#Mammy

[hime-arts]

Summer 🏖️

#obey me shall we date #obey me #obey me mammon #mammy #mammoney #himearts #obey me fanart #digital art #illustration #he’s so fine #summer vibes

[zealoussoulsandwich]

i want mammon to choke me while saying "take it like a good slut; my sweet little treasure"

#obey me #anime #gaming #mc #otome game #shall we date obey me #mammon #mammon supremacy #obey me mammon #shall we date mammon #om! mammon #om mammon #mammon smut #obey me smut #mammon x reader #mammy #mams

[writingwithcolor]

Does my spoiled Black princess act “too white”? Plus possible forced caregiver role

Anonymous asked:

I just had someone on Discord complain that a black character of mine comes off as “too white” (Read: Whiny and immature). The thing is: I did that on purpose. She’s a princess, a sheltered, spoiled one at that, and much of her character arc revolves around her journeying into the outside world for the first time and learning to grow tf up. I explained this to the guy, but he stuck to his guns and said that even with that context in mind, it’s still an issue.

So I’d like another opinion on this: Is there anything I should change? Not her race, though. She has a very particular character design for which I want her skin to be as dark as possible.

And I’m not sure how important this last bit is, but I figure this is the kind of thing you’d want to know: She also has a little (white) kid tagging along with her, but she’s a massive jerk to him for the first quarter of the story because she doesn’t want him there. But she cut a deal with his brother to take him with her, and as insufferable as she can be, she has a strong code of honor.

I would like to start by saying that acting “too white” is not a thing. Her personality should be defined by how she was raised, even though that can be influenced by the culture in which she grew up. I know that many Black communities, from the Caribbean for example, tend to have a stricted education. Populations who once were subjected to colonialism or faced racism by immigrating generally have education views marked by trauma : we are held to higher standards to represent our community.

Does that story takes place in our world and or in a fantasy world ? If it’s in our world, depending on where she’s from, chances are high that she went through a not-so-spoiled education, even though I don’t know about African royalties. If you’re writing fantasy, you’re free to do what you wish and her being immature fits her education.

However I would be a bit more concerned about the White kid hanging with her. Your description makes me think of him as a… pet, kinda ? And it draws a weird parallel with European royalties a few centuries ago having Black servants, a bit like a reversed situation. Where is the kid from, is there racism in your world ? Is there a reason why the brother wants her to take him with her ? What is the thing with that kid. I’m more concerned about that part than the princess’ personality to be honest.

- Mod Lydie

This guy in your discord just sounds ignorant. Black people are not all assigned to a set descriptor of personality traits. A princess with a sheltered, spoiled and whiny personality is not reserved for only white people. BIPOC, and particularly Black people in this case, come from all backgrounds and personas. 

I would ask this person, “what would a princess who ‘acts Black’ act like to you?” Based on his mindset, I'm sure having a Black princess at all is a stumbling block. If your audience can’t envision a Black person who doesn’t act and think the way they envision that all Black women must, that’s their own racist bias to overcome. 

Let them feel uncomfortable as they get to know characters that are not caricatures who soothe their stereotypical assumptions.

White kid tagging along, forced to care for them

As for the kid: Like Lydie, I find this bit concerning. 

Questions I have:

What is the purpose of his presence?

Is she being forced into a caregiver role without her consent? Whether out of obligation, morals, or having been tricked?

Is this kid meant to teach her a lesson on being humble?

Forcing a Black girl who is arguably “too whiny, immature, and spoiled” into caring for a (white) child can feel a bit like forcibly humbling her into servitude for being too “uppity.” For context: Black people that have nice things and act proud of their lifestyle are often seen as thinking they’re better than other Black people, aka the uppity stereotype. Keep in mind that people who think Black people should not have these luxuries or be proud of their success love to see them “knocked them down a peg” in an attempt to humble them. But why do they need to be humbled?

Perhaps your princess does have some less than favorable traits. Ask yourself if they need to be “corrected” by servitude, if at all? Seeing character growth is a part of stories, yeah, but there are other ways she can undergo that process without going from princess to Mammy.

Here are some examples of ways to create character growth for the princess without servitude being involved.

Character growth without caretaker role ideas

Having a character tag along with her that doesn’t need her care, but building a real friendship (or romance) with them that helps her be more considerate for others.

Or this character does not fear her whiny attitude and challenges her throughout.

She sees how other people live, act and love. This makes her reflect on her own actions and / or long to be included.

Experiencing a life changing event or loss that makes her reflect on her own actions.

Overcoming real challenges, self-care and hard work that causes character growth and humility, without humiliation.

The child tags along, along with some else that does the caretaking. (Parent, sibling, servant). Even without having to do much for caregiving, she experiences growth as she starts to care or like the child.

So long story short: There is so much thing as a Black person who acts white. That’s simply people who can’t envision Black people beyond stereotypes, and that is a “them” problem, not your story’s. Carry on! We do recommend you avoid forcing the Black princess into servitude in an attempt to amend her personality. See the suggestions above.

~Mod Colette

#Black women #characterization #mammy #uppity Black person #Black tropes #Black stereotypes #racism #asks

[zloksx]

A quick sketch of a game that I was mercilessly sucked into but I have absolutely no time to play. Adoptive mother and daughter ❤️

#star rail #honkai star rail #himeko #digital art #art #fan art #sketch #honkai impact #mammy #mom lav u

[jean008]

Wonder when other black girls would wake up and smell the coffee of what SNW creator did to uhura.

people still want to play dumb.

#uhura #star trek #mammy #strange new worlds

[noirsisterhood]

Why do some black women embody the mammy stereotype?

Firstly, if you are unaware of what the term mammy means or the history behind it, I highly recommend watching this. https://youtu.be/mEy9ZKf5NOo?si=9iK_ibAfO4AaR6e7

Just a series of thoughts I had while walking my dog. Black women, in particular, divested Black women have had a tendency to switch from being the mammy of the black race and left-leaning politics to being the mammy of the white race and right-leaning politics. But why? Neither of these groups have historically or currently respected black women nor have they done anything for us. Two sides of the same bird and black women as a collective find themselves sliding from one end to the other.

My observations had led me to believe black women are trying to earn love, admiration, and respect. These women are fully aware that with most people they meet, they start at a social deficit and will be guilty until proven innocent. This attempt to earn their keep has never and will never work. To me, these types of things are not transactional but black women generally refuse to come to terms with this. Despite the obvious signs that the mammying is not working out for them, black women continue to embody the stereotype.

In their defense, humans have a natural urge to want to feel a sense of belonging and have a place in a group. The mammy is often very unattractive. Obese, never dolled up, lacking in feminine style, hair tied in rags or covered with a bonnet. They want to feel wanted but it likely won’t come in the form of male attraction or the jealously of other women. And the need for external validation seems to be ten fold and more obvious with this demographic. Black women are rarely genuinely praised for beauty or womanhood outside of their romantic partners. The most obvious examples of this is the barrage of pandering from other demographics when they want praise, money, or clout. Instead, our nature of caring for others and looking attractive has gotten us exploited, preyed upon, and abused. When you pay attention to how others speak of you or black women as a whole, you’ll notice the reverence is often exploitative. The first thing that comes to mind is the infamous ‘black women will save this country’ cry from liberals during the last election cycle. It was completed with the artwork of an overweight black woman in a superhero outfit. Not ladies. Not souls to be protected and cared for but a shield used to prop up and protect others.

On the opposite side, a self proclaimed “conservative” black male posted a video of a conservative black woman repeating talking points and the video is titled ‘Black Women are waking up.’ To no surprise of mine, there was a white person who left the comment to the tune of proclaiming how happy he was that black women were on his side, and that’s great because black women work tirelessly to get things done and influence others. I’m paraphrasing of course.

Seems the mule and wakanda warrior image is on both sides suffocating black women. The same commenters praising the Republican woman of course can be seen in previous videos commenting how horrible, disturbing, overweight, unattractive, and useless black women are. Quite interesting. Not to say we aren’t allowed to have opinions or be politically informed. I myself am independent yet am baffled by the behavior of other black women who jump at the first opportunity to make politics their entire identity to seek approval from others.

So the question stands, do other people like and appreciate you or do they want to use you, knowing you will take on the role of a trooper that will do anything to push their agendas? The most important question though, do you care black women? My point is, mammies are seeking out appreciation by trying to sit others on top of their shoulders because the admiration is just not coming automatically. But despite my demographic clearly seeing this tactic of theirs is not working, they continue doing it anyways.

Why do black women continue to do this?

Do black women have a savior complex? They want to be praised for something even if what they’re doing is ultimately harmful to our safety or image. The best example I have for this is very recent with the Tyler Perry discourse. Black women all across the interwebs latched onto this discourse and refused to let go for at least a month. Some of them are still trying to squeeze out discussions about this dead horse. Didn’t these women already come to the conclusion they will level up, open their options, and focus on high value men? So why the excitement to jump on this repetitive conversation?

My hypothesis: They just wanted to keep repeating that they are making more than black males (btw this is not true, at least not yet. In America, males make more on average but Black American women are more employed). They want to feel better than someone else and take on the role of a superior. A mentor, a leader, a teacher, or a mother. They believe they aren’t wanted by the people they seek validation from and they resort to being needed instead.

To disarm others

I have many observations on the sambo type behavior I’ve seen coming from the collective of the black demographic in America, but particularly Black women I think this could be their form of self preservation. Like I already mentioned, these women are well aware upon their first meeting with almost every person that they are immediately seen as negative stereotypes. Historically in this country, little black girls and grown women alike have had to suffer verbal and physical abuse, especially from white women. The modern media machine makes it clear they want the black girl image to be on the sideline in a support role, not the main character. Various post on social media have also made it known that Black women are also aware when they don’t play this supporting role in real life, they are demonized and viciously attacked. Mammying is also a form of keeping the attackers at bay.

Trying to find identity in the west

Lastly, my speculation of the mammy archetype played out by so many Black women is the lack of identity the collective has outside of social justice. Ignoring the incorrect generational stereotypes, Gen Z has improved at finding purpose and hobbies outside of fighting for something. Unfortunately with the timing, it’s right around the time the media and certain demographics would like everyone to believe black girls eat, sleep, and breathe fighting the system and it’s been heavily pushed onto us through movies, books, and the social media algorithm. The most well known image of us comes from the 60s Black woman standing strong with her fist in the air. This is the portrayal cast over our normal everyday lives or modern accomplishments. Mix that in with the overweight, abrasive, asexual, unthreatening mammy and we have the perfect recipe. Most importantly this is the personality some Black women know when in doubt, they can fall back on.

In my next post I want to expand on this and touch on Black women’s reluctance and discomfort when setting boundaries with others who demand the mammy comes to their aide and include them in everything. Will Black women continue to allow multiracial women to bully them into silence and erase their representation? Will Black women continue to let the male race intimidate them into supporting males whom brand themselves LGBT?

#find out next time on dragon ball z #you are not superwoman burn the cape #everyone in this world has their own space EXCEPT for black women #that is shameful #disrespectful and sad #also very dangerous #black women #divestment #black girls #mammy #divest #black girls on tumblr #Youtube #racism

[renegadeurbanmediasource]

The Day Candace Owens Went Too Far With Wypipo

View On WordPress

#antiblackracism #candace owens #house negro #mammy #oreos #white supremacy

[jadeburtonn]

I’m sooo lucky to be your mammy 💘💘💘💘

#Mother’s Day #baby #baby boy #happy Mother’s Day #my angel #I love you #mammy #potd #baby’s #pregnancy

[thatgeekwiththeclipons]

Remembering Academy Award Winning actress Hattie McDaniel! ^__^

#geek #film #blog #happy birthday #tv #hattie mcdaniel #academy award winner #gone with the wind #mammy #trailblazer #golden age of hollywood #gone but not forgotten #pop culture icon #geek with clip ons #i review stuff #irs #actress #classic cinema

[zealoussoulsandwich]

i had a breakdown an hr ago, and all i could think of is mammon immediately holding me and calming me down. i love him so much, and he isn't even real.

#obey me #anime #gaming #mc #otome game #shall we date obey me #mammon #mammon supremacy #obey me mammon #shall we date mammon #obey me shall we date #obey me otome #obey me anime #mammon x reader #mams #mammy #mammon x mc #mammon fluff

[writingwithcolor]

Writing a Black mermaid struggling with Insecurities and comforted by white Character

@magpie345ab1 asked:

Hello! First of all I want to thank you all for this blog, it’s a great resource and really amazing work.  

My question is about a story idea I have.  It is a side story adjacent to the main story meant to flesh out one of my side characters.  She is a fat black sixteen year old mermaid.  Her personality is very timid, anxious, easily flustered, contemplative, and empathic.  Her backstory is she struggled to find a friend group in school and was picked on (not racially based and bullies were various races), so she’s unsure of herself.  She is also just naturally jumpy.  As time has passed, she’s become friends with the main characters of the main story and the other side characters, so she has a very vast friend group now.  She’s the glue that keeps the group together, as she’s a very good listener and kind soul, and has helped on a few prior adventures.  She just struggles to get out of her own head and see how helpful she truly is.  She gets just as much out of the relationship as well, as they respectfully help her out of her comfort zone and support and love her.  She also loves doing hair (her mother owns a salon), painting, and watching Tiktok. The setting is in a fantasy realm adjacent to the modern world, so while there are modern references and technologies in some places, real-world oppression isn’t really present, and any that is is looked down upon and addressed.  The world is where Imaginations live, and the black mermaid is one of many imaginary friends of the white MC of my main story, so she has a strong but somewhat distant connection with her. 

The story I have so far is there is a villain kidnapping mermaids and mind controlling them to make an army to take over the sea.  The black mermaid is roped in to helping the usually main characters and other side characters into helping, but is reluctant about joining due to her insecurities.  She looks up to the others (ranging in races/ethnicities from white, Iranian American Jewish, Burmese Hawaiian, and biracial white/Puerto Rican) as they have accomplished pretty amazing feats, but especially the white MC, and she struggles feeling inferior.  Throughout the story, she continues to second guess herself, seeing herself as a side character and nothing more, and is comforted by her BFF/crush who is the biracial Puerto Rican.  Before the climax the group except for the mermaid and the white MC are captured, and the mermaid has a breakdown expressing her insecurities.  The white MC consoles her, explaining she is just as much a hero as everyone else in the group even with her more subtle and quiet personality, and that she struggles with fear just as much.  This is meant to be a strong bonding moment between the two, and it motivates the mermaid enough to take on the villain and she defeats him.  In the end she happily reunites with the group, and finally kisses her crush.  The story would end with her and her now boyfriend hanging out together, with him calling her beautiful just the way she is.  

The theme of the story is supposed to be that anyone can be the hero, no matter who they are, and that it is okay to be afraid in a scary situation and still overcome it.  I also struggle with anxiety similar to the one the character experiences and wanted to write based on that, but I am also white.  I wanted to know if I was falling into any stereotypes unknowingly, specifically if I’m falling into the Strong Black Female or the White Savior.  I don’t want it to seem like the other characters are forcing her to suck it up, rather they just genuinely want her help because she’s the only mermaid in the group.  Thank you all again for reading and helping!

I’m not sure if I clearly understand your universe but from what I got, your Black character has a quiet and soft personality which is pretty appreciable. The Strong Black Female cliché generally depicts Black girls/women as tough, emotionless beings, so going for a more calm and anxious personality is a great representation for that demographic. That cliché goes hand in hand with the assumption that Black girls/women who aren’t loud, extroverts and funny can only be mean. Quiet and shy Black girls are often perceived as contemptuous or aggressive (oh, how many times I heard that one when I was just *not talking*). I really appreciate you going deeper into her personality to show how her anxiety shapes her. Moreover, I consider it interesting to have other visions of what heroism means; you don’t need to be a loud fighter kicking ass to be a hero.

In order not to fall into the White savior trope, she has to be essential to defeat the villain. More generally, your White MC needs a balanced relationship with her : he gives her as much as she gives him. Since you said she glues the group together, it looks like you should be fine with her. Based on that, I think you should succeed in writing it correctly.

- Mod Lydie

Please see Mod Lydie’s great advice above! 

I’d also like to add that you should be mindful of any mammy and sacrificial stereotypes as well. 

Particularly with her being described as:

Helpful

The glue that keeps the group together

The one who steps up to defeat the hero

A helpful hand and motherly presence can easily slide into someone that puts everyone else first and doesn't have her own affairs minded. I’m not too concerned about you stirring into this territory, as you say “She gets just as much out of the relationship as well, as they respectfully help her out of her comfort zone and support and love her” which indicates she has strong mutual love in her relationships. The best friend / future romantic interest helps as well.

All and all, I’d say fully embrace this character! It’s really nice to see soft, quiet depictions of Black girls too.

~Mod Colette

#Black #Black women #Strong Black woman #white savior #Black tropes #Black stereotypes #mammy

[dantemarshall]

Behind the Scenes clip of Dante Marshall on set shooting with Mamiya RZ67

#dantemarshall #dante marshall #black photographer #film photography #mammy

[shrews-in-a-teapot]

The uniquely Irish thing of your Mammy calling you up and the first thing she says is:

"Do you know who's gone and died?!"

"No Mammy, who's died?"

"Do you remember..." proceeds to describe someone I met once 14 years ago

#irish culture #ireland #mammy #dead things #do you know #parents #mother #thank you #irish lads

[twicedailyquotes]

You've been brave so long, Miss Scarlett. You've just got to go on being brave.

Margaret Mitchell

Gone With the Wind

#quote #quotes #margaret mitchell #gone with the wind #mammy #scarlett o'hara #book quote

[wheezerpigart]

Meet me, Tumblr!

my instagram my web comic instagram Ko-fi

#art #concept art #art style #illustration #drawing #illust #artwork #piggy art #mammy

[naasog]

Create designs is so hard ....AAAAAA

#art #artists on tumblr #fan art #fanart #artist #sketch #character art #design #original character #genshin impact #genshin x reader #mammy