#Having eldest daughter syndrome

[melmov]

I cast: curse of the eldest (can’t ask for help)

#dick grayson #nightwing #jason todd #red hood #dc #art #my art #digital art #fanart #dick has eldest daughter syndrome #cant ask for help or burden anyone but will always be there for everyone else #Jason sees right through him but he doesn’t know how to make someone feel comfortable with being open #ugh I have so many feels #I’m about to make dick and Damian art because me and my youngest siblings are closest and idk how to even talk to the others

[imtiredthatsalligot]

F Scott Fitzgerald, Tender is the Night/ New Titans #55/ I.B. Vyache Conversations over Sanguinacchio/ Tales of the Teen Titans #50/ Unknown/ Grayson #9/ Fleabag Episode 2.6/ Outsiders #8/ Hera Lindsay Bird, Mirror Traps/ Robin and Batman #3/The Amazing Devil, Farewell Wanderlust/ Batman Year 3/ Natalie Wee, Our Bodies and Other Fine Machines/ Preludes to the Wedding Nightwing vs Hush  

#I'm having thoughts #this has been in my drafts forever #dick grayson #nightwing #bruce wayne #batman #bruce you gave the poor boy eldest daughter syndrome

[daenystheedreamer]

can i b real with you guys. i think the eldest daughter thing has lost all meaning..... many of these guys are simply eldest sons. eldest daughter syndrome needs an inherent lack of trust and respect despite all responsibility placed on them. entitlement is very much eldest son behaviour. aegon is not eldest daughter that man is an eldest son for sure. kendall roy.... ill not speak on that man. i know a piranha pond when i see it. but know he is part of this post.

#yinnie #im sorry i have to speak my truth. stannis baratheon i will allow it for him tho. he does have eldest daughter syndrome #id listen to an argument for ned too. #robb is eldest son are you kidding me thats his whole plot!!! being his father's heir and fucking it up BY BEING HIS FATHER'S HEIR!!!

[tarucore]

screenshotting this one bc I can acknowledge that I’ve got shipper goggles on and op isn’t about that life which is fair but

I feel like batfam fans misunderstand the term parentification a lot and conflate it with Dick filling a parental role for his siblings, which might be part of the “oldest daughter syndrome” that’s so often pinned on him but that isn’t what parentification actually means

If I say that Dick Grayson was parentified, then that isn’t referring to him taking care of his siblings, it refers to the way Bruce treated him. As someone capable of taking care of his emotional needs and not as the child in need of care in the relationship

Parentification is a term that’s been around for decades, and while having to care for younger siblings might be a part of the definition, it focuses mostly on the role reversal of the parent-child dynamic. I’m not going to get into the psychology of it but being parentified has very little to do with if he actually acted as a parent for his siblings and everything to do with if he acted as a parent for Bruce

This is honestly why I prefer the term spouseification, which is less ambiguous than the term parentification and I feel accurately describes their “equal” relationship and the type of emotional abuse that Dick went through

Also from what I’ve read, Dick doesn’t act as a parental figure for any of his siblings except for Damian. While he might have given extra emotional support to Tim due to Bruce being Bruce, Dick still fits solidly into an older brother role. I’m not even going to touch on Dick’s relationship with Jason which is too weak to even be considered fraternal never mind parental

#cw abuse #cw emotional abuse #dick grayson analysis #dickie bird #idk why I went off like this but parentification really has nothing to do with the siblings #like that’s not the psychological term #eldest daughter syndrome is mostly a pop psychology thing #it might be a real phenomenon that is heavily influenced by parentification but they aren’t synonyms #I’m hesitantly tagging this #brudick #just because I mentioned I ship them and want to do anyone that blocks that tag the courtesy of ignoring me #bruce wayne #and another thing!!!! i don’t consider dick’s relationship with damian negatively at all #it was extreme circumstances as comic books often are and they have a very healthy parent/child relationship from what i’ve seen #*

[shellem15]

Thinking about the Dawnfather. A god of light, a god of harvest, a god of the sun itself. Good but not nice, kind but not soft. Life-giving but also scorching. Protective, warm, and kind, but also stern, harsh, and abrasive. His light can foster growth, can protect and guide, but it can also scorch and burn. The sun is warm and nurturing but don’t stare at it too long, child, it’ll blind you.

Was he always so hard? Did he always hide his face with the harsh light of the sun? Or was there a time when he smiled and laughed, let others see him as he truly was?

Thinking about the Schism. Was the Dawnfather close to the Betrayer Gods before they turned? He must have been, Asmodeus wouldn’t be so hung up on him if he wasn’t. Speaking of Asmodeus, he was once a being of light, like the Dawnfather and the Everlight are now. Were they closer than the others? When the Gods came to Exandria, did they come from the same place or were they scattered, a ragtag group of survivors fleeing from predators seeking to devour them? And if the latter is true, did these three beings of light come from the same place? Siblings, born from the same stuff, forever tied to one another?

If this was the case, then, what was their relationship before the Schism? Did they call each other “Brother” and “Sister”? Did they hold each other when they were scared, dry each other’s tears, laugh and joke and tease and fight and make up because they were siblings and they’d always be together, and they loved each other with every fiber of their being and they only had each other. When Predathos came, when it devoured two of their newfound siblings, did the Dawnfather hold them both and promise them that everything was going to be okay because he was their brother and he was going to protect them, all of them. The gods, mortals, the world itself, they would not be devoured, they would not be destroyed, because he was there and would fight until his very last breath to keep them safe.

Wondering then, was that the moment when Asmodeus truly grew to hate their creations? Seeing his brother and sister and siblings risk their lives just to protect some mewling mortal wretches when they could just leave it all behind and start somewhere new. Was that the moment when he realized that mortals had done something to them, changed them when they were not supposed to change. Why else would they risk being devoured by Predathos, why else would they suffer through war with the Primordials? Why else would they choose them over him!? Was this the moment when he decided to conspire with the Primordials and the other Betrayer Gods? To destroy this world and the mortals on it so they could finally leave. And they would leave, of course, because the Dawnfather was his brother and the Everlight was his sister and the Gods were a family, and at the end of the day, they would always be together, and once the corrupting influence of those mortals was gone, they would surely all see reason.

And when the Dawnfather discovered this betrayal, when all the Prime Deities did, he must have been furious. How could they!? His kin, his brother, who had always been by his side through everything, how could they turn around and destroy their creations, their children. And so he and the other Primes took up arms and fought against their own family to protect this world they had created, and their children who inhabited it. Those battles must have been brutal, bonds of comradery broken, kin clashing against kin, screaming curses as they tore each other apart.

During those final battles of the Schism, when the Dawnfather clashed against Asmodeus, did they scream at each other in rage? A twisted reflection of previous squabbles, different because this time it was real, this time there is no forgiveness, no making up. When the Dawnfather knocked Asmodeus down, crushed his throat under his foot and banished him to the Hells, was he yelling when he disowned him? Or was he quiet when he did it, his voice going into a low growl, deadly calm as he told him that he was not his brother anymore. And moments previously, when the Dawnfather could have easily killed him, did he look into Asmodeus’s eyes and see his brother? Scared and hurt by his hands, hands that once held him and swore to protect him. In that moment, did the Dawnfather realize he couldn’t kill him? Because that was his brother and despite everything, he still loved him, and hurting him brought him more grief and pain than he could ever imagine. So instead, he banished him, locked him and all the other Betrayers away because he and the other Primes couldn’t bring themselves to kill their family, but they also couldn’t let them free.

Was this when the Dawnfather obscured his face? Hardened his heart because otherwise he would break, and he cannot break, because the other gods need him to be strong, because Exandria needs him to be strong. And so he stayed strong, despite the grief, despite the guilt, despite the pain of heartbreak, of hurting the ones he loved to protect the ones he loved. And this hardening must have continued, running himself ragged during Calamity, beating back Tharizdun, protecting Ioun after she almost died, sheltering the Everlight after Asmodeus once again betrayed her, stabbed her in the back and left her broken and weak when all she wanted was to do was get her brother back, to save him from his own wrath. Failure after failure after failure to protect those he cared about, to protect his siblings and mortals and Exandria itself. The guilt of his failures must be overwhelming, and these are his failures: Predathos devoured his siblings under his watch, his siblings betrayed them under his watch, Calamity ravaged Exandria under his watch, and even now, the threat of Predathos has once again returned under his watch.

No wonder he is so harsh now, so controlling now: because every time he has failed in his vigilance the world has suffered for it. He can’t fail again; he can’t lose any more siblings. And so, he continues hardening his heart, continues fighting, because the sun must always rise again in the morning, no matter what.

#did i make my first post a 1000+ word essay about the dawnfather? yes #did i write this instead of doing my work? also yes #would i do it again? absolutely #i have so many thoughts about the gods of exandria #i want to shake them in a jar and examine them under a microscope #it is my foremost belief that pelor has eldest daughter syndrome #like surface pressure from encanto is literally the perfect pelor song tell me im wrong #he is so stressed. all the time #like pelor IS a dick. absolutely #he has definitely done some fucked up shit #but he's not malicious or evil. hes doing what he thinks will protect everyone #he is in desperate need of a nap. a hug. and a therapist #this definitely delves into headcanon territory but i dont care #critical role #cr spoilers #cr meta #cr headcanons #dawnfather #everlight #cr asmodeus #pelor the dawnfather #cr sarenrae #cr gods #shelley's overdramatic character analysis

[sofoulandfairaday]

me: of course, people are allowed to have their own opinions and headcanons. all takes that are well-justified are valid.

someone: bellatrix was insan-

me: shut the fuck up, shut the fuck up, shut the fuck UP

#bellatrix lestrange #bellatrix black #marauders era #hp fandom #the black sisters #the black family #i'm sorry but some of you have the most unapologetically brain-dead takes #next person who says 'bella was driven insane' wins a SLAP #and it's never 'oh it was the 14 years in azkaban that did it' #nope. it's the eldest daughter syndrome and the familial expectations. #as the eldest daughter with the biggest fucking expectations in the world thrust upon her shoulders- it doesn't turn you insane. #a perfectionist overachiever with zero tollerance for other people? sure. #ambitious and ruthless? sure. #not insane and NOT in need to be protected. #she'd EAT you. #(sorry for the rant guys - i usually try to be restrained but sometimes i just read things that make my hands itch.)

[phecdasolar]

Me day 1 of my Trolls hyperfixation after watching Trolls 3: This is absolutely fantastic and I love it, I love Floyd, he’s great, Bruce is also amazing (hello Daveed Diggs), John Dory is okay though I guess? Idk why people like him so much he’s kind of annoying, anyways I just really want Branch to go ham on his brothers and psychologically beat the crap out of them-

Me present day and 3 weeks into my Trolls hyperfixation: I UNDERSTAND EVERYTHING NOW I UNDERSTAND IT ALL IF I DON’T RECEIVE TWO METRIC TONS OF JOHN DORY ANGST I WILL SOB, DO YOU UNDERSTAND ME HE GAVE UP HIS CHILDHOOD HE HAS ELDEST DAUGHTER SYNDROME HE IS SEVERELY DEPRESSED AND TRAUMATIZED I AM SHAKING HIM LIKE A RUBBER CHICKEN LOOK AT HIM

#i speak #dreamworks trolls #trolls movie #trolls 3 #trolls band together #john dory #trolls john dory #as someone who was/is really into ROTTMNT he reminds me SO MUCH of Raph and Leo??? #Eldest daughter syndrome he shares with Raph #believing his family will be better off without him but he needs his family or he thinks he’s nothing he shares with Leo #*slaps his head* do you have any idea the trauma I can fit into this bad boy? #if I can heavily angstify a character chances are I will love them #that is a threat and a promise

[ghost-bxrd]

The “my baby” tiktok sound plays in my head when I think about That Part TM in owl song when Dick and/or Bruce finds Jason (and that scene in general, tbh).

Gosh, that audio breaks my heart every time :((( and once Dick finds Jason gone… yeah I can totally picture him saying something like this. It’s going to utterly destroy him…

#or does it count as eldest daughter syndrome? #eh anyway #dick’s reaction… isn’t going to be pretty #it will definitely deserve a grief tag #you know how in TSOA Achilles first reaction to seeing Pat’s dead body was to slit his own throat? #yeah it’s going to be THAT bad #I feel for poor Bruce #and Tim #having to deal with the fallout of everything happening #owl song #talon dick grayson #jason todd #batfamily #dick grayson #batfam #bruce wayne #robin #tim drake #batman #jaybin #Nightwing #a death in the family

[reblogglelog]

Sad Boy Hours: Billy Batson

He's trying so hard to get the screaming adults in the room to just stop screaming at each other and be reasonable.

He is immediately dismissed and storms off, justifiably insulted.

And Billy goes right back to blaming himself, trying to figure out where he went wrong, how he could have fixed things, managed the emotions of the room better--even though he is 100% correct and the adults are absolutely failing, and badly.

"Even if he's wrong...I should respect him." Honey, the thing that's eating at you is the absolute dogshit way they act and then expect you to just accept as normal. These grown-ass heroes should not be hitting each other.

And a degree, honey. Several of them.

He sounds like a teacher trying to get the class to behave and that script keeps failing him. Over and over the adults around him dismiss him for his optimism, ignore his calls for reason. And they're heroes. They're the good guys and they tear into each other regularly and viciously. And Billy is fifteen years old in a room of adults screaming at each other. The team is sometimes down right abusive, and this child is trying to keep them from falling apart.

I worry about him, ya know?

(anyway, thank you for coming to my Sad Boy Hours)

#justice league 80s #jli #justice league international #billy batson #shazam #dc captain marvel #i found so many moments of billy being an absolute sweetie pie and trying desperately to get people to get along #it kinda breaks my heart a little because he's just 15 and these are Grown Ass Adults in the MOST hostile work environment #i got a LOT of feelings about the Emotional Support Child #possibly eldest daughter syndrome but all the kids are older than you and y'all have no parents #he's literally a child soldier #kind of inspired by a fic i read the other day #and just watching billy get emotional slapped around because he Cares #sad boy hours #when the most mature person on the team is the only one who hasn't finished puberty #and i get this is kinda the joke but the sad boy hours got me so #ANGST #“its not that deep” IT IS TO ME

[elisedonut]

thinking about Pre-canon and Pre-Hogwarts Percy, Fred and George dynamics

I know I've said it before but once again thinking about them following him around like little ducks

Like He goes outside they want to go outside

he's reading in the living room they want to play in the living room and inevitably end up somehow ruining his book

he's sent on an errand to a neighbor's house they try to sneak out to follow

Like this only lasts until Percy starts going to Hogwarts because even if they don't say it they felt abandoned by it

#percy weasley #eldest daughter syndrome Percy who ends up being a main caretaker for the twins even through he really shouldn't have been my beloved #Molly is distracted with two babies there's only so much she can do for them #and Percy tries to be helpful and instead of stopping him Molly encourages it because she doesn't understand why its a bad thing #leading to fucked up family relations all around #fred weasley #George Weasley

[celestial-ringleader]

“. . .I still feel like I’ve got a circus tent on my back. . .this is like a ballgown made of kevlar!”

I’ve been thinking way too much about Dick as Batman............ @ronnyraygun

#ive been forced into a role i didnt want bc i dont want to be like my adoptive dad but also #no one else is gonna do it so i guess i gotta #dick grayson #nightwing #richard grayson #dc fanart #listen ive been staring at all those batman variant covers that have religous symbolism #and the muse just possessed me #not rlly eldest daughter syndrome but more like #this was such a good era for him #i blame ron for kicking me in the ass to do it instead of sitting on it forever #dick has such an atlas complex bc of his survivor's guilt and i love him for it <3

[wakandamama]

Mizu is only 19 y'all....

#blue eyed samurai #mizu blue eye samurai #damn #eldest daughter syndrome on 5000 #lile 19 AT MAX because Fowler said he and the other white men have only been in Japan for 20 years #fuck she may be 117-18 even

[starabxlla]

What’s my favorite colour? Well ever since I heard the sound of my mother sobbing because of me I’ve felt this feeling of inescapable dread and never though it hurts me just as much I feel like I don’t deserve the luxury of grieving the delicate relationship we had because it was my doing, but I know I shouldn’t feel bad because I was doing it for my own mental sanity and I am the child in this situation but I can’t shake this feeling because that’s my mom. That’s the women that gave birth to me and raised me and I hurt her just to save myself and I know she’s not doing this on purpose because it’s not her fault that she’s in love with him, but also isn’t it her fault because she has continued to stay with this man after years of the abuse I’ve endured from him, but also that’s not a good mindset to have because she’s also a victim in that relationship but also I’m a child! And even though I know all of these things and it’s all complicated and I know I don’t deserve the blame but neither does she because it’s not her fault. But then again, I hurt her. But I had to hurt her because at this point it was going to kill me, and I only had to hurt her to get out of the situation she put me in. But she’s literally my mom and the connection we have is simply unmatchable because I understand her and she understands me and she was the first person I ever knew and I’ve never known my life without her. And I feel like I understand her better than others because I understand the position she’s in, which makes it worse because I can empathize with the fact that she’s a victim of narcissism and I can understand that because it’s a general problem that women are always having. So as a women I completely forgive her and feel bad for her and wish I would save her. But as a human I will never forgive her or understand why she has done this. But as her child I love her more than anything want her to hold me and love me and tell me everything will be okay. But as a victim I never want to see her again. And all that too say Idk what my favorite colour is because I like them all and I don’t know who I am at this point !

#say something 💕 #hot girls have mommy issues #Mommy issues #starabxlla #this is a girlblog #girlblogging #it girl #girl interrupted #literature #lana del ray aka lizzy grant #just girlboss things #parental issues #family issues #im hurtin #eldest daughter #gaslight gatekeep girlblog #lana del rey #late night thoughts #Eldest daughter things #eldest daughter syndrome #eldest daughter problems #eldest daughter core #overthinking #bad poetry #I can’t do this anymore #just girly thoughts #just girly things #just girly posts #just girly stuff

[buried-in-autumn-leaves]

In the fathers day moment there's a line where Cove tells off Cliff for trying to act like mcs dad, and when you give him the fathers day card, Cove is like oh i didnt mean anything bad, we can totally share dad.

But im thinking about the angst opportunities for if you decide to not give it to him after Cove says that. If he's saying that, he must not WANT to share his dad, giving him the card would be pushing his boundaries, that kind of thing.

#angst aside i actually love how readily cove accepts you into his family. #the brother ever #(i have eldest daughter syndrome) #our life #our life beginnings & always #olba #gb patch games #cove holden #cliff holden #clifford holden

[sapphiretanto]

I’m wondering if Jason and Damian planned this earlier in hopes of getting out of a family/sibling gathering. Either way, I’m still laughing at it.

#dc: robins #dc comics #Dick Grayson #Nightwing #Stephanie Brown #Spoiler #Damian Wayne #Robin #Jason Todd #Red Hood #Damian and Jason being murder bros #and not giving a fuck just so long as they don’t have to socialize #Dick “eldest daughter syndrome’’ Grayson #he’s so fucking done #“we’re having words’’ #batfamily

[shih-coulda-had-it]

i bet afo THINKS he has eldest daughter syndrome and if anyone is like 'really. you sure' then hes like yeah i had to babysit yoichi for like a hour once

the melodrama set in early.

quote from How the Light Gets In (an arrow x supernatural fanfiction) which i pulled from this web weaving post:

"When you are an older sibling, you are given a responsibility. You are shown a life that matters so much more than yours. You keep that kid safe. It doesn't matter what you lose in the process or how many things you have to take apart to keep something else together. All that matters is that you do your job."

#bnha #all for one #shigaraki yoichi #shih's art #asks #anon #if horikoshi gives afo a sad childhood and eldest daughter syndrome #the 20k afo character study on ao3 will be dropped (not by me) #fortunately the only vibes we have gotten off afo (even fanon afo) #are those of extreme chuunibyou and immortan joe #so we are safe.