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Like I've done with the Hogwarts Houses, Moral Alignment, Tarot Cards and Zodiac (Sun, Moon, Rising); I am now creating a post for MBTI personalities! 16 all together, I've included some tests so if you don't know already, you can now!
Test One (from 16 Personalities, sort of the 'official' test, well the official free test. I think the real one you have to pay.)
Test Two (free don't worry)
Test Three (from truity)
There are sixteen different options that are split into four groups:
Analysts
Intuitive (N) and Thinking (T) personality types, known for their rationality, impartiality, and intellectual excellence.
Diplomats
Intuitive (N) and Feeling (F) personality types, known for their empathy, diplomatic skills, and passionate idealism.
Sentinels
Observant (S) and Judging (J) personality types, known for their practicality and focus on order, security, and stability.
Explorers
Observant (S) and Prospecting (P) personality types, known for their spontaneity, ingenuity, and flexibility.
Analysist: INTJ
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The acronym INTJ stands for introverted, intuitive, thinking, judging. ESFP is the opposite of the INTJ personality type. They're also known as: The Scientist, the Strategist.
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One of the rarest personality types and one of the most capable
Rational and quick-witted
Not known for being warm and fuzzy. They tend to prioritize rationality and success over politeness and pleasantriesΒ
Architects question everything
Prefers to make their own discoveries
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Independent
Introverted
Confident
Analytical
Driven
Ambitious
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Petyr Baelish
James Moriarty
Gandalf
Wednesday Addams
Walter White
Doctor Strange
Tywin Lannister
Analysist: INTP
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The INTP acronym stands for introverted, intuitive, thinking, perceiving. The opposite of an INTP is either an ESFJ or an ISFP. Also known as 'The Thinker.'
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Canβt help but puzzle over the mysteries of the universe
Logicians arenβt afraid to stand out from the crowd
Often lose themselves in thought
They put a great deal of consideration into everything they do
Seem to live in a never ending daydream
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Analytical
Imaginative
Curious
Radical thinking
Indepedent
Problem solvers
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Sherlock Holmes
Alice from Alice in Wonderland
Lord Varys
Bruce Banner
Arthur Weasley
Analysist: ENTJ
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It stands forΒ extraverted, intuitive, thinking, judging. ISFPΒ is the opposite personality type of ENTJ. Sometimes referred to as the 'CEO'.
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Ability toΒ set long-range goals and implement them in an organized manner
They love a good challenge, whether it's big or small
Tend to avoid displays of any type of emotion, so they may be perceived as cold.
They firmly believe that given enough time and resources, they can achieve any goal.
At the negotiating table, be it in a corporate environment or buying a car, Commanders are dominant, relentless, and unforgiving.
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Natural born leader
Charismatic
Direct
Organised
Self-assured
Stubborn
Dominant
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Thomas Shelby
Tony Soprano
Cersei Lannister
Beth Dutton
Milady de Winter
Raymond Reddington
Lyanna Mormont
Analysist: ENTP
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It stands for extroverted, intuitive, thinking and perceiving. ISFJsΒ and ENTPs are two Myers-Briggs personality types that share the same cognitive functions, but in reverse order. Also known as ' the Innovator,' 'the Visionary'.
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It would be a mistake, though, to think of Debaters as disagreeable or mean-spirited. Instead, people with this personality type are knowledgeable and curious, with a playful sense of humor
No belief is too sacred to be questioned, no idea is too fundamental to be scrutinized, and no rule is too important to be broken
As Debaters see it, most people are too ready to do as theyβre told and blindly conform to social norms
They tend to be bold and creative, deconstructing and rebuilding ideas with great mental agility. They pursue their goals vigorously despite any resistance they might encounter.
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Quick-witted
Audacious
Rebellious
Outspoken
Puts self first
Charming
Unpredictable
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Captain Jack Sparrow
Tyrion Lannister
Willy Wonka
The Joker
Irene Adler
Fleabag
Alfie Solomons
Diplomat: INFJ
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Is someone with the introverted, intuitive, feeling, and judging personality traits. The opposite to INFJ is the INFP, who will appear less organized and less controlled than the INFJ to others.
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They tend to approach life with deep thoughtfulness and imagination.
Their inner vision, personal values, and a quiet, principled version of humanism guide them in all things.
People with this personality type care about integrity, and theyβre rarely satisfied until theyβve done what they know to be right.
Advocates tend to carry around a sense β whether conscious or not β of being different from most people.
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Insightful
Idealistic
Principled
Wise
Moral
Compassionate
Understanding
Passionate
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Remus Lupin
Elsa
Obi-Wan Kenobi
Jane Eyre
Elizabeth Bennet
Loki
Galadriel
Diplomat: INFP
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Is someone who possesses the introverted, intuitive, feeling, and prospecting personality traits. ESTJΒ is the opposite personality type of INFP. Also known as 'the Idealist,' 'the Healer.'
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These rare personality types tend to be quiet, open-minded, and imaginative, and they apply a caring and creative approach to everything they do.
Although they may seem quiet or unassuming, INFPs have vibrant, passionate inner lives.
Happily lose themselves in daydreams
Known for their sensitivity; they can have profound emotional responses to music, art, nature, and the people around them.
Long for deep, soulful relationships
Mediators have a talent for self-expression. They may reveal their innermost thoughts and secrets through metaphors and fictional characters.
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Introspective
Intuitive
Empathetic
Flexible
Idealistic
Curious
Creative
Strong Personal Values
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Lucy Pevensie
Frodo Baggins
Tina Belcher
Newt Scammander
Wanda Maximoff
Luna Lovegood
Edward Scissorhands
Diplomat: ENFJ
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ENFJ is extraverted, intuitive, feeling, and judging personality traits. ISTP is the opposite of the ENFJ personality type. Also known as, 'the Giver,' 'the Teacher.'
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They're born leaders, with passion and charisma which makes them great politicians, coaches, and teachers.
These warm, forthright types love helping others, and they tend to have strong ideas and values.
They back their perspective with the creative energy to achieve their goals.
Feel called to serve a greater purpose in life
When something strikes them as unjust or wrong, they speak up
These personality types have the ability to pick up on peopleβs underlying motivations and beliefs
ENFJβs secret weapon is their purity of intent
They're motivated by a sincere wish to do the right thing
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Very extraverted
Great people skills
Warm
Affectionate
Supportive
Great at encouraging others
Thoughtful
Gentle
Kind
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Margaery Tyrell
Queenie Goldstein
Professor X
Mufasa
Diana Prince / Wonder Woman
Peeta Mellark
Elle Woods
Moana
Diplomat: ENFP
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ENFP stands for extraverted, intuitive, feeling, and prospecting personality traits. ISTJ is the opposite personality type of ENFP. ENFPs are also called the Campaigners or the Encouragers mainly because of their desire to inspire and encourage other people. Also known as, 'the Champion,' 'the Visionary.'
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These people tend to embrace big ideas and actions that reflect their sense of hope and goodwill toward others.
Their vibrant energy can flow in many directions.
Are true free spirits β outgoing, openhearted, and open-minded.
They canβt help but ponder the deeper meaning and significance of life β even when they should be paying attention to something else.
These people radiate a positive energy that draws in other people
Few things matter more to these personality types than having genuine, heartfelt conversations with the people they cherish
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Free-spirited
Optimistic
Idealistic
Open-minded
Curious
Authentic
Inspiring
Intuitive
Imaginative
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Ariel
Anne of Green Gables
John Keating
Wizard Howl
Jo March
Michael Scott
Peter Parker/Spiderman
Phil Dunphy
Sentinel: ISTJ
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ISTJ stands for introverted, observant, thinking, and judging personality traits. ENFP is the opposite personality type of ISTJ. Also known as 'Duty-Fulfillers'.
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These people tend to be reserved yet willful, with a rational outlook on life.
They compose their actions carefully and carry them out with methodical purpose.
ISTJs pride themselves on their integrity
Arenβt known for expressing their emotions readily
They strive to meet their obligations no matter what
ISTJs might unfairly misjudge people who canβt match their rigorous self-control β suspecting that someone is being lazy or dishonest when that person might actually be coping with other challenges.
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Decisive
Focused
Efficient
Reserved yet willful
Loyal
Blunt
Factual
Logical
Meticulous
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Hermione Granger
Thorin Oakinshield
Nedd Stark
Rick Grimes
Brienne of Tarth
Jim Hopper
Ron Swanson
Sentinel: ISFJ
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ISFJ stands for introverted, observant, feeling, and judging personality traits. The ENTP personality type is the opposite ISFJs. Also known as 'the Protector,' 'the Nurturer.'
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These people tend to be warm and unassuming in their own steady way.
Theyβre efficient and responsible, giving careful attention to practical details in their daily lives.
In their unassuming, understated way, Defenders help make the world go round.
They invest a great deal of energy into maintaining strong connections with their loved ones
Known for dropping everything and lending a hand whenever a friend or family member is going through a hard time.
Defendersβ sense of loyalty doesnβt stop with their nearest and dearest β it often extends to their communities, their employers, and even family traditions.
For ISFJs, βgood enoughβ is rarely good enough. People with this personality type can be meticulous to the point of perfectionism.
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Warm-hearted
Responsible
Sensitive
Reliable
Caring
Will do anything for those they care about
Generous
Defenders tend to underplay their accomplishments but they eventually become resentful toward the people who just donβt seem to appreciate them.
Excellent analytical abilities and an eye for detail
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Steve Rogers/ Captain America
Jennifer Honey (Miss Honey from Matilda)
Beth March
Charlie Buckets
Samwise Gamgee
Dr Watson
Will Turner
Sentinel: ESTJ
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ESTJ stands for extraverted, observant, thinking, and judging personality traits. INFP is the opposite personality type of ESTJ. Also known as 'the Supervisor,' 'the Composer.'
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They possess great fortitude, emphatically following their own sensible judgment.
They often serve as a stabilizing force among others, able to offer solid direction amid adversity.
ESTJs feel most comfortable when there are established procedures in place
Taking pride in bringing people together
The main challenge for Executives is to recognize that not everyone follows the same path
Executives are classic images of the model citizen: they help their neighbors, uphold the law, and try to make sure that everyone participates in the communities and organizations they hold so dear.
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Productive
Task-Orientated
Pragmatic
Enjoy order and structure in life
Focuses on facts and details rather than ideas and concepts
Confident
Natural leaders and have a strong work ethic
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Mary Poppins
Peter Pevensie
Borormir
Monica Gellar
Hector Barboss
Claire Dunphy
Miranda Bailey
Mycroft Holmes
Sentinel: ESFJ
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ESFJ stands for extraverted, observant, feeling, and judging personality traits. ISTP is the opposite personality type to ESFJs because they often struggle to be practical. Also known as, 'the Caregiver,' 'the Host.'
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They are attentive and people-focused, and they enjoy taking part in their social community.
Their achievements are guided by decisive values, and they willingly offer guidance to others.
Energized by time spent with others
Consuls do believe in the power of hospitality and good manners, and they tend to feel a sense of duty to those around them
Consuls have a talent for making the people in their lives feel supported, cared for, and secure.
They believe that there is a clear right thing to do in nearly every situation
ESFJs have a clear moral compass
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Attentive
People-focused
Generous
Reliable
Tender-hearted
Organised
Focused
Strong sense of duty
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Anna Smith
Molly Weasley
Bilbo Baggins
Effie Trinket
Sansa Stark
Cher Horowitz
Nala
Leslie Knope
Explorer: ISTP
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ISTP stands for introverted, observant, thinking, and prospecting personality traits. ENFJ is the opposite of the ISTP personality type. Also known as, 'the Vigilante,' 'the Crafter,' 'the Analyser,' 'the Artisan.'
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They tend to have an individualistic mindset, pursuing goals without needing much external connection.
They engage in life with inquisitiveness and personal skill, varying their approach as needed.
Virtuosos love to explore with their hands and their eyes, touching and examining the world around them with cool rationalism and spirited curiosity.
Energized by time spent alone
Virtuosos are likely to go too far, accepting likewise retaliation, good or bad, as fair play.
Act too soon
Theyβll be the first to tell an insensitive joke, get overly involved in someone elseβs project, roughhouse and play around, or suddenly change their plans because something more interesting came up.
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Individualistic mindset
Logical
Loves action and new experiences
Logical but adaptable
Enigmatic
A lot of impulsive energy
Have a βdo unto othersβ attitude
Self-sufficient
Tough
Independent
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Arya Stark
Jason Bourne
Jessica Jones
Jace Herondale
Indiana Jones
Rosa Diaz
Rue Bennett
John Wick
Wolverine
Explorer: ISFP
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ISFP meansΒ introverted, observant, feeling, and prospecting personality traits. ISFP is the opposite of ENTJ: the commander, who is upfront outgoing and demanding. ISFP is quiet and unassuming. Also known as, 'the Artist, 'the Composer.'
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They tend to have open minds, approaching life, new experiences, and people with grounded warmth.
Their ability to stay in the moment helps them uncover exciting potentials.
Adventurers tend to see themselves as βjust doing their own thing,β so they may not even realize how remarkable they really are.
Quiet and reserved, people with this personality type are keen observers; they enjoy the moment and whatβs happening around them.
Embrace a flexible, adaptable approach to life.
Remarkably tolerant and open-minded.
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Gentle
Compassionate
Tend to live in the here and now
Love to be active
And love interacting with others
Carefree
Playful
Spontaneous
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Claire Fraser
Eowyn
Bella Swan
Jon Snow
Cinna
Zuko
Cedric Diggory
Explorer: ESFP
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ESFP stands for extraverted, observant, feeling, and prospecting personality traits. INTJ is the opposite personality type of ESFP. People with this personality type tend to be outgoing, friendly, and impulsive, acquiring the most enjoyment from being in the presence of others. Also known as, 'the Performer.'
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These people love vibrant experiences, engaging in life eagerly and taking pleasure in discovering the unknown.
They can be very social, often encouraging others into shared activities.
These people love vibrant experiences
ESFPs get caught up in the excitement of the moment, and want everyone else to feel that way, too.
No other personality type is as generous with their time and energy as Entertainers when it comes to encouraging others, and no other personality type does it with such irresistible style.
Many famous people with the Entertainer personality type are indeed actors
Thereβs no greater joy for them than just having fun with a good group of friends.
Have the strongest aesthetic sense of any personality type; an eye for fashion.
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Spontaneous
Humorous
Comedic-relief
Thoughtful
Well-liked
Resourceful
Outgoing
Friendly
Love the spotlight
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Steve Harrington
Jesper Fahey
Arthur Shelby
Rose Tyler
Jesse Pinkman
Andy Bernard
Explorer: ESTP
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ESTP stands for extraverted, observant, thinking, and prospecting personality traits. INFJ is the opposite personality type of ESTP. Also known as, 'the Doer,' 'the Action-Seeker,' 'the Persuader.'
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They tend to be energetic and action-oriented, deftly navigating whatever is in front of them.
They love uncovering lifeβs opportunities, whether socializing with others or in more personal pursuits.
They love using common sense to find smarter ways of doing things.
While they are dedicated to whatever they're working on, they don't like to be micromanaged or told what to do by others.
They thrive by being the center of attention.
Always have an impact on their immediate surroundings
If an audience member is asked to come on stage, Entrepreneurs volunteer
They have a special ability to react quickly in an emergency or crisis situation.
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Adventurous
Thrill-seeking
Energetic
Outgoing
Charismatic
Persuasive
Live in a world of action
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Rebecca Sharp
Jaime Lannister
Aquaman
Gimli
Sirius Black
Han Solo
Jennifer Check
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Extraversion (E) β Introversion (I)
Extraverts (also often spelled extroverts) are "outward-turning" and tend to be action-oriented, enjoy more frequent social interaction, and feel energized after spending time with other people. Introverts are "inward-turning" and tend to be thought-oriented, enjoy deep and meaningful social interactions, and feel recharged after spending time alone.
Sensing (S) β Intuition (N)
People who prefer sensing tend to pay a great deal of attention to reality, particularly to what they can learn from their own senses. They tend to focus on facts and details and enjoy getting hands-on experience. Those who prefer intuition pay more attention to things like patterns and impressions. They enjoy thinking about possibilities, imagining the future, and abstract theories.
Thinking (T) β Feeling (F)
This scale focuses on how people make decisions based on the information that they gathered from their sensing or intuition functions. People who prefer thinking place a greater emphasis on facts and objective data.
Judging (J) β Perceiving (P)
The final scale involves how people tend to deal with the outside world. Those who lean toward judging prefer structure and firm decisions. People who lean toward perceiving are more open, flexible, and adaptable. These two tendencies interact with the other scales.
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On Being Socially Accepted / Well Liked
Human beings are sociable animals. No matter the degree of sociability, thereβs a part of us that wants to be loved, nurtured and accepted by those around us.
I didnβt want to make a guide of how one should be likeable, because if you think a little - from all the people you like, do you like them for the same reason? Not necessarily. You may like one friend for their humour; another for being a solid person thick and thin; a third for their extroverted personalityβ¦ weβre all different and should be!
Now, you may have certain qualities that you want in all your relationships, regardless of the person. For instance, Iβm very adamant about transparency and loyalty. Loyalty to me doesnβt mean standing up for me even if Iβm wrong - it means caring for me enough to tell me Iβm wrong. However, these qualities wouldnβt make you likeable per se - they would make you accepted within a social circle.
So how does one become likeable?
1. Ease up on the doormat culture
Youβll notice that most of the people you like are capable of having an independent opinion and thought. People pleasers may come across as inauthentic and dicey, especially the ones who change their opinion to agree with the majority. So start cutting out the people pleasing behaviour.
2. Have hobbies
Youβll generally gravitate more towards someone who seems to have their life together as opposed to someone who doesnβt. Iβm always keen to talk to someone who does something a little different in their free time. I remember talking to a physicist who also wrote poetry - I was very intrigued by his work, and I invited him to my NYE party along with his girlfriend.
Now, thereβs nothing wrong with not having your life together as long as youβre at least trying to make it better. Hobbies donβt have to be expensive. Itβs also a better way to expand your circle- not all your friends will enjoy pottery or tennis, for instance.
3. On emotional/ trauma dumping
The worst people to guide you in life, my father always told me, are your friends. Blind leading the blind.
Your friends may have a good heart but not necessarily good advice. Keep the trauma dumping to a minimal unless your friend is okay with you sharing more. Bear in mind that even as a listener, when you hear someoneβs traumatic experiences, you may feel emotionally overwhelmed.
Never share your private experiences, current situations, drama, problems, gossip with acquaintances or friends who youβre not particularly close to. Trust me, it can be tempting to engage in catty behaviour but thereβs a good chance itβll bite you in the ass.
4. Figure out your strengths
I know what I bring to the table when it comes to friendship - gentle honesty, alternative solutions and perspectives to issues and Iβm always a planner.
One of my friends is a blunt critic and I always speak to her when I know I need a reality check about life.
Another friend is very non judgemental, sheβs the one I open up to about the weird things I think of.
A third friend is my party friend, who is 100% the life of the party and I love his energy.
We canβt share the same relationship with everyone. Understand your strengths and hone them.
5. Likeable people donβt care about being likeable
Become detached from this idea of βI want to be liked.β Rather than that, I feel the statement βI want relationships who accept me for who I amβ make more sense. As you grow older, youβll realise that this teenager definition of popularity is nothing but inauthentic bullshit. You deserve friends who care for you and cheer you on.
The idea of βI want to be liked/ popularβ also low-key reeks of desperate behaviour. It shows that you donβt really care about your thoughts or opinions as long as youβre accepted and youβre ready to modify your opinions to fit in. Thatβs the worst way to making friends because you literally canβt be yourself.
6. Yes, looks do matter
Looks do matter to a degree. I donβt mean that in a sense of physical features - I mean it from a sense of grooming.
Iβve noticed that people will be taken more seriously if you look a certain way. That doesnβt mean you have to buy stuff until your money runs out - it just means being at a healthy weight, dressing well, practicing personal hygiene.
7. Observational skills
Whenever Iβm at an event and I notice someone feeling left out, I go and talk to them.
I remember being in the shoes long ago and feeling uncomfortable going to places. So when I see someone in the same position, I try to be the person I wanted at that point of time.
Itβs important to have keen observation skills but whatβs even more important is dealing with it subtly. I remember a girl at a party wearing a dress with the price tag still attached to the neckline at the back. I casually went over, put a hand on her back, discreetly whispered that her tag was out, should I put it back in? She said yes, and I put the the tag inside her dress without people around us noticing me. Discretion is a must in life. Donβt shout your good deeds- do them, donβt get flattered by compliments when people tell you that you were nice, and just play it off like itβs not a big deal.
8. Being impolite
I read a study that polite people are harder to connect with. Overly polite people can be seen as boring and that you need more energy to talk to them because the conversation only revolves around a few βpoliteβ topics (studies, career, life in general, how nice the establishment is, the weather, common friendsβ¦ surface conversation). Iβm not saying donβt be considerate - Iβm saying donβt be overly polite. Donβt be over accommodating to other people. You can disagree with things respectfully. You can share a different perspective or crack a joke.
9. What are you like?
Are you better one on one or in groups?
Iβm a much better person one on one. I resonate with people better when we have a conversation - when itβs a group, itβs just the usual hi-hellos.
You may prefer groups, if one on one conversations seem too vulnerable.
How do you figure this trait out? Ask yourself a simple question : if you had a meet a new person, would you rather meet them alone at a cafe or at a party with your friends?
Figuring this out is important because it gives you a sense of the relationships you value and how you can take them forward.
10. A balanced ratio of talking and listening
Try to listen more than you can talk. This advice is useless if youβre talking to an introvert. With most introverts Iβve noticed that they WILL talk to you - as long as they donβt have to make the first move. Once you set the ball rolling, theyβre happy to talk.
So you have to understand how and when to switch being an active listener and speaker.
A simple generalised guide:
When dealing with extroverts: ask basic/ generic/ yes or no questions, give opposing opinions (most extroverts are generally up for a challenge) and listen more in the beginning, switch to talking more later.
When dealing with introverts: again, ask questions but you can make them more subjective than objective, less generic and definitely no yes/no questions. Talk more in the beginning and then listen more later, to make them comfortable.
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About MBTI romantic compatibility
In this post I want to talk about my personal thoughts based on what I observe about MBTI romantic compatibility or romantic compatibility in general.
Because remember, MBTI isn't enough when looking for a partner; there can be:
Very different people of the same type
Similar people of very different types
It also depends on what similitarities and differences mean for you.
MBTI: COMPATIBLE, SIMILIAR, DIFFERENT
Think at colors: there are colours which matches armonically to you but maybe you still preferer a "very similar" colour that accompany you or "very different" one that make you natural color stands up
1) COMPATIBLE if you look for an armonical balance between your differences (dichotomies) and similarities (same primary function but inverted and same process thoughts of the other two functions)
E/I + P/J difference or also F/T or N/S depending on what is the primary function (change the other). F/T or N/S lead to apparently more differences but deeply same way to process some thoughts (exactly same middle cognitive functions)
Example: INTJ x ENFP or ENTP
Example: ISFP x ESFJ or ENFJ
2) SIMILIAR: same type or similiar in many things (but not having the same primary function and thinking process can still lead to a not so small difference): you prefer having more similitarities with your partner (e.g. both introverted)
Change just a letter (be conscious that usually the S/N difference alone could still lead to a strong difference)
Example: INTJ x INTJ or ENTJ or INFJ or INTP (or also ISTJ)
ABOUT changing only the last 2 dichotomies: it will lead to a more complex mix between similarities and differences, usually it can be great at times but can also lead to many misunderstandings, for this reason I see more friendships than romantic partners on these.
Example: INTJ x INFP
Example: ESTP x ESFJ
3) DIFFERENT: very different type or opposite type: you feel safe with a companion that can do the things you can't do.
Example: INTJ x ESFP, ESTP, ESTJ, ISFJ,...
Is it immature?
If all you look for is just a personality type yes, but if you consider many things among which a specifically personality type... no. People choose their partner based on physical appearance, interests, sympathy, familiarity, style of life... and choosing based on the way a person perceive and process reality that affect every part of their daily life is nothing but deep.
"BUT if you both are willing to make it work..."
I will be honest here on my opinion. We are not talking about getting along with colleagues or in family or something forced, but with romantic relationships. It's so natural to look for a "compatible" friendship, why not with romance? Friends can be many while a romantic partner is hopefully just one and for every day of our life; and every relationship is already difficult by itself without us making it more complicated. We will live and share everything with our partner, make decisions with them, see and talk to them everyday: for this reason I personally don't see why we can't be selective.
So... is MBTI compatibility important? Depends
My personal opinion is that compatibility in general is very important, but not each couple needs MBTI compatibility to work well.
Your perfect match depends on who you are and what you look for in a partner.
-> Some thoughts to consider for wishing to have MBTI compatibility or not:
If your MBTI type is a huge part of who you are and your mental process - choose YES
Passions, interests, character and other things have a huge impact of who or your partner are more than MBTI - choose NO
You are selective and look for deep understanding of who you are to feel completely gotten - choose YES
You get along easily with others and feeling get is not your primary need (or not by a partner), you enjoy and look for other things - choose NO
Your process thoughts deeply, analyse others and observe a lot - choose YES
You are in tune with the ambience more than focusing too deeply on the others, you are more practical and a doer - choose NO
IMPORTANT CONSIDERATIONS
Your answer can be different of the one of your partner. For example an INFJ chooses her ENFP for MBTI compatibility because she wants to have long conversations and feel mentally connected with him while ENFP chooses her for the way she treats him and prefers spending time doing some hobbies together. So their relationship's will won't match.
If you wish for MBTI compatibility:
I will repeat it another time: MBTI isn't enough! There are always other things that defines us as values, humour, interests, style of life, mentality. So your life partner will be one of the personalities you get along with: not all will work perfectly with you!
MBTI isn't a guarantee! There is no perfect balance and every couple needs work.
If you wish for other kind of compatibilities:
Still be conscious about your personalities! Sometimes feelings cover our differences and you are ok with how are some things now but maybe in the future you or your partner will look for other things.
Be aware! Not thinking about it doesn't remove their type and your similarities/differences, the best is knowing your MBTI types and still be sure it's the best for you! MBTI knowledge in any case could always help in your journey.
Some example of couples I know:
MBTI compatible couples:
ISFP x ENFJ: natural match and they also share the same way to see life - worked
ESFP x ISFJ: compatible but the mental disorders of one destroyed their relationships and also their interests didn't match - didn't work
Not MBTI compatible couples:
INFP x ISTJ: they have the same values of family and both looked for a companion that can do what they couldn't, and feel safe in the differences of the other - worked
INFP x ESTJ: they loved the differences because they made them feel safe, during life they realized they needed to feel understood by the other and suffered for the lack of similitarities - didn't work
FINAL THOUGHTS
Be careful and choose what is best for YOU depending on what you and your partner look for in a relationship. Because at the end knowing what you want in your love life and waiting until you find it is the most important thing! If you want read this last part by thinking at different characteristics other than MBTI.
Different partner: more work to to but they can help you with doing the things you can't do. Always looking for an opposite partner can be sometimes linked to low self esteem, or positively to a strong adaptation ability.
Similiar partner: less work to do but you will have the same limits and face the same problems. Always looking for a very similar partner can be sometimes a sign of immaturity, or positively of a sensitive trait.
I'll say it again:
I talked about MBTI compatibility but remember that MBTI doesn't describe us totally so choose wisely considering that person completely!
And work with your defects and mental disorders, with them every relationship is destined to fail or be unhealthy or toxic.
Maybe you are thinking "love is blind"... to our mind maybe yes, but unconsciously is linked to how we see ourselves deeply.
Feelings may last some time but having a partner hopefully will last a life.
I wish you all the best love life :)
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