reductive of what being gay is. Some people like the suburban family lifestyle and some like the social party one. And they're both right. And some like neither of them.

It's also a very privileged way of thinking. Big cities are sometimes not accessible to some gay folks. It's difficult to find accessible and accommodating apartment and if it's not, you can't make renovation. The city is also loud and overwhelming, so some neurodivergent gays will not feel safe there (like me)

And some just want to go live in the middle of the wood like a weird hermit.

#nightclubs are famously known for being inaccessible for nearly every kind of disabled ppl #automnelog #lgbt #lgbt+ #lgbtq community #lgbtq #gay #lesbian #bisexual #trans #transgender

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with every day passing, it feels more and more that “BL” has become the socially acceptable term replacement for yaoi, without changing much

#automnelog #i don't fell like tagging this one

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It's okay to feel jealous when you see the person who hurt you and/or abandoned you being nice and thoughtful to their new friends or partner. It's ok to feel lime it's unfair that this person made effort for them, but not for you. But don't forget; the new person is not at fault.

#automnelog #friendship #toxic frienship #toxic relationship #jealousy #bad friends #toxic friends #bad friend #toxic behavior #friends #toxic people #mental illness #mental help #mental health #recovery #healing #ex friend #ex friends #fake friends #fake friend #heartbreak #bad break up #friendship breakup #breakup #heartache

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a lot of you do not know the feeling of being friend with the girl everybody loved and then being mistreated and disrespected by that girl and when you try to explain to other people what happened for guidance, you’re met with a shit load of “i’m sure she didn’t mean it”, “it must be a misunderstanding” “she’s a nice girl, i’m sure if you go talk to her she will understand”, etc.. and then you feel like you’re completely crazy for thinking so badly of her, and wonder why are you like this? and you wonder why you cry over this whole situation because you must be the bad person in this situation, right? And then you start realising that those people only tolerated you because you were friend with her

and then years later you feel the relief of realising that no, you weren’t the problem or the person to blame, and then you feel the pain of wondering why did she do this to me?

#automnelog #toxic friends #emotional abuse #toxic frienship #ex friends #ex friend #toxic behavior #abusive behavior #toxic relationship #abusive relationship #bad friend #bad friends #bad friendships

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it’s extremely funny to me when tosa fans are incapable of thinking of patroclus and achilles as buff middle aged men at the time of their death. i see a bunch of fanarts and it’s two slightly muscular twinks in their mid twenties. it’s hilarious. they only fixate on the time when yhey were young there’s something to be said idk

Like the best representation of these 2 was in Hades the game. Finally middle ages guys who actually looks like they were fighters in a war.

#automnelog #the song of achilles #tsoa #achille #patroclus #hades #hades game #i might regret tagging this #books

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thinking about the cyclicality of stories and repeating themes, like an immortal always falling in love with the reincarnation of the same person, someone repeating the same action out of love despite having their memories earased each time, someone living the same life as their parent and ancestors, someone making the same mistake as their predecessors but never learning from their mistakes, the same fairy tale being told over and over again but with different characters...

but also the act of breaking the cycle; someone finally letting themselve being helped, people learning from past mistakes, someone decidind to stray from the path of their ancestors by finally loving the person they love, breaking the cycle of pain and doom, changing the path with love and compassion...

#themes #cycles #automnelog #stories #litterature #media #this may or may not be about witch hat atelier #it's about following the cycle for love #and breaking it for love #ya know

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When you have been conditioned to think that your only purpose as a friend is to listen to their problems and issues, them not wanting to talk about feels like you've failed as a friend, or feels like betrayal.

#automnelog #therapist friend #friendship #toxic frienship #toxic relationship #bad friends #toxic friends #bad friend #toxic behavior #friends #toxic people #bad friendships

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Remembering when I told my ex friend how she made me feel abandoned and worthless because she was ignoring me and I started crying. And she ended up leaving, crying, because seeing me cry was ~too much~ for her.

And then it turned out the reason she was ignoring me was because she wasn't interested in being my friend anymore. Like she lost interest. wtf.

#she was also the ex friend who outed me against my will later like fuck off #automnelog #anti empaths #using this tag because it all makes me think of her asdjjggjsjgs #toxic #toxic friends #toxic relationship #friendship #toxic frienship #bad friends #friends #ex friends #ex friend #empaths #she exists in multiplicity in my head