Confidence, self-worth and self-love are qualities that a person first learns from their family. None of these were instilled in me during childhood. Like other important ones, I had to cultivate these attributes over time, through my life experiences, and I'm still learning every day. I feel grateful that I wasn’t swallowed up by the world and I didn’t end up falling victim to some of the things that can happen to a young person (and even an adult) when they feel lost and overwhelmed and they lack that knowing that they deserve to be treated well, whether it’s in a relationship, by other family members, by friends and even at their job. Then once you know, you have to put confidence in action. Many people know they deserve better, but the lack of confidence keeps them on a path of accepting less than.
Over time, I began to peel away the layers of fear and insecurity and I started moving through the world with a better understanding of who I was, what I wanted, what I refused accept. Year after year, I grew into expecting the highest for my life. Anytime I fell out of alignment with that, I observed how my thinking played a role and many times, it was because I let my confidence collapse and my self-worth tumbled with it. Those voices from childhood can creep up and attempt to sabotage how far we’ve come and all the time and effort we put into building a better version of ourselves. Don’t let those voices trip you up. They aren’t real. What is real, is regaining your momentum through ways like therapy, meditation, exercise, time in nature, journaling, time with people who help you feel hopeful and energized. Rebuilding yourself and your confidence, finding even greater clarity than before, and moving toward the highest vision you hold for your life. Every time I’ve had a setback, I came back with an even higher awareness and set my sights higher for what I knew I deserved, and my confidence improved.
Have you ever struggled with confidence at any point in your life? If so, did it stem from childhood, or was it something that developed later in life?
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I love you smile lines and worry lines and grey and white hair and wrinkles and purple spiderweb veins and the process of aging and living in a body that is standing the test of times. I love you experiences that make you wiser and stories that make you laugh, and every little process that happens to get to the point where you have so many memories because you have the fortune to be here and be so radiant
"I am allowed to be a masterpiece and a work in progress simultaneously." I saw this saying/quote on Iman's IG this week, and I shouted "yes" as I read it, because I needed this reminder. Sometimes we think that we need to have all the answers and everything figured out before we make that move or change, start that project or begin working on that idea, invite love in, etc. I'm guilty of this and I found that it only holds me back.
However we are, wherever we are presently is "perfect" timing for everything we want to invite into our lives. We can move forward in the state that we are in, continuing to learn and blossom, and stride toward our goals and personal development. The thing is, us humans will always be a masterpiece and a work in progress simultaneously. We never stop evolving (unless you choose differently), we'll never have it all figured out. We're redefining, reevaluating, recalibrating until the very end.
Does that quote resonate with you? How?
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