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cynyxx · 2 years

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buffporcupine · 4 months

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death note headcanons

because i know my death note mutuals aren’t getting what they wanted from me

light

-can crack his elbows the way one would crack their knuckles

-probably had to do a musical elective in his first year of middle school and chose guitar cause he thought it would be easy but it wasn’t.

-the type of song he really enjoys is very specific. going to hell yet i tried so so hard to please god song. i missed my only chance song. why wasn’t i like the other kids song. thrones playlist. i could elaborate but i won’t

-as for sexuality, i see him as not wanting to put a label on whatever he is in theory but in practice being some type of bispec (probably berriromantic) for romantic attraction and then somewhere on the asexual spectrum for sexual attraction.

-as for gender i see him as agender whose not really in labeling himself as anything when it comes to sexuality and gender.

-agender but probably 100% fine with being super male presenting. he just wants to keep out of gender as a convo and that’s great. good for him

-no!!!!! i refuse to say this mf is aromantic (because it’s not accurate and it’d be an insult to aromantic people to say he’s aro)!!!!!

-just because he manipulated misa and kiyomi into doing his bidding and didn’t love them doesn’t immediately make him aro. i’m sure he could have found someone if he wanted to, and he could have loved them if he was with them to love them, but he wasn’t with them to love them he was with them to use them.

misa

-half belgian half japanese. her parents met in belgium while her father was on vacation.

-also im torn bcos i wanna write an au where misa is mexican and that’s it everything else is the same as canon but i’m pretty sure that’s just me wanting her to be even more Like Me (tm)

-speaks a little bit of english, way more french, and obvi japanese. finds linguistics interesting but doesn’t have enough time to research it that thoroughly

-likes being short and “small” small girl aesthetic i guess but sometimes wishes she had longer legs so she could wear skirts w/o looking silly and short

-panromantic does not see gender at all when becoming attracted to someone. i see her as def on the ace spectrum, maybe something like demisexual or aegosexual. could be me projecting dunno.

-she’s probably dated both girls and boys before

-would NOT break up with someone in a rude way or just dump them. she’d put a lot of effort into an apology and explanation into why.

-if she met miu iruma they’d be best friends. sorry i bring danganronpa into everything guys

-can we please just appeciate mexican misa for a second. she’s cooking sopa de fideo for the task and being the bilingual hot girl we all needed

-mexican misa

-as for her music taste she probably listens to upbeat english language music and sappy love songs. “there is a light that never goes out” and “melt with you” sound like go-tos for her sorry. i could also see her being a bimbo pop ayesha + britney manson girlie though

-tbh whatever your race/ethnicity is you could project it onto misa and it’d work. i love it. anyway d d d d d d d did i say m m m mexican misa

-i think she’d love love love getting her hair done!!! sensitive scalp mf but she’d still love getting her hair done

-mexican misa visiting mexico and getting braids and cute clothes and her fave candy

-was not a theatre kid. sorry guys but her middle and high school didn’t offer theatre 😔😔

lawliet

-chronically dehydrated just because he forgets to drink water. he tries to drink water and always gets afraid of developing kidney / liver problems but he just keeps forgetting. what the fuck L

-soup stan i think he’d love some good soup. soup stan x soup cooker (lawmane)

-i think you could have a really deep convo about anything with L. if you’re passionate about anything he’ll just listen and he’ll talk to you about what he’s passionate about to. he loves to think and would def entertain you with a convo about whether a hot dog is a sandwich or something dumb like that you know.

-he’s a thinker he just loves discussions

-has a british accent when speaking english bcos watari and lived in england you know. he thinks british accents in english sound good tho and LOVES making fun of how silly new york accents are (me too bro. me too)

-if he went to middle school or the japanese/british equivalent of it, he’d def be the type to choose some weird ass elective fucking creative writing instead of the “normal” guitar, choir, band, orchestra and shit

#death note #death note headcanons #light yagami #l lawliet #misa amane #yagami light #amane misa #l death note

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some-siren · 9 months

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Alright it’s time for some headcanons cause this trans is ready to throw hands

In order of how much i like them (the headcanons, not the characters)

Aziraphale

— Trans man, not because he’s inherently transitioning from one state to another (FtM or XtM or something like that) but because he deeply identifies with the human concept of « Male »

— Grey-ace, he still feels sexual attraction under some circumstances, which are left to be determined and may or may not involve kinks (because why not?) but most definitely involve Crowley

— Gay, for Crowley specifically. Doesn’t matter their gender, at the end of the day he’s gay for it.

— Autistic, he just vibing somewhere on the spectrum

Crowley

— Both genderfluid and genderless. Fluid in the genderlessness if you will. Pronouns? Sure, have fun with those

— Aroace, not one ounce of allosexuality and very much on that aro spectrum. They’re not sure what kind of love they feel for their angel but they do know it’s limitless and all-powerful

— Gay, gay gay homosexual gay. He’s gayer than the fucking moon*. He’s so gay he’s a lesbian.

Muriel

— Genderless, they haven’t even learnt what it is yet, give them a break and a raise

— Ace, because again, sexual attraction? What’s that?

— Neurodivergent, I’m not enough of an expert to say how exactly but they’re not 100% neurotypical for sure

Beelzebub

— Non binary, it’s canon, what more can I say?

— Pansexual, really they’ll take anyone who gets them

Gabriel

— Genderless, sure he’s aware of the concept of gender, but it’s too low for him to partake in it

— Don’t know, don’t care. Beelzebub.

Nina

— Woman, as far as she’s concerned it doesn’t matter much though

— Bisexual, she’s just got that energy you know?

Maggie

— Woman, cause she can be gay for women

— Gay, cause she can be a woman for women

Elspeth and wee Morag

— They were friends in a historical way right?

Btw these are all based on vibes

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imineffible · 2 months

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Even though the aro part hasn't been confirmed in the show yet, Al is 100% at least somewhere on the aro spectrum. I personally think he's either fully aro or demiromantic. But-

If Alastor experiences some form of romantic attraction, he still despises talking about romance. It's not entertaining to him - when it's a healthy relationship it'll be the same general conversation; when it's an unhealthy one he'll think it's stupid because the solutions are either dump their ass or communicate and yet they do neither.

If he ever does get into a romantic relationship, he would never tell anybody because he would think it's boring conversation. Imagine one day his partner decides to visit him at the hotel and Charlie's just like "who are you? Are you here to check in!?" And they say "no...? I'm Alastor's partner. We've been together for years, he hasn't talked about me?" Charlie promptly yells at Al for not telling her because she's so happy for him, but he just felt like it didn't matter in conversation.

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peskytimeswithscar · 3 months

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ok it's headcanon time for.... grian!!!!

in regards to identity i view him as being aro-spec, while i could find a specific label i feel like c!grian wouldn't care much into finding that label, i think he'd prefer to just identify as being on the spectrum but he wouldn't really put in the time or effort into researching it

he also is asexual!! however im just asexual myself so all my blorbos must be asexual bc it feels. weird if not

and he's gay!!! gay man, gay gay homo (but actually this is mainly just because of yhs where he says hes "no im into dudes", plus i just cannot see c!grian with a woman that man is gay)

i also see him as being on the asensual (sensual attraction is the desire to touch others in a non-sexual way, e.g. cuddling, kissing, etc) spectrum !! mainly demi-asenflux because i feel like he would only like touch from people he's close + sometimes really doesn't want to be touched, but sometimes/alot of the time he really wants to and is the clingiest

he also gives off vibes of being on the aplatonic spectrum but i cannot think of anything in specific, maybe demiplatonic and cupioplatonic? i just feel like smth is up w this man's platonic orientation,, he def wants to have friends and is willing to do so but he only really feels platonic attraction whenever he's actually close to a person

i could probably go more into detail but those are the primary ones in my head for his sexuality so lets (finally) go onto GENDER!!!!

this man is definitely transgenderism!!! he identifies as a trans-man tho i do feel like his standards of being a man definitely differ to society's, he's most definitely gender non-conforming and he mainly wears androgynous or feminine clothing most of the time (though he only really wears skirts or dresses if hes cross-dressing as ariana griande)

he also probably is somewhere on the non-binary spectrum he just doesn't really identify with it

i feel like he primarily uses it/he pronouns? he definitely feels less than human due to his watcher roots so it got used to being called it/its, he also only is called she/her when he's cross-dressing as ariana griande, and if i had to give him some neoprns i feel like he'd enjoy chirp/chirp's? or some sort of parrot themed neopronouns

i also think he wouldn't get top surgery! it's easier for him not to since he only gets dysphoric over the shape they cause (which can easily be solved via a binder) instead of the actual chest itself

ok gender part over now it's time for some other headcanons

this man is definitely 100% neurodivergent, i feel like in particular he has adhd (this man cannot finish the back of his bases and gets distracted off tasks like a dog seeing a squrriel) and autism!!! i feel like he sometimes goes non-verbal (though i feel, as a parrot hybrid, when he's non-verbal he just ends up copying what other people are saying to him, so maybe that could be considered semi-verbal?), i think he would stim ALOT using his wings, he's happy and suddenly u have feathers everywhere because he flapped them alongside his hands

i think he would also have really bad rejection sensitive dysphoria, he definitely dislikes getting rejected from things which leads to him bottling alot of things up and causing plenty of the scarian miscommunication we're all too familiar with

he also stims with bird noises alot! he likes to chirp and squawk when he's happy, tho that may also just be because he's a parrot hybrid

he definitely changes hyperfixations like the wind, one week he likes this one thing and another he likes this other thing, and i feel like he would only really have 1 or 2 special interests that actually stick around (one of them likely being architecture/building, the other probably being birds and such)

he tends to have a very changing routine and schedule due to his adhd HOWEVER he has some routines (mainly with scar in them, who prefers to have very set routines cause that man also has autism) which never change or both of them get stressed out (e.g. morning/night routine, a routine that started in the desert and then followed them onto hermitcraft - they both get very stressed out on the life series since it disrupts their routines)

this was.... alot more text than i was expecting to write but anyway!!! expect a scar one at some point

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that-gay-guy-from-hell · 1 year

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So we gonna talk about how Dante gives off Aro/Ace vibes or not? Seriously. He 100% gives me those vibes (from someone who identifies as a part of the Ace spectrum). If the twins are supposed to be the same but opposite type of shtick. Then it would make sense if Dante was Ace. Vergil seems like he'd be Aro/Ace but had a kid. Dante is overtly pervy and constantly is looking at barely clothed people, but has not shown any real interest in anyone beyond making jokes. Plus it's just funny to me. Here we have a character who is literally packing according to his game models and he is Aro/Ace. That's fucking hilarious to me. I mean, could you imagine a game that nonchalantly has a main character who doesn't have any forced love plots (we do not talk about DMC 2). That would fucking amazing! Is this considered a hot take?? Idk, I'm bored and need somewhere to put my thoughts. Here's a quick example of what I mean: Dante hates his demon half and loves his mother; however, he seems to be the stronger of the twins when it comes to his demon trigger(s). While Vergil idolizes(?) his father and dislikes his human half; which, seems to line up with how he actually talks/acts more than he truly lets on. So by the logic that the canon seems to use; Dante would be ace. Does anyone else feel this way or am I nuts?

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pineappleciders · 1 year

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Could you do a basil x reader where the reader is very intelligent and always the top of their school(because their parents force them too always be perfect)Also considered to be very pretty to the point people will give love letters to them.

BASIL with a very intelligent and pretty reader

BASIL is honestly really shy around u. he's always shy, but he's just extra nervous that you're going to think he's weird

if ur the only kid to get 100% on a test and the teacher announces it, he probably has to stop himself from clapping and cheering you on (as to not embarrass himself)

he just kind of tries to ignore his feelings for you, he knows you're way out of his league and that you get love confessions day and night,, so there's no way you'd ever even look at him

if he starts thinking about how pretty you are, he'd try to shake those thoughts from his head and ignore them. for some reason just thinking about your looks made him feel bad. you didn't deserve that!

he admires your smarts. he's kind of an average kid, C's and B's. he excels in certain subjects like science, but with others not so much. i think his grades really dropped once his friends split apart

if you two were to get closer and become friends (which would take a while considering it was kind of hard for him to talk to you), he'd probably slip a note into your locker asking you to meet him somewhere, and he draws sunflowers and your favorite flower on it (cornball)

i think BASIL is on the aro spectrum so it would all be new to him, as he's never had real feelings for someone, but i think it'd give him a confidence boost once you two become friends and start chatting!

he tells you his feelings when you meet up with him and gives you your favorite flower, homegrown from his own yard. he's fiddling with his fingers, and looking away.

a part of him was just expecting rejection. the right part of his mind understood that he didn't deserve you, and that you didn't like him

but there was one part of his brain that was so infatuated with you, and he thought if you were going to let him down, then you were going to do it slowly,, because you were so nice. that was just how you were. so he just had to grin and bear it

if you accept his confession, and maybe bring u a date, he gets really red and giddy and has to take a breather to calm himself down

when u two start dating he kinda awkwardly tries to hold your hand but if you move it away without noticing he tries to play it off and gets really sweaty

overall he doesn't think he deserves you at all, but he tries not to let it show and appreciate you as much as possible. he doesn't know how long it'll last, but he won't make the same mistake of taking people for granted ever again.

#omori x reader #omori #omori fandom #basil x reader #omori basil x reader #basil omori x reader #omori headcanons #basil headcanons #omori basil #basil omori

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redley-of-many-noodles · 3 months

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Hello there,

Welcome to my blog.

I’m Redley. Relatively new to Tumblr still, but I’ve been finding that I’m comfy here. Though it still feels awkward (thanks, dysphoria), I prefer she/her pronouns. I don’t mind they/them, but… meh. Note that Redley is neither my legal or chosen name; it is solely a handle, and I will only tell you my chosen name if I feel comfortable with you. If I extend that trust, please treat it with respect. If you don’t, I will remember.

Here’s the main stuff I’m comfortable sharing or want you to know about me:

1) I’m transfem, but haven’t had an opportunity to do much actual transitioning yet. Dislike my voice, adore my hair. My luscious, glorious, flowing hair.

1.5) I am likely pansexual, but I haven’t done enough research to know for sure. All I know is, people are… well, people are hot.

2) I live in Florida, but was not raised here. The climate and scenery are nice; the local government sucks ass though. Also, I miss snow.

3) I’m a diagnosed autistic, falling somewhere on the high-functioning end of the spectrum. I’m on prescribed antidepressants, but have not been able to find a psychologist/psychiatrist yet because it’s fucking Florida.

4) There are a lot of things and people I don’t understand, but I’m always open to learning. Trying new food is a special passion of mine, and I’ve met some quite fascinating new people since starting this blog. (*eoughck* @potentially-a-poser *aucghk* @analogue-system *ahem*)

5) I will not tolerate hateful behavior. You will be immediately blocked for shit like denying any of the shades of aro/ace individuals as being part of the LGBTQIA+ community. If you see me spreading misinformation or saying something that excludes members of the community, please tell me. I’ll research the matter, as well as review any sources you send me.

5.5) okay so I think I’m demiromantic

6) I do not mind being tagged or sent asks or otherwise brought into conversations. People who abuse that will likely get blocked, but whatever your social anxiety is telling you probably comes nowhere near ‘abuse’ in my book. Anonymous asks are enabled, but that can likewise change if the feature is abused. Hate asks will be blocked, naturally.

7) I would prefer being asked before you directly message me. If you don’t, there is a possibility you’ll be blocked, but it’s not a guarantee. I don’t want me and my friends’ conversations getting buried by anything.

8) If you consistently and frequently post tiktok/reddit memes with little to no commentary, I may block you simply out of annoyance should you repeatedly show up on my dash. It’s not personal. If something about you makes me suspicious or uncomfortable, but not outright offended, I’ll most likely notify you of my reason before I block you.

9) Age: pick a number between 1 and 100 because it’s none of your fucking business. None of you are entitled to any of my personal information, regardless of the reason. I will share only what I want.

My Behaviors

There are certain things I gravitate towards or away from on this site. Here’s some:

1) I am most likely to follow people who are part of the LGBTQIA+ community, are mentally ill, or are dealing with some variety of personality disorder. This is mostly just due to the fact that I find the most common ground with those people. But even those who I have little common ground with, I’ll tend to find very interesting.

2) I don’t mind things like roleplay and hornyposting on my dash, but will almost certainly not interact myself, or make original posts in that category. More extreme examples won’t necessarily get you blocked or unfollowed, but… well, my filtered tags list may grow.

3) I don’t always tag reblogs. This may mean that my followers will see random things that caught my interest. It could be art, shitposting, tender affirmations, politics, or just goofy-ass Tumblr shit. If something I regularly reblog/post about bothers you and isn’t properly tagged, let me know.

4) I am discovering that maybe, I might, perhaps, be a little bit nosy. When I see someone receiving hate or suffering and stressed, I am likely to take it upon myself to do or say something to try to make them feel better. If I bother you with this, I will not be hurt or offended if you block me. In general, I will do my best to be respectful of it when people draw boundaries, so don’t hesitate to draw any you feel necessary.

5) If your intentions are pure, you will likely find that I try to be forgiving and/or understanding of your mistakes, at least in regards to interacting with me. (The /or is a very important distinction.)

6) I will often be attracted to dark, tragic, or dystopic works of art/fiction. I get a form of catharsis from such media, and some of my writing will reflect that.

That’s about it.

That’s all the important stuff I can think of, aside from tags which are at the end. Still, this post may be updated or rewritten in the future. In general, just be kind and open-minded, and we’ll get along fine. Even if you disagree with me, as long as you are civil and rational about things, I’ll likely have no problem interacting with you.

Be safe, and be yourself! <3

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coffiicorgii · 7 months

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Hey uhhh, I have a question, u don’t have to ask but,

How can you be aroace and gay at the same time? Not tryna be rude, just askin.

Because I’m ace and somewhere on the aro spectrum (most likely demi-romantic, but I’m not 100% sure. Not in a rush to figure it out either tbh)

I just know that if I ever were to end up in a relationship, it’d be with a man :]

Being aroace doesn’t necessarily exclude the possibility of also being gay/bi/lesbian/etc. since asexual and aromantic are umbrella terms

#you seem to be asking from a place of genuine curiosity so I hope this helped ^^ /gen #don’t think I’ve ever had a proper crush in my life.#the ones I thought were crushes were actually just squishes I think #the thought of having a boyfriend is nice but like… if I don’t end up finding anyone then that’s cool too #coffii answers #m1lkeeway

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fanfic-inator795 · 2 months

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Alongside the hc of Ansel being friends with Tony/Marcellus/Furlecia, I really like the idea of Tony and Furlecia being queerplatonic partners.

I know I’ve seen some people in the fandom hc them as being romantic w/ each other - and honestly, I could totally see them testing the waters with a couple dates or an impromptu experimental make-out sesh before deciding that they prefer to be just friends.

But given their dynamic and history - the fact that they traveled together and ran cons together and have such a strong rapport with one another - I 100% believe that Tony and Furlecia are Ride Or Die for each other and have that genuine love and admiration for each other.

Like that one bit in the shed-skin episode, I like to imagine these two having nights where they hang out just the two of them, sharing a few drinks and some great snacks between them. Maybe they turn it into a spa night, maybe they just watch trash tv while cuddling, maybe they spend the night venting and listening to one another - any way you slice it, it’s THEIR night.

(Also in case I haven’t made it clear, I hc both these characters- hell, pretty much the whole Arlo cast - as being somewhere on the ace/aro spectrum.)

#arlo the alligator boy #i heart arlo #random thoughts #atab Tony #atab Furlecia

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aspecpplarebeautiful · 1 year

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Sometimes I wonder if I can pinpoint a reason for me being aro. I knew that I’m ace as soon as I knew what ace meant, but I didn’t start questioning if I’m aro until about four years ago and really become comfortable identifying as aro-spec till probably two or three years ago. But looking back on my life then, my emotions were scattered, talking about emotions in general like emotional health wise. At first, I didn’t have energy or interest in a romantic relationship, but then stuff happened and my emotions completely shut down. They’ve been mostly shut down for almost three years now. I think because I can’t really feel much of anything right now, I feel valid in id-ing as aro bc how could I romantically fall in love with someone when I’m struggling to feel anything at all? But then I can’t help but wonder sometimes, “am I really aro? or just emotionally dead inside and not feeling anything at all?” At the same time, I know that I started identifying as aro-spec about a year before my emotions shut down and I remember how comfortable that felt, to realize I’m somewhere on the aro spectrum and don’t need to be in a relationship to be normal. So I guess what I’m rambling about is how I know I’m somewhere aro-spec, regardless of my emotional deadness but it’s still something I wonder about sometimes.

Yeah, these kinds of things can be tricky. This is a big part of why I always advocate for going with what makes sense for you in the present. If right now IDing as aro-spec is feeling right for you and making sense for you, than it's a good label. This would even be true if it was 100% caused by your emotions shutting down (though as you say in the ask, this doesn't look like it's obviously the case.)

There is a chance you may start feeling emotions more strongly again in the future, and when that happens you may find it makes sense to reassess if aro-spec is still the right label for you. But even if it's not in the future, it doesn't negate its usefulness and how right it feels as a label now. It's also entirely possible it will still be a good label for you, and in that case you definitely don't want to be losing out on it now.

But yeah both outside causes or hypothetical futures don't negate your very real experiences. Don't be afraid to trust what currently makes sense for you.

All the best, Anon! Good luck!

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fierrochaseist4t · 2 years

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any pjo/hoo/mcga/riordianverse aro and/or apl hcs?

YES!!!! i have a ton of aro and aplatonic hcs

i really enjoy aromantic percy personally. i see him as using the aromantic label to describe the fact that he has very little romantic attraction. aromantic aplatonic octavian is another one of my favorite headcanons, i think he'd lack romantic or platonic attraction but still enjoy hanging out with certain people just because he likes talking with people about things he's interested. (such as political things with reyna, and personal things with nico).

arospec allo leo is another one of my hcs, speaking of which ive seen a severe lack in aroallo pjo headcanons.

demiromantic nico is one of my faves, i think he'd be the type to generally enjoy romance and being in love but have a hard time actually falling in love with people, due to his past lack in deep emotional connections. i think he'd more value other types of love over romantic and by extention not really pay much attention to it. his character is very driven by love and his desire to care for people.

also im very in love with arospec piper atm, i feel like she's somewhere on the aromantic spectrum.

for mcga hcs i can 100% gay arospec hearthstone as well as demiromantic alex. aplatonic greyro gunilla, too.

and for the kane chronicles im very much a fan of arospec lesbian sadie as well as aplatonic aromantic anubis

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swordofazrael1992 · 5 months

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🏳️‍🌈 jean paul valley!!!!!!!!!!!!

OH I AMM. BITING i will talk abt this topic FOREVER

jpv’s gender is truly girlfag to me. and imo her breaking away from the order of st dumas and her + azrael deciding to use their abilities to protect and save can be a trans narrative—EVERY prior azrael in their lineage was male, and every prior azrael was a weapon used by the order to deliver vengeance. and of course there’s the obvious gendered implications of those two paths (being merciful and protective as “feminine” and then aggressive and vengeful as “masculine”) that i think are SO interesting to explore. at the same time though i don’t think her gender identity lacks masculine facets, or is completely separate (or even separate at all) from masculinity. and this of course adds nuance to the prior conversation: azrael is now the angel of mercy, but that doesn’t mean they’ve completely divorced themselves from the concept of vengeance. that long ass ramble is to say: i see jpv as bigender, preferring a more gender nonconforming presentation and also identifying with transfeminine identity. i do also tend to say that i think she uses she/he pronouns, but most of the time im talking about her i end up using she/her

and for sexual identity: girlfag also, obviously, applies here. i’ve never been able to recognize her on-panel attraction to women as genuine or even present. it really feels like how i (boydyke) would look at men as a “i want to be them” and everyone around me interpreted as “i want to be with them” to the point that i assumed that’s what it was as well. admittedly, this is probably influenced by the fact that the first thing i ever read of her WAY before i became obsessed with her was tynion’s TEC comics, and she and luke are very 🏳️‍🌈 in that, but i also should mention that her and luke’s relationship is the only one of hers i’ve ever been able to interpret as romantic.

and thus i have recently been toying around with her being somewhere on the ace/aro spectrum, although im not 100% sure where. the majority of her expressed attraction has, as previously mentioned, felt very surface level to me, while SO MANY of her most important relationships have been platonic. i’ve also been thinking about the idea of her and luke as platonic/queerplatonic, and i think exploring some of her other relationships as queerplatonic could be SO interesting. like qpr jpv and babs???? i need to eat them

in summary: girlfag, transfeminine, aspec

and then there’s ALSO azrael ofc. i see him as genderless but not in an identifying as agender way more of like a. never occurred to him to have a gender and he’s so genderless that identifying with a gender identity term doesn’t fit for him. like “what’s your gender” “i am the angel of vengeance” “okay but what’s in your pants” “i have a flaming sword” “is that a euphemism” “*pulls out actual flaming sword* no”. i mostly use he/him for azrael because i genuinely just think it doesn’t occur to him to use other pronouns, and if someone were to bring it up he’d just see no reason to try and change. not in a denial way i just think he’s genuinely like. transcended the need for pronoun changes. although i do occasionally fuck with the idea of him using hy/hym pronouns. his gender makes sense to me but i cannot explain it. and then similarly i can’t explain his sexual/romantic orientations he is just. i think he’s similar to jpv in that the majority of his meaningful connections and relationships are platonic but i think (for example, if jpv was with luke romantically) he could end up building a connection with a partner that wasn’t strictly platonic. whether that would become romantic i can’t currently say because i haven’t fleshed out my jpv and azzy ace/aro spec headcanons. although at the end of the day i just don’t really think labels are super important to az? like he’s just kinda *waves hand* there. although i DO think identity is important to him. that might seem contradictory to what i’ve said previously in this ramble but i think that while he doesn’t identify with labels i do think he identifies as like. being other than what the order of st dumas would force him into being and being other than what the world would force him into being. azrael as a character, especially recently, is about forging your own path and that you are more than what people might force you to be and i think he would find comfort (or at least vindication) in the fact that there are these core parts of himself that are so incongruous with what would be expected of him, yknow? like as previously discussed with the concept of azrael being forcibly masculine, and him (not just jpv) being able to move past that and both define what being azrael means to him and define what gender means to him. overall i have a lot of thoughts on azzy but i haven’t been able to solidify them and Decide on them the way i have jpv which is something i must change immediately

in (outer world) presentation i’d say that azzy is also gender non-conforming but in a far more fashionable way than jean paul. azrael would be coordinating like runway ready looks while jpv has the worst fashion sense imaginable which is so funny to me. also i think azrael would be absolutely CRACKED at makeup don’t ask me why i just think he’s very good at it

LONG ASS POST OVER. i’m less insane now

#jpv #lex i am biting you in an affectionate way or perhaps a violent one whichever you prefer

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gayarograce · 7 months

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Saw your post about your aroversary and wanted to ask:

What is an "aroversary"? Is it celebrating any event in particular?

I thought I had a crush on a girl once in 8th grade, does that preclude me from being aromantic? (/half joking)

Hello, and thanks for the ask, anon!

1. "Aroversary" is a portmanteau of "aromantic" and "anniversary." It's simply the anniversary of when you discovered you were aro. Not every aro celebrates theirs (or even knows when theirs is; you can't always pinpoint an exact date), but some do, and I noticed my first one was coming up, so i figured I'd do a little something.

2. Short answer: not necessarily. Aromanticism is a spectrum; there're way more possibilities than just being at 0 or 100. If that supposed crush is your only experience of the sort, then that sounds to me like you could be somewhere on the arospec. It's also possible it wasn't a crush at all and was instead some other type of attraction (sexual, platonic, or aesthetic, as examples, but there are even more than those). AUREA has a huge list of arospec labels (+ a few extras) you can check out if you want. Ultimately, the only person who can decide if aromantic or any of its sublabels are right for you is, well, you.

#ask #anon #q

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ridleyytheriddler · 8 months

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im suuuper bored rn and in a mood to write so! rant! yay!

first thing i wanted to rant about - my sexual orientation (:

im ace, period. i know that for a fact. at least I'm somewhere on the spectrum, maybe demisexual? but I'm not sure, I'm not really diving into microlabels.

romantic orientation is an ENTIRELY different story...

had a crush on a boy in 3rd/4th grade, back when (i thought) i was a cishet girl. liked him until like 5th grade when my feelings sort of faded away. now, i was virtual schooled through 5th and 6th so i didn't really like anyone in sixth grade but i spent a lot of time exploring queerness in general- like my nonbinary awakening happened sometime in like January/February of 2022 (though i did first label myself as a demigirl, it still falls under the enby umbrella).

i entered seventh grade as a closeted aroace enby and went through about 3/4 of the year without any major crushes (i had a platonic interest in a boy that i misinterpreted as a crush). i didn't really label my romantic attraction because i didn't need to.

however, as the end of the school year approached, i started feeling uncomfortable. i wanted to know who i was, and the only valid part of my identity had been my asexuality, since i knew that i liked a boy in the past so how could i be aro? i was drowning in a whirlpool of invalidation and not feeling queer enough.

so, i go to the first camp of the year, a writing camp, filled with TONS of queer people. i loved it there, but seeing so many people around me, sure of their identities, made me die more inside.

sooo, a couple days after i was accused of flirting with my friend (who happened to be a boy), i "discovered" i liked a girl. she was pretty, she was smart, she was blonde, she was sporty. i texted her a lot (even after camp was over). i put hearts around her contact name. but "liking" her didn't feel thrilling and it didn't feel happy. to put it simply, it felt like a fucking punishment. talking to her made me feel like i wasn't enough.

so after going through about a month of emotional turmoil and dying inside and bragging to my friends about how i liked a girl, i headed to my first sleepaway camp of the summer, a church camp, ironically enough. and THERE. THERE i fell. not in love, but probably the realest crush i'd had. there weren't really butterflies, so to speak, but if you looked at a picture with the two of us in it, you would see me gazing at her (lets call her M) with literal heart eyes. we'd started quietly chatting while our mutual friends were off doing other stuff, and ended up bonding with each other despite how the only thing we shared was our introverted-ness. and I'm not even that introverted. we're polar opposites. we still text each other almost every day, and i had hopes she liked me back, aaaaaaaaand she doesn't but. here comes part two of my rant.

my crush doesn't like me.

and i don't even feel the tiniest bit sad about it.

this is probably the most confused i've ever been. i know i like her. maybe it's because her "rejection" was so soft it didn't even feel like one. i don't know. it's complicated, but my best friend had been cheering me on to tell her, so i did. and i was honestly divided as to whether she liked me or not- at times she acted like she did but other times she didn't. honestly, i think I'm just hopeful that she likes me

anyway thats not the point-

so. after writing this THERAPUTIC post, i have discovered that:

i am aroace and proud 🧡💛🤍🩵💙

im nonbinary (and proud, but I've known that for a while)

I'm confused

but I'm 100% queer. whether I'm lesbian or straight or bi or something, i am queer! and I'm tired of feeling invalidated by being compared to the people out there who are out and proud with all their labels. i don't need to be exactly like them to be queer and be myself.

to put it poetically, "our friendship is worth more than being in any relationship." I'm going to write a poem about that now. good night yall <3 or even good morning/afternoon.

#queer #shitposts #rants #lgbtqia+#questioning #my posts

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picnokinesis · 1 year

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Can you tell us more about the gender differences of Campervan!Doctor and Zombie!Doctor? Wait, does Campervan!Doctor still identify as transmasc or was that only in their teens?

Ok I'm actually gonna answer the last question first which is that: campervan 13 doesn't reaaaally identify as anything other than "genderqueer", but I would describe her as transmasc because, yeah, when she was a teenager she did think she was a trans boy because, well, she wasn't a girl and she didn't know there were any other options - plus, she wears a binder, which doesn't mean she's aiming for masculinity, I suppose, but more that she's trying to present as something that isn't feminine. She's not quite the opposite of transfemme, but she isn't not that either. I used transmasc in that other post for ease, but campervan 13 is very slippery with gender and probably wouldn't describe herself as such if asked? Again - she's genderqueer, and that term suits her fine. I suppose comparing her to other camperverses makes it easier - take AU5, for example, which hardly anyone knows anything about rip but in that au they go by John and use he/they pronouns. Which shows how they still realised later that they weren't a binary trans guy, but rather something more nebulous in the middle, and so started using "they" as well as just "he". The main reason John uses he/they whilst literally all the other verses use she (or whatever pronouns are more "useful" in redacted au sksks) is because John was in a situation very early on where his gender was accepted and they felt able to explore it. Whereas the other verses they were not in that position at all, until they were a lot older (e.g. whilst at uni).

So then compare all of that to zombie au - Theo kinda knew but also really didn't. When she was in her late teens/early adulthood, I think she started to tangibly realise that something was up, and then actually knuckled down harder on "no yeah im 100% a cis boy yep" sksksk because she just. Did not want to deal with it. And then when she was doing her phd with Koschei, she started to really Realise and was just. Very scared of what that would mean. And then this going on with a lot of aro feelings coming to the fore meant that she was Going Thru It by the time that she says to Koschei "I'm not boyfriend material". There's more to it than that but it's in the fic so I'll leave it for now.

Another difference is that Theo has physically transitioned! But the Doctor absolutely has not sksks, like she hasn't even told the fam that her nickname is a gender thing rather than a journalism pen name thing - although they've all pretty much guessed that haha. I guess for Theo, she has someone like Koschei who really knows her and sees her exactly as she is, and at the point where she comes to understand herself, she's actually able to be vulnerable about it. Whereas the Doctor hates being vulnerable in campervan au, and so just coming out is an issue, let alone socially or physically transitioning. Plus, ofc, the medical side of transitioning is also an issue for the Doctor, who would find that intolerable for obvious reasons. She'd rather keep that part of herself hidden, whereas Theo wants to live being seen as a boyish girl. She feels a lot more confident in her gender than campervan 13 does, I think.

They are similar, though, in that neither of them are binary trans - Theo is not a trans woman, per se, and the Doctor/John is not a trans man, not even in au5. They're both somewhere a little more nebulous - but they are both definitely at different places on the gender spectrum. Hence: transfemme and genderqueer haha

#taka replies #campervan au #au5 #zombie au #gender #anon #hope this makes sense!!!#long post

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