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petrichara · 7 months

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Friends we used to know

1- Caitlin Conlon @cgcpoems / 2- Jodi Picoult, Nineteen Minutes / 3- Mitski, The Frost / 4- Emily Carey, House of the Dragon / 5- Girlpool, Before the World was Big / 6- Emily Carey / 7- Rob Reiner, Stand By Me

#childhood friendships #friendship breakup #grief #quotes #compilations #parallels #webweaving

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youadans-reverie · 8 months

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Sometimes, I miss people that used to be in my life and feel the urge to reach out and tell them "hey I know we don't talk anymore but I still fold my sweater the way you taught me to". Not in a "I want you back in my life" way but more of a "my life has more colors now because of all the days we spent laughing together and I'm thankful for that".

#poetry #i miss you #writers #we were girls together #art #love #friendship breakup #breakup #cute #heartache

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chaosmagicwanda · 9 months

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No matter how good you could be to somebody, no matter how much you love them, they can and will turn their backs on you.

#sad post #sad posting #sad thoughts #betrayal #fake friends #fake people #toxic friends #toxic friendship #toxic people #toxic behavior #grieving a friendship #friendship breakup #friendship loss #breakup #losing a friend #grief #heartbroken #heartbreak

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whendidmythoughtsgocrazy · 1 year

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We don't talk about friendship breakups enough. The ones who just vanished from your life, without a say and any reason. The ones who got envious of you achieving your goals instead of cheering you on. The ones who got into a relationship and now you're no longer part of their life. The ones who stopped reading your messages and asking how you're doing. The ones you realized who never said I love you back, that they’ve missed you too.

k.b. // friendship breakups are just as painful

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permdaydreamer · 9 months

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is it normal for your chest to physically hurt when thinking about old friends who you don’t talk to anymore for no reason other than slowly and silently growing apart?

#asking for a friend #friendship breakup #old friends #growing up #girlhood #childhood #nostaliga #heartbreak #emotional

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flowerflowerflo · 27 days

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friendship breakups 🎀 . ࣪˖

OKAY. so. i was best friends with this girl for 7 years and only recently i ditched her! after so so so so long i ditched her. finally. and my god i feel SO much better.

˚₊‧꒰ა friendship ໒꒱ ‧₊˚

someone that you experience a bond with.

˚₊‧꒰ა toxic friendship ໒꒱ ‧₊˚

someone who drains you and hurts you while still considering themselves a friend.

i think one of the hardest parts of this whole situation is figuring out what makes somebody toxic for you without constantly over-romanticising all the good parts.

˚₊‧꒰ა clear signs of a toxic friendship ໒꒱ ‧₊˚

♡ dreading communication with them

♡ feeling drained after interactions

♡ being insecure and fearful around them

♡ holding off on telling them big things

♡ used as a joke way too often

♡ kept in the dark as just a "backup plan"

♡ left out & overlooked.

a friend should be somebody who hypes you up and makes you laugh and rambles for ages with you and makes dumb jokes with you and makes you happy and doesn't leave you out or make you feel alienated or upset or anything like that. it took me 4 whole years to actually realise this.

now, if you find yourself in a position where you are experiencing these signs of a toxic friendship but aren't really sure what to do, this is what i did!:

🎀𓂃 ࣪˖ weigh out the goods & bads

if you're currently stuck with somebody who makes you feel drained and insecure and whatever else may be making you feel as though maybe you should cut them off, it sounds a little weird but as somebody who works way better puzzling things out when doing it on paper, i made a whole pros and cons list of what this friendship brings to my life. having a physical representation of your confusing thought process around the whole situation can be very beneficial and help to put your thoughts into clarity so you can make a decision that actually helps and aligns with you and go from there.

🎀𓂃 ࣪˖ figure out your friendship standards

everybody always talks about having standards in romantic relationships and love and all that but i barely hear anything on standards for friendships. friendships are just as important as romantic relationships, and having standards for friendships is equally essential as it would be in a relationship if you dont want to attract scruffy, dirty, insecure people who will only drag you down. ask yourself what your ideal friend looks like; somebody who shares your interests, somebody who supports you, somebody with a similar mindset to you, similar background to you; what is it that you want in a friendship? how do you define friendship? what does that look like for you? make a list and keep it somewhere safe. refer to this when making new friends and cutting them off.

🎀𓂃 ࣪˖ think back on your actions

a harsh truth of life is sometimes we are the problem. something i did for way longer than i should have is spend time going back over my every word, every movement, every action to see if there was something i did wrong. now dont do what i did, but do just sit down for a little bit and think if there was anything you could have possibly done and bring it up with them to resolve it if you did. admitting your wrongs is not weak. it is the strongest thing one can do.

🎀𓂃 ࣪˖ get a second opinion

one thing that helped me was talking to my mum about it. me and my mum are really close so i chose her but it can be another close friend, a parent, a partner, just whatever you feel comfy with. try to put it into a hypothetical situation so that they have no prior biased views on the situation and explain to them the scenario and see what they would do and what they would say. if you have no one to do it with, then thats absolutely fine because this is completely optional and just helped me to reassure myself a bit, but you can also think of it from an outsiders perspective or if a friend was telling you that they are experiencing what you're currently going through so you can get an unbiased opinion from yourself.

🎀𓂃 ࣪˖ let yourself feel how you feel

if you need to, just sit and cry for a bit. journal, write, wallow in your own sadness for a bit if thats what you need to release it from yourself. suppressing and holding all this in is way, way worse for you than letting it out could ever be. just have one night where you rot and cry and be sad about it. this releases the negative energy you've been holding onto about it and i promise you will feel so much lighter afterwards.

🎀𓂃 ࣪˖ demonising and romanticising

in these situations, its best to keep a neutral mindset towards them. even if its toxic, they were your friends in the first place for a reason and even if you shouldn't romanticise them dont demonise them and completely despise them either because thats not good for you or them. they are still an experience you went through in your life and are to be learnt from, nothing more. respect the good parts just as much as the bad parts.

🎀𓂃 ࣪˖ dealing with conflict

something i really really worried about for years when i wanted to leave my ex-best friend was the falling out and the social backlash, seeing as she's fairly popular too. but while i was expecting sooo much backlash and conflict, it turns out that if you do it the right way, nobody really cares. sure, it might attract a little attention for a while, but trust in yourself and remembering that nobody will actually care about this in a few weeks will get you through and you can move on with your life. if people can turn against you from only hearing one side of the story, they were never your people. plus, why are you stressing about validation from people you don't even like in the first place?

🎀𓂃 ࣪˖ detachment

one thing that has saved me in many, many situations, including this one, is not giving a fuck. i will be making a post on detachment at some point but detachment in friendship breakups especially is so important because its easy to let your emotions get the best of you and control you and make irrational decisions in these situations. staying completely indifferent and detached and comfortable in yourself with you as your main priority has to be one of if not the most important part of this whole process.

🎀𓂃 ࣪˖ moving on

obviously moving on is difficult. moving on might be one of the most difficult things about the whole experience of a friendship breakup. so along with feeling the emotions and releasing them like i mentioned earlier, acknowledge that it's okay to mourn the past, even if they were bad for you. thats perfectly normal and okay. but do not let it consume you. trust in yourself and that this is for the best, and be proud of yourself for getting out of that friendship because there's so much you haven't yet learned and so many people you haven't yet met that will change your whole life in ways you can't possibly imagine right now. ♡

🎀𓂃 ࣪˖ trusting yourself

trust that no matter what's going on right now you will always be able to bounce back from it. trust your judgement and that if it makes you feel this bad, you arent overreacting, you arent overemotional, you arent just sensitive and it is genuinely affecting and impacting you. everything is an experience to be learnt and grow from and this is no different. its uncomfortable and its scary but the shift to getting everything you want is often scary and uncomfortable because of how much has to change to achieve that reality. if there's one person you're always going to have no matter what, it's going to be you. you are your own best friend. trust yourself above anybody and everybody else.

🎀𓂃 ࣪˖ actually cutting them off

one thing i did that i feel could have ended things a lot easier is not procrastinate the process of actually cutting them off. it was a little easier for me because she was ghosting me anyway so i did the same and told her no whenever she wanted me to do something because i refuse to be a second option, but if you're not comfortable with that and can't do it in a good or polite way because of whatever circumstances you might be in then just politely tell them. plan out what you wanna say in your head, dont think about it and just tell them. it will all be for the best, i promise. being uncomfortable is a part of change. you can do this.

overall, everybody enters your life and everybody leaves your life for a reason. please don't take this personally. people are not meant to stay forever. relationships are precious and fleeting, no matter what kind, and you should treasure them, good or bad, while accepting it might not be right for you anymore. people aren't supposed to stay forever and losing friends shows that you are growing. you've got this, okay? 💞💗

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blogauroragloryme · 1 month

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Everybody talks about failed love relationships or break up between lovers,but what about friendships?

Especially friendships that are forged since childhood.Friends who have been a significant part of each other's lives and have seen,shared and spent so much of their time together, making memories. Seen ups and downs,but still remain strong.

When those friends drift apart,what about that kind of pain?

And when you see them again after a long time ,you have that ache , longing and yearning again of the time long lost to the past. When you spend time with them again and see a new action that you aren't familiar with or when you see a change in their choice ,then you realize," Ah! I didn't knew that ,I don't know their likes and dislikes anymore.

There's so many feelings and so much to say ,but no words to join that bridge anymore..

Feng Xin and Xie Lian have known each other the longest and probably have also more shared memories of a fun childhood. Their interactions are also the most aching to see post-Xie lian's ascension. Unlike MQ whose best at hiding his feelings and saying the opposite of what he wants,FX is the kind of guy who wears his heart on his sleeves. He cannot and has never tried hiding his expression and how he feels in XL's presence. The sad kicked puppy look that we fans are amused to watch is all that amassed guilt,concern and repentance. His outright concern when XL returns injured,him defending XL when XL gets kidnapped and there's so many more moments that shows FX's feelings.FX staying in the mortal realm more then heaven is an indirect indication of his intentions.

After meeting with XL ,as Nan Feng he's definitely more comfortable in spending time with XL then as FX. There's one scene that actually pinched me was this.

It's ingrained in FX's nature to protect XL.And XL wouldn't have mind it at all ,but it's clear that when HC is around XL will lean on him rather then FX like in olden days.(ofcourse change is necessary,but that doesn't mean it doesn't hurt). I don't remember it clearly because it's been a while since I read the novel,but I think they have mentioned FX's reaction when XL actually follows HC.

This scene from TGCF S2 perfectly fits the context ,so just imagining if post canon Fenglian have a talk and apologise to each other,I bet Feng Xin will be the first one to break down and cry, because XL has made peace with the way things are for a long time now ,it's only Feng Xin (and Mu Qing) in a way who couldn't let the past go.

Poor Puppy. Dianxia please notice him and give him some hugs 🥺

#mxtx novels #mxtx tgcf #heaven official's blessing #feng xin #xie lian #friendship breakup #fenglian

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robinsnestwoutrest · 5 months

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How I’ve Been Feeling // A Friendship is Burning To Ashes (And I’m Not Sure If I’m Angry Or Just Tired)

Be Nice To Me - The Front Bottoms // Tired - beabadoobee // ritikajyala // Tucker Edwards // aidashakur // Best Friend - Lauren Aquilina

#how I’ve been feeling #a friendship is burning to ashes #idk if I’m tired or angry or just empty #webweaving #web weaving #web weaving: friendship breakups #friendship breakup #friend breakup #losing a friend #toxic friendship #words words words #lyrics #quotes #oof ouch ow #personal #mood #she blames me for everything and then wonders why everyone leaves her #hmmm I wonder why

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lovely-abeille · 8 months

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would you ever consider to do a nana webweaving? <3

equinox, audre lorde // a world alone, lorde // nana and hachi, nana // margaret atwood // nana and hachi, nana // aristotle and dante discover the secrets of the universe, benjamin alrie saenz // nana and hachi, nana // silver springs, fleetwood mac // what we buried, "haunting," caitlyn siehl

#nana #nana and hachi #web weaving #web weave #parallels #lyric parallels #fragments #poetry fragments #literature #poem #quotes #poetry #dark acadamia quotes #lit #on friendship #on friends #female friendship #on love #friendship breakup

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deadpoetneenzs · 10 months

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petrichara · 3 months

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Hmm thinking about old friends. I still do my lipstick the way you taught me, look for your face in every crowd, start to tell a story and feel your name die in my mouth. No amount of anger erases the way we hid in the trees as kids, how you’d run to the door hands full with my favourite sweets. Your smile is my picture of happiness, name the first I learned to write.

#miss you like a growing pain #miss scuffed shoes and bruised knees and endless trees to climb #miss when the world wasn’t bigger than each other #growing up and growing apart #friendship breakup

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automnelog · 2 years

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people who do not know how to process their own emotions and the emotions of others, will interpret you expressing your emotions as “drama”

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rinwreck · 4 months

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I can't believe you left me alone with grief. This is all I feared and I trusted you to keep me safe. You who knew me best.

#spilled poem #relatable #original poem #teen writer #poetry #feelings #literature #sad poetry #on grief #writers on tumblr #abandoment issues #loss #love letters #unrequited feelings #friendship breakup #breakup

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chaosmagicwanda · 9 months

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“Sometimes self-love shows up as the willingness to release people who have no interest in learning how to love you. You deserve to be handled with care.”

- Michell C. Clark

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whendidmythoughtsgocrazy · 8 months

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Now you're teaching me how hard it is to forget, someone you thought you'd know 'till the end.

k.b. // lauren aquilina - best friend

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healingviawords · 5 months

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Sometimes people come into our lives to teach us how to love. And sometimes people come into our lives to teach us how not to love - how not to settle, how not to shrink ourselves ever again. Yes sometimes people leave - but that's okay, because their lessons are what will stay. And that's what matters.

#relationship advice #friendship advice #friendship breakup #relationships #letting go #love lessons #life lessons

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