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restinslices · 3 months

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Ahhhh after some thought I’ll choose the earthrealm men with a lovey dovey s/o 👉🏻👈🏻

back to requests a mere 6 days after saying I was gonna take a break. Was that post a little unnecessary? Yes, but I didn’t want anyone to get mad at me for not posting everyday and not getting to requests immediately. ANYWAY, back like the flu.

Johnny Cage

Johnny “Loves Attention” Cage is having the best time

Do y'all remember how much of a cornball this man was in the game? He has no shame

So a significant other who also has no shame? He's getting on one knee as soon as possible

He tries to out cornball you

He loves it all. The stupid nicknames, the cuddling, the gifts, the giggling, all the adoration, he's just in love

Definitely returns the favor. If you buy him smth, he's buying you smth (let's ignore that debt), you give him a nickname so he gives you one. It goes on and on

All this lovey dovey shit might exhaust some people. Johnny is not some people.

The nicknames are probably his favorite part. He makes the most atrocious nicknames up because you won't be upset

Some real dumb shit like Oogy Boogy Sweetie Weetie Cutie Patootie Kissy Face- yeah all that shit is one nickname. Why? Because it's funny to him and you'll laugh

The type to get y'all dumbass matching shirts

“If found return to stupid” “I'm stupid”

Those type of shirts

Everyone hates you because it becomes a competition of who can be the most corny. It's tortuous for anyone near you

Cannot express enough how much this man enjoys the attention you give him. If one day you decided to ignore him as a joke, he'd actually be so sad and notice immediately

He just adores having a corny lovey dovey partner. The best thing to happen to him.

Kenshi Takahashi

He doesn't hate it but he definitely needs a breather sometimes

Having a lovey dovey partner isn't terrible to him. All the touching and nicknames and being spoiled is definitely cute to him, but being lovey dovey also means you're on him a lot. Kenshi doesn't give me huge extrovert vibes so I think because you're so extreme(?) that there's times when he needs a break

He thinks it's adorable though. He likes feeling wanted so he likes how outwardly you are with your love

Idk if he likes all the nicknames though. I can see him easily cringing if you go overboard

Idk how he'd feel about you spoiling him. He doesn't hate it but he feels like everytime you give him a gift, he has to give you one and he ain't got that shit on him. His own thoughts are running him dry

When his social battery is recharged I think he'd like how physical and sweet you are

He enjoys how loved you make him feel. He's just not sure how to respond sometimes. I can see you saying something really corny and although he thinks it's cute, his brain doesn't move fast enough and he ends up just staring at you

He rolls his eyes a lot too so it can give the appearance that he's annoyed by you but it's definitely not that

You want some corny shit he'll definitely like? Matching jewelry. He'll eat it up like it's a cookie

Also draw over his tattoos. He loves it

Loves the corny shit his brain just legit shuts off sometimes

Kung Lao

Like Johnny, he enjoys the attention

Idk if he necessarily enjoys all the corny things. I don't get a strong feeling from him. Maybe it depends on the day

Likes the attention and spoiling but all the corny nicknames and shirts and just being a total sap makes him a little uncomfortable at times

Once again, it depends on the day. Sometimes he's all for it and sometimes he's like “let's calm down for today”

Gets you a matching hat but without all the sharp shit because he doesn't trust you with sharp objects

He's a mix of Johnny and Kenshi tbh

He refuses to wear those corny matching shirts. You'll have to kill him

That applies to other things too

Those corny nicknames Johnny would make up? He'd prefer a beating from a serious Spiderman

“Aw my Snookie Wookie-” “I'm gonna shoot myself right here right now. Please stop”

It's cute and he acknowledges that it's how you show love but certain things just ain't gonna work with him

Especially in public certain things just won't work with him because he has an ego and thinks certain things will make him look weird. It's giving insecure teen

Don't doubt his love for you though. He loves his little sap. Just take it a bit slow

At some point a switch would flip and he'd go from being embarrassed to thinking “wow, I'm so great my partner is willing to look silly in front of others!”

Now he feeds into your corny bullshit

A win is a win

Raiden

I fully believe him and Liu Kang are romantics, therefore he loves it

He gets flustered easily so tons of affection makes his face go red and all that cute shit

His brain also short circuits like Kenshi's. He's so bad at pretending he's not flustered

“Are you blushing?” “...” “...” “...” “Raiden?” “Of course not”

Likes the consistent physical contact

Spoiling him also makes him short circuit. He's trying to think of how to thank you but all that comes out is “oh!”

Adores you just as much as you adore him

He likes gift giving. And idk mean just jewelry, I mean “you got me all these gifts so I'm gonna bring you a bunch of produce and hey, maybe we can cook later”

We saw him collecting cabbages like Cabbage Man from ATLA in the beginning of the game, he gotta still have the hook up

Loves receiving cheek kisses

Man is so weak in the knees. Kung Lao can yell “STAND UP!” all he wants. That shit is not happening

Play with his hair. Once again, weak in the knees

He's having a great time. Sure he's easily embarrassed but it's not like “omg, you're being weird. Stop”. It's more of a “I love this but I feel like everyone's looking”

You two are super lovey dovey but not as obnoxious as you and Johnny. Johnny is like “you can't out corny me” and Raiden is just tryna vibe and love on you since you love on him

All the embarrassment he feels is so worth it to him

Liu Kang

A romantic so all that lovey dovey shit? Heaven to him

Liu Kang has so much love to give and he's never allowed to share it because his life is ass in every timeline

So a partner that adores him and shows him how much they adore him? Did the Elder Gods hand craft you for him?

He's honestly a mix of everyone. He wants to love you all the time like Johnny, he loves how much you love him like Kenshi, he loves how much you outwardly adore him like Kung Lao and he's a huge romantic that loves how much time you spend together like Raiden

He's so love deprived so he loves everything you wanna do

Matching shirts, jewelry, socks, whatever the fuck? Absolutely.

Spoiling him with random shit? He'll take it all

Telling him how much you love him all the time? Yes.

Giving him the dumbest and corniest nicknames? He'll take that too

He's also lovey dovey so the feeling is very much mutual

Enjoys quality time so you wanting to be on his hip is very much welcomed

You're a breath of fresh air since you're so kind and loving to him. Remember he has all the memories of the past timeline, then this timeline gets fucked up. He's used to constant smoke and destruction so someone being so nice and sweet to him and relaxing with him is heavenly to him

Doesn't matter how corny it is. It's all he wants

Real quick, two things. Firstly I wanna make more MK1 intros so y’all should give me ideas. Secondly I think it would be fun if we as a unit made an MK1 oc. I’d make polls, you’d vote on certain things and then we use the same results but tinker it to our individual liking. For example maybe we know they’re Edenian but their gender is up to you. It’d be like a bunch of variants. A Multiverse of Madness if you will.

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am-i-the-asshole-official · 2 months

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AITA for asking my mother not to do certain things?

Let me start off by saying i'm homeschooled. I've been homeschooled my entire life. I don't have any friends offline, so I've pretty much come here to ask for outside opinions from my friend groups (online).

Prefer not to state ages, if that's okay. It makes me uncomfortable.

I have ocd, suspected autism, and either auditory processing disorder or misophonia (we're not sure which.) as well as a plethora of other issues. my mother is very aware that i have ocd (she has it herself) and i've mentioned misophonia to her several times. she doesn't know about my other mental issues, as for reasons you're probably going to see here, as i don't feel comfortable or safe telling her. (or, i've tried, and she doesn't listen, or tells me i'm "being dramatic.")

my ocd is quite crippling, to the point i've tried medication, herbal tea (chamomile seems to work a bit!), asking friends for advice, and even asking her for advice. as of the last year, it's had a grip on my life and has been quite a problem for me. i'm unable to do things i want or need to a lot, and especially struggle doing most things, even basic tasks. i'm unable to see a therapist/counsellor or psychologist/psychiatrist for personal/financial reasons.

a lot of my triggers (well, not exactly triggers for the ocd, but they stop me from doing things.) revolve around sound, especially people talking. whistling is a major trigger for my misophonia/apd, as are other high pitched noises.

my mother has a tendency to watch tv a lot, and i often ask her to not do this when i'm trying to do certain things, as it makes my ocd a bit worse, and it's often rather loud. (please note i wear headphones a lot of the time for sensory issues.)

however, when i ask her either to turn it down, pause it temporarily, or ask her to turn it off for a bit, she has a tendency to get mad/upset. to the point of throwing a bit of a fit over it, in a way that to me seems a bit attention seeking (in the bad way). she says things like "fine, whatever." and flaps her arms about dramatically or slaps her legs, or she says "i don't even wanna watch it now, it's ruined."

i'll go ahead and say she's a bit self-centered in a lot of ways. for years she has said i've "targeted" her and "treated her terribly" even though any time i was (to her) doing these things, i was usually defending myself or telling her to do something that she needed to do that had been requested for days/weeks/months/sometimes years. i also have a tendency to ask her what she's doing, either out of genuine curiosity, or because she has done something strange to me that i didn't understand. which she gets mad over.

she also gets mad if i ask if she's coming over here (i have a tendency to walk/pace in certain areas to music, it helps with stress/adhd/also helps me write/act things out. she is very aware of this and this isn't really a problem.) or ask how long she will be over here. she seems to think me asking this is telling her she can't come over, or desperately trying to get her to move. admittedly sometimes i DO want her to move, but 90% of the time i am just asking so i know if i need to move to a different area to walk or just stop temporarily.

sometimes when i am having a particular peak in my ocd/anxiety/whatever else, i ask her not to talk for a moment/few minutes, either so i can do something i need to, or because i'm afraid it will make it worse. she'll either get mad about this, or go on a tangent about "not catering to me" and saying things "the real world doesn't work like this, and nobody cares that you have ocd/issues." she has a tendency to take my issues as a personal attack on her, when in reality i would ask anyone to stop for a moment.

she has a tendency to belittle me in a sense for it. i've tried to explain some of it to her (without revealing details of my trauma she doesn't know about, as most of my ocd is linked to severe ptsd.) and she says it "doesn't make any sense" and i "need to stop" and i "need to just make myself stop." she has ocd, and knows compulsions are not always rational, and yet still says these things.

part of my desire not to go to a therapist is because of her. she claims they will either try to put me away take me to another home/put me in foster care, or drug me up on medication that will make me dull. (the other part is more personal, and unrelated to her, but to my aforementioned trauma.)

one of the things i especially ask her not to do is whistle, or make a few other certain noises (eating loud, using nail files around me, etc) because they are especially triggering to me. she'll either blatantly refuse and say i "don't get to tell her what to do" or i don't "control her" (please note i am just asking, but when i DO specifically tell her to stop, it is because she either already knows this sound is triggering to me, or i've already asked, and i'm losing my patience.) or she'll do it louder/more just to trigger me further (my father also does this. sometimes as a joke which in some ways is worse.) or she'll go on the "not catering + nobody cares" tangent again.

i know my ocd and other issues can be a bit interrupting, but i don't ask huge things of her or anyone else. all i ask is for them to not make certain sounds around me, temporarily ask them to not do something/stop doing something, or ask them to do it a bit quieter for me. please note she has the ability to watch tv/videos on other devices with headphones easily, she just chooses not to. and worse of all, they treat it like it's not interrupting to me, when it affects my everyday life in ways far worse than asking/telling them not to do something.

it makes me feel unwanted and unappreciated, and i'll admit, i've contemplated....not existing, if you will, many times over this issue and others.

i just don't really know if i'm asking too much, or if they're just being shitty. i want outside opinions on this.

so, AITA?

(id put a tl;dr in here, but i don't really know what to put. feel free to do it for me. also, i know this was kinda long, but i needed to put some extra things in, sorry if thats like an inconvenience or anything!)

(adding my sideblog here so i can get notifs, @ocdaitathrowaway)

What are these acronyms?

#aita #am i the asshole

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utilitycaster · 6 months

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Eh, I doubt this will stop them but I'll cover the alleged hypocrisy since they appear to be harassing other people as well before going to bed.

[description: reblog from harassing-little-hypocrite. The real question is why was the little hypocrite so upset about Imodna in the first place? There is only one answer to that question, and the little hypocrite refuses to give any reasonable alternative. Sure, it made sense to criticize Imodna before, it really left a lot to be desired. But now, there is a new ship that, at best, has all the problems Imodna had. Why is the little hypocrite a fan of one ship but has never stopped shitting on the other? What is different about them, really?]

I assume "little hypocrite" is referring to me, because it was a reblog of my post, but given the URL it might be the poster talking about themselves in the third person like Elmo does. Who can say, really.

Anyway, I agree, Imodna does leave a lot to be desired. I'm not upset; I think it's boring but it also only comes up for like two minutes every other episode.

What's different about Fearne and Ashton: To be clear, I don't consider this an OTP, I don't have strong investment in it being endgame, I absolutely don't expect it to be monogamous, and honestly if it jumped straight into Undying Devotion To Each Other next episode instead of making out and having more interesting conversations I'd be immediately turned off. But right now? They've had a conversation of substance, they discussed their goals in concrete ways, they've had a silly flirty thing going on with the stealing game throughout the campaign (even when I thought the fanon of the ship sucked - which I still do - I felt a hookup would be fun but anything deeper would be contrived), and, perhaps most crucially, they can express frustrations with each other. My issue with Imodna has always been that they have the same boring-ass conversation in slightly different configurations over and over, the two potentially interesting conflicts they had fizzled out like a cheap whoopie cushion, and god, I'm so bored. Fearne and Ashton have conflict. That's the main thing I've wanted from Imodna - I've said that repeatedly - and they've failed to deliver. That's the difference.

Anyone can look through my blog and find plenty of other F/F ships I've enjoyed greatly; I happen to dislike this particular one. There's plenty of straight ships I think suck as well. It's deeply irresponsible to co-opt the language of social justice over stupid fandom wank; you sure aren't helping lesbians in any material way through this, that's for certain, if this is what I considered fun I'd develop literally any other hobby, and it does not really worry me what you think of me given that you don't know me in real life and as such have no basis to pass such judgments with authority.

It's interesting that for a ship where so many shippers seem desperate for more approval from the fandom, multiple Imodna shippers like you are simultaneously out here asking the question "what if I made myself as unpleasant as possible?" (I know you say you find it leaves a lot to be desired, but given that you're specifically mad that I like a different ship more than Imodna...yeah, sure.) Not sure if you're the old fandom bottom-feeder or a new one, but man, people who were neutral on Imodna have begun to sour on it because it's getting a reputation for being the ship of choice for clowns like you, and it's only going to keep getting worse, and people who prefer other things are going to just keep blocking you and write meta and fic for their ships and you'll get less and less.

#cr spoilers #anyway if this person bothers you...sorry about that pls block and report etc etc i'm going to sleep

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epickiya722 · 1 year

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An izuocha shipper said this:

Bkdks are just so transparent and easy to read. The people who rant now and want "justice for iida" are the VERY SAME people who always call him irrelevant to the story, boring, annoying, talk down his friendship with izuku and still havent forgiven him being rude ONCE to izuku in the very beginning of the manga before he and izuku even were friends (ohhhhh but anti bakugou people have to forgive bakugou ABUSING izuku for 12 YEARS, right?) and unlike bakugou didnt need over a century to apologiez! Lets be real, there is maybe just 1% of bkdk shippers who are really mad that it wasnt iida. For the majority thats not what the real problem is. They arent mad, because iida was "swaped" with ochako in the opening, they are mad because it was ochako and NOT bakugou! NOT ONE OF THEM would complain if instead of ochako reaching her hand out for izuku, if it would have been bakugou! Despite that there is no such moment in the manga between them! Its all about their shipping agenda. The anime can be as inaccurate as possible, bkdks dont care as long as bones highlights izukus and bakugous relationship even if its not manga canon.

What do you think about it? I'm interested in your opinion

And I am happy to give my opinion!!

Once more it's just other shippers trying to take a stab at BkDks and for what? Because they can't let it go. They're just bored and can't help but be asses.

For one, a lot of BkDks I have seen NEVER said Iida is boring or that irrelevant in any way. When it comes to other characters, I have seen a lot of BkDks defend them, Iida being one, Uraraka being another.

Hell, ask a BkDk who their favorite female character and most likely you'll get Ochaco Uraraka aka Uravity as an answer

No one is upset that it wasn't Bakugou that held Midoriya's hand in the opening. We're upset because once more Uraraka is just being used to fuel that role that it seems she's being forced into, which she doesn't deserve. She doesn't deserve to be a girl who only seemed to have Deku on her mind. A lot of her actions aren't even influenced by him and it sucks that others don't get that. On top of that, Iida, who a lot of us love, myself included, hated seeing his big moment taken away like that.

That's what it's more about. When that chapter came out that the opening is alluding to, no BkDk shipper I saw get upset. Why?

Because Iida is another good friend of Midoriya’s, he's also a great character on his own and it was nice seeing him getting the spotlight in that moment. It's like with Kirishima, BkDks like Kirishima because he is also a great character. He just happens to be a friend of Bakugou's. Do BkDks hate that? No!

Also BkDks and Bakugou fans aren't asking for anti Bakugous to "forgive" Bakugou. No one cares how they feel about Bakugou.

At most, what is being asked is not being so annoying about it and leave that space alone that does like his character. They're constantly the same ones sending threats, purposely tagging their anti posts wrong, commenting under fics, reblogging posts, etc. Like hate Bakugou, that's your preference and no one is forcing for a change of heart.

But how in the fuck (excuse my language) are antis going to throw the "Bakugou is a bully" card (mind you, who at the end of the day is a fictional teenager) yet do trolling and bullying REAL PEOPLE?

And!

The anime actually CAN'T be inaccurate as possible because all it's doing is ruining what Horikoshi and his team has worked on in the manga. It's why it's highly encouraged to read the manga.

I'm not surprised an IzuOcha shipper said that because guess what the anime is doing? Making IzuOcha seem more important when there's other things they should be highlighting like Iida's importance. If anyone is easy to read it's some of them.

BkDk shippers love BkDk, yeah, but most I have seen are always excited for the other characters, analyzing scenes about other characters and themes, hell, some are even multishippers so they do like other Bakugou and Midoriya ships.

Honestly, BkDks and Bakugou fans are probably the sets of people that seem to actually care about the story as a whole the most.

Ashido got a scene cut? A BkDk shipper will point it out. Shigaraki didn't say that in the manga and it's out of character? Oh, look that Bakugou fan caught it! Uraraka being reduced to nothing more than a girl with a crush despite having other great qualities that should be highlighted on? BkDks and Bakugou fans are ENRAGED.

Overall, to summarize this (it is long and I apologize for that, I ramble) BkDks in general don't care that it should have been Bakugou who held Midoriya's hand, I know I don't. We care about Iida's and Bakugou's significance to one of the darkest times in Midoriya's life. We care that Uraraka is also treated with care as she should be. If the opening wanted to have an IzuOcha moment, they could have! Just why make it the moment that should have gone to the characters that was important in that vital moment? They've been doing original scenes and whatnot forever, why stop now? Why take something away from other characters that are just as important as the protagonist and main girl character?

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wishing-stones · 7 months

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Hii,,, hope I'm not bothering you too much. I've been a really big fan of your writing for a couple of months now. You don't have to respond to my ask if it makes you uncomfortable, I understand.

I'm someone who easily falls into paranoia spirals, and constantly second guesses whether my behaviour is socially appropriate since I have such a hard time reading a room. I have a habit of unknowingly stepping over the line when I get excited and thus making people uncomfortable, and only being aware of it if I'm directly confronted about it? Though because I absolutely hate conflict I often distance/isolate myself from the people I'm close to and find myself forming deeper emotional attachments to stuffed animals than people.

Would the guys find this to be a problem? Would they particularly care about someone being more open to an inanimate object than them, or if they need to regularly switch between reminding the person of boundaries and assurance that they aren't a selfish or awful person?

(Again, feel free to ignore this if you don't want to respond, I won't get upset if this ask gets deleted for being too much)

- 🖍 crayanon

Okay first of all Crayanon is adorable

Secondly, sending me asks is in no way bothering me! If I don't have the time or energy to respond to them, I often sit on them until I do (or until I come up with a sufficient answer for some of them). The only ones I wind up deleting are the ones I legitimately don't have an answer to LOL.

Thirdly, I'm seeing some self-deprecation here, and I'd like to remind you that you aren't a selfish or awful person for your neurodivergence. I prefer the company of animals, stuffed or not, to people most of the time as well. It's no shortcoming of yours that you have issues reading social queues-- especially when excited. You're far from alone in that aspect, and honestly? You can't blame yourself for crossing a boundary that you didn't know existed. All you can do is keep that boundary in mind going forward. You're not psychic, so you can't have known, and anyone who gets mad at you for crossing a line you weren't aware of... might be someone you may wish to rethink being around. This is a very annoying thing that happens with Neutotypical people, I feel. They expect you to know the exact social standards of every single setting everywhere you go when they... don't communicate that whatsoever. It isn't your fault, and this is all a very long winded way for me to say: Don't beat yourself up over stupid unspoken societal standards. It doesn't make you a bad person, and neither does wanting to avoid these situations. You aren't selfish, and you aren't awful.

With that out of the way...

Generally speaking, the guys are really good with mental health and neurodivergence in general. It's kind of a monster society thing-- since monsters are all so vastly different from one another, they don't tend to balk at anything that has to do with appearance or mentality. It's just the way you are, and if it happens to cause problems for you or them, they're still very supportive. They might nudge you towards professional help if it becomes a serious problem, but on the whole, these guys are very hard to offend by behavior.

Killer also has issues with boundaries sometimes, and needs to be corrected. With the guys, this usually comes in the form of playful violence, but you can shove him off or tell him to back up or steep off just as easily. His are hard to cross, but if you manage it, he's pretty gracious with letting you know, and if he sees you edging up on that line again, he'll playfully remind you of it. He won't get mad. The most you'll get for your troubles is a noogie.

Dust may snap if his boundaries are crossed in any serious way, but he's kind of a withdrawn person. He doesn't mean to be mean, but he'll be firm. He might get a little short and brisk to get you to back off... but he'll explain why once he's wound down from it. He might get a little rattled, but he won't hold it against you. Learning to be around new people can sometimes have a steep learning curve that can go on for years after you've met and grown close to them.

Axe only snaps if you get near his skull injury. Otherwise, he's pretty chill. If it's a social boundary, he isn't bothered too much, and will remind you that it's there calmly. He'll also warn you off of it if he feels you're creeping toward his or anyone else's boundaries, and praise you with reassurances if you remember these on your own. It'd do you well to remember that one of his biggest boundaries is to not startle him awake, since... that's less one for him and more one for you, so you don't get hurt on accident.

Cross will gently bodily move you if it's a physical boundary and just... say your name correctively if it's a social one. He'll explain his boundaries, but prefers reminding you rather than telling you. He thinks that you'll remember these on your own soon enough if he just... nudges you away from them. He's pretty understanding, even if he looks stern. Baggs takes note of these behaviors and works with you on them. Little memory exercises to remind you of where general boundaries might be, offers different methods of mindfulness, and takes everything in stride. Even if you cross his, he's patient and explains gently. He also likes the subtle sort of nudging you in the right direction-- making your own associations and your own corrections are far preferable than straight directions. It allows you to build your own habits and reminders that are custom-tailored to you.

Nightmare has arguably the hardest time with this because he is not pleasant when a boundary of his has been crossed. He'll get a little sour, but still remind you carefully of what that was and why he didn't like that. It's really not you, it's him. He gets cranky and bitter when bothered, but... he also has to remind himself that no one here is psychic and can't possibly know what he's thinking. He likes to lead you into conclusions yourself ("Do you remember what happened last time?") rather than actively correcting it, and does so as gently as he can. This bothers you deeply, and he can tell. He doesn't want you agonizing over a simple mishap that, in the grand scheme of things, matters very little.

As for being closer to stuffies than to them...

...They might get a little jealous, but the most that nets you is them sitting with the plush so that you have no excuse but to spend time with them. Oh no. Fortunately, they can be pretty still and quiet if you don't feel like people at the moment. Just hanging around quietly is enough.

#k answers #k headcanons #feat. r&r crew #readmore for length as always #give yourself the grace and understanding that you grant to others always

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gin-juice-tonic · 1 year

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Hey Gin this might be a silly thing to ask, but how did you realize you were trans? Cause ever since I saw your trans Stan and Ford I think I had some sort of relivation, it started with just really enjoying the art you drew to me feeling some sort of envy. Either that I want to dress more masculine or that I actually want to be a man, cause honestly when I look at your trans stans I just feel so much gender envy (jealousy?) And on my last period I had a whole crying fit over it starting, which has never happened before. I just don't know if this is actually what I'm feeling or if it isn't. I've had thoughts of telling my mom and fearing the consequence. This is just all so new and I'm honestly scared. I figured I'd ask you since I look up to you and from what I've seen you are quite wise. I don't really know why I have so much self doubt and constantly flip flop over things. It's frustrating, I just wish I could be certain about something for once. Sorry about this, I'm a mess really.

It’s not silly to ask. My answer is unfortunately a little silly, because I’m a goober. I also typed A LOT so its all going under a read more

So, I was 16 and on tumblr even more than I am now, and I was (still am) friends with a trans woman who reblogged a post that was like “Just trans girl things: eating dark chocolate because it has substances similar to estrogen” and I went “Haha i guess I should stop eating it.” followed by “…why do I feel that way” and THAT was followed by quite the crisis.

Trans men weren’t as well known about back then, so I was like “Well, it means nothing, since only women can be trans”. And then I found out men could be trans too and that pushed my crisis further along. And I started to think. About how I liked when people defaulted to male pronouns for me on the internet, or how when i was a kid I would use a crazy amount of shampoo to make my hair look short and flatten my chest in front of the mirror and look at it. Things like that. And I got upset because “no i can’t be trans that’s impossible”. I would google things like “how do you know if you’re trans”, “quiz to see if you’re trans”, ect.

But the idea of being seen as a man was exciting. It was tantalizingly exciting. And I knew it could be possibility for me someday, and I knew that made a part of me happy and I couldn’t un-know it.

Final straw was a nonbinary person I had been following made a post about how they were going to start taking testosterone. And instead of feeling happy for them I just got mad and started sobbing to myself. Because I was so extremely jealous. So jealousy absolutely has its place in figuring things out.

You should think. Think about attaining the things you’re envious about. Does this make you happy? It’s okay if it’s upsetting or scary at the same time. Change often is. But if it makes you happy, excites you, gives you hope for the future, it’s worth thinking more about.

You don’t have to jump into telling your mom right away (and I wouldn’t really recommend it till you’re a little more sure of yourself). You can go at whatever pace you want to. I didn’t tell my mom (or anyone in my real life at all) till I was like, 20. And I’d known for 4 years at that point. You’ve sent me a tumblr message, so I’m assuming you’ve got an account here. I’d say asking your friends on this website to address you as male would be a good way to ease into things. And you can see if you like that or not.

For how you dress, again, you can ease into it. Personally it made me happy to dress in athletic clothing (especially tank tops- to show off my non existent guns), or to dress like a greaser (Though I preferred a black t shirt to a white one), or a golfer. None of those things particularly scream ‘man’ but they were man enough to me. You can find things man enough for you. If you want to try out a binder and think you can get one without anyone noticing, my first ever one was a Tri-top from Underworks. They’re like $30 or so. I was able to get away with buying it because I was a cosplay nerd so I just said it was for that.

If you’re the type of person who owns makeup- you could try to find some time alone just to have an experiment of mimicking drag king makeup, or makeup for cosplayers doing male characters. I did that once early on, and while it looked admittedly goofy, it made me ecstatic at the time.

Er sorry for things getting so long. But I just want to say lastly that self doubt is both normal and okay. And thinking far in the future (ie- things like coming out to people or hormones or anything like that) might scare you. But you can take things one step at a time if you want to. Play with just looking at clothes, making outfits on pinterest or whatever, imagining scenarios where people address you as male, thinking of names you might like. See what makes you happy, and expand on the things that do from there.

And regardless of what you discover, in the end you will have learned more about yourself. And that's always a good thing.

#long post #VERY LONG IM SORRY #ask stuff

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wake-me-up-inside-imagines · 10 months

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hii :] could i request daichi and/or mirio whos s/o has the personality of Dallas Winston from the outsiders if das ok 😭🤍

Of course it's ok! I'm gonna be honest, It's been a while since I saw the outsiders last so if this isn't super accurate to Dally's character I'm so sorry (he's one of my favorite characters for the outsiders though so I think I've got this!)

Warnings: mentions of violence and fighting

gn! reader

Daichi with an S/O who's like Dallas Winston

-Oh boy

-The funny thing about this is that Daichi is almost exactly the same as Darry (personality wise at least), so this is an interesting combo

-Ok, he loves you, he really does...

-But lord do you make his anxiety spike

-He's constantly keeping an eye out for you because if he doesn't he knows you'll get into trouble

-Very, VERY reluctant to introduce you to the team because he knows you're a charmer and will be very influential to the first and second years

-He would rather not have Hinata, Noya, and Tanaka start picking fights with random people thank you very much

-You behave around them though so he's chill about it now

-If you have/are going to break the law in some way like stealing, please make sure Daichi never finds out because he will be so fucking mad

-He hates it when you get into fights, so he tries to defuse the situation whenever he can

-He can't stay mad at you for too long though, as I said, you're charming, all you have to do is smile at him and he melts

-Patches you up if you get injured fighting, but not without scolding you first

-He thinks you're really funny, sometimes your joes come so far out of left field it leaves him in hysterics

-He worries for your safety sometimes, he can't always be around to chill you out

-Despite all that he knows your reliable, so he often calls on you when he or his friends need help

-He may or may not have told you the names of the students who were spreading rumors about Asahi (this most recent rumor was particularly upsetting to him)

-Lets just say you took care of them, they never bothered anyone again after that

-You also often defend Yachi and Kiyoko from creeps, so he appreciates that as well

-The first years feel safe around you, they know you've got their back if anyone tries anything

-Daichi knows you're not a fan of opening up and expressing your emotions, but he makes sure you know that if you ever did want to do that then he's here for you, you're safe with him

-Despite your rough personality, he knows you care deeply about him and the people you're close with, and he admires your determination to protect them

-He appreciates that you don't let anyone shit talk him, although he would prefer if you didn't punch their lights out

-Please, for his poor heart, please take care of yourself more, and don't get into random street fights

-He's definitely a good influence on you, he keeps you calm and gives you a safe space to open up

#x reader #daichi sawamura x reader #daichi sawamura #daichi imagine #daichi x reader #haikyuu #haikyuu x reader #haikyuu imagine #haikyu x reader #the outsiders #dallas winston

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my sibling has some very exclusionist opinions and it makes me sad.

i brought up how it's possible to experience gender in the same way a typical woman does, but prefer labels usually associated with a typical man, such as he/him, sir, guy, etc. she said this literally isnt possible because gender labels exist to label gender and you can't go against it. i told them i sometimes go against it, because even when my gender sort of feels more feminine i still hate feminine terms and love masculine ones. she said it's different because i'm genderfluid. i doubt they'd be accepting if i told them i'm actually demifluid/bigender (idk, maybe both), half transmasc half changing.

she also asked "why would someone who identifies as a woman call themself a man?" and got mad when i tried to answer that the person wouldn't indentify as a woman, they'd indentify as a man, just have similar gender to most women.

i also a bit ago tried talking about how mspec gay/lesbian discourse was upsetting me, because everyone should be able to be themselves and if someone doesn't like it, they can just not interact with people who feel mspec fits them, and how people with contradictory labels aren't hurting anyone. they got really upset about it, which surprised me because i thought they would understand?? idk

i wasn't trying to start an argument either time, i was just trying to have a conversation with someone i thought was on my side and would understand me. but i don't think they're safe to talk about these things with anymore :(

oh well i guess

Submitted May 11, 2023

#demifluid #bigender #transgender #trans #enby #nb #nonbinary #non-binary #non binary #trans masc #transmasc #trans masculine #transmasculine #gender expression

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twstjam · 9 months

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Surprise Guest feature (but Twisted Wonderland)

It is missing Obey Me! hours for me so I scrolled the tag for a bit and a Thought has struck

Surprise Guest feature: Twisted Wonderland edition

If you don't play Obey Me and don't know what "Surprise Guest" is, basically, after a battle minigame, you have a chance of any one of the characters in your party "visiting" you, during which you can interact with them (with only a total of three gestures) by touching them or giving them gifts. I don't play Twst (not available in my region 😭) so I don't THINK it has a feature like that, but if there is uhh I give you all permission to point and laugh at me agdjdhdjdj

Anyways, in OM, each character has their own preferences of how they like to be touched and what they like to be gifted. If they don't like how you touch them/what you gifted them they'll get annoyed/mad/disappointed with you. This has got me wondering: If Twst were to have a Surprise Guest feature, what would be the characters' preferred gifts and touches?

I'm a Malleus stan so I'm only confident about my assumptions for him, so I'd love to know other people's thoughts on their faves in the tags or replies!!!

Touches: I hc that he loves to have his horns touched but ONLY by people that he's close to, so during a Surprise Guest, if you go for touching/petting his horns immediately, he'd get REALLY upset with you. You'd have to start out less forward if you want to get maximum affection with him, like maybe touching his hand and then his face and finally his horns. For interactions after a low-scoring battle though and he's feeling bummed, I'm thinking that maybe he'd prefer touches around his chest and shoulders. I imagine this to be MC giving him a hug to comfort him, and he's endeared and says something about how not a lot of people are bold enough to hug him or how he thinks YOU'RE upset at the low scoring and so he allows you to hug him for comfort (he's definitely putting on an act so that he can be all princely lol)

His favorite gifts from you are ice cream and invitations of course!!!

While writing this, I had a few thoughts on Lilia and how he maybe wouldn't like overly-familiar touches. Just touches on his arms would do. Although, actually maybe he would be flattered if you touched his face and patted his head? Idk. I also remembered though that in the new OM! Nightbringer game, Lucifer has dialogue in response to preferred touches that goes something like, "If it were anyone else I'd have them in a headlock by now." And I'm like. I can imagine Lilia saying something like that asfdjgdjdgdjd

#disney twisted wonderland #obey me swd #matcha nonsense #malleus draconia #malleyuu #malleus draconia x you #lilia vanrouge #lilia vanrouge x you #twisted wonderland x you #twisted wonderland imagines

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duckapus · 5 months

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In Deep: part 1

As the airship drifts above the waters of Lily's Zone, Eggman stands near the helm checking something on his tablet, "...Alright, if the Wonder Detector I rigged up is working properly, we should be approaching the drop point soon."

"Roight sir, Oy'll get us ready then." Bomberto then raises his voice, "All hands, prepare ta switch ta aquatic mode!"

As the minions and Badniks get to work and the ship slowly descends, Kamek addresses the main group (or at least the ones that are there. Tari's understandably still belowdecks and Toadsworth was taking a nap last anyone knew), "Alright, I can only use so many waterbreathing spells before running low on magic, and for some reason I never got around to learning the version you can cast on yourself, so not everyone can be on the away team this time."

Predictably, Toad decides to do a peace-out fade-out immediately.

"...Right. Who else?" he looks over at the kids, where Lil Coding is already glaring in defiance, "Definitely you two, I may not know much about all this code nonsense but I have seen what happens if you two get wet."

"Seriously? You can make people breathe underwater and turn an entire kingdom into a disco dance party but you can't make two kids waterproof for a few hours?"

"Even Boopkins can make people breathe underwater, sonny, and the disco spell took a lot of preparation and an external power source, plus it was technically a meme. To make you waterproof even temporarily I would have to bypass a fundamental flaw in the foundation of your code, and in case you hadn't noticed, I'm not a computer programmer!"

Coding looks like he's about to argue further, but SMG4 puts a hand on his shoulder and kneels down to look him in the eyes, "Hey, I know your worried about Lily and your Papa. So am I. But I'd really prefer you not get hurt if we can avoid it, and getting mad at Kamek won't change the fact that staying on the ship is the only way to avoid it right now."

He huffs in frustration, then relaxes and hugs his dad, "Just make sure you come back, alright? Don't die or get turned into a fish on me."

"It's a promise."

They pull back apart after a few moments, then Root grabs a still-upset Lil Coding's hand and starts leading him away, "come on, let's go see if Tari's up for playing Mario Kart or something."

Juliano pats 4's shoulder, "I'll keep an eye on them."

"Thanks."

As the ship lands in the water, Kamek looks over the group again, which now consists of SMG4, Mario, Meggy, the Bobowskis, Cubot (who's coming because he doesn't actually need to breathe at all), and Sig, "That's everyone then?"

There's scattered affirmations, and he nods, "Alright then, Cubot's running the Wonder Detector program Eggman made using the Seed we got from Bowser, so he'll be guiding you. This is the Zone we have the least information on, so stay together if you can and keep your wits about you."

After he casts the spell, Meggy looks over the side, "So, do you just throw us overboard, or what?"

A nearby Hammer Bro shakes his head, "Oh, we don't have to do that!" He gestures over to a raised gap in the railing where an Eggpawn pulls a lever that deploys what seems to be a retractable wooden diving board. "We've got a plank!"

"...Sweet." She runs over to it and calls out to 4, Mario and Bob, "Hey guys, rate my dive!"

As she uses the plank as a springboard to fucking leap ten feet in the air and do a bunch of twists and flips while the boys obediently prepare scorecards, Marcy's eye twitches, "Oh goddesses, I'm the Sane One on a Zero Braincell Squad Adventure."

Sig just shrugs, "Eh, can't be worse than a Tuesday back home."

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Soon enough, the whole group is in the water and swimming towards their destination, passing by all sorts of marine life, sunken ruins (some of which are very obviously transformed versions of familiar locations), and the occasional Ocean-related Meme along the way. After they go past versions of Spongebob and Patrick dancing to that one weird lousy cover of Under the Sea, Marcy notices a dark shape out the corner of her eye and turns with sword raised...but nothing's there.

"You alright sis?"

"..." she huffs and goes back to swimming, "Fine. It's just been too quiet around here."

"Yeah, weird that we haven't seen anyone converted yet. Things never go this smoothly for us."

"Hm."

In the back of the group, oblivious to this conversation, Mario dumbly stares at a school of small Cheep-cheeps, "Hey, I'm-a hungry." He swims up behind the fish, mouth open wide, and-

"Mario!" he looks away to see Meggy waving him forward, the group further ahead than before, "Come on, we can't get separated, remember? We'll get something to eat back on the ship."

"Mmm!" he pouts and crosses his arms, then rolls his eyes and swims after her, camera staying focused on the cheep-cheeps "Fine!"

...And then of course he quickly slides back over all sneaky-like and reaches out a hand, "Maybe just one for the road..."

Before he can get his fishy snack or Meggy can notice what he's doing, something long and thin shoots past behind him, and he spins around to see, "Wha?"

Another passes behind him, this time in the foreground, and skewers the fish he'd been trying to grab. He turns again, and now that it's stuck in the fish he can see that it's a silver harpoon-like spear. He grabs it and turns to face the others.

"Uh, guys!?"

The rest of the group looks at his find curiously, then more harpoons come and they quickly dodge. Meggy and the Bobowskis get ready to fight, 4 and Cubot start freaking out, and Sig...well, he looks slightly more focused than usual.

There's a few tense moments as they try to figure out where the attacks are coming from, then Meggy sees something heading towards them, "Over there!"

She fires at the approaching figure, who deflects it with their weapon and reveals themself to be Heavy Squid with green-tinged arms, some vaguely roman-looking armor hastily plastered onto his model, and harpoons sticking out the barrels of his Heavy Splatling, "Oh no..."

He's just the first of several similarly armored, aquatically redesigned characters to appear, and soon the group's being swarmed. They do their best, with Meggy and the twins displaying their usual skill, Mario being Mario, Sig alternating between throwing out spells and smacking people with his demon arm, and SMG4 and Cubot...flailing around pathetically (it's the thought that counts), but they're quickly overwhelmed and captured due to their superior numbers and adaptation to the terrain.

"Hey! What's-a going on here!?"

Heavy Squid calls back over his shoulder, "Admiral! Intruders captured!"

A familiar voice answers, causing the group (besides Sig and Cubot) to gasp in shock, but none louder than 4, "Good work, Captain Heavy. I'll be sure to inform her Majesty of your squad's stellar performance."

The Admiral swims up to meet them...and it's just as they feared.

"SMG3!?"

He points his trident at 4's face, "Quiet, surface dweller! I don't know how you know my name, but as the Admiral of the Undersea Kingdom Royal Guard I am not to be addressed so casually, especially by a mere prisoner. Especially a pathetic scrub like you seem to be."

4 just nervously nods his head and keeps quiet, because how the hell is he supposed to RESPOND to this situation!?

"Now, come. Our queen has ordered us to bring you before her."

And with that, Admiral 3 and his men swim off, roughly dragging the group with along with them.

Cubot chuckles nervously, "Well, at least we're still going the right way..."

Everyone else just groans.

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After a few minutes, they come to a city inhabited by more converted characters. They group can't help but notice that certain parts of it look eerily similar to the abandoned fair equipment in the Showgrounds, which honestly makes sense considering what little they do know about this Zone. Between that and the apparent memory issues of the Undersea Kingdom's inhabitants, 4 has a terrible sinking feeling that's getting worse the closer they get to 3's "queen."

Eventually they get to the castle, which looks almost but not quite recognizable thanks to how much larger it's become and the new Roman-and-Zora-Inspired Open-Air (or water) design, though amusingly the hat-shaped roof is still intact. They're led to what's supposed to be 4's room and is now an open-air throne room with his desk chair converted into an empty throne too large for any human, let alone the child they're expecting by now, and the group is forced to kneel in the center of the room by their captors (apart from Cubot since he doesn't have any legs, so he's just forced to stop floating) while 3 takes a position to the right of the throne.

"The queen will decide your fate when she arrives, surface dwellers. Pray to whatever gods you have that she is merciful."

A few moments later, a green goomba with a fancy hat enters the room and blows into a conch shell, which ends up sounding like a trumpet, "Presenting her royal Majesty, Sovreign Ruler of the Undersea Kingdom, Queen Sonata!"

A massive, but still rather young-looking, green-and-blue mermaid swims in from behind her throne and sits down.

Mario leans over to 4 and whispers, "Well, we wanted to know if she was okay. Can't get much better than 'Literally Royalty'."

4's too shocked by everything that's happening to even glare in response.

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thesovereignsring-if · 6 months

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You keep saying power fantasy this power fantasy that but no one gives a fuck about any power fantasy, no one's asking you to make the mc all powerful blah blah blah people are asking you to make them competent and tot a doormat, look at that that scene with the general or whatever the mc come across as a little whiny bitch, and why does the shit Erik's been through becomes mc's problem? You're making excuses for a bully because that's all he is, you expect people to feel sorry for an asshole bully? Stop twisting my words I'm not asking for a power fantasy but i guess you see what you want to see

The previous ask so poorly worded anyone would have interpreted the original intent differently, anon.

The power fantasy still applies. It’s the power of wish fulfillment, of dominance to win all your battles or to beat the bad guy. So when I say it’s not a power fantasy, I mean it. The game is a lot about disempowerment and loosing scenarios, of the strong trampling the weak and winning. It’s reflection of how the system crushes those beneath it so the ruling class can rule above the rest.

There’s some nuance.

In Eirik’s confrontation, the MC has the ability the snap back but the physical disempowerment is still there because the MC is mentally and physically exhausted and simply smaller. That wasn’t the issue in the previous ask. It was the lack of empathy for Eirik’s situation and framing it in a different angle so readers can ask different questions removed from the MC pov, but you didn’t get it…again. I didn’t excuse his actions, I never did, and your right, it isn’t the MC’s problem, but Eirik needed a way to find and get control back when he felt he wasn’t getting any or wasn’t being heard. The MC was an easy target for him (the only target honestly) and that’s all it takes in the real world. To have empathy for one’s situation does not mean to condone the wrongdoing. In this case, Eirik can both be a victim and the abuser of a power.

Now the General, is also mad and upset and I’ve already wrote all the reasons why he’s upset and lashes out at the MC. It’s a loosing battle because he points out all the MC flaws (which aren’t even flaws, since they are mostly a result of the MC’s circumstance of birth and the Empress’s love for them), but also warns them of the expectations of those in the Empire who see the MC as an investment. The way he does is pathetic and petty, but he does it because he knows he’s protected by his title and station, and the mere fact that the Vagnyr faction lost the civil war. Anything the MC says or does against him would make themselves look bad and/or harming their own reputation. He got them in an ambush a very specific manner and if even if agreed, he’d laugh in their face and think they’re spineless, the General would have preferred if the MC remained resilient in the face adversity. Finny’s Father was there as well, and even he couldn’t snap back when he was being insulted because of the hidden power dynamic between different factions within the Empire. It’s a loosing battle for him as well because Bellerophyn exists at a higher station of power to both him and MC, regardless of their status of both and station. Bellerophyn has a level of power that even the Empress cannot confront without causing strife in the Empire. The general protects the border, is highly respected in her council and he’s really really good at his job. He uses that to his advantage when he lashes out. He knows he can get away with a lot with impunity.

But you read all that as ‘Excuse’, which is fair, but that doesn’t mean anything I’ve said is false either. An excuse is just a reason or explanation of an offense after all.

It’s upsetting, it’s disempowering and that’s exactly how I want it to be. Sometimes, you cant win battles no matter what you do. And I hope you realize this doesn’t just apply to the MC, anon. A lot of the cast struggle with the power imbalance in the story and some get it even worse than the MC. A small portion of is already there, it’s just written in the subtext. That way, when the time comes the MC might be able to relate with them.

If you can’t tolerate that, it won’t get any better for a bit or a while. Chapter 1 isn’t even done yet and honestly, the MC has a few more Ls to take before things get better for them. They are very much the underdog. No matter how strong and capable they are, there was ways to disempower them, make them feel less than and insignificant in the grander scheme of things. I love it because it can bring out the best or the worse things from the MC. If you don’t like it, if you can only see what’s there at the surface level then, like I said, the rest of the game is going to be unhappy and frustrating for you.

#answered asks #tsr

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beelzzzebub · 4 months

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alright so maybe this is stupid, but basically my family is always making fun of my cat for her weight, and i really hate it

i'm the fattest person in my family, and honestly, for the most part, i love my body. but it's hard a lot of the time and it took moving out of my house and having more autonomy and control over myself to get to that point.

my family has three cats, and one of them is more my cat than anyone else's. we found her at only a couple days old and i took care of her as a kitten. i love her. she's loud and bitchy and playful and soft and yeah pretty fat, at least compared to our other two cats.

i'm not a vet and i'm not a doctor, i'm not good at biology and i can't say i know all that much about health. this isn't really about that though i don't think, because when my family brings up her weight it's not in a way that's even trying to act concerned about her health. she's more active than either of the other cats and she has no trouble getting around and up places. if her health was an issue, i would do everything i could to help her along with my family. but the remarks that they make about her weight rarely, if ever, involve her actual health.

it's just like instead we can't talk about my cat at all without making her weight a joke. i'll say, hey, look at my cat. she's sitting on this soft blanket, isn't she adorable? and someone will say yeah, and she's also so fat. not as an endearment or even just a fact (because i know it's not bad to be called fat, it's literally just an adjective) but they laugh about it, because it's funny and she's different from the other cats. if she's eating, that's funny. because she's fat. if she ever ever misses a jump onto something high up, it's funny. she didn't make it because she's fat. never mind that, like we all know, all the other cats fall off things and miss their jumps too, it's funny because you can point it out with my cat and laugh at her because she's fat.

so maybe you start to put together why this is bothering me. the other thing that is significant in my house about my cat is that she's mine. her traits are loud, fat, and mine. she prefers me and i prefer her.

this is getting out of hand.

ok. the point is.

i always ask people not to make fun of her for being fat. it kind of hurts me, and when i ask them to stop, they laugh at me too, or even get mad at me. because why am i being so sensitive, it's a cat. my sibling actively gets mad and bothered when i tell them to stop. at this point i hardly even try to be polite. it makes me upset. and i've said that, and i've asked them to stop, and they don't, so i don't see why i'm obliged to be nice about it. but of course people keep doing it and i just keep getting upset and then i'm told off for being upset. so idk.

i know this is probably stupid because i have a talent for blowing things out of proportion, but also, it's just always been like this, and it really upsets me and i kind of wanted to get it out so, you know. here we are.

#boink #vent #again #sorry #sigh #i feel like too much #lol #take up too much space #physically and mentally #make too much noise #too much to handle #too many emotions #too much of a problem #too hard to deal with #too big for the room and the bed and the chair and too big to fit my limbs into the same space that everyone else seems to manage to #it's a sucky feeling and just. just little stuff. like this. just emphasizes it #and maybe that's on me maybe that's just my own issue that i have to sort out on my own ig #still though #still kind of knocks the air out of you a bit

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manofmanymons · 2 months

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not really a vent this time but more like some silly, needlessly personal ramblings

I love that my mom has come around to the whole lesbian thing. She was never really opposed to it per se, but she definitely had problems processing and understanding it. For the longest time she would kinda use gender ambiguous terms when talking about romance. Like "your future partner," or "whatever kind of person you end up with"

And to be fair, I could end up with someone who uses they/them or even he/him pronouns. She's not wrong exactly. But the way she said it always made it seem like she wasn't convinced I won't fall for a man someday, y'know? Even when I first came out, her reaction wasn't "I'm surprised you like women," it was more like,,,"I always knew you were queer, but I figured you wouldn't care about gender." She simultaneously never had a problem with the idea that I could love a woman, but couldn't accept that I would never be with a man. And it confused me a lot. To this day I don't really understand what was goin on in that head of hers.

I do know that she stopped with the gender ambiguous language, though. She'll say future girlfriend or wife now. It makes me happy, it really does.

Not sure how to explain to her that I still might not end up with anyone at all anyways. Any time I try to say I'm not really interested in romance, she says it's because I haven't met the right person yet. Classic "you'll know it when you feel it" response.

There are reasons that are more directly sexuality based for why I think I'm better off single. I'm pretty sure I'm demiromantic or something, seeing as I'm 22 and I can literally count the number of crushes I've had in my entire life on one hand. Talking to my friends, it sounds like there's some certain feeling, some natural desire for romantic love that I don't have and can't fathom. Y'know it's not something I ever wanted or fantasized about. I used to get confused when friends sent videos of couples doing stuff and said "this makes me feel so single," because I didn't get why we couldn't just do the same thing. I never really got what they meant when they said it wouldn't be the same. It'd be fun and we love each other, what does it matter that we aren't dating?

There are reasons that are a little more,,,let's say mental health based. I'm bad at communicating and setting boundaries. I swore I'd never snap at someone for upsetting me by doing something I never told them upsets me, and I haven't! I hate people who assume you just "know better" without them ever telling you, and I personally think I've done a bang up job not being one of them. That being said, I can still never quite bring myself to tell someone I like that they're bothering me. I'm also easily bothered by things I know shouldn't bother me. Things I feel would be completely unreasonable to ask someone not to do. So instead I sit there being angry and miserable and wishing I was alone. Even with lifelong friends who have promised they won't get mad if I ever ask them to stop doing something and would even prefer if I did because they love me and can't stand the idea of making life harder on me, I just can't do it.

Most of the reasons tie into what I meant by things that shouldn't bother me. I can't stand sudden noises or movements. I hate sharp sounds and any sound that can be described as "wet." There are places I can't stand being touched. Not even inappropriate ones, either. If someone ever touches my neck, knee, foot, elbow, or wrist, even by accident, it's like a kill switch that makes me irrationally angry. Sometimes the sensation lingers and I end up hurting myself trying to scrub at my skin until the feeling goes away. It used to scare my parents. I have a lot of scars because of it. I hate how whispering sounds. I can't stand the feeling of anyone being close behind me. The sound that kissing makes grosses me out and also makes me irrationally angry. I can only be around other people for so long before I go insane. Even the people I love the most who bother me the least, I've got like a 3 day limit on before it's like "okay great fucking go away now please." Not that I'd ever phrase it like that.

I hate people who chew too loud, laugh too hard at things that aren't funny, or make that icky pop sound when they drink through straws. I hate people who scream when they're excited.

How can I look at someone and tell them "don't laugh like that," "stop eating weird," "please don't clap without saying you're going to first"

It just feels like I've got a million and one obstacles I've gotta overcome before I could be in a healthy relationship, and I don't even want one. But you try to explain that and all ya get in response is "you'll get it when you're older." It was annoying enough when I was a teen, but now that I'm an adult it's like yo how much older exactly am I supposed to get? People I went to high school with are married with kids and you're telling me I'm STILL just too young to understand???

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partyinthemysterymachine · 1 year

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They make a kid? Ehh? (from a post u made last year)

hii!! hehe yeah :3c i assume you're talking about my -adjacent au where Harry is trans and James is Enormous and then they had a baby after getting home from Silent Shenanigans, LOL

in that case.. yes!! :3 they had a baby named Rose, and she is just super fuckin' weird, just like her daddies :3c (especially takes after james, tho - she's even got his green eyes, and good for her!!) (also the name Rose was chosen because i thought those two morons would really like an old, "vintage" name, and i only realized later that the SH-movie protag was a Rose and i was like godDAMMIT it happened again >:( Accidental Name Connection. so yeah, that's the only reason why she's a Rose LOL) (AND TITANIC OBSESSIONS ASIDE, TOO - do NOT LOOK AT ME--)

in -adjacent, Harry IS older, it's true, i haven't quite hammered out the correct ages vs timelines so that things coincide the way i'd want them to LOL (god if you thought GOOMT's timelines were wonk, jesus CHRIST then no one is ready for -adjacent's, let alone me LOL) but i imagine Harry may have been around 47 or 48 when Rose was actually born. James is a bit younger than him, but hashing that out is not only GOOMT spoilers, but also super confusing for the -adjacent timeline, LOL so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ WHO'S TO SAY

although i know you don't mean any harm or offense by your comment and you mention this all in good faith, i want you to know that i'm not mad, nor upset with you in any way!! we're all cool here, maaann.. we're all just breezin' :3

that said, while i always appreciate the interest in -adjacent, i would rather people not offer diagnostic speculation or suggestion about my OC (Rose). i haven't mentioned anything about any disorders or ailments Rose may have (other than Silent Hill Please Stop Violating The Restraining Order-isitis), and i don't plan to diagnose her with anything either, other than "Local Weirdo, Like Her Dads". (it's a Mason-Sunderland thing.)

i don't hc anyone to be autistic. i'm not diagnosed with autism myself, and because of that, and the complexities of the disorder, i prefer not to encroach, out of respect.

now keep in mind: i DO support autistic hc!! i totally support and respect them, fire away!! but from where my comfort levels are concerned, there are some things i just don't feel i could write the way i'd want to unless i've lived that unique experience myself, and autism is one of those things on that list - which is, again, out of respect.

Rose is Just Weird™️. James is Just Weird™️. Harry is, well.. gestures. Just Like That, I Guess™️. LOL

thank you SOOO much for your asks, i LOVE talking about -adjacent (and about Rose, my sweet lil [REDACTED], that silly lil moss ball of her daddies' eyes :3cc)

hope to hear from u again soon anon!! KISS KISS MMWAAHH

#ches writes #adjacent #oc: rose #does a lil wiggle dance :3cc

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notabled-noodle · 2 years

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Hello, sorry to bother

This might upset you! Don't read it if you're having a bad day.

I'm not comfortable stating my disability but I struggle with lots of things that are easy for normal people

I read your post* about neopronouns (from June 7th) and it made me cry. (In a good way!!) I feel terrible about my disorder already for so many reasons, it's not one that's easy to understand. Most of my close friends don't understand it, but they respect it, and that's all I think I can ask from them.

In summary though, I can't do a lot of things that are easy for most people, and what I can do that is easy for most people I usually have to do differently.

I'm sorry for saying so much, I just want you to understand.

Anyway, I was wondering what I can do in situations where people only use neopronouns? I follow many blogs with people who do and I really like them, but they often get angry because of people who don't use them. Which I understand, I am transsexual myself.

I just don't know what to do. If I ask for others, they get mad, if I call them by just their names, they get mad. I don't want to hurt anyone and I don't know what to do. And I don't think it's their fault, I get being mad about that sort of thing, growing up I was bullied for being trans too.

I try really hard to do everything well, especially online, because online people won't be able to tell something's wrong with me very easily. This is something I just can't do. I can't read full books. I have to have a teacher explain what most phrases mean when we read short passages. I struggle with comprehension and processing and a lot of basic English. I can't do better here and I feel awful about it.

I feel like explaining that I can't because I'm disabled will make them angry or I've had two say that they're disabled too and they can still do it. I'm frustrated and upset.

What do I do? When ever I ask for advice it's something I've already tried (above) and I feel like you'll know.

I'm sorry to bother you, again. I hope you have a really good day.

If this ask made you angry please don't post it to yell at me, just delete it and move on.

* The post basically said "some people can't understand neo pronouns because they're disabled and that's okay"

hello! firstly, I want to reassure you and anyone else who may be reading this that I would never answer a good-faith ask just to yell at the asker. I also want to say that anyone who struggles with neopronouns is not a bad person. you’re allowed to struggle.

most neopronoun users have auxiliary pronouns. if you’re a neopronoun user who is reading this, I urge you to think about what your auxiliary pronouns are — what’s your preference for if someone can’t use your neopronouns?

back to anon — it isn’t disrespectful to say “my disability makes language hard and I don’t understand neopronouns. do you have alternatives?”. if someone gets mad at you for that, they clearly don’t understand the complexities of disability. that’s on them, not on you.

I also don’t think it’s disrespectful to just… not? as in, a lot of the times when I’m communicating with someone online, I don’t use their name or pronouns at all. if I’m talking to them directly, I can usually say “you”. if I’m talking to someone else about them, it’s usually fine to just use the person’s name. I really don’t see how someone could get mad about that.

I know that’s basically the same as what you’ve already tried, but beyond that I’m stumped! it’s a really difficult thing to navigate! (and once again, I ask neopronoun users to try their best to be polite to disabled people!)

TLDR; I’m really not sure, but I don’t see why someone should get angry if you just use their name or if you ask about auxiliary pronouns politely

#asks #sorry anon! I hope this helps somewhat

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doberbutts · 11 months

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Re: book ask #15:

I read a lot of different genres and there isn't a whole lot of content I find overwhelmingly upsetting (maybe avoid extreme gore). If you need some more parameters, maybe something with elaborate worldbuilding (I really liked LOTR for that aspect)?

Ohh, elaborate worldbuilding my beloved.

If you want something a little lighthearted but quite wordy, here is my unironic recommendation to read the unabridged version of The Princess Bride. If you liked the movie, I can promise the narration in the book is exactly like that, so you'll be in for a treat. There are, unfortunately, some Very Boring Bits, but the narrator also tells you "hey I'm about to list off about three pages of begats so you understand how this guy is the king now, maybe skip to this page if you don't feel like reading all of that" which I found both delightful and also helpful on re-reads. Obviously Tolkien is the king of worldbuilding so it's difficult to find anyone that quite reaches his level, but there is quite a good deal of care that goes into the world even if on the outside it seems like a lot of "who cares! it's a fantasy story! suspend your disbelief please!"

If you are looking for something with a little more subtlety and for a multi-book venture, and you don't mind quite dark storytelling, I just finished the Witcher series and I did quite enjoy it. Fair warning that the English translation is fairly matter-of-fact about the various dark things that happen (cannibalism, incest, rape, bestiality, pedophilia, oh my!) but for the most part there is not much that is overly explicit. There is a bit of a mad dash had by Ciri towards the end of the second to last book where certain things become, uh, pretty detailed, but the series has been warning you the entire time that it's only getting darker from here so while I think certain interactions are very explicit compared to what we had at the beginning, it's also fitting that it would get so bad. Sapkowski is fairly subtle in his writing, preferring to imply than to state, which gives the series a layer of whimsy fitting considering it's just dark fairy tales. When he wants to get the point across he basically does the equivalent of having the characters look into the camera and go "ABORTION RIGHTS NOW okay now back to the story"

I am currently enjoying the worldbuilding of Jane Lindskold's Wolf series, though also currently my critiques are so far two books in a row we hit the center of the book and things slow way down and I am So Bored. And there is some Orientalism in regards to one of the kingdoms which does not surprise me in a book written in 2002 but still. There is not as much whimsy as in the first two recommendations, but at the same time so far the more triggering topics are less dark than the Witcher series. But it makes up for that in the worldbuilding, in the mystery and intrigue, and in the way she manages to wrangle quite a large cast of characters into a cohesive plotline. Unlike a similar book series That Shall Not Be Named, I actually like most of these royal political dickheads because they are your typical Royal Political Dickheads but they're not overtly bad people, and thus it bothers me less to root for them.

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